My Sexual Abuse Story | Chiquis and Chill Ep 18

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    My Sexual Abuse Story | Chiquis and Chill Ep 18
    Warning: This episode may be triggering for some listeners.
    Chiquis recounts parts of her sexual abuse story in an attempt to help others. She talks about some of her earliest experiences of abuse by her biological father and explains how she’s been able to forgive him.
    If you, or someone you know, needs help call the National Sexual Assault hotline at 1-800-656-4673. You can also visit them at Rainn.org
    Original Air Date: March 7, 2022
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Комментарии • 391

  • @lola3523
    @lola3523 2 года назад +886

    That fact that she says her dad was a good dad regardless what he did to her you can clearly see that she was groomed by him I could care less what he taught you a good dad will never do this to his childrens

    • @Robloxgurl-r8n
      @Robloxgurl-r8n 2 года назад +31

      Definitely 😢

    • @leticiaholt1998
      @leticiaholt1998 2 года назад +35

      He pretended to be a good dad ):

    • @Amanda-qz3zh
      @Amanda-qz3zh 2 года назад +55

      She’s very religious and I feel like that plays part in it. She even said that her dad would already state that ‘the girls are such liars’ to make it seem like no matter what they say it would seem like they were just making things up. There’s nothing wrong with her forgiving her father and letting go to help her move on but the fact is her father did horrible awful things to multiple people and for that he is not a good dad, man or human being.

    • @007private
      @007private Год назад +28

      it sounds like he treated her like a spouse , not a daughter . Sick

    • @lopezsv
      @lopezsv Год назад

      Exactly

  • @tanyarojas9475
    @tanyarojas9475 Год назад +211

    Is it weird that it gives me comfort hearing other peoples stories? Like im sorry we all went through this but it also makes me feel that I’m not alone. Like im not the only one in the world that went through this. I just want to say FU to all the people that ruined our childhood. 💯😩❤️

    • @mdlopezPDM
      @mdlopezPDM Год назад +11

      It's not wierd and I've done the same thing all my life. Always watched movies and documentaries and youtube testimonies about sexual abuse I guess in hopes it would make me brave to talk, but still took me over 40 years to finally tell my truth.

    • @shesmarlyn8283
      @shesmarlyn8283 Год назад +5

      I know I always thought I was the only one dude I need someone one to talk to fr

    • @mariaaragon2160
      @mariaaragon2160 Год назад

      FU !!!!

  • @CCCamp-ij7pi
    @CCCamp-ij7pi 2 года назад +345

    You are 100% correct our community tends to protect the abuser and ostracized the victims, No child ever does this for attention or lies about such a serious thing,

    • @valerierosad0
      @valerierosad0 Год назад +4

      My aunt told my mom
      Not to believe me
      About my step father molesting me. Still at 38 I struggle with it.

    • @CCCamp-ij7pi
      @CCCamp-ij7pi Год назад

      @@valerierosad0 You will struggle for the rest of your life. Those feelings will come in big and small waves, frequent and infrequent waves, and one day you will cry happy tears because you will notice your inner child is healing. If you can seek a therapist that specializes in childhood trauma the cognitive behavior therapy will help tremendously.

    • @lunarossa5466
      @lunarossa5466 Год назад +2

      Y lo,peor de todo es que esta persona continúa eso con otros ! Nose como protegen a personas así

  • @Lovelybird530
    @Lovelybird530 2 года назад +136

    He was grooming you. That’s why he was being so nice and doing all these things. My heart goes out to you.

  • @kita3256
    @kita3256 2 года назад +337

    That man is disgusting. He was not a good dad. He was grooming you.

    • @GarCueAli
      @GarCueAli 2 года назад +23

      I can't believe she said he was a good when he was clearly not!!!! He had choices at 🌃 night! He was for sure GROOMING her😔

    • @andreac.b8319
      @andreac.b8319 2 года назад +5

      My dad was excatly like that. 😯 didn’t know he was grooming me 😮

    • @kita3256
      @kita3256 2 года назад +9

      @@andreac.b8319 of course. As kids we don’t know when we’re being groomed. The adults are fully responsible and despicable.

