We had a civil wedding in the USA and had a Catholic Church wedding in Philippines last February. Baby May is right, it was a lot of requirements, we sent lots of paperwork, never thought I’d need to find my catholic confirmation certificate . In the end, it was terrific, but anyone who is considering should give themselves plenty of time.
@Her Expat Retirement we originally planned on having the wedding and reception done at the reception venue because we were less than confident that we’d be approved to have the wedding in the church, but after several hours of searching thru boxes in my garage, I was able to locate my first communion and confirmation certificates. Credit to my Mother who kept these items together for me until I was an adult and for me keeping them thru several moves. Prior to my final search, I contacted my childhood church but got no response from them. We were indeed lucky to find them on our own. My wife didn’t have her confirmation, but was able to join a class of adults the week of our wedding to complete that requirement.
What is the oldest trade in the world? Along with prostitution, espionage is the oldest profession in the world now we come to the definition of conservative............
My wife wanted a Catholic Church wedding. I'm Lutheran and was divorced. I told my wife the Catholic Church requires you to go through annulment classes and they charge for it. She said she didn't think I was right. She made an appointment with the bishop and he said I was right. I told my wife that annulment through the church was to keep couples together and I was divorced and there was no chance of me getting back together with my ex. We ended up getting married in the Lutheran Church in Cagayan de Oro. My wife was shocked when we met with the Pastor when she asked him how much money to give for the ceremony. He said to give what you want. She said the Catholic Church tells you what to give.
@@bert671 it's customary to give the church a donation when getting married here in the Philippines. That's any church by the way. We are getting Married in our church the joyful assemble of God here on Samal Island in Garden City on Saturday and we are giving 10,000 php to our pastor.
The Catholic Church office will likely have a list of fees for weddings. In our case, we found it to be like a menu, and there was a “fee.” Ours was I believe about $300. We also chose to add air conditioning as that was optional and an additional cost. They’ll likely charge for a choir, flowers if the provide them. We chose our own flower provider. Since we live in the USA. We’d sent a family member who was local to get all the costs and requirements. They helped establish our expectations and complete everything in advance. All in all, we loved it and are super happy with everything, but there are definitely cheaper ways to go.
Hey Paul my dear friend, you and the beautiful Baby Mae are truly the best. I love you both. Thank you for sharing brother. God bless you and Baby Mae always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
I have a Canadian friend that got married in CDO in a civil ceremony about 6 years ago. I was his best man. I remember that he used a local agent to accelerate $$$ the process including sending the documents to Manila. Paul you were lucky to get the marriage class in English. Most married vloggers had to sit while everything was in local language. Congratulations to you and Mae
wow😂 benefits of this video: 1. you paved the way for those watching who want to get married there by revealing all the potential hoops and delays that can happen and ways to improve and avoid delays 2. A good example of keeping your sense of humor as you adapt and accept processes in the Philippines. I don’t even know how you remembered all these things; my head is still spinning😅
Holy cow, that's insane! You two have been put through hell. I'm totally impressed with your patience Paul. And Mae didn't look like shes even phased by this whle process! I hope it gets done soon and thank you for this eye opening, jaw dropping, beyond crazy Philippine beurocracy. On second thought you have my most sincere thoughts and prayers.
Oh, Paul and Mae, what a SNAFU! Fingers crossed it will finally be resolved, completely and absolutely resolved, sooner than you think. The only thing that seems to be missing from this story is the trio of Larry, Moe, and Curly. May you have a long, happy, OFFICIALLY MARRIED life together, Mr. and Mrs. McGill! 👍👍
This is why you hire a relative of the mayor to take care of everything. Pay their fee, sign all the paperwork and get the government document on time. That's just how it works.
You know Paul you hit the nail right on the head, ADJUST, ADAPT, and finally you must ACCEPT. You might think about doing a video on those three words. Thank You so much Paul your better than a "SHRINK"!!! God Bless 🙏👌👍
my friend took a 3 hour flight to Malaysia to get married to a Filipina, due to the administrative nightmare in The Philiippines. They got to have a honeymoon in a foreign country as well.
Our first marriage was performed by the mayor of a town outside Cagayan d'Oro. If you know the right people and pay them, you can get whatever you want printed on paper in the Philippines. I went back 6 months later and we had a Catholic Church wedding. All the clothes were rented, including my barong, and it was beautiful.
Hello Paul & Baby Mae - I'd like to say that all that beauracracy is lost on me but I come from Chile and although not as bad as the Philippines, it is still bad that is why I live in Canada. Thank heavens you two love each other and have the patience to endure it & go through the hoops. I am very happy for you two that you got married, you both look very happy💖💖
I admire your tenacity. This would have severely tested my patience and I would have been tempted to go back to being a couple without the marriage papers. I salute you both...
I accept. Love that statement. Going crazy over things you can not change will only harm the both of you. In time this will be only a crazy story in a long beautiful journey for the both of you. God Bless.
The bureaucracy in the PH has never change. It was very frustrating for me to get my birth certificate. I misplaced my birth certificate and I couldn't find it. I requested for a new one. It took me almost 2 yrs to finally get the certificate. So, I understand where you are coming from. Absolutely nuts.
That's nuts !! = As I have gotten older, my patience has improved enormously, but I would have had problems trying keep my cool in that much Bureaucratic Ineptitude = Kudos to you two for keeping your cool !!
Such positive attitudes! Couples with great attitudes, who are flexible, and are easy going make for the strongest couples. Such a great story to tell!
My wife and I got married at a mass wedding in San Quintin on Luzon on Feb 28 this year. Everything was free and it only took 2 weeks to get everything completed. The good thing was that the Municipality fast tracked everything since the mass wedding is put on by the mayors office.They even made wedding photos for free. I could afford to pay but them doing all the paperwork made it worthwhile. We did have to get several of the things you mentioned, but it was very painless. It was actually a nice ceremony. We are also waiting on The PSA to return our marriage certificate.
