I've been toying with the idea of going back to school in my 30s but anxious that I'll treat it the same way I did in high school 😅 good luck to you in school!
I’m restarting at age 28. After 10 years I schooling, I finally landed my job that was paying me almost 6 figures, but I was absolutely miserable. I knew if I stayed, it would literally take years off of my life. So I quit. I’m restarting, I’m broke, I’m living with my parents, I have debt again. But I know and I truly hope in 2 years, I can come back and comment on this post and say I made the right decision.
I'm 28 and still unemployed for 2 years after I had graduated back in 2022 and spend 8 years in college (2014 - 2022) switching programs since my early 20s and still don't have much work experience so... still finding other ways to make money instead of relying on a job (which the inflation is not letting us have). Also I've Read the Book of "Rich dad and poor dad" which I'm now with a new mindset of basic financial education despite I still haven't figure out what type of lifestyle I want to live. I'm Dyslexic, not good reading books but I understand a bit at least an idea of this book on how to build wealth despite I still suck understanding technology such as social media OR any advance softwares that I have a hard time understanding. Like seriously.... It took me 2 years to understand an app that allows me get paid while walking and how you redeem your points into gift cards OR cash. Which is why little by little I explore more sidehustles OR any other opportunities to build wealth and make a living. And you can do it too! if you are unemployed like me =) Still haven't dated anyone for the first time but..... I can still give a try to know more about myself, even if I reach into my 30's or 40s or 50's or even more older.
What about 45?! I spent 10 years in the Army from the age of 20. Got out and spent 20 years trying to drown the haunting images of burnt bodies in the bottom of a bottle. Failed relationships, failed friendships. Now @ 45, I'm trying to get a college degree in Construction Project Management. It is difficult, daily, but the only other option is to lay down and die. We are not defined by what we do, but by the challenges we over come. Believe in yourself, your setbacks are just training exercises. Excelsior!
I was a cook for 10 years until I finally got my first job as a head chef. I spent 6 weeks preparing for the opening night - building a team, writing the menus etc. Everything went smoothly on opening night, all of the staff were great and the customers came up to the kitchen to say how much they enjoyed the food, the local food writer even did a feature in the city's newspaper. As soon as service was over, it hit me like a ton of bricks that I didn't want to do it anymore. I had achieved what I wanted and had no plans for what I wanted to do afterwards. Ever since then I've been in a death spiral of taking meaningless kitchen job after meaningless kitchen job. Only recently I've decided to try something new but I have to remember that the goal always needs to change, the mountain needs to get a little bit higher every time I get closer to the top.
Be grateful for the mountain as hard as it is to climb. I literally feel with my health, won't make it past 10 yrs, so I choose to be a hippie and change the world if I can. Someone will always take you in, in most cases, most likely not ideal predicament, but you get to start over where you'd like. Maybe not minimum 47k a year but, with frugal becomes smaller responsibility. I choose to leave behind a book and understanding to my siblings rather than money. Money only created more wants. Money only created more problems. Worked to build something past my past, to see a continued problem. Haha it got worse too. Boy people my age. To some money is making rent, I've been homeless offered crack on my first 2 nights and to join a clan under a bridge, I made a choice to not take that crack and to stay alone, 23, a woman, with one suitcase, and stay in a lit area. As for my mom, she took the pipe and joined the clan. My mom's a homeless tweaker who is in and out of ER NOT wanting help or understanding life anymore. Join your own clan or do it alone. Both are alone lol. Love yourself enough to try for you until you got no time and you try for you and others even more.
I had the same feeling when i started a family, i was blind in love, always wanted two kids ,started out with a chick that alrready had two kids, i ended up being a fulltime dad without a wife and two kids. They are 5 and 3 and i am stuck in my mind, stuck in my goals, stuck financially and stuck emotianlly and i think the only way to get out is to stay in it untill i get out, and that shit hurts man, wish you the best with your carreer, it can always be worse
I was about to comment pretty much the same thing, when I noticed that my favourite RUclipsr (Ali) had already commented it 😆. Being my favourite author, Mark (that I've followed for over a decade), I really hope you guys figure out some collab or at least a two-way interview at some point 🙏
My first reaction when I've seen the comment was "another fake account of one of my favorite youtubers". But then I thought how great Mark is and it all made sense again 🙂 As Nikolaj said, a collaboration between you two great creators Ali and Mark would be a blessing for us viewers and content creators 😃
I’m an Old Person who finds you very interesting in your level of transparency. I’ve been waiting for a video like this. You’re too honest to not do it. Damn, man. Keep on & thanks.
After years of a high pressured career, and one burn out after another for years, I decided to step down from a high pressured and I'm ready to reinvent myself
From this 57 year old woman, with kids out, and about to start a life of my own suddenly, Thank you! I'm not young anymore, I'd like to think I'm not old either, but life is changing. I'm getting to see what my next stage is, and it's complicated and confusing. So, thinking I can start over, that's pretty awesome. Because I think I will be starting over again.
hey barbara, I believe in you. My Mom is the same age as you and completely redesigned her life not long ago. Money was always tight, and us kids weren't in the position to help her much so she had to figure out many things by herself. but she did and its really beautiful to see how she enjoys her life, when a few years back she told us about her worries of getting older, feeling stress in many parts of her life. you can always start the life you want, no matter at what point in your life and I wish you the best in doing so.
I reinvented myself professionally for the last few years, being 54 years old now and doing it successfully. On one hand I am enjoying my success and achievements tremendously, on the other hand I feel the pressure of expectations. And I realize: so what's next. I want more, but what is it exactly that I want? I guess it's everything that allows fun and growth. Thanks Mark, even 24 after 30 seems an exciting place to be in.
