IM DYING OF LAUGHTER! I like how the conversations goes from marriage to introducing what the chef has prepared over and over again. The transitions crack me UP
Such a fun video! It was indeed a very good conversion about dating SG girls! Maybe the next time you can do what SG girls think about dating Japanese men! About giving money to parents it's more towards like paying back what they have done for us and also they are old and not earning anymore. So it's a form of respect and thanking for their hard work in taking care of us. We do that in Malaysia too. I wanna visit Chikuyotei soon! Food looks super delicious! 😋
Am an sg girl and can't help but agree to most of the points; straightforward (and abit nit-picky), family oriented, like to do things together as couple. However, think the point about showing on social media might be more of Gen Z, mainly is want to announce the relationship (same with bringing bf/gf to family gatherings). The giving of allowance to parents when we start working is a gesture to show filial piety especially since we had lived off our parents for 10-20 years of our lives or have paid for school fees etc. Some parents are quite kind and save this money and give back to their children when they need money for house or having kids etc. (Sadly) On the other hand, there are also parents who treat children as investments that will provide for them when they are old.
Most Asians do not treat their children as investment. They only ask their kids to provide for them when they are old because they feel vulnerable and lonely. Providing and looking after your elderly parents is an honorable and moral thing to do. It is being grateful for their love and care all these years, then showing them your love and appreciation. Expecting them to be independent and fend for themselves are what some Westerners think (less so for South Western Europeans) which most Gen Z are heavily influenced by now. You don't understand it now but maybe you will when you get to their age i.e. when you are old, jobless, vulnerable and sickly. As a person age, one usually desire to connect more with their indigenous culture and values, thus have a greater understanding of why those values come about. Young people however, are more influenced by the current dominant foreign culture because they tend to seek out new and different things which they find more interesting and exciting.
This video really made me laugh! Must admit that there is truth in what was commented. There is usually a 'boss' in the family dynamics. Show of appreciation and humility to apologise helps in relationships. Token to parents is a gesture of filial piety as they age. Any amount that family is comfortable with.
Not bad is a compliment because it comes from the way Hokkien people compliment someone else's abilities or work which is "Boey pai leh!" The intonation accentuates the degree of appreciation.
Funny video 😂 Kimono Mom is coming to Singapore this May and they're looking for someone to help with their tour. I'll be absolutely delighted if there's a collaboration video seeing Kimono Mom and her family enjoying Singapore food and culture ❤
@@RonLarhz whats wrong with being a good wife? can you stop being judgmental to what others want to do, so uninclusive and unaccepting to lifestyle choices of others
this two guys are so hilarious, really funny, made me laugh so much. really cute . their english is really so sporean. hahaha, i really enjoy this show.
Ghib, this is damn funny! Pls film a follow up version with your wife (and other SG girls) to talk about reality of dating or marrying a Japanese guy. Then only fair mah!
Hahaha, I laughed out loud when you said 'fruitful conversation' at the end while eating fruit. How apt. I think my Japanese husband would agree to most of what you guys mentioned. But we've managed to adapt and balance things out over time so he has his own space and time, while I have mine and we also have family time together. And no la, I don't treat him as a 'dog' and he would never allow me to also.
Generally, Singaporean Girls work and so it become a must for couple to share household chores. And I think Some Singapore guys may just enjoy cooking. And because Singapore is a multi racial , multi-religion and multi cultural country. We mix around so much and have to ask questions about other culture/religion which I think is part of why Singaporean couples are more straight forward. Whereas ppl from a single cultural background, only know of one culture, traditions and rules.
We always give our parents every month. 😊 it’s a good Asean gesture because we also living under their house. Singapore is not a cheap place to stay. Most of the married/unmarried adults here still live with their parents. We did it also because we want to help lessen the burden of our parents by helping to pay for the house bills and groceries once we received our salaries.
a lot of the times our parents also fund our education and living expenses until we have stepped out to society to work, so I think giving parents money every month is also to show our own gratitude to the parents. This is especially important since Chinese families value filial piety. Also, my parents gave up a lot to ensure we children have a good life without worries, and they don't earn much to begin, so giving them some money during their old age also ensures that they have some savings for retirement/whatever they wish to spend on (like holidays, personal hobbies, etc.) :)
Yes! I totally agree with the "mottainai" idea. I always wondered why us Chinese have to go all out into the extreme and buy everything in bulk. Just look at how much wastage at the end of every festive (especially CNY) or family gatherings. Every time order so much food... end up who eat? I eat. Then I fat. Then say I growing fat. My fellow men, it's time we make a stand and put a stop to us being the "不要浪费" dustbin.
It came from our past history with famines and starvation, so it's our Chinese culture to show that we are eating well. Not the most logical way of thinking so yes I think we should be less wasteful.