Paul and Mae always great to see your videos. Real people no sugar coating. You both are lucky to have each other. You have a good wife Paul practical and knows how to save.
OMG!!! Paul your story has motivated me to get the paper work done now while I still have time. How you managed your patience throughout the ordeal. Do you need to send your wedding gifts back? God Bless you both.
Great story Paul..I like the way you ended it. ..Adjust/Adapt/Accept And I love Baby Mae's discipline with money. Thrift skills...awesome. May God bless you both more. 😇
Good morning Paul and baby may it looks like I’m your first view this morning. This is cool. I enjoy watching your channel very much hopefully maybe one day within the next year or two I will shake hands be able to buy you a cuppa coffee. God bless.
Wow! This is a crazy story. I was starting to think they didn’t want you to get married. Paul, you have a tremendous amount of patience because I would’ve lost it. God bless you both and wish you all the best.
This is the funniest (frustrating for you guys) story I have heard you guys tell us. It will get sorted.... but oh boy, what a tale!!!! Best of luck in the world, guys
I really appreciate and respect you and Mae. I haven't seen your videos for a while so congratulations on your marriage. You and Mae are a excellent couple.
Great story and having been through the application for an SRRV( special residential retirement visa), those hoops and changes required are not surprising. And each new document cost extra, maybe that is why it is called The Fee-lippines!
Hello Paul and Baby Mae, I was actually thinking you both last night. That I had not seen you both for awhile. Good to see your happy smiling faces. Take care. Now I will watch and listen to your video. Lol. All good things come to those who wait. All the very best to you both.
I respect you both for going through all that hassle. I couldn't go through all that trouble for a marriage certificate. I would've just flew her to Vegas and married her there. If Mae wants a church wedding you can go to the Candlelight Wedding Chapel. That's where I married my wife over 20 years ago. Hassle Free, one day event. Even with the airfare expense, we still saved a fortune not having a traditional wedding party with catering and hall and limo rentals. Just a simpler way to go in my opinion.
@@mauibuilder1239 I'm not sure, but I would think so, and it's probably a lot easier to get down there at the US Embassy than all the hoops it looks as though you have to jump through to get married over there. But I don't know, I'm just guessing bc I'm not there, I'm in Brooklyn, but I was married in Vegas. Best thing my wife and I could have done. We we're already in our 30's and set in our busy career''s, and we didn't want to deal with all the planning, expenses, who to invite, who not to invite and other b.s.. So we just went to Vegas for a week, got married, met an Elvis, had a great time, and avoided a bunch of stress.
Bless your heart Paul, you are a real trooper for dealing with all this and not losing your cool. Wishing you the best as always. I'm glad you have adjusted to the Philippines way things happen.
Dear Paul & Baby May, WOW! I understand your feelings and frustration. Thank you for your time, patience, and explanation the two of you are going through. God's Blessings
Once your marriage is in the PSA system and they issue you a Certified Copy of you marriage (yellow copy), have May stop in PSA and get additional originals (yellow copies) , you will need them. While at PSA, have her get additional certified copies of her birth certificate, she will need them.
Thanks a lot Paul, I'm heading there to get married as well and hopefully we can be lucky and not go through the obstacles you guys went through. I'll let you know what happens...till then God bless and keep on with the 3 A's.
It's all fun in the Philippines----luckily my wife worked in City Hall of one of the Manila NCR cities---she knew people who knew people and with payment of a little graft money, she could get paperwork moving withing hours or a couple of days----very lucky---she got her annulment but getting all of the paperwork registered was crazy and she had a plane ticket and our wedding planned in Australia---got it finalised with two weeks to spare. I asked her about her Mayor not turning up for booked weddings---she said that happened but the Vice Mayor or a senior counsellor would perform the wedding and the Mayor would sign the paperwork later as though he had performed the ceremony-----it's the Philippines
Thank you for informing me about bribery in PH. Up untill now I couldn’t find an answer whether it existed or not. I know it is possible in Indonesia. It makes life so much easier.
Hi Paul. I am an American who married a Philipina as well. Everything you said was right on. I started my paperwork in June of 2022. By the time I had everything done between my paperwork & my wife's paperwork we were able to set a date to be married on Sept. 12th. Then it took over 3 weeks to get the marriage certificate. After that I had to go to Immigration to apply for my 13A marriage visa. It took me until October2022 to finally have everything finalized. So it took over 4 months to get everything finalized. So I know what you went thru. It was not a lot of fun.
All in All, I am happy for both of you. Hope you both can get to the US and Mae can really see what the US is really like. Looking down the road, I would expect that both of you will spend significant time in the US in the coming years not because you want to because you have to. Paul at some point will need US medical care to manage what ever illness comes his way. Mae is a solid citizen hard worker. She will be able to work in the US, get her own Medicare and Social Security entitlement and build a retirement nest egg on her own. Anything Paul gives/leaves her will be gravy. Again, I am so happy for the both of you. I know the paperwork will be done. Shortly, you can get on with the next exciting chapter in your lives. Great story, hang in there.
Wow Paul and Janet, what an adventure. I think you should write a screen play, it would make a great movie. ND the way you and Mae describe it I think it would fall in the comedy category
HEY PAUL! You found a Diamond in the rough with Baby Mae. Happy for both of you folks…👍🙏❤️. Thanks in sharing your experience. Please post f/u final marriage paper debacle… I look forward the finality 😃
Just a couple of things for guys to consider. Just an opinion. 1. If you have moved to the Philippines permanently. And if you have established a solid relationship. Go for it. Filipinas are wonderful wives. 2. If you are intending to bring her home to the U.S. use a fiancee visa. Takes less time and you can see as Paul has shown, less complicated. 3. If you have not established a permanent relationship, divorce in the Philippines is very, very difficult. Things to ponder.
