Communicating With Autism | Our MAND procedure
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
- Kaidale and I have our own way of communicating. This “Mand procedure” was created for him years ago and is something we use all day, every day, during casual conversation. It has had a tremendous positive impact on our life together so I wanted to share with you all.
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Honestly, you’re an amazing mom
Thank you❤️
I was surprised to hear you talk about how in tune he is to you. My son is high functioning but has always been the same way. He is clueless on reading social clues with basically anyone else, but he’s so in tune to me that I have to really watch my tone and control my emotions to make sure I’m not putting unnecessary weight on him. I enjoyed watching. You tube suggested your channel to me a few months ago but I have seen you in real before at the pool! They must have wanted me to connect haha.
That’s awesome! Kaidale loves the pools so much. And yes, he feeds of the slightest changes in my emotions or any display of frustration. I have to really try my best to maintain composure around him, especially if he’s already having a difficult time with something.
Awesome we all need a form of communication with our kids, thank you!
Absolutely!
This was so informative. Thank you! ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Excellent video! ❤
Thank you!
Awesome! Love this. How did you work on reinforcing him accepting unreasonable?
Good question! It has to be used sparingly but also firmly. That way he knows it’s for real. For example…if I say “unreasonable” to his request for a pack of skittles at the store, I’m going to ignore his immediate requests/mands for 10 other types of candy. Because the would be the “scrolling” behavior I mentioned in the video. I also can’t go back on my answer. If I say unreasonable, it has to be concrete so he learns that no amount of scrolling or begging or even tantrums will change the answer. This gives him structure and boundaries which he responds really well too.
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very interesting. can the time delay be all the way until the next day or do you always make sure it’s that same day?
No, if it’s a time delay then “later” will be sometime that day. If it’s not something he will have access to that day then it will be “unreasonable”.
Kaitlin, wondering has Kaidale ever requested "Big Guy" at school if he was upset or worried and if you had picked him up he didnt want to go home at all??
No he just request “mommy pick me up”.
Thought of an awesome Xmas idea, would Kaidale like to do a nail art that spelled out "Big Guy", sorry Daryl if you see this... Hehehehehehe
That’s actually a great idea, thank you
We tell my brother and will keep asking when he has to wait
So does Kaidale. But that’s part of the “scrolling” that I mentioned. It just has to be ignored.
Good video
Glad you enjoyed
If he asks to go visit big guy, and the answer isn’t later or after…And the answer is not today, how does that fit in with this method?
That would be an “unreasonable” response
Sorry for misspelled words and bad grammar, I was just too scared to fix it and lose a comment again. Thank you for understanding
I'm liking the dark hair on you!!
Thank you! It’s actually my natural hair color
Is your son is toilet trained? Your amazing mum ❤
Yes he is and thank you!
I have followed for awhile but I since lost track. How old is he now?
13
Thank You
dose he not use his proloquo2go anymore?
Not too much. He mostly just uses his words.
Can I scream? Just wrote out a long comment telling you what I got out of watching the video two times. And I was telling you that it's kind of like positive reinforcement training that they use for service dogs now and dogs in general where you break each piece down and then you reward instead of you know disciplining or getting angry. It was very interesting the yes with the fingers laced Fist and yes later than the fist bump letting you know we've made that agreement is yes later with eye contact. I wanted to know Caitlin and I've always wanted to ask you what do you think about ABA therapy as a whole do you like it and what don't you like about it? Also I wanted to know what you think about Gentle parenting?
I think I've brought this up before but you know there are a couple of other channels where the children have autism but they say that what they're doing is trying to show the public what autism is all about to demystify it to take it and destigmatize it. However, what they don't do is they don't show their child having a full-blown meltdown and showing people ALL the sides of autism not just the easier sides. I have written both of these fathers and said you know you say your mission is to Enlighten people about autism. However I never have seen you show your child really having a meltdown really getting out of hand and crazy why is that when you say that your mission is so that the public can understand what autism is all about and they got mad at me and said things like well would you want to be on camera at your worst moment? Well maybe not but then change your mission statement you know if you want everybody to really understand and get it then do it all not just some of it. I want to thank you Caitlin for all the videos you've been putting out I really just love what you're doing and really respect all the hard work and what I really love is how much you adore and what you give to your son. I don't know what that's about because I had very very abusive parents but when I see you and Kaidale, itshows me what unconditional love is about.
Yea I think in those moments Kaidale is very vulnerable so to pull out a camera and record would feel taking advantage of a situation and not helpful for him. I also want to preserve his dignity. I think most parents goals is to shed light on autism awareness in hopes to create a more inclusive world for their kids. But not to necessarily be so transparent that it oversteps on their kids individual boundaries.
@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale great answer. Makes perfect sense, I agree with how you explained it, Kaitlin.
Thanks.
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