Was thinking the same while watching. No, this is one women have to sort out by themselves, men can't teach women to take responsibility. And while the women who don't label themselves as feminist have been complicit in their silence and taking any and all of the benefits and privileges feminism had afforded them. WingmanTV is a chameleon. There is no going back, the damage is done, the 1950's white picket fence ideal is over. All women are feminist it's just a matter of degree.
Divorced her after 26 years, I did just fine, no alimony, no health insurance payments, and now she can be completely unaccountable for the rest of her empowered life, I'll never remarry and I'll never be involved in a long term relationship again.
India Wright, men are not here to fight your battles. Get out there yourself and tell your sisters where they have screwed themselves. They won't listen to men.
@David McDonald Nonsense. Things were going bad under the republican majority. Men need to think for and about themselves and quit "white knighting" for women. Sink or swim. Help and sympathize with those who accept accountability, forget the rest.
@David McDonald Feminism on the rise, more anti-male laws coming on the books, divorce laws financially devastating men. All these were happening regardless of political leanings.
I find they blame their emotions and feelings on cheating or screwing a guy over when really they are just masking how selfish and superficial they are
I have worked around and closely with many women over my business career. A consistent comment that many women made was that they did not like working with or for other women and most preferred working for a man. Many women I have known have also stated that women are crazy. These comments were made without me asking or soliciting the comment. With that being said, I offer a quote from one of my favourite movies. In the movie, “As good as it gets”, Jack Nicholson, who plays a writer in the movie, is just leaving the publisher. The young female receptionist asks Nicholson a question. Receptionist: “How do you write women so well?” Nicholson: “I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”
I've watched dozens and dozens of these kinds of videos, from Coach Red Pill and Sandman to Coach Greg Adams and Lauren Chen. To hear another woman point it out is just magic. I like you. Carry on.
@@YourWingmam she has to realize why men are waking away from her. But you know this. Women hate taking accountability. Also a woman's worst nightmare is a man becoming successful after she is no longer dating him.
I always say that the person who can afford to leave is the one in control. However, sometimes the one in control does not realize that emotionally they could not afford to have left until it is too late to return.
True, true, true!!! My ex blamed me for EVERYTHING wrong with our marriage. She completely dismissed the reality that a relationship is TWO people. And afterwards it was confirmed that she had an affair and a new lover. So she was trying to protect her Christian beliefs (and those of all of her friends who soon turned on her when they saw her lies) and her self-image by saying we had a terrible marriage. I was there the whole 35 years we were together. I know otherwise----we had a good marriage which needed a tune-up, but she was bored and wanted a new, more exciting life. And half of the money I had earned and saved, which the laws of Ohio gladly gave her in spite of her cheating. Live and learn. Thank you for your excellent insight.
My man, I laughed out so fucking hard when you mentioned "..So she was trying to protect her Christian beliefs and her self-image by saying 'we had a terrible marriage'..." hahahah. My dude, what you needed is a Muslim wife in an Islamic Marriage where that behaviour would not have been tolerated since you would be the man of the household and she would've been expected to follow your lead, unless you disobeyed God...But then again, you can only get a Muslim wife if you are a Muslim yourself so..
@@stephenkilpatrick807 why does it even matter whether or not they know what they want? It is the responsibility of the man to imprint upon her his ideas and world view.
@@EV-EV-EV Nope, not me. I'm not into controlling other people, mentally, physically or otherwise. I believe in freedom for everyone, especially me. I'm free now and always will be.
I like your approach on this topic, men need to be more realistic with reality, stop giving out free validation to women who don’t even care if they even exist.
TheGravygun this is true, yesterday I was standing in the mall, and it was a group of girls, I knew two of them from college, and one of my boys saw me, he immediately ran over because he saw the women, then he quickly whispered hey what you doing with all these women, is that one in the middle married, and he was talking about how beautiful she was, anyway after he left running to work, I stepped up to the woman, and I said yo my boy was checking you out, and she said please stop lying before I tell my friend that Your a player , and I said for real he was talking about you, then she immediately said well he ain’t man enough to asked me, so I guess he ain’t my type yo I couldn’t stop laughing🤣🤣🤣
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More and more men are going their own way, and finding their real value to themselves
I was raised by a single mother until 12 years old. I admire her for her selflessness. She raised my disabled sister herself when the doctors told her to put her in a home and forget about her. She loved me, and showed me love, appreciated me for me. She also did the most selfless thing I can think of and that was to send me to live with my father at 13 because she knew I needed discipline and a male role model. I'm astonished looking back at her wisdom, compassion, and selflessness.
I hope this is not a sugar-coated Munchausen by proxy case. Parents creating kids is a selfish act. Twisting that into selflessness is a red flag and makes it seem like emotional manipulation of kids was involved. There is no such thing as selflessness, especially with parenthood that parents view as a significant social investment. With this kind of unrealistic world view, it is going to break as soon as the person exits the sphere of manipulation. It is no coincidence that kids of broken homes tend to not function in real world and end up with utilizing drug abuse, criminality and self-elimination in record numbers. You should not praise a parent that leaves you to the other parent as soon as things get tough.
I think that women need to have massive conventions together and talk about these subjects in a way that it is helping humanity. Men don't want to waste energy and time to someone who has the "me me me" mindset.
Most women will not because they truly believe it's the patriarchy and men's fault that everything is going bad for them. The modern feminist movement has made it so women believe they are constantly the victims instead of the perpetrators.
@@peachesandcream8753 Women think they're victims when marriage, divorce and other laws are overwhelmingly in their favor. When they complain about pay discrimination of say, 12 - 15 percent less than men, they're only partially correct. Discrimination based on gender usually accounts for half the difference, and that's still wrong. The rest is due to choices women themselves make, like working part time vs full time, leaving the workforce to raise kids, etc. Many women I know stayed out of the work force long after their kids were grown and gone, leaving men to carry the full load, while she, um..... I just roll my eyes. Struggling through a journalism career years ago as the industry was crumbling, I was rejected for several jobs at big city newspapers. After one interview, the editor called me and apologized because he liked my work, but had to hire a woman instead because of the company's diversity policy. I tried not to resent that too much, and eventually left that career. Today, of course, older white men like me are the enemy, since we supposedly lived a life of privilege and enjoyed suppressing women. It's been such a fun ride.
In my past experience I’ve learned that when I’m in a long term committed relationship with a woman and I try to express things with compassion about something that’s bothering me, she takes that compassion as kindness and then equates that kindness with weakness which then gives her a way to justify her ability to ignore my comments. It makes her see me as a doormat that she can continue treating in any way she so pleases and my feelings are then conveniently disregarded and dismissed.
@Vantum Noir Absolutely incorrect: I was married to an Asian woman who never said sorry for anything. Everything was 100% my fault for the entirety of the marriage. Any of her behaviors were justifiable by her own accounting and I couldn't reason with her no matter how calmly I tried. Women are women wherever you go.
And they get angry when they reject a man and he gets upset. They say the guy just need to get over it and stop being a baby but get angry when it's the other way around
@@nordscan9043 lol. I'm sure they ALL are. lol It just sounds funny when guys say it. I've had women say the same things/ cut me off/ then try and change the subject. To try and explain it, makes it worst. This is why many men have given up on the serious relationships.
My father- a Korean War veteran- told me the only reason to get married, was to have a stable environment to raise children in. Yes, he loved my mother, and treated her well, yes, but he was greatly irritated by her irrationality. And she was a math teacher, as rational as a woman can get.
Marriage is no longer a stable option, now that Women are getting rewarded for divorcing a man. So Goodbye, marriage, hello bachelor life with hook ups, dating or maybe foster children, single parenthood..
You've got to be kidding. And what would the success of his marriage have to do with military service? Wait, a man irritated by a woman's emotions? Tell me it isn't so!
That's like sayiing "as emotional as a Vulcan can get". LOL To any douchebag that wants to point out that Vulcans are supposed to be able to be EXTREMELY emotional, before you waste your time, yes I know, but if you don't get the gist, then you don't have two IQ points to rub together.
Being active in maths does not imply rationality. I married an academic level theoretical mathematician. On her bright moments she is incredibly intelligent. Most of the time she is so mired in her feels and opinions that she can barely remember how to live.
As a tone junky, I must pay respect to your on-line name. I'm a strat guy myself. Don't judge me... I run waayyy too high gain for a hollow body. Oh.. yea. And your post is spot f'n on. Cheers!
I think modern-day feminism encourages emotional instability, an irresponsible attitude for the events in their lives, obnoxious behavior, blaming men for whatever they are unhappy with in their lives (preventing them from seeing that it's feminism that is making them miserable because they are convinced, brainwashed to beLIEve that feminism is liberating them). This creates narcism by making these women think that society is supposed to conform to their desires, no matter how unrealistic and extreme, and that it's never their fault if someone doesn't like them, approve of their behavior and when they don't get what they want.
I am a woman and cannot get along with most women. When I make the gargantuan effort to get along with women, I find them difficult and hating me. However, it is also impossible to make friends with men as they are all looking for a sex kitten. As an older attractive woman, I have learned to deal with being alone and often prefer it, because people are so disappointing.
It amazes me how you're chosen this method of helping women, by facilitating their partners - more so that you see this to the only way to really get through to them. You put yourself at an immense leadership position because of this, and don't think for a second that Men don't see it, respect it, and love you for it. Thank you.
