I really love this topic bc I feel like it isn’t really spoken about a lot and this is so true. We are so caught up in our phones/social media that we don’t even know how to speak and be social with one another anymore. Hope anyone who is feeling that same way decides to step out and take a chance bc you can meet some amazing people!
Sending love to everyone here ♡ I just want to remind you that even though you feel alone, you are not alone, there's always someone out there willing to listen and support you, willing to connect with you
"You are comparing your unfiltered world with their filtered world", "online socializing is not socializing"..... so much truth in this vlog. I´m going to save it!
I find that people confuse self love with being lonely and avoiding people. I also hate how social media is bringing us closer virtually, and further in reality...
I've been alone for a very long time. I'm 32. I've been told I'm attractive. But I've been living in a self imposed prison of my own heart and mind. I've realized that I need to be friendly to be people and kind. I was looking for a deep connection and a deep connection only. But how often are you going to find someone who is just like you who's been through what you have?! Your inner child searches for a deep spiritual connection but that is not likely going to happen because we all come from different backgrounds. Being kind and friendly to people creates a base connection which is good. Believe me, that hasn't existed in my life for many years because of being ostracized growing up and through abuse. I'm going to be what I thought people couldn't be to me. Kind and friendly. I will no longer be what my enemies were to me growing up. I've been mean for too long and untrusting. Imagine being alone while watching others go out together in groups in marriages but you are alone although thinking about it much and not understanding why for so long. I've realized it's the perception that comes from the belief that people will ultimately hurt you Everytime that hinders an open heart and mind to new friendships. I'm on a new path to create friendships and lasting beautiful memories. I'm not here to live a solitary life of misery. Life is a miracle.
There’s also times when loneliness could just stem from being bored. If that’s the case, there’s so much out there in the world, one should never feel bored.
There are many articles about how we're lonelier than ever, that loneliness is a health issue, the defining state of modernity, blaming society technology, etc. But I dont think it is bad or abnormal. Loneliness has always been present in human history. It's archetypal.
Gosh, this speaks to me. I also work from home and feel very isolated a lot of the time. I've been thinking of getting a job just to meet people but since I'm working on building my business, I just don't want to split my focus on another job. Trying to figure out a solution that allows me to do both. Sending love to everyone going through this ♡
This was Exactly what i needed to hear today. Thank you for being honest & realist abut this topic. It was extremely comforting to know that even someone i look to for inspiration (you) experience hard times too. But i love how you want to get better in such positive steps. It was very uplifting & helpful. Thank you ❤️
As someone who has gone through profound grief I can tell you that it is a very lonely process. Kudos to you for getting a job when you move. I’m sure you’ll find something you like.
I needed this video most of all, I have friends and a community of support, yet I still feel lonely fairly often!! I hope you have an amazing weekend Renee, thank you for always being open and offering honest advice 💞💞
I've been trying to deal with loneliness since I moved out and lived alone. Thank you for uploading the video and share your tips on the struggle with us!
Thanks for putting this video out. I have times when I feel lonely and am an introvert by nature. Sometimes it feels like nobody understands or cares about your loneliness. I’m thinking about joining a running club to be around other likeminded people.
the sad thing is i've tried to reach out to ppl and ppl are flakey asf. i've tried so many of these things ugh especially most of my friends have bf's and are always w them
Renee you rock! I mean alot of people conceal these facts of such suffering by sayin "ITS NORNAL CUZ ITS VERY COMMON THESE DAYS" You're right, it is common but its not normal to feel lonelyyy.
Also physical touch is very important when you’re living by yourself and not socializing. I’ve created beautiful friendships with the people at my job and going through my separation they have been so beautiful and when I needed hugs they were there to hug me..
I totally experienced comparison hangover before but I didn’t know it had a name and it was a thing!! So comforting to know, thank you for this video Renee ❤️
Heyy Renee! I just discovered your channel today. I just want to say that I think you are really mature for your age. I am also 25 years old (from The Netherlands) and seeing this video and listening to your story makes me feel happy. You know so much about a topic like loneliness because you read books and because you force yourself to get out of your comfortzone and because of your life experience. I know that you are probably not going to see or read this comment, but I would like to get in touch with you just to have a chat. I know that this is a bit creepy because I am a complete stranger, but I think we could have a nice chat :) Thank you for sharing your story!
