Sure, but they're coddled af and learn to treat other women (besides momma) like crap. I feel more sorry for the girls who'll have to endure the abuse from him and the mil
@@definetlyyes89It’s not. It’s the mom. The mom literally made a reaction video on her instagram to the hate comments on that video. Stop spreading misinformation.
My grandmother acted like the boys could do no wrong. She never saw her behavior as preferential, but it definitely was. It was a joke in the family. In her case, I believe it had to do with some childhood trauma that I won't get into, but that's just my theory. My mom definitely suffered as a child, both due to her being female and the circumstances of her conception. My uncle was the golden child who, even now in his 60's, cannot take responsibility for anything. It's ALWAYS someone else's fault, just like every other male. In our family's case, the daughter definitely was punished for being a female. Us grandchildren, not so much. My mom wouldn't put up with it when Granny would get hard on her daughters for no reason other than our gender. My only female cousin had a love/hate relationship with her. Since she was the daughter of Granny's son, Granny's treated her slightly better than me and my sister.
@@susieq1279 My grandma (from mother's side) looked past and excused my male cousin for s*xually assaulting me and letting his friend do it when I was a little girl. She always excused the boys big time before that with everything, but after founding out aboht this my father wanted them all in prison including her. From my experience, it's other women spreading misogyny and raising those men who are. Never had problems with older men, it was always women and their sons who they raised.
I know women in my personal life who have sons and they behave disturbingly. Every other day, there’s a post from them on Facebook talking about how they will kill you for coming near their sons. Completely unprovoked and unhinged. I had a friend flat out tell me that she loves her son far more than she’s ever loved her daughter and that “it’s just different”. There’s pictures on Fb of them kissing their sons on the mouth and saying weird things like, “No man has ever offered me love like him” talking about their SONS.
As a woman, I have the feeling that if a dad were to say the same things about his daughter that CPS would be called. Like the very incestish aspect not the “I love my daughter more than my son” aspect.
I feel like it's uncommon but it still happens like in some conservative states/countries where laws aren't child abuse aren't very strict.. But even then there's a certain resentment towards the daughter for being a girl.. And there's SA involved too..
I mean, it kinds does happen. There's this entire stereotype of dads being extremely overprotective of their daughters, like handing her off to prom with a gun in their hands threatening the boyfriends, being extremely weird about "protecting" their daughters' virginity and whatnot.
@@cynister7384I believe that sort of behavior comes from an (not actually all that) outdated mindset in which fathers would be super overprotective of their daughters because once they were married off their family had very little legal control over them and could do next to nothing for them if something where to happen. That level of threatening behavior makes a lot more sense in the context of say, half a century ago Except for the virginity thing, that’s just inherently gross no mater the context
@@celebcounter1007 search up Oedipus it’s an Ancient Greek myth. Freud an old crazy scientist made a theory saying all boys wanna fuck their mom at some point or something along those lines lines. He called it the Oedipus complex of I remember correctly
@@celebcounter1007Freud had this theory called the Oedipus complex where he basically said that every boy goes through a phase where he "desires" his mother
@celebcounter1007 And if you want even more information, it’s based on the Greek myth of Oedipus, who killed his father and unknowingly married his mother.
Real question, how will a guy who has a "boy mom" get a girlfriend? He will either grow up a horrible partner that will drop all his responsibility on his significant other, or not having a relationship at all because he's gonna hate all women in general....
These toxic moms obviously have their own deep rooted issues as well. Abuse in all forms is generational. They don't just deserve anger from the harm they do, they also deserve pity for whatever made them how they are. My guess is daddy issues or SA from the men they were around in their childhood.
@@vanessarickford6260Employers won't want to hire you and schools won't want to accept you if you have assault and battery on your record. Background checks are a real thing.
Some mothers are in love with their sons!! I live in India, in desi culture it's pretty much common. Mothers interfere in their son's lives way too much and they are pretty much jealous when their sons get married and can't handle when they show their affection to their partners.
@@AbeeraUsmanKhawaja Mhmm I think it's because those mothers weren't appreciated and respected by their husbands now to only get that validation is now from their sons. That's why they get so jealous of their daughter in law unknowingly contributing to the same cycle
I married a man whos mother was really close to him. He lived with his parents until we got married (it was the year he turned 30). Here is the kicker. She is a fantastic mother in law. She nags HIM to help clean the house and treats me with respect. My husband doesn't cook or clean very well, he is still a fantastic provider and will help around the house if he is asked its just not something that he puts on his own to do list.
Youre lucky, in my case she was toxic until we divorced. She had 3 sons & strongly preferred & infantilized my ex, so it was a boy mom problem & more selfish in general. But she had done everything she could to keep him dependent while his brothers had become independent adults. He’s got a great big heart, but we couldn’t have a healthy marriage with their relationship taking center stage. He’s as much of the problem as her, but she def stunted his growth for her own benefit
I have a fantastic mother-in-law too! My husband is the first born and he is clearly, to me, anyway, her favorite-definitely the one she’s closest too for sure. 😬😆 She’s always been so supportive and kind to me. My husband jokingly said back in December at Christmastime that he thinks his mom likes me even more than him now lol There’s been times with her that we have both been laughing so hard at what one of us has said that we have had to hold each other up cause we are laughing so hard, tears just streaming down our faces, laughing our asses off! That’s never even happened with me and my _own_ mom! I’m so thankful for the our relationship-my sister didn’t get so lucky..her MIL is very judgmental but mine? I’ve honestly have felt more judged by my own mom, but, _never_ my mother-in-law! 😁
same here! I'm blessed with a very loving husband and my mother in-law is so sweet! Bless her heart, she has two sons and one daughter and she loves them all so much and has unique relationships with all of them, and the same goes with my father in-law. My husband and I are young and newly married so I can imagine for them to see their middle son marry was a heart-wrencher but they were also delighted! My MIL told me that in the process she gained a wonderful daughter, so that touched my heart.
As a 'girl mom', I call bs. My daughter has a lot, and I mean, A LOT of clothes. Laundry is endless for me. Also, she has a lot of toys and shoes as well 😂 So it's normal to see her stuff everywhere. Even in the bathroom. It's a toddler thing, not a boy/girl thing.
do these moms have a romanticized image that girls are perfectly behaved and low-maintanance (which just isn't true)? If that's teh case, then she might be the other type of boy mom who regrets not having daughters (due to a preconceived ideal about daughters as opposed to sons) and overcompensates
@@tweedlebug123imagine when their kids grow up. Like the preconceived notion of little girls being lower maintenance. If their sons future wife starts hypothetically telling her husband listen I need u to at least do the dishes once in a while or pick up after urself etc coz a boy mom would do everything for them instead of teaching them how to be independent. That mom would probably start saying shit like that wife is asking too much of him or nagging him etc. Oof.🙈😖
@@tweedlebug123 Most people who prefer boys have always told me "girls are so bratty/needy/covered in glitter!" as if they wouldn't be the ones raising them. This isn't a case of expecting girls to NATURALLY be low-maintenance; they're scared THEY are the ones who are going to have to TEACH the girls how to be low-maintenance, because they think girls are naturally bitches. This comes from a place of deeply internalized misogyny and shame. Now, as someone who actually understands child development, I know for a fact there is no difference between girl and boy behavior when they are very young. And, as with any child, their personalities and behavior differ based on who they are, NOT based on what genitals they were born with. A lot of these behaviors that parents claim to be "natural" are, in fact, NOT natural, and are often caused by how the parents perceive their children to behave. Studies have shown that children who swap gendered clothing are treated much differently than if they were to be wearing their "assigned" clothing. The one wearing girl's clothes was treated like a dumb little baby and was gently persuaded to only play with the dolls present (and not the toy trucks and rocking horses). The one wearing boy's clothing was allowed to figure things out on their own, and they were told not to play with the dolls. It wasn't until after the experiment that their birth sexes were revealed, and the people watching the children were shocked--then ashamed of themselves. It didn't matter what the children were wearing, because both were having fun... but they were also barely toddlers. You can only imagine how their behavior would be affected after YEARS of gendered treatment. It is truly a nightmare how society forces children into boxes based on their birth sex.
Sadly it's common that they don't see what's wrong with it, because they've been manipulated their whole lives. That's why so often momma's boys will side with ther mom over their wifes. I know a guy who thought it's okay to take his mom to his honeymoon because "she said she'd feel lonely". They've been completely groomed.