@@christineruggerone5435 Not my parents, but my wife did and does hurt me. She was abused as a teenager and now unloads her anger on me. You can figure the rest.
Oli B I’m very sorry to hear that your wife inflicts pain on you; that’s horrible and inexcusable. I hope that somehow you can make your marriage work better in the future. However, to call women as a whole childish because of your own personal experience is not correct.
@@christineruggerone5435 I have to yet meet a reasonable woman in this world to change my mind. I was either emotionally abused or taken adventage of (as a business owner) by women to the tune of thousands of $$. I can imagine that as a woman who may not be like this you find it hard to believe, but most women I interacted with in my life were a liability in one way or another including my own sister. Sad, but true.
Love your video. Thanks. I would add, “stop apologizing for not being PC”. Political correctness is ruining this country. If you are telling the truth, if you’ve done nothing wrong, don’t apologize.
@@YourWingmam I was thinking the same thing as I was watching. You don't need to offer up an equivalent male fault when criticizing women. I cringed when you were alluding to (what I assume to be) sexual assault, at the front of the video. Programming like this seems to be so ingrained now that it's hard to break the cycle. I've never perpetrated violence upon a woman and haven't known any other men who've done it either. Nearly every women I and you know would call BS on that statement. These are not normal times we live in. Please consider directing videos like this to women specifically. Men cannot deliver this message to women. It's simply not possible.
The saddest part of this gender dividing Society. Is that neither men or women wil win. But the children will continue to suffer and the children have the most to lose in the end.
@@taunoctua245 When the "good" people refuse to have children, only bad parents will be left and there will be none left to set a good example. The state will raise children. Terrible.
Hi Anna, years ago my daughter learned of my ex wife having an affair by loging onto her Facebook account and unfortunately reading explicit sexual content. She and her brother confronted their mother and told her to leave our home. This was several months after we lost our older son and my mom. I became a single parent and welcomed the responsibility. Thankfully, my angels ony complained a few times of my lack of cooking skills. I do enjoy receiving both father and mothers day cards from them, lol. Their mother has had almost no interaction with them over the prior 10 years, and moved accross the country to live with an ex. I wanted the children to have a stable home, so i kept dating to a minimum and never brought anyone into our home. Now the children, especially my daughter is worried about me living alone. I seem to like keeping the women in the friend zone. Think i just moved on from it all. I'm in my late 50's but very active in mountain and road biking when not ripping it up on the motorcycles. Wondering if you hear this from others? Or you think i just didnt meet the right lady?
Have you heard of MGTOW? Men going their own way. Yes, plenty of guys are choosing to stay single because of bad experiences with women. If you're happy solo, no problem. But if you'd rather be in a relationship two things have to happen: 1. You've got to filter better 2. You've got to understand what women *need* not what they say they want :)
Proud of you brother. You only need a woman for one thing (save the drama dont let that enter in your house, be smart you are happy in this way) , the rest is for you and your kids.
@Itnetlolor it's not necessarily that they're dishonest. It's moreso that they're childish and, like all children, don't understand what's good for them without a good strong parent/roll model guiding them. Children think they know what's good for them and will spout all kinds of nonsense to support that ideal, only to (hopefully) later on realize how wrong they were. Also I'm not calling them childish out of disrespect or hatred. I'm saying it in terms of maturity and wisdom. So in nicer terms, think of them as athletes and men as coaches. Both need to perform at high levels to win championships.
1. You've got to filter better 2. Never take dating advice from women. 3. Remember that you are the prize and she is the one that has to bring value to the table.
I especially like the ending. It is so true! "If you reach, she wins. Just like a child who's doing something bad. If you react, they know that they're getting attention." Nothing irratates a woman more than no-one paying attention to her. It really eats their soul. Don't argue; never argue! Just shut up, ignore her, and let the magic unfold.
There are a few women out there, such as yourself, who are attempting to right this floundering ship, but in the end it gets tiring listening to how men must once again pull the load. Can we have, just once in all of human history, have the women do the heavy lifting? While your, collective, efforts are appreciated, it would be refreshing to see even one video aimed at women demanding they fix their own **** up. Perhaps if you questioned how much the silent and apathetic majority of women, actually love the men in their lives. They might realize that spouting some vague platitudes like “I love men” or “I love my husband” , means absolutely zero if you allow them to be mercilessly attacked and belittled by society without rising to their defense. All has led me to the conclusion that women don’t actually love their men as much as they say they do, fruit of the tree and all that.
You are right. True love is rate. The very lucky few of us marry our soul mates or the loves of our lives. It is debatable that those we thought were are soul mates really were. So, most of us just settle for what we can get in order to live a better life financially. Some people do love their spouses; although virtually no one believes them; not laughing so loud.
I coached little league. The boys from single moms had no skills. Physically , socially and emotionally . Boys need a father. Mom’s need to such it up and learn to be happy and stop blaming the man. Woman need to stop having outside male friendship, as a backup plan, and build a happy life with their man. Her last comment: woman are hard to work with. I remember interviewing for a job. The department head said can you work with an all female crew as they will bitch, backstab and start fights with each other. Woman have no loyalty and have no self respect for themselves and for other woman.
I grew up with a single mother, she was useless, I liked football for like a year as a child, and steadily grew away from it while growing up, this was back when mothers just won custody battles, thankfully for future generations that's not the case anymore. It wasn't that I didn't have physical or social skills, it's that the energy was sucked out of everything I was passionate about, it was like growing up with half of a human being. I think at the moment people are just too comfortable, real values aren't necessary when life is served on a golden platter, and most men and women alike are naive in embracing this comfort in the form of simpler, shallow values. 30 years ago "jersey shore" or whatever it is wouldn't have been allowed on TV, I think this lady makes some very good points about not idolising attractive women in social media, but it goes both ways, and it's staggering to see how many women choose an abusive relationship with someone attractive over a real relationship with someone who genuinely cares about them. Abuse is no joke, but it's not like women don't have good options out there, I don't bother trying to control women, it's just more attention for their leech personalities.
There are few victims just choices. You can’t make another happy or accountable those are personal choices. There is so much validation in the states it will never end.
This is my favorite video of yours by far. I am engaged to a very emotionally damaged woman with issues from her career. I love her, and we have a beautiful son together. However, I am not beta enough to submit to her emotional abuse, and she only accuses me and states all issues in the relationship are mostly from me. This video shed a HUGE LIGHT. She was a single mom when I met her. Beautiful, but in all honesty, I am more into soul beauty right now. Sex is just not enough to keep me anymore. I am trying to help her, and love her greatly, but I am unsure I can deal with this for much longer. It is too exhausting.
I'll try to keep this in mind when responding because something I have noticed when dating women is that you are always judged by your reaction. It doesn't even matter what proceeded it, if you react, they blame you for being negative and angry. It annoys the shit out of me honestly because at times there is such rude or inconsiderate behaviour followed by a complete lack of responsibility for it which is why I then get angry, as I feel as though I rightfully should be entitled to be. But - what ensures is that they simply stop speaking to you or get distant from you, which is due to you finally reacting to their behaviour - and it's all your fault. So yes I will try to more calmly talk through their issues, and if no accountability is taken perhaps I will get a little distant to show I am unimpressed...or even walk away.
Just walk away immediately bro! If a woman does ANYTHING that's not right, judge you belittle you make a sparky comment or even not show you the gratitude you think you deserve, LEAVE! IMMEDIATELY!
This is my favorite of your videos to date. Oversimplified version of my story, I stayed in a bad marriage for a long time, rewarding bad behavior to keep the peace. When I woke up and stopped rewarding bad behavior, she left. Granted, there's a lot more variables to discuss but that is exactly what happened to me, oversimplified version.
As a man raised by a single mom and with many women in the family, I appreciate you approaching this subject with objectivity. This info seems to be so hard to find in todays day and age.
With all respect, and speaking as a happily-married man who appreciates the insights on the female perspective, you seem to be putting a lot on guys who are in the process of getting burned by emotionally-unstable women here.
@Erik Burgerhagen Exceptions to the rule doesn't change the rule. The rules are dictated on the majority. If someone said that every human is Born male or female would you say that's untrue because of a few hermaphrodites . No because that would be ridiculous.
Won't compassion make them worse? I've tried compassion (avoiding triggering them) and they just talk endlessly without resolution shutting out all that I say !! I'm a man. I'm a problem-solver. I don't do random shit or reality-avoidance to optimise my present moment omfort levels !!
My favorite line from Fight Club (More or Less)..Tyler Durden speaking "We are a generation of men raised by women. Do we really need another woman in our life?"
Like your style Lady. Very few people change. Seems like you get it. It is all about mutual respect and kindness. I hope the blowback is minimal from your courageous stance. Kudos my dear.
I was married 27 years. We raised 4 children,all college grads. At 46 years old,my wife told me she didn’t want to be married anymore. The divorce took two years,almost bankrupted me. I was the sole provider,so I had to pay for her lawyer. Who by the way painted me as a overbearing tyrant who kept her out of the workforce. When I told the judge she could earn fifty thousand a year as a medical secretary, they shot me right down. The divorce was final,two days later she started a job making forty eight thousand dollars a year,and was collecting fifteen hundred fifty dollars a month in spousal support. I was too broke,and tired to go back to court,so she was bringing in over five thousand dollars a month ,and I couldn’t afford a car. Very hard to start over with no money,no car, and no respect. Thanks for listening.