Renee, this video helps. At school, all my friends turned on me bc of a rumor someone said about me. I’ve come home everyday and I just cried. I had nobody to hang out with. I was lonely. I wasn’t invited to a get together with all my friends, and nobody hung out with me at the school dance. Now I know I’m not alone. Thanks Renee🤩💕
@@presleybobek I have Facebook Beatriz Padilla Yescas. I started making new activities that fullfill my time. For example, reading a book, talk to my kids, play with my kids, watch a movie, meditate, learn french, do exercise, remodelate my house, and now I don't need a couple, I don't feel lonely anymore, I feel happy.
First, I watch your video from algeria..north africa. Thank you for this information ...I now that you work hard and learn a lot for preaparing it...thank you again. Keep smiling when you talk...because you have beautiful teeth. I hope that god safe you from the worse life situation
Renee, thank you for this video 🙏 I really enjoyed your tips, they are helpful. I find exercise and hard work helps shift my focus away from feeling lonely
*this is so interesting... i rarely leave my house, yet i never experience the feeling of loneliness. don’t get me wrong, i’m also a people-person; i just don’t feel the NEED to be around people in order to not be lonely, ya know? i feel like loneliness & FOMO stem from lack of self-love. when you get to know yourself & God, you realize you have everything you need within you. yes, it’s nice to have others around, but all we NEED is what is within us already.* *also: it is definitely possible to crave* *something you have never experienced;* *that is completely normal!* *love & light* 🕊
I wish we could talk . I feel like I listened to your words of encouragement when I felt at my lowest. I almost gave up. Thank you for being on RUclips. It sounds stupid, but I didn't have anyone. I was completely alone. Divorce made me want to die. I remember crying in the corner listening to your voice and trying so hard to just not give up. It felt like my chest was going to collapse.
Your videos always inspire me, and this topic is something I relate to a lot as the last 2 years it’s been a general theme of my life. Thank you for talking about this, it’s inspired me to maybe one day make my own video about it 💓✨🌸
For March, videos are only going up Monday and Friday and will stop for two weeks after the 17th due to the move. We’ll be back to normal schedule in April!
Thank you sm for that video.❤️ I‘m lonely too even tho I go to school and spend 7 hours there.I tried to get new friends cause my old friends made me feel like that. Whenever I think of it I just wanna cry.
Grief and despair are a product of worrying about the past. Focusing on the possibility of seeing my children again made me see the sun. I have to remind myself every day that I was lucky to get away from him that I must have faith that I will be reunited with my children some day. Loneliness and grief are very dangerous. Divorce made me want to die. I wish the world knew . I hope he doesn't get away with this. He ruined my life and took my children away. And he robbed me of my self esteem and self worth.
@@beyespadilla4700 pff you wish😂also you might be a serial killer just kidding if you are serious, thanks for the offer really, but as i said, im not looking for a cure for loneliness AKA a (friend) and its not satisfying online even if i got a friend here, its not the same (as many things online)
you can pay like $3-$5 to talk to people on epal/echat, & fiverr. you can do squad fills in fortnite, join minecraft servers. go live on tiktok & talk to chat. won’t cure lack of deep family & friend connections, but ya kno.
After 12months of lockdown and finding it relatively easy then then recently having to remove the one person that actually came out and did stuff (because they became too toxic) I’m super lonely, to the point where it keeps me up at night and very anxious 🤕😞 even about the future and if there is any
I stopped working for a year or two isolated myself I started hearing voices and thought people were judging me cause I wasn't working so I would avoid going outside during the day. I was having out bursts being mean and pushing everyone away burning myself. i couldn't tell my mom cause I felt like she would shove it in my face to hurt me later Even though she's went through the same thing. But I'm pushing myself more talking to more people trying to try new things I still feel this dark cloud over me. But slowly getting better thanks for the video
How bout if you know a person really exist, but everyone does to make you believe she does, because they have no confidence in you at all. I need to find people who will have confidence in me. Too many people surround me in life, that don't have any confidence in me. That make's me alone, but I have faith.