That hug is probably the reason half his friends hang out with him. Because in their minds, if that's how she acts with her son, there's endless possibilities as to how she might act with them
My mother in law is a narcissist who tried to be so emotionally co-dependent on her sons that she borderline was driving them into emotional incest. She’s been horrible to me and my brothers in laws wives, as we “stole” her sons (surrogate husbands), and removed the source of her identity and enablement. My husband and his brothers have had to go through lots of therapy because of her and one of them is getting divorced - the ex wife’s stated reason for divorcing him is his mom. These women are sick and there have to be established boundaries early alongside therapy and healing from these psychopaths.
Honestly, this makes me so sad. Imagine being a little girl and seeing your mom not only showing more affection towards your brother, but also admitting it in social media and being proud of that
Developing countries are just different environments man. A man is able to be much self sufficient and take on a provider role compared to a women in these areas so they’re seen as preferable. That kind of thinking doesn’t emerge much in the modern west since women are able to provide at equal if not superior levels than men here
I’m genuinely curious how these boy moms would react if their son came out as gay. Would they be happy because he’s not gonna have a wife, or sad because…. Well….
An old friend of mine had a boy mum and one day when he brought his bf to his party with us…..omfg….she went crazy. She kept saying that he was “betraying her” and that “he doesn’t know any better”
Glad you pointed out that toxic boy moms are also victims themselves, often. Like theres a reason they don't like women, and if they don't like women, they probably really, really don't like themselves, and that's actually quite sad. Still disturbing af behavior, but still.
Anna’s videos are even more disturbing when you know the full history of her family and content. She and her husband are og RUclipsrs of over a decade, and they’ve documented their lives and the lives of their children since she was pregnant with her first. They used to be hugely popular back in the wave of British RUclips popularity. I wonder if her descent into toxic boy mom stems from her second child being transgender. Like she’s desperate to cling to the one boy “she has left” or something crazy like that. That’s not even mentioning the issues she’s shown to have with an eating disorder, and other mental health issues and how she hasn’t really taken steps to truly deal with those things. I feel like some of those unresolved issues have to affect the way she perceives and interacts with her daughters especially. I feel bad for her kids overall though. They’ve been exploited and on camera their entire lives.
That totally makes sense that having a parent like that would give that poor kid a mental disorder to the point the core of his identity is indecipherable to him. Thats what happens to kids when they grow up in a F'-d up household like that...sad :(
@@cameronspence4977I am a trans woman and this does not make sense at all. I am not some mental fuck up from trauma, I have known I wanted to be a girl since I was 7 and I never had any childhood trauma.
@@MagnyTheRed I'm not saying that's the only way it happens but significant childhood stresses, problems and abuse during development can cause it, I've literally watched it happen to a family member of mine in real time
@@cameronspence4977 Significant issues made me introspective and caused me to understand who I was, not make me transgender. You don't get violently bullied at school and become trans. Also did you ask those so called family members about how they found out they were trans? One in a hundred people are trans, and to have several family members who self-id as trans is very unlikely as well.
Dads of daughters are just as bad when they threaten violence towards guys just for dating their daughters. The whole "Dads Against Daughter's Dating" is so normalized, but is just as problematic.
No，they are not as bad simply because they rarely are in the picture. Count the single parent households and 90% have the woman as the head, so you only gonna have the mom to be a boy mom. Move on to more nuclear style households and you'll still have the mother in charge of the education and the father not much involved. A crazy girls dad might appear once in a full moon and it's usually when he sniffs trash and many times if the fathers are unhinged they will go after their daughters, fathers killing daughters isnt unusual
@@baneofbanesya they do it because it’s a dangerous women for women, especially if it includes a man. That’s why it’s normalized. Dads are men, they know how bad it gets
@@baneofbanes Overbearing dads exist as much as women killing men in the context of DV. It happens but it's in a 1% proportion. Have you ever met a woman saying the father is her first love and she will never love a man as she loves as father and all men come after her father? I doubt it. But almost all men I know will inform this in advance, their mom is their first love and all other women will come after even wife and mother of his children. Even after marriage you will often see the moms meddling in their adult sons life and competing with the wife. I don't know of any father butting in his married daughters life and lecturing her husband
Wtf is up with these moms who put their children all over the internet?? I feel so bad for these kids. Internet is forever. These parents shouldn't be allowed to exploit their kids for likes and money.
The only difference with me and my brother was that he gets more angry. I'm phlegmatic and he's choleric lol. That's literally the only difference between us, cleaning, gaming, we do everything the same. Just personalities are different.
Because people treat them differently ☠️ it's like when people say "girls mature faster". No they don't. Less is just tolerated from them. "Don't be noisy, don't be loud, don't be messy, don't climb things, don't be disruptive" and then when little boys do the same thing they say "boys will be boys". Those kinds of parents, I feel, breed the most dysfunctional relationships with their kids.
i’m the only daughter with 3 older brothers. my childhood was pretty rough due to unrealistic expectations forced upon me by my mom. she genuinely expected me to have no life and put my everything into academics. obviously my brothers weren’t expected to do anything and caused problems day after day. around junior/senior year of high school i couldn’t take it anymore and would argue w my mom everyday. now that i’m away from home for university our relationship is slowly recovering but i’ll never forget how differently i was treated.
I have a daughter and I am having a boy in about a month, the amount of woman that keep telling me that the love that I will feel for my son will be soooo vastly different than that of my daughter it almost makes me wish I was having another girl. It's creepy. Kids are kids, gender shouldn't even go into consideration until puberty hits and even then, it should only matter in teaching them about their bodies. They make jokes about already having a babysitter and how my daughter will love having a real baby doll. I hate it. Thank goodness my husband and I are on the same page about it all.
Occasionally your daughter might treat your son like a doll. I have an adorable pic of my brother in my doll crib surrounded by dolls so he could play in my room with me and we could play what I wanted He was ~1 and I was ~8
For the mother who admitted that her son hits his sisters when he has a “bad day” ; I would like to know if she will be okay if her son would one day hit HER instead of his sisters?! Will she still defend him even after he would intentionally harm her physically?!
critiquing mainly white women for this behavior obscures the way in many ethnic communities, boys of color are preferred & coddled by parents too. itd be cool to see you redo this video with your own cultural context and the ways you have benefited from this oft times inherent cultural mentality. the only thing these white tiktok moms did was say the quiet part out loud bc this generally how society disowns girls worldwide
That's solid feedback right there. While it is a lighthearted yt commentary channel and an atypical source for serious social commentary , your point rings resoundingly true. "Toxic Boy Moms" are _incredibly_ common in my culture....to the point where it's considered meritorious / a blessing when the bride's MIL treats her well, and straight women just expect to be treated poorly by their MILs as a standard.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POINTING THIS OUT I swear is so common in Hispanic culture to do this. I’m a girl and lucky to be an only child but I’ve seen this first hand with my cousins too. My younger cousin always gets yelled at and made to do work while the older one can just go out until 2 am (he’s been allowed since he was 14-15) and not be in school for days but will still get coddled the entire time
It’s very common here in a lot of Africa cultures too. Moms are hard on their daughters but soft on their sons. Men raised that way tend to be absolute nightmares in the dating scene. They always want a version of their mother and stop at nothing to compare a woman to their mom at any given moment.
@@Kiran37369 actually having a variety of color is incredibly important for a child’s development, because without it they could end up struggling with color recognition, or become very overstimulated every time they see too much color from being used to seeing a lack of color
Every time I think about boy moms, I think about my friend from back in high school who had two older sisters and one younger brother and every time I went to her house, it was so obviously apparent to everyone there that the boy was being favored. He was a brat who would bother us, fart constantly, sometime hit us (he was too small to really hurt us, but the action was still there, he was like 10), and if he wanted the TV, he got the TV. Didn't matter my friend had friends over and was watching something, that was now off and he got to watch what he wanted to. He ran wild and his parents acted like he was an angel who could do no wrong and all blame would go onto my friend. She couldn't control him or she would get in trouble. One older sister was married and the other one in college and my friend told me how they never visited because of how uncaring their parents were of their lives. Their parents only wanted one son and ended up getting three daughters first and they didn't care about them. We often would end up staying in her bedroom as it was the only location we could be there in peace.
