I remember back in SoCal when I would see Asians driving around in a brand new, fully loaded Mercedes Benz & BMW’s while living in an apartment complex. They love to show off and live beyond their means! I could never understand 🤔
Most Filipinas loves to have everything expensive here in California. They also show off their wealth when going back home as well. My Filipina wife dressed nice and I would as well. When we went to her area back home, she was dressed like a millionairest, I wore jeans, a nice shirt, but was low key!! So, I would agree, that 97% of Filipinas/Filipinos, want their people to believe that they are living large. Most,are seriously struggling here,and some 2 BR apartments have 18 - 20 people living together!!
@@AllenLuedemann They really should get out of California and stay out of New York. Those two places are way too expensive. I would never live either one of those places because of the cost of living. In California the cost of a little house starts in the million dollar range. Why pay that kind of money for a little place? As I say, it is much better to look poor and have money in your pocket. You don't have to look like you are homeless but it is best to never to try to look rich. Most old rich money almost never looks rich. I was a teacher and had kids that were from old rich money and they dressed like they were poor. For their 18th birthday they got a million dollars but they didn't show it.
In the end, what works in the Philippines also works everywhere. Respect yourself and set boundaries. You will attract the right kind of people in your life and repel the wrong ones. May it be so for you.
@@alejandroumaslay3657 I am sorry to burst you bubble. If you are poor nobody will give you respect. Nobody even wants to know you exist. If you are very wealthy everyone wants to be around you and everyone wants to give you respect. Maybe is all fake but that is how system works. Same everywhere in the world.
Love the video paul you know i tell my Filipina girlfriend all the time that most people in the United States are not rich and that there is so many that lives paycheck to paycheck and thats one of the number one reason for moving to the Philippines is because of affordable living there i told her if i stay in the United States i would have to work till the day i die because social security is not enough to live on here and thats why i am moving there for so i can enjoy what life i have left in this world and she completely understand my situation
Another RUclipsr told his PI wife and her family he’s broke and so is every other expat living there. He points out to them that if he were rich, he’d be living in a luxury condo in Rome, not sweating in a Third World country.
@@user-mt6kt1yn6q Yes. In the video called “Filipina wife is pissed but I ain’t paying” - The full length one that is 18:50. He says it at 9:45. I like watching his videos. And I’m an FI woman in Southern California. 😆
Hi @Ironic_Jihad Thanks for sharing this insight! Couldn't agree more - respect is indeed earned through actions and character, while courtesy is shown as a sign of kindness and consideration towards others. Living in the Philippines has taught me so much about cultural differences and values, and I appreciate your perspective on this topic! 😊
Not at all. One can lose respect almost instantly at the first meeting. They may even lose respect through reputation or actions toward others.@@darrellturner560
Darrell beat me to the obvious. I will show due respect. I will be polite. There is a difference. From being polite I will decide if you earn my respect or my scorn.
Please consider this: It is entirely possible for me to show respect by not being the first to speak. It is also entirely possible for someone to lose my respect with the first words out of their mouth.
Poor-iegner is the exact term I used when I got here 😂🤣 My new family hears me mention “budget” enough, they understand that I’m not flashing my USD around. When we were looking for a place to live, and my in-laws showed us a condo for 30K/month, I found one for 20K! Demonstrating my desire to maintain a budget. I feel that earned me a lot of respect from the family. Good video Kuya Paul 👍
Good vid Paul. Spot on. While my wife and I were in the get to know each other stage, she asked me to tell her a little about myself. I told her "I'm old, bald, and broke. She belly laughed and said that was the most honest personal assessment she'd heard. That was almost 15 years ago, and our relationship has grown in every way since that first meeting.
Congratulations Paul on the channel growth. I was watching you long before I realized we had shared some common challenges, as it were. Good luck in the future!
Let's talk abought the safest, cleanest, quietness, want respect surround yourself with respectful people, I have found this special place in the Philippines.
@@user-mt6kt1yn6q that is the the reality of being in the philippines locked in a closet with no hope of regard or understanding just pretend and forget who you once were become Filipino a blank stare in the wrong direction your life is worthless
Well put Paul respect cannot be bought so many aspects to respect. How you are follows you your whole life the good and the bad respect and love goes hand in hand Good video
Very informative video Paul. Have not yet been to the Philippines but finally found an intelligent and budget minded lady who understands the word budget. So many I have encountered have no clue or ignore the fact that so many American men are on a budget as they shamelessly ask for money.