The grandma makes a big bowl of soup because that's her way of showing her generosity, love and acceptance of the granddaughter's boyfriend. Older folks don't express their love as much in words but more in actions. No, we don't waste food at festivals either. Leftovers are pack up in boxes and split amongst relatives to take home for consumption. Excess of food during CNY is meant to signify abundance and prosperity. Chinese people like to express good vibes and wishes in symbolism.
Thanks for the laughter! I do agree, most Singaporeans are welcoming and open to treating 'potential candidates' like family. Most of us are also more candid especially when we're familiar with you. Really interesting video!
I used to give a few hundreds to my mum every month as a gesture to thank her for bringing me up, but she stop receiving from me ever since I had kids. I feel in Singapore we are close to our families also because we stay with our parents till we get married and leave the house. Since it is such a small country, we still visit them often after. It may be harder in Japan where people live and work in different cities and meeting up becomes an annual affair.
Thanks for sharing this video, it is funny because of the honesty in the "interview". Obviously not every relationship/couple is the same, different generations also approach relationships differently. Key factor when looking for a partner is that you are not looking for the perfect person, instead, you are looking for the person that is perfect for you. The video discuss more about the day to day and cultural differences, those are really funny and interesting, but always understand that without honesty/trust and respect, there cannot be any longlasting or meaningful relationship. Regarding the question about taking care of parents, that is just the basis of Chinese culture in confucius teachings. Filial piety is the most important among all virtues "百善孝为先". Giving money is not the only way, but it is common in Singapore.
This is hilarious. I think that Singaporeans are generally more forth-coming with their views and expressions as compared to Japanese, especially the women. To me, a fruitful relationship is one where you share your thoughts and concerns with. Japanese are more reserved. Hence, the lack of communication between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. It's also true when you're with the other members of family. That is why Ghib loves his in-laws so much. Good for you!
Agree. It is also true that Singaporeans are less expressive with our compliments. We can do better in this aspect cos we all need encouragement to do better, and not just have our flaws highlighted. I think it's great if couples can learn how to express our feelings and thoughts more so as to establish better understanding. We are trying to do that in our work. Ghib want to come and test our course?
It is a pretty good format. Go to a nice restaurant so we know about it, but also focus on interesting topics, such as slice-of-life stuff like this! Keep it up!
Not Bad = 不错 in Chinese, which if you copy that into google translate, it means good. So in SG Not Bad is a direct translate from the Chinese word, rather than the original English meaning. It's more of Singlish word.
I am married to German and has been living here for 7 years. I totally agree with their comments , SG girls are independant , straight forward and we don't follow our husbands or partners. What I learnt from Germans are they rarely say Sorry even they do mistakes But my hubby started learning this culture. Feel blessed !
It depends on how much the earning power. The higher u earn, give more. E.g if earn 10,000 monthly, give abt 1 - 2,000. Its a gesture to show gratitude to our parents for bringing us up n sending us to school n University. If married, also give them for looking after grandchild, cook dinners!
BEST Video so far! Not bad means you can do better! I’m a BIG fan of your mil, that’s exactly us SG girls As mothers we train our sons to listen to mom and when they get married to listen to wife! we started to give parents of $50 each then slowly to increase to $500 monthly 😊
Sg girls are being honest with themselves n the people around them. They are straight talker. No beating round the bush, thus builds a stronger relationship .
As a Singaporean girl, I can agree it's kinda true what they said, seeing my parents and how my dad always getting scolded by my mom and how couples around me were like that too😂😂😂😂 Singaporeans girls are like that one 😭😂
My husband and i watched this video together and found most of the things they said about SG girls totally relatable. We had a good laugh. ps my hubby is still undergoing training as well
Love the video!! Funny conversations about dating and married life and the food looks awesome. Yeah, it's true we give our parents allowance out of filial piety, especially when they retire. We also pay for their holidays or give them more pocket money during holidays, CNY and their birthdays. It shows our love and care for them. They have worked hard to raise us so we want to reciprocate. I'm so surprised to know that Japanese children do not give their parents. Sounds like Japanese married life is still patriarchal, and not equal. I don't think Sg women can ever be so submissive to their men. We also have our own life, work, community to care for, besides family. Keep up your good work Ghib!
as a sgporean i have never dated before, but I think it's very odd to introduce to family so early, I see people around me usually do so when the relationship is at the stage where you feel your partner is the one you are going to marry. I don't know if sg girls are controlling, but I think that really depends
I give 15% of my salary to my parents even though they have money to support themselves. It is just a culture that we have to repay what they spent on us when were young.
The intro to friends and family part + social media is also a way to show commitment to the rs. If you're dating someone and they don't intro u to their friends and family, that's a definite red flag. Although i do agree 2 weeks is a tad too early.