In 2007 I got married in the Philippines. My wife is Catholic and I am Lutheran (and divorced). Our original thought was to get married in the Catholic Church but, like you guys, we quickly determined that was a no go. I was still working and living in the States and could only get away for 10 days at a time. There was no way for us to satisfy the Catholic requirements. Fortunately there was a Lutheran church in Baguio happy to marry us. The ceremony was one of the highlights of my life: a blend of Western, Spanish, Igorot cultures. I remember having to go to the US Embassy in Manila to get some kind of clearance from them. I know I had to have my divorce papers and a letter from the church I got baptized in. We actually "shopped around" for a municipality to get our marriage license, I don't remember why, it was La Trinidad instead of Baguio but for some obscure reason it was all good. Perhaps one of the reasons it went smoothly for us was that my father-in-law was a former employee of the City of Baguio and was well connected. Our sponsors included the mayor of Baguio and the Governor of Benguet. The Governor gave a nice speech and a duvet which I still refer to as the governor's quilt. We had no problem getting our official marriage certificate in a timely manner. Perhaps having the right connections makes the difference.
The last sentence you've said probably is the key in most or every area in Philippines (and I'm sure not just in Philippines) but it's gotten pretty much straight forward in the Cordillera Region, except when somebody honestly forgets to do one thing, or write down one requirement or put a check on one in the checkbox list before giving it to you, and have them completed. But for most things of public documentary, the biggest problem is most offices requiring too much from the people when there is a gross lack of interoffice or interdepartment digital networks, at least nowadays, mostly in the local level. But still.
Off topic: In the video [I can no longer find] in which you, Paul, gave Mae's sister some solid advice about NOT hooking up with an older guy [40 year difference???] you earned my respect. You also reminded me of why I had better think REALLY HARD before I hook up with a younger doll. Thank you for the wake-up call. Stay safe. Be well.
Best part of the whole video was ???......... Ta da playing and being frisky non stop with Baby Mae😄😄 what a wonderful little puppy you all have. Love it.
You pore busted))) mick Australia. I watch and thums up👍 every video. This my first message. ) I appreciate your time your heart to all❤. I pray you go to the top in youtube. God bless
I really admire both of you! Love that you guys are taking this ordeal with a great sense of humor. Hopefully, it will all work out in the end! I love that Mae is frugal as most true filipinas are…she’s a keeper, Paul!
We got married in 2018 by a small town Mayor. I wasn't living here so we had to go to the US Embassy in Manila to get some kind of document. When I met my wife my visa was expiring in a few days. I got an extension so we could get aquatinted and we are both happily married now, Thanks for sharing your experience.
Such a process i was in stitches you must have an old fashioned stack of paper a mile high for this one ..but gotta say it just made a great video..there has to be a few extra Notorized signatures that you dont know you dont need...yet....lol😅 Some Marriages would have already failed before you finally got the Knot tied..gotta say finally got it in a frame xx Congratulations to you both ...xx 17:50
My daughter got married in the courthouse with jp.She went to courthouse during lunchtime and went back to work at 1:00 .And she said she don’t wanna spend lots of money for church wedding because it’s a waste of money if she end up divorce.But now their still married been married for 16 yrs
I got married in pampanga back inn '94 through a lawyer. It took us a day but there was no PSA requirement at the time. The only other requirement was a trip to embassy for clearance to marry. When returned to the philippines last year i needed PSA certificate and low and behold it was there. Boy have times chznged.
Got married last month in Samar and my process was much easier. Wife dealt with everything in the Philippines, I just provided a few documents. No classes, able to get priority, but family close friends with the mayor 😀. Now have marriage certificate after two weeks and it normally takes 3/6 months.
Hey Paul.... Just wanted to say ... May is a keeper... Seems that you got a great girl there!! Wish you all the best... If you ever make it to South America drop in and visit Rancho Montana
WOW!! Like this channel and others on RUclips. Exposes me to different cultures and gives me a better understanding of people. Have been out of the United States to other countries and really enjoyed it. Been to Mexico several times with my husband. But he just likes staying home now which is fine. I like the 3 A''s Adjust, Adapt, and Accept. Hope to go to another country soon. Thanks for letting the public into your life there. Very interesting.
Paul, I love listening to your stories and life aboard. I have lived in Japan and Guam for 3 years in each. I still have the Asain Fever. Even after a failed marriage to a great Japanese girl. Im thinking I need to retire soon, and you have really helped me think logically and realistically about this possible plan. Thanks for sharing your life with us here in RUclips land. God bless you seem like a good man.
Paul, you got married in the province just like i did and it takes 6 to 8 months for that paper to get sent from the province to manila. My wife's US visa was dellayed because of the processing at the PSA.
I agree. Alot of ppl spend so much on the wedding day without taking into account after the wedding day. I have been married for 10 yrs this yr n l made all bouquets, headpiece, food and bought a beautiful brand new wedding dress for 120.00. Friend made a beautiful wedding cake for nothing. Got married in my church which didn't cost a cent because it's free n they aren't a money making organisation.
My wife and I got married on July 5th in Quezon city (Manila) and before I headed home we received our Govt. marriage 10 days later as I was heading home to Canada on the 17th of July. Man I really feel for you both as we booked our wedding a week and a half before July 5th and BOOM everything was easy peasy. Take care both of you by for now. Oh what did you call that visa if married that is for a year?