My mom isnt a toxic boy mum, but my brother was still the biggest bully ive ever had(phisical and emotional as well). It was just glossed over with "ignore him. Avoid him". Lets just say i did not end up well
Sorry about your daughter, parenting is hard but you got this. I've heard by age 5 they usually stop breaking the Geneva convention and just do minor theft and fraud. Xoxo
that introduction is the perfect summary of boy moms, also known as "I'm THE narcissist mother who will treat my son as my husband and absolutely crap all over my daughter".
So damaging for both their daughters and their sons. Their daughters are going to be subjected to neglect, while their sons are going to be subject to emotional (at least) incest. All the children of mothers like this are victims.
My mom coddled my brother his whole life. Now he isn't getting what he wants and he's punishing her play not letting her see her grandkids. He and his wife are both selfish immature narcissists. Their children do not like them.
Your son growing up will feel like… a human you love growing into the best version of themself, who is thankful for all the love and support you gave him, because that helped him find his own voice and his own path in life. Fixed it.
oh god, even though my dad treated we three the same... it was the same horrible way. but anyways, i do think it would be even worse if he said to us who his favorite. i can't imagine living with a brother being treated like a angel while we were treated like demons, it's realy bizarre. thank you for another fun video! i always love watching your videos!
@@kajamatousek247for some reason I can picture Freud coming back from his grave only to make one of those Jesus memes of *“They hated him because he said the truth.”* “Shut up!” and then post it online 😭
My mother in law Is a #boymom and he definitely thinks is super weird how obsessed she is about him she also photoshops smiles on his selfies she's calmed down since we moved to a different city but his parents are overbearing af
This video is a great example of why my husband and I, and his brother and his wife, live far away from their mother. She's a good woman, and I respect her, but I don't need a hidden hand constantly trying to control my marriage. My husband finally stopped listening to her and is pursuing his own goals and a career that makes him happy. Hell, when we had our son, she was trying to dictate what sports he would be in and what school he should go to.
that last toxic boy mom really hurts to see. ive been abused by my sister for 10 years and while shes calmed down, my mom and dad still like her better and it hurts bad
Someone once said “a mother son relationship may be the only relationship with a male the mother will ever have that isn’t tinged with fear.” 😧 if they are self hating misogynists, then when their sons are born it’s the first time the mother can love someone fully. They are mostly tragic figures.
I have an older brother and my mum treats him… like her son, not as if she’s dating him hell my mum even has a pretty great relationship with his girlfriend! this is how to properly be a mother of your son, it’s not that difficult
My sister's ex-husband has a disturbing relationship with his mom, very much like this. I believe it's called "enmeshment". My sister saw it early on on their relationship (along with all the other red flags), and thought it was very odd and made her uncomfortable, but assumed he would grow up and mature past everything ("I can fix him"). Needless to say, nothing was ever resolved, hence the divorce.
i used to date a guy (long story...) his mom HATED me so much she was genuinely willing to charge her own son of statutory just to keep him away from me. he was 17, i was 15.
I can assure you, it’s because the mother has narcissistic tendencies and sees the girls as competition for their husband’s attention- wanting to be the most impotently woman in his life. It’s why they’re so nasty to their daughters in law and granddaughters.
As a mom of both a boy and a girl, there is one very important difference between them… My son is so freaking sticky all the time I don’t get it, they live in the same house and play the same activities, it’s like he oozes stick and then everything he touches clings to his skin, how is this possible 😂
its about forming healthy relationships. If the relationship was healthy, and boundaries were made, no one would give a damn. Another reason why people care about emotional incest relationships, is because it can stunt some ways of thinking and development. for example, one mother has 2 kids. one is a boy and one is a girl. The mother is much closer with the boy, doing his laundry, making his food, and taking care of all his needs well into the son's adulthood (where the term man child comes from) whereas the girl is neglected by her mother, told to do her own chores, take care of herself and not allowed to do many things whereas her brother would be free to do whatever he goddamn pleases. this follows into adult hood, she sees her mother caring more for her son and the daughter will think that she, a) needs to take care of a man and baby him to form a relationship. or b) she thinks that's bs and she wants someone equal to her. in many cases, these women don't follow option b, they more or less go for someone toxic and someone who expects them to take care of them like their mommy did. thus the cycles repeats, these women grow up, get married, have kids, and fill that deep well of insecurities through their son. In conclusion, treating everyone with respect, and the ability to trust them to take care of them is something that's needed to break that cycle. Learning how to accept urself and getting the help that's needed can greatly improve how one feels about their kids, but no one is ready to make that change. (i was replying to a comment about incest-ships but i don't think they would appreciate it so i commented it here too)
And then those women would probably be the type to say oh boys will be boys when men do stupid shit instead of holding them accountable. And then believe oh its just girls develop mentally faster than boys. As if they didn't develop due to it being their only option so they grew independence as a pre pubescent survival tactic. But any boy mom Brittany and Jessica and Susan refuse to see it.😂
This reminds me of those awful fathers who make it a point to have a gun on display when a boy picks up his daughter to go to homecoming. I would’ve thought that attitude would’ve decreased over the years, but it seems that toxicity spread instead
I remember talk with a psych major about this and one thing they said was single moms that go toxic will see the single son as the man who left them. This means either the mom is abusive towards the son as resement or, in these cases, they raise their sons to be the husbands they wanted
Boy moms have been around a looong time in rural America. Occasionally I would feel like I wasn’t enthusiastic enough about my son (only child), but thank god I had normal healthy boundaries, and as a young adult, he still trusts me & enjoys hanging out a normal amount of time. Why create toxicity like this, it’s absolutely bananas. We’re supposed to prepare our kids for independence not give them creepy mommy issues.
These videos always make me so worried and angry... The amount of hate and spite going towards *potential* *future* *women* in their sons' life when that boy is like 3-4 years old? As well as other parents who happen to have daughters? Absolutely unhinged.
i’ve always been a daddy’s girl, the type where he forbade me from dating until i was about 16. he’s the type of dad to threaten my boyfriend… but he also finds my happiness important, and my safety is a top priority. i love my dad sm
The “slowest breakup” one made me audibly gasp “EW!” Also I dated a guy who was a product of a toxic boy mom situation. And let me tell you - that shit was so disturbing. I couldn’t ever really get past it. The emotional incest between them was so fucking creepy. I remember he would tell me certain things about their relationship legitimately framing it as “cute.” It wasn’t cute. It was bizarre and upsetting. Aaaaand he also went on to treat women like total garbage so
As someone who is 27 in the Marine Corps. My mother in front of my wife felt up my body because she wanted to feel her "baby boys muscles" we shortly left and I don't really talk with them
This kind of behavior towards their sons is genuinely disturbing. If I noticed any of these things I’d be talking to them and other family of theirs to get the mom to go to a therapist. A lot of these moms clearly have their own issues causing them to act like this and in order to let their children be happy, they have to tackle these issues themselves. Imagine the relationships they ruin for their sons just because they’re too insecure.
I am besties with my MIL, so seeing these videos of mothers acting like their future DIL has to compete with them for their son’s love/attention is astounding.
my grandma is a boymom and my uncle is the youngest siblings of 4 and he is the only son she had. I telling you she is so toxic and aggressive toward my aunt and it's concerning, I'm fear for her safety once she's pregnant someday
Okay so in Asian countries I have seen this A LOT...mothers are so tough with their daughters and so baby-like with their sons,"oh he shouldn't clean or cook" or them doing any work is praised while girls are SUPPOSED to do all this so yeah boy moms are just ladies who didn't got validation from there husbands and are just finding it in their sons and what I have seen in Asian countries is that these feelings ARENT ROMANTIC they just see them as better. It is as bad for them and the mom (okay it's too long)
My mom wasn't necessarily a "boy mom" or had that weird relationship, but she did favor my brother growing up because of our patriarchal culture. Now that we're grown up, I like to sometimes remind her of her favoritism towards my brother 😂 I also shut her down any time she tried to unfairly say something negative about my brother's girlfriend. You're not being an evil MIL today, mother 🙄 Thankfully my mom's a lot better now. Call out your parents guys if you have to.