I'm in my 30's and I went back to college. I suck at school. I always have. But I love it, I love learning. It just doesn't love me back. I have epilepsy and my short term memory is cashed. I'm surrounded by young adults that accidentally get A's while I struggle for C's. All of the extra work I have had to put in through the years has paid off...I remember valuable information from those classes a decade ago because I suck so bad at memorizing I had to study for hours, I recorded my voice asking test questions so I could answer myself while I was driving, and I kept every color-coded 4x6 and all of my notebooks. I sucked when I was in college the first time, but that was one of the happiest times of my life. I passed all of my classes. Ten years later I'm back in it. It's very uncomfortable. So far, so good.
You show off your 3 best selling books but honestly models has been most impactful for me and my relationship with myself. The dating life is still a work in progress but that book allowed me to see my accountability within that and have a waaaay healthier understanding to relationships so thank you. Models is way too underrated and I figure everyone would benefit from reading it.
The way you spoke in this video is the way you write, would have been a new article to read in your blog. But video feels better like you narrating an audiobook. Awesome strategy man. Keep trying new things, you have my support. There is no final destination, just the endless process so we might as well choose the endless destination.
Thats so cool Mark. Following your work since the postmasculine days. You never fail to inspire in one way or the other. Good luck with your new endavours. I'll keep watching, reading etc. Cheers from germany.
"I like climbing the mountain --- I don't like being on the mountain." That one sentence nailed it. Encapsulated a lot about my own life in one sentence.
My best friend gave up too soon and took his life at 31. He was a year older than me and now I'm older than he'll ever be. It's a weird feeling. He was his own warden and slaver. Nothing he ever did was good enough, and at the same time he would never take less than he wanted. So eventually something had to give. Every day do try to remember not to go down the same path. He told me to take risks and to get as much as I could from life. He couldn't do the same for himself. Anyway, losing a close friend is a sort of near death experience. It drives home the idea of mortality. So, I've been saying "fuck it" ever since. Sure, I wish I had been more true to myself when I was 20. Wish I had dropped the sadboi act and stopped running from my fears, but I'm not dead yet.
I'm really sorry about your friend. My close friend took his life at 27 and I completely agree that losing one is like a near death experience. And you are right, at our age there is so much time left for a great life. I believe no matter what you've done in the past, you can always change things for the better. It takes way more effort and discipline than many realise, but it's possible, people have reinvented themselves, it happens.
I'm so sorry for your loss. But thank you for sharing. I kind of identified a lot with the description you gave of your friend, and I'm having my own crisis right now... At 28. That scares me, but I hope I find in me the strengh to change, like you did.
Similar with my friend this year, except he was 25, he did so much with his life.. But when he hit a bad time it was just, that's it. I don't think he know how to forgive himself for feeling he'd failed. And it's painful because he'll never have a chance to learn how you can fail, and can still come back from that. You can't come back from being dead
It's always a lot easier to follow your dreams, be creative and take risks if you have a financial backing. Taking time out to reflect and looking after yourself isn't something everyone can afford to do unfortunately. But I commend you for finding new ways to challenge yourself and not continuing on the same path only to not rock the boat. The videos are really good, especially if you do everything yourself. Not sure how much pleasure you got out of failing along the way but well done on the result 😊
As someone who just turned 31, and had my entire 20s derailed by Severe Ulcerative Colitis and Depression (affecting my ability to focus, retain information, or even work/attend school at my worst), this is what I needed to watch. For the first time in 15 years I am medication free (all meds!) due to my resiliency and fight to find a way to heal both physical and mentally. Reading your books, learning about meditation, yoga, diet, and how to stand up to doctors all aided me in getting to where I am healthwise today over a decade+ long journey. I am finally ready to establish myself in a new career, but have been extremely hesitant and fearful lately, mainly because I feel scared of failing at 31 after not having any true career yet. Watching this has helped re-light my excitement in finding new work and struggling and failing, in order to learn and grow and succeed. I owe myself a lot of credit where were I am today, but thank you Mark for giving me the extra advice and boosts along the way, you are a true gem and I appreciate all of your work (and struggles and failures to get there!).
Same boat at 35. Another chronic gastrointestinal condition and a chronic pain condition. Trying to re-start my career. But scared cause the world seems to be changing everyday. I dont know where to begin.
Hey Mark I love your books and your RUclips channel!! I've been doing RUclips for 5 years myself, and just remember: views and subscribers don't mean much at the end of the day, just focus on making content that makes YOU happy, and that's success in itself. Keep up the great work! Love everything you do! ❤️
I can't wait to see what you'll release in the future! I've always been a fan of YOU, the beginners mindset is fresh and exciting, I don't blame you at all for wanting to return to the bottom of the mountain, so to speak, or in this case, to climb a new one... enjoy the process! All the best.
As someone who is taking on a very large project with lots of components that I have no idea about, I appreciate your message. It reminds me that failing is part of this process. It's required.
Hey Mark the subtle art book you wrote is one of my favourites and I've enjoyed your content throughout the years. Appreciate your transparency and perspective on the two sides of the mountain. Just sending you some positive vibes. All the best in your current direction.