Nice video Paul, I like how you explained everything step by step. OMG, what a process you went through. We got married in the US when my now wife came over on a K1 Visa, this went very smoothly and then we had to register the marriage with the Phillippines Embassy in New York City. So our marriage is registered in the Philippines as well. I am sure you have now saved many people from making the same mistakes you and Mae made. Your channel is a treasure trove of great valid information. I am sure your paper will be coming soon, I wish I can say be patient, but things are well beyond that at this point. Congrats on your marriage Paul and Mae cheers to an awesome life together, God Bless and enjoy life 2.0.
Great video Paul!…you should post in your permanent overview of your website, a completed list of everything a couple would need to complete the marriage requirements…that would be a long term help to all…
Believe me when I say that it does not pay to become indignant, angry, or mouthy with people in there, no matter what they put you through. That’s not to way that things are done there, and you will earn enduring hatred. Just swallow all of that, remain calm on the outside, and ask to see a supervisor. I almost forgot. When you stand in line, it is not first come, first served there. It’s loudest first. Another thing is that new people joining a line do not join at the back of the line. They join at the front, nestling their body against yours, and very gradually inching their way in front of you, while never once looking at you. You see we westerners typically do not like strangers touching them, therefore we involuntarily tends to step back a half inch, causing them to advance until their body is rubbing against yours again,causing you to step back a half inch, causing them to advance again. . . On and on. . . You see it requires self discipline to join a line at the back, or to refrain from throwing trash out the window of a bus, jeepney, or while walking, which is not a Filipino trait.
I was in Montana. My wife to be was in Bayawan, Negros Oriental. We got a marriage certificate on-line from Utah County, Utah, United States. I found a pastor who would marry us on-line. My witnesses were in West Virginia. We all got on Zoom and got married. After the marriage I got notarized copies of the marriage certificates. I then got all the necessary documents for the official Report of Marriage (too many to list here), and sent it all off to the Philippine Consulate in San Francisco. I then arrived in the Philippines on a tourist visa, and waited for the Report of Marriage to arrive via UPS to my Philippine address. Once I had the Report of Marriage I went to JRC and started the process to get my 13A visa. Fraught with tension the whole time, but it all worked well.
We got married in Valencia also but seems like the checklist was complete with everything required. Also had a checklist from Our Lady of the Abandoned Parish (what a name, right?), and since I didn't have proof of being Catholic, had another checklist to complete from the Bishop at the Cathedral in Duma. Once all checklists were complete, and the Priest here in Valencia approved the dress (had to get shoulder coverings for all the dresses because he didn't want shoulders showing). We were good to go. We started April or May and married 2 July 2016. The took about 5 months (Filipino time 30 days) to get our certified Marriage Certificates (I ordered 5 official copies) from the PSA office. Then was able to change her passport ect. Yup, Balikbayan is nice to have.
Hi Paul and Mae - We just went to Australia and got Married in 2020 - All done in a month - we registered with Sydney Embassy - Philippines are so complicated - anyway if you didn’t have Bad Luck you would have No Luck - Take Care you 2
Had pretty much the same happen with our wedding there in the Philippines. You got really lucky on the medical certificate sign off, that is supposed to be a questionnaire each of you get. It covers all sorts of things from having babies, sex. Basically how well do you really know your partner. The person at the clinic sits at the desk as you fill these out in front of them. My wife kept asking me what to put, I told her I can't answer your questionnaire you need to put your answers. I was laughing at the questions while my wife was pretty embarrassed about them.
We had a civil wedding in the USA and had a Catholic Church wedding in Philippines last February. Baby May is right, it was a lot of requirements, we sent lots of paperwork, never thought I’d need to find my catholic confirmation certificate . In the end, it was terrific, but anyone who is considering should give themselves plenty of time.
@Her Expat Retirement we originally planned on having the wedding and reception done at the reception venue because we were less than confident that we’d be approved to have the wedding in the church, but after several hours of searching thru boxes in my garage, I was able to locate my first communion and confirmation certificates. Credit to my Mother who kept these items together for me until I was an adult and for me keeping them thru several moves. Prior to my final search, I contacted my childhood church but got no response from them. We were indeed lucky to find them on our own. My wife didn’t have her confirmation, but was able to join a class of adults the week of our wedding to complete that requirement.
it'll will take a lot more 'paper' work to become unmarried. Next step BTW 92%
Your lucky you found a woman who is actually financially conservative with money.
Thank you
What is the oldest trade in the world? Along with prostitution, espionage is the oldest profession in the world now we come to the definition of conservative............
@@jurgschupbach3059 prostitution is filth and should be banned everywhere
Yes, Mae is Paul's true treasure.
My wife wanted a Catholic Church wedding. I'm Lutheran and was divorced. I told my wife the Catholic Church requires you to go through annulment classes and they charge for it. She said she didn't think I was right. She made an appointment with the bishop and he said I was right. I told my wife that annulment through the church was to keep couples together and I was divorced and there was no chance of me getting back together with my ex. We ended up getting married in the Lutheran Church in Cagayan de Oro. My wife was shocked when we met with the Pastor when she asked him how much money to give for the ceremony. He said to give what you want. She said the Catholic Church tells you what to give.
Tells you what to give?
@@bert671 it's customary to give the church a donation when getting married here in the Philippines.
That's any church by the way.
We are getting Married in our church the joyful assemble of God here on Samal Island in Garden City on Saturday and we are giving 10,000 php to our pastor.
The Catholic Church office will likely have a list of fees for weddings. In our case, we found it to be like a menu, and there was a “fee.” Ours was I believe about $300. We also chose to add air conditioning as that was optional and an additional cost. They’ll likely charge for a choir, flowers if the provide them. We chose our own flower provider. Since we live in the USA. We’d sent a family member who was local to get all the costs and requirements. They helped establish our expectations and complete everything in advance. All in all, we loved it and are super happy with everything, but there are definitely cheaper ways to go.
@@robmari497 no menu of prices in the Lutheran Church. That's why I would never convert but I respect the choice people have in being a member.
