And the sooner you know, the better. That way, you can find people who DO care. Goood luuck! It's a tough world out there. Bad people don't have signs on their head saying they are! ..
I agree. I did that but my mistake was to second guess it years later giving the person the benefit of the doubt. Turns out they were never who I thought they were. It's sad. There's no trust worthy friends. They're left with prayer.
@@ForeverXO i agree too . Even to walk away silently too helps. Also forgiving but don’t give too many chances. I had to learn that I can’t give people chances at all anymore
It's easier said than done.When there were signs and life brought us a separate way.I'm sure about my feelings but not more sure about the other person
Biggest lesson of my life learnt. Don't accept hurtful behavior from someone just because you love them, when you wouldn't accept it from anyone else. I know it's not easy to let go but all one can do is to just pray for them and leave them to God. 🌸
It's hard to fucking let go never had help or fucking support before grew up rough high crime neighborhoods how the fuck I suppose to know what fucking love is about damn why can't nobody fucking help me
yeah i hope you know God enough well? God is always there for us and never leave us no matter what we do. as long as you still keep breathing, you can always have a new chance.
If both person follow your idea, it will leads to deadlock. 😂. Both will keep waiting for each other endlessly. I would say, if you care, talk to the person without making too much delays.
@MichaelBeck-uf6ek , The trick to that is to take the needed breaks from it and give to yourself, treat yourself with the kindness you deserve. Plus someone up there is taking note and appreciates you. 🌸
Narsisistic trap. Been there done that. After some months it was the complete opposite. Would prefer a woman that you grow closer together with over time.
Love 😍 this comment!!! ❤😊🎉😮 Thanks!! Needed to "hear" that!! Beautiful advice..... now, say a prayer that I will "follow" this great advice, please & thank you!!! ❤❤❤😊🎉😉
I dont chase, I attract. But believed me what is meant for u is meant to be. U can control only yourself , but u cannot control out there, its about waisting energy. Be calm and concentrate to love yourself more😊
He rejected me, lied, and was carrying on with his ex, so my silence is not because I don't care. I still love him, but I must love myself more. My silence is self respect.
Its better to keep your sharp teeth hidden till they reveal their true nature. Wait for the right time and orchestrate the right scenario to give a final blow. 🥰 The last scorpio chick i dealt with will forever be conscious of respecting other's dark side because of what i did to her. Lesson taught and lesson learnt. 🤗
Facts!!! Sometimes they'll do that cuz they feel sorry for you play with you or just bored because they have nothing else to do happend to me a while ago women are just weird these days straight up
But no one has a perfect life. Things can fuck up any minute. No one's life is perfect. Problems can arise at anytime. Accidents, illness, job loss, etc. !
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
I prayed to Allah about this situation...I kept feeling she felt something for me so I couldn't move on and I was shown this..thank you sir for making this video,everything u said matches with my situation.
Not necessarily. These issues are very culture sensitive. She might indeed have feelings for you but is waiting for you to make the move. Do it anyway so you won't regret it later. You can be tactful.. and respectful. She'll appreciate that.
Once upon a time I was stupid enough to chase and kept asking why everything changed just overnight after a couple of years of mutual affection. The more I pushed the colder she became. Then one day I thought, damn, I bet the She I dream about well might be just round the corner. And so it happened even quicker than I thought. And I learned one more lesson: if you love, it may be a blessing. But if you ARE LOVED it is a real happiness. Do not underestimate those who love you, for it is a very rare thing in this universe. Thank you for this video!
If one chases someone, they'll run. It might have worked out if one would simply sit back and chill. Don't put others on a pedistal. Remember, YOU are the star of your life. Let others be your fans.
My case also same , we are in relationship for more than 1 1/2 year now my bf doing different... We are in long distance relationship from beginning we didn't met also so he want my presence so he saying not feeling excited all the day ... I'm giving all my love and support him but even though I lose my consciousness some times I get more angry on his behaviour and not time giving and asking made him cold on that moment... I'm pressing him more with my love and my expectations... I itself said break and I went again and now he is saying let's not contact for somedays so we will be okay and get time to focus on ourselves... I agreed but still I'm thinking him daily and I'm afraid what if he forget me fully... But I don't want to force my going again within one or two days... But I want to go 😔... I don't know what to do
I'll give you an answer and you won't like it, he doesn't love you anymore, but i don't think he ever did,forget about him,don't text or call him,throw everything of his that remind you of him,yes even photos he's not worth it and never was, he's not your Knight in shining armour, now concentrate on your life now and pick yourself up and dust yourself down , and find yourself once again, time on your own will be good, go out with friends and set your goals of things you want to achieve, that is the real you,then one day when the pain has gone and your living your best life possible, you maybe shopping in tesco or out somewhere and you will meet your mr right ❤. @@Taehyng145
He ignored me, I pinged. He ignored again this time for a month. I apologised not understanding what went wrong. He still didn't ping me back for a month. After 2 months I Said he could reach back when his anger is over for whatever reason. It's been 3 months, he didn't message me back. I stopped messaging. How ever , I do look at my last 3 message with mixed emotion. A part of me grieve for the self respect I lost . A part of me proud that I loved him whole heartedly. Btw, it was a 1.5 year long relationship wher he often said he would love to make me his wife. ❤ So ladies and guys, if they love, they will reach out.