Thank you for having the courage to put this video out. I can see why you were nervous. i've been on the receiving end. Morals go out the window, truth goes out the window, concern for the children does as well.
I'm a fan from today forward. I wish my wife, who has left me for someone else, would have heard your message. I tried in many ways, some good, some bad, to convey your advice to her, but she couldn't hear me. I was probably the best person to help her mature and face reality, but the last person she would have listened to was me. In all fairness, I started off our relationship not reacting to her bad behavior, but she was relentless. I can even remember the moment I lost my temper. She got this smug look of satisfaction on her face, and the rest was history. From then on, if I didn't react, she claimed that I was "checked out". She even tried to diagnose me with autism, or at least on the spectrum. A few years ago, I basically stopped reacting, and just tried to listen, but I think she was probably already going outside of our marriage. It was too late for me to salvage our marriage by then. I've been having a hard time with women for the longest time. The late 70's until now have been fraught with the kind of behavior you described from women. My answer, was always to just move on until I met my estranged wife. I was in my 30's and thought that I might as well try and make it work before I run out of time. Well. I'm almost 60-years-old now, and I'm out of time, so I'm just going to live out my days without a romantic love interest anymore. Of course, being born in, and living in, Los Angeles has made it that much more difficult. This city attracts the dysfunctional like a moth to a flame. Thank you for your words of wisdom. This video helped me feel better about myself. I've always tried to be a good man, not a beta-orbiter, but it's hard to find a woman in today's world that actually appreciates it. Good luck moving forward.
I can't believe that you put up with that for literally, years. You got what you got because you were too weak to leave her just like a battered wife deserves what she gets because she keeps going back. Yes, she was a horrible person, but you could have ended your torment AT ANY TIME.
@@AvroBellow - That's easy to say standing on the outside. I have two children with her and at the time I wanted to try for their sake. I wasn't being weak. I was trying to give my children a stable home. Maybe, in the future, you should ASK the person in question about their motives before you make Monday morning quarterback opinions. Yeah?
@@no-bozos My parents divorced when I was 5 and it devastated me but in retrospect it was the best thing for everyone involved. Your children deserved better than two parents just going through the motions. I;m not as much on the outside as you may think.
My word, I have been peer group counseling with female clients for near a decade and I really want to support you and your message. Our group focus is on awareness and accountability and I chose to discontinue facilitating the women's groups due to the level of collusion, entitlement and sheer lack of willingness to be accountable vs being a victim. Bless you for your work and energy and keep up the great work! 🙏
No doubt you’re right on all points but, there’s way to many men willing to console a wrong minded woman in hopes of winning her affections. As much as I’m bothered by what’s going on socially, (women side stepping responsibly) in my opinion that it’s a self inflicted wound of men today, that being said, holding them accountable would surely minimize the size pool to pick from. Anna I appreciate your work/help more than I can say.
Thanks, Dave! We gotta start somewhere and at least if the women get stuck with the suckers maybe they (the women) will start looking for answers. (Hopefully, they find this video and watch with an open mind!) :)
Thank you for doing this video. Even though I'm a man, and I know that I am a flawed human being, I do appreciate your courage and lean-forward approach to these issues concerning women and dating. I enjoying watching and listening to you. Me watching videos like these is a part of my self development while I'm single. Some studying ( if you will). I've subscribed to a couple of other channels as well. You've done some homework. I like that. You're also very pretty. I like the way you present yourself. May God richly bless you.
Thank you! Glad you're getting something out of my videos. And self-improvement is the best thing you can do, single or not, because you'll like yourself better and that's the most important thing! :) God bless!
Thank you for your honest analysis. When you mentioned the single mother guilt, that they feel like they are failing, the thought that came to mind for me is that their first failure is not recognizing and appreciating that the father has a role to play, too, and it isn't just her child. Her shame is borne from a selfish belief that the child is only hers and she's the only one that knows what's best for it. I don't hate women, but I do find the double-standards and lack of accountability endlessly frustrating. I have my work to do and I've been doing it. It feels like women just assume all the problems are men problems. They want a man that has done his work, but never consider they have work to do themselves.
Bless you! And thanks for the message, I see it as loving acknowledgement of how much suffering the blame game or the lack of accountability has caused to both men and women. On a side note I've already came to the same conclusions of the steps to take for better relationships...and the only straight forward solution that I found viable is to be more picky about the types of characters I involve myself with. But that's just me....I believe people in general need to seek help and grow in self awareness, self respect, overall empowerment and emotional maturity.
"If you react, she wins." that is exactly right. It took me a while to figure that out. Women love knowing they can trigger you. Men need to figure out how to control the emotions. We can do that by embracing them. Find ways to vent to other guys, and don't use women for that exercise. The better in tune you are with your emotions, the more control you have over the relationship. You'll be much more able to walk away and keep yourself centered. Do NOT let her get you off your center. Don't let her press your buttons.
When women get mad at you and yellen and scream just turned look at her and laugh laugh laugh laugh. And learn to say no. Driving me to the store no. If she doesn't wanna give you sex lay in bed in front of her and Jack the flock off.
Specifically searched to find a video like this.... little did i know what i was getting into. I hate how accurate this is, especially the closing remark. If you react, they win. I feel like confrontations never stop until i react tho. Toxic.... then if i respond to her or try to voice my side it supports her 'less than' mentality that causes this argument in the first place. I can't tell her she needs to speak to someone who is a better listener, because she 'can't communicate well' however has no problems communicating all i do wrong. Says she apologizes all the time, yet i call her out because its like she literally chokes on the words 'im sorry' and can never get it out fully. It is like trying to mold a toddler into a grown adult. Why her parents couldn't do this for her, idk.
You do have to call them out on it. I just keep asking, "what do you mean?" then sometimes I get a straight answer. It all depends on the girl. Some are easy and some are hard. A guy really has to stay on top of his game to succeed over and over again. Very hard sometimes. Just takes practice. Be centered and at peace with yourself. :)
@J V It's not as if I'm walking on egg shells. It's just a matter of approach. I know when I've reached my limit and know when to walk away. I take it as it comes then I deal with it accordingly. It's all a matter of what I want. If it's too much then I don't do it. My life. My choice.
Thank you for an insightful and great video. I'm curious however - what should women do to change their own behaviour? In this video we only got to hear what men should do to change womens behaviour, aren't we responsible for our own behaviour?
Right on target! I practice this every day when approached by scantily dressed women or offers to watch them via webcam. I quickly check them in a compassionate manner, respecting their dignity yet being firm in letting them know that this is not the way. Keep up the good work and greetings from South America 😊 Stay safe 😷
Holy crap, some coach on dating it's still all mens fault. Men have to explain (Mansplaining?) what women are doing wrong. Here is the kicker you have to be compassionate and positive when you do explain. Really it's all about conforming on the mens side with still no responsibility on the woman.
@nazsmith When we teach we naturally expect the child to learn. Maybe the problem is that we expect that. I can explain anything to a rock, still in the end the rock is still a rock, it will never learn. Is it unreasonable to expect even a child's brain will learn? What then is our response when the rock turns out to be just a rock? Is it my responsibility that the rock remains a rock? We are speaking of thinking brains, hopefully, as such I can reasonably expect some thoughts and thus learning will take place. I can take a chisel to a rock and shape it into some represented shape, say a hand, but in the end it is a rock and will not behave as the carved object. In a human with a brain if I set the hand in a fire the human will move the hand out of the flame.... a rock will sit there until it melts.
nazsmith women mature faster than men. You typically still see men act like a bunch of jackasses even into their 30’s and 40’s. Women, not so much. Picky, yes. Childish, no.
@@rissroo4325 You mean like the girly squee when they greet one another? Or shopping like teenagers? Or, or, or? Don't perpetuate the stereotype that women have forced on men. It's okay for girls to let their hair down (act youthful). But, it's bad for a man to? Really?
I've had to learn the hard way with my spouse that anger isn't ever going to work. It just shuts her down. I'll try and lead her more compassionately. Thank you for the direction
The overwhelming majority of men are Blue pill. MGTOW only account for 1 in 1000 men in the US. Stop pretending like we're the majority - we're not. This tiny sphere in RUclips is but a pond in the ocean.
Good video. Going through a divorce and this hits the nail on the head. I acknowledged my mistakes and apologized. She pretty much never did. I also tried the “she knows not what she does” approach but she was smart enough to pick up on it and said I was being condescending. Terrible stuff. Just talked to my neighbors, an older couple, and they were rooting for us of course. They mentioned how they’ve been through their fair share of troubled times and hardships but never gave up, and that’s just the thing. I do take some solace in the fact that I tried right until the very end when she told me she was done. I didn’t give up, though at times I did distance myself. We both did, and it was supposed to be so we could heal and come back to one another. I guess that changed somewhere along the line.
You did what you could, and it’s good that you can acknowledge that for yourself so you can go forward without guilt. A lot of people take out their unconscious guilt on the next potential mate.
Very valid points, hope there is change on the horizon. Tho alot of men have just walked away never to return. Fascinating channel, hope women are watching and learning.
Thank you, Indy, I agree! Please share to help get the word out. I know many women will call me a turncoat, but some might be ready for a change. I know a lot of "Boss Babes" that aren't so happy about the turn feminism has taken but are afraid to speak up because of it!