I understand you so much and I've been needing this video for a long time. I'm living alone with my 4 beautiful cats, I don't have friends in the erea, I have a few friends, only keeping in touch with my mom and my cousin. I was an escort girl for a few years and then an erotic massuse, I have suffered so much trauma, I don't trust people, I don't let anyone enter my life. I had really bad relationships so it's only me. And it's hard. I also deal with bipolar disorder enxiety and chronic pain. I'm 47 years old and from Israel.
Thing is, as someone who has severe social anxiety, if I push myself to join a club or go somewhere etc, I spend the entire time not being able to speak to anyone and feeling even worse than if I hadn't gone at all. And so the lonely cycle continues heh.
not a therapist, just someone who has also struggled with severe social anxiety too!! I think that even if you go somewhere & can’t speak the entire time, even going is such a step in the right direction! sometimes it’s just helpful to be in public around people but not talking to them (like sitting at a coffee shop). becoming used to that & feeling comfortable doing that is a big step! and from that, with as much time as you need, you can become more comfortable with maybe speaking to someone there. it’s not a fun process!! but taking those steps is so important.
Right now in Italy you can't go out and talk with strangers with Coronavirus, we can't do anything. I work as a waitress and go to uni but I don't work at the moment because people are scared to meet other people and government has closed school and college
I was lonely for a long time and it was so bad. I mean so bad. I cried and just couldn't understand why. I believe in Jesus and I shouldnt have been lonely. God will fill you with love and its a supernatural love you know its God when you feel it. When you have that love and peace no bad feelings can hurt you. I just had a girl break my heart. She doesnt even have feelings. Anyway it hurts really bad but God gives me peace and im happy. Im hurt but im happy because I know I will have someone better. Also meditate. When you block all the chatter and racing thoughts out of your mind you will have peace. If you dont have the Holy Spirit then pray and ask God for peace. Idk if you're Christian or not but I hope you find peace with him.
I really love this topic bc I feel like it isn’t really spoken about a lot and this is so true. We are so caught up in our phones/social media that we don’t even know how to speak and be social with one another anymore. Hope anyone who is feeling that same way decides to step out and take a chance bc you can meet some amazing people!
Sending love to everyone here ♡ I just want to remind you that even though you feel alone, you are not alone, there's always someone out there willing to listen and support you, willing to connect with you
Thank you for that. It really consoled me.
Erika K where?
"You are comparing your unfiltered world with their filtered world", "online socializing is not socializing"..... so much truth in this vlog. I´m going to save it!
Every time I go to sleep, I always have random thoughts that keep me awake so I'm here 😶
I feel you
I find that people confuse self love with being lonely and avoiding people. I also hate how social media is bringing us closer virtually, and further in reality...
omg that is so thought provoking
I've been alone for a very long time. I'm 32. I've been told I'm attractive. But I've been living in a self imposed prison of my own heart and mind. I've realized that I need to be friendly to be people and kind. I was looking for a deep connection and a deep connection only. But how often are you going to find someone who is just like you who's been through what you have?! Your inner child searches for a deep spiritual connection but that is not likely going to happen because we all come from different backgrounds. Being kind and friendly to people creates a base connection which is good. Believe me, that hasn't existed in my life for many years because of being ostracized growing up and through abuse. I'm going to be what I thought people couldn't be to me. Kind and friendly. I will no longer be what my enemies were to me growing up. I've been mean for too long and untrusting. Imagine being alone while watching others go out together in groups in marriages but you are alone although thinking about it much and not understanding why for so long. I've realized it's the perception that comes from the belief that people will ultimately hurt you Everytime that hinders an open heart and mind to new friendships. I'm on a new path to create friendships and lasting beautiful memories. I'm not here to live a solitary life of misery. Life is a miracle.
There’s also times when loneliness could just stem from being bored. If that’s the case, there’s so much out there in the world, one should never feel bored.
Getting a dog is a way of meeting new people. A friend of my cousin met new people and plus a boyfriend.
Happiness is created. Emotions are temporary and can be controlled.
There are many articles about how we're lonelier than ever, that loneliness is a health issue, the defining state of modernity, blaming society technology, etc. But I dont think it is bad or abnormal. Loneliness has always been present in human history. It's archetypal.
Its scary how you always make the right videos
Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.🍀
Oh renee you got me thinking about this lol . I've without friends for a long time .