What did your wife give to the happy clapper pastor?
This divorce is gonna cost you way more than the one before. You read like a right chump ang moh.
Hey Paul my dear friend, you and the beautiful Baby Mae are truly the best. I love you both. Thank you for sharing brother. God bless you and Baby Mae always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
And we love you my brother
I have a Canadian friend that got married in CDO in a civil ceremony about 6 years ago. I was his best man. I remember that he used a local agent to accelerate $$$ the process including sending the documents to Manila. Paul you were lucky to get the marriage class in English. Most married vloggers had to sit while everything was in local language. Congratulations to you and Mae
wow😂 benefits of this video: 1. you paved the way for those watching who want to get married there by revealing all the potential hoops and delays that can happen and ways to improve and avoid delays
2. A good example of keeping your sense of humor as you adapt and accept processes in the Philippines.
I don’t even know how you remembered all these things; my head is still spinning😅
Holy cow, that's insane! You two have been put through hell. I'm totally impressed with your patience Paul. And Mae didn't look like shes even phased by this whle process! I hope it gets done soon and thank you for this eye opening, jaw dropping, beyond crazy Philippine beurocracy. On second thought you have my most sincere thoughts and prayers.
Wow! Keystone 👮♀️ cops😂….Sorry Paul and Baby Mae…
Try it in Germany. The bureaucracy is insane.😝
Oh, Paul and Mae, what a SNAFU! Fingers crossed it will finally be resolved, completely and absolutely resolved, sooner than you think. The only thing that seems to be missing from this story is the trio of Larry, Moe, and Curly. May you have a long, happy, OFFICIALLY MARRIED life together, Mr. and Mrs. McGill! 👍👍
This is why you hire a relative of the mayor to take care of everything.
Pay their fee, sign all the paperwork and get the government document on time. That's just how it works.
Your experiences are better than any reality tv show. Ten times better! Thanks for sharing. And the best of happiness to both of you.
Saw the 30 minute duration and when you mentioned documentation in your first sentence I put on the popcorn. Did not disappoint.
Thank you Oliver
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
Yes my girlfriend just wants a simple wedding But how long it took you to get married chap
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 wait, it's not over?! Wow, good luck.
It was popcorn worthy ... 😅
You know Paul you hit the nail right on the head, ADJUST, ADAPT, and finally you must ACCEPT. You might think about doing a video on those three words. Thank You so much Paul your better than a "SHRINK"!!! God Bless 🙏👌👍
It's like being all dressed up in a nice suit but nowhere to go, it's a great place to start. Thanks for commenting..👍
Official or not.....Congratulations on your marriage....Wishing you both many years of happiness together. Now start planning the honeymoon!!
my friend took a 3 hour flight to Malaysia to get married to a Filipina, due to the administrative nightmare in The Philiippines. They got to have a honeymoon in a foreign country as well.
After 3 marriages and divorces in the United States, I will not be going through that! LOL Great story! Congratulations!
Thanks Patriot
Congrats to you both. You both deserve each other and now you have made the decision to make your relationship official and I think that's great!
The mayor that married us 14 years ago was recently sentenced to 48 years in prison for corruption so wonder if we are legally married?
😂😂
Our first marriage was performed by the mayor of a town outside Cagayan d'Oro. If you know the right people and pay them, you can get whatever you want printed on paper in the Philippines. I went back 6 months later and we had a Catholic Church wedding. All the clothes were rented, including my barong, and it was beautiful.
Very true get to know the barangay captain and wife also the mayor
Hello Paul & Baby Mae - I'd like to say that all that beauracracy is lost on me but I come from Chile and although not as bad as the Philippines, it is still bad that is why I live in Canada. Thank heavens you two love each other and have the patience to endure it & go through the hoops. I am very happy for you two that you got married, you both look very happy💖💖
Thank you my friend
I admire your tenacity. This would have severely tested my patience and I would have been tempted to go back to being a couple without the marriage papers. I salute you both...
I accept. Love that statement. Going crazy over things you can not change will only harm the both of you. In time this will be only a crazy story in a long beautiful journey for the both of you. God Bless.
The bureaucracy in the PH has never change. It was very frustrating for me to get my birth certificate. I misplaced my birth certificate and I couldn't find it. I requested for a new one. It took me almost 2 yrs to finally get the certificate. So, I understand where you are coming from. Absolutely nuts.
I'm sure this was more fun to watch than for you two to go thru. Thank you.
Always more fun after it is over Danny
That's nuts !! = As I have gotten older, my patience has improved enormously, but I would have had problems trying keep my cool in that much Bureaucratic Ineptitude = Kudos to you two for keeping your cool !!
Such positive attitudes!
Couples with great attitudes, who are flexible, and are easy going make for the strongest couples.
Such a great story to tell!
My wife and I got married at a mass wedding in San Quintin on Luzon on Feb 28 this year. Everything was free and it only took 2 weeks to get everything completed. The good thing was that the Municipality fast tracked everything since the mass wedding is put on by the mayors office.They even made wedding photos for free. I could afford to pay but them doing all the paperwork made it worthwhile. We did have to get several of the things you mentioned, but it was very painless. It was actually a nice ceremony. We are also waiting on The PSA to return our marriage certificate.
Paul and Mae always great to see your videos. Real people no sugar coating. You both are lucky to have each other. You have a good wife Paul practical and knows how to save.
OMG!!! Paul your story has motivated me to get the paper work done now while I still have time. How you managed your patience throughout the ordeal.
Do you need to send your wedding gifts back?
God Bless you both.
What wedding gifts?
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 when it’s officially official we’ll send you a wedding gift. :)
Great story! The both of you deserve a lifetime of happiness. God bless.
Thanks so much
Great story Paul..I like the way you ended it. ..Adjust/Adapt/Accept
And I love Baby Mae's discipline with money. Thrift skills...awesome.