If you were put in no contact, you didn’t qualify for the person that put you there. My heart goes out to females for the delusion created by social media. Apps provide under qualified females access to men they’d otherwise not have. These men are never seen in public with them, use them, & discard them. Sorry - It wasn’t a relationship. You weren’t dating. You allowed yourself to be used. There are a limited number of “10’s” in the world. Both male & female. Eat the ego cookie, get your ass off the couch, hit the gym, and appreciate someone that’s kind and reciprocal.
Why's this sooo relatable. It was for like a good 6 months. All of sudden he ghosted me. I didn't texted thinking may be he wants space. After a few days I reacted to one of his blogs n he blocks me after that. I really don't know when everything was fine what went wrong but now instead of guessing I say their loss n move on.
What a quote that can be applied to almost anything we are trying to fight: “In world where everyone’s value is on the rise, make sure you are not selling yourself short”
sO True! It hurts! let it hurt all it has to hurt! let arrogant or Indifferent person go! so a better person can arrive to heal & lOve our broken 💔 hearts!
@@ysl23addidasq Hold your head up. Don’t judge yourself by anybody, male or female. If you do, you’re not being your own man. You’re being their ‘idea’ of what a man they ‘think’ should be. Not what a man truly is. Be your own man. Not anybody else’s, ever. Here’s something else to not only consider, but realize. You’re a big fish in a small pond. Big fish don’t make small ponds. The little fish do. Females have made their pond small, intentionally. You just happen to still be in it. Stay there. Being the big fish in a small pond doesn’t mean you have to swim/compete with/win over the small fish. Be the ONLY independent big fish-only fish in that small pond. Set boundaries and never change them. Think with the head on your shoulders first and always. Focus on you and your career without considering what the small fish think, say or do. Just stay independent of those small fish and observe how they can’t even stand each other. Thats your proof they are the common denominator. Not you. Your first boundary is:Never be with people, make or female but especially female, who want more FROM you than they want more FOR you. Every other boundary is designed and built off that first boundary. And in doing so, self confidence is natural. Not faked and inconsistent. Focus on stoicism. It does wonders concerning what life throws at those who adopt it as their next boundary. Study it. Adapt it. Never lose it. Ever. You never know. You might meet the right one. Even in that small pond where you’re the big fish. Ultimately, you’ll be the prize. Not the small fish. And you may very well find that fish who genuinely wants more FOR you than FROM you. Think about this human nature fact. When two fish come together and want more FOR the other than FROM the other, they BOTH get what they want, need and desire. You’ll BOTH be the supplier of what the other wants, needs and desires. A win-win. Remember. Female fish EARN the label of a woman. Also, females think in terms of emotion and all their actions, decisions, and choice come from emotions. On the other hand, we men think critically and analytically. In one word, practicality. If each way of thinking clash, the reason the small fish made the big pond small, intentionally, neither is right for or will be the right one for the other. However, practicality and emotional thinking CAN work if there’s mature, calm, honest and sincere communication from both with no competition from either side as to who’s right or wrong. Used together in the right way, those two fish can build their own big pond, together, and be the only occupants, regardless of what life throws their way. It’s called teamwork. This two are truly teammates in this game we call life. And, life is hard. Nothing we can do about that, even with the right fish. But, when falls happen, learn from them and move forward, never backward. That’s called falling forward. Marinate on that. Use critical and analytical thinking to see the benefits for both. Keep your head up, your emotions, regardless of what they are, to yourself. Take time out to think about how to successfully operate in this game we call life, independently, figure out what you can control and accept the things you cannot control. The phrase-It is what it is, is key and very helpful to let go of what you can’t control. Courage is moving forward regardless of fear, doubt and discomfort. Be courageous. You’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish. Not everyone is willing to do that, even though everyone can. Be the fish willing to be courageous. One thing you can control is you. No one else can you control or control you. Also, you can’t change anybody, male or female. Only they can. You can change yourself, but only in the right way and for the right reasons. And those reasons are explained above. Read this whole thing again. Marinate on each point individually. Remember them. You’ll soon realize how one can’t work without the other. Replace a negative thought with two positive thoughts. Start easy. Two positive thoughts are, you saw the sun set and the sun rise again. There’s a lot of info here. Save it. Take as many screenshots as you need to, to get it all. Refer back to it. You’re young (I’m 60). You’re closer to when you were born than when you will die. It’s easy to feel sorry for one’s self. It’s hard to be courageous and experience the benefit of courage. Nothing worth having is easy. You’re equipped to succeed. And because of that, you WILL succeed. Dude. You 🫵 got this!
One more comment for I read a couple that reaching to each other and clearing up should happen from both ends: Please note that there are some who would not willing to love you any longer but would not willing to lose you at the same time. Such persons would never give you any clear answers, just holding you on like a dog pet. No way to clear up anything with them.
Single men out there, always initiate, reach out and be decisive with your intentions. Masculinity is all about persuit and persistence, so don't give up and go after the woman of your dreams. The woman who builds feelings for you will eventually stick around. Just don't give up until you know for sure it's over.
This is good advice. Even if the woman builds feelings, she may leave if she doesn't feel confident in the relationship and doesn't receive clear intentions from you. Women need to know that you won't give up on them
@@TheDevilsInterval Mate, the pull away rule only applies if you're in a relationship. Don't be doing that at the beginning. If you've reached out and she's flaking or acting cold, yes then you can pull away, in fact call it quits. I said "decisive with your intentions" for a reason.
the fact that them reaching out doesn't always mean they care. sometimes they just want to abuse you more. so my point is.. never trust a person who abused you once.. they never change and will more likely end up hurting you again.
