Dating Standards & Struggling With Self Worth

It's one thing to have standards, it's another to actually live it... How many of us have a list of so called standards, yet we date people who are nothing like that, and run away from any guy who seems to be good on paper? There are deeper things at play - lack of self worth, fear of change, fear of being hurt... Because you know what? The closer you are to what you desire, the scarier it is! What is it doesn't work out, what if he leaves? That will be so much worse than the familiar frustration of dating someone below your standards. Let's talk about it.

[@lootusart]

thank you for this take! Definitely, something to think about! will be waiting for the next one about how to overcome it

[@larsf.4756]

I don't think the standards are actually standards, but requirements. They are not absolute, but you wish them to be met. Maybe he's 5'10'', but would you really not date him because of it if you feel like a better person around him? Another thing that pops into my head when I hear the term "standard": You really don't get what you deserve, you get what you can negotiate. Nothing will happen without a significant effort to make it happen, yet you are still not able to predict the outcome.

[@LizFoxter]

I love this 👏🏻👏🏻 you get what you can negotiate, so true in all aspects of life!