May God bless you both more. 😇
Good morning Paul and baby may it looks like I’m your first view this morning. This is cool. I enjoy watching your channel very much hopefully maybe one day within the next year or two I will shake hands be able to buy you a cuppa coffee. God bless.
Thanks Richard
Wow! This is a crazy story. I was starting to think they didn’t want you to get married. Paul, you have a tremendous amount of patience because I would’ve lost it. God bless you both and wish you all the best.
You and Baby Mae deserves a wedding celebration. some People don’t really feel married without the ceremony. Speaking from experience...
This is the funniest (frustrating for you guys) story I have heard you guys tell us.
It will get sorted.... but oh boy, what a tale!!!!
Best of luck in the world, guys
Thanks Ian
Paul, this reminds me of the movie "Idiocracy". Man, kudos to you both and your patience! And congrats to your wedding! God bless you!
Paul enjoy your channel and happy for you and Mae. Wishing all good things.
I really appreciate and respect you and Mae. I haven't seen your videos for a while so congratulations on your marriage. You and Mae are a excellent couple.
Great story and having been through the application for an SRRV( special residential retirement visa), those hoops and changes required are not surprising. And each new document cost extra, maybe that is why it is called The Fee-lippines!
Your story telling is flawless, and enjoyable to listen to...hi Mae, you have a lovely spirit of gentleness.
Hello Paul and Baby Mae, I was actually thinking you both last night. That I had not seen you both for awhile. Good to see your happy smiling faces. Take care. Now I will watch and listen to your video. Lol. All good things come to those who wait. All the very best to you both.
I respect you both for going through all that hassle. I couldn't go through all that trouble for a marriage certificate. I would've just flew her to Vegas and married her there. If Mae wants a church wedding you can go to the Candlelight Wedding Chapel. That's where I married my wife over 20 years ago. Hassle Free, one day event. Even with the airfare expense, we still saved a fortune not having a traditional wedding party with catering and hall and limo rentals. Just a simpler way to go in my opinion.
Would't she need a visa to go to Vegas?
@@mauibuilder1239 I'm not sure, but I would think so, and it's probably a lot easier to get down there at the US Embassy than all the hoops it looks as though you have to jump through to get married over there. But I don't know, I'm just guessing bc I'm not there, I'm in Brooklyn, but I was married in Vegas. Best thing my wife and I could have done. We we're already in our 30's and set in our busy career''s, and we didn't want to deal with all the planning, expenses, who to invite, who not to invite and other b.s.. So we just went to Vegas for a week, got married, met an Elvis, had a great time, and avoided a bunch of stress.
Bless your heart Paul, you are a real trooper for dealing with all this and not losing your cool. Wishing you the best as always. I'm glad you have adjusted to the Philippines way things happen.
Love seeing the little pup pop his head up! Is there a video featuring him?
Coming soon
@@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234Yayyy 🐶❤🐶
This girl deserves the world.
Paul you tell the best stories! Love your channel. Keep up the great work!! Blessings to you & Mae.
I hope that I can Adjust, Adapt and Accept the trials and tribulations wherever I end up. Thanks, Paul and Mae. 👍🏽
Good Video Paul and Baby Mae 😊. Made me chuckle a bit 😂.
Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏
Dear Paul & Baby May, WOW! I understand your feelings and frustration. Thank you for your time, patience, and explanation the two of you are going through. God's Blessings
Once your marriage is in the PSA system and they issue you a Certified Copy of you marriage (yellow copy), have May stop in PSA and get additional originals (yellow copies) , you will need them. While at PSA, have her get additional certified copies of her birth certificate, she will need them.
Well all this debacle made for an interesting video and still more to come. Good luck 😊
Thanks a lot Paul, I'm heading there to get married as well and hopefully we can be lucky and not go through the obstacles you guys went through. I'll let you know what happens...till then God bless and keep on with the 3 A's.
It's all fun in the Philippines----luckily my wife worked in City Hall of one of the Manila NCR cities---she knew people who knew people and with payment of a little graft money, she could get paperwork moving withing hours or a couple of days----very lucky---she got her annulment but getting all of the paperwork registered was crazy and she had a plane ticket and our wedding planned in Australia---got it finalised with two weeks to spare. I asked her about her Mayor not turning up for booked weddings---she said that happened but the Vice Mayor or a senior counsellor would perform the wedding and the Mayor would sign the paperwork later as though he had performed the ceremony-----it's the Philippines
Thank you for informing me about bribery in PH. Up untill now I couldn’t find an answer whether it existed or not.
I know it is possible in Indonesia. It makes life so much easier.
Hi Paul. I am an American who married a Philipina as well. Everything you said was right on. I started my paperwork in June of 2022. By the time I had everything done between my paperwork & my wife's paperwork we were able to set a date to be married on Sept. 12th. Then it took over 3 weeks to get the marriage certificate. After that I had to go to Immigration to apply for my 13A marriage visa. It took me until October2022 to finally have everything finalized. So it took over 4 months to get everything finalized. So I know what you went thru. It was not a lot of fun.
What a MISSION just to have a very simple marriage!!!!! Incredible and ONLY in the Philippines!
No, not only in PH. Wake up.
All in All, I am happy for both of you. Hope you both can get to the US and Mae can really see what the US is really like. Looking down the road, I would expect that both of you will spend significant time in the US in the coming years not because you want to because you have to. Paul at some point will need US medical care to manage what ever illness comes his way. Mae is a solid citizen hard worker. She will be able to work in the US, get her own Medicare and Social Security entitlement and build a retirement nest egg on her own. Anything Paul gives/leaves her will be gravy. Again, I am so happy for the both of you. I know the paperwork will be done. Shortly, you can get on with the next exciting chapter in your lives. Great story, hang in there.
