Jesus is the way the truth and the life. No one can go to the Father except through him.❤️ Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️ Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus grants peace and Jesus loves you.
My friend told me that once your done you don’t turn back. How many times have you gone back on your word? How many times have you ignored your own feelings to make that person feel wanted?😢 Right now God has been really dealing with me!! I’m talking to whoever is out there to just stop and listen. We are making excuses for them but Sis, bro they won’t ever change to think about our feelings point period 😖 That is the hardest thing I’m even acknowledging right now and I’ve cried for two hours straight right now
The sad thing is we ignore signs to run away & sound crazy if its someone else's relationship. In the end it gets only worse to point where we can't take it any longer. Im devastated
It been years since I left a toxic relationship and I'm still single cause at this moment I'm learning about myself and making chances so I don't fall into the same pattern when it come to life and relationship choices.
I totally agree. The individual has to accept the fact that they are in a toxic relationship! If they dont accept it then that's where they will remain. It does't matter how much u speak to them about it. Its so sad. It's better to be alone than in a unhealthy relationship. U need to also think about your kids if u have any. U are teaching them that it's ok to be miserable In a relationship. If u are unhappy its cause that's what u want. There is always a choice!!!!!
Omg this was directed towards me. I’m keep attracting toxic relationships and didn’t think the ultimate detox begins within me. And for years I keep asking why am I single again? Why am I attracting these mental, these gamers? Sigh I got work to do.
And wats so cold a MF ask me to help them with gas money and then holla what’s 7 dollars are u kidding me it’s 7 dollars more than what u had SMH I swear this is not Kool at all
You are not alone. I share the same issue. I finally realize the root cause and have now begun to proceed to make the necessary changes. God bless you on your journey of growth.
Thank you. I have been on a spiritual journey. Finding out so many things about myself. I asked myself as an empath why do i keep attracting narcissistic men. Im the complete opposite. I need to heal from past narcissist and enjoy my single life and live more in the present.💕
@@kittenpuff5981 Healed and released from the past. Grateful for the lessons. I'm the light that those leaches needed to build their confidence. For me to be able to forgive them and move on healthy and still open for love is a miracle. 💫💞👑🌕🙏🏽
@@taureanspiritualgoddess4449 I am wondering too on why I attract narcissistic men. It is quite disturbing, but a relief when you are not in their company. Nice to know you have gone through the worst to be your best self. Health and peace.
Don’t we all? Some are stuck in the toxic relationship they are in bc they have nowhere to go. Coming from a toxic family and now being in a controlling toxic relationship I swear I’m doomed no matter what. Stay in a toxic relationship or leave to go to your toxic families house which you don’t even speak to. I’m stuck bc I have nobody but the gaslighting narcissistic asshole I’m with.
Preach!!! Speak on it and let that mesage penetrate...And that's the benediction! To all the cycle can change starting with me and you and you and you! I finally resisted from the front end of a very toxic relationship but recognizing the signs and more over after the threat of physical violence. I rejected the apology and finally that nightmare of a relationship prior to actually being hit. I've seen, experienced and lived a cycle of abuse until it cost me my unborn child. Please don't wait that long. Recognize the signs, leave and live a beautifully and healthier lifestyle by loving and hugging yourself first!!! Don't allow anyone to disrupt your mental, emotional and/or physical peace!!! Don't let anyone dim your shine with your permission by staying and allowing it for any reason. ❤ DOESN'T HURT! PERIOD! 😙❤
I feel it's in our responsibility to notice signs of a toxic relationship and when to exit those types of energies that's keeping you from being happy. I also feel you cannot find happiness in a person you have to already have happiness within yourself they only can add value to your happiness.
Yes me as well..i can't accept that mentally deceiving mindset into my life another time. As much as ive been exposed to the behavior of a NPD) i feel like i should be a psychologist..lol. You really do have to be cautious and carefully because those type of people are truly sheep in wolves clothing..
Such a simple explanation and statement he offered that can be such a deeply complicated matter within ones self. Find the problem in you, identify it, rectify it, grow, change, improve. I enjoyed this video, a refresh of what needs to be done for self maintenance. Bravo, thank you!
Thank you so much. I really was having such a hard time from a toxic relationship I recently just left and seeing this help me reflect and realize that I am the center of everything. Thank you for giving me this new perspective ❤
I love how you say so much in so little time! The 30 people who gave this video a thumbs down are in denial about how they contribute to toxic situations!
I'm tired of finding things out about myself. I know I'm a person that loves hard. It is hurtful to give yourself fully to someone and they rejects you, go marry someone else. I wish I didn't have to deal with this. I miss the person so much as well. I know they are not coming back. Once I wish I didn't get abandoned over and over again. I really do love this individual.