The best author to open my eyes. I wish I've found you sooner in my life. Well it comes to me when i needed u the most. Thanks Mark sir Love from India 🇮🇳
Thanks Mark -- first time checking out your channel. I literally have one of your books on my bookshelf 5 feet away from me. It is very encouraging to hear you say that you think RUclips has so much room for growth and potential (I've been told its already hit its peak and saturated) I'm 26 and have tried building a network marketing business for the last 6 years and have absolutely nothing to show for it. I've hit my ends wit. What I really want is to create my own brand and be absurdly creative too. This little video help me realize it's not too late to start my own brand -- using RUclips and other platforms to fuel my dreams. I've been working on music (loft chill beats) to express my creativity and now want to make RUclips videos again. Thanks Mark
Duuuude the fact that you’re doing these videos on your own and it’s the best YT content I’ve seen from you, it’s just priceless. I almost spit my soup at the beginning of the video with the envy, cracked me up 😂 love the new creativity phase ❤
I feel like a large thing that isnt mentioned here is flexibility in options. I am financially imprisoned, i cant just choose to make a direction to climb on the mountain. If i dont succeed enough i will die, ill run out of money, i wont climb high enough, ill run into problems that i dont have the training or experience to handle. And when i fail it will be the only failure needed to stop me from climbing ever again in the future, because i am broke. Im broke in a sense of having no ability to mechanize success. A lot of people have something that allows them to continue, a college degree, years of experience in some job. If all that you have in a back pocket is 1000 dollars in your bank account and 10 years of working at entry level customer service positions that pay just enough to avoid homelessness, you dont have any leverage in your life to succeed in meaningful ways. I am qualified to do more soul grinding customer service, thats all ive been doing. I find this video tone deaf in that sense. You are rich, doing video content is just a shift from one media content creation job to another, you live in a big city full of friends and family. Your videos are about your past, and if this fails then you still have everything else in your life. You are allowed to pursue because you have leverage.
Nailed it Mark! I remember when you signed my book back in 2017. I´ve read 2 of your books and now watch your channel and it is always helpful..real talk and facts! Keep it up...the message of this video is great, especially these days, there is beauty in the messy and not being great at everything!
All of this. I spent nearly two decades in Tech, building a "stable" career and a family of three with my high school sweetheart. Then in 2020, my wife passed away, and I was left to care for my three children. Since then, I've been unearthing what the next chapter of my life was and is, which has led me to founding a fashion company, podcast, and grief platform. At first, it was frustrating, until I realized how much joy I got from being a beginner again. Learning, experimenting, failing - rinse and repeat. I'm so excited for you! Onward and fucking upward.
I needed this. Im about halfway up the mountain- still excited but doing well. Trying to decide if I should push to the top or just branch out for more challenges. Fuck the top
When you talk about enjoying being bad at things, I related, hard. When I started doing debate, I was awful, and there was so much fun associated with learning, with climbing the mountain. As I reached a peak, I didn’t feel the same inspiration, I felt nervous about losing what I had. I ended up quitting, especially with college and all, and have been on my journey to find deeper sources of satisfaction again
When my mom was promoted to to the company she worked for years ago, she was bummed in her new job. She said she was earning a six figure salary for basically doing nothing. She ended up quitting. It sounds like she experienced being atop the mountain..
Dude! I found you less than a week ago. Just by happen-stance I watched all of your newest videos before this one. I can't tell you how excited I am to hear that this is your new focus. I can't fucking wait for all the content!!
Finished reading one of your books 2 months ago and I really enjoyed it. I’m 36 and I’m still starting over in a sense (in school for my masters; still don’t have a “career” yet) so I appreciate hearing that what I’m doing is not pointless in a sense. It could all be for nothing, but maybe not, and that “maybe” keeps me going.
Yeah it is a weird age. I am 36 and still studying, and working as much as possible, but I know that I am in a filed that I will stay in for life so that is reassuring. We're still young(ish), there is still time to achieve what we are aiming for.
Mark, you have no idea how thankful I am for this video and your current direction As I’m also learning everything about RUclips creation, hearing your perspective on both sides of the mountains made a huge impact on me. I’m incredibly excited to see what you will create with this channel. As someone who read your books and articles multiple times, I have no doubt that it will resonate with all of us. You have my fullest support 🙌
I found you by accident one day when i was looking for meaning in my life and explanations why i'm doing stuff that i'm doing now. From that point on i became fixing everything step by step, improving myself on the process. I love your work and how digestible it is for someone who is not a native english speaker. One of my biggest dreams now is to have a moment to actually tell you face to face how much you helped me and how my struggles became obsolete when you can see whole picture. Wish you all the best and i hope that you will never burn out. World needs more people like you
Mark, I am a very shy person and I struggled a lot the last week with a lot of anxiety. On Friday I bought your 2nd book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and it helped me a lot. I will study it and read it. Besides, I laughed a lot with your blog post about the problem or paradox of Self-Improvement. I like how you take things to weird extremes, to show us important lessons. Thanks Mark!
So many people in my life don't understand doing things that you don't have to do. Challenge and failure and learning new things gives me a high. Once I'm proficient I get bored. I won a city wide award for my business 2 years in a row now. Where do I go from here? The first time it was great. The second time, I was like meh. Glad other people get it. ❤️
Good for you man. Having a creative outlet that isn't your 'known for' is so important as a creative as you get to learn something new, in your vision, what ever that will be, from trial and error.. true creativity is trying, making mistakes and be happy with it 👍
What pisses me off about this is that Mark isn't "starting over". He's producing the same stuff he's been writing about his whole career and is starting with hundreds of thousands of viewers. This isn't starting over; it's expanding the market. Furthermore this comment will just be burred under hundreds of comments from big channels blowing smoke and showing support. You want to start out again? Don't use your brand, don't use your contacts, and try to grow a RUclips channel organically on the back of the content... not your existing success.
So interesting that I just found your channel. What you outline in this video was how I lived my life. I recently realized that: I'd devote 2 straight years of my life to something, get really good at it, plateau, and move on. This made me a jack of all trades. What inspired me was what you shared. Creativity, exploration, pushing myself, and having fun. I found after about 2 years in, I would begin to treat whatever it was like a job. I'd put way too much pressure on myself to continue growing at the pace I did. If I stagnated, or worst back-tracked, it was too much. Recently, I decided to take up video editing. I had never considered it like making music. Each cut, each frame, the tempo, the build up, how you order clips, all creates a story, a song. Thanks for sharing this video! It's helped me feel better about the past, and more excited for the future!
