I Broke Up with My Shopaholic Self for a Better, Decluttered Life
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- Опубликовано: 21 июл 2024
- Do you often find yourself buying things you don't really need and wonder how to stop shopping? If you're tired of the clutter and want to make a change, this video is for you. Join me as I share my personal journey of breaking up with my shopaholic self and embracing a simpler lifestyle after saying goodbye to my shopping addiction. Find out how I'm changing. My methods may help you, too. Get ready to declutter your life and find true fulfillment in letting go of unnecessary possessions. Don't forget to subscribe for more videos about decluttering, simplifying your life and living with intention!
00:00 Introduction
00:54 About compulsive shopping
02:19 RUclips and my impulse buying
06:13 What compulsive shopping is like
08:13 Temu and impulse spending
09:53 Shopaholic recovery begins
10:15 A crisis
10:54 Changing course
12:54 Why I shop impulsively
13:43 What I will and won't do
16:59 What I will and won't buy
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I truly appreciate that you are here and watching my video today. I hope it was helpful to you in your journey to a simple and decluttered life. It would be great to hear from you today!
I decluttered my winter clothes today and I feel so much better. I have a plan to declutter two areas a month in my home. Thank you for sharing your journey; I needed to hear it.
Awesome!!!
Beautiful, honest and open video. Thank you for sharing your heart with us.
I appreciate that Mary. I appreciate your support so much!
I have reached that point this year that stuff isnt going to make me happy So ive rid myself off 100 bin bags so far and WOW i feel liberated Love from Yorkshire England xx xx
Wow. 100 is great! Impressive! I was just saying that I feel lighter with every carload I take to the donation center.
I look back at my great grandmothers, they had maybe 3 dresses and a couple of pairs of shoes. They lived in tiny houses, considered shacks today. They wore aprons, killed and cooked their own chickens, planted gardens, washed clothes in a huge pot outside, had outhouses. I could go on and on. I wonder what they’d think of my home now and my closet and how I live. I bet they’d think I was wasteful.
Oh boy... this is SO true. I wonder the same thing about my grandma. She raised her family during the Depression and often talked about how wasteful younger women are (and she died in 1976). She would be shocked by me. She'd still love me, but she would be shocked...
I haven’t bought a holiday decoration in many years. We built a collection of items we love that began 43 years ago. The items we have have meaning and memories for us.
Imo there is nothing attractive or interesting about RUclips homes filled with Hobby Lobby items.
My holiday decor is probably childish too but it’s for us and we enjoy it.
I’ve boycotted Temu hauls (cheap junk) and actually I won’t watch hauls in general.
I think I’m probably your age. I am really enjoying using the items we’ve bought over the years. Sure, I still buy things we need and use. I’ve become more mindful though with my purchases.
I’ve spent the last 2 years decluttering 100%. My home is organized and functional. I can honestly tell you what is in every closet and drawer in our house. It’s a great feeling.
I’m also comfortable knowing that if we were to be gone tomorrow our only child will not be overwhelmed going through our belongings. I don’t want to burden her with a house packed to the gills with decades of stuff.
I’m definitely not a minimalist either.
Hi Janet. It does sound like we are about the same age. You're ahead of my on the decluttering, but I'm working on it. Slow and steady is getting me there. It sounds wonderful to be to the point you are. :-)
I loved this video. I'm so sorry that man criticized your Christmas decorations! I think they're beautiful. I love traditional decorations that are brought out every year, and which have memories for the family members. He probably doesn't even have any kids. My grandkids love seeing their old favorites each year.
When we bought our current house, it was twice the size of our old, tiny one. I over-bought, wanting to decorate it. I bought antique knick knacks, and ended up with clutter, which I'm still working on.
Two things that helped me. One was when I read a decluttering book, and the author said not to buy something unless I knew exactly where I was going to put it and how I was going to use it. I realized that I was just buying with only a vague idea of where something "could" go, but I had too many items that "could" go.in that same space.
Also, I've always been taught about stewardship of our money and belongings, and I needed to be better about that. I'm bad about over-buying food.