A good first step for a young woman is to stop being so image-conscious. People will think what they want of you, and you should make better use of your time than to try and convince them otherwise. As far as the accepting accountability question, I have nothing to lend to that.
Yes, and it's mostly women who perpetuate the importance of appearance by buying fashion and beauty magazines and following plastic girls on instagram. Ugh.
Sad but true. Women are still and probably will always be disadantaged by society and stubborn and outdated societal expectations. Women are supposed to agree to have sex without appearing to want or even like sex; that is one societal expectation that has always been around and seems worse than ever today. In the 60s-80s women could be sexy; not now.
Freud said: That women are natural exhibitionists. Women are never going to stop using their bodies to get whatever they want. If you got it; flaunt it; and it can work even if you don't have it. Women play the sex card. I wonder who these women are. Some could be very rich and not need jobs and make money in the Porn business?
@@jaker2187 my phone broke last year I used an old anolog phone for 3 months I can say smart phones are a complete waste of time sorry that's not the right word it's a waste of LIFE. algorithm hook you in to spend more time on it and that's how they get paid. HOOK line and sinker BAM!. Give them smart phones shit let's make them pay 100s 1000s for them and get them so freaking hooked on the bull crap. They won't even know there own child comes home from school and spends 8 9 10 11 sometimes 12 hours on the smart device lol.. the world was in isolation anyway on one level. Lol. In genral.
I recently saw a video titled “30 minutes of no man simping,” which demonstrated instant counter reactions to bad women behavior. Very instructive to us men!
Thank God my parents never coddled me when I was growing up. I was always told I would have to work to support myself since my parents had no money to leave to me. That made me independent, scrappy, and strong as a woman. I knew I was attractive; although I did not look exactly like a fashion model,. so I would never marry a rich guy; therefore, I had to work all my life to support myself. I never had kids because I never had the money to afford them. I could not ever afford a pet until I met my husband who has helped me somewhat financially. However, I still pay my own bills. Yet, women hate me for being this way.
Thank you for solving a great mystery! Rarely did the ex-wife take responsibility for what she said or did. Everything else wrong in our marriage was all my fault.
Great video. Here's what I constantly try to remind myself: "just cause you are MAD, does not mean you are RIGHT." This transcends sex haha I mean in ANY relationship AND situation AND life circumstance.
What you say at 10 minutes is a theory I have had and you confirmed it. Men have to adopt empathy in order to to guide women. Otherwise we get angry. You are by far the realest.
That was on time...I reacted without compassion and I haven't eaten in 3 days lol...but I was calling out bad behavior, so for a scapegoat she blames the kids or me....anyone but herself smh
Thank you so much for speaking to all of this. Wow. It would take so many words to describe the deep hurt and confusion you've advocated for with your message. A spark of hope in the most hollow place in my heart.
I'm speechless. I've been needing to hear this for so long. I'm not crying...wow. Subscribed, I'm going to watch and like all of your videos. Get this message to the world now!
"Relationship counselling" is geared towards blaming the man as well. There is, quite literally, no one holding women accountable, so therefore they don't take any. There is no incentive to do so.
Yep, couples counseling was all about what I was doing wrong, the ways I had to change. Any legitimate issues I raised were just dismissed by both my wife and the female counselor. I left my wife 18 months ago.
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You can't teach someone who can't hold themselves accountable.
True
Was thinking the same while watching. No, this is one women have to sort out by themselves, men can't teach women to take responsibility. And while the women who don't label themselves as feminist have been complicit in their silence and taking any and all of the benefits and privileges feminism had afforded them. WingmanTV is a chameleon. There is no going back, the damage is done, the 1950's white picket fence ideal is over. All women are feminist it's just a matter of degree.
She is a chameleon, for sure. There are so many of them. I trust them, not.
Woman already know their not held responsible and can get away with anything
I find most men unteachable . They think they know everything anyway.
Divorced her after 26 years, I did just fine, no alimony, no health insurance payments, and now she can be completely unaccountable for the rest of her empowered life, I'll never remarry and I'll never be involved in a long term relationship again.
Good for you, brother man.
You shouldn't punish all women or yourself. There are women who know how to hold themselves accountable.
How did you manage that?
India Wright, men are not here to fight your battles. Get out there yourself and tell your sisters where they have screwed themselves. They won't listen to men.
@@IndiaAniya25 where?
Protect this woman at all costs please. She’s a treasure to the world.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response 🙌
On God 🙏
All of you "protect so and so at all costs" are the most lame a.f!
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YES!
The best way to teach women responsibility is to leave them alone and start earning $$$ for yourself & avoid them.
@David McDonald Nonsense. Things were going bad under the republican majority. Men need to think for and about themselves and quit "white knighting" for women. Sink or swim. Help and sympathize with those who accept accountability, forget the rest.
@David McDonald Feminism on the rise, more anti-male laws coming on the books, divorce laws financially devastating men. All these were happening regardless of political leanings.
@David McDonald With conservatives running things since 1980. I guess they were OK with it too, huh?
@David McDonald I'm neutral on political issues but I did notice that when Republicans WERE in charge, they did little to repeal those laws.
Blake T that’s an optimistic percentage brah
Women and accountable? Best laugh I have had all day!
Exactly
No chance
@Royal Satan Seeing yourself as "royal satan", you're far from adult yourself
@@douglockwood8480 hey look a beta male
Never seen it happen................never.
I find they blame their emotions and feelings on cheating or screwing a guy over when really they are just masking how selfish and superficial they are
Soooooo true!! Brilliant observation
Nailed it!
Yep, and it's a pretty crappy mask too. You can see right through it.
SWEET YOUNG THING: "How do you write women so well?"
JACK NICHOLSON: "I think of a man...and I take away reason and accountability."
Truth! lol
What else is new?
I have worked around and closely with many women over my business career. A consistent comment that many women made was that they did not like working with or for other women and most preferred working for a man. Many women I have known have also stated that women are crazy. These comments were made without me asking or soliciting the comment. With that being said, I offer a quote from one of my favourite movies. In the movie, “As good as it gets”, Jack Nicholson, who plays a writer in the movie, is just leaving the publisher.
The young female receptionist asks Nicholson a question.
Receptionist: “How do you write women so well?” Nicholson: “I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.”
@@tomleykisfan7280 I've never known a woman who worked in an office job who wasn't angry and resentful toward her female bosses.
@@tomleykisfan7280 That's the same quote as the post you replied to.
I've watched dozens and dozens of these kinds of videos, from Coach Red Pill and Sandman to Coach Greg Adams and Lauren Chen. To hear another woman point it out is just magic. I like you. Carry on.
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@@YourWingmam she has to realize why men are waking away from her. But you know this. Women hate taking accountability. Also a woman's worst nightmare is a man becoming successful after she is no longer dating him.
I remember the days when MGTOW was a dirty word. Now there’s “dozens and dozens” of channels making hay on the huge interest in it now.
Narcissism is also a reason. Narcissists in general avoid accountability like the plague.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
My ex wife is a narcissist 11 years of her bs and I filed for divorce
This all sounds good but in my experience women are incapable of accepting responsibility for their actions.
That's what I've always said...The person who values the relationship the least, is the one whose in control.
I always say that the person who can afford to leave is the one in control. However, sometimes the one in control does not realize that emotionally they could not afford to have left until it is too late to return.
That's not a relationship
You are awesome
Truth.
The person who "is percieved to value the relationship the least.
True, true, true!!! My ex blamed me for EVERYTHING wrong with our marriage. She completely dismissed the reality that a relationship is TWO people. And afterwards it was confirmed that she had an affair and a new lover. So she was trying to protect her Christian beliefs (and those of all of her friends who soon turned on her when they saw her lies) and her self-image by saying we had a terrible marriage. I was there the whole 35 years we were together. I know otherwise----we had a good marriage which needed a tune-up, but she was bored and wanted a new, more exciting life. And half of the money I had earned and saved, which the laws of Ohio gladly gave her in spite of her cheating. Live and learn. Thank you for your excellent insight.
Mate, I don’t know how you did that and kept your head on 😮
My man, I laughed out so fucking hard when you mentioned "..So she was trying to protect her Christian beliefs and her self-image by saying 'we had a terrible marriage'..." hahahah.
My dude, what you needed is a Muslim wife in an Islamic Marriage where that behaviour would not have been tolerated since you would be the man of the household and she would've been expected to follow your lead, unless you disobeyed God...But then again, you can only get a Muslim wife if you are a Muslim yourself so..
@@EV-EV-EV no more marriages for me since it is clear that women don’t know what the hell they want.
@@stephenkilpatrick807 why does it even matter whether or not they know what they want? It is the responsibility of the man to imprint upon her his ideas and world view.
@@EV-EV-EV Nope, not me. I'm not into controlling other people, mentally, physically or otherwise. I believe in freedom for everyone, especially me. I'm free now and always will be.
This approach only works on women who have a soul.
So none
@@R.O.T.C._SEEM Yo you've met every woman?
@@BryanSalyersXD Yup
Virtuous women to be more specific.
And if you find one, could you let me know. Thanks
I like your approach on this topic, men need to be more realistic with reality, stop giving out free validation to women who don’t even care if they even exist.
Exactly! ... and thank you for the comment! :))
MacGyver most guys are not validating they're just pussies cuz they don't have the balls to stand up to them
@@TheGravygun and some women are just hopeless....I ve seen some very bad behaviours of girls ....