Thanks for this. God has been telling me since 2018 to let go of my relationships with my toxic relatives which will happen through having boundaries so I hear Him loud & clear.
Girllllllll I just went cold turkey on both my family and friends. And if my lover don’t get it together very soon,I’m going cold Turkey on him too. I did it for my sanity, I felt like I was losing myself, always listening to other people’s problems started causing me an uneasy feeling and once they start shifting on to me and I found myself digging up old similar beliefs about myself and couldn’t get off the rat wheel mentality, I got outta there as fast as I could. At first I felt sorry but thinking back on it. I don’t regret it at all. I feel good being at peace with myself
@@chasityh9135 I commend you for your strength, I am having a hard time purging out of fear of loneliness... Did you ever feel lonely during times of cutting people off? How do you deal with the transition into being alone all the time
@@ilianam453 for me it kind of feels like they cut you off cause you are a mess but I think some understand and walk away and some take it personal and attack you. It will feel like you were the problem but you're not you need your space. I try going back and hanging out but it kind of feels like I'm mad at them or I get mad cause I respect myself to defend myself and some get it and some act like you have problems but no respect yourself to just walk away and don't look back. Your peace of mind is better than coming back angry or crazy thoughts. You will be attacked cause they won't accept the new you.
She makes me question everything about myself and who I am. She makes me question whether I’m good enough as a human being. Or as a boyfriend and provider. I realize it’s also one-sided and yet here I am stuck. Now our communication has been completely cut and I have to MoveOn. I hate that I miss the toxicity. I don’t know why.
Trauma bonds. The repeated toxic patterns - the highs and lows- become normalized and feels like an addict experiencing withdrawals when removing those people and patterns from our lives. I’ve been there…done that…and here again trying really hard to be done with that for good. You are good enough, always have been. Stop believing that. A good exercise to help with that is to list all the ways that support you NOT being a good person. You’ll find the list to be pretty hard to complete or even find more than a couple of reasons because most of us are not shitty people. Praying for you.
Why does being alone scare you? If you fear being alone, it may be easy to fall into the wrong relationships. Look within. Being alone can be a blessing, and does not necessarily mean being lonely. 💞
I just got out of a 2 and half year toxic relationship. It was very abusive and it was extremely hard to distant myself from him. I realized that he was a narcissist and started to educate myself on the type of relationship I was in. I recently had to file a restraining on him. This isn't the first abusive relationship I have been in more like the 4th. I think its bc of my toxic relationship with my mom, issues with my dad and past childhood traumas. I'm trying to heal now and become stronger. I'm taking it day by day. No more down just ups from here.
God's grace and mercy without a doubt without a second the divorce was in full effect I'm not going to be with someone that value my love God granite me my divorce committing adultery no more sabotage
I knew he was wrong , and I kept telling him it would never work . But I allowed him to pull me back in over 16 times in 6 years ! I swear if my Job wasn’t so challenging as a SNCG:Special Needs Care Giver I never would have accepted his crumbs ! 6 years I’ve tried so hard to replace the only man ever to lower my Value ! Sometimes the Cover on a book, and even the words on the pages are just Lies!
I was involved in a toxic relationship for years. He was a narcissist. I wanted him out. I moved him to a different state and it made our relationship worse. He found someone else and I just wanted him to go. He was talking about me as if I was such a bad person. His friends and family would have never believed the things he said and did. He died one day just like that. I just couldn't believe it. I am in shock. But somehow the universe knew to get him away from me. The thing is his friends believe I did something. The only thing I wanted for him was get out and move in with his girlfriend. and leave me alone. Whatever he told them they hate my guts and are very angry at me. He died of a heart attack. What a shock to my life.