My uncle married a daddy's girl (or at least that is my hypothesis) that made him horrible thing When i was really young, between 4 and 8 years, she told me that she did not wanted to have a daughter, her reasons were that a boy will be more discipled on the teenage, but the girl will cause her stress when she get a boyfriend, i did not take in care that moment, i was wondering why she said that a boy will be more calmed (i tough the opposite), but no is just too weird, her dad hated my uncle every single second that he was alive, i think that she projected that feeling of hate against her hypothetical son-in-law
I have three daughters and am a woman myself. Let me tell you how horrified my second husband and their bio dad were to discover girls are messy, violent and people.
i just found your channel and i already love your videos!! i like how you’re different than regular reaction channels and actually offer critical thought instead of just blatant hate 🙏 it’s a very mature and learnable perspective :) keep up the good work!!
10:14 let's just say as a (pretransition) trans man, masc presenting people / men with fire takes like this is so encouraging. Anti-toxic-masculinity cis men, you do SO much for trans dudes like myself trying to get over that imposter syndrome. Freaking cool. I'm enthused to find another cool niche youtuber with encouraging points
thank you so much for the support :) i seriously don't understand people who are transphobic, like just let ppl live their lives and be who they feel like on the inside fr. I also think it's important to remember the people who are most outspoken being anti-lgbtq+ are the vocal minority, the vast majority of people are pro, but the constant negativity we see everywhere can really get into our heads, so I can for sure empathize.
with all due respect, please work on yourself before attempting to change your gender. It’s not possible. Cutting and slicing up your body while pumping artificial hormones into it isn’t the answer for gender dysphoria. Try including healthy habits, eating right, exercising, spending time with friends. There will be hell to pay if you attempt to do this. You will never be a dude. It’s a complete break from reality to call yourself a dude when you have ovaries.
@@sashaircha6475 You are aware to even do ANYTHING medically you have to go to a therapist for 1-2 years / 12 hours of therapy depending on the law AND live through your gender you identify as for about a year. Then you have to find a doctor who is even willing to give you HRT and do a few tests to see the state of your body hormonal wise, general health and chromosomes. A lot of them also want two doctors notes before they even do anything I even heard on the very very rare occasions about three. And get a surgery appointment can take much longer than HRT, the same thing about doctor's notes applies here. The difference is that the waiting list can be extremely long, I heard about some trans people having to wait 4 years for one surgery because the list was so long. I can tell you my transition was extremely fast because I was lucky, I thought 3 years about it and socially transitioned as best as I could. Getting with 19 my HRT after a year of therapy and then with 21 my first surgery. Plus you have no idea what the person wants. Maybe they just want to change their name and just need a doctor's note to make it liable. Maybe they want a low dose of HRT or just one surgery. Maybe they want everything. It's also not a complete break from reality, changing gender or homosexuality is very common in the animal kingdom, plus if you're really worried about young people going through surgery that could change their life's forever I genuinely from my heart recommend to fight for babies who are intersex. Babies are still forced to go through surgery because their sexual reproduction organs aren't lined up with the norm instead of deciding what they want once they're old enough.
@RayLikeSunshine yeah, they are only castrating children and putting grapists in women's prisons. Can't imagine why anyone would would have a problem with CASTRATING LITTLE KIDS. Sick cultist.
@@RayLikeSunshine yea i just dont care like im not for it but im not against it like youre just living life like why hate yk? like i wouldnt date a trans girl but besides that i dont have any issue with it
When I had my daughter I immediately joined a mom's group. Boys and girls aren't that much different until they get quite a bit older and even then its not much, some boys can go through being aggressive. I find its more about phases. These boy moms are sick. I just watched documentary on a mother who shot and killed her sons ex wife. They had a two year old baby and she killed her right in front of the baby. Some of these moms sort of hit that way. There sons wives and girlfriends can never be good enough.
Worried for the emotional incest the little boys might be subjected to
Absolutely.
Sure, but they're coddled af and learn to treat other women (besides momma) like crap. I feel more sorry for the girls who'll have to endure the abuse from him and the mil
Everybody would call the police if the genders were reversed.
Oh definitely .I think in some cases it goes beyond emotional .
@@leila_de_hautjardinit’s also the other way around
The pick me to boy mom to toxic mother in law pipeline is real
the pipeline must be studied
Just like the 9/11 to 50 shades of grey pipeline
@@coriumfigs that pipeline trips me out so much
To monster in law
@@coriumfigsthe what pipeline?!?!
"Consider therapy Queen" truer words were never spoken
Also consider not having children, Queen.
@@rachelk4805 Yes this, literally...😂
I feel so bad for that football kid who got weirdly hugged by his mom. Now it’s all over the internet. She’s ruined him twice.
I feel bad for my father, because our mother would really be THAT toxic boy mom who drove him away, without even realising it herself...😂
u already know his whole team be talking abt his mom in the locker room lol
It’s his sister
@@definetlyyes89It’s not. It’s the mom. The mom literally made a reaction video on her instagram to the hate comments on that video. Stop spreading misinformation.
@@jared1964what was her reaction like? "Yes, I did climb my son like monkey bars."
I am scared of the daughters these boy moms might have. Not even Daughter in Law, just bio daughters, I cannot imagine the neglect it might cause
My grandmother acted like the boys could do no wrong. She never saw her behavior as preferential, but it definitely was. It was a joke in the family. In her case, I believe it had to do with some childhood trauma that I won't get into, but that's just my theory. My mom definitely suffered as a child, both due to her being female and the circumstances of her conception. My uncle was the golden child who, even now in his 60's, cannot take responsibility for anything. It's ALWAYS someone else's fault, just like every other male. In our family's case, the daughter definitely was punished for being a female. Us grandchildren, not so much. My mom wouldn't put up with it when Granny would get hard on her daughters for no reason other than our gender. My only female cousin had a love/hate relationship with her. Since she was the daughter of Granny's son, Granny's treated her slightly better than me and my sister.
I am one of those grown girls with a mom who clearly favored my brothers. It really hurt. I have been fully no contact with her for over a decade.
@@susieq1279 My grandma (from mother's side) looked past and excused my male cousin for s*xually assaulting me and letting his friend do it when I was a little girl.
She always excused the boys big time before that with everything, but after founding out aboht this my father wanted them all in prison including her.
From my experience, it's other women spreading misogyny and raising those men who are.
Never had problems with older men, it was always women and their sons who they raised.
@@IlivedbihYou definitely don't have much experience then. Or you're blinded to the misogyny of older men because of your childhood trauma
This trend is pretty similar to the dad with the shotgun at prom thing. Pretty similar wierd vibes.
I know women in my personal life who have sons and they behave disturbingly. Every other day, there’s a post from them on Facebook talking about how they will kill you for coming near their sons. Completely unprovoked and unhinged. I had a friend flat out tell me that she loves her son far more than she’s ever loved her daughter and that “it’s just different”. There’s pictures on Fb of them kissing their sons on the mouth and saying weird things like, “No man has ever offered me love like him” talking about their SONS.
I really do think these are the women that are committing incest or still committing infidelity behind their husbands back with other men.
that's unhinged behavior
🤮🤮🤮🤮
that is sick 🤮
@@LogarAccwhy u give damn!maybe she is in relationship with her son(incest) so what's the problem mr atheist?
As a woman, I have the feeling that if a dad were to say the same things about his daughter that CPS would be called. Like the very incestish aspect not the “I love my daughter more than my son” aspect.
I feel like it's uncommon but it still happens like in some conservative states/countries where laws aren't child abuse aren't very strict.. But even then there's a certain resentment towards the daughter for being a girl.. And there's SA involved too..
I mean, it kinds does happen. There's this entire stereotype of dads being extremely overprotective of their daughters, like handing her off to prom with a gun in their hands threatening the boyfriends, being extremely weird about "protecting" their daughters' virginity and whatnot.
Nope, because "girl dads" like this also exist. It's the "No boyfriends before 30" and "Dad is the only man I'll love."
@@cynister7384I believe that sort of behavior comes from an (not actually all that) outdated mindset in which fathers would be super overprotective of their daughters because once they were married off their family had very little legal control over them and could do next to nothing for them if something where to happen. That level of threatening behavior makes a lot more sense in the context of say, half a century ago
Except for the virginity thing, that’s just inherently gross no mater the context
@@rubymckenna5169how is wanting a virgin weird? Especially in a time with no std test or pregnancy test or dna.