    • @lola3523
      @lola3523 2 года назад +1

      That's a exactly what I said she was groomed especially hearing her saying that regardless he was a great dad and taught her many things seems like she admire him but truly he was a monster and not a good dad

    • @Savagemode09
      @Savagemode09 Год назад +1

      i think she's fully aware of that despite him doing that parents still teach you things. I was also r worded at a young age so I understand. The hardest thing to do is forgiving someone especially in this situation. I used to be angry with everyone and especially with my mom she was diagnosed with schizophrenia she at times embaressed me but idk better. Despite that she was still my mom she gave me good memories still. You dont get it until you been in her situation

  • @vargasduo1612
    @vargasduo1612 2 года назад +173

    Why is it always the family? Like people are so sick! There's so many people you can have sex with & they chose innocent young souls to sexually abuse.

    • @memyselfi8391
      @memyselfi8391 2 года назад +5

      Exactly 😭

    • @ruthnavarro-torres9266
      @ruthnavarro-torres9266 Год назад +4

      But the worse part it’s when you are 18 , and you on family blames you, because you knew what was happening and let it happen 😢😡, and they continue with their lives like nothing happened, until this day call me any nasty name , but no sexually abused 😢.

    • @lesliemuniz5000
      @lesliemuniz5000 Год назад +2

      ​@@ruthnavarro-torres9266 I hope that you at least know that it wasn't your fault and that the names and things your "family " call and say about you aren't true. I also hope that you've removed them from your life and are happy living your best life .

  • @alejandra2530
    @alejandra2530 2 года назад +151

    My mom believed what happened to me and she never spoke with her bother again. Never trust your kids with anyone.

  • @liverbirdxoxo1984
    @liverbirdxoxo1984 2 года назад +289

    I was raped at 18... I kept it secret from by dad for 5 years... I got breast cancer age 29... I truly believe it's because I carried so much pain for so long... your right, trauma like that does cause sickness x

    • @Kawiboy
      @Kawiboy 2 года назад +14

      My heart goes out to you. My first time here and I'm heartbroken hearing these stories.. Your all AMAZING 💙🥰🤗😉 Take care and b well .. OLD G

    • @liverbirdxoxo1984
      @liverbirdxoxo1984 2 года назад +3

      @@Kawiboy thank you... that's very kind of you x

    • @Kawiboy
      @Kawiboy 2 года назад +1

      @@liverbirdxoxo1984 Have a Fantastic Holiday 💙😉

    • @04fridag
      @04fridag Год назад

      Awe baby I’m so sorry you went through all of this but I hope you’re way better 😢

  • @wonderwendy
    @wonderwendy 2 года назад +543

    I’m definitely going to start calling out my creepy uncles in front of everyone

    • @michmex220
      @michmex220 2 года назад +88

      Yes!!!! You do that !! I just called out my husbands abuser who was a family member of his , i got so pissed off 😤 when I saw that pervert at a family gathering That I made my poor husband tell him in front of everyone in the family what he had done to him as a child! My husband was so glad that I made him do it , because he felt a ton a weight fall off he’s shoulders. And now we are doing so much better in every way in our life’s because of it !! My husband now feels free 🙏🏼❤️

    • @BreezyNici
      @BreezyNici 2 года назад +20

      @@michmex220 omg!!! That’s so intimidating to do! Props to your husband for telling everyone. Glad he feels better 🙏🏼

    • @khernan2010
      @khernan2010 2 года назад +12

      Yes girl please .. we won’t be there with you but spiritually we’re with you.. you have the strength

    • @karenyareligarcia8387
      @karenyareligarcia8387 2 года назад +6

      @@michmex220 im still not ready to confront him and tell the whole fam 😔 my cousin (his daughter) and i where so close when we where little and i can't find the courage to tell the fam. They would'nt believe me cause he seems so "innocent, and a very good man"... i hope your husbands closer relatives believed him and stoped talking to him. God bless you guys

    • @jasminmartinez7185
      @jasminmartinez7185 Год назад +1

      I had a creepy uncle. I told my mom that he gave me vibes. She said I was lying.