I wish I could like this video twice - I found your newest content and am deep diving into your older stuff - so you succeeded though I knew of the book TAONGAF I hadn't read it, and I came here because of a new video, and now I'm working my way backwards. I did see a disconnect between your older content and newer which this video explains. I have been climbing my mountain for 30 years and this video has helped me reframe that journey. Two years ago Irealised that the top of the mountain wasn't going to give me fulfilment because eI met people who were there and still struggling in this writer's journey. But this video helped me reframe the last 30 years and be thankful for them because had I reached success early I might have not had all those years of joy you mention trying with nothing to lose. So thank you for sharing.
You have no idea how much!!!!!! this resonates with me. I live to try new things and fail at it and win sometimes too! I missed your hiatus during the newsletter sabbatical! I love your perseverance and perspective! Only difference, I’m still an unpublished aspiring author! 😂 Love your work Mark!
After losing against his animators who were on strike, Walt Disney was so pissed off, he did not give a damn about his studios and delegated their management on other people. So he spent hours each day riding with his daughters on his life size model trains with tracks that went around the house… they had so much fun, that a light bulb went on in his head… a park with a railroad that went through all scenarios of his movies… the concept of the Theme Park was born… and he regained his passion for the kind of work he loved
Everything in this video, from your words to the green screen to the last bit where you get up from your chair, shows humility and honesty. Good luck, Mark.
Once you achieve success you become a brand, a role model. Then you stop taking risks, making changes looks dangerous. But your authenticity is more relatable then people validating persona. You do you Mark Manson. Thanks for your "Models" and "The Subtle Art..."
I recently started a self help channel, i am a regular reader of your monthly newsletter and i’ve read your two books, your content is always relevant and helpful keep inspiring..
Not a lot of people have the guts to move out of the norm, even if it takes a toll on your fulfilment. So glad you're doing this. Here's to a future of both awesome [& crappy] videos🥂
I feel like the timing of this video couldn't have been more perfect for where I'm currently at in my life (mid-30's, recently accepted a prestigious position in my field). I'm still riding the thrill of the "climb" but I've felt like I'm about to summit soon. Thank you, Mark. You've truly been one of the most influential people in my life.
I'm 30 and know these exact feelings and am just starting my own youtube journey myself (most of my footage is yet to be aired sorry) Being good and successful at something brings its own pressures and I'm enjoying starting from scratch
Hey Mark, I‘m an elderly person still working on her self-improvement. 👵🏻 you’re funny and wise. I instantly hit the subscribe button, now I’m looking forward to your new content. ❤
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I’m 37 and in community college working on my associates because I can’t stomach 30 more years in a fucking factory. Keep working hard.
I've been toying with the idea of going back to school in my 30s but anxious that I'll treat it the same way I did in high school 😅 good luck to you in school!
I’m restarting at age 28. After 10 years I schooling, I finally landed my job that was paying me almost 6 figures, but I was absolutely miserable. I knew if I stayed, it would literally take years off of my life. So I quit.
I’m restarting, I’m broke, I’m living with my parents, I have debt again. But I know and I truly hope in 2 years, I can come back and comment on this post and say I made the right decision.
I'm 28 and still unemployed for 2 years after I had graduated back in 2022 and spend 8 years in college (2014 - 2022) switching programs since my early 20s and still don't have much work experience so... still finding other ways to make money instead of relying on a job (which the inflation is not letting us have).
Also I've Read the Book of "Rich dad and poor dad" which I'm now with a new
mindset of basic financial education despite I still haven't figure out what type of lifestyle I want to live.
I'm Dyslexic, not good reading books but I understand a bit at least an idea of this book on how
to build wealth despite I still suck understanding technology such as social media OR any advance softwares that I have a hard time understanding.
Like seriously.... It took me 2 years to understand an app that allows me get paid while walking
and how you redeem your points into gift cards OR cash. Which is why little by little I explore more sidehustles OR any other opportunities to build wealth and make a living.
And you can do it too! if you are unemployed like me =)
Still haven't dated anyone for the first time
but.....
I can still give a try to know more about myself, even if I reach into my 30's or 40s or 50's or even more older.
I’m on the same track as you … stay strong ❤
@@ashlaayyyy Thank you. You too was well ☺
What about 45?! I spent 10 years in the Army from the age of 20. Got out and spent 20 years trying to drown the haunting images of burnt bodies in the bottom of a bottle. Failed relationships, failed friendships. Now @ 45, I'm trying to get a college degree in Construction Project Management. It is difficult, daily, but the only other option is to lay down and die. We are not defined by what we do, but by the challenges we over come. Believe in yourself, your setbacks are just training exercises. Excelsior!
Excelsior!
Totally agree! After i turned 45, 2 years ago, I did a pivot myself. Never looked back since. (well, maybe occasionally)
another 45 y.o. newbie here. Keep going.
Your a savage bro. You got this. Similar position. I run 30 min daily to get me through the day
Same
I just want you to know man you’re my favourite author and you saved me during a very dark period in my life. Thank you Mark.
Indeed
Mark has been changing the thumbnail every day . Guy needs help
Same man.
He really did
Yeah, thx for raising our vibes, f*ckface ☺️
I was a cook for 10 years until I finally got my first job as a head chef. I spent 6 weeks preparing for the opening night - building a team, writing the menus etc. Everything went smoothly on opening night, all of the staff were great and the customers came up to the kitchen to say how much they enjoyed the food, the local food writer even did a feature in the city's newspaper. As soon as service was over, it hit me like a ton of bricks that I didn't want to do it anymore. I had achieved what I wanted and had no plans for what I wanted to do afterwards. Ever since then I've been in a death spiral of taking meaningless kitchen job after meaningless kitchen job. Only recently I've decided to try something new but I have to remember that the goal always needs to change, the mountain needs to get a little bit higher every time I get closer to the top.
Here with you with those feelings
what s your new job ? if i am not to curious :)
i have the same "problem" right now.
@@aethrya AI is going to take all the coding jobs here in the next few years.