"Of course, the comments are turned off. She's probably aFREUD of what they're gonna say" LMAOOO
Can you explain why Freud is funny .... Like I searched on Google as well but I am not getting it .. please enlighten about what Freud is ....? ❤🙏🙏
@@celebcounter1007 search up Oedipus it’s an Ancient Greek myth. Freud an old crazy scientist made a theory saying all boys wanna fuck their mom at some point or something along those lines lines. He called it the Oedipus complex of I remember correctly
@@celebcounter1007Sigmund Freud was a famous neurologist. Check out his theory of Oedipus complex.
@@celebcounter1007Freud had this theory called the Oedipus complex where he basically said that every boy goes through a phase where he "desires" his mother
@celebcounter1007 And if you want even more information, it’s based on the Greek myth of Oedipus, who killed his father and unknowingly married his mother.
as a girl, these toxic boy mum videos fill me with indescribable rage, and then pity for future girlfriends who have to deal with all that toxicity.
My anger issues can NEVER 😂😂😂 I be throwing hands after being filled with rage
Real question, how will a guy who has a "boy mom" get a girlfriend? He will either grow up a horrible partner that will drop all his responsibility on his significant other, or not having a relationship at all because he's gonna hate all women in general....
These toxic moms obviously have their own deep rooted issues as well. Abuse in all forms is generational. They don't just deserve anger from the harm they do, they also deserve pity for whatever made them how they are. My guess is daddy issues or SA from the men they were around in their childhood.
@@vanessarickford6260Employers won't want to hire you and schools won't want to accept you if you have assault and battery on your record. Background checks are a real thing.
@@Acr6gAttt-mq2hrEXACTLY!!
Some mothers are in love with their sons!! I live in India, in desi culture it's pretty much common. Mothers interfere in their son's lives way too much and they are pretty much jealous when their sons get married and can't handle when they show their affection to their partners.
Same in Pakistan
@@AbeeraUsmanKhawaja Mhmm I think it's because those mothers weren't appreciated and respected by their husbands now to only get that validation is now from their sons. That's why they get so jealous of their daughter in law unknowingly contributing to the same cycle
@@HamidaSherin-tc3bz it's actually 100% true.
@@HamidaSherin-tc3bz it's actually 100% true.
Same in middle east
I married a man whos mother was really close to him. He lived with his parents until we got married (it was the year he turned 30). Here is the kicker. She is a fantastic mother in law. She nags HIM to help clean the house and treats me with respect. My husband doesn't cook or clean very well, he is still a fantastic provider and will help around the house if he is asked its just not something that he puts on his own to do list.
Youre lucky, in my case she was toxic until we divorced. She had 3 sons & strongly preferred & infantilized my ex, so it was a boy mom problem & more selfish in general. But she had done everything she could to keep him dependent while his brothers had become independent adults. He’s got a great big heart, but we couldn’t have a healthy marriage with their relationship taking center stage. He’s as much of the problem as her, but she def stunted his growth for her own benefit
Luckily not all son and mom who are close are toxic or are “boy moms”. Based on you comment it seems he has an appropriate relationship with her.
I have a fantastic mother-in-law too! My husband is the first born and he is clearly, to me, anyway, her favorite-definitely the one she’s closest too for sure. 😬😆 She’s always been so supportive and kind to me. My husband jokingly said back in December at Christmastime that he thinks his mom likes me even more than him now lol There’s been times with her that we have both been laughing so hard at what one of us has said that we have had to hold each other up cause we are laughing so hard, tears just streaming down our faces, laughing our asses off! That’s never even happened with me and my _own_ mom! I’m so thankful for the our relationship-my sister didn’t get so lucky..her MIL is very judgmental but mine? I’ve honestly have felt more judged by my own mom, but, _never_ my mother-in-law! 😁
same here! I'm blessed with a very loving husband and my mother in-law is so sweet! Bless her heart, she has two sons and one daughter and she loves them all so much and has unique relationships with all of them, and the same goes with my father in-law. My husband and I are young and newly married so I can imagine for them to see their middle son marry was a heart-wrencher but they were also delighted! My MIL told me that in the process she gained a wonderful daughter, so that touched my heart.
They had us in the first half
Forget boy moms wearing white to their son's wedding. What about the ones who wear black like they're "mourning the loss of their son"
Tbh they make me sick
As a 'girl mom', I call bs. My daughter has a lot, and I mean, A LOT of clothes. Laundry is endless for me. Also, she has a lot of toys and shoes as well 😂 So it's normal to see her stuff everywhere. Even in the bathroom. It's a toddler thing, not a boy/girl thing.
Not a mom, but an older sister to a 9yr girl and 3yr boy and I agree! Lots of toys. Lots of hand me downs.
do these moms have a romanticized image that girls are perfectly behaved and low-maintanance (which just isn't true)? If that's teh case, then she might be the other type of boy mom who regrets not having daughters (due to a preconceived ideal about daughters as opposed to sons) and overcompensates
@@tweedlebug123imagine when their kids grow up. Like the preconceived notion of little girls being lower maintenance. If their sons future wife starts hypothetically telling her husband listen I need u to at least do the dishes once in a while or pick up after urself etc coz a boy mom would do everything for them instead of teaching them how to be independent. That mom would probably start saying shit like that wife is asking too much of him or nagging him etc. Oof.🙈😖
@@tweedlebug123 Most people who prefer boys have always told me "girls are so bratty/needy/covered in glitter!" as if they wouldn't be the ones raising them. This isn't a case of expecting girls to NATURALLY be low-maintenance; they're scared THEY are the ones who are going to have to TEACH the girls how to be low-maintenance, because they think girls are naturally bitches. This comes from a place of deeply internalized misogyny and shame.
Now, as someone who actually understands child development, I know for a fact there is no difference between girl and boy behavior when they are very young. And, as with any child, their personalities and behavior differ based on who they are, NOT based on what genitals they were born with. A lot of these behaviors that parents claim to be "natural" are, in fact, NOT natural, and are often caused by how the parents perceive their children to behave. Studies have shown that children who swap gendered clothing are treated much differently than if they were to be wearing their "assigned" clothing. The one wearing girl's clothes was treated like a dumb little baby and was gently persuaded to only play with the dolls present (and not the toy trucks and rocking horses). The one wearing boy's clothing was allowed to figure things out on their own, and they were told not to play with the dolls. It wasn't until after the experiment that their birth sexes were revealed, and the people watching the children were shocked--then ashamed of themselves. It didn't matter what the children were wearing, because both were having fun... but they were also barely toddlers. You can only imagine how their behavior would be affected after YEARS of gendered treatment.
It is truly a nightmare how society forces children into boxes based on their birth sex.
And yes....I have been peed on by my niece a couple of times
2:16 I’d be super suspicious if I saw my wife or other women hugging young men LIKE THAT whether or not it’s their son.
I feel so bad for the young man
@@clairewillow6475 me too, I wouldn’t be surprised if he gets annoyed by his mother when she does stuff like that.
Edit: type error
Sadly it's common that they don't see what's wrong with it, because they've been manipulated their whole lives.
That's why so often momma's boys will side with ther mom over their wifes.
I know a guy who thought it's okay to take his mom to his honeymoon because "she said she'd feel lonely".
They've been completely groomed.
That hug is probably the reason half his friends hang out with him. Because in their minds, if that's how she acts with her son, there's endless possibilities as to how she might act with them
@@patrickkanas3874 ooff, that’s a good point.
My mother in law is a narcissist who tried to be so emotionally co-dependent on her sons that she borderline was driving them into emotional incest. She’s been horrible to me and my brothers in laws wives, as we “stole” her sons (surrogate husbands), and removed the source of her identity and enablement. My husband and his brothers have had to go through lots of therapy because of her and one of them is getting divorced - the ex wife’s stated reason for divorcing him is his mom. These women are sick and there have to be established boundaries early alongside therapy and healing from these psychopaths.
oh my, I hope you and your husband are doing okay even your sister and brother in laws
Honestly, this makes me so sad. Imagine being a little girl and seeing your mom not only showing more affection towards your brother, but also admitting it in social media and being proud of that
But men are better than women at everything look at the stats of single dads vs single mothers
THAT PART
It is an inversion of stereotypical dads loving their daughters more than sons
I WILL NEVER understand why people prefer one child’s gender over another.