  • @Andreabruno81907
    @Andreabruno81907 Год назад +111

    This happened to me as a kid😢 I grew up bitter and later in life developed anxiety. I live till this day in fight mode. I don’t trust my kids to ANYONE . My job is to protect them and to make sure no one hurts them 😢 people who harm kids don’t deserve to live

    • @ivonnegonzales1994
      @ivonnegonzales1994 Год назад +1

      Aww your a good mom. Protective always even when the kids don’t understand ❤ I hope your anxiety goes away for good someday. Hang in there

    • @aimeehernandez8217
      @aimeehernandez8217 Год назад +1

      It happened to me from my sister husband 😢

    • @dopelikekristyle139
      @dopelikekristyle139 11 месяцев назад

      So sorry you went through that, i hope you've found some healing 🙏🏽

  • @adilenesnunez5378
    @adilenesnunez5378 2 года назад +96

    He was not a good parent. I’m sorry that you still believe he is. A good parent is someone who keeps you save. He failed you in more ways then one

  • @sunnyday6348
    @sunnyday6348 2 года назад +76

    Pediphiles are usually very charming and “caring” this are tactic they use. He was not a good father.

    • @kita3256
      @kita3256 2 года назад +3

      I’m surprised she thinks he was a good dad. Shows that he still owns her. Sad.

  • @FlowerItzel18
    @FlowerItzel18 2 года назад +75

    That’s why I respect Jenni so much, she wasn’t aware because it’s the last thing you can think of that your kid’s father is abusing them in any way, but as soon as she found out she didn’t try to keep it quiet, she went to the police and got her daughters and sister help. Chiquis is right, in the Mexican community people don’t say anything when these things are happening, or they just straight up don’t believe their kids, and it has to stop. Parents need to see the red flags, it doesn’t matter if they never did anything to you but that doesn’t mean that they won’t do anything to your kids, if you get bad vibes from a family member or if someone in your family is brave enough to speak up or just say that they don’t feel comfortable around a certain family member, don’t just brush it off ask more questions say something.

  • @Moonlit.22
    @Moonlit.22 2 года назад +166

    He’s not in jail because you testified against him. That monster is in jail for doing those horrible acts on his own child. We need to stop guilt tripping ourselves when we were just children who they preyed upon. I promise once you have children of your own you will look at it much different.

  • @michelleraigoza6637
    @michelleraigoza6637 2 года назад +98

    Me at 32 years told my mom about what happened when I was little and I still wasn’t believed even though my cousin had spoke out as a child about this relative no one believed her. I will always believe what my children tell me. If parents or guardians would support the child more I think more people would have the courage to speak up.

  • @B12335
    @B12335 Год назад +109

    The fact she was scared to tell her mom cause she knew she’d kill him. Jenny has always been that WOMAN

  • @michmex220
    @michmex220 2 года назад +56

    You did the right thing chiquis by testifying against your dad. You probably saved a lot of other children that he could have hurt if you wouldn’t have spoke up!! Because till this day your dad is still not remorseful, he has not came to you and even asked your forgiveness yet !! That tells me that he still doesn’t own what he did to you , nor is he sorry about it. Unfortunately!!!’ He is right where he needs to be.

    • @tshaolin971
      @tshaolin971 Год назад

      You don’t know, what he needed is therapy, prison doesn’t help much.

  • @savannahblues5258
    @savannahblues5258 2 года назад +85

    this sounds so similar to my story… my dad, and 2 cousins. crazy how a lot of us have the same stories by the most important men in our lives. ive always felt crazy for my story- stories! it takes a strong person to talk about their abuse. you probably saved somebody’s life.

  • @lennypasan5230
    @lennypasan5230 Год назад +30

    I could never have the strength to talk about my sexual abuse! I spoke to my therapist about it and told her how scared I was to open about it to my mother because of how many years I kept it to myself!