I’d say a blessing. May sound bad to some but some people will spend the rest of their days trying to wreak havoc on another’s life, even when they had every chance and ability to do the opposite. I hope you’ve moved on and no longer are making it your responsibility to care what his friends or anyone thinks. You lived a life with that man. You know your truth- no one can take that from you or deny it’s existence or impact. 💞
Recently was head over heels for this girl. She had a dark streak in terms of her past. Been through alot. Was abused, had been incarcerated, I'm certain she sells her body. I never accused her of that last one. I just noticed weekend patterns... Anyway... She came to me. Saying she wants to try for a relationship. She wanted to build something. She never got anything out of me. Didn't steal from what I could tell... actually left alot of herself behind, clothes, miscellaneous items. I'm prolly gunna burn alot of it in effigy, or donate it. Just to help let it go. Considering she came to me making the move. I wanted to reciprocate by being a good man for her. Always supportive, always trying to be there. But this was a very confrontational person. She didn't respond well to "dwelling". She got visibly frustrated if I wanted to talk about specific things. Which is a sign of a guilty conscience defaultly. She couldn't handle being made to appear as if she made a mistake. She pushed the emotional responsibility away entirely. Very selfish emotionally. Narcissistic even. Red flag, upon red flag. A month and a half later. She had become a different person. The things she once said are flipped, the way she felt is flipped. The plans we talked about now were her plans alone and I'm now implanting myself into her plans now... When a month prior we had a dream together... She was in the shower one night, I had worked a 12 hour shift 5 A till 5 P. I'm tired. I rested my eyes for 45 minutes. She came put of the shower, saw my eyes shut and she grabbed her bags, and just dipped out. Left me to wake up to a nightmare. The girl I was mad about. Crazy for this girl. Had picked up silently, and just walked out... Instead of waking me up so we could be together for the night. Nope I'm not worth that. She went out of her way. To leave behind a drawing with cryptic message and a few odds and ends. To hurt me. She wanted me to wake up to Noone. She wanted it to hurt me. After everything I did to help her. after everything we told eachother. After the closeness that my deluded mind felt towards her. The want to build something. And the sex was amazing 👏... But thats all it was. There was only sex, drugs, emotional damage, misunderstanding, ridicule. She wanted me to hurt deeply. Probably wanted me to feel a pain she felt too. Dumped a bit of her own scorn on me. I fell for it all too. Took the bait hook line and sinker A normal person would say "hey this ain't workin out. We should move on" no... she waited until the perfect moment. Saw my eyes shut, thought of a way to hurt me and executed. Basically. I was upset for the night. She would pickup my calls, or even open my messages... She knew the trap was set and that I was going to spiral. And I did. I was confused, I was angry and I was depressed and sad beyond expression. Ultimately. I deleted her number, the conversation, unfriended her etc. Etc. and said what I felt. Never looked back, will never look back. The next day. I felt free. It's been a few days now. The thoughts of "why" and the guilt of "what do I do to deserve what she did" still kinda bounce around. But I'm realizing that this was truly Toxic. The most toxic situation I've put myself in. This girl is damaged. She manipulates who ever she can. I'm not saying I'm perfect. I know I have a way to go on my own path to actively being a decent person, being self aware. Responsible, forthright, honest. I'll never let someone like that within striking distance again... Nowadays I plan on listening to people alot more than I speak to them... I will get all I need to understand a person from Simply keeping my mouth shut. Unfortunately this experience has encouraged a want to be alone. I want to focus on loving me and my future dreams. Experienced too much bad and dedicated too much of the good within myself, not to mention my time... To others, people that didn't care about me... I'm gunna focus on me now... perhaps I'll find the one. But I'm going to build myself into exactly what I want to be. She will see me building my castle. And she'll be welcomed in with time. Or maybe she won't find me. Maybe I will be alone for quite some time... Atleast I'll love myself. Atleast I never walked out. Atleast I'm not cruel. I can carry on knowing I'm good... If I looked myself in the mirror and saw someone that hurt others on purpose, or dug in to use others, if I never contributed... I'd just wanna die. I'd prolly kill myself if I were evil and cruel. I'll never stoop to that level. This experience has put me back on the proper track. The pain is the fire, that's softening up my mentality. The anger is the hammer I'm using to shape my resolve, my steel. The sadness I feel is the oil I'm using to heat treat my Psyche. I'm honing my edge, and perfecting my temper. I will not bend, I refuse to break.
It seems that i got to a good moment in my life and finding your channel first day of 2019th just confirms my inner growing.thank you for your energy✌powerful creature you are.real Magician.first i met in the present moment, so thank you for brightening my visions🙌honor and respect✌
What do you do if you're in a toxic marriage? I mean do you stay because of the vows and get counseling or do you just walk away.... We separate soooo much yet we end up right back together because we just can't seem to be without each other! No infidelity or abuse. Just mainly lies and inconsistency.
It’s not a fear. It’s the fact that they left me broken and in pain, and I feel like nobody understands how much it hurts and how big the damage is. I just want the pain to stop and think they might be able to do that. Also I think maybe I’m seeing things through the wrong lens and this is why things are the way they are. Like they aren’t the way I think they are but bcs my reactions are big theirs was too. All along I could’ve perceived a danger or something that wasn’t even there is what I think.