We’re all so good at making things up in our heads, things we wanted but we’re never, ever there. It seems to just be a part of the human condition. I guess live with it for a while, but notice every day the complete lack of action on their part. Be honest with yourself, let reality sink in, and the truth will set you free.
Amen!! You are exactly right!! Thank you for sharing this amazing message with us!! God Bless everyone!! I really needed to hear this message!! I completely agree with you!! 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜💜❣️❣️❣️❣️♥️♥️♥️♥️💙💙💙💙💙💙🙌🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏👏⭐⭐⭐⭐👍👍👍👍
I agree, no one is that busy where they cant contact you its all about priorities. There are some exemptions though such as if they are in military or doctors such professions where they have to prioritise someone❤😊
Same here! I haven’t reached out. I am not out here living my best life. I am just trying to figure my life out and sitting back waiting figuring out how long this will go on. However, if I happen to meet someone else in the meantime, I will just meet someone else and move on.
@@FavDogBisquit I am not waiting for them. I am trying to figure my life out in all aspects. If they act right and do right that’s cool. If not, I am definitely open to meeting someone else. My main focus right now is me, myself and I.
Yes. I think writing him after all these years, might’ve confirmed there was nothing really there, in the first place. That, perhaps, I may have saved myself problems, too.
If you were put in no contact, you didn’t qualify for the person that put you there. My heart goes out to females for the delusion created by social media. Apps provide under qualified females access to men they’d otherwise not have. These men are never seen in public with them, use them, & discard them. Sorry - It wasn’t a relationship. You weren’t dating. You allowed yourself to be used. There are a limited number of “10’s” in the world. Both male & female. Eat the ego cookie, get your ass off the couch, hit the gym, and appreciate someone that’s kind and reciprocal.
Thanks for this clarification.. it’s been 7 years that I have been waiting for someone for nothing. If they care they would have reached out. I have been put in this situation forcefully. No more waiting.. Now it’s time to raise..
I was no contact for 4 months with the person to whom I have had super strong feelings because I knew that I have to work on myself So it’s not always true, especially when you wanna build the family and when you know that you need to heal yourself and change yourself
I'm not confused here. Me , my time, my money, my energy, my concern, my dignity, my worth, my value , if I had to heal from you personally STAY THE HELL AWAY from me, I dont want you back!! TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE. Nuff said!
At to some extent yes I agree. But sometimes you still care, but you know they best thing to do is to stay silent, some times the other person is in another relationship already, sometimes the other person is stuck on drugs, sometimes the other person is abusive. Sometimes it's just best to stay away, even if you still care for the person.
Thanks for the guidance, one day we'll be gathering I told her that it's a God approved and soulmate connection, God tells me in prayer but she is still quiet and I'm waiting if she doesn't come, no issues God is with me every moment every time in Jesus mighty and loving name. Amen 🙏🙏❤️❤️💜💜
Your absolutely rite, and here i am second guessing, stressing, not knowing wht to dew. Feeln lost@ this moment. Its not the fact the person doesnt care, maybe thr goin through smethn.
I want you to understand just how profoundly I love this man. He occupies a special place in my heart, and he could have been my everything if circumstances had been different. Even now, if he were to return, he would still be my top priority. Yet, despite these overwhelming feelings, I find myself unable to reach out. It’s not because I’m blocked; it’s a matter of self-respect. I fear he might think I don’t care, even though my heart aches to hear from him. The silence is unbearable, and it breaks my heart to think he might believe I’ve moved on when, in truth, I’m still holding onto hope for us.
Make sure you truly reaching out, there's a difference in talking at someone and talking to them. I like to assure people what you are hearing is coming from me and not my representitive that way we both can clear up any misunderstanding and decide where do we go from here...
Yup, I'm pretty sure that's true for me and my guy. It sucks because I keep interpreting his not reaching out as not caring about me or being interested but my intiution tells me that's not the case, yet the deep feelings I have are still so raw even a year later that I get panic attacks when I think about reaching out in any meaningful way... and I'm an extrovert. He's the most introverted person I know. If I feel this way there's no hope for him lol
U can analyze the chat history if u send something the other side replies dry formal no interest in asking about it like before Its a hint You aren't interest for her/he
He's right. I may be sad about it, but it is what it is, and it's time to move on . That's the reality of things as much as I wish I could let everything go, which I'm doing, but sometimes those random feels pop up every now and then, and I wish for it to stop caz they are not the one and they never will be
I absolutely do agree with u💯 that's why I walked and didn't look bk now he's the one wondering where am I 🤨🤔he tried to reach out I had him blocked I did not answer the message where there's no trust there's no relationship period,I'm good moving forward thank u for clarification ❤an✨🌟⭐☀️
Yet you’re still talking about him? If you were put in no contact, you didn’t qualify for the person that put you there. My heart goes out to females for the delusion created by social media. Apps provide under qualified females access to men they’d otherwise not have. These men are never seen in public with them, use them, & discard them. Sorry - It wasn’t a relationship. You weren’t dating. You allowed yourself to be used. There are a limited number of “10’s” in the world. Both male & female. Eat the ego cookie, get your ass off the couch, hit the gym, and appreciate someone that’s kind and reciprocal.
I agree, I totally get it now after I read this.. I have been doing it all wrong. I think it's time to let her go and move on and be happy somewhere else
Definitely can see no interest. I knew it all along. That's why he discarded me despite proposing to me. 10 years of my life down the drain. I'm going to be 27 soon, the best years of my life were robbed from me. But life moves on, and I know I have to, too.