TheGravygun this is true, yesterday I was standing in the mall, and it was a group of girls, I knew two of them from college, and one of my boys saw me, he immediately ran over because he saw the women, then he quickly whispered hey what you doing with all these women, is that one in the middle married, and he was talking about how beautiful she was, anyway after he left running to work, I stepped up to the woman, and I said yo my boy was checking you out, and she said please stop lying before I tell my friend that Your a player , and I said for real he was talking about you, then she immediately said well he ain’t man enough to asked me, so I guess he ain’t my type yo I couldn’t stop laughing🤣🤣🤣
More and more men are going their own way, and finding their real value to themselves
I was raised by a single mother until 12 years old. I admire her for her selflessness. She raised my disabled sister herself when the doctors told her to put her in a home and forget about her. She loved me, and showed me love, appreciated me for me. She also did the most selfless thing I can think of and that was to send me to live with my father at 13 because she knew I needed discipline and a male role model. I'm astonished looking back at her wisdom, compassion, and selflessness.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Given today's single mom "policies" and average (lack of) wisdom, that's indeed rare and astounding...
I hope this is not a sugar-coated Munchausen by proxy case. Parents creating kids is a selfish act. Twisting that into selflessness is a red flag and makes it seem like emotional manipulation of kids was involved. There is no such thing as selflessness, especially with parenthood that parents view as a significant social investment. With this kind of unrealistic world view, it is going to break as soon as the person exits the sphere of manipulation. It is no coincidence that kids of broken homes tend to not function in real world and end up with utilizing drug abuse, criminality and self-elimination in record numbers. You should not praise a parent that leaves you to the other parent as soon as things get tough.
Love this story.
Too late the damages has been done.
exactly, its a damn virus that cant be contained anymore.
I think that women need to have massive conventions together and talk about these subjects in a way that it is helping humanity.
Men don't want to waste energy and time to someone who has the "me me me" mindset.
Man I agree fully 💯
Yeah, but don’t wait for women to grow up, do what you can to help your fellow man. Being a hero ain’t easy
I do appreciate your positive way of thinking.. really
Most women will not because they truly believe it's the patriarchy and men's fault that everything is going bad for them. The modern feminist movement has made it so women believe they are constantly the victims instead of the perpetrators.
@@peachesandcream8753 Women think they're victims when marriage, divorce and other laws are overwhelmingly in their favor. When they complain about pay discrimination of say, 12 - 15 percent less than men, they're only partially correct. Discrimination based on gender usually accounts for half the difference, and that's still wrong. The rest is due to choices women themselves make, like working part time vs full time, leaving the workforce to raise kids, etc. Many women I know stayed out of the work force long after their kids were grown and gone, leaving men to carry the full load, while she, um..... I just roll my eyes.
Struggling through a journalism career years ago as the industry was crumbling, I was rejected for several jobs at big city newspapers. After one interview, the editor called me and apologized because he liked my work, but had to hire a woman instead because of the company's diversity policy. I tried not to resent that too much, and eventually left that career.
Today, of course, older white men like me are the enemy, since we supposedly lived a life of privilege and enjoyed suppressing women. It's been such a fun ride.
In my past experience I’ve learned that when I’m in a long term committed relationship with a woman and I try to express things with compassion about something that’s bothering me, she takes that compassion as kindness and then equates that kindness with weakness which then gives her a way to justify her ability to ignore my comments. It makes her see me as a doormat that she can continue treating in any way she so pleases and my feelings are then conveniently disregarded and dismissed.
@Vantum Noir You may be right. But I live in America, so that kinda narrows down my options, lol.
@Vantum Noir Absolutely incorrect: I was married to an Asian woman who never said sorry for anything. Everything was 100% my fault for the entirety of the marriage. Any of her behaviors were justifiable by her own accounting and I couldn't reason with her no matter how calmly I tried.
Women are women wherever you go.
@Vantum Noir your women your problem, dont touch ours lol
@@santiagoperez2094 hey why r u guys fighting over women?
Most women are like Indian phone scammers- they act like you've insulted them when you just say that you're not interested, thank you.
True. Woman also act offended when they want to gain an advantage over you. Women use victimization as a power play.
Oh wow! Isn’t that the truth!
And they get angry when they reject a man and he gets upset. They say the guy just need to get over it and stop being a baby but get angry when it's the other way around
Because their ego got hurt.
Touche!
tell a woman what she is doing wrong? wouldnt that be mansplaining??
No. That would be emotional abuse and controlling behavior.
You wouldn’t be accepting her for who she is.
@@ContrarianExpatriate You're being sarcastic right?
@@nordscan9043 lol. I'm sure they ALL are. lol It just sounds funny when guys say it.
I've had women say the same things/ cut me off/ then try and change the
subject. To try and explain it, makes it worst. This is why many men have given up
on the serious relationships.
@@jesterarts734 Hence why men are going their own way.
My father- a Korean War veteran- told me the only reason to get married, was to have a stable environment to raise children in. Yes, he loved my mother, and treated her well, yes, but he was greatly irritated by her irrationality. And she was a math teacher, as rational as a woman can get.
Marriage is no longer a stable option, now that Women are getting rewarded for divorcing a man. So Goodbye, marriage, hello bachelor life with hook ups, dating or maybe foster children, single parenthood..
You've got to be kidding. And what would the success of his marriage have to do with military service? Wait, a man irritated by a woman's emotions? Tell me it isn't so!
@@douglockwood8480 he's referring to it to note the era in which his father was married. a time when things were more traditional.
That's like sayiing "as emotional as a Vulcan can get". LOL
To any douchebag that wants to point out that Vulcans are supposed to be able to be EXTREMELY emotional, before you waste your time, yes I know, but if you don't get the gist, then you don't have two IQ points to rub together.
Being active in maths does not imply rationality.
I married an academic level theoretical mathematician.
On her bright moments she is incredibly intelligent. Most of the time she is so mired in her feels and opinions that she can barely remember how to live.
Unfortunately, Narcissism is incurable. And lots of Women today seem to have it.
In this environment, it's incurable. If you & she woke up and there was no more government/police, it'd vanish rather quickly
Well Alex, that's really astute. You seem to have a big case of narcissism yourself
I threw my narc out last week. She made me think I was insane. Most evil creature I've ever known.
@@douglockwood8480 Good joke
@@nicklausb I would love to see that. There would be so many men telling women to stay the hell away from us.
It's because so many females are on the cluster "B" personality disorder spectrum such as being a Narcissists.
As a tone junky, I must pay respect to your on-line name. I'm a strat guy myself. Don't judge me... I run waayyy too high gain for a hollow body. Oh.. yea. And your post is spot f'n on. Cheers!
I think modern-day feminism encourages emotional instability, an irresponsible attitude for the events in their lives, obnoxious behavior, blaming men for whatever they are unhappy with in their lives (preventing them from seeing that it's feminism that is making them miserable because they are convinced, brainwashed to beLIEve that feminism is liberating them). This creates narcism by making these women think that society is supposed to conform to their desires, no matter how unrealistic and extreme, and that it's never their fault if someone doesn't like them, approve of their behavior and when they don't get what they want.
And borderline
I am a woman and cannot get along with most women. When I make the gargantuan effort to get along with women, I find them difficult and hating me. However, it is also impossible to make friends with men as they are all looking for a sex kitten. As an older attractive woman, I have learned to deal with being alone and often prefer it, because people are so disappointing.
@therainman777 She might look young bud.... She doesn't deal with other women much...
It amazes me how you're chosen this method of helping women, by facilitating their partners - more so that you see this to the only way to really get through to them. You put yourself at an immense leadership position because of this, and don't think for a second that Men don't see it, respect it, and love you for it. Thank you.
Too bad it’s not going to have any measurable impact.
I like when you say women are like children and we should treat them as such. So true!
Oli B who hurt you? Seriously? Do you need help? Was it a mean, childish, conniving woman? 😥
@@christineruggerone5435 Not my parents, but my wife did and does hurt me. She was abused as a teenager and now unloads her anger on me. You can figure the rest.
Oli B I’m very sorry to hear that your wife inflicts pain on you; that’s horrible and inexcusable. I hope that somehow you can make your marriage work better in the future. However, to call women as a whole childish because of your own personal experience is not correct.
@@christineruggerone5435 I have to yet meet a reasonable woman in this world to change my mind. I was either emotionally abused or taken adventage of (as a business owner) by women to the tune of thousands of $$. I can imagine that as a woman who may not be like this you find it hard to believe, but most women I interacted with in my life were a liability in one way or another including my own sister. Sad, but true.
Then you also can’t say they are equal and should be leaders in power positions.
Someone capable of this level of introspection has an important quality for social leadership
BETA!!!!
@@supportteam6808 ??
This is one of the best synopses I've seen. Thanks.
0:35 "IF any women are watching this" yeah why would women want to take accountability it suits them just fine to blame everything on men.
Love your video. Thanks. I would add, “stop apologizing for not being PC”. Political correctness is ruining this country. If you are telling the truth, if you’ve done nothing wrong, don’t apologize.
