Hey, Kate. My son (34) lives at home with me. We live in a very expensive area in the U.S. There is no way he can afford to rent or buy in this area. There are many other families that I know who still have adult children living in the home. For me, it provides a feeling of security knowing there is someone here to help me out.
Just a shift in perspective for you. I feel behind AF in my life rn for other reasons, but live with my boyfriend. I lost my dad suddenly at the beginning of this year and what I’d do to be able to live with both my parents again, I’d do anything. Although people may think living at home with parents is something we should be ashamed of or whatever, it’s actually also such a privilege to. Not everyone has parents. Or at least both parents.
I think it’s actually so sweet how understanding and non judgemental your parents are. You seem like an amazing person and you should give yourself credit for still trying to move forward despite all the internal struggles. I honestly relate to you so much.
I lived with my parents in my early 30's but then my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died when I was 32 and then my mum who was my best friend was diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer (whom I cared for throughout the horrific disease) and died when I was 34. Without going into great detail, everything was incredibly traumatic, including awful betrayal from other family members. I then put the family home on the market and sold up which was a massive job in itself. I'd never moved away from home. Even when I went to Uni, I had commuted, so this was my first big house move with no support. It was an incredibly traumatic and horrific time but made you realise how much inner strength you have. It's a harsh reality but 'change is the only constant in life.' I think I know what situation you are in because I've 'been there' and it is incredibly anxiety-provoking. Because I was so close with my mum particularly, my worst nightmare was losing my mum, but one day, everyone is 'forced to face' by nature. As you know, everyone has to become independent one day. Whether you do that 'for yourself' whilst you still have your parents support, or are 'forced by nature' (like me) is up to you.
I am so sorry you are lonely. I am very lonely, have been for many years. I am old, and alone. You have your parents, I lost mine 10 years ago. Nothing worse. I hope you find friends and keep your family.
Your dad absolutely nailed the explaination for more people living with their parents at the beginning. - Very few people I know live on their own without some sort of understanding with their landlord (for example, a friend of mine has an OAP landlady who feels more safe with someone else she trusts in the building, and he does odds and sods like shopping for her, and his rent is very cheap in reflection.). The fact of the matter is that things are way, WAY too expensive. I was thinking about the concept of the homemaker the other day, and how it's practically extinct. The life of a homemaker is literally unafforable, now, that to me is a massive body blow to homelife and wellbeing. Two partners who live together both have to be earning to pay all their bills, one partner cannot do it on a reasonable income anymore. One cannot afford to support the other as a homemaker. And you think of the things that a (proper) homemaker does, everything from cooking and cleaning to light maintenence, it's more important than a person thinks, it's a legitimate and extremely important job that has been priced out of life. But then the government keeps pushing for us to be in relationships and build nuclear families? How? Can't buy a home, and if we could, we still can't afford to maintain it on a daily basis. So they want both partners working by default, thus two very stressed individuals crammed together in a house they can't maintain. This is literally a recipe for domestic abuse, and it's scary because it's how even good people can do horrible things if they're under enough pressure. I'm going to look up some videos of puppies now, as I have somewhat saddened myself. Actually, I'm gonna need the big guns for this one; baby red pandas.
Yon are sooo right 😭 times are tough, it’s a nightmare situation that far too many of us are in. I didn’t realise how many people were in the same situation until I started speaking about it. It’s an unfair expectation that so many of us are put under when prices are so high 🫠 Baby red pandas 🥹🥹 I may have to look this up now
Also still living at home at 29 :) full time job with good pay, but its just so insanely expensive to move out We often forget it can be really nice to share a home with your parents. Like, if I would have my own place, I would just sit there completly alone most of the time. Why not stay with my parents for a while, be able to safe some money and enjoy the company :)
Can you please do a video talking about being self employed / how you got into this as a job / career ? Because I’d love to do something like this. ❤also love you channel ☺️
Awesome vlog there Kate ya smashed it 😊 I hope ya doing okay and the toast thingy ya did in the air fryer looked amazing 🤤 and i can relate to seeing the sun out for a change it's like what's with the British weather this year 😂. I'm tech support for my parents also lol 😂 i do hope ya have a lovely weekend 😊. Also 🥄 sent the comment just before the black screen at the end 😂.
It just occured to me I am procrastinating, I need to phone other pharmacies to see if they have a medication in stock. Do you ever get the feeling you're dreading a task so much, shove it so far under the carpet, that you forget it's even a task 😅😭😭
I have a question not to do with the video subject 😅 how come you take your inhalers without a spacer, cos my physios would be questioning me why not/lecturing me to have one!!