For a SG girl to bring her girlfriend to show her friends means she really like her boyfriend. On the other hand, it also means her friends could check out the guy from a neutral/third party point of view. If she brings her bf to the family she wants to let her folks know who she is dating If her mother or even grandma really likes him, they would cook special dish for him. and this gesture shows he is accepted itnto the family. All the best. Ojisan vlog always humorous :)
@MJ Lee “Means she really like her boyfriend”.. Lol.. What’s with the “like”?? Don’t mislead others. It’s all about money and status for the ladies here.
@@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG , Be real guy, which girl wants to date a dead beat! When my son dated this girl, I wanted to hear whether she gets along with her parents and help them. If she does, that is a diamond.
@@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG well havw u ever thought its probably bc sg girls are well educated and of course have higher expectations of finding a good guy la. As compared to girls from poor countries who just wanna marry for money anyhow marry also can hahaha. Since they mostly not as educated so lower expectations ma. Since girls mostly marry up and sg girls also earn q alot of course they looking for guys who earn more than them la..... but many sg guys feel inferior they cant catch up with sg girl or have toxic masculinity thats why criticise sg girls mah... also sg is more westernised... if u got daughter u OK to let her marry poor guy? 😅
I personally give my mum 25% of my salary. It’s like what ghib’s wife says, it’s just a gesture. Most parents don’t need the money for daily expenses, they would usually take the money to save or invest and when the child has a large expense coming up like a wedding or house down payment they will give that money to them.😊 I understand that 25% is a lot, most people give a few hundred dollars but my personal view is that I’m single now and I do not have major expenses like kids or a mortgage, I don’t mind giving her more money if it makes her happier. And I know my mum is investing it wisely for me!
I myself is a Hong Kong 🇭🇰 Chinese, but my wife is a Singaporean and she is very demanding, telling me off, saying and telling me all the tiny bits of things making mountains out of small unimportant stuff and she enjoys scolding me and lecturing me as if she is the BIG BOSS with a bad attitude. 😳😤
Hey ghib, nice haircut! That reminded me of your old videos where u attempted to get a singaporean style haircut (there isnt really a definitive haircut by the way LOL), but the shops kind of botched it up. This one is pretty good! Would be nice to do a haircut video again (doesnt have to be at a barber's lol), for old times sake! 😁
I'm Malaysian Chinese. I think giving money to parents monthly is something to repay for the precious time and hardship they raise us. My brother took the responsibility to pay household bills and others, so I took the responsibility by sending money home. The amount depends on salary. Living in the city with 2.5K, I send RM300 home. When there's bonus, I would send more that particular month. My parent always said "Don't send money next month." Then I would thought 'what's the purpose of me working out there?'😂
Interesting fact is that we do have a Maintenance of parents act here. If parents above 60 are not receiving allowance from their children in the event they are unable to work, they can go to court to legally claim their rights to get allowance from their children every month. Of course this will need to be done to prove that parents have provided to the children's welfare when they were growing up. This also means damaging the relationship between both parties..
In sg, there is a popular sayings by the old folks that goes 养儿防老. Which means raising your son as a protection for old age. And so it is expected for the kids to take care of their parents when they are old. One of the way to show their filial piety is to give some money to the parents every month. There is no fixed guidelines to say how much one should give though, just like the Angbao money you give to the young ones every chinese new year. You can say it is token of gratitude to them for raising you up. It is a form of 饮水思源, which means thinking of the source when you are drinking the water. I am rather surprised the japanese did not pick this up, as their culture is deep rooted in Confucian thinking too.
The best video ever..... lol.. 1. No I don't post a lot to social media 2. Yes I always hit my husband 3. I will redo the house work he did if I really cannot 'tahan' the imperfection cause he will stop doing if I nag too much.
Hey, Ojib. Are you aware that not only you have been living in Singapore 🇸🇬 for so long, you are picking up various Singaporean habits, mannerisms and accents as well 🤣😂😁😆
reverse is true too, I was and still am, very baffled by why japanese dont disclose that they’re dating or who their current girlfriend or boyfriend is. It’s normal for them to keep everything a secret from family and even friends! I can’t imagine dating for a long time and my friends have never seen my boyfriend 🤨 why why why so secretive ?? Not like you’re doing anything bad 😂 Also, before I show my boyfriend to my family, I also want him to be vetted by my friends , I feel like that is only normal…I too, see my friends’ boyfriends 😂 our friends get our support this way.. good and bad comments are given honestly afterwards 🤓 not being secretive also means this makes it hard for players to be dating multiple girls or boys at the same time. When officially going steady, you are trying to make this person a part of your life, why would you still keep it a secret then? It’s as if you aren’t sure and so won’t include him or her in your inner circle.
Not announcing also helps you separate your emotions. Nobody will bug you about it if you break up which is a positive thing to me. You don't dwell in it and move on quickly.