Agreed! And thanks! :))
@@YourWingmam I was thinking the same thing as I was watching. You don't need to offer up an equivalent male fault when criticizing women. I cringed when you were alluding to (what I assume to be) sexual assault, at the front of the video. Programming like this seems to be so ingrained now that it's hard to break the cycle. I've never perpetrated violence upon a woman and haven't known any other men who've done it either. Nearly every women I and you know would call BS on that statement. These are not normal times we live in. Please consider directing videos like this to women specifically. Men cannot deliver this message to women. It's simply not possible.
It's been ruining Canada since the early 2000's.... Too little too late?
I like your comment but my ex has that same attitude and she's stuck in a feminist mind set. She doesn't even recognize that either.
Women who falsely accused men of abusing them need to be punished severely like men to which won't happen anytime soon.
The saddest part of this gender dividing Society. Is that neither men or women wil win. But the children will continue to suffer and the children have the most to lose in the end.
Truth! :(
@@YourWingmam My wife and I didn't have children, on purpose. The Societal ugly outweighs the beauty.
@@donjonbovi3840 lol R u talking to me ?! I got no children for that reason alone. 🤣
@@taunoctua245 When the "good" people refuse to have children, only bad parents will be left and there will be none left to set a good example. The state will raise children. Terrible.
@@donjonbovi3840 So lets all just go extinct then, right?
Hi Anna, years ago my daughter learned of my ex wife having an affair by loging onto her Facebook account and unfortunately reading explicit sexual content. She and her brother confronted their mother and told her to leave our home. This was several months after we lost our older son and my mom. I became a single parent and welcomed the responsibility. Thankfully, my angels ony complained a few times of my lack of cooking skills. I do enjoy receiving both father and mothers day cards from them, lol. Their mother has had almost no interaction with them over the prior 10 years, and moved accross the country to live with an ex. I wanted the children to have a stable home, so i kept dating to a minimum and never brought anyone into our home. Now the children, especially my daughter is worried about me living alone. I seem to like keeping the women in the friend zone. Think i just moved on from it all. I'm in my late 50's but very active in mountain and road biking when not ripping it up on the motorcycles. Wondering if you hear this from others? Or you think i just didnt meet the right lady?
Have you heard of MGTOW? Men going their own way. Yes, plenty of guys are choosing to stay single because of bad experiences with women.
If you're happy solo, no problem. But if you'd rather be in a relationship two things have to happen:
1. You've got to filter better
2. You've got to understand what women *need* not what they say they want
:)
Beautiful story man.
Proud of you brother.
You only need a woman for one thing (save the drama dont let that enter in your house, be smart you are happy in this way) , the rest is for you and your kids.
@Itnetlolor it's not necessarily that they're dishonest. It's moreso that they're childish and, like all children, don't understand what's good for them without a good strong parent/roll model guiding them. Children think they know what's good for them and will spout all kinds of nonsense to support that ideal, only to (hopefully) later on realize how wrong they were.
Also I'm not calling them childish out of disrespect or hatred. I'm saying it in terms of maturity and wisdom. So in nicer terms, think of them as athletes and men as coaches. Both need to perform at high levels to win championships.
1. You've got to filter better
2. Never take dating advice from women.
3. Remember that you are the prize and she is the one that has to bring value to the table.
I walked away. It was one of the most painful things I’ve ever done. But it was the right thing to do.
I did the same she could never except blame no matter what it was my fault!!!!
Jackie: How do you write women so well?
Melvin Udall: I think of a man. And I take away reason and accountability
-As Good as it Gets
I'm sure you are quoting it accurately, but my memory says, "I think, what would a man do, and I have her do the opposite."
I especially like the ending. It is so true!
"If you reach, she wins. Just like a child who's doing something bad. If you react, they know that they're getting attention."
Nothing irratates a woman more than no-one paying attention to her. It really eats their soul. Don't argue; never argue! Just shut up, ignore her, and let the magic unfold.
TRUTH!!!
Wish this lady could talk to all women and put them in their place
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There are a few women out there, such as yourself, who are attempting to right this floundering ship, but in the end it gets tiring listening to how men must once again pull the load. Can we have, just once in all of human history, have the women do the heavy lifting? While your, collective, efforts are appreciated, it would be refreshing to see even one video aimed at women demanding they fix their own **** up.
Perhaps if you questioned how much the silent and apathetic majority of women, actually love the men in their lives. They might realize that spouting some vague platitudes like “I love men” or “I love my husband” , means absolutely zero if you allow them to be mercilessly attacked and belittled by society without rising to their defense.
All has led me to the conclusion that women don’t actually love their men as much as they say they do, fruit of the tree and all that.
You are right. True love is rate. The very lucky few of us marry our soul mates or the loves of our lives. It is debatable that those we thought were are soul mates really were. So, most of us just settle for what we can get in order to live a better life financially. Some people do love their spouses; although virtually no one believes them; not laughing so loud.
This is why I haven't had a girlfriend in well all my life..
therainman777 yea, he’s prolly not 6”5 black and 9 inches, not good enough for daddies little princess.
False
I coached little league. The boys from single moms had no skills. Physically , socially and emotionally . Boys need a father. Mom’s need to such it up and learn to be happy and stop blaming the man.
Woman need to stop having outside male friendship, as a backup plan, and build a happy life with their man.
Her last comment: woman are hard to work with. I remember interviewing for a job. The department head said can you work with an all female crew as they will bitch, backstab and start fights with each other. Woman have no loyalty and have no self respect for themselves and for other woman.
Well Freddie, this makes no fucking sense. But you are definitely from Bedrock.
I grew up with a single mother, she was useless, I liked football for like a year as a child, and steadily grew away from it while growing up, this was back when mothers just won custody battles, thankfully for future generations that's not the case anymore. It wasn't that I didn't have physical or social skills, it's that the energy was sucked out of everything I was passionate about, it was like growing up with half of a human being.
I think at the moment people are just too comfortable, real values aren't necessary when life is served on a golden platter, and most men and women alike are naive in embracing this comfort in the form of simpler, shallow values. 30 years ago "jersey shore" or whatever it is wouldn't have been allowed on TV, I think this lady makes some very good points about not idolising attractive women in social media, but it goes both ways, and it's staggering to see how many women choose an abusive relationship with someone attractive over a real relationship with someone who genuinely cares about them. Abuse is no joke, but it's not like women don't have good options out there, I don't bother trying to control women, it's just more attention for their leech personalities.
8f the department head asked me that it would have been a solid NO from me man!
There are few victims just choices. You can’t make another happy or accountable those are personal choices. There is so much validation in the states it will never end.
You didn't talk about changing the laws. As long as the laws allows it the accountability will not be there..
@nazsmith it will at the eleventh hour, if they notice. Because the laws will now be hurting them by exclusion.
Move to California a Community Property state. What is mine and yours. It could be worse there depending on your situation. Cali is Crazy.
Hey now there's an idiotic comment. Let's see: we'll make a law that requires people to be accountable. What could possibly go wrong with that?
This is my favorite video of yours by far. I am engaged to a very emotionally damaged woman with issues from her career. I love her, and we have a beautiful son together. However, I am not beta enough to submit to her emotional abuse, and she only accuses me and states all issues in the relationship are mostly from me. This video shed a HUGE LIGHT. She was a single mom when I met her. Beautiful, but in all honesty, I am more into soul beauty right now. Sex is just not enough to keep me anymore. I am trying to help her, and love her greatly, but I am unsure I can deal with this for much longer. It is too exhausting.
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
@@YourWingmam Thank you. That means the world to me.
"If you react, then she's wins, because just like a child, she knows that she's getting attention."
Observational, insightful, Gold!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I'll try to keep this in mind when responding because something I have noticed when dating women is that you are always judged by your reaction. It doesn't even matter what proceeded it, if you react, they blame you for being negative and angry. It annoys the shit out of me honestly because at times there is such rude or inconsiderate behaviour followed by a complete lack of responsibility for it which is why I then get angry, as I feel as though I rightfully should be entitled to be. But - what ensures is that they simply stop speaking to you or get distant from you, which is due to you finally reacting to their behaviour - and it's all your fault.
So yes I will try to more calmly talk through their issues, and if no accountability is taken perhaps I will get a little distant to show I am unimpressed...or even walk away.
And if you stay calm and rational she still flips out and cries to the world how you’re a narcissist that did nothing but gaslight her!
I wonder if you’re dating just nines and tens?
Just walk away immediately bro!
If a woman does ANYTHING that's not right, judge you belittle you make a sparky comment or even not show you the gratitude you think you deserve, LEAVE!
IMMEDIATELY!
@@Pimp-Master You should see how some 1s and 2s are behaving man.
Shit is ridiculous!
Well said dude. Nailed it.
I am in LOVE !!!!!!!! (where have YOU been all my life !! ) who EVER wakes up next to you is one lucky SOB !!
This is my favorite of your videos to date. Oversimplified version of my story, I stayed in a bad marriage for a long time, rewarding bad behavior to keep the peace. When I woke up and stopped rewarding bad behavior, she left. Granted, there's a lot more variables to discuss but that is exactly what happened to me, oversimplified version.
As a man raised by a single mom and with many women in the family, I appreciate you approaching this subject with objectivity. This info seems to be so hard to find in todays day and age.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Damn, I needed this a few hours ago. Thank you, I am now more prepared.
Glad I could help 🙏
With all respect, and speaking as a happily-married man who appreciates the insights on the female perspective, you seem to be putting a lot on guys who are in the process of getting burned by emotionally-unstable women here.
stop picking emotionally unstable women!!!