Hey paul I like watching your videos. I have watched several of them. I was setting here thanking I would love to come to the Philippines. I'm 62 my health isnt the best I need 2 surgery on my back. I can get around I can walk but not far. Seem like to come there you do need to be able to walk pretty good. But i love watching you and baby. Seem you guys do so great. Cause videos I watch like this one of him things not working out. That would be my fear of coming over there I have a monthly income that isnt bad watching you and mike you guys give great advice. Hopefully one day I can just come for a visit. I find there Philippines ladys so prett. You have a good women that makes life so mush better. You two seems to be doing it right
I deserve free ice cream :-) What said about respect in the U.S. is nothing like Silicon Valley engineer culture. Nice watch, nice car, nice hair cut, nice clothes -- this guy is compensating. Nice laptop/phone/tech gear -- expected. I worked with an engineer with jewelry. He was so compensating. Lousy engineer.
To comment on the restaurant bill scenario Paul, when you go to a place where it exceeds the Filipina group’s budget I think it’s appropriate to pick up the bill. I did it when we went to the Viking restaurant (it’s almost 900 pesos per person). But since that time I made it absolutely clear that I’m not a foreign ATM they can take advantage of. Haven’t had a problem since.
Respect does need to be earned by all Paul, I always wait and watch the outcome before approving my decisions on respect to an individual, great topics as usual, soon hit the magic 100,000 subscribers 😊😊
I used to believe that respect was earned, until I figured out that by that belief I was being disrespectful to myself and others, and decided it was better, to believe that everyone deserves respect, until they prove that they don't.
I wouldn't even say not in my budget, I would just say 'yes those shoes are nice' and keep on walking. I'm not doing gifts unless we're married or serious.
Enjoy your videos, especially the roundtables. A good "common sense" video. I've been living in the Philippines for 10 months now. I find that having been divorced and living alone for so many years it seems more difficult for me to co-habitat. But I'm currently in a non-cohabitation relationship and a little hesitant to get into the co-habitation situation at this point. She currently works full time and is a province girl that came to the metro area for work. Her mother and sister are coming to visit soon and will stay at my home during their visit. Good luck and good fortune to all those trying out the Philippine experience. Paul's channel and others greatly assisted me in preparing for the move.
Hey Paul and Mae i xertainly have become addicted to our one sided friendship and following you and the collection of crazy people of other vloggers in the Phillipines. Stay well!
I notice older guys have way different approach to dating than younger guys. They are much more willing to spend money and easier to convince to buy things.
This is very helpful as usual. I would like to see more videos like this. I have a title for a future video, "Old Dog, vs. New Dog" subtitled, "What I would do differently if i had a do over".
I took my Flipina to the dentist, first time for her. She had 4 cavities. I asked her if while we were there if she would like her teeth whitened ? When she heard them say it would be [$20] 10,000 pesos she said she would rather have her teeth the natural color. In her mind that was way too expensive. When I asked her if I could buy her a dress that she told me she liked, she said no that that would make her feel materialistic. My advice : meet a Flipina in a church and they will act like this. Peace.
Yes Paul it was you I heard say if you wanted to do something nice for your GF take her to the dentist. She might never have been and it is cheap.@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
My wife was ridiculously poor. But I remember she didn’t ask for a penny. The only way I knew if she was short of food was asking her what she had for breakfast. She said “rice” every day. When she had a bit of money she had rice and a coffee and 1 dried fish. But she would never ever ask for money. I still have a t shirt she bought me for 50p ( 70 cents) which for her wax a lot at the time.
@@mauimixer6040 oh I fed her- used to send whatever I could spare. Those were the days of rice and coffee and fish. I just liked the way she never asked for money.
I don't know what's going on with my life Paul you just took another 10 minutes and 19 seconds from my life from my day what's wrong with me I've been doing this for years watching your videos.... How's your father doing Paul.. he has a big birthday coming up I hope you're back there for it..
Damn Paul, watched an old video with you in it, from I think two or three years ago. You look 10 years younger now!!! hahahaha, Obviously enjoying life there.
Now this video Sir is a very good one, I hope the folks coming here see it and understand. I do immigration for these guys that come over here for a fiancee or spouse and you cannot believe how many of them are very rich and have nothing but money at least that is their story, Until it comes time to do the I-134 affidavit of support and we need to see their tax forms and get an employment letter and the bank letter only to find they flip burgers at burger king and have been on the job for 6 months.