Giving money to parents I think is a Chinese thing. Japanese and westerners will find it weird. I don't directly give money to my parents but I pay ALL utility bills and taxes of the flat.
personally i think the women having bfs, husbands of a different country/culture should respect their differences, not coerce or try to argue into having their way. Though some men don't mind, i think its an invasion of privacy by coercing someone to post on social media just because they want people to know. And seriously, you don't even know how long will the relationship last. And it can be embarrassing to some folks.
Hi Ghib n Sho san,,, wahh you really sound like singaporean when you speak in english sho san,, 死んでも い 、, when u said that after a good meal, おもろかった😂🤣、とにかく、ほんとに 楽しいかた、、美味しい もの 見たら 食べたいね, nice vlog Ghib, 👍😬🍣🍺
this is hilarious but personally i feel both sides should consider / respect each other's culture / preferences rather than one party (in this case the japanese guy) fully giving in to the other party's (sg girl) wishes. in the end, whats most important is that the couple is happy together. as for allowance to parents, i think it's just cultural as respect and thanks to parents for taking care of them, which i do too. but it may be a burden to the child and i find it nice that japanese parents reject money from the child! In chinese culture, it has been "i raised you so you need to take care of me now that I'm old". the current generation of young parents have shifted towards being more self-sufficient so their children won't have to take on financial burden of caring for aged parents in future. It will be nice if this X & millennial generations will be the last sandwich-generation.
His accent is so unique, I've NEVER heard such a strong mix of Japanese and Singaporean accent 👁️👄👁️
I was thinking the same!!! His Singlish is strong!!!
It seemed like he learnt English here.
As a Japanese, I don't understand his strong accent. It sounds like Singlish.
@@akihiro6635 its not fully singaporean maybe his pronunciation is more japanese
He came to Singapore for university and has been here for around 4 years. I met him in y1 and he had a much stronger Japanese accent
The most hilarious part of this is that his wife came along to listen
I think you misspelled scary
That’s why My right ear hurts
Yes man!!! This interview is damn funny but 2 weeks of dating and meeting for whole family is really fast! And I am a Singaporean Chinese !!!
Need camera woman😂
His wife will be like "Aku perhatikan aje"
His Japanese friend should do more videos with him as they are both very funny together! 2 Japanese men speaking Singlish is hilarious. 😂😂
IM DYING OF LAUGHTER! I like how the conversations goes from marriage to introducing what the chef has prepared over and over again. The transitions crack me UP
It's so funny, unique and aborable hearing two Japanese guys speaking to each other in Singlish, hahaha!
Such a fun video! It was indeed a very good conversion about dating SG girls! Maybe the next time you can do what SG girls think about dating Japanese men!
About giving money to parents it's more towards like paying back what they have done for us and also they are old and not earning anymore. So it's a form of respect and thanking for their hard work in taking care of us. We do that in Malaysia too.
I wanna visit Chikuyotei soon! Food looks super delicious! 😋
This is the funniest video that you've ever uploaded. I laughed out loud SO many times. Thanks Ghib!
Agreed! I just commented to say the same before I read this comment. Really funny video ,,👍
U laughed cuz u experienced the same thing? Hahaha
Am an sg girl and can't help but agree to most of the points; straightforward (and abit nit-picky), family oriented, like to do things together as couple. However, think the point about showing on social media might be more of Gen Z, mainly is want to announce the relationship (same with bringing bf/gf to family gatherings). The giving of allowance to parents when we start working is a gesture to show filial piety especially since we had lived off our parents for 10-20 years of our lives or have paid for school fees etc. Some parents are quite kind and save this money and give back to their children when they need money for house or having kids etc. (Sadly) On the other hand, there are also parents who treat children as investments that will provide for them when they are old.
Yes, everything in Sg is straightforward, including Singlish.
No beating about the bush
😉🇸🇬
Most Asians do not treat their children as investment. They only ask their kids to provide for them when they are old because they feel vulnerable and lonely. Providing and looking after your elderly parents is an honorable and moral thing to do. It is being grateful for their love and care all these years, then showing them your love and appreciation.
Expecting them to be independent and fend for themselves are what some Westerners think (less so for South Western Europeans) which most Gen Z are heavily influenced by now. You don't understand it now but maybe you will when you get to their age i.e. when you are old, jobless, vulnerable and sickly. As a person age, one usually desire to connect more with their indigenous culture and values, thus have a greater understanding of why those values come about. Young people however, are more influenced by the current dominant foreign culture because they tend to seek out new and different things which they find more interesting and exciting.
Sho's singlish is more "singlish' than Ghib's
私はシンガポールに31年住んでいます。シンガポールの女性はいい意味で自立していると思います。日本の女性も強さはあると思います。それは思っていても言わない強さ、その人が好きだから言わないでおこうみたいな。だから喧嘩したとき、あのときこうだったでしょみたいな事になると思います。女性はどちらにしろ、強い生き物だと私は思っています😄😄😄。この動画すごく面白かったです。これからもがんばってください。💕
I think Sho is really funny and relatable. Would definitely love to see more of him! 🤣
Yes I agree. Laughed so much listening to him sharing about his experiences
This video really made me laugh! Must admit that there is truth in what was commented. There is usually a 'boss' in the family dynamics. Show of appreciation and humility to apologise helps in relationships. Token to parents is a gesture of filial piety as they age. Any amount that family is comfortable with.