Idk what your previous RUclips channel was called bc I just found you quite recently, but I am definitely more interested in downsizing and decluttering than in accumulating any more!
Your videos are calming and relaxing.
Hi Ann! It sounds like we have a lot in common. I can relate so much to what you’ve said. It’s great advice to not buy something unless you know exactly where you’re going to put it. The former name was Rozanne Paxman’s Home, which wasn’t bad, but I needed to really make it clear to myself and the viewers what I’m talking about now. It will hold me accountable. I’m enjoying life so much more now!
Hi Rozanne! I love that you are creating a life and home you love. The road of social media and being a content creator is a rough and bumpy one. It can be all consuming if you aren't careful about staying grounded and on your own unique path. Your encouraging words and sharing your journey is a true inspiration. I know that God is using you to help so many people. Big hugs and thanks for sharing. XO
Thanks, Lesa! I always love to hear from you. You're doing so well these days. Very inspiring to watch!
I don't think anyones life is simple but cleaning out the excess and buying only what I truly need has given me breathing room. The mess going on in the outside world can't always be controlled but my living space can.
So true!!
I’m so glad to see what you’re doing with your channel! I’m not a fan of Temu hauls, I don’t shop from there and don’t care to ever. I love home making, living simply and quietly, taking care of grandchildren and decluttering!
Can’t wait to see what you’re going to do from here!
So excited for you!
Thanks Tanya. It feels so relieving to have made this shift. I'm happy about the future now.
I love ❤️ R videos. I am in a transitional state of mind. 72 years young. Sell my home downsize - relocate to another state. You are down to earth ( realistic). Was stress over the years of Christmas decor. Do I even keep 1 tree 🌲 out of 3. 😮😮😮??? Love ❤️ love ❤️ love U. You keep it real no shame. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Thank you so much for the encouragement. It means a lot to me to hear that you are enjoying the videos so much!
FOMO on RUclips is a real thing. Nothing feels better to me than having an Amazon package on the way. Temu is also a trap for me. Starting this year, something needs to be in my cart 3 days and then I decide. My grandkids love my Christmas decorations and nothing new has come into my collection for years. Thank you for being so honest. It's so nice to know there's a place I can come on RUclips and hear common sense as an encouragement. (PS I'm 60 and need nothing)
It sounds like we have a lot in common. So glad to meet you! You’ve got a good system figured out.
I was upset that our local "Christmas Tree Shop" had closed, but now that I am decluttering my home, i am so grateful it's no longer there. It was a place i shopped and found a lot of cute, fun cheap things that I truly didn't need but had to have. Not shopping is the best thing for decluttering!! lol
So true! So true!
You seem to be a terrific homemaker. I would love videos about your days in the kitchen cooking, cleaning, gardening, reading, puzzles and other hobbies, health, decluttering, dates with hubby, baking with grandkids, etc., etc.
How nice of you to say! I’m going to see if I can work some of these activities into some of these videos somehow.
I just found you this past week. I am watching your videos from newest to oldest. I learned so much from your dots video, since I also have fibromyalgia and a couple other conditions that are limiting me in the things I do. I wanted to go back and watch all your videos since I think you seem to have such a kind heart. Thank you for being so honest and sharing your journey.
@user-qv5sp2hs1c I’m so glad you’re enjoying my videos! That’s great to hear and is very encouraging. Thanks so much for saying hello to me. I truly appreciate it!!
This was an honest and well thought out video. Thanks for sharing your life - it struck a few chords in my own and gave me food for thought in several areas.
Thanks Deb! I'm so glad you enjoyed it and that it was helpful. It's so great to see you.
I am happy you changed the focus of R video content. I just started to follow you. I think that you said in one video “ no more foolish errors “. I keep a posted note “NO MORE FOOLISH SPENDING”. It has helped me tremendously. Yes I ask God to forgive me , and I forgive myself. I too have a deeper appreciation for what God has given me. My values are changing. I have been giving more value to the necessities of life and realizing what is just not necessary nor beneficial thank you for your divine insights. 😊
I’m so glad to hear from you. It sounds like we are on a similar journey. I haven’t been perfect since I made this video, but I’ve been so much better and am getting there. It’s encouraging. My values are changing too. 😀Thanks so much!