Be grateful for the mountain as hard as it is to climb. I literally feel with my health, won't make it past 10 yrs, so I choose to be a hippie and change the world if I can. Someone will always take you in, in most cases, most likely not ideal predicament, but you get to start over where you'd like. Maybe not minimum 47k a year but, with frugal becomes smaller responsibility. I choose to leave behind a book and understanding to my siblings rather than money. Money only created more wants. Money only created more problems. Worked to build something past my past, to see a continued problem. Haha it got worse too. Boy people my age. To some money is making rent, I've been homeless offered crack on my first 2 nights and to join a clan under a bridge, I made a choice to not take that crack and to stay alone, 23, a woman, with one suitcase, and stay in a lit area. As for my mom, she took the pipe and joined the clan. My mom's a homeless tweaker who is in and out of ER NOT wanting help or understanding life anymore. Join your own clan or do it alone. Both are alone lol. Love yourself enough to try for you until you got no time and you try for you and others even more.
I had the same feeling when i started a family, i was blind in love, always wanted two kids ,started out with a chick that alrready had two kids, i ended up being a fulltime dad without a wife and two kids. They are 5 and 3 and i am stuck in my mind, stuck in my goals, stuck financially and stuck emotianlly and i think the only way to get out is to stay in it untill i get out, and that shit hurts man, wish you the best with your carreer, it can always be worse
Absolutely love this mark! Can’t wait to see how the channel evolves :)
I was about to comment pretty much the same thing, when I noticed that my favourite RUclipsr (Ali) had already commented it 😆. Being my favourite author, Mark (that I've followed for over a decade), I really hope you guys figure out some collab or at least a two-way interview at some point 🙏
My first reaction when I've seen the comment was "another fake account of one of my favorite youtubers". But then I thought how great Mark is and it all made sense again 🙂
As Nikolaj said, a collaboration between you two great creators Ali and Mark would be a blessing for us viewers and content creators 😃
Bro NO expectations pls
@@rick.austin @Ali Abdaal @Nikolaj, Yes Indeed. it would be very helpful and I it will be valuable content :)
I feel a bit like when people have just seen two of their favorite actors in one spot...💜
I’m an Old Person who finds you very interesting in your level of transparency. I’ve been waiting for a video like this. You’re too honest to not do it. Damn, man. Keep on & thanks.
Hey, I'm old too. I love change.
After years of a high pressured career, and one burn out after another for years, I decided to step down from a high pressured and I'm ready to reinvent myself
How are you now
@@roshinvarghese6879 much better, thank you
From this 57 year old woman, with kids out, and about to start a life of my own suddenly, Thank you! I'm not young anymore, I'd like to think I'm not old either, but life is changing. I'm getting to see what my next stage is, and it's complicated and confusing.
So, thinking I can start over, that's pretty awesome. Because I think I will be starting over again.
Same here. Quite the mental challenge. I have to remind myself to ride the wave.
You go girl! Rooting for you
Well done Barbara, if you're not winning you're learning
hey barbara, I believe in you. My Mom is the same age as you and completely redesigned her life not long ago. Money was always tight, and us kids weren't in the position to help her much so she had to figure out many things by herself. but she did and its really beautiful to see how she enjoys her life, when a few years back she told us about her worries of getting older, feeling stress in many parts of her life.
you can always start the life you want, no matter at what point in your life and I wish you the best in doing so.
I reinvented myself professionally for the last few years, being 54 years old now and doing it successfully. On one hand I am enjoying my success and achievements tremendously, on the other hand I feel the pressure of expectations. And I realize: so what's next. I want more, but what is it exactly that I want? I guess it's everything that allows fun and growth. Thanks Mark, even 24 after 30 seems an exciting place to be in.
33 and struggling. Thank you for the video Sir!
This is what I discovered recently, it all boils down to "journey over destination". Wish you good luck Mark!
Dude, if your channel so far is your "afterthought" level of content, I'm so ridiculously pumped for what comes next!
Check out his blog 🤔
@@kayligo Absolutley! His blog is amazing. He's inspired a generation of creators.
I'm in my 30's and I went back to college. I suck at school. I always have. But I love it, I love learning. It just doesn't love me back. I have epilepsy and my short term memory is cashed. I'm surrounded by young adults that accidentally get A's while I struggle for C's. All of the extra work I have had to put in through the years has paid off...I remember valuable information from those classes a decade ago because I suck so bad at memorizing I had to study for hours, I recorded my voice asking test questions so I could answer myself while I was driving, and I kept every color-coded 4x6 and all of my notebooks. I sucked when I was in college the first time, but that was one of the happiest times of my life. I passed all of my classes. Ten years later I'm back in it. It's very uncomfortable. So far, so good.
You can do it emily.
what are you studying ?
You show off your 3 best selling books but honestly models has been most impactful for me and my relationship with myself. The dating life is still a work in progress but that book allowed me to see my accountability within that and have a waaaay healthier understanding to relationships so thank you. Models is way too underrated and I figure everyone would benefit from reading it.
Is this a book by Mark?
@@iambloodymary Hi there, Jen. Yeah, it's called Models and it's written by Mark.
Absolutely! Very underrated book! Highly suggest reading :-)
Facts. I don't understand why people don't talk about this more.
@@matthewhermon2677 Thank you! Will try to find a copy!
That is why I love Mark. Whatever he presents, presents it honestly without showing only his good phases of life.
Definitely! His consistency and honesty is admirable.
The way you spoke in this video is the way you write, would have been a new article to read in your blog.
But video feels better like you narrating an audiobook. Awesome strategy man. Keep trying new things, you have my support.
There is no final destination, just the endless process so we might as well choose the endless destination.
Thats so cool Mark. Following your work since the postmasculine days. You never fail to inspire in one way or the other. Good luck with your new endavours. I'll keep watching, reading etc. Cheers from germany.
Mark,good on you! Go have fun! Ride the wave! I feel so happy for you. I love epiphanies.