Your best years are to come…and now you’ve learned some lessons so you’re ready for whoever comes next. And whoever comes next will be there because the last 10 years have led you to that point. Good luck, it’s going to be okay!
Holy moly I swear to God this is what I am going through right now. Exactly what you said in this video. Is this universe giving me a message???? And yeah thanks for making this video its an eye opener. Subscribed!
Agreed , my best value is dedicated for God, not men . Never sell ourselves short ! It’s not worth it to obsess over someone not worth our time . We can give back to ourselves and those that truly love and care about us, only thise that see our best interest without motives , using us , and-or abuse . No to narcissists
I know everyone's situation isn't the same but for my particular situation, I was shown a few nights ago as God revealed why my person chose to go silent and ignore instead of actually communicating. That person doesn't have to worry about my msgs anymore because my questions about why everything having happened as it did, were answered by God. I know the truth. 🌸
Yeah, my ex came back to me and told me to wait for him for future. But actually, he don't care about me. He didn't called all days and night. So I need to neglect him. Thank you for your advice.
Yes thanks for clarifying it isn't they are hiding their feelings they don't F-ing care💯
And the sooner you know, the better. That way, you can find people who DO care. Goood luuck! It's a tough world out there. Bad people don't have signs on their head saying they are! ..
We live in a world where people don't care. Don't take it personally. In the end your character is way too valuable for theirs.
I do care, but I'm f-ing good at hiding it
EXACTLY!! NOBODY'S GOT TIME FOR NO F...KIN GAMES. EITHER YOU DO OR YOU DONT!!! YOU CAN SHOW ME BETTER THAN U CAN TELL ME!!
Caring &NSA are 2different things
Yes, sad but true. Sometimes it's the best thing to walk away when someone is silent.
I agree. I did that but my mistake was to second guess it years later giving the person the benefit of the doubt. Turns out they were never who I thought they were. It's sad. There's no trust worthy friends. They're left with prayer.
@@ForeverXO i agree too . Even to walk away silently too helps. Also forgiving but don’t give too many chances. I had to learn that I can’t give people chances at all anymore
@MichaelBeck-uf6ek ,
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@MichaelBeck-uf6ek ,
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Or maybe he is waiting for you to break the silence, and you left him waiting 😳🤸
Don’t waste time on the wrong people. Focus on the people who brings you love and joy.
It's easier said than done.When there were signs and life brought us a separate way.I'm sure about my feelings but not more sure about the other person
I Don't agree with video no body know what is there in anyone's heart just pray and rest live it to GOD
@@KSRSANTOSHCHOWDARY maybe one is shy and introverted
I just posed someone I trusted most and cheated with another guy and they slept with in a month now she want us to fix thing😢😢😢
Exactly 💯 i put my efforts on wrong person now i am suffering 😢😢😢😢😢 unable to forget him... he is being very happy in his life
Biggest lesson of my life learnt. Don't accept hurtful behavior from someone just because you love them, when you wouldn't accept it from anyone else. I know it's not easy to let go but all one can do is to just pray for them and leave them to God. 🌸
It's hard to fucking let go never had help or fucking support before grew up rough high crime neighborhoods how the fuck I suppose to know what fucking love is about damn why can't nobody fucking help me
No one wants to be around your foul mouth! Clean it up! Work on your vocabulary. Ask God, all can improve!
@@youngjoshhiechicagoporter2452 ,
What kind of help are you wanting exactly?
If someone cares for you
Regardless of what happened, that person will contact you
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yeah i hope you know God enough well? God is always there for us and never leave us no matter what we do. as long as you still keep breathing, you can always have a new chance.
If both person follow your idea, it will leads to deadlock. 😂. Both will keep waiting for each other endlessly. I would say, if you care, talk to the person without making too much delays.
@MichaelBeck-uf6ek ,
Thank you. 🌸
@MichaelBeck-uf6ek ,
The trick to that is to take the needed breaks from it and give to yourself, treat yourself with the kindness you deserve. Plus someone up there is taking note and appreciates you. 🌸
Go where you're celebrated not where you're tolerated. 💯% Fact (Definitely a game changer).
Narsisistic trap. Been there done that. After some months it was the complete opposite. Would prefer a woman that you grow closer together with over time.
Love 😍 this comment!!! ❤😊🎉😮 Thanks!! Needed to "hear" that!! Beautiful advice..... now, say a prayer that I will "follow" this great advice, please & thank you!!! ❤❤❤😊🎉😉
I dont chase, I attract. But believed me what is meant for u is meant to be. U can control only yourself , but u cannot control out there, its about waisting energy. Be calm and concentrate to love yourself more😊
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Amen
He rejected me, lied, and was carrying on with his ex, so my silence is not because I don't care. I still love him, but I must love myself more. My silence is self respect.
Well done girl.
Finally someone with common sense thank you.
Good for you. But the video isn't about that particular situation. I still support you tho.
I agree with you totally
@@amandaspencer217 now you can get on with your new life and I'm sure lots of good things will come your way, a better life and something to live for.
I agree. No calls, no feelings. The end.
You can’t know people truly even if you think you do, they always have a side you didn’t see
Its better to keep your sharp teeth hidden till they reveal their true nature. Wait for the right time and orchestrate the right scenario to give a final blow. 🥰 The last scorpio chick i dealt with will forever be conscious of respecting other's dark side because of what i did to her. Lesson taught and lesson learnt. 🤗
@@poetictriangle1037 Scorpios are known for their devotion. It’s the Pisces that you have to watch out for.