@@nowaynowau But to do that, I'd have to be gay. ;)
@@ReturnofBenjamin nice try, but trust me good women exist. Yall just discard them for women y'all can keep without improving yourselves
@@nowaynowau You DID see the wink there and read the part where I called myself "happily married," right?
@@ReturnofBenjamin I wasn't speaking about YOU only. Im talking about men in general....
"It'll only happen if all men will educate women in a compassionate way." So we're doomed then?
Has nothing to do how they were raised. It's just in their nature to not take responsibility.
@Erik Burgerhagen Exceptions to the rule doesn't change the rule. The rules are dictated on the majority. If someone said that every human is Born male or female would you say that's untrue because of a few hermaphrodites . No because that would be ridiculous.
Won't compassion make them worse? I've tried compassion (avoiding triggering them) and they just talk endlessly without resolution shutting out all that I say !!
I'm a man. I'm a problem-solver. I don't do random shit or reality-avoidance to optimise my present moment omfort levels !!
So once again, it’s on the man. We have to teach grown women how to take responsibility?
The most devastating thing about my divorce is how all the blame was placed on me.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Bless you for your honesty!!!
Thank you for watching and commenting! :-)
My favorite line from Fight Club (More or Less)..Tyler Durden speaking "We are a generation of men raised by women. Do we really need another woman in our life?"
Yes we do. Under us or in front of us, at least.
@@NewStarConstellation You're the problem. Real men may want women, but they don't NEED women. Massive difference.
@@frontdeskstaff9359 I meant for sex...
@@NewStarConstellation 🤣
Thank you for being so honest, my wife desperately needs to hear and understand this. She needs a coach like you.
Like your style Lady. Very few people change. Seems like you get it. It is all about mutual respect and kindness. I hope the blowback is minimal from your courageous stance. Kudos my dear.
Thanks so much, David! :))
I was married 27 years. We raised 4 children,all college grads. At 46 years old,my wife told me she didn’t want to be married anymore. The divorce took two years,almost bankrupted me. I was the sole provider,so I had to pay for her lawyer. Who by the way painted me as a overbearing tyrant who kept her out of the workforce. When I told the judge she could earn fifty thousand a year as a medical secretary, they shot me right down. The divorce was final,two days later she started a job making forty eight thousand dollars a year,and was collecting fifteen hundred fifty dollars a month in spousal support. I was too broke,and tired to go back to court,so she was bringing in over five thousand dollars a month ,and I couldn’t afford a car. Very hard to start over with no money,no car, and no respect. Thanks for listening.
joedeliman you are a survivor thanks for sharing your story
@@CameronNelson-or1ii you don't even know the full story, no one just randomly tells you they don't want to be married anymore, he's hiding something.
Thank you for having the courage to put this video out. I can see why you were nervous. i've been on the receiving end. Morals go out the window, truth goes out the window, concern for the children does as well.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Very well said nice to hear you and others out on this
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I'm a fan from today forward.
I wish my wife, who has left me for someone else, would have heard your message. I tried in many ways, some good, some bad, to convey your advice to her, but she couldn't hear me. I was probably the best person to help her mature and face reality, but the last person she would have listened to was me.
In all fairness, I started off our relationship not reacting to her bad behavior, but she was relentless. I can even remember the moment I lost my temper. She got this smug look of satisfaction on her face, and the rest was history. From then on, if I didn't react, she claimed that I was "checked out". She even tried to diagnose me with autism, or at least on the spectrum.
A few years ago, I basically stopped reacting, and just tried to listen, but I think she was probably already going outside of our marriage. It was too late for me to salvage our marriage by then.
I've been having a hard time with women for the longest time. The late 70's until now have been fraught with the kind of behavior you described from women. My answer, was always to just move on until I met my estranged wife. I was in my 30's and thought that I might as well try and make it work before I run out of time. Well. I'm almost 60-years-old now, and I'm out of time, so I'm just going to live out my days without a romantic love interest anymore.
Of course, being born in, and living in, Los Angeles has made it that much more difficult. This city attracts the dysfunctional like a moth to a flame.
Thank you for your words of wisdom. This video helped me feel better about myself. I've always tried to be a good man, not a beta-orbiter, but it's hard to find a woman in today's world that actually appreciates it. Good luck moving forward.
I can't believe that you put up with that for literally, years. You got what you got because you were too weak to leave her just like a battered wife deserves what she gets because she keeps going back.
Yes, she was a horrible person, but you could have ended your torment AT ANY TIME.
@@AvroBellow - That's easy to say standing on the outside. I have two children with her and at the time I wanted to try for their sake.
I wasn't being weak. I was trying to give my children a stable home.
Maybe, in the future, you should ASK the person in question about their motives before you make Monday morning quarterback opinions. Yeah?
@@no-bozos My parents divorced when I was 5 and it devastated me but in retrospect it was the best thing for everyone involved. Your children deserved better than two parents just going through the motions. I;m not as much on the outside as you may think.
My word, I have been peer group counseling with female clients for near a decade and I really want to support you and your message. Our group focus is on awareness and accountability and I chose to discontinue facilitating the women's groups due to the level of collusion, entitlement and sheer lack of willingness to be accountable vs being a victim. Bless you for your work and energy and keep up the great work! 🙏
No doubt you’re right on all points but, there’s way to many men willing to console a wrong minded woman in hopes of winning her affections.
As much as I’m bothered by what’s going on socially, (women side stepping responsibly) in my opinion that it’s a self inflicted wound of men today, that being said, holding them accountable would surely minimize the size pool to pick from.
Anna I appreciate your work/help more than I can say.
Thanks, Dave! We gotta start somewhere and at least if the women get stuck with the suckers maybe they (the women) will start looking for answers. (Hopefully, they find this video and watch with an open mind!) :)
WingmamTV ❤️
Thank you for doing this video. Even though I'm a man, and I know that I am a flawed human being, I do appreciate your courage and lean-forward approach to these issues concerning women and dating. I enjoying watching and listening to you. Me watching videos like these is a part of my self development while I'm single. Some studying ( if you will). I've subscribed to a couple of other channels as well. You've done some homework. I like that. You're also very pretty. I like the way you present yourself. May God richly bless you.
Thank you! Glad you're getting something out of my videos. And self-improvement is the best thing you can do, single or not, because you'll like yourself better and that's the most important thing! :) God bless!
"not TO HER but FOR HER" at 10:45.... A whole new appreciation for Anna and this channel. Bravo.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thank you for your honest analysis. When you mentioned the single mother guilt, that they feel like they are failing, the thought that came to mind for me is that their first failure is not recognizing and appreciating that the father has a role to play, too, and it isn't just her child. Her shame is borne from a selfish belief that the child is only hers and she's the only one that knows what's best for it. I don't hate women, but I do find the double-standards and lack of accountability endlessly frustrating. I have my work to do and I've been doing it. It feels like women just assume all the problems are men problems. They want a man that has done his work, but never consider they have work to do themselves.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I agree
I'm glad to have discovered your channel. God bless you.
Thank you for watching and welcome! :))
It's a rare woman who will take accountability for her actions without blaming someone,Those are the keepers.
Most definitely!
Bless you! And thanks for the message, I see it as loving acknowledgement of how much suffering the blame game or the lack of accountability has caused to both men and women.
On a side note I've already came to the same conclusions of the steps to take for better relationships...and the only straight forward solution that I found viable is to be more picky about the types of characters I involve myself with.
But that's just me....I believe people in general need to seek help and grow in self awareness, self respect, overall empowerment and emotional maturity.
This video is a masterpiece.
Thank you!! :-) Please share :-)
@@YourWingmam ..... You're welcome, I sure will.
You really hit the nail with the hammer. You admit the truth. I wish there was more women like you.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
"If you react, she wins." that is exactly right. It took me a while to figure that out. Women love knowing they can trigger you. Men need to figure out how to control the emotions. We can do that by embracing them. Find ways to vent to other guys, and don't use women for that exercise. The better in tune you are with your emotions, the more control you have over the relationship. You'll be much more able to walk away and keep yourself centered. Do NOT let her get you off your center. Don't let her press your buttons.
When women get mad at you and yellen and scream just turned look at her and laugh laugh laugh laugh. And learn to say no. Driving me to the store no. If she doesn't wanna give you sex lay in bed in front of her and Jack the flock off.
I'll make sure to pass this info to my daughter. As for a grown woman, that ship has sailed.
Specifically searched to find a video like this.... little did i know what i was getting into. I hate how accurate this is, especially the closing remark. If you react, they win. I feel like confrontations never stop until i react tho. Toxic.... then if i respond to her or try to voice my side it supports her 'less than' mentality that causes this argument in the first place. I can't tell her she needs to speak to someone who is a better listener, because she 'can't communicate well' however has no problems communicating all i do wrong. Says she apologizes all the time, yet i call her out because its like she literally chokes on the words 'im sorry' and can never get it out fully. It is like trying to mold a toddler into a grown adult. Why her parents couldn't do this for her, idk.
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You do have to call them out on it. I just keep asking, "what do you mean?" then sometimes I get a straight answer. It all depends on the girl. Some are easy and some are hard. A guy really has to stay on top of his game to succeed over and over again. Very hard sometimes. Just takes practice. Be centered and at peace with yourself. :)
Yes, and don't take it personally. It really ain't about you. Try to look at it from arm's length to get perspective. :)
@J V It's not as if I'm walking on egg shells. It's just a matter of approach. I know when I've reached my limit and know when to walk away. I take it as it comes then I deal with it accordingly. It's all a matter of what I want. If it's too much then I don't do it. My life. My choice.