Not bad is a compliment because it comes from the way Hokkien people compliment someone else's abilities or work which is "Boey pai leh!" The intonation accentuates the degree of appreciation.
Sho is a funny guy.. U should invite him more 😂
Funny video 😂 Kimono Mom is coming to Singapore this May and they're looking for someone to help with their tour. I'll be absolutely delighted if there's a collaboration video seeing Kimono Mom and her family enjoying Singapore food and culture ❤
Yes!! Please do a Collab I'll be so damn happy to watch man
@@RonLarhz whats wrong with being a good wife? can you stop being judgmental to what others want to do, so uninclusive and unaccepting to lifestyle choices of others
@@RonLarhz huh why you have this impression? What is it that triggered you? I watched her for years. Maybe there is something that triggered you?
Great idea ... did it happen?
this two guys are so hilarious, really funny, made me laugh so much. really cute . their english is really so sporean. hahaha, i really enjoy this show.
Ghib, this is damn funny! Pls film a follow up version with your wife (and other SG girls) to talk about reality of dating or marrying a Japanese guy. Then only fair mah!
Hahaha, I laughed out loud when you said 'fruitful conversation' at the end while eating fruit. How apt. I think my Japanese husband would agree to most of what you guys mentioned. But we've managed to adapt and balance things out over time so he has his own space and time, while I have mine and we also have family time together. And no la, I don't treat him as a 'dog' and he would never allow me to also.
Generally, Singaporean Girls work and so it become a must for couple to share household chores. And I think Some Singapore guys may just enjoy cooking. And because Singapore is a multi racial , multi-religion and multi cultural country. We mix around so much and have to ask questions about other culture/religion which I think is part of why Singaporean couples are more straight forward.
Whereas ppl from a single cultural background, only know of one culture, traditions and rules.
Haha I'm so glad Ghib's wife went along! Excellent for a balanced view. "You all very good meh?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Quite comical siah this video! 🤣🤣 Nice one ghib, was interesting to hear Sho-san's opinions hahaha
to avoid conflict, interracial couple must study both side culture differences and values thoroughly and
know how to forgive and forget.
Correct, just that as 华人 we are blessed with slightly more advantage when dealing with Japanese, Korean and Vietnamese
It’s damn funny and entertaining. Thank you! 🤣
The food at Chikuyotei looks amazing… salivating as I watch the funny comedy duo 😂
We always give our parents every month. 😊 it’s a good Asean gesture because we also living under their house. Singapore is not a cheap place to stay. Most of the married/unmarried adults here still live with their parents. We did it also because we want to help lessen the burden of our parents by helping to pay for the house bills and groceries once we received our salaries.
I f u live in USA, after u turn 18, they kick u out.
Even if we don't live together, it is still a nice gesture to give.
a lot of the times our parents also fund our education and living expenses until we have stepped out to society to work, so I think giving parents money every month is also to show our own gratitude to the parents. This is especially important since Chinese families value filial piety. Also, my parents gave up a lot to ensure we children have a good life without worries, and they don't earn much to begin, so giving them some money during their old age also ensures that they have some savings for retirement/whatever they wish to spend on (like holidays, personal hobbies, etc.) :)
@Judy Mckee Asian is different from the Western. Sorry to say it creates many social problems.
@@lenangjf well say.... remember we can NEVER out give our parents. Their love for us is priceless and simply awesome .
Yes! I totally agree with the "mottainai" idea.
I always wondered why us Chinese have to go all out into the extreme and buy everything in bulk.
Just look at how much wastage at the end of every festive (especially CNY) or family gatherings. Every time order so much food... end up who eat? I eat. Then I fat. Then say I growing fat.
My fellow men, it's time we make a stand and put a stop to us being the "不要浪费" dustbin.
I cook a lot of food for CNY, but it is stored in the fridge, and I just reheat and eat whatever is left over the next few days
No wastage at all
It came from our past history with famines and starvation, so it's our Chinese culture to show that we are eating well. Not the most logical way of thinking so yes I think we should be less wasteful.
The grandma makes a big bowl of soup because that's her way of showing her generosity, love and acceptance of the granddaughter's boyfriend. Older folks don't express their love as much in words but more in actions. No, we don't waste food at festivals either. Leftovers are pack up in boxes and split amongst relatives to take home for consumption. Excess of food during CNY is meant to signify abundance and prosperity. Chinese people like to express good vibes and wishes in symbolism.