@@Rebelmusedesign Pisces are known for their big hearts and loving nature , its scorpio's toxic hateful side that needs to be watched out.
True
Ok enough astrology lectures
Absolutely....without the shadow of a doubt. I gave up a long time ago. Will never chase a shadow!!!
Even if they reach out, it don’t mean nothing. They can still careless
Facts!!! Sometimes they'll do that cuz they feel sorry for you play with you or just bored because they have nothing else to do happend to me a while ago women are just weird these days straight up
@@christianhaynes4927 RIGHT!
Sister, This is Soooooo #TRUE🎉@@Jac735
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN,Sister 🎉🎉🎉
Temperature checking 😅.
Life is shorter than you think ,don't waste time with the toxic and negative..🙏♥️
Yes absolutely agree
They are definitely living there best life😢
But no one has a perfect life. Things can fuck up any minute. No one's life is perfect. Problems can arise at anytime. Accidents, illness, job loss, etc. !
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
why did she leave u after 5 years?
I prayed to Allah about this situation...I kept feeling she felt something for me so I couldn't move on and I was shown this..thank you sir for making this video,everything u said matches with my situation.
Ameen, i am feeling same right now, I will pray for you, pray for me too
You lost at allah 🤷🏽♂️ Why do you Abrahamists believe Yahweh the Destroyer is going to give you some 🍑? 😂
Not necessarily.
These issues are very culture sensitive.
She might indeed have feelings for you but is waiting for you to make the move.
Do it anyway so you won't regret it later.
You can be tactful.. and respectful. She'll appreciate that.
The man who is too scared to take risks will be deprived of the most beautiful things in life.
And this also applies to religion by the way.
Try talking to the Lord Jesus .
Once upon a time I was stupid enough to chase and kept asking why everything changed just overnight after a couple of years of mutual affection. The more I pushed the colder she became. Then one day I thought, damn, I bet the She I
dream about well might be just round the corner. And so it happened even quicker than I thought.
And I learned one more lesson: if you love, it may be a blessing. But if you ARE LOVED it is a real happiness. Do not underestimate those who love you, for it is a very rare thing in this universe.
Thank you for this video!
If one chases someone, they'll run. It might have worked out if one would simply sit back and chill. Don't put others on a pedistal. Remember, YOU are the star of your life. Let others be your fans.
@@mgtow6450 👍🤝
My case also same , we are in relationship for more than 1 1/2 year now my bf doing different... We are in long distance relationship from beginning we didn't met also so he want my presence so he saying not feeling excited all the day ... I'm giving all my love and support him but even though I lose my consciousness some times I get more angry on his behaviour and not time giving and asking made him cold on that moment... I'm pressing him more with my love and my expectations... I itself said break and I went again and now he is saying let's not contact for somedays so we will be okay and get time to focus on ourselves... I agreed but still I'm thinking him daily and I'm afraid what if he forget me fully... But I don't want to force my going again within one or two days... But I want to go 😔... I don't know what to do
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I'll give you an answer and you won't like it, he doesn't love you anymore, but i don't think he ever did,forget about him,don't text or call him,throw everything of his that remind you of him,yes even photos
he's not worth it and never was, he's not your Knight in shining armour, now concentrate on your life now and pick yourself up and dust yourself down , and find yourself once again, time on your own will be good, go out with friends and set your goals of things you want to achieve, that is the real you,then one day when the pain has gone and your living your best life possible, you maybe shopping in tesco or out somewhere and you will meet your mr right ❤. @@Taehyng145
they're not a great loss in your life if they don't contact you.😅
I needed to hear this thank you
Me too😥
He ignored me, I pinged. He ignored again this time for a month. I apologised not understanding what went wrong.
He still didn't ping me back for a month.
After 2 months I Said he could reach back when his anger is over for whatever reason.
It's been 3 months, he didn't message me back.
I stopped messaging.
How ever , I do look at my last 3 message with mixed emotion.
A part of me grieve for the self respect I lost . A part of me proud that I loved him whole heartedly.
Btw, it was a 1.5 year long relationship wher he often said he would love to make me his wife.
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So ladies and guys, if they love, they will reach out.
If you were put in no contact, you didn’t qualify for the person that put you there.
My heart goes out to females for the delusion created by social media. Apps provide under qualified females access to men they’d otherwise not have.
These men are never seen in public with them, use them, & discard them.
Sorry - It wasn’t a relationship. You weren’t dating. You allowed yourself to be used. There are a limited number of “10’s” in the world. Both male & female. Eat the ego cookie, get your ass off the couch, hit the gym, and appreciate someone that’s kind and reciprocal.
He sounds like an Avoidant. There's a lot of videos on here about that. I suggest you look them up and watch. They'll blow your mind. Good luck 👍🏾
Why's this sooo relatable. It was for like a good 6 months. All of sudden he ghosted me. I didn't texted thinking may be he wants space. After a few days I reacted to one of his blogs n he blocks me after that. I really don't know when everything was fine what went wrong but now instead of guessing I say their loss n move on.
Same story is happening with me🥺
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What a quote that can be applied to almost anything we are trying to fight: “In world where everyone’s value is on the rise, make sure you are not selling yourself short”
Someone always gets hurt & someone always regrets...