TY TY Assess your relationship patterns. How are you contributing to toxicity? Find the root. Establish healthy boundaries with everyone. Address by Healing healing healing. Stop attempting to heal by rebounding to another relationship. Become comfortable with who you are. You got this. One step at a time & one day at a time. #Self Worth #Self Care #Self Love
my boyfriend left me today because he thinks i’m selling myself bc i watched porn in the past he pulled me away from my best friends and family i spent the whole day crying and apologizing for something i never did i needed to hear this n not let him convince me that he wants me back in the future he made me feel un worthy of love i’m going to learn how to love my self and not let negative people who r supposed to love me screw wit my mental health and life
I was listening and I almost cried. Why? because I know I'm the blame for attracting these toxic relationships. I was married for 14 years now legally divorced for 7. I find myself wanting a good relationship but I always end up with guys that say they are single n I find out later they are married. Why, I can't find the right single man? Truth is a like single life but I do want consistency. But y am I not a attracting single guys? Why am I not running when I do find out? Smh. I hve work to do in me.
I had so many bad relationships in past... I'm so insecure now... None of the relationships work. I have started to feel like I'm a bad person... Bcz so many past unhealthy relationships.... I feel really guilty and insecure 😔😭😔😞
Ending a toxic relationship is hard BECAUSE your so used to tolerating bullshit. I say STOP. Its only making you vunerable to continue tp be mistreated. Ididnt want to be alone but then i went back and it made sense this person was one of satans demons to keep me from fully reaching my Vision in life. Break from it cleanse your aura and LEAVE.
My relationship is abusive and it’s not me. I love him but I can’t let go wish I could with out so much anxiety. This relationship is killing me mentally and emotionally I’m so exhausted
Hi my name is Genice i dont know why i keep choosing the wrong men i keep thinking something wrong with me i was in a bad abusive relationship and my ex think it's my fault when he was the one beating me even his mother defending him when he is wrong . thank you for this video
Tell me whats wrong with me. My ex didn't care about me she used me, after the initial period she showed me almost no affection and intimacy stopped completely, then affection stopped completely. Why because she was beautiful did i stay and am devastated that its over. I realise this might say something negative about me, and I know a nice person is worth 10 horrible beautiful people, but why is her looks my issue and keeping me from happily moving on..
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I woke up. Love shouldn't be so painful and one sided.😉
I agree
I agree
Cheryl ann Minard Green amen to that
Cheryl ann Minard Green im in danger
What if you both madly loved eachother but somebody just snapped
Toxic environments foster toxic relationships; if your family is toxic you will attract a toxic person. Flee from every negative person you know
Deep
Amen you better speak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
True af
What if you can't?
Jesus is the way the truth and the life. No one can go to the Father except through him.❤️
Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️
Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus grants peace and Jesus loves you.
My friend told me that once your done you don’t turn back. How many times have you gone back on your word? How many times have you ignored your own feelings to make that person feel wanted?😢 Right now God has been really dealing with me!! I’m talking to whoever is out there to just stop and listen. We are making excuses for them but Sis, bro they won’t ever change to think about our feelings point period 😖 That is the hardest thing I’m even acknowledging right now and I’ve cried for two hours straight right now
Wow I been crying for a day straight realizing this Fr 😓
@@topnotchtajmahal7216 It’s so hard 😞
"Ignored your own feelings to make that person feel wanted!" Damn. That's my people pleasing habit summed up in 1 line. I hear u girl. I hear you
@@mee-mee1924 same that's like the worst habit along with being a yes man and never saying what you want or feel to not hurt or bother someone.
The sad thing is we ignore signs to run away & sound crazy if its someone else's relationship. In the end it gets only worse to point where we can't take it any longer. Im devastated
It been years since I left a toxic relationship and I'm still single cause at this moment I'm learning about myself and making chances so I don't fall into the same pattern when it come to life and relationship choices.
I totally agree. The individual has to accept the fact that they are in a toxic relationship! If they dont accept it then that's where they will remain. It does't matter how much u speak to them about it. Its so sad. It's better to be alone than in a unhealthy relationship. U need to also think about your kids if u have any. U are teaching them that it's ok to be miserable In a relationship. If u are unhappy its cause that's what u want. There is always a choice!!!!!
Its hard😔
Omg this was directed towards me. I’m keep attracting toxic relationships and didn’t think the ultimate detox begins within me. And for years I keep asking why am I single again? Why am I attracting these mental, these gamers? Sigh I got work to do.
Jillian Gibbs u and me both I got to do better especially for my Boys
Jillian Gibbs I am going through the same thing I’m in a situation now
And wats so cold a MF ask me to help them with gas money and then holla what’s 7 dollars are u kidding me it’s 7 dollars more than what u had SMH I swear this is not Kool at all
You are not alone. I share the same issue. I finally realize the root cause and have now begun to proceed to make the necessary changes. God bless you on your journey of growth.