Treating people with respect, as in 'treat others as you would like to be treated' is important. It is different from respecting a person for who they are. Some people we treat respectfully but we could not respect them for themselves.
Also one thing I learnt here in Portugal, which of course is obvious, people need to know how to receive (nicely). If they don´t recognise generosity then you are an atm
Hi Paul, I finally got time to sit down and watch more of your videos, and I thought I saw a notification about John coming back? Was I seeing things or was it taken down? :)
Paul I absolutely agree that pretending to be poor weeds out the gold diggers. So " you can only have the small yacht babe I cant afford the big one" 😊
Respect must always be earned. Some confuse respect with civility. You can be civil to someone you don't respect, and you probably should be as a rule. But you shouldn't automatically respect everyone you meet because many will not deserve it. This also means you shouldn't expect instant respect from others because you may not deserve it.
It's kind of hard being a guest in the Philippines when some here are not respectful to others by nature. Especially with those who do not respect your retiree budget. Ouch.
There's different types & levels of Love.. and Respect & Love "are not necessarily 2 different things" .. If your looking for "Respect" or Love for that matter, look no further than "the mirror" ..
Paul, perhaps you can make a video on all things ID. Do you still have a U.S. license? How do you renew? Do you have a Phillipines ID? Etc…how do you drive? International ID? What’s best? I can’t imagine giving up a U.S. license
Hi @joeldchenoweth Thanks for the suggestion! We'll consider making an ID-related video in the future. For now, our focus is on daily life here. Thanks for watching!
Regarding the shoe segment, personally I think, if a date states 'those shoes are really cute', just agree or disagree: yep, they are cute' and leave it at that. Nobody has the right to expect a date to buy them stuff. If you want stuff, the answer is: get off your duff and work and save and then buy it yourself. Keep it simple.
In sales the women commenting on the shoes is doing a "trial close" to see how you react,the answer Paul suggested was perfect it shows you are not a tight wad but not just free with your money.After all isn't that what dating is about,an effort to find out about each other
I just read an article where some 22-year-old Playboy model says Leonardio DeCapio is too old and too weird for her. Not sure how that relates to this video, but I thought I would share that.
The foreigner has created the new filipina, especially the retired foreigners, when it comes to respect, however, your topic was well presented. Women learn from each other and will see what a foreigner can provide. She has learned the technique that if he does not give right away, she must be patient, afterall he is a foreigner, they have money of which, compared to what a Filipino earns to them is translated as rich. An older man will be more likely to give to her just to have her by his side and his reasoning as you mentioned, it's only a few bucks, but to her that is more money that she could earn in a month. On RUclips, there are filipinas who are earning more views than the foreigners and still through admission, looks to the foreigner boyfriends for an allowance. It remains...............she has what he wants, he has what she wants, the foreigner will learn how to manage his finances when he feels that need to provide financial boundaries.
Self evaluation tends to have either downward evaluation or upward contacts. Respect in that sense is when someone wants to gain information or affiliate which is the case when a foreigner from a developed country goes to a developing country which is a great self esteem boost. However if the foreigner trips up by giving information that is false once verified or after affiliation gets to be found out not to be a nice guy where the foreigner keeps saying no. So then its a pavlov dog kind of situation where one drip feeds. Although the alternative is if its a constant downward evaluation sense then its time to pack up and get out of the place.
This is a tough one for me. When I am dating a girl and she has a problem which can be fixed with relatively little money (example - a phone which needs a new LCD which will cost 3,500 pesos) my inclination is just to spend the money and fix the problem. But then, as you said, once they realize that you are willing to help, the requests start coming and they never stop until you end the relationship. As you said, the solution is not to make that first offer.
even in America rural values still exist , "putting on the dog " is considered putting on airs and is generally viewed as " trashy " behavior , even picking up the check is reserved for a tit for tat, head of family , or boss position , other wise people will supplant when your not around, we have wealthy people in our communities but they dont put on airs where they be seen inside the county line, they generally keep lake homes out side and store their sport cars there so that people with traditional values dont get offended
Hi @hayseedfarmboy Interesting cultural differences. Here, we value humility and simplicity, even among wealthy individuals. It's refreshing to see genuine folks living beyond material possessions.
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It is always better to look poor and have money than to look rich and have no money.