"I like climbing the mountain --- I don't like being on the mountain." That one sentence nailed it. Encapsulated a lot about my own life in one sentence.
Outstanding
He is good doing that. Simplifying something complex! I just mentioned in other post!
I m glad! And grateful. We need this.
Yeah man. I have heard others say the same, like David Goggins.
Good Luck Mark with Fucking up. I am with you.
My best friend gave up too soon and took his life at 31. He was a year older than me and now I'm older than he'll ever be. It's a weird feeling. He was his own warden and slaver. Nothing he ever did was good enough, and at the same time he would never take less than he wanted. So eventually something had to give. Every day do try to remember not to go down the same path. He told me to take risks and to get as much as I could from life. He couldn't do the same for himself. Anyway, losing a close friend is a sort of near death experience. It drives home the idea of mortality. So, I've been saying "fuck it" ever since. Sure, I wish I had been more true to myself when I was 20. Wish I had dropped the sadboi act and stopped running from my fears, but I'm not dead yet.
I'm really sorry about your friend. My close friend took his life at 27 and I completely agree that losing one is like a near death experience. And you are right, at our age there is so much time left for a great life. I believe no matter what you've done in the past, you can always change things for the better. It takes way more effort and discipline than many realise, but it's possible, people have reinvented themselves, it happens.
I'm so sorry for your loss. But thank you for sharing. I kind of identified a lot with the description you gave of your friend, and I'm having my own crisis right now... At 28. That scares me, but I hope I find in me the strengh to change, like you did.
hi, i'm 30 next year and approaching the same end as your friend. my life feels like a huge f**k up. I can't seem to fix myself....im alone
Trust me he died like a warrior he saw life is just pain nothing else
Similar with my friend this year, except he was 25, he did so much with his life.. But when he hit a bad time it was just, that's it. I don't think he know how to forgive himself for feeling he'd failed. And it's painful because he'll never have a chance to learn how you can fail, and can still come back from that. You can't come back from being dead
I'm glad to see the man who started my current strive for change & helped me through a really rough time still re-inventing himself and going forward!
It's always a lot easier to follow your dreams, be creative and take risks if you have a financial backing. Taking time out to reflect and looking after yourself isn't something everyone can afford to do unfortunately. But I commend you for finding new ways to challenge yourself and not continuing on the same path only to not rock the boat. The videos are really good, especially if you do everything yourself. Not sure how much pleasure you got out of failing along the way but well done on the result 😊
Your books are f****ing amazing, it helped to have broad perspective and through tough times.
As someone who just turned 31, and had my entire 20s derailed by Severe Ulcerative Colitis and Depression (affecting my ability to focus, retain information, or even work/attend school at my worst), this is what I needed to watch. For the first time in 15 years I am medication free (all meds!) due to my resiliency and fight to find a way to heal both physical and mentally. Reading your books, learning about meditation, yoga, diet, and how to stand up to doctors all aided me in getting to where I am healthwise today over a decade+ long journey. I am finally ready to establish myself in a new career, but have been extremely hesitant and fearful lately, mainly because I feel scared of failing at 31 after not having any true career yet. Watching this has helped re-light my excitement in finding new work and struggling and failing, in order to learn and grow and succeed. I owe myself a lot of credit where were I am today, but thank you Mark for giving me the extra advice and boosts along the way, you are a true gem and I appreciate all of your work (and struggles and failures to get there!).
Same boat at 35. Another chronic gastrointestinal condition and a chronic pain condition. Trying to re-start my career. But scared cause the world seems to be changing everyday. I dont know where to begin.
Same at 31 but with horrible anxiety too.
Mark, u r a "Life saver" for me!!!!...
Good luck on this endeavor Mark. Something tells me you’ll rock it per usual.
Hey Mark I love your books and your RUclips channel!! I've been doing RUclips for 5 years myself, and just remember: views and subscribers don't mean much at the end of the day, just focus on making content that makes YOU happy, and that's success in itself. Keep up the great work! Love everything you do! ❤️
I can't wait to see what you'll release in the future! I've always been a fan of YOU, the beginners mindset is fresh and exciting, I don't blame you at all for wanting to return to the bottom of the mountain, so to speak, or in this case, to climb a new one... enjoy the process! All the best.
As u said u’ll start to feel good bout ur failures in the anxiety vid this’s jus liberating
As someone who is taking on a very large project with lots of components that I have no idea about, I appreciate your message. It reminds me that failing is part of this process. It's required.
Hey Mark the subtle art book you wrote is one of my favourites and I've enjoyed your content throughout the years. Appreciate your transparency and perspective on the two sides of the mountain. Just sending you some positive vibes. All the best in your current direction.
I've been following you ever since I've lost hope in my younger teens. I'll always admire what you do! because you're an honest man.
The best author to open my eyes. I wish I've found you sooner in my life.
Well it comes to me when i needed u the most.
Thanks Mark sir
Love from India 🇮🇳
Thanks Mark -- first time checking out your channel. I literally have one of your books on my bookshelf 5 feet away from me. It is very encouraging to hear you say that you think RUclips has so much room for growth and potential (I've been told its already hit its peak and saturated) I'm 26 and have tried building a network marketing business for the last 6 years and have absolutely nothing to show for it. I've hit my ends wit. What I really want is to create my own brand and be absurdly creative too. This little video help me realize it's not too late to start my own brand -- using RUclips and other platforms to fuel my dreams. I've been working on music (loft chill beats) to express my creativity and now want to make RUclips videos again. Thanks Mark
Duuuude the fact that you’re doing these videos on your own and it’s the best YT content I’ve seen from you, it’s just priceless. I almost spit my soup at the beginning of the video with the envy, cracked me up 😂 love the new creativity phase ❤
I agree! He's definitely got a gift for creativity. His work has definitely inspired me.