Jillian Gibbs I know Yes I do not like toxic relationship but sometimes allow..#NO MORE..
This can include toxic workplace also!
Oh yessss, I can agree for real on that!
Toxic family members as well.
Thank you. I need to stop fixing people who are beyond repair!
"You cannot control who you attract but you can control who you entertain."
True
Thank you. I have been on a spiritual journey. Finding out so many things about myself. I asked myself as an empath why do i keep attracting narcissistic men. Im the complete opposite. I need to heal from past narcissist and enjoy my single life and live more in the present.💕
How is your journey so far?
@@kittenpuff5981 Healed and released from the past. Grateful for the lessons. I'm the light that those leaches needed to build their confidence. For me to be able to forgive them and move on healthy and still open for love is a miracle. 💫💞👑🌕🙏🏽
@@taureanspiritualgoddess4449 I am wondering too on why I attract narcissistic men. It is quite disturbing, but a relief when you are not in their company. Nice to know you have gone through the worst to be your best self. Health and peace.
@@kittenpuff5981 it's a shadow journey but it's worth it. Thank you. Health and peace to you too Queen 💞👑🙏🏽
Don’t we all? Some are stuck in the toxic relationship they are in bc they have nowhere to go. Coming from a toxic family and now being in a controlling toxic relationship I swear I’m doomed no matter what. Stay in a toxic relationship or leave to go to your toxic families house which you don’t even speak to. I’m stuck bc I have nobody but the gaslighting narcissistic asshole I’m with.
Stephen is always on point!! Everything starts at healing and dealing with the root issues.
Exactly
Stephan, you're my favorite relationship expert coach of the year!!! I've got a HUGE crush on you!!! () () () :) :) :)
I dont wanna be crazy in love, I wanna be sane in love
Preach!!! Speak on it and let that mesage penetrate...And that's the benediction!
To all the cycle can change starting with me and you and you and you!
I finally resisted from the front end of a very toxic relationship but recognizing the signs and more over after the threat of physical violence. I rejected the apology and finally that nightmare of a relationship prior to actually being hit.
I've seen, experienced and lived a cycle of abuse until it cost me my unborn child. Please don't wait that long. Recognize the signs, leave and live a beautifully and healthier lifestyle by loving and hugging yourself first!!!
Don't allow anyone to disrupt your mental, emotional and/or physical peace!!! Don't let anyone dim your shine with your permission by staying and allowing it for any reason.
❤ DOESN'T HURT! PERIOD! 😙❤
I feel it's in our responsibility to notice signs of a toxic relationship and when to exit those types of energies that's keeping you from being happy. I also feel you cannot find happiness in a person you have to already have happiness within yourself they only can add value to your happiness.
So true I keep attracting these Narcs😓
Yes me as well..i can't accept that mentally deceiving mindset into my life another time. As much as ive been exposed to the behavior of a NPD) i feel like i should be a psychologist..lol. You really do have to be cautious and carefully because those type of people are truly sheep in wolves clothing..
@@ashestoglory2319 so true..Plus they are such good actors..so yea we've got to be carefull who we give our heart to..💕
Are you an empath? Empaths tend to attract narcs. I did a few times and I was DONE after that.
@@d.y.h.w. true yes I am an Empath.
If you by any chance come across one photo of your ex narc
Zoom in at her face
Weird shit you will see they all have it.
I just found your channel, WOW, what a blessing to hear words of encourage on a regular basis. I am thankful.
Such a simple explanation and statement he offered that can be such a deeply complicated matter within ones self. Find the problem in you, identify it, rectify it, grow, change, improve. I enjoyed this video, a refresh of what needs to be done for self maintenance. Bravo, thank you!
You're right 💯. Staying in a toxic relationship isn't healthy.
Honestly idk how this relationship I’m in got to this toxicity
Luis Rodriguez tryn tell u bro 4+ years down the drain
We ignore the behaviors and don’t take people for face value.
I can’t believed I fell in love with a toxic person.
Thank you so much. I really was having such a hard time from a toxic relationship I recently just left and seeing this help me reflect and realize that I am the center of everything. Thank you for giving me this new perspective ❤
I love how you say so much in so little time! The 30 people who gave this video a thumbs down are in denial about how they contribute to toxic situations!
I love to listen 2 u. You are always on point! Realistic and on point! 👍👍👏
I'm tired of finding things out about myself. I know I'm a person that loves hard. It is hurtful to give yourself fully to someone and they rejects you, go marry someone else. I wish I didn't have to deal with this. I miss the person so much as well. I know they are not coming back. Once I wish I didn't get abandoned over and over again. I really do love this individual.