It's also better than to look rich AND have money.
don’t tell me, you are kawawang cowboy? jus joking hahahahahahaha
I remember back in SoCal when I would see Asians driving around in a brand new, fully loaded Mercedes Benz & BMW’s while living in an apartment complex. They love to show off and live beyond their means! I could never understand 🤔
Most Filipinas loves to have everything expensive here in California. They also show off their wealth when going back home as well. My Filipina wife dressed nice and I would as well. When we went to her area back home, she was dressed like a millionairest, I wore jeans, a nice shirt, but was low key!! So, I would agree, that 97% of Filipinas/Filipinos, want their people to believe that they are living large. Most,are seriously struggling here,and some 2 BR apartments have 18 - 20 people living together!!
@@AllenLuedemann They really should get out of California and stay out of New York. Those two places are way too expensive. I would never live either one of those places because of the cost of living. In California the cost of a little house starts in the million dollar range. Why pay that kind of money for a little place? As I say, it is much better to look poor and have money in your pocket. You don't have to look like you are homeless but it is best to never to try to look rich. Most old rich money almost never looks rich. I was a teacher and had kids that were from old rich money and they dressed like they were poor. For their 18th birthday they got a million dollars but they didn't show it.
You give respect, and you earn respect.
Hi @marcofluff That's a great point! Respect goes a long way here in the Philippines.
In the end, what works in the Philippines also works everywhere. Respect yourself and set boundaries. You will attract the right kind of people in your life and repel the wrong ones. May it be so for you.
Yes! Soooo true!
idiot jim
respect is for everybody regardless of who you are, not just for yourself, and every living creatures on earth, 1 Pete 2:17
Hi @mypov4343 Thanks for sharing! We love the positive vibes in this comment
@@alejandroumaslay3657 I am sorry to burst you bubble. If you are poor nobody will give you respect. Nobody even wants to know you exist. If you are very wealthy everyone wants to be around you and everyone wants to give you respect. Maybe is all fake but that is how system works. Same everywhere in the world.
Love the video paul you know i tell my Filipina girlfriend all the time that most people in the United States are not rich and that there is so many that lives paycheck to paycheck and thats one of the number one reason for moving to the Philippines is because of affordable living there i told her if i stay in the United States i would have to work till the day i die because social security is not enough to live on here and thats why i am moving there for so i can enjoy what life i have left in this world and she completely understand my situation
Hi @joechandler7267 Thanks for sharing your perspective, appreciate the support!
Another RUclipsr told his PI wife and her family he’s broke and so is every other expat living there. He points out to them that if he were rich, he’d be living in a luxury condo in Rome, not sweating in a Third World country.
Gotta love Marcos
That is 100% correct. Why very well off man want to go to third world country. Where people running away from.
Marcos!
Luv ya genxx !! Was that a quote from "Overdone My Way" ? Marcos DOES have some good third-world insights . . .
@@user-mt6kt1yn6q Yes. In the video called “Filipina wife is pissed but I ain’t paying” - The full length one that is 18:50. He says it at 9:45.
I like watching his videos. And I’m an FI woman in Southern California. 😆
People mistake common courtesy for respect. Respect is earned, courtesy is given freely and extended to everyone!
Etiquette was the word you were looking for.
Hi @Ironic_Jihad Thanks for sharing this insight! Couldn't agree more - respect is indeed earned through actions and character, while courtesy is shown as a sign of kindness and consideration towards others. Living in the Philippines has taught me so much about cultural differences and values, and I appreciate your perspective on this topic! 😊
Respect is to be earned, it is not a right of passage.
My mom use to say “if you want a friend, be a friend” you can use this apology with respect also. Just treat people the way you want to be treated.
I show respect to everyone until they prove they are unworthy. Respect is earned, not given.
That is a good quote kudos too you 🎉❤😅
You contradicted yourself with the second statement.
Not at all. One can lose respect almost instantly at the first meeting. They may even lose respect through reputation or actions toward others.@@darrellturner560
Darrell beat me to the obvious. I will show due respect. I will be polite. There is a difference. From being polite I will decide if you earn my respect or my scorn.
Please consider this: It is entirely possible for me to show respect by not being the first to speak. It is also entirely possible for someone to lose my respect with the first words out of their mouth.
Those who want respect, give respect.
A men
I have been to the Philippines three times and have always felt respected, and I always show respect to them as well.
Poor-iegner is the exact term I used when I got here 😂🤣 My new family hears me mention “budget” enough, they understand that I’m not flashing my USD around. When we were looking for a place to live, and my in-laws showed us a condo for 30K/month, I found one for 20K! Demonstrating my desire to maintain a budget. I feel that earned me a lot of respect from the family.