Probably sexism
Comes down to culture, in many cultures boys were considered more valuable than girls
Best example of f around and find out is China. 🤣
I’d really rather have a girl just because a man is far more likely to grow up a grapist, due to societal conditioning
Developing countries are just different environments man. A man is able to be much self sufficient and take on a provider role compared to a women in these areas so they’re seen as preferable. That kind of thinking doesn’t emerge much in the modern west since women are able to provide at equal if not superior levels than men here
I’m genuinely curious how these boy moms would react if their son came out as gay. Would they be happy because he’s not gonna have a wife, or sad because…. Well….
An old friend of mine had a boy mum and one day when he brought his bf to his party with us…..omfg….she went crazy. She kept saying that he was “betraying her” and that “he doesn’t know any better”
Lmfaooo that's a good point
Yea....
Glad you pointed out that toxic boy moms are also victims themselves, often. Like theres a reason they don't like women, and if they don't like women, they probably really, really don't like themselves, and that's actually quite sad. Still disturbing af behavior, but still.
Yeah, there's so much internalised misogyny!
As they always say the abused become the abusers
Woman moment
@@yeahokbuddy2510 male moment☕️
@@yeahokbuddy2510 touch grass incel
That was his MOTHER??? Big yikes 😬
That kids only hope is moving out of state, changing his name, and joining the military and then pray to God none of them find out who his mom is
Right?? I couldn’t fathom my mom hugging my brother like that, it would be weird for all of us 😭😭
Anna’s videos are even more disturbing when you know the full history of her family and content. She and her husband are og RUclipsrs of over a decade, and they’ve documented their lives and the lives of their children since she was pregnant with her first. They used to be hugely popular back in the wave of British RUclips popularity. I wonder if her descent into toxic boy mom stems from her second child being transgender. Like she’s desperate to cling to the one boy “she has left” or something crazy like that. That’s not even mentioning the issues she’s shown to have with an eating disorder, and other mental health issues and how she hasn’t really taken steps to truly deal with those things. I feel like some of those unresolved issues have to affect the way she perceives and interacts with her daughters especially. I feel bad for her kids overall though. They’ve been exploited and on camera their entire lives.
Holy shit
That totally makes sense that having a parent like that would give that poor kid a mental disorder to the point the core of his identity is indecipherable to him. Thats what happens to kids when they grow up in a F'-d up household like that...sad :(
@@cameronspence4977I am a trans woman and this does not make sense at all. I am not some mental fuck up from trauma, I have known I wanted to be a girl since I was 7 and I never had any childhood trauma.
@@MagnyTheRed I'm not saying that's the only way it happens but significant childhood stresses, problems and abuse during development can cause it, I've literally watched it happen to a family member of mine in real time
@@cameronspence4977 Significant issues made me introspective and caused me to understand who I was, not make me transgender. You don't get violently bullied at school and become trans. Also did you ask those so called family members about how they found out they were trans? One in a hundred people are trans, and to have several family members who self-id as trans is very unlikely as well.
Dads of daughters are just as bad when they threaten violence towards guys just for dating their daughters. The whole "Dads Against Daughter's Dating" is so normalized, but is just as problematic.
No，they are not as bad simply because they rarely are in the picture.
Count the single parent households and 90% have the woman as the head, so you only gonna have the mom to be a boy mom.
Move on to more nuclear style households and you'll still have the mother in charge of the education and the father not much involved.
A crazy girls dad might appear once in a full moon and it's usually when he sniffs trash and many times if the fathers are unhinged they will go after their daughters, fathers killing daughters isnt unusual
@@redleeks6253yah that’s a load of bullshit. Over bearing fathers is very much a thing dude.
@@baneofbanesya they do it because it’s a dangerous women for women, especially if it includes a man. That’s why it’s normalized. Dads are men, they know how bad it gets
@@baneofbanes Overbearing dads exist as much as women killing men in the context of DV. It happens but it's in a 1% proportion.
Have you ever met a woman saying the father is her first love and she will never love a man as she loves as father and all men come after her father? I doubt it.
But almost all men I know will inform this in advance, their mom is their first love and all other women will come after even wife and mother of his children. Even after marriage you will often see the moms meddling in their adult sons life and competing with the wife.
I don't know of any father butting in his married daughters life and lecturing her husband
It's more like we know exactly what sort of sleaze bags are out there and we don't want them near our daughters
Wtf is up with these moms who put their children all over the internet?? I feel so bad for these kids. Internet is forever. These parents shouldn't be allowed to exploit their kids for likes and money.
This
I have two daughters and they check off that entire list lmao. Idk why ppl act like sons and daughters are so different
Me neither...😂
The only difference with me and my brother was that he gets more angry. I'm phlegmatic and he's choleric lol. That's literally the only difference between us, cleaning, gaming, we do everything the same. Just personalities are different.
Because people treat them differently ☠️ it's like when people say "girls mature faster". No they don't. Less is just tolerated from them. "Don't be noisy, don't be loud, don't be messy, don't climb things, don't be disruptive" and then when little boys do the same thing they say "boys will be boys". Those kinds of parents, I feel, breed the most dysfunctional relationships with their kids.
@@Ilivedbihbro why are you using medieval personality types
Both are different gender so they could have gender bs interest and hobbies
No matter the gender, the parent should just have to raise them correctly
i’m the only daughter with 3 older brothers. my childhood was pretty rough due to unrealistic expectations forced upon me by my mom. she genuinely expected me to have no life and put my everything into academics. obviously my brothers weren’t expected to do anything and caused problems day after day. around junior/senior year of high school i couldn’t take it anymore and would argue w my mom everyday. now that i’m away from home for university our relationship is slowly recovering but i’ll never forget how differently i was treated.
Do you tell her this
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v yes
My biggest sympathy to you . Wish you the best in your healing journey and the fulfilling life you deserve to have
Crazy moms be like: "He hit his sister, then beat his wife and caused her to loose the pregnancy... You know, maybe he was having a bad day." 🤦♀🙄
I have a daughter and I am having a boy in about a month, the amount of woman that keep telling me that the love that I will feel for my son will be soooo vastly different than that of my daughter it almost makes me wish I was having another girl. It's creepy. Kids are kids, gender shouldn't even go into consideration until puberty hits and even then, it should only matter in teaching them about their bodies. They make jokes about already having a babysitter and how my daughter will love having a real baby doll. I hate it. Thank goodness my husband and I are on the same page about it all.
Hahaha now you already have your kid, tell me you feel the same as when you wrote this comment 😂
Occasionally your daughter might treat your son like a doll. I have an adorable pic of my brother in my doll crib surrounded by dolls so he could play in my room with me and we could play what I wanted
He was ~1 and I was ~8
For the mother who admitted that her son hits his sisters when he has a “bad day” ; I would like to know if she will be okay if her son would one day hit HER instead of his sisters?! Will she still defend him even after he would intentionally harm her physically?!
critiquing mainly white women for this behavior obscures the way in many ethnic communities, boys of color are preferred & coddled by parents too. itd be cool to see you redo this video with your own cultural context and the ways you have benefited from this oft times inherent cultural mentality. the only thing these white tiktok moms did was say the quiet part out loud bc this generally how society disowns girls worldwide
That's solid feedback right there. While it is a lighthearted yt commentary channel and an atypical source for serious social commentary , your point rings resoundingly true. "Toxic Boy Moms" are _incredibly_ common in my culture....to the point where it's considered meritorious / a blessing when the bride's MIL treats her well, and straight women just expect to be treated poorly by their MILs as a standard.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POINTING THIS OUT I swear is so common in Hispanic culture to do this. I’m a girl and lucky to be an only child but I’ve seen this first hand with my cousins too. My younger cousin always gets yelled at and made to do work while the older one can just go out until 2 am (he’s been allowed since he was 14-15) and not be in school for days but will still get coddled the entire time
I'm Asian and I can tell ya, that stuff happens over here too. It's a human thing.
Yeaaah, I think it's most common in middle east, there it's normalized actually. The stuff I've seen when visiting my other family...
It’s very common here in a lot of Africa cultures too. Moms are hard on their daughters but soft on their sons.
Men raised that way tend to be absolute nightmares in the dating scene. They always want a version of their mother and stop at nothing to compare a woman to their mom at any given moment.