I've never been to the top of the mountain but I really love this video. Thank you, Mark!
I feel like a large thing that isnt mentioned here is flexibility in options. I am financially imprisoned, i cant just choose to make a direction to climb on the mountain. If i dont succeed enough i will die, ill run out of money, i wont climb high enough, ill run into problems that i dont have the training or experience to handle. And when i fail it will be the only failure needed to stop me from climbing ever again in the future, because i am broke. Im broke in a sense of having no ability to mechanize success. A lot of people have something that allows them to continue, a college degree, years of experience in some job. If all that you have in a back pocket is 1000 dollars in your bank account and 10 years of working at entry level customer service positions that pay just enough to avoid homelessness, you dont have any leverage in your life to succeed in meaningful ways. I am qualified to do more soul grinding customer service, thats all ive been doing. I find this video tone deaf in that sense. You are rich, doing video content is just a shift from one media content creation job to another, you live in a big city full of friends and family. Your videos are about your past, and if this fails then you still have everything else in your life. You are allowed to pursue because you have leverage.
it might seem that way, but did he ever say it was for proles and plebs?
I feel like I'm in the exact same boat. It's a struggle fr.
Nailed it Mark! I remember when you signed my book back in 2017. I´ve read 2 of your books and now watch your channel and it is always helpful..real talk and facts! Keep it up...the message of this video is great, especially these days, there is beauty in the messy and not being great at everything!
All of this.
I spent nearly two decades in Tech, building a "stable" career and a family of three with my high school sweetheart. Then in 2020, my wife passed away, and I was left to care for my three children.
Since then, I've been unearthing what the next chapter of my life was and is, which has led me to founding a fashion company, podcast, and grief platform. At first, it was frustrating, until I realized how much joy I got from being a beginner again. Learning, experimenting, failing - rinse and repeat.
I'm so excited for you! Onward and fucking upward.
I needed this. Im about halfway up the mountain- still excited but doing well. Trying to decide if I should push to the top or just branch out for more challenges. Fuck the top
When you talk about enjoying being bad at things, I related, hard. When I started doing debate, I was awful, and there was so much fun associated with learning, with climbing the mountain. As I reached a peak, I didn’t feel the same inspiration, I felt nervous about losing what I had. I ended up quitting, especially with college and all, and have been on my journey to find deeper sources of satisfaction again
When my mom was promoted to to the company she worked for years ago, she was bummed in her new job. She said she was earning a six figure salary for basically doing nothing. She ended up quitting. It sounds like she experienced being atop the mountain..
@@rebeccapettiford5389 wow that’s crazy
Dude! I found you less than a week ago. Just by happen-stance I watched all of your newest videos before this one. I can't tell you how excited I am to hear that this is your new focus. I can't fucking wait for all the content!!
Finished reading one of your books 2 months ago and I really enjoyed it. I’m 36 and I’m still starting over in a sense (in school for my masters; still don’t have a “career” yet) so I appreciate hearing that what I’m doing is not pointless in a sense. It could all be for nothing, but maybe not, and that “maybe” keeps me going.
34 years old about to be 35 in the same spot. I am working on my masters with no career as well. I thought I was the only one. How stupid of me 😂
Good luck! 🙂
Yeah it is a weird age. I am 36 and still studying, and working as much as possible, but I know that I am in a filed that I will stay in for life so that is reassuring. We're still young(ish), there is still time to achieve what we are aiming for.
It's always exciting to follow you on your journey Mark. Bless you 🙏
im 34 i do hope its not too late. ive been in a dark place for about 8 years not going anywhere.
I greatly appreciate what you are doing here...and how you are doing it.
I envy you Mark.
Sad music 🎼 😢🌧⛈
🎻 🎶 🎶 🎶
I adore you Mark!! 🙈
Me tooooo
all he did was brag the entire time, honestly a pointless video.
I am excited to binge watching ur future content!
I've watched everything so far!
I actually envy Mark's state of mind
Really resonated with liking to climb a mountain and the no expectations...thats ME!!!! Thanks for that...this will stay with me
I suppose if you're financially secure it does give you the freedom to fuck up. Meanwhile........
Mark is a legendary creative. His words are pure art.
It's not too late to start over at 40, 50 or 60 either.
Literally, One Man Army ! Keep growing, Keep going, All the best 🙌❤🔥
Mark, you have no idea how thankful I am for this video and your current direction
As I’m also learning everything about RUclips creation, hearing your perspective on both sides of the mountains made a huge impact on me.
I’m incredibly excited to see what you will create with this channel. As someone who read your books and articles multiple times, I have no doubt that it will resonate with all of us.
You have my fullest support 🙌
I found you by accident one day when i was looking for meaning in my life and explanations why i'm doing stuff that i'm doing now. From that point on i became fixing everything step by step, improving myself on the process. I love your work and how digestible it is for someone who is not a native english speaker. One of my biggest dreams now is to have a moment to actually tell you face to face how much you helped me and how my struggles became obsolete when you can see whole picture. Wish you all the best and i hope that you will never burn out. World needs more people like you
I LOVE YOU AND I SUPPORT YOU!! You deserve this Mark. Be a beginner. Be excited. Be amazing. Climb.
You got it man.... Unlearning is the best thing. There is true joy in learning without having a fear of fall.
Mark, I am a very shy person and I struggled a lot the last week with a lot of anxiety. On Friday I bought your 2nd book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and it helped me a lot. I will study it and read it. Besides, I laughed a lot with your blog post about the problem or paradox of Self-Improvement. I like how you take things to weird extremes, to show us important lessons. Thanks Mark!
Keep going Bro you'll eventually make it
So many people in my life don't understand doing things that you don't have to do. Challenge and failure and learning new things gives me a high. Once I'm proficient I get bored. I won a city wide award for my business 2 years in a row now. Where do I go from here? The first time it was great. The second time, I was like meh. Glad other people get it. ❤️
Good for you man. Having a creative outlet that isn't your 'known for' is so important as a creative as you get to learn something new, in your vision, what ever that will be, from trial and error.. true creativity is trying, making mistakes and be happy with it 👍
Probably the one and only video that inspired me in a loooong time.