Communication is so important!! Honesty !!!❤❤
#Absolutely 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
sO True! It hurts! let it hurt all it has to hurt! let arrogant or Indifferent person go! so a better person can arrive to heal & lOve our broken 💔 hearts!
Be with the ones who want more FOR you, not the ones who want more FROM you.
Thank u for saying this I needed to read this today 😢
@@ysl23addidasq
Hold your head up. Don’t judge yourself by anybody, male or female. If you do, you’re not being your own man. You’re being their ‘idea’ of what a man they ‘think’ should be.
Not what a man truly is.
Be your own man. Not anybody else’s, ever.
Here’s something else to not only consider, but realize.
You’re a big fish in a small pond. Big fish don’t make small ponds. The little fish do.
Females have made their pond small, intentionally. You just happen to still be in it.
Stay there.
Being the big fish in a small pond doesn’t mean you have to swim/compete with/win over the small fish.
Be the ONLY independent big fish-only fish in that small pond. Set boundaries and never change them.
Think with the head on your shoulders first and always.
Focus on you and your career without considering what the small fish think, say or do.
Just stay independent of those small fish and observe how they can’t even stand each other.
Thats your proof they are the common denominator. Not you.
Your first boundary is:Never be with people, make or female but especially female, who want more FROM you than they want more FOR you.
Every other boundary is designed and built off that first boundary.
And in doing so, self confidence is natural. Not faked and inconsistent.
Focus on stoicism. It does wonders concerning what life throws at those who adopt it as their next boundary.
Study it. Adapt it. Never lose it.
Ever.
You never know. You might meet the right one.
Even in that small pond where you’re the big fish. Ultimately, you’ll be the prize. Not the small fish.
And you may very well find that fish who genuinely wants more FOR you than FROM you.
Think about this human nature fact.
When two fish come together and want more FOR the other than FROM the other, they BOTH get what they want, need and desire.
You’ll BOTH be the supplier of what the other wants, needs and desires.
A win-win.
Remember. Female fish EARN the label of a woman.
Also, females think in terms of emotion and all their actions, decisions, and choice come from emotions.
On the other hand, we men think critically and analytically. In one word, practicality.
If each way of thinking clash, the reason the small fish made the big pond small, intentionally, neither is right for or will be the right one for the other.
However, practicality and emotional thinking CAN work if there’s mature, calm, honest and sincere communication from both with no competition from either side as to who’s right or wrong.
Used together in the right way, those two fish can build their own big pond, together, and be the only occupants, regardless of what life throws their way.
It’s called teamwork. This two are truly teammates in this game we call life.
And, life is hard. Nothing we can do about that, even with the right fish. But, when falls happen, learn from them and move forward, never backward.
That’s called falling forward.
Marinate on that. Use critical and analytical thinking to see the benefits for both.
Keep your head up, your emotions, regardless of what they are, to yourself. Take time out to think about how to successfully operate in this game we call life, independently, figure out what you can control and accept the things you cannot control. The phrase-It is what it is, is key and very helpful to let go of what you can’t control.
Courage is moving forward regardless of fear, doubt and discomfort.
Be courageous. You’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish.
Not everyone is willing to do that, even though everyone can.
Be the fish willing to be courageous.
One thing you can control is you. No one else can you control or control you.
Also, you can’t change anybody, male or female. Only they can.
You can change yourself, but only in the right way and for the right reasons.
And those reasons are explained above.
Read this whole thing again.
Marinate on each point individually. Remember them.
You’ll soon realize how one can’t work without the other.
Replace a negative thought with two positive thoughts.
Start easy.
Two positive thoughts are, you saw the sun set and the sun rise again.
There’s a lot of info here. Save it. Take as many screenshots as you need to, to get it all. Refer back to it.
You’re young (I’m 60). You’re closer to when you were born than when you will die.
It’s easy to feel sorry for one’s self. It’s hard to be courageous and experience the benefit of courage.
Nothing worth having is easy.
You’re equipped to succeed.
And because of that, you WILL succeed.
Dude. You 🫵 got this!
Yessss, no truer words were spoken
One more comment for I read a couple that reaching to each other and clearing up should happen from both ends:
Please note that there are some who would not willing to love you any longer but would not willing to lose you at the same time. Such persons would never give you any clear answers, just holding you on like a dog pet. No way to clear up anything with them.
I needed to hear this so bad. Thank you.
Single men out there, always initiate, reach out and be decisive with your intentions. Masculinity is all about persuit and persistence, so don't give up and go after the woman of your dreams.
The woman who builds feelings for you will eventually stick around. Just don't give up until you know for sure it's over.
This is good advice. Even if the woman builds feelings, she may leave if she doesn't feel confident in the relationship and doesn't receive clear intentions from you. Women need to know that you won't give up on them
This is horrible advice. Of course, it depends on what happened, but if she pulled away, do not chase.
@@TheDevilsInterval Mate, the pull away rule only applies if you're in a relationship. Don't be doing that at the beginning. If you've reached out and she's flaking or acting cold, yes then you can pull away, in fact call it quits. I said "decisive with your intentions" for a reason.
Well said 👍
I have just said in another comment that the man who is too scared to take risks will be deprived of the best things in life!
Thanks Lord single no kids
Thanks Lord for bible study class
Thanks Lord for your salvation
the fact that them reaching out doesn't always mean they care. sometimes they just want to abuse you more. so my point is.. never trust a person who abused you once.. they never change and will more likely end up hurting you again.