Thank you for an insightful and great video. I'm curious however - what should women do to change their own behaviour? In this video we only got to hear what men should do to change womens behaviour, aren't we responsible for our own behaviour?
Yes. I was wondering the same thing. Tips for women would be very useful.
Right on target! I practice this every day when approached by scantily dressed women or offers to watch them via webcam. I quickly check them in a compassionate manner, respecting their dignity yet being firm in letting them know that this is not the way.
Keep up the good work and greetings from South America 😊
Stay safe 😷
Holy crap, some coach on dating it's still all mens fault. Men have to explain (Mansplaining?) what women are doing wrong. Here is the kicker you have to be compassionate and positive when you do explain. Really it's all about conforming on the mens side with still no responsibility on the woman.
@nazsmith When we teach we naturally expect the child to learn. Maybe the problem is that we expect that. I can explain anything to a rock, still in the end the rock is still a rock, it will never learn. Is it unreasonable to expect even a child's brain will learn? What then is our response when the rock turns out to be just a rock? Is it my responsibility that the rock remains a rock? We are speaking of thinking brains, hopefully, as such I can reasonably expect some thoughts and thus learning will take place. I can take a chisel to a rock and shape it into some represented shape, say a hand, but in the end it is a rock and will not behave as the carved object. In a human with a brain if I set the hand in a fire the human will move the hand out of the flame.... a rock will sit there until it melts.
@@MrBDB001 Very, VERY WELL Visualisation Mr. BDB
I will save this on my internal personal mass storage 🔝👍
Thx a Lot Bro !
Sad but true. It is the Culture of Victimology that women use all of the time to oppress their "oppressors."
nazsmith women mature faster than men. You typically still see men act like a bunch of jackasses even into their 30’s and 40’s. Women, not so much. Picky, yes. Childish, no.
@@rissroo4325 You mean like the girly squee when they greet one another? Or shopping like teenagers? Or, or, or? Don't perpetuate the stereotype that women have forced on men. It's okay for girls to let their hair down (act youthful). But, it's bad for a man to? Really?
You're very attractive. You're laying out the hard truth. Good for you!
Yup she's the best I've encountered on you tube
I've had to learn the hard way with my spouse that anger isn't ever going to work. It just shuts her down. I'll try and lead her more compassionately. Thank you for the direction
Glad I could help 🙏
way too late, the damage is done. farewell women, bye, migtow is here to stay
The overwhelming majority of men are Blue pill. MGTOW only account for 1 in 1000 men in the US. Stop pretending like we're the majority - we're not. This tiny sphere in RUclips is but a pond in the ocean.
That's what a lot of women have become as well.
Nahhh
well, if that's what you need to get through the day, then my advice is buy is in Canada
Honklerton well before these new buzz words.. it was called common sense .. a lot of guys arent going to be victims... its a mans world for a reason.
I love this woman! Keep it up, glad to see a lady who gets it.
Good video. Going through a divorce and this hits the nail on the head. I acknowledged my mistakes and apologized. She pretty much never did.
I also tried the “she knows not what she does” approach but she was smart enough to pick up on it and said I was being condescending. Terrible stuff.
Just talked to my neighbors, an older couple, and they were rooting for us of course. They mentioned how they’ve been through their fair share of troubled times and hardships but never gave up, and that’s just the thing. I do take some solace in the fact that I tried right until the very end when she told me she was done. I didn’t give up, though at times I did distance myself. We both did, and it was supposed to be so we could heal and come back to one another. I guess that changed somewhere along the line.
You did what you could, and it’s good that you can acknowledge that for yourself so you can go forward without guilt. A lot of people take out their unconscious guilt on the next potential mate.
I am amazed you’re really saying this. Watch out they will come for you. BTW I agree with you. It’s been needed for a long time.♥️
Very valid points, hope there is change on the horizon. Tho alot of men have just walked away never to return. Fascinating channel, hope women are watching and learning.
Thank you, Indy, I agree! Please share to help get the word out. I know many women will call me a turncoat, but some might be ready for a change. I know a lot of "Boss Babes" that aren't so happy about the turn feminism has taken but are afraid to speak up because of it!
Awesome. No sugarcoating, no bullshit. This is the real take.
A good first step for a young woman is to stop being so image-conscious. People will think what they want of you, and you should make better use of your time than to try and convince them otherwise. As far as the accepting accountability question, I have nothing to lend to that.
Yes, and it's mostly women who perpetuate the importance of appearance by buying fashion and beauty magazines and following plastic girls on instagram. Ugh.
I confess,i'm hooked,love your contributions and your perspective and the profoundness of the issues you discuss in your videos!
You are a rockstar with all this information. All your videos are invaluable to men so thank you for all you do!
I appreciate that ❤️
Expecting a woman to accept accountability is like expecting a pig to fly. It's not in their nature.
Sad but true. Women are still and probably will always be disadantaged by society and stubborn and outdated societal expectations. Women are supposed to agree to have sex without appearing to want or even like sex; that is one societal expectation that has always been around and seems worse than ever today. In the 60s-80s women could be sexy; not now.
If a woman uses sex to get something that is more acceptable then just being sexy for which feminists will demonize and shun those type of women.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
It is in their nature,it's just that men have spoiled them with "rewarding" them with bad behavior.
IT's not really true, this is just the case in modern western society because society wants it to be like this. It's good for business.
STOP REWARDING INSTASLOTS, GUYS, IT'S TIME TO UNFOLLOW 'PEOPLE', NOW, FOR REAL, SWITCH TO YOUR VIRTUAL NETWORKS AND START UNFOLLOWING, BE MEN.
Havnt even got fb or insta waste of life.
Freud said: That women are natural exhibitionists. Women are never going to stop using their bodies to get whatever they want. If you got it; flaunt it; and it can work even if you don't have it. Women play the sex card. I wonder who these women are. Some could be very rich and not need jobs and make money in the Porn business?
I just did this. It feels like the right thing to do
@@jaker2187 my phone broke last year I used an old anolog phone for 3 months I can say smart phones are a complete waste of time sorry that's not the right word it's a waste of LIFE. algorithm hook you in to spend more time on it and that's how they get paid. HOOK line and sinker BAM!.
Give them smart phones shit let's make them pay 100s 1000s for them and get them so freaking hooked on the bull crap. They won't even know there own child comes home from school and spends 8 9 10 11 sometimes 12 hours on the smart device lol.. the world was in isolation anyway on one level. Lol. In genral.
I recently saw a video titled “30 minutes of no man simping,” which demonstrated instant counter reactions to bad women behavior. Very instructive to us men!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Years of coddling has turned them into horrible people that's why.
"Maybe she wasn't pretty as a teen, and she had to grow a wonderful personality as a coping mechanism." from Shallow Hal
Thank God my parents never coddled me when I was growing up. I was always told I would have to work to support myself since my parents had no money to leave to me. That made me independent, scrappy, and strong as a woman. I knew I was attractive; although I did not look exactly like a fashion model,. so I would never marry a rich guy; therefore, I had to work all my life to support myself. I never had kids because I never had the money to afford them. I could not ever afford a pet until I met my husband who has helped me somewhat financially. However, I still pay my own bills. Yet, women hate me for being this way.
Well screw the haters and keep doing you. Your husband found a gem.
My god, where have you been all my life! Everything you say is spot on
🙏😊
You have got to be kidding.
Finally, a female creator besides Chloe Roma calling women out for taking zero responsibility.
*_R E S P E C T_* ✊🏼
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Thank you for solving a great mystery! Rarely did the ex-wife take responsibility for what she said or did. Everything else wrong in our marriage was all my fault.
Great video. Here's what I constantly try to remind myself: "just cause you are MAD, does not mean you are RIGHT." This transcends sex haha I mean in ANY relationship AND situation AND life circumstance.
What you say at 10 minutes is a theory I have had and you confirmed it. Men have to adopt empathy in order to to guide women. Otherwise we get angry. You are by far the realest.
That was on time...I reacted without compassion and I haven't eaten in 3 days lol...but I was calling out bad behavior, so for a scapegoat she blames the kids or me....anyone but herself smh
Wow, she's wonderful! Good, decent, smart women (like this lady) are life's greatest treasure.
(The bad ones are God's worst curse, too.)
BS. A curse is a pestilence, like 1000 years of bubonic plague or mosquitoes carrying disease. Grow up dude.
Thank you so much for speaking to all of this. Wow.
It would take so many words to describe the deep hurt and confusion you've advocated for with your message. A spark of hope in the most hollow place in my heart.
I'm speechless. I've been needing to hear this for so long. I'm not crying...wow.
Subscribed, I'm going to watch and like all of your videos. Get this message to the world now!
"Relationship counselling" is geared towards blaming the man as well. There is, quite literally, no one holding women accountable, so therefore they don't take any. There is no incentive to do so.
Yep, couples counseling was all about what I was doing wrong, the ways I had to change. Any legitimate issues I raised were just dismissed by both my wife and the female counselor. I left my wife 18 months ago.
I delt with that last year, I went on 2 dates and she was mi6home and she talked to a therapist and I have not seen here sens