I laughed so much 😂😂😂 Thanks Ghib for the quality content as always!!! ❤️
Sho uses the word "sia", very cute n very Singaporean..really enjoyed this video!
Thanks for the laughter! I do agree, most Singaporeans are welcoming and open to treating 'potential candidates' like family. Most of us are also more candid especially when we're familiar with you. Really interesting video!
I used to give a few hundreds to my mum every month as a gesture to thank her for bringing me up, but she stop receiving from me ever since I had kids. I feel in Singapore we are close to our families also because we stay with our parents till we get married and leave the house. Since it is such a small country, we still visit them often after. It may be harder in Japan where people live and work in different cities and meeting up becomes an annual affair.
Really funny video. Loved the natural and relax vibes!
You guys should coin a new linguistic term: Sing-Jap-lish? Jap-Sing-lish?
Pretty cute and endearing to listen to.
Thanks for sharing this video, it is funny because of the honesty in the "interview".
Obviously not every relationship/couple is the same, different generations also approach relationships differently.
Key factor when looking for a partner is that you are not looking for the perfect person, instead, you are looking for the person that is perfect for you.
The video discuss more about the day to day and cultural differences, those are really funny and interesting, but always understand that without honesty/trust and respect, there cannot be any longlasting or meaningful relationship.
Regarding the question about taking care of parents, that is just the basis of Chinese culture in confucius teachings.
Filial piety is the most important among all virtues "百善孝为先".
Giving money is not the only way, but it is common in Singapore.
This is hilarious. I think that Singaporeans are generally more forth-coming with their views and expressions as compared to Japanese, especially the women. To me, a fruitful relationship is one where you share your thoughts and concerns with. Japanese are more reserved. Hence, the lack of communication between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. It's also true when you're with the other members of family. That is why Ghib loves his in-laws so much. Good for you!
Agree. It is also true that Singaporeans are less expressive with our compliments. We can do better in this aspect cos we all need encouragement to do better, and not just have our flaws highlighted. I think it's great if couples can learn how to express our feelings and thoughts more so as to establish better understanding. We are trying to do that in our work. Ghib want to come and test our course?
とても興味深く面白かったです。
次回はシンガポールの男性とお付き合いしている日本人女性が、どう思っているのか知りたいです。
I always love watching your videos, your food recommendation is fantastic. 😊
My husband still argues with me occasionally 😂😂 but anyway it's good that we can finally see Sho-san eat and enjoy everything.
This was super hilarious. Enjoyed it thoroughly.🤣😂
Lol I got teary from your video, not sure if it's because I was laughing so hard or it's because I can totally relate with you..
Good to see Sho-san again.
It is a pretty good format. Go to a nice restaurant so we know about it, but also focus on interesting topics, such as slice-of-life stuff like this!
Keep it up!
11:54 Sho's Singlish is power!!!!
Not Bad = 不错 in Chinese, which if you copy that into google translate, it means good. So in SG Not Bad is a direct translate from the Chinese word, rather than the original English meaning. It's more of Singlish word.
Sho sounds so singaporean at times. Amazing.
“Everyday I try to be a better version of me.” 😂
Interesting video! Very very funny I kept laughing 😂😂😂😂
wife: 'you all very good meh?'
2 guy in the room: 🐶?! 🐶?!
Both natural..comedian..haha...very honest And Funny..
I am married to German and has been living here for 7 years. I totally agree with their comments , SG girls are independant
, straight forward and we don't follow our husbands or partners. What I learnt from Germans are they rarely say Sorry even they do mistakes But my hubby started learning this culture. Feel blessed !
It depends on how much the earning power. The higher u earn, give more. E.g if earn 10,000 monthly, give abt 1 - 2,000. Its a gesture to show gratitude to our parents for bringing us up n sending us to school n University. If married, also give them for looking after grandchild, cook dinners!
You guys were so funny… and you guys actually sound so Singaporean… 😂😂😂
Thanks for the recommendation. Will definitely check out the restaurant! 🍣
alright, we need an episode on the ladies talking about dating Japanese!!
Im your new follower🥰living here in jpn for almost 25yrs😊
i found your vlog
so interesting.
BEST Video so far! Not bad means you can do better! I’m a BIG fan of your mil, that’s exactly us SG girls As mothers we train our sons to listen to mom and when they get married to listen to wife! we started to give parents of $50 each then slowly to increase to $500 monthly 😊
Sho is so bloody funny. Ghib, u hv a new gd fren! Both of u sama sama!
True. If you earn more, give more to parents. Not about money but a gesture of gratitude ❤️
Sg girls are being honest with themselves n the people around them. They are straight talker. No beating round the bush, thus builds a stronger relationship .
that's why so many have to beat their own bush
As a Singaporean girl, I can agree it's kinda true what they said, seeing my parents and how my dad always getting scolded by my mom and how couples around me were like that too😂😂😂😂 Singaporeans girls are like that one 😭😂
This is so funny, you should do more of this! 😂 on relationships!