It's okay beautiful! Everyone's circumstances are different. I'd trade lives with you in a second. I do own my own house (31 F) but I don't have my mom anymore, or in fact, a relationship. Just a friend or two and my sister. And my dad moved back in with me after my mom died, with no end in sight. Please appreciate both your parents and your boyfriend! They seem amazing. Every time I meet a guy it just never sticks. You have a good one. You're very beautiful and so sweet, lots to offer the world. It's hard to describe how pointless life feels without my mom and the love of my life/kids. Someone really inspiring to me is Steve Wallis on RUclips. He's lost his wife, his mom, and his best friend in two short years. He still gets out there to enjoy and appreciate life and what and who he still has.
Oh i definitely do appreciate them, have had a massive mind shift in the last couple of years, and am very grateful I get to spend time with them 🧡 I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that 😭 sounds really tough. I hope you find someone lovely 🥺 it’s not easy out there but I’m rooting for you, always 🫂
Fuck social anxiety sorry for my profanity 😂🫢 i still liv at home myself hope to save for my own place some day but it's so hard I'm 33 and it bothers me that all my mates are all settled down and I'm not you question if there is something wrong with you but no there is not it's society it's horrible it all depends on confidence how pathetic people are great vid 🫡
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Hey, Kate. My son (34) lives at home with me. We live in a very expensive area in the U.S. There is no way he can afford to rent or buy in this area. There are many other families that I know who still have adult children living in the home. For me, it provides a feeling of security knowing there is someone here to help me out.
Just a shift in perspective for you. I feel behind AF in my life rn for other reasons, but live with my boyfriend. I lost my dad suddenly at the beginning of this year and what I’d do to be able to live with both my parents again, I’d do anything.
Although people may think living at home with parents is something we should be ashamed of or whatever, it’s actually also such a privilege to.
Not everyone has parents. Or at least both parents.
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I think it’s actually so sweet how understanding and non judgemental your parents are. You seem like an amazing person and you should give yourself credit for still trying to move forward despite all the internal struggles. I honestly relate to you so much.
27 here and living with my parents
I lived with my parents in my early 30's but then my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died when I was 32 and then my mum who was my best friend was diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer (whom I cared for throughout the horrific disease) and died when I was 34. Without going into great detail, everything was incredibly traumatic, including awful betrayal from other family members. I then put the family home on the market and sold up which was a massive job in itself. I'd never moved away from home. Even when I went to Uni, I had commuted, so this was my first big house move with no support. It was an incredibly traumatic and horrific time but made you realise how much inner strength you have. It's a harsh reality but 'change is the only constant in life.' I think I know what situation you are in because I've 'been there' and it is incredibly anxiety-provoking. Because I was so close with my mum particularly, my worst nightmare was losing my mum, but one day, everyone is 'forced to face' by nature. As you know, everyone has to become independent one day. Whether you do that 'for yourself' whilst you still have your parents support, or are 'forced by nature' (like me) is up to you.
I’m so so sorry you had to go through that 😭😭 that’s truly horrific and heartbreaking ❤️🩹it’s one of my biggest fears. Sending you so much love 🧡🧡🧡
@@KateEveling Sending you good wishes, strength and encouragement for whenever you decide to take that big step into your next chapter... X
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🥄🥄🥄🥄🥄🥄🥄❤ love this, your mum is so cute bless her when she said hi to the camera x
Yayyyyy!! 🥄🥄🥄😍😍 aww I know right!!🥹🥹
32 here and living at home with my dad because I can't afford to move out either... Economy sucks here in Argentina. Thanks for your honest content ❤
I am so sorry you are lonely. I am very lonely, have been for many years. I am old, and alone. You have your parents, I lost mine 10 years ago. Nothing worse. I hope you find friends and keep your family.
Your dad absolutely nailed the explaination for more people living with their parents at the beginning. - Very few people I know live on their own without some sort of understanding with their landlord (for example, a friend of mine has an OAP landlady who feels more safe with someone else she trusts in the building, and he does odds and sods like shopping for her, and his rent is very cheap in reflection.). The fact of the matter is that things are way, WAY too expensive.