Good video Kuya Paul 👍
Hi @jerrymarshall2728 Thanks for sharing your experience! Budgeting is key to living well here.
Yeah very good advice Paul😊
I am new here very inspiring Vedios more power!!! So true be humble and kind all the time then you earned respect!!!
Good vid Paul. Spot on.
While my wife and I were in the get to know each other stage, she asked me to tell her a little about myself. I told her "I'm old, bald, and broke. She belly laughed and said that was the most honest personal assessment she'd heard.
That was almost 15 years ago, and our relationship has grown in every way since that first meeting.
Hi @nederlandhiker2 Thanks for watching! Glad you enjoyed it. That's a great story about your wife's reaction, by the way!
Congratulations Paul on the channel growth. I was watching you long before I realized we had shared some common challenges, as it were.
Good luck in the future!
Hi @bigal6684 Thanks for your support and understanding our experiences!
Let's talk abought the safest, cleanest, quietness, want respect surround yourself with respectful people, I have found this special place in the Philippines.
I found that place in my closet . . .
@@user-mt6kt1yn6q that is the the reality of being in the philippines locked in a closet with no hope of regard or understanding just pretend and forget who you once were become Filipino a blank stare in the wrong direction your life is worthless
wow
Your awesome old dog
Excellent Video Sir Paul 😊. Agree with you 💯 percent 👍.
Keep the video's comin.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Yes Respect is Key❤
Very Good Advise Paul
Great video, I needed that. Thank you.
Hi @jspice-kl2wc Thanks for watching!
Really good info. Thank you for that.
Tks., much appreciative.
No worries!
As always another great vid Paul.
Great video Paul… love the message and the wisdom can be applied everywhere. Keep up the good work my friend.
Hi @juanptorres8 Thanks for your kind words!
Great content!Keep the up load’s coming!
Hi @richardcompton-xk7fj Thanks for watching and supporting us!
Golden advice
Well put Paul respect cannot be bought so many aspects to respect. How you are follows you your whole life the good and the bad respect and love goes hand in hand Good video
I appreciate that
Take people where they are, and enjoy the moment
Hi @mrjuvy49 Love that approach! We're all about living in the moment here.
LoveThanks for your videos!
Thank you Richard
I needed to hear that. Thank you Good Sir.
Good video. Thanks.
Hi @deanrotering879 Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it!
Good stuff!
OMG, it looks like really hard work to succeed in the Philippines.
Good luck guys, you need it.
Great video Paul :)
You are welcome
The question is, do you respect yourself? That's all that matters. A strong man will thrive regardless of what happens around him
Hi @Michael_Lane_Fishing Respect for myself and my choices has been a key factor in our success here.
Very informative video Paul. Have not yet been to the Philippines but finally found an intelligent and budget minded lady who understands the word budget. So many I have encountered have no clue or ignore the fact that so many American men are on a budget as they shamelessly ask for money.
Hi @kevincantwell245 Thanks, glad you enjoyed it! We're happy to show others that living in the Philippines can be affordable and fulfilling.
Hey paul I like watching your videos. I have watched several of them. I was setting here thanking I would love to come to the Philippines. I'm 62 my health isnt the best I need 2 surgery on my back. I can get around I can walk but not far. Seem like to come there you do need to be able to walk pretty good. But i love watching you and baby. Seem you guys do so great. Cause videos I watch like this one of him things not working out. That would be my fear of coming over there I have a monthly income that isnt bad watching you and mike you guys give great advice. Hopefully one day I can just come for a visit. I find there Philippines ladys so prett. You have a good women that makes life so mush better. You two seems to be doing it right
Hi @RichardPolley Thanks for the kind words! We're glad you enjoy our videos and hope you can make it here someday. Best wishes with your surgery!
Have enjoyed your channel since the beginning
Almost 100k 💪
Same 😊 👍
Hi @Badger345 Thanks for sticking with us!
I deserve free ice cream :-) What said about respect in the U.S. is nothing like Silicon Valley engineer culture. Nice watch, nice car, nice hair cut, nice clothes -- this guy is compensating. Nice laptop/phone/tech gear -- expected. I worked with an engineer with jewelry. He was so compensating. Lousy engineer.
Good to see you hope you’re doing well. You and baby Mae.
"Sly & the family stoned."