Thanks for this. God has been telling me since 2018 to let go of my relationships with my toxic relatives which will happen through having boundaries so I hear Him loud & clear.
Girllllllll I just went cold turkey on both my family and friends. And if my lover don’t get it together very soon,I’m going cold Turkey on him too. I did it for my sanity, I felt like I was losing myself, always listening to other people’s problems started causing me an uneasy feeling and once they start shifting on to me and I found myself digging up old similar beliefs about myself and couldn’t get off the rat wheel mentality, I got outta there as fast as I could. At first I felt sorry but thinking back on it. I don’t regret it at all. I feel good being at peace with myself
@@chasityh9135 I commend you for your strength, I am having a hard time purging out of fear of loneliness... Did you ever feel lonely during times of cutting people off? How do you deal with the transition into being alone all the time
@@ilianam453 for me it kind of feels like they cut you off cause you are a mess but I think some understand and walk away and some take it personal and attack you. It will feel like you were the problem but you're not you need your space. I try going back and hanging out but it kind of feels like I'm mad at them or I get mad cause I respect myself to defend myself and some get it and some act like you have problems but no respect yourself to just walk away and don't look back. Your peace of mind is better than coming back angry or crazy thoughts. You will be attacked cause they won't accept the new you.
on point👍❤👍
thanks for sharing your video with us❣
You are literally an angel to mankind.
She makes me question everything about myself and who I am. She makes me question whether I’m good enough as a human being. Or as a boyfriend and provider. I realize it’s also one-sided and yet here I am stuck. Now our communication has been completely cut and I have to MoveOn. I hate that I miss the toxicity. I don’t know why.
Trauma bonds. The repeated toxic patterns - the highs and lows- become normalized and feels like an addict experiencing withdrawals when removing those people and patterns from our lives. I’ve been there…done that…and here again trying really hard to be done with that for good.
You are good enough, always have been. Stop believing that. A good exercise to help with that is to list all the ways that support you NOT being a good person. You’ll find the list to be pretty hard to complete or even find more than a couple of reasons because most of us are not shitty people. Praying for you.
Thank you so much
I’m free🦋
So True ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for pointing these things out. Being alone terrifies me. Dating at my age is so hard and I fear the prospect of being alone forever.
Why does being alone scare you?
If you fear being alone, it may be easy to fall into the wrong relationships. Look within. Being alone can be a blessing, and does not necessarily mean being lonely. 💞
I just got out of a 2 and half year toxic relationship. It was very abusive and it was extremely hard to distant myself from him. I realized that he was a narcissist and started to educate myself on the type of relationship I was in. I recently had to file a restraining on him. This isn't the first abusive relationship I have been in more like the 4th. I think its bc of my toxic relationship with my mom, issues with my dad and past childhood traumas. I'm trying to heal now and become stronger. I'm taking it day by day. No more down just ups from here.
I just realized this revelation and you are so right on point.
Needed this!! Great message and thank you.
Listening and learning.
I can't believe that this was 4 years ago. It's so relevant right now.
A fear of breaking up a family and not finding better.
THANK YOU...I needed 2 hear this🌸
God's grace and mercy without a doubt without a second the divorce was in full effect I'm not going to be with someone that value my love God granite me my divorce committing adultery no more sabotage
I just bought the e book. Started reading and do not want to stop, thank you I really really needed this
When the name calling starts you leave it’s the start of toxic ! Leave NOW
this spoke to me on another level literally blocked and deleted hopefully I can keep it up
Thank you for this powerful and blessed message! Blessings
agreed!!!
I knew he was wrong , and I kept telling him it would never work . But I allowed him to pull me back in over 16 times in 6 years ! I swear if my Job wasn’t so challenging as a SNCG:Special Needs Care Giver I never would have accepted his crumbs ! 6 years I’ve tried so hard to replace the only man ever to lower my Value ! Sometimes the Cover on a book, and even the words on the pages are just Lies!
Thank you, Stephan. This can applying any area of life starting with self.
Self Healing. So Powerful 💪🏿
You are so wise Sir. Good sound advice
Amazing words!!!!!!
Amen. Most definitely👏🏾🙏🏾📖👑
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I really enjoyed this message !! 🍰😊🙏🏽
I was involved in a toxic relationship for years. He was a narcissist. I wanted him out. I moved him to a different state and it made our relationship worse. He found someone else and I just wanted him to go. He was talking about me as if I was such a bad person. His friends and family would have never believed the things he said and did. He died one day just like that. I just couldn't believe it. I am in shock. But somehow the universe knew to get him away from me. The thing is his friends believe I did something. The only thing I wanted for him was get out and move in with his girlfriend. and leave me alone. Whatever he told them they hate my guts and are very angry at me. He died of a heart attack. What a shock to my life.