My husband and i watched this video together and found most of the things they said about SG girls totally relatable. We had a good laugh. ps my hubby is still undergoing training as well
Funny topic!! Hahaha, finally Sho-san can eat something!!
Love the video!! Funny conversations about dating and married life and the food looks awesome. Yeah, it's true we give our parents allowance out of filial piety, especially when they retire. We also pay for their holidays or give them more pocket money during holidays, CNY and their birthdays. It shows our love and care for them. They have worked hard to raise us so we want to reciprocate. I'm so surprised to know that Japanese children do not give their parents. Sounds like Japanese married life is still patriarchal, and not equal. I don't think Sg women can ever be so submissive to their men. We also have our own life, work, community to care for, besides family. Keep up your good work Ghib!
Yes we give to our parents monthly allowance, thanking them for bringing us up, maybe about 10-20 percent of our salary
as a sgporean i have never dated before, but I think it's very odd to introduce to family so early, I see people around me usually do so when the relationship is at the stage where you feel your partner is the one you are going to marry. I don't know if sg girls are controlling, but I think that really depends
I give 15% of my salary to my parents even though they have money to support themselves. It is just a culture that we have to repay what they spent on us when were young.
Funny episode. I am a Chinese married to a Chinese in Malaysia... i can understand completely the experience. It is the same for us.
Haha this is so funny, esp the washing dishes part. Ya, agree with your wife "teach you good ways" lol.
Omg chikuyotei!!!!
The intro to friends and family part + social media is also a way to show commitment to the rs. If you're dating someone and they don't intro u to their friends and family, that's a definite red flag. Although i do agree 2 weeks is a tad too early.
So funny. Ghib San says initially equal. Then he diminished to the floor and his wife elevated into the sky. 🤣🤣
I'm a Singaporean living in Japan with my Japanese husband. It will be interesting to see what are his views on this video. Hurhurhur...
A big Hi to you from Singapore. Hope all’s going well for you and your loved ones. 🙏🏻😊
Delicious food, delicious conversation
For a SG girl to bring her girlfriend to show her friends means she really like her boyfriend. On the other hand, it also means her friends could check out the guy from a neutral/third party point of view. If she brings her bf to the family she wants to let her folks know who she is dating If her mother or even grandma really likes him, they would cook special dish for him. and this gesture shows he is accepted itnto the family. All the best. Ojisan vlog always humorous :)
@MJ Lee
“Means she really like her boyfriend”..
Lol.. What’s with the “like”?? Don’t mislead others. It’s all about money and status for the ladies here.
@@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG ya and u have none of those 😂 always criticizing sg girls lol sour grape
@@crystal8537
Lol.. There is nothing for me to be sour about. Just stating my honest observations. 👍🏻
@@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG , Be real guy, which girl wants to date a dead beat! When my son dated this girl, I wanted to hear whether she gets along with her parents and help them. If she does, that is a diamond.
@@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG well havw u ever thought its probably bc sg girls are well educated and of course have higher expectations of finding a good guy la. As compared to girls from poor countries who just wanna marry for money anyhow marry also can hahaha. Since they mostly not as educated so lower expectations ma. Since girls mostly marry up and sg girls also earn q alot of course they looking for guys who earn more than them la..... but many sg guys feel inferior they cant catch up with sg girl or have toxic masculinity thats why criticise sg girls mah... also sg is more westernised... if u got daughter u OK to let her marry poor guy? 😅
I personally give my mum 25% of my salary. It’s like what ghib’s wife says, it’s just a gesture. Most parents don’t need the money for daily expenses, they would usually take the money to save or invest and when the child has a large expense coming up like a wedding or house down payment they will give that money to them.😊 I understand that 25% is a lot, most people give a few hundred dollars but my personal view is that I’m single now and I do not have major expenses like kids or a mortgage, I don’t mind giving her more money if it makes her happier. And I know my mum is investing it wisely for me!
God blessing is upon those who honor their parents, u have a right footing
I myself is a Hong Kong 🇭🇰 Chinese, but my wife is a Singaporean and she is very demanding, telling me off, saying and telling me all the tiny bits of things making mountains out of small unimportant stuff and she enjoys scolding me and lecturing me as if she is the BIG BOSS with a bad attitude. 😳😤
just pretend you are listening to a beautiful song when she is scolding you.
I feel sorry for u man. At least a SG wife don't devalue u like HK women. SG wives understand respect. 😊
Hey ghib, nice haircut! That reminded me of your old videos where u attempted to get a singaporean style haircut (there isnt really a definitive haircut by the way LOL), but the shops kind of botched it up. This one is pretty good! Would be nice to do a haircut video again (doesnt have to be at a barber's lol), for old times sake! 😁
next video... japanese girl dating Singaporean guy!