Gosh, this speaks to me. I also work from home and feel very isolated a lot of the time. I've been thinking of getting a job just to meet people but since I'm working on building my business, I just don't want to split my focus on another job. Trying to figure out a solution that allows me to do both. Sending love to everyone going through this ♡
lol same exact thing I'm dealing with! I'm in the mindset to go ahead and get a job - I'll let you know how it works out
@@ReneeAmberg it's definitely not easy. Good luck! Look forward to the update! xx
Would love to know how to make new friends as an adult❤️
Bumble! - has a friend only section
This was Exactly what i needed to hear today. Thank you for being honest & realist abut this topic. It was extremely comforting to know that even someone i look to for inspiration (you) experience hard times too. But i love how you want to get better in such positive steps. It was very uplifting & helpful.
Thank you ❤️
As someone who has gone through profound grief I can tell you that it is a very lonely process. Kudos to you for getting a job when you move. I’m sure you’ll find something you like.
I needed this video most of all, I have friends and a community of support, yet I still feel lonely fairly often!! I hope you have an amazing weekend Renee, thank you for always being open and offering honest advice 💞💞
ily!!!! you too
Renee Amberg ily too!!!! thanks so much, it means a lot
Sweetie you deserve all the friends in the world, your the best, thank you so much for these tips. I’m proud to be in your RUclips fam. Hugs❤️!
HUGE hug back xx
Renee Amberg can we be friends?
I've been trying to deal with loneliness since I moved out and lived alone. Thank you for uploading the video and share your tips on the struggle with us!
I hope u are feeling much better now! :)
Thanks for putting this video out. I have times when I feel lonely and am an introvert by nature. Sometimes it feels like nobody understands or cares about your loneliness.
I’m thinking about joining a running club to be around other likeminded people.
the sad thing is i've tried to reach out to ppl and ppl are flakey asf. i've tried so many of these things ugh especially most of my friends have bf's and are always w them
Have you reached out to men?
Listen to this helps to deal with loneliness I am in. It's hard to cope with loneliness. So thanks so much ❤️
Love that you tackle big topics on this channel
Renee you rock! I mean alot of people conceal these facts of such suffering by sayin "ITS NORNAL CUZ ITS VERY COMMON THESE DAYS" You're right, it is common but its not normal to feel lonelyyy.
Also physical touch is very important when you’re living by yourself and not socializing. I’ve created beautiful friendships with the people at my job and going through my separation they have been so beautiful and when I needed hugs they were there to hug me..
Love your videos a lott. I was under depression more than 2 years. Really resonating♥️
This was actually the best vid on the web I’ve found about this topic. Great tips - especially during Covid #wfh. Thanks 👏🏼👏🏼
I totally experienced comparison hangover before but I didn’t know it had a name and it was a thing!! So comforting to know, thank you for this video Renee ❤️
Heyy Renee! I just discovered your channel today. I just want to say that I think you are really mature for your age. I am also 25 years old (from The Netherlands) and seeing this video and listening to your story makes me feel happy. You know so much about a topic like loneliness because you read books and because you force yourself to get out of your comfortzone and because of your life experience.
I know that you are probably not going to see or read this comment, but I would like to get in touch with you just to have a chat. I know that this is a bit creepy because I am a complete stranger, but I think we could have a nice chat :)
Thank you for sharing your story!
Renee, this video helps. At school, all my friends turned on me bc of a rumor someone said about me. I’ve come home everyday and I just cried. I had nobody to hang out with. I was lonely. I wasn’t invited to a get together with all my friends, and nobody hung out with me at the school dance. Now I know I’m not alone. Thanks Renee🤩💕
I can be your friend. But I'm not a common person with common topics
Beyes Padilla awww thank i
Beyes Padilla do u have tiktok??
@@presleybobek , no, I don't 🙂
@@presleybobek I have Facebook Beatriz Padilla Yescas.
I started making new activities that fullfill my time. For example, reading a book, talk to my kids, play with my kids, watch a movie, meditate, learn french, do exercise, remodelate my house, and now I don't need a couple, I don't feel lonely anymore, I feel happy.
Couldn’t help but subscribe. Your seem like such a wonderful person ❤️
It's really late where I live. I just came here to tell you that you have been doing a great Job . Love you❤❤😘
omg ily
First, I watch your video from algeria..north africa.
Thank you for this information ...I now that you work hard and learn a lot for preaparing it...thank you again.