I have just come across your channel this week. I love it! Your thoughts in this video just resonated with me. First, your home is beautiful, and your Christmas décor with the memories and the way you have decorated is so much more meaningful to you and your family than anything that anyone could present on RUclips. Don’t let something that someone said change the way you decorate. If there aren’t traditions and memories behind it, then what is the point? When I saw your home, I thought classy, timeless, meaningful.
I feel that I am in the same stage of life as you are. Going through a lot of the same similar things. We are stuck in this world of consumerism encouraging us to buy and decorate and need something more. It’s a constant struggle to stay focused on what is most important. Keep sharing your words of wisdom - we need to hear it!
I'm so glad you're here, Cassie! I wish I knew what I learned through this before (less wasted money), but I'm glad I know it now. I'm looking forward to decorating this Christmas because my attitude is going to be so different (I think better.) I've already decided to get rid of one of those big trees. Simpler and meaningful is best. And you're right - it's a constant struggle to stay focused. Carry on, right?
I am so proud of you! I have been actively decreasing my stuff since covid. As someone in my sixties, I don't want to leave a lot of things for my children to deal with and chances are that at some point we will downsize in some respect. And as I get older I want to make my home simpler to keep clean. So personally, I don't watch hauls. But I love videos with organizing, cleaning, fixing things, cooking, and reasonable decorating. I love the homemade and the meaningful things. Who cares what that man said? It is what is important to you!
Two thing that have helped me are having written financial goals and listing beside those goals wants. Also I am VERY careful what comes in my home. I think long and hard where something is going. And I get rid of the thing it is replacing (which should be used up).❤
Thanks Angela! It feels so good to have made this shift. I love your list of things you like to watch because that's what I like to do. Good advice about making the goals. Now, if I could just figure out why it scares me to make goals? There is some emotional baggage there I need to sort through. I'm getting more careful about what I'm bringing in here too. I'm a work in progress.
I too am in the process of clearing out the clutter from my home. As a recent widow I've been working on re-homing my husband’s clothes. Some days it’s overwhelming but then other days the Spirit moves me and it’s rewarding. Thanks for inspiring me on my journey into the next phase of my life. 💐💐💐
You’re so welcome Diana. It’s wonderful to hear from you. It would certainly be challenging working to re-home your husband’s efforts. Saying a prayer for you right now. 🙏
I finally found somebody my age and I can relate to. I have way to much stuff because of useless shopping. You inspire me to continue TOWARDS a simple life. Hugs to you.
I'm so glad to meet you and am happy you found my channel! What a cool thing!
I just found your channel yesterday I love it! Your voice is so calming and friendly. I am also on the journey to calm and simplify my life Thank you, your channel is a blessing❤
Thanks so much! I truly appreciate hearing from you. It’s so encouraging. I’m grateful to hear that you enjoy my videos.
Bless you for your honesty and courage. I have similar problems- mainly with clothes. I am trying to deal with it and it’s really helpful to hear your story. I think I will benefit from listening to this several times so it sinks in. 🥰
I’m so glad that hearing my story is encouraging you. I’m not perfect in this yet, but sharing what had happened has helped me improve.
This is a great message that more people should hear. Everything you have said is literally me right now. All of it!!!
I'm so GLAD you understand! It's nice to have friend that gets this. :-) :-)
I subscribed immediately when I watched this. I have the same problem as you. I also have been working on my problem and I’m aware it is a problem. Thank you for your honesty and how you are working to change💐
Hi Sandra! I'm so glad you found me. It's nice to hear that I'm not alone in this. It help me to meet people that understand. Hope you have a great week!
This! Bravo to you! 🥰
Thanks!!
This video really resonated with me. Thank you so much!🇨🇦♥️
So wonderful to hear, Amanda. You are so welcome and I look forward to speaking to you again!
This video was amazing-chock -full of excellent introspection & advice❣️
Glad you enjoyed it! Now you know when the turn in my channel happened.