To comment on the restaurant bill scenario Paul, when you go to a place where it exceeds the Filipina group’s budget I think it’s appropriate to pick up the bill. I did it when we went to the Viking restaurant (it’s almost 900 pesos per person). But since that time I made it absolutely clear that I’m not a foreign ATM they can take advantage of. Haven’t had a problem since.
Hi @vinniephillips452 Thanks for sharing your experience! We've learned to set boundaries too, and it's worked out well for us.
Otis Redding wrote it, Aretha Franklin sang it best, RESPECT. 👍😎✌️
Always True North with even keel. Thanx dog for all of your great insights.
Slowpoke from Arkansas
Respect does need to be earned by all Paul, I always wait and watch the outcome before approving my decisions on respect to an individual, great topics as usual, soon hit the magic 100,000 subscribers 😊😊
Hi @MrPat156 Appreciate your thoughtful perspective! We're grateful for your support and look forward to reaching new milestones.
Respect is earned, not deserved.
Hi @NunyaBidness-zr5mn Well said!
I used to believe that respect was earned, until I figured out that by that belief I was being disrespectful to myself and others, and decided it was better, to believe that everyone deserves respect, until they prove that they don't.
Hi @Bruski68. Love that perspective! We're all deserving of respect, no matter what.
You get what you give.
I wouldn't even say not in my budget, I would just say 'yes those shoes are nice' and keep on walking. I'm not doing gifts unless we're married or serious.
agree
Also agree
Hi @patrickwilliam3322 Fair point! We're all about simplicity here. Thanks for the reality check!
Paul timeless advice. Applies universally, including here in Portugal
Hi @user-gq5kc1ow7k Thanks for sharing! We're glad our message resonates globally.
well done paul keep doing it excellensgt job
Self-respect is the way to truth, knowledge, power, and love.
Hi @wrp108 Well said!
Foreigners GET respect es long they are generous , Respect is NOT for free in the Philippines
You cannot buy respect
Enjoy your videos, especially the roundtables. A good "common sense" video. I've been living in the Philippines for 10 months now. I find that having been divorced and living alone for so many years it seems more difficult for me to co-habitat. But I'm currently in a non-cohabitation relationship and a little hesitant to get into the co-habitation situation at this point. She currently works full time and is a province girl that came to the metro area for work. Her mother and sister are coming to visit soon and will stay at my home during their visit. Good luck and good fortune to all those trying out the Philippine experience. Paul's channel and others greatly assisted me in preparing for the move.
Hi @TexasT-Bone1970 Thanks, glad you enjoy the roundtables! We're happy our channel helped with your decision to move to the Philippines.
Hello Paul, great information thank you, i am in Cebu kicking the tires and so far 11 days here i really like it here.
No human on earth 'deserves respect'.. Respect is earned. Its not free.
Hey Paul and Mae i xertainly have become addicted to our one sided friendship and following you and the collection of crazy people of other vloggers in the Phillipines.
Stay well!
Hi @underdogrescueofflorida2313 Thanks for being a loyal follower, friend!
Smart move see if she is really interested love your videos you 2 enjoy your day in paradise im jealous right now new York is cold 😊
Hi @chrisplatt3869 Thanks for the support! We're loving life here in Dumaguete.
One name kept popping in my head as I listened to your vlog: Rodney Dangerfield.
I notice older guys have way different approach to dating than younger guys. They are much more willing to spend money and easier to convince to buy things.
Wise words my brother btdt.
Hi @chinadave2854 Thanks, bro!
You are gaining people because your content is great and very informative to us. Respect is given, to one and all. Thanks
I appreciate that!
Don’t throw your common sense out the window. Thanks old dog for another grounded video.
Hi @lukeh6088 Appreciate the reminder!
This is very helpful as usual. I would like to see more videos like this. I have a title for a future video, "Old Dog, vs. New Dog" subtitled, "What I would do differently if i had a do over".
Respect is earned. Courtesy should be ubiquitous, but respect is earned.
Hi @videoman413 Well said!
I took my Flipina to the dentist, first time for her. She had 4 cavities. I asked her if while we were there if she would like her teeth whitened ? When she heard them say it would be [$20] 10,000 pesos she said she would rather have her teeth the natural color. In her mind that was way too expensive. When I asked her if I could buy her a dress that she told me she liked, she said no that that would make her feel materialistic. My advice : meet a Flipina in a church and they will act like this. Peace.