I’d say a blessing. May sound bad to some but some people will spend the rest of their days trying to wreak havoc on another’s life, even when they had every chance and ability to do the opposite. I hope you’ve moved on and no longer are making it your responsibility to care what his friends or anyone thinks. You lived a life with that man. You know your truth- no one can take that from you or deny it’s existence or impact. 💞
THANK YOU!!!
Great message
Its a joy to watch yo vids...so informative...I appreciate you.
Recently was head over heels for this girl. She had a dark streak in terms of her past. Been through alot. Was abused, had been incarcerated, I'm certain she sells her body. I never accused her of that last one. I just noticed weekend patterns... Anyway... She came to me. Saying she wants to try for a relationship. She wanted to build something. She never got anything out of me. Didn't steal from what I could tell... actually left alot of herself behind, clothes, miscellaneous items. I'm prolly gunna burn alot of it in effigy, or donate it. Just to help let it go.
Considering she came to me making the move. I wanted to reciprocate by being a good man for her. Always supportive, always trying to be there. But this was a very confrontational person. She didn't respond well to "dwelling". She got visibly frustrated if I wanted to talk about specific things. Which is a sign of a guilty conscience defaultly. She couldn't handle being made to appear as if she made a mistake. She pushed the emotional responsibility away entirely. Very selfish emotionally. Narcissistic even. Red flag, upon red flag.
A month and a half later. She had become a different person. The things she once said are flipped, the way she felt is flipped. The plans we talked about now were her plans alone and I'm now implanting myself into her plans now... When a month prior we had a dream together... She was in the shower one night, I had worked a 12 hour shift 5 A till 5 P. I'm tired.
I rested my eyes for 45 minutes. She came put of the shower, saw my eyes shut and she grabbed her bags, and just dipped out. Left me to wake up to a nightmare. The girl I was mad about. Crazy for this girl. Had picked up silently, and just walked out... Instead of waking me up so we could be together for the night. Nope I'm not worth that. She went out of her way. To leave behind a drawing with cryptic message and a few odds and ends. To hurt me. She wanted me to wake up to Noone. She wanted it to hurt me.
After everything I did to help her. after everything we told eachother. After the closeness that my deluded mind felt towards her. The want to build something. And the sex was amazing 👏... But thats all it was. There was only sex, drugs, emotional damage, misunderstanding, ridicule. She wanted me to hurt deeply. Probably wanted me to feel a pain she felt too. Dumped a bit of her own scorn on me. I fell for it all too. Took the bait hook line and sinker
A normal person would say "hey this ain't workin out. We should move on" no... she waited until the perfect moment. Saw my eyes shut, thought of a way to hurt me and executed.
Basically. I was upset for the night. She would pickup my calls, or even open my messages... She knew the trap was set and that I was going to spiral. And I did. I was confused, I was angry and I was depressed and sad beyond expression. Ultimately. I deleted her number, the conversation, unfriended her etc. Etc. and said what I felt. Never looked back, will never look back.
The next day. I felt free. It's been a few days now. The thoughts of "why" and the guilt of "what do I do to deserve what she did" still kinda bounce around. But I'm realizing that this was truly Toxic. The most toxic situation I've put myself in. This girl is damaged. She manipulates who ever she can. I'm not saying I'm perfect. I know I have a way to go on my own path to actively being a decent person, being self aware. Responsible, forthright, honest. I'll never let someone like that within striking distance again...
Nowadays I plan on listening to people alot more than I speak to them... I will get all I need to understand a person from Simply keeping my mouth shut. Unfortunately this experience has encouraged a want to be alone. I want to focus on loving me and my future dreams. Experienced too much bad and dedicated too much of the good within myself, not to mention my time... To others, people that didn't care about me... I'm gunna focus on me now... perhaps I'll find the one. But I'm going to build myself into exactly what I want to be. She will see me building my castle. And she'll be welcomed in with time. Or maybe she won't find me. Maybe I will be alone for quite some time...
Atleast I'll love myself. Atleast I never walked out. Atleast I'm not cruel. I can carry on knowing I'm good... If I looked myself in the mirror and saw someone that hurt others on purpose, or dug in to use others, if I never contributed... I'd just wanna die. I'd prolly kill myself if I were evil and cruel.
I'll never stoop to that level. This experience has put me back on the proper track. The pain is the fire, that's softening up my mentality. The anger is the hammer I'm using to shape my resolve, my steel. The sadness I feel is the oil I'm using to heat treat my Psyche. I'm honing my edge, and perfecting my temper. I will not bend, I refuse to break.