Wow Paul and Janet, what an adventure. I think you should write a screen play, it would make a great movie. ND the way you and Mae describe it I think it would fall in the comedy category
Hey Paul, Baby Mae and Tada! You are officially a Pinoy Paul. Way to hang tough with tons of patience. God Bless!
We wish you the best, but really, the best part is having Mae. She’s so beautiful. You are a awesome couple.
Thanks so much
I got married here in manila 16 years ago, we had to jump through a few hoops but nothing like this. I would have exploded back then 😂😂😂.
Congratulations to both of you. Just by hearing you Paul, forget about getting married in PH.
Wow Paul really interesting video - hang in there- i am sure you will eventually get all of the t’s crossed
Hope so Bill
HEY PAUL! You found a Diamond in the rough with Baby Mae. Happy for both of you folks…👍🙏❤️.
Thanks in sharing your experience. Please post f/u final marriage paper debacle… I look forward the finality 😃
So happy for both of you! You both look glowing. Congratulations 🎉❤
Just a couple of things for guys to consider. Just an opinion.
1. If you have moved to the Philippines permanently. And if you have established a solid relationship. Go for it. Filipinas are wonderful wives.
2. If you are intending to bring her home to the U.S. use a fiancee visa. Takes less time and you can see as Paul has shown, less complicated.
3. If you have not established a permanent relationship, divorce in the Philippines is very, very difficult.
Things to ponder.
Married my Filipina wife 19 years ago, by a Judge. Still the best thing I ever did.
Regarding your situation, another well-known Philippines vlogger would simply smile and say: "Welcome to the Philippines!"
In 2007 I got married in the Philippines. My wife is Catholic and I am Lutheran (and divorced). Our original thought was to get married in the Catholic Church but, like you guys, we quickly determined that was a no go. I was still working and living in the States and could only get away for 10 days at a time. There was no way for us to satisfy the Catholic requirements. Fortunately there was a Lutheran church in Baguio happy to marry us. The ceremony was one of the highlights of my life: a blend of Western, Spanish, Igorot cultures. I remember having to go to the US Embassy in Manila to get some kind of clearance from them. I know I had to have my divorce papers and a letter from the church I got baptized in. We actually "shopped around" for a municipality to get our marriage license, I don't remember why, it was La Trinidad instead of Baguio but for some obscure reason it was all good. Perhaps one of the reasons it went smoothly for us was that my father-in-law was a former employee of the City of Baguio and was well connected. Our sponsors included the mayor of Baguio and the Governor of Benguet. The Governor gave a nice speech and a duvet which I still refer to as the governor's quilt. We had no problem getting our official marriage certificate in a timely manner. Perhaps having the right connections makes the difference.
The last sentence you've said probably is the key in most or every area in Philippines (and I'm sure not just in Philippines) but it's gotten pretty much straight forward in the Cordillera Region, except when somebody honestly forgets to do one thing, or write down one requirement or put a check on one in the checkbox list before giving it to you, and have them completed.
But for most things of public documentary, the biggest problem is most offices requiring too much from the people when there is a gross lack of interoffice or interdepartment digital networks, at least nowadays, mostly in the local level. But still.
Off topic: In the video [I can no longer find] in which you, Paul, gave Mae's sister some solid advice about NOT hooking up with an older guy [40 year difference???] you earned my respect. You also reminded me of why I had better think REALLY HARD before I hook up with a younger doll.
Thank you for the wake-up call.
Stay safe. Be well.
Best part of the whole video was ???......... Ta da playing and being frisky non stop with Baby Mae😄😄 what a wonderful little puppy you all have. Love it.
You pore busted))) mick Australia.
I watch and thums up👍 every video.
This my first message. )
I appreciate your time your heart to all❤. I pray you go to the top in youtube. God bless
She deserves the best Paul, its only once in a womans life! ❤️ Baby Mae!
you have a patience that remains a mystery to me. We should give you the Medal of Patience and Wisdom.
I really admire both of you! Love that you guys are taking this ordeal with a great sense of humor. Hopefully, it will all work out in the end! I love that Mae is frugal as most true filipinas are…she’s a keeper, Paul!
February 17th was perfect!
3 + 14 = 17 !
Birthday + Valentine's = wedding day
We got married in 2018 by a small town Mayor. I wasn't living here so we had to go to the US Embassy in Manila to get some kind of document. When I met my wife my visa was expiring in a few days. I got an extension so we could get aquatinted and we are both happily married now, Thanks for sharing your experience.
Paul you look so much healthier and happier since you married Mae, congratulations to you both!
Such a process i was in stitches you must have an old fashioned stack of paper a mile high for this one ..but gotta say it just made a great video..there has to be a few extra Notorized signatures that you dont know you dont need...yet....lol😅
Some Marriages would have already failed before you finally got the Knot tied..gotta say finally got it in a frame xx
Congratulations to you both ...xx
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Hi Paul ,thank God my wife Aurora and I got married in New Zealand, great video
Congratulations to the both of you! It proves to me that you two are meant to be together. It will all work out. Best wishes!
Good to put these Red Tape videos out and you accept it with a smile!
My daughter got married in the courthouse with jp.She went to courthouse during lunchtime and went back to work at 1:00 .And she said she don’t wanna spend lots of money for church wedding because it’s a waste of money if she end up divorce.But now their still married been married for 16 yrs
I got married in pampanga back inn '94 through a lawyer. It took us a day but there was no PSA requirement at the time. The only other requirement was a trip to embassy for clearance to marry. When returned to the philippines last year i needed PSA certificate and low and behold it was there. Boy have times chznged.
Got married last month in Samar and my process was much easier. Wife dealt with everything in the Philippines, I just provided a few documents. No classes, able to get priority, but family close friends with the mayor 😀. Now have marriage certificate after two weeks and it normally takes 3/6 months.