Bro the title had basically nothing to do with the content of the video.
This is a video I very much needed to hear, thank you and good luck for your next mountain!
What pisses me off about this is that Mark isn't "starting over". He's producing the same stuff he's been writing about his whole career and is starting with hundreds of thousands of viewers. This isn't starting over; it's expanding the market.
Furthermore this comment will just be burred under hundreds of comments from big channels blowing smoke and showing support.
You want to start out again? Don't use your brand, don't use your contacts, and try to grow a RUclips channel organically on the back of the content... not your existing success.
Completely agree. And I found your comment:) I sometimes switch to from oldest to find different kinds of comments.
Actually, I’m an old person greatly helped by your insights and frankness to realise that I do not in fact have it sussed.
Cheers!
Mark i really appreciate your work you gave a lots of education from your books or vedios..
The thrill of possibly failing because of risk is so much more exciting than risking current success because of possible failure.
Absolutely love it.
Music's a bit too loud while talking :/
You are so gutsy, coming out with your real life struggles
Awesome. I was wondering when you were gonna start taking this platform seriously. So much potential
Thanks for sharing this with us Mark. To be honest I was scared that this channel was dead. Glad to hear that the channel is alive.
So interesting that I just found your channel.
What you outline in this video was how I lived my life.
I recently realized that: I'd devote 2 straight years of my life to something, get really good at it, plateau, and move on.
This made me a jack of all trades.
What inspired me was what you shared.
Creativity, exploration, pushing myself, and having fun.
I found after about 2 years in, I would begin to treat whatever it was like a job.
I'd put way too much pressure on myself to continue growing at the pace I did.
If I stagnated, or worst back-tracked, it was too much.
Recently, I decided to take up video editing.
I had never considered it like making music.
Each cut, each frame, the tempo, the build up, how you order clips, all creates a story, a song.
Thanks for sharing this video!
It's helped me feel better about the past, and more excited for the future!
I’m happy you’ve found a new endeavour, a new goal in life. I love your books and your videos. Simple but brilliant!
I wish I could like this video twice - I found your newest content and am deep diving into your older stuff - so you succeeded though I knew of the book TAONGAF I hadn't read it, and I came here because of a new video, and now I'm working my way backwards. I did see a disconnect between your older content and newer which this video explains.
I have been climbing my mountain for 30 years and this video has helped me reframe that journey. Two years ago Irealised that the top of the mountain wasn't going to give me fulfilment because eI met people who were there and still struggling in this writer's journey. But this video helped me reframe the last 30 years and be thankful for them because had I reached success early I might have not had all those years of joy you mention trying with nothing to lose. So thank you for sharing.
You have no idea how much!!!!!! this resonates with me.
I live to try new things and fail at it and win sometimes too! I missed your hiatus during the newsletter sabbatical!
I love your perseverance and perspective!
Only difference, I’m still an unpublished aspiring author! 😂
Love your work Mark!
Yay - P.S. I love your shorts so please please do keep posting those - even if they are snippets of knowledge from your older videos
Let’s go Mark ! You are gonna excel at this too !
All the best on your New Journey Mark! Whether you succeed or Mess up.....keep on going!
After losing against his animators who were on strike, Walt Disney was so pissed off, he did not give a damn about his studios and delegated their management on other people. So he spent hours each day riding with his daughters on his life size model trains with tracks that went around the house… they had so much fun, that a light bulb went on in his head… a park with a railroad that went through all scenarios of his movies… the concept of the Theme Park was born… and he regained his passion for the kind of work he loved
The green background and light is cool. I wish you had a white diffuse light from your front left to light the shadows on your face.
Everything in this video, from your words to the green screen to the last bit where you get up from your chair, shows humility and honesty. Good luck, Mark.
I’m really expectant for what’s coming from you😍😍. I love you Mark and you will always have my support
I am 66 and thinking about going to law school. Cool eh?
Wish you the best !!
As is rightly said: The JOURNEY is the reward.
Once you achieve success you become a brand, a role model. Then you stop taking risks, making changes looks dangerous. But your authenticity is more relatable then people validating persona. You do you Mark Manson. Thanks for your "Models" and "The Subtle Art..."
I am always, always, ALWAYS, eagerly expecting a new video from you. And when it comes out I know it's a good one.
I recently started a self help channel, i am a regular reader of your monthly newsletter and i’ve read your two books, your content is always relevant and helpful
keep inspiring..
Glad to see you around again Mark, looking slim man!
I love how real you are. Always so authentic with your advice and relatable. Good luck!!
I love listening to you
Not a lot of people have the guts to move out of the norm, even if it takes a toll on your fulfilment.
So glad you're doing this. Here's to a future of both awesome [& crappy] videos🥂
*money
Love all your work gets better every time.
I feel like the timing of this video couldn't have been more perfect for where I'm currently at in my life (mid-30's, recently accepted a prestigious position in my field). I'm still riding the thrill of the "climb" but I've felt like I'm about to summit soon. Thank you, Mark. You've truly been one of the most influential people in my life.
I feel like I've changed and you helped me a great deal. Thank you.
I'm 30 and know these exact feelings and am just starting my own youtube journey myself (most of my footage is yet to be aired sorry) Being good and successful at something brings its own pressures and I'm enjoying starting from scratch
Reminds me of the Sysiphus mith! That's the best mindset. Enjoy the grind! Thanks man!
Hey Mark, I‘m an elderly person still working on her self-improvement. 👵🏻 you’re funny and wise. I instantly hit the subscribe button, now I’m looking forward to your new content. ❤
Good luck with your new venture. We never stop learning, do we?