People aren’t even painting the nursery blue, pink, or any fun color anymore… it’s all BEIGE 🤮
Sad beige moms 😭💀
The destruction of classical gender identities has been an absolute disaster for society
@@local_rogue_murder_gone_rogue Very "neutral" of them 😂😂😂
So what? It’s not the end of the world. First world problems 😂
@@Kiran37369 actually having a variety of color is incredibly important for a child’s development, because without it they could end up struggling with color recognition, or become very overstimulated every time they see too much color from being used to seeing a lack of color
Every time I think about boy moms, I think about my friend from back in high school who had two older sisters and one younger brother and every time I went to her house, it was so obviously apparent to everyone there that the boy was being favored. He was a brat who would bother us, fart constantly, sometime hit us (he was too small to really hurt us, but the action was still there, he was like 10), and if he wanted the TV, he got the TV. Didn't matter my friend had friends over and was watching something, that was now off and he got to watch what he wanted to. He ran wild and his parents acted like he was an angel who could do no wrong and all blame would go onto my friend. She couldn't control him or she would get in trouble. One older sister was married and the other one in college and my friend told me how they never visited because of how uncaring their parents were of their lives. Their parents only wanted one son and ended up getting three daughters first and they didn't care about them. We often would end up staying in her bedroom as it was the only location we could be there in peace.
Ok now I'm curious. What's the son up to now?
I'm sorry I snickered at the “fart constanly,” part 😭🙏
My mom isnt a toxic boy mum, but my brother was still the biggest bully ive ever had(phisical and emotional as well). It was just glossed over with "ignore him. Avoid him". Lets just say i did not end up well
This is my exact situation rn
5:03 can confirm, have a three year old daughter, she should be confined to a maximum security prison for committing war crimes
Sorry about your daughter, parenting is hard but you got this. I've heard by age 5 they usually stop breaking the Geneva convention and just do minor theft and fraud. Xoxo
It’s the fact that they end up ruining both their daughters AND sons lives bc of their own selfishness.
What're these boy moms going on about, frozen dinners can actually be so good sometimes
Do not marry a man whose mother acts like this….I have been happily divorced now for 18 years…😊
“But that last little boy… just hits different” was _very_ weird bc it’s giving the Oedipal Complex by proxy
another 10/10 video genuinely loved how u talk abt serious topics in a gentle without mocking victims (i.e moms being weird asf to their sons)
10/10 comment :), it's a tough line to toe, glad you think I can pull it off haha
that introduction is the perfect summary of boy moms, also known as "I'm THE narcissist mother who will treat my son as my husband and absolutely crap all over my daughter".
It’s already hard enough to get along with mother in laws and now the new generation has to deal with this shit 💀💀
Exactly
So damaging for both their daughters and their sons. Their daughters are going to be subjected to neglect, while their sons are going to be subject to emotional (at least) incest. All the children of mothers like this are victims.
Not even Sigmund Freud could have predicted how bad it would get
My mom coddled my brother his whole life.
Now he isn't getting what he wants and he's punishing her play not letting her see her grandkids.
He and his wife are both selfish immature narcissists.
Their children do not like them.
Hope you give the kids the love they deserve
“She’s probably just a-freud of what they have to say” took me ALL the way out💀
Your son growing up will feel like… a human you love growing into the best version of themself, who is thankful for all the love and support you gave him, because that helped him find his own voice and his own path in life.
Fixed it.
oh god, even though my dad treated we three the same... it was the same horrible way. but anyways, i do think it would be even worse if he said to us who his favorite.
i can't imagine living with a brother being treated like a angel while we were treated like demons, it's realy bizarre.
thank you for another fun video! i always love watching your videos!
i'm sorry to hear about that :(, I hope you're in a better place now! hopefully I brought a bit of sunshine into your life haha
I can't believe I live in a world where Freud is right
Well, in this case he wasn't right - it's mom having unhealthy relationship with her son
Every time someone uses "daddy" or "mommy" in a sexual context we as humans prove Freud right
He is not right please do not validate him you know he is still looking up at us
@@kajamatousek247for some reason I can picture Freud coming back from his grave only to make one of those Jesus memes of *“They hated him because he said the truth.”* “Shut up!” and then post it online 😭
My mother in law Is a #boymom and he definitely thinks is super weird how obsessed she is about him she also photoshops smiles on his selfies she's calmed down since we moved to a different city but his parents are overbearing af
Like my husband was in our old city cleaning out our old place and i mentioned it to his mom so his dad decided to show up unannounced and unwanted
As a woman, I am terrified women like this exist, I hope these moms get some form of therapy, or their sons are taken away.
This video is a great example of why my husband and I, and his brother and his wife, live far away from their mother. She's a good woman, and I respect her, but I don't need a hidden hand constantly trying to control my marriage. My husband finally stopped listening to her and is pursuing his own goals and a career that makes him happy.
Hell, when we had our son, she was trying to dictate what sports he would be in and what school he should go to.
"Well, a boy's best friend is his mom."
Norman Bates
blown away by how well edited and structured your videos are man. keep it up 👏
my man 🤝 thanks for the love!
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that last toxic boy mom really hurts to see. ive been abused by my sister for 10 years and while shes calmed down, my mom and dad still like her better and it hurts bad
This phenomenon isn't anything new. It's just that the internet has given these kinds of people more of a spotlight.
Nice video.
Someone once said “a mother son relationship may be the only relationship with a male the mother will ever have that isn’t tinged with fear.” 😧 if they are self hating misogynists, then when their sons are born it’s the first time the mother can love someone fully. They are mostly tragic figures.
I have an older brother and my mum treats him… like her son, not as if she’s dating him
hell my mum even has a pretty great relationship with his girlfriend!
this is how to properly be a mother of your son, it’s not that difficult
My sister's ex-husband has a disturbing relationship with his mom, very much like this. I believe it's called "enmeshment". My sister saw it early on on their relationship (along with all the other red flags), and thought it was very odd and made her uncomfortable, but assumed he would grow up and mature past everything ("I can fix him"). Needless to say, nothing was ever resolved, hence the divorce.
i used to date a guy (long story...) his mom HATED me so much she was genuinely willing to charge her own son of statutory just to keep him away from me. he was 17, i was 15.
I can assure you, it’s because the mother has narcissistic tendencies and sees the girls as competition for their husband’s attention- wanting to be the most impotently woman in his life. It’s why they’re so nasty to their daughters in law and granddaughters.
The freud and nieztche jokes are great 😅 (don't know how to spell that last word)
Nietzsche. You missed the "s", but I do agree with your comment. The more people who bash on Freud, the better.
Wait whats wrong with nietzsche
"Thank you for over 700 subscribers" and a month after posting this video, he's at 14.000!!! Well deserved!
As a mom of both a boy and a girl, there is one very important difference between them…
My son is so freaking sticky all the time I don’t get it, they live in the same house and play the same activities, it’s like he oozes stick and then everything he touches clings to his skin, how is this possible 😂
its about forming healthy relationships. If the relationship was healthy, and boundaries were made, no one would give a damn. Another reason why people care about emotional incest relationships, is because it can stunt some ways of thinking and development.
for example, one mother has 2 kids. one is a boy and one is a girl. The mother is much closer with the boy, doing his laundry, making his food, and taking care of all his needs well into the son's adulthood (where the term man child comes from)
whereas the girl is neglected by her mother, told to do her own chores, take care of herself and not allowed to do many things whereas her brother would be free to do whatever he goddamn pleases. this follows into adult hood, she sees her mother caring more for her son and the daughter will think that she,
a) needs to take care of a man and baby him to form a relationship.
or
b) she thinks that's bs and she wants someone equal to her.
in many cases, these women don't follow option b, they more or less go for someone toxic and someone who expects them to take care of them like their mommy did. thus the cycles repeats, these women grow up, get married, have kids, and fill that deep well of insecurities through their son.
In conclusion, treating everyone with respect, and the ability to trust them to take care of them is something that's needed to break that cycle. Learning how to accept urself and getting the help that's needed can greatly improve how one feels about their kids, but no one is ready to make that change.
(i was replying to a comment about incest-ships but i don't think they would appreciate it so i commented it here too)
And then those women would probably be the type to say oh boys will be boys when men do stupid shit instead of holding them accountable. And then believe oh its just girls develop mentally faster than boys. As if they didn't develop due to it being their only option so they grew independence as a pre pubescent survival tactic. But any boy mom Brittany and Jessica and Susan refuse to see it.😂
Lord have mercy on these young boys ability to form normal relationships.