I feel so low even though I’m a lot better than where I was
Love your unique look and daring spirit
This is such good advice, and in under 2 min! Thank you.
You are just on time !!!
A right on time message.
Speechless!!!..👏👏
I feel like I wasted 2 years and I came out with only a broken heart again🙏🏾
❤ truth spoken words and encouraging and motivational message
It seems that i got to a good moment in my life and finding your channel first day of 2019th just confirms my inner growing.thank you for your energy✌powerful creature you are.real Magician.first i met in the present moment, so thank you for brightening my visions🙌honor and respect✌
What do you do if you're in a toxic marriage? I mean do you stay because of the vows and get counseling or do you just walk away.... We separate soooo much yet we end up right back together because we just can't seem to be without each other! No infidelity or abuse. Just mainly lies and inconsistency.
He is not the one for u
Life is short .
Leave get it annulled RUN !
It’s not a fear. It’s the fact that they left me broken and in pain, and I feel like nobody understands how much it hurts and how big the damage is. I just want the pain to stop and think they might be able to do that. Also I think maybe I’m seeing things through the wrong lens and this is why things are the way they are. Like they aren’t the way I think they are but bcs my reactions are big theirs was too. All along I could’ve perceived a danger or something that wasn’t even there is what I think.
My Lord!!
Yess...Well said....period!☺
So glad I stumbled upon this video❤️
Thank you for this S
TY TY
Assess your relationship patterns. How are you contributing to toxicity? Find the root.
Establish healthy boundaries with everyone. Address by Healing healing healing. Stop attempting to heal by rebounding to another relationship. Become comfortable with who you are.
You got this. One step at a time & one day at a time.
#Self Worth
#Self Care
#Self Love
Is it just me is the volume very low. This blessed me.
Yes it’s so true 😩
Always on point!
my boyfriend left me today because he thinks i’m selling myself bc i watched porn in the past he pulled me away from my best friends and family i spent the whole day crying and apologizing for something i never did i needed to hear this n not let him convince me that he wants me back in the future he made me feel un worthy of love i’m going to learn how to love my self and not let negative people who r supposed to love me screw wit my mental health and life
Healthy Is Better! 💯💜❤️🙋🏽♀️
It's all of that I don't no where to begin
Thank you
I was listening and I almost cried. Why? because I know I'm the blame for attracting these toxic relationships. I was married for 14 years now legally divorced for 7. I find myself wanting a good relationship but I always end up with guys that say they are single n I find out later they are married. Why, I can't find the right single man? Truth is a like single life but I do want consistency. But y am I not a attracting single guys? Why am I not running when I do find out? Smh. I hve work to do in me.
Spot on ...🙏❤️❤️❤️
this goes for family members too
I had so many bad relationships in past... I'm so insecure now... None of the relationships work. I have started to feel like I'm a bad person... Bcz so many past unhealthy relationships.... I feel really guilty and insecure 😔😭😔😞
I really appreciate this guy! He's great!...#AndCute
Ending a toxic relationship is hard BECAUSE your so used to tolerating bullshit. I say STOP. Its only making you vunerable to continue tp be mistreated. Ididnt want to be alone but then i went back and it made sense this person was one of satans demons to keep me from fully reaching my Vision in life. Break from it cleanse your aura and LEAVE.
This was on point!
Yes...all that you said👌
My relationship is abusive and it’s not me. I love him but I can’t let go wish I could with out so much anxiety. This relationship is killing me mentally and emotionally I’m so exhausted
Yep so true 👌
On point
Hi my name is Genice i dont know why i keep choosing the wrong men i keep thinking something wrong with me i was in a bad abusive relationship and my ex think it's my fault when he was the one beating me even his mother defending him when he is wrong . thank you for this video
ii have all the fears he said😣
Feel so broken
Hello are you planning to get your ex back why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex Back
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I fear being alone and starting over again 😕😕
Same, how are you now Katherine 8 months later. Have you found peace
I’m great 💅🏽 I cut the person off completely and I’ve been working on myself by going to the gym working and doing me I’m happy 😊
@@fie_biggestfan I’m great!!
This is true
100% accurate
This is powerful
Makes much sense
Tell me whats wrong with me. My ex didn't care about me she used me, after the initial period she showed me almost no affection and intimacy stopped completely, then affection stopped completely. Why because she was beautiful did i stay and am devastated that its over. I realise this might say something negative about me, and I know a nice person is worth 10 horrible beautiful people, but why is her looks my issue and keeping me from happily moving on..
Fear of being alone 😔