I was thinking about the concept of the homemaker the other day, and how it's practically extinct. The life of a homemaker is literally unafforable, now, that to me is a massive body blow to homelife and wellbeing. Two partners who live together both have to be earning to pay all their bills, one partner cannot do it on a reasonable income anymore. One cannot afford to support the other as a homemaker. And you think of the things that a (proper) homemaker does, everything from cooking and cleaning to light maintenence, it's more important than a person thinks, it's a legitimate and extremely important job that has been priced out of life.
But then the government keeps pushing for us to be in relationships and build nuclear families? How? Can't buy a home, and if we could, we still can't afford to maintain it on a daily basis. So they want both partners working by default, thus two very stressed individuals crammed together in a house they can't maintain. This is literally a recipe for domestic abuse, and it's scary because it's how even good people can do horrible things if they're under enough pressure.
I'm going to look up some videos of puppies now, as I have somewhat saddened myself.
Actually, I'm gonna need the big guns for this one; baby red pandas.
Yon are sooo right 😭 times are tough, it’s a nightmare situation that far too many of us are in. I didn’t realise how many people were in the same situation until I started speaking about it.
It’s an unfair expectation that so many of us are put under when prices are so high 🫠
Baby red pandas 🥹🥹 I may have to look this up now
Also still living at home at 29 :) full time job with good pay, but its just so insanely expensive to move out
We often forget it can be really nice to share a home with your parents. Like, if I would have my own place, I would just sit there completly alone most of the time.
Why not stay with my parents for a while, be able to safe some money and enjoy the company :)
Love love love this 👏👏 it’s so true!
This was great to watch, wouldn't mind if you did more stuff like this 😊
Aww i really appreciate this!! More to come 🫡
Can you please do a video talking about being self employed / how you got into this as a job / career ? Because I’d love to do something like this. ❤also love you channel ☺️
🥄 Love your videos!
Ahh thank you so much for watching!! 🧡🧡🧡
Awesome vlog there Kate ya smashed it 😊 I hope ya doing okay and the toast thingy ya did in the air fryer looked amazing 🤤 and i can relate to seeing the sun out for a change it's like what's with the British weather this year 😂. I'm tech support for my parents also lol 😂 i do hope ya have a lovely weekend 😊. Also 🥄 sent the comment just before the black screen at the end 😂.
Ahh thank you so much for watching!! Good spot at the end!🥄
and yes we are tech support 24/7 🫡😂 have a lovely weekend!🧡
It just occured to me I am procrastinating, I need to phone other pharmacies to see if they have a medication in stock. Do you ever get the feeling you're dreading a task so much, shove it so far under the carpet, that you forget it's even a task 😅😭😭
Yes!!! I often do that 🥲🥲
I have a question not to do with the video subject 😅 how come you take your inhalers without a spacer, cos my physios would be questioning me why not/lecturing me to have one!!
I always thought they were optional! I’ve not used a spacer in years!
It's okay beautiful! Everyone's circumstances are different. I'd trade lives with you in a second. I do own my own house (31 F) but I don't have my mom anymore, or in fact, a relationship. Just a friend or two and my sister. And my dad moved back in with me after my mom died, with no end in sight. Please appreciate both your parents and your boyfriend! They seem amazing. Every time I meet a guy it just never sticks. You have a good one. You're very beautiful and so sweet, lots to offer the world. It's hard to describe how pointless life feels without my mom and the love of my life/kids.
Someone really inspiring to me is Steve Wallis on RUclips. He's lost his wife, his mom, and his best friend in two short years. He still gets out there to enjoy and appreciate life and what and who he still has.
Oh i definitely do appreciate them, have had a massive mind shift in the last couple of years, and am very grateful I get to spend time with them 🧡
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that 😭 sounds really tough. I hope you find someone lovely 🥺 it’s not easy out there but I’m rooting for you, always 🫂
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Niceeee! Good job I’ve not been on it for 28 years!! Might explain a few things…
I’m still living at home and can’t afford to move out
I feel like there’s more of us than we realise!
amazing vidoe i enjoy cool pretty stunning queen looks awesome
where can I meet a humble and gorgeous girl like you? I'm disgusted by modern women but it's nothing else out there but moms and 304s...
Here’s a SUPOON 🥄
A SUPOON! 🥄 Life changing. Life alternating. Life goals. 🫡
Fuck social anxiety sorry for my profanity 😂🫢 i still liv at home myself hope to save for my own place some day but it's so hard I'm 33 and it bothers me that all my mates are all settled down and I'm not you question if there is something wrong with you but no there is not it's society it's horrible it all depends on confidence how pathetic people are great vid 🫡