Keep smiling when you talk...because you have beautiful teeth.
I hope that god safe you from the worse life situation
Your videos are so meaningful and helpful.
Renee, thank you for this video 🙏 I really enjoyed your tips, they are helpful. I find exercise and hard work helps shift my focus away from feeling lonely
*this is so interesting... i rarely leave my house, yet i never experience the feeling of loneliness. don’t get me wrong, i’m also a people-person; i just don’t feel the NEED to be around people in order to not be lonely, ya know? i feel like loneliness & FOMO stem from lack of self-love. when you get to know yourself & God, you realize you have everything you need within you. yes, it’s nice to have others around, but all we NEED is what is within us already.*
*also: it is definitely possible to crave*
*something you have never experienced;*
*that is completely normal!*
*love & light* 🕊
Hi, I guess being in quarantine isn't a problem for you. Myself, I'm reading books. Hope you'll be okay, take care.
Just looking at you and following you motivate me to start a beautiful day.
Thanks for sacrificing your time to help other people! great content!
You are so inspiring, I’m glad you share all of this information🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
you're not alone. sending good vibes to you and everyone watching this video who feels lonely :)
This is such an amazing topic. Thank you for sharing it. 💜
I wish we could talk . I feel like I listened to your words of encouragement when I felt at my lowest. I almost gave up. Thank you for being on RUclips. It sounds stupid, but I didn't have anyone. I was completely alone. Divorce made me want to die. I remember crying in the corner listening to your voice and trying so hard to just not give up. It felt like my chest was going to collapse.
Loneliness is mindset. You can be alone and not feel lonely and also be in crowd have bunch of social interaction and feel lonely.
Your videos always inspire me, and this topic is something I relate to a lot as the last 2 years it’s been a general theme of my life. Thank you for talking about this, it’s inspired me to maybe one day make my own video about it 💓✨🌸
I'm feeling a little lonely on my birthday today, so this video helped me out a bit. Thanks Renee
I'm late but happy birthday!!
Thanks for this awesome and honest video, it helped me more than you will ever know 😊
You speak to my soul. ❤️💕
How do we combat loneliness right now during this Coronavirus pandemic?
I missed you vid on Wednesday :( but so glad to see you back but I just want to say I love you so much and hope u have an amazing day 💗
For March, videos are only going up Monday and Friday and will stop for two weeks after the 17th due to the move. We’ll be back to normal schedule in April!
Renee Amberg oh ok! Well can't wait to see you in the big apple I live there as well and absolutely love it but it sure is different form Florida 😂
@@ReneeAmberg okay renee
Renee, thank you so much for talking about loneliness! So helpful!
Thank you sm for that video.❤️ I‘m lonely too even tho I go to school and spend 7 hours there.I tried to get new friends cause my old friends made me feel like that. Whenever I think of it I just wanna cry.
Needed this especially now
Grief and despair are a product of worrying about the past. Focusing on the possibility of seeing my children again made me see the sun. I have to remind myself every day that I was lucky to get away from him that I must have faith that I will be reunited with my children some day. Loneliness and grief are very dangerous. Divorce made me want to die. I wish the world knew . I hope he doesn't get away with this. He ruined my life and took my children away. And he robbed me of my self esteem and self worth.
i don't have friends , i've lived alone for 8 years
im not here looking for a cure, im here to help if i can ^_^
Don't worry at the end of the day you got all of us in spirit 😄😃😀🖤💛👍🎉🎊
I wanna be your friend
@@beyespadilla4700 pff you wish😂also you might be a serial killer
just kidding
if you are serious, thanks for the offer really, but as i said, im not looking for a cure for loneliness AKA a (friend) and its not satisfying online even if i got a friend here, its not the same (as many things online)
Didn’t know that this was exactly what I needed until I watched it ly Renee❤️
I just can't thank you enough. ❤
This was really helpful, was great you did research and looked into it
Love your videos! So real ❤
totally related to this!!
thanks for this video Renee :)
thanks for this video. I struggle with this
Great video, thank you for these tips!
Needed to hear this. Thank you 💕
Great video Renee! Thank you for the tips!
Very relatable. BTW, I love your eyeshadow! So sparkly. Mind sharing the brand/ name?
Any tips on how to cope with loneliness during the quarantine?
Socially distanced hangouts? Talk on the phone with someone?
