Emotions: Opening to Your Rejection Sensitivity
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- Опубликовано: 31 июл 2024
- Developing your openness to emotions can help you to overcome your sensitivity to rejection. Learn more by reading Bouncing Back from Rejection: Build the Resilience You Need to Get Back Up When Life Knocks You Down.
I note in this video that you can find a list of emotions in the back of Bouncing Back from Rejection. I now have this list available online, along with other resources from my book, at:
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Making change through compassionate self-awareness
I’ve heard of the technique of identifying the negative emotion you are feeling by being rejected. Then immersing yourself in that emotion so that the emotion loses it’s power.
But putting a light on the built-in cognitive dissonance of a.) trying to please the individual who is rejecting you and, at the same time, b.) feeling hurt/angry at them is brilliant.
I love your solution of pulling back to enable yourself to see the big picture or, as you put it, the space between these two emotions and acknowledge the validity of both sides. That is a gifted observation. Wow! I never heard model before. I think it's huge in getting through rejection quicker.
Todd- I'm so glad you find this helpful -- and that you took the time to let me know. In the coming weeks, I will be offering videos on increasing self-awareness in other ways. I hope you also find them helpful.
I found this because I'm struggling this morning and what you said resonates a lot with mental techniques I learned from Buddhism. Sometimes knowing how to use a tool isn't the same as knowing when to use it. Thank you.
You're welcome. What you are saying is absolutely true! I hope the video helped you by reminding you to use the technique you learned before - or this one; and that it did help. I often encourage people to enrich their personal awareness of themselves because it is an important part of growing and healing. Along these lines, you might find it helpful to check out a page on my website about developing compassionate self-awareness: drbecker-phelps.com/home/csa/
I wish you well...
Very positive. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I hope you find that the video helps you.
I think I've been doing this already. Thank you.
That's great! We can all learn more as we continue to do this. It can also help to open to the other domains of STEAM (sensations, thoughts, emotions, actions, mentalizing) so that you can gain a richer self-awareness. You can find brief videos for the other domains in the STEAM playlist.
You gave very comprehensive explanation on the topic, thank you for your help..
You're welcome.
When you’re insights feel like they are on fire it’s impossible to step back from it and think through the pain… I’ve tried many times and it sounds good on paper but it’s not possible to implement in real life in seriously emotionally charged situations
Agreed. When people are too overwhelmed emotionally to identify, list, and then connect with emotions, then they often find it helpful to focus solely on comforting themselves. Working with your emotions and thinking things through clearly can only come after you have done this. There are many ways to calm yourself and reduce pain -- though what works depends on what is causing your pain and what ways of coping work for you. For instance, many people find talking with a supportive friend, exercising, communing with nature, or deep breathing or diaphragmatic breathing can help when they are in emotional pain. Once you feel calmer, you will find it more possible to work through your emotions and think through a situation.
Rejection isn’t that big of a deal it’s just being told no.
That is a great way of looking at rejection. It is not always so easy. Sometimes we are told no about something that is dear to our hearts, which can make it difficult. And the more we define ourselves by the thing that is being rejected, the harder it can be. But clearly, some people struggle with it more than others. From your comment, I gather and am happy to hear that you are one of those people who are less affected by rejection, which must free you up to take chances that others might be hesitant to take.
why views are not increasing on your RUclips channel.
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