As a singaporean guy who is married to a singaporean wife, I agree with the dog part 😂
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I'm Malaysian Chinese. I think giving money to parents monthly is something to repay for the precious time and hardship they raise us.
My brother took the responsibility to pay household bills and others, so I took the responsibility by sending money home. The amount depends on salary. Living in the city with 2.5K, I send RM300 home. When there's bonus, I would send more that particular month.
My parent always said "Don't send money next month."
Then I would thought 'what's the purpose of me working out there?'😂
“She punch me, she kick me”
Ghib san - 😦
Interesting fact is that we do have a Maintenance of parents act here. If parents above 60 are not receiving allowance from their children in the event they are unable to work, they can go to court to legally claim their rights to get allowance from their children every month. Of course this will need to be done to prove that parents have provided to the children's welfare when they were growing up. This also means damaging the relationship between both parties..
I give 10% to my parents but when I get a raise I keep very quiet…
In sg, there is a popular sayings by the old folks that goes 养儿防老. Which means raising your son as a protection for old age. And so it is expected for the kids to take care of their parents when they are old. One of the way to show their filial piety is to give some money to the parents every month. There is no fixed guidelines to say how much one should give though, just like the Angbao money you give to the young ones every chinese new year. You can say it is token of gratitude to them for raising you up. It is a form of 饮水思源, which means thinking of the source when you are drinking the water. I am rather surprised the japanese did not pick this up, as their culture is deep rooted in Confucian thinking too.
Really love this video hahaha
The best video ever..... lol..
1. No I don't post a lot to social media
2. Yes I always hit my husband
3. I will redo the house work he did if I really cannot 'tahan' the imperfection cause he will stop doing if I nag too much.
Hey, Ojib. Are you aware that not only you have been living in Singapore 🇸🇬 for so long, you are picking up various Singaporean habits, mannerisms and accents as well 🤣😂😁😆
Super like this vid!!
This episode is so funny. One of the funniest of all I watched from ghib ojisan. Thank you for the good laugh watching this.
reverse is true too, I was and still am, very baffled by why japanese dont disclose that they’re dating or who their current girlfriend or boyfriend is.
It’s normal for them to keep everything a secret from family and even friends! I can’t imagine dating for a long time and my friends have never seen my boyfriend 🤨
why why why so secretive ?? Not like you’re doing anything bad 😂
Also, before I show my boyfriend to my family, I also want him to be vetted by my friends , I feel like that is only normal…I too, see my friends’ boyfriends 😂 our friends get our support this way.. good and bad comments are given honestly afterwards 🤓
not being secretive also means this makes it hard for players to be dating multiple girls or boys at the same time. When officially going steady, you are trying to make this person a part of your life, why would you still keep it a secret then? It’s as if you aren’t sure and so won’t include him or her in your inner circle.
Not announcing also helps you separate your emotions. Nobody will bug you about it if you break up which is a positive thing to me. You don't dwell in it and move on quickly.
This episode is so funnyyy!!! It’s so true!
Giving money to parents I think is a Chinese thing. Japanese and westerners will find it weird.
I don't directly give money to my parents but I pay ALL utility bills and taxes of the flat.
Love your video, good luck 😊
I'm 23 and I started working this year and I give about 15-20% of my salary to my parents as allowance.
As a Singaporean guy, after watching this video....I realized I am actually more Japanese 😅
New subscriber here & I laugh-died watching this 😂
personally i think the women having bfs, husbands of a different country/culture should respect their differences, not coerce or try to argue into having their way. Though some men don't mind, i think its an invasion of privacy by coercing someone to post on social media just because they want people to know. And seriously, you don't even know how long will the relationship last. And it can be embarrassing to some folks.
i think ah ghib ears will grow longer after video.... get more pulling after the show *lol 🤣
The Singlish…..he speaks so much like a Singaporean.
Hi Ghib n Sho san,,, wahh you really sound like singaporean when you speak in english sho san,, 死んでも い 、, when u said that after a good meal, おもろかった😂🤣、とにかく、ほんとに 楽しいかた、、美味しい もの
見たら 食べたいね, nice vlog Ghib, 👍😬🍣🍺
this is hilarious but personally i feel both sides should consider / respect each other's culture / preferences rather than one party (in this case the japanese guy) fully giving in to the other party's (sg girl) wishes. in the end, whats most important is that the couple is happy together.
as for allowance to parents, i think it's just cultural as respect and thanks to parents for taking care of them, which i do too. but it may be a burden to the child and i find it nice that japanese parents reject money from the child! In chinese culture, it has been "i raised you so you need to take care of me now that I'm old". the current generation of young parents have shifted towards being more self-sufficient so their children won't have to take on financial burden of caring for aged parents in future. It will be nice if this X & millennial generations will be the last sandwich-generation.
結婚以外でも文化の違いを乗り越えるのって確かに難しいよな。