4:45 you’re welcome
It's so cute that you say "our" channel aww
you can pay like $3-$5 to talk to people on epal/echat, & fiverr. you can do squad fills in fortnite, join minecraft servers. go live on tiktok & talk to chat.
won’t cure lack of deep family & friend connections, but ya kno.
After 12months of lockdown and finding it relatively easy then then recently having to remove the one person that actually came out and did stuff (because they became too toxic) I’m super lonely, to the point where it keeps me up at night and very anxious 🤕😞 even about the future and if there is any
Loved this video so much xx thank you for sharing
This is just what I needed to hear , thank you ♥️
Thank you so much for this video!!
I stopped working for a year or two isolated myself I started hearing voices and thought people were judging me cause I wasn't working so I would avoid going outside during the day. I was having out bursts being mean and pushing everyone away burning myself. i couldn't tell my mom cause I felt like she would shove it in my face to hurt me later Even though she's went through the same thing. But I'm pushing myself more talking to more people trying to try new things I still feel this dark cloud over me. But slowly getting better thanks for the video
Thanks For Sharing. God bless everyone Amen.
Great video, thank you. Greetings from Lithuania.
love this video!🤍 thank you
you’re the best 🥺❤️
How bout if you know a person really exist, but everyone does to make you believe she does, because they have no confidence in you at all. I need to find people who will have confidence in me. Too many people surround me in life, that don't have any confidence in me. That make's me alone, but I have faith.
You're amazing!
I understand you so much and I've been needing this video for a long time. I'm living alone with my 4 beautiful cats, I don't have friends in the erea, I have a few friends, only keeping in touch with my mom and my cousin. I was an escort girl for a few years and then an erotic massuse, I have suffered so much trauma, I don't trust people, I don't let anyone enter my life. I had really bad relationships so it's only me. And it's hard. I also deal with bipolar disorder enxiety and chronic pain.
I'm 47 years old and from Israel.
Being from the UK, I really wish I actually knew someone from New York!
You dont cure it you enjoy, master, love, acknowledge it ❤ it can sometimes be very beneficial😉
Thank you! Subbed!
This video is very helpful
I broke up with my best friend last month
thank you renee. :)
Very helpful and informative 🙏🏻💚✨
Just when i needed it the most ❤️
Wow what an amazing video thank u so much!!
Very disappointed the song "Lonely" by Akon is not included in this vid lmaoo That aside great vid though! I needed to hear a lot of this.
I love u Renee but why do u say OUR channel in your intro
I got Cabin fever and feel lonely all the time
Meaning I’ve been in the house to long I’m starting to miss people and gatherings with friends
Thing is, as someone who has severe social anxiety, if I push myself to join a club or go somewhere etc, I spend the entire time not being able to speak to anyone and feeling even worse than if I hadn't gone at all. And so the lonely cycle continues heh.
not a therapist, just someone who has also struggled with severe social anxiety too!! I think that even if you go somewhere & can’t speak the entire time, even going is such a step in the right direction! sometimes it’s just helpful to be in public around people but not talking to them (like sitting at a coffee shop). becoming used to that & feeling comfortable doing that is a big step! and from that, with as much time as you need, you can become more comfortable with maybe speaking to someone there. it’s not a fun process!! but taking those steps is so important.
What's the name of the book that you mentioned in the video about therapy, etc?
Being lonely sucks but it’s better than getting griped at 24/7 😕
Sad you sound awesome
Thank you
Right now in Italy you can't go out and talk with strangers with Coronavirus, we can't do anything. I work as a waitress and go to uni but I don't work at the moment because people are scared to meet other people and government has closed school and college
so sad that situation! sending you a virtual hug
I was lonely for a long time and it was so bad. I mean so bad. I cried and just couldn't understand why. I believe in Jesus and I shouldnt have been lonely. God will fill you with love and its a supernatural love you know its God when you feel it. When you have that love and peace no bad feelings can hurt you. I just had a girl break my heart. She doesnt even have feelings. Anyway it hurts really bad but God gives me peace and im happy. Im hurt but im happy because I know I will have someone better. Also meditate. When you block all the chatter and racing thoughts out of your mind you will have peace. If you dont have the Holy Spirit then pray and ask God for peace. Idk if you're Christian or not but I hope you find peace with him.