"If you have strong preferance for a boy or a girl"
Jokes on you, i have both
parents treat their children like trophies these days and not actual children that they are responsible for molding into adults
I can see this channel having hundreds of thousands of follows within the next year. Glad i was here before 1k even!
hopefully you're right :)
its crazy how fast he is growing
This reminds me of those awful fathers who make it a point to have a gun on display when a boy picks up his daughter to go to homecoming. I would’ve thought that attitude would’ve decreased over the years, but it seems that toxicity spread instead
I remember talk with a psych major about this and one thing they said was single moms that go toxic will see the single son as the man who left them. This means either the mom is abusive towards the son as resement or, in these cases, they raise their sons to be the husbands they wanted
Boy moms have been around a looong time in rural America. Occasionally I would feel like I wasn’t enthusiastic enough about my son (only child), but thank god I had normal healthy boundaries, and as a young adult, he still trusts me & enjoys hanging out a normal amount of time. Why create toxicity like this, it’s absolutely bananas. We’re supposed to prepare our kids for independence not give them creepy mommy issues.
These videos always make me so worried and angry...
The amount of hate and spite going towards *potential* *future* *women* in their sons' life when that boy is like 3-4 years old? As well as other parents who happen to have daughters?
Absolutely unhinged.
She thinks she'll be invited to her daughters weddings😂
"She's probably just a-Freud of what they have to say" fucking sent me
Yeah... Freud was on point there...
The only people, I really feel bad for are the neglected daughters of those "mothers".
I'd be surprised you don't have over a thousand subs!
I like ya jokes
now he does
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i like ya
your content is hilarious 😭, the humor is PEAK
Impressed, entertained and subscribed. This channel is going to be a success 💯
I love this guy
My man, what a thorough video essay on this topic. Keep growing 🙌🏻
these kinds of parents do irreperable damage to their children in their most influential years.
i’ve always been a daddy’s girl, the type where he forbade me from dating until i was about 16. he’s the type of dad to threaten my boyfriend… but he also finds my happiness important, and my safety is a top priority.
i love my dad sm
i’m glad my mom wanted a girl 😐
You are a very lucky girl!
The “slowest breakup” one made me audibly gasp “EW!” Also I dated a guy who was a product of a toxic boy mom situation. And let me tell you - that shit was so disturbing. I couldn’t ever really get past it. The emotional incest between them was so fucking creepy. I remember he would tell me certain things about their relationship legitimately framing it as “cute.” It wasn’t cute. It was bizarre and upsetting. Aaaaand he also went on to treat women like total garbage so
As someone who is 27 in the Marine Corps. My mother in front of my wife felt up my body because she wanted to feel her "baby boys muscles" we shortly left and I don't really talk with them
This kind of behavior towards their sons is genuinely disturbing. If I noticed any of these things I’d be talking to them and other family of theirs to get the mom to go to a therapist. A lot of these moms clearly have their own issues causing them to act like this and in order to let their children be happy, they have to tackle these issues themselves. Imagine the relationships they ruin for their sons just because they’re too insecure.
Great video, and congratulations on 1000 subscribers!!
no thank YOU for helping me get there!
I am besties with my MIL, so seeing these videos of mothers acting like their future DIL has to compete with them for their son’s love/attention is astounding.
my grandma is a boymom and my uncle is the youngest siblings of 4 and he is the only son she had. I telling you she is so toxic and aggressive toward my aunt and it's concerning, I'm fear for her safety once she's pregnant someday
Okay so in Asian countries I have seen this A LOT...mothers are so tough with their daughters and so baby-like with their sons,"oh he shouldn't clean or cook" or them doing any work is praised while girls are SUPPOSED to do all this so yeah boy moms are just ladies who didn't got validation from there husbands and are just finding it in their sons and what I have seen in Asian countries is that these feelings ARENT ROMANTIC they just see them as better. It is as bad for them and the mom (okay it's too long)
Unrelated but you’re by far one of the funniest commentary channels out there! I rarely laugh so much but your jokes and editing are top tier haha
My mom wasn't necessarily a "boy mom" or had that weird relationship, but she did favor my brother growing up because of our patriarchal culture. Now that we're grown up, I like to sometimes remind her of her favoritism towards my brother 😂 I also shut her down any time she tried to unfairly say something negative about my brother's girlfriend. You're not being an evil MIL today, mother 🙄 Thankfully my mom's a lot better now. Call out your parents guys if you have to.
My uncle married a daddy's girl (or at least that is my hypothesis) that made him horrible thing
When i was really young, between 4 and 8 years, she told me that she did not wanted to have a daughter, her reasons were that a boy will be more discipled on the teenage, but the girl will cause her stress when she get a boyfriend, i did not take in care that moment, i was wondering why she said that a boy will be more calmed (i tough the opposite), but no is just too weird, her dad hated my uncle every single second that he was alive, i think that she projected that feeling of hate against her hypothetical son-in-law
Subsceibed. This was amazing and hilarious. Definitely my favorite on this subject...
Hell yeah! New video and you got more subs! Keep it up man :D
I have three daughters and am a woman myself. Let me tell you how horrified my second husband and their bio dad were to discover girls are messy, violent and people.
i just found your channel and i already love your videos!! i like how you’re different than regular reaction channels and actually offer critical thought instead of just blatant hate 🙏 it’s a very mature and learnable perspective :) keep up the good work!!
The bond some women have with their sons is so weird. I have 2 kids, both sons but I don't plan on being like these Oedipus complex women 🤮
10:14 let's just say as a (pretransition) trans man, masc presenting people / men with fire takes like this is so encouraging. Anti-toxic-masculinity cis men, you do SO much for trans dudes like myself trying to get over that imposter syndrome. Freaking cool. I'm enthused to find another cool niche youtuber with encouraging points
thank you so much for the support :) i seriously don't understand people who are transphobic, like just let ppl live their lives and be who they feel like on the inside fr. I also think it's important to remember the people who are most outspoken being anti-lgbtq+ are the vocal minority, the vast majority of people are pro, but the constant negativity we see everywhere can really get into our heads, so I can for sure empathize.
with all due respect, please work on yourself before attempting to change your gender. It’s not possible.
Cutting and slicing up your body while pumping artificial hormones into it isn’t the answer for gender dysphoria. Try including healthy habits, eating right, exercising, spending time with friends. There will be hell to pay if you attempt to do this. You will never be a dude. It’s a complete break from reality to call yourself a dude when you have ovaries.
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You are aware to even do ANYTHING medically you have to go to a therapist for 1-2 years / 12 hours of therapy depending on the law AND live through your gender you identify as for about a year.
Then you have to find a doctor who is even willing to give you HRT and do a few tests to see the state of your body hormonal wise, general health and chromosomes. A lot of them also want two doctors notes before they even do anything I even heard on the very very rare occasions about three.
And get a surgery appointment can take much longer than HRT, the same thing about doctor's notes applies here. The difference is that the waiting list can be extremely long, I heard about some trans people having to wait 4 years for one surgery because the list was so long.
I can tell you my transition was extremely fast because I was lucky, I thought 3 years about it and socially transitioned as best as I could. Getting with 19 my HRT after a year of therapy and then with 21 my first surgery.
Plus you have no idea what the person wants. Maybe they just want to change their name and just need a doctor's note to make it liable. Maybe they want a low dose of HRT or just one surgery. Maybe they want everything.
It's also not a complete break from reality, changing gender or homosexuality is very common in the animal kingdom, plus if you're really worried about young people going through surgery that could change their life's forever I genuinely from my heart recommend to fight for babies who are intersex.
Babies are still forced to go through surgery because their sexual reproduction organs aren't lined up with the norm instead of deciding what they want once they're old enough.
@RayLikeSunshine yeah, they are only castrating children and putting grapists in women's prisons. Can't imagine why anyone would would have a problem with CASTRATING LITTLE KIDS.
Sick cultist.
@@RayLikeSunshine yea i just dont care like im not for it but im not against it like youre just living life like why hate yk? like i wouldnt date a trans girl but besides that i dont have any issue with it
When I had my daughter I immediately joined a mom's group. Boys and girls aren't that much different until they get quite a bit older and even then its not much, some boys can go through being aggressive. I find its more about phases. These boy moms are sick.
I just watched documentary on a mother who shot and killed her sons ex wife. They had a two year old baby and she killed her right in front of the baby. Some of these moms sort of hit that way. There sons wives and girlfriends can never be good enough.