Hi @greggwoodcox2167 Thanks for sharing your experience! We've had similar conversations about dental care and beauty standards here.
Yes Paul it was you I heard say if you wanted to do something nice for your GF take her to the dentist. She might never have been and it is cheap.@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
xlnt content! I respect you. buy me Lechon😁
My wife was ridiculously poor. But I remember she didn’t ask for a penny. The only way I knew if she was short of food was asking her what she had for breakfast. She said “rice” every day. When she had a bit of money she had rice and a coffee and 1 dried fish. But she would never ever ask for money. I still have a t shirt she bought me for 50p ( 70 cents) which for her wax a lot at the time.
Why didn't you feed her ? Not ?
@@mauimixer6040 oh I fed her- used to send whatever I could spare. Those were the days of rice and coffee and fish. I just liked the way she never asked for money.
Hi @robrussell8515 Thank you for sharing your story, it's truly inspiring!
@@robrussell8515 hope you realize I was joking. Blessings
@@robrussell8515 I do, understand ! Married when on duty in 79 ! Great adventures are rare.
Paul your little bird is getting closer to the edge 😂😂
Hi @Swimfit998 Thanks for keeping an eye on her!
I don't know what's going on with my life Paul you just took another 10 minutes and 19 seconds from my life from my day what's wrong with me I've been doing this for years watching your videos.... How's your father doing Paul.. he has a big birthday coming up I hope you're back there for it..
Hi @christophermeaney5485 Thanks for watching! Dad's doing okay, we'll be thinking of him on his special day.
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Welcome new crazy people🎉
Damn Paul, watched an old video with you in it, from I think two or three years ago. You look 10 years younger now!!! hahahaha, Obviously enjoying life there.
Hi @mxlarge6915 Thanks for the laugh and the kind words! We're loving life here indeed!
Hey Paul, you hear alot today about hiw people deserve respect. In my opinion, if you want respect, you must earn it!
Nobody deserves anything. Especially these days. It’s one of the biggest problems in the US.
Hi @markleaman8313 Well said!
Now this video Sir is a very good one, I hope the folks coming here see it and understand. I do immigration for these guys that come over here for a fiancee or spouse and you cannot believe how many of them are very rich and have nothing but money at least that is their story, Until it comes time to do the I-134 affidavit of support and we need to see their tax forms and get an employment letter and the bank letter only to find they flip burgers at burger king and have been on the job for 6 months.
She said "I really like that style of shoes" !
I said to the sales girl "do you have those in men's size 13, I could use a pair" .
Hi @kmilton1593 Thanks for watching! We ended up getting them for me, they're super comfy!
Treating people with respect, as in 'treat others as you would like to be treated' is important. It is different from respecting a person for who they are. Some people we treat respectfully but we could not respect them for themselves.
Hi @susanneashton1340 Well said! Respect can take many forms.
Also one thing I learnt here in Portugal, which of course is obvious, people need to know how to receive (nicely). If they don´t recognise generosity then you are an atm
Hi @user-gq5kc1ow7k We've experienced that too - it's amazing how a small act of kindness can go a long way!
It all goes back to Mrs. Hermading's kindergarten class for me...The Golden Rule. Well, and my parents of course.
Old Dog came up with the phrase
"REAL" expacts.
Refering to forigners that are :
Respectful
Expats
And
Loving
Pretty much sums it up ❤
AGREED 👍 😊
Hi @-goldfinger2695 Love it! That's a great summary of our community!
Hi Paul, I finally got time to sit down and watch more of your videos, and I thought I saw a notification about John coming back? Was I seeing things or was it taken down? :)
Hi @surfdaze Yeah, John's return video got taken down by mistake. He'll be back soon, though!
Paul I absolutely agree that pretending to be poor weeds out the gold diggers. So " you can only have the small yacht babe I cant afford the big one" 😊
Hi @Alexinthephilippines Love it! We're all about being honest and authentic here. Thanks for sharing!
Of course.Voltaire.....your wants stop when the rights of other people start
Respect must always be earned. Some confuse respect with civility. You can be civil to someone you don't respect, and you probably should be as a rule. But you shouldn't automatically respect everyone you meet because many will not deserve it. This also means you shouldn't expect instant respect from others because you may not deserve it.
It's kind of hard being a guest in the Philippines when some here are not respectful to others by nature. Especially with those who do not respect your retiree budget. Ouch.