Praise God that I am living my best life❤🎉😊
We’re all so good at making things up in our heads, things we wanted but we’re never, ever there. It seems to just be a part of the human condition. I guess live with it for a while, but notice every day the complete lack of action on their part. Be honest with yourself, let reality sink in, and the truth will set you free.
Just want to be free from the motherfucking bullshit azz luv shit trap
"In a world where everyone's value is on the rise, make sure you're not selling yourself short" Damn good one.
Yes this is true. They have stopped to care. And you cannot trust them to take care of you in anyway. Be careful
"In a world where everyone's value is on the rise , don't sell yourself short"
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
Amen!! You are exactly right!! Thank you for sharing this amazing message with us!! God Bless everyone!! I really needed to hear this message!! I completely agree with you!! 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜💜❣️❣️❣️❣️♥️♥️♥️♥️💙💙💙💙💙💙🙌🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏👏⭐⭐⭐⭐👍👍👍👍
Going through a lotta shii, then RUclips recommend this. It's a sign, thank you❤
Wow. I swear I know I was meant to see this. 😢
This was a short & sweet video a reminder why I'm single and saving my energy 💯
All my questions answered , I'll stop being a fool now...... thank you so mucĥ for this video....... God bless you always
Yes, I totally agree. Thank you for this message. Blessed Be Brother 🌈
I agree, no one is that busy where they cant contact you its all about priorities. There are some exemptions though such as if they are in military or doctors such professions where they have to prioritise someone❤😊
Deep precious words.... Nature made me to hear this.... Somehow it got my sight that too early morning.... As a recommendation
You're very correct 💯
True. People should not sell themselves short, but, not everyones values is on the rise.
Excellent advice. Fatherly and compassionate.
I needed to hear this so bad but it's just too hard I don't know I am just lost but thank you very much for posting this video it means alot.
I cared but I did not reach out!!!!! I was protecting my feelings !!!
I think my guy and I are both there right now. It's a stalemate
Same here! I haven’t reached out. I am not out here living my best life. I am just trying to figure my life out and sitting back waiting figuring out how long this will go on. However, if I happen to meet someone else in the meantime, I will just meet someone else and move on.
@@DeNyce-how if you are waiting? For them?
@@FavDogBisquit I am not waiting for them. I am trying to figure my life out in all aspects. If they act right and do right that’s cool. If not, I am definitely open to meeting someone else. My main focus right now is me, myself and I.
God Says Be Happy For them☺️
Yes I totally agree damn I'm a dumb ass. And thank you for making this clear as glass now.
I address the statements and prosperity to all who are under the gleaming radiance of the divine.Godspeed and prosperity to all!
Yes. I think writing him after all these years, might’ve confirmed there was nothing really there, in the first place. That, perhaps, I may have saved myself problems, too.
Pride or ego will stop a person to contact you even they want you back
If you were put in no contact, you didn’t qualify for the person that put you there.
My heart goes out to females for the delusion created by social media. Apps provide under qualified females access to men they’d otherwise not have.
These men are never seen in public with them, use them, & discard them.
Sorry - It wasn’t a relationship. You weren’t dating. You allowed yourself to be used. There are a limited number of “10’s” in the world. Both male & female. Eat the ego cookie, get your ass off the couch, hit the gym, and appreciate someone that’s kind and reciprocal.
Then which this person priority/most important..
I don't be that no one never fucking tell me this bullshit before at young age who will fit in my shoes of what I had to put up with at young age
I actually needed this right now
I have ignored him....not because i dont care but because i want an apology
can’t reach out BLOCKED from everything I’m sure not reaching out I’m too busy reaching out to Yah/God I love it here💯♥️🙏🏾🙌🏾🔐
I'd rather loose a lover, than love a looser. Life is too short... ❤
Fr i have to download this vid to be my daily reminder
Thanks for this clarification.. it’s been 7 years that I have been waiting for someone for nothing. If they care they would have reached out. I have been put in this situation forcefully. No more waiting.. Now it’s time to raise..
Ofcourse.....why u wasted 7 yrs of ur life
@@anamikayadav7442 coz it was true love for me at least. It was true hence it was painful
@@anamikayadav7442 waited assuming she may realise one day but slowly that intuition starts fading. It hurts because it was true
True. I needed this.
I was no contact for 4 months with the person to whom I have had super strong feelings because I knew that I have to work on myself
So it’s not always true, especially when you wanna build the family and when you know that you need to heal yourself and change yourself
I'm not confused here. Me , my time, my money, my energy, my concern, my dignity, my worth, my value , if I had to heal from you personally STAY THE HELL AWAY from me, I dont want you back!! TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE. Nuff said!
At to some extent yes I agree. But sometimes you still care, but you know they best thing to do is to stay silent, some times the other person is in another relationship already, sometimes the other person is stuck on drugs, sometimes the other person is abusive. Sometimes it's just best to stay away, even if you still care for the person.
It hurts…. I still care so much and to him I’m just nothing now 😔
This video is spot on but it's a cruel thing for a person to just stop contacting you when they used to smh we have to let it go it's hard
😢 same
Absolutely its a no brainer. Sometimes we just don't like to know certain truth but it doesn't make it less true
Yes, In such a situation at the moment , we stare, feel each others energy , then , back off! Crossed lines of communication? Dont know!❤
Thanks for the guidance, one day we'll be gathering I told her that it's a God approved and soulmate connection, God tells me in prayer but she is still quiet and I'm waiting if she doesn't come, no issues God is with me every moment every time in Jesus mighty and loving name. Amen 🙏🙏❤️❤️💜💜
This is what exactly happened to me 23years ago you are more Than 100percent correct.