Yes just for the 13A Visa, or 9A Visa for 6 months wile waiting on your 13 A Visa😉
dont say in your home country your are maried😇
Hey Paul.... Just wanted to say ... May is a keeper... Seems that you got a great girl there!!
Wish you all the best... If you ever make it to South America drop in and visit Rancho Montana
WOW!! Like this channel and others on RUclips. Exposes me to different cultures and gives me a better understanding of people. Have been out of the United States to other countries and really enjoyed it. Been to Mexico several times with my husband. But he just likes staying home now which is fine. I like the 3 A''s Adjust, Adapt, and Accept. Hope to go to another country soon. Thanks for letting the public into your life there. Very interesting.
Paul, I love listening to your stories and life aboard. I have lived in Japan and Guam for 3 years in each. I still have the Asain Fever. Even after a failed marriage to a great Japanese girl. Im thinking I need to retire soon, and you have really helped me think logically and realistically about this possible plan. Thanks for sharing your life with us here in RUclips land. God bless you seem like a good man.
Paul, you got married in the province just like i did and it takes 6 to 8 months for that paper to get sent from the province to manila. My wife's US visa was dellayed because of the processing at the PSA.
I agree. Alot of ppl spend so much on the wedding day without taking into account after the wedding day. I have been married for 10 yrs this yr n l made all bouquets, headpiece, food and bought a beautiful brand new wedding dress for 120.00. Friend made a beautiful wedding cake for nothing. Got married in my church which didn't cost a cent because it's free n they aren't a money making organisation.
My wife and I got married on July 5th in Quezon city (Manila) and before I headed home we received our Govt. marriage 10 days later as I was heading home to Canada on the 17th of July. Man I really feel for you both as we booked our wedding a week and a half before July 5th and BOOM everything was easy peasy. Take care both of you by for now. Oh what did you call that visa if married that is for a year?
Came over from Richie's channel..Subbed 👍
Nice video Paul, I like how you explained everything step by step. OMG, what a process you went through.
We got married in the US when my now wife came over on a K1 Visa, this went very smoothly and then we had to register the marriage with the Phillippines Embassy in New York City. So our marriage is registered in the Philippines as well.
I am sure you have now saved many people from making the same mistakes you and Mae made. Your channel is a treasure trove of great valid information. I am sure your paper will be coming soon, I wish I can say be patient, but things are well beyond that at this point.
Congrats on your marriage Paul and Mae cheers to an awesome life together, God Bless and enjoy life 2.0.
Great video Paul!…you should post in your permanent overview of your website, a completed list of everything a couple would need to complete the marriage requirements…that would be a long term help to all…
It seems unreasonable to me to expect anyone to go through such hell to get married!
Believe me when I say that it does not pay to become indignant, angry, or mouthy with people in there, no matter what they put you through. That’s not to way that things are done there, and you will earn enduring hatred. Just swallow all of that, remain calm on the outside, and ask to see a supervisor.
I almost forgot. When you stand in line, it is not first come, first served there. It’s loudest first. Another thing is that new people joining a line do not join at the back of the line. They join at the front, nestling their body against yours, and very gradually inching their way in front of you, while never once looking at you. You see we westerners typically do not like strangers touching them, therefore we involuntarily tends to step back a half inch, causing them to advance until their body is rubbing against yours again,causing you to step back a half inch, causing them to advance again. . . On and on. . .
You see it requires self discipline to join a line at the back, or to refrain from throwing trash out the window of a bus, jeepney, or while walking, which is not a Filipino trait.
I was in Montana. My wife to be was in Bayawan, Negros Oriental. We got a marriage certificate on-line from Utah County, Utah, United States. I found a pastor who would marry us on-line. My witnesses were in West Virginia. We all got on Zoom and got married.
After the marriage I got notarized copies of the marriage certificates. I then got all the necessary documents for the official Report of Marriage (too many to list here), and sent it all off to the Philippine Consulate in San Francisco. I then arrived in the Philippines on a tourist visa, and waited for the Report of Marriage to arrive via UPS to my Philippine address. Once I had the Report of Marriage I went to JRC and started the process to get my 13A visa. Fraught with tension the whole time, but it all worked well.
We got married in Valencia also but seems like the checklist was complete with everything required. Also had a checklist from Our Lady of the Abandoned Parish (what a name, right?), and since I didn't have proof of being Catholic, had another checklist to complete from the Bishop at the Cathedral in Duma. Once all checklists were complete, and the Priest here in Valencia approved the dress (had to get shoulder coverings for all the dresses because he didn't want shoulders showing). We were good to go. We started April or May and married 2 July 2016. The took about 5 months (Filipino time 30 days) to get our certified Marriage Certificates (I ordered 5 official copies) from the PSA office. Then was able to change her passport ect. Yup, Balikbayan is nice to have.
Smart and beautiful… Paul, you have a winner!!!
Fight for beauty! Congratulations - she has princess like look > best & happy wishes to you and the feoncy / fancy ✨️
Congratulations! Have you notified the SBU office at the U.S. Embassy? Get the clock stated with Social Security.
Hi Paul and Mae - We just went to Australia and got Married in 2020 - All done in a month - we registered with Sydney Embassy - Philippines are so complicated - anyway if you didn’t have Bad Luck you would have No Luck - Take Care you 2
Had pretty much the same happen with our wedding there in the Philippines. You got really lucky on the medical certificate sign off, that is supposed to be a questionnaire each of you get. It covers all sorts of things from having babies, sex. Basically how well do you really know your partner. The person at the clinic sits at the desk as you fill these out in front of them. My wife kept asking me what to put, I told her I can't answer your questionnaire you need to put your answers. I was laughing at the questions while my wife was pretty embarrassed about them.