Proud of you sweet friend!❤❤❤
Thanks! ❤️
Wonderful video! All of your tips are so practical. I don't even like shopping, but since I have been decluttering slowly for the past 3 years, I have changed my shopping habits. Adding some of your ideas to my thought process will help me even more. Thank you!
Thanks!! I'm working to change mine, too. Like I've been making my husband come to the thrift store with me because that keeps me in check. I tell him what specific thing I'm looking for and he helps me. We add it into a date. I'm glad that the video was helpful. Thanks so much for letting me know!
I just came across your channel and subscribed. I too need to declutter and shop for what I need not want.
Thanks for subbing! So glad to meet you.
This totally resonated with me. I subscribed.
Nice to meet you!!
I am a new subscriber to your channel and really enjoy your videos. I find them helpful and soothing at the same time:) Keep up the great work --you are helping others lead better lives! God bless you.
Thanks so much for being here and for letting me know you enjoy the videos. It means a lot and is very encouraging. I’m glad you’re here!
I just finished your video. I loved it! 😃😃😃
Yay! Thank you!
You are doing great!!!
Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing this video, I needed to hear it. ❤🙏
You are so welcome! Always wonderful to hear from you Alba.
Wonderful, honest video. So relatable!! Thank you, it’s not easy to put it all out there. ❤
You are so welcome! I'm so glad you enjoyed it. It's wonderful to hear from you. Thank you so much for letting me know.
I love your name change it's as beautiful as you are. Sweetie you are so beautiful inside and out love watching your beautiful videos. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your great advice and sweet inspiration. I started decluttering today and I was proud of myself and now I have started planning on what I want to do tomorrow to make our home function better. Thanks to you I have finally started. Hope you have a wonderful weekend love watching your beautiful videos sweet friend. 💖🤗💖
Thanks Beth! I'm always so happy to hear from you. I'm glad that you found the video useful. I hope you have a great weekend too!
Hola. I have to say u are a Customer friendly trainer/teacher. U break it down with the what, why & how to do better. Ur Christmas decoration video is how i found u when i did. U came across my TV. Discounts will definitely get a person. I like the reasonable & accountable spending idea. I enjoy baking from scratch too. Great goals. Rule of thumb, shop for the needs. Puzzles help sooooo much. Especially with building up muscle memory. TFS, I hope u have an amazing weekend.😊
Hey Kym! I love teaching. It was my jam for most of my life, so I'm glad to have come up with a way to teach something again, even it's just , "Don't make the same mistakes I've been making." Wow... The Christmas video? But come to think of it, we have been talking quite a long time. I'm glad you found it! Hope you have a great weekend too!
What a great video, so well thought out and honest. Thank you for sharing! Love the message. In purchasing puzzles I suggest checking your local thrift store. I find so many and it makes me feel better to only spend a couple bucks, donate it back and buy a new one! I think of it as a cheap puzzle rental❤
That's a great idea. As soon as I finish my next puzzle, I'll try it! I love the idea that it's cheap puzzle rental.
Great video! I really enjoy your channel. Would you mind sharing where you purchased your puzzle mat and organizers? I've been looking for something just like it! thanks!
Yes of course! This is the first puzzle mat I've used in which the puzzle doesn't break up if you roll it on the foam core to store it. And I love the sorters. (I bought 2 sets because I like to do big puzzles.) I've got them in my Amazon Store under Craft and Hobbies. www.amazon.com/shop/rozannepaxmanshome
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I'm so glad you're here!
I would love to de clutter much more. I'm working on it
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I'm enjoying your videos so much! Appreciate how you talk things through. I have to do decluttering in small sweeps. My goal along with many, is to just make things easier to maintain. Most of my $$ goes to organizing or being a gardening nerd. By the way, you would laugh if we met each other in person... we could be twins! I have the same hair cut and love it.
Thanks so much. I’m the same way about decluttering. Small sweeps are working best for me and I’ve learned that it’s common for me to keep revisiting an area. It’s less pressure. I’m excited to work on my garden this year. I bought lots of flower seeds last year and was too sick to plant them. See you!