The truth we don't want to accept but we NEED to accept...
Finally, an honest video that doesn't tell you to play mind games with the one you have feelings for.
Your absolutely rite, and here i am second guessing, stressing, not knowing wht to dew. Feeln lost@ this moment. Its not the fact the person doesnt care, maybe thr goin through smethn.
Don’t be 2nd guessing yourself. Let them go
I want you to understand just how profoundly I love this man. He occupies a special place in my heart, and he could have been my everything if circumstances had been different. Even now, if he were to return, he would still be my top priority. Yet, despite these overwhelming feelings, I find myself unable to reach out. It’s not because I’m blocked; it’s a matter of self-respect. I fear he might think I don’t care, even though my heart aches to hear from him. The silence is unbearable, and it breaks my heart to think he might believe I’ve moved on when, in truth, I’m still holding onto hope for us.
Make sure you truly reaching out, there's a difference in talking at someone and talking to them. I like to assure people what you are hearing is coming from me and not my representitive that way we both can clear up any misunderstanding and decide where do we go from here...
Yes..
Of course. ...
You read my mind...
I’m going through that right now. I always seem to be the first to respond
😢 same
Yes I agree with you because he has not been contacting me for over a week and I am worried
And what if both people have this mindset? They could both want each other but they're just waiting on the other person lol.
😂😂
True
Yup, I'm pretty sure that's true for me and my guy. It sucks because I keep interpreting his not reaching out as not caring about me or being interested but my intiution tells me that's not the case, yet the deep feelings I have are still so raw even a year later that I get panic attacks when I think about reaching out in any meaningful way... and I'm an extrovert. He's the most introverted person I know. If I feel this way there's no hope for him lol
Soo true 👍
U can analyze the chat history if u send something the other side replies dry formal no interest in asking about it like before
Its a hint You aren't interest for her/he
He's right. I may be sad about it, but it is what it is, and it's time to move on . That's the reality of things as much as I wish I could let everything go, which I'm doing, but sometimes those random feels pop up every now and then, and I wish for it to stop caz they are not the one and they never will be
That's my guy,so heartbreaking but true,Touch him lord God Amen
I absolutely do agree with u💯 that's why I walked and didn't look bk now he's the one wondering where am I 🤨🤔he tried to reach out I had him blocked I did not answer the message where there's no trust there's no relationship period,I'm good moving forward thank u for clarification ❤an✨🌟⭐☀️
Yet you’re still talking about him?
If you were put in no contact, you didn’t qualify for the person that put you there.
My heart goes out to females for the delusion created by social media. Apps provide under qualified females access to men they’d otherwise not have.
These men are never seen in public with them, use them, & discard them.
Sorry - It wasn’t a relationship. You weren’t dating. You allowed yourself to be used. There are a limited number of “10’s” in the world. Both male & female. Eat the ego cookie, get your ass off the couch, hit the gym, and appreciate someone that’s kind and reciprocal.
Love your clarity and motion! That fence sitting and 2nd guessing will mess up your head!
The Best Thing Is To Walk Away
Yes thank you it's true ❤
Its their pride. No one wants to give in.
I agree, I totally get it now after I read this.. I have been doing it all wrong. I think it's time to let her go and move on and be happy somewhere else
Definitely can see no interest. I knew it all along. That's why he discarded me despite proposing to me. 10 years of my life down the drain. I'm going to be 27 soon, the best years of my life were robbed from me. But life moves on, and I know I have to, too.
Your best years are to come…and now you’ve learned some lessons so you’re ready for whoever comes next.
And whoever comes next will be there because the last 10 years have led you to that point. Good luck, it’s going to be okay!
If a person "who cares, reach out first". Then why don't reach out first? Why are you waiting passively?
It becomes clear when u always reach out, getting blocked, then reach out again using different number, then blocked again. ITS OBVIOUS.
Holy moly I swear to God this is what I am going through right now. Exactly what you said in this video. Is this universe giving me a message????
And yeah thanks for making this video its an eye opener.
Subscribed!
I needed that. Thank you
😂 if both waited for each other to contact first 😢 and the whole life passed in waiting ...😂
Haha yeah you' re right
True words 🙏🙏🙏😊😊😊thank you
Sometimes I wait for a message, at least I used too. Now I’m just carrying on and trying my best at life.
This resonates with my situation deeply
Agree with you 💯
Agreed , my best value is dedicated for God, not men . Never sell ourselves short ! It’s not worth it to obsess over someone not worth our time . We can give back to ourselves and those that truly love and care about us, only thise that see our best interest without motives , using us , and-or abuse . No to narcissists
I know everyone's situation isn't the same but for my particular situation, I was shown a few nights ago as God revealed why my person chose to go silent and ignore instead of actually communicating. That person doesn't have to worry about my msgs anymore because my questions about why everything having happened as it did, were answered by God. I know the truth. 🌸
I agree. They probably just don't care about me....
Yes I got the message loud and clear
Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you
You are correct sir😊❤❤
Yes I really wanted this 😊 Thank you so much
Yes I agreed with you 💯
Yeah, my ex came back to me and told me to wait for him for future. But actually, he don't care about me. He didn't called all days and night. So I need to neglect him. Thank you for your advice.