Hi @clarkgaither Well said, I couldn't agree more. Respect is indeed earned through actions and character.
Do we deserve respect? No. The basic upon which we're on pedestal is this 50X exchange rate! It's really unfair to them & us spiritually.
Great video and great topic Paul! I am trying to figure out how many couch covers you have lol 😝
Hot fun in the summertime.
Hi @oliviar267 Three, counting the one on our favorite spot!
There's different types & levels of Love.. and Respect & Love "are not necessarily 2 different things" .. If your looking for "Respect" or Love for that matter, look no further than "the mirror" ..
Hi @enzos711 Wise words, thank you!
Money doesn't buy respect. You have to earn it.
Hi @timoybaker Well said!
Paul, perhaps you can make a video on all things ID. Do you still have a U.S. license? How do you renew? Do you have a Phillipines ID? Etc…how do you drive? International ID? What’s best? I can’t imagine giving up a U.S. license
Hi @joeldchenoweth Thanks for the suggestion! We'll consider making an ID-related video in the future. For now, our focus is on daily life here. Thanks for watching!
Regarding the shoe segment, personally I think, if a date states 'those shoes are really cute', just agree or disagree: yep, they are cute' and leave it at that. Nobody has the right to expect a date to buy them stuff. If you want stuff, the answer is: get off your duff and work and save and then buy it yourself. Keep it simple.
In sales the women commenting on the shoes is doing a "trial close" to see how you react,the answer Paul suggested was perfect it shows you are not a tight wad but not just free with your money.After all isn't that what dating is about,an effort to find out about each other
Hi @reflect4627 Thanks for sharing! We'll keep it real and straightforward on our channel!
Good insights on the filipino culture...please share more😊
Hi @kitkatz9984 Thanks for watching! We'll keep sharing our experiences with Filipino culture.
Respect is good😊 You will always be a foreigner, but still "act" like a guest the best way you can.
Hi @watersbey25 Thanks for the advice! We'll definitely keep that in mind.
I just read an article where some 22-year-old Playboy model says Leonardio DeCapio is too old and too weird for her. Not sure how that relates to this video, but I thought I would share that.
The foreigner has created the new filipina, especially the retired foreigners, when it comes to respect, however, your topic was well presented. Women learn from each other and will see what a foreigner can provide. She has learned the technique that if he does not give right away, she must be patient, afterall he is a foreigner, they have money of which, compared to what a Filipino earns to them is translated as rich. An older man will be more likely to give to her just to have her by his side and his reasoning as you mentioned, it's only a few bucks, but to her that is more money that she could earn in a month. On RUclips, there are filipinas who are earning more views than the foreigners and still through admission, looks to the foreigner boyfriends for an allowance. It remains...............she has what he wants, he has what she wants, the foreigner will learn how to manage his finances when he feels that need to provide financial boundaries.
Hi @valeriek5020 Appreciate your thoughtful insight on cultural dynamics here in the Philippines!
Self evaluation tends to have either downward evaluation or upward contacts. Respect in that sense is when someone wants to gain information or affiliate which is the case when a foreigner from a developed country goes to a developing country which is a great self esteem boost. However if the foreigner trips up by giving information that is false once verified or after affiliation gets to be found out not to be a nice guy where the foreigner keeps saying no. So then its a pavlov dog kind of situation where one drip feeds. Although the alternative is if its a constant downward evaluation sense then its time to pack up and get out of the place.
Hi @italogiardina8183 Thanks for sharing your insightful thoughts on self-evaluation and respect in our community!
This is a tough one for me. When I am dating a girl and she has a problem which can be fixed with relatively little money (example - a phone which needs a new LCD which will cost 3,500 pesos) my inclination is just to spend the money and fix the problem. But then, as you said, once they realize that you are willing to help, the requests start coming and they never stop until you end the relationship. As you said, the solution is not to make that first offer.
Hi @pcabraham2580 Understood the importance of setting boundaries early on!
even in America rural values still exist , "putting on the dog " is considered putting on airs and is generally viewed as " trashy " behavior , even picking up the check is reserved for a tit for tat, head of family , or boss position , other wise people will supplant when your not around, we have wealthy people in our communities but they dont put on airs where they be seen inside the county line, they generally keep lake homes out side and store their sport cars there so that people with traditional values dont get offended
Hi @hayseedfarmboy Interesting cultural differences. Here, we value humility and simplicity, even among wealthy individuals. It's refreshing to see genuine folks living beyond material possessions.