    • @mdlopezPDM
      @mdlopezPDM Год назад +2

      I thought I would never talk about it ever! I held on to it for over 40yrs and when I was triggered the emotional damage I went through was the most awful and terrifying moment in my life, but saying the words outloud was necessary. Writing the words down was therapeutic and like they all say....after you let it out you take a big sigh and breathe. It stays with you, but no longer holds me in that dark mental and emotional space. Peace and Hugs to you and may you one day heal from the trauma! ❤

    • @AmandaHugNKiss4
      @AmandaHugNKiss4 8 месяцев назад

      Same! I am now turning 35 and JUST started speaking out about my SA to my therapist that happened from the ages of 5-8yrs old. I told her I will NEVER tell my mom what happened because I already know she will go in & it will just create more problems that I don’t want to deal with in my life 😢

  • @alejandraveloz8818
    @alejandraveloz8818 2 года назад +73

    Chiquis is such an amazing soul and very strong woman and she is right.. this trauma starts to come and surface once your older. I admire her so much. Thank you for speaking up about this topic and being brave enough to speak about your testimony ♥️ Sending hugs

  • @genesisortiz8060
    @genesisortiz8060 Год назад +17

    This happened to me with my step dad when I was 11 I’m 20 now and still haven’t told my mom I’m scared they both will say I’m lying especially since it’s been so long. I’m so thankful God never gave him a daughter only 3 sons.

  • @drayjimenez680
    @drayjimenez680 2 года назад +24

    It’s so sad how much this can consume you in so many ways as a little kid until now as an adult…At this point as an adult I try to let it go but the emotions and flashbacks hit me even more so now that I just want this to be in my past..

  • @aracelilazcon30
    @aracelilazcon30 2 года назад +22

    He wasn’t a good dad. A “dad”is supposed to cook for his child and is supposed to show them how to wash clothes etc so the child can do it on their own. That doesn’t make them a good dad. A good dad doesn’t harm their kids. There is a difference between love and providing food and shelter.

  • @oralysr5759
    @oralysr5759 2 года назад +35

    Chiquis your dad is in jail bc HE TOUCHED YOU! It is not your fault AT ALLL EVER! Love you you’re so so strong ❤

  • @vidabohemme490
    @vidabohemme490 Год назад +7

    Love you Chiquis, I see you. It takes a lot of strength to be this vulnerable. I’m proud of you for speaking your truth, you’re not alone.

  • @alienpinkbird
    @alienpinkbird 2 года назад +31

    Anyone out there reading this, the abuse you suffered was an experience nobody deserves but we are the unlucky few, but don’t dwell on it or waste any
    More negative thoughts, live and do what makes you happy what counts is what you do with your life now

  • @TheHumblelife69
    @TheHumblelife69 Год назад +17

    I cried so much reading your book because I could relate to it. I cry now when I remember but not only because I was a little girl , I wish I could hug my youngest self sometimes

  • @vanessaa.9409
    @vanessaa.9409 2 года назад +32

    He was not a good dad! He took the purest part from you. That’s an evil thing.

  • @rebecagomez2055
    @rebecagomez2055 2 года назад +21

    Know that you helped many of us who have been through this. Forgiveness has to be for you not the other person!! 💞💞💞

  • @citlallytorres4052
    @citlallytorres4052 Год назад +15

    Somehow this is so comforting… Just hearing someone elses story, sadly. My mother never believed me. I’m sooooo glad you have the mother you have because of her backing you up and standing behind you 1000 % you are the person you are now!

  • @lindacortez7363
    @lindacortez7363 Год назад +17

    I was abused by my uncle and I've never told anyone! But hearing this podcast now. I feel that I can tell my mom even though it's been sometime. But I'll be damned if I let little girl get near him.

    • @emilyann5221
      @emilyann5221 Год назад

      ur strong! if no one believes i just know i do ☹️🖤❤️‍🩹

    • @lesliemuniz5000
      @lesliemuniz5000 Год назад

      It's never too late to speak up. I was 5. I am now 27, and I told my mother this year. I've been moved on from it, but I thought it was important to speak up and educate my mother on the importance of boundaries with people because a lot of Hispanic/Latino parents force us to hug and talk to and fully trust our uncles, aunts and family friends. It's ok to remove family members who don't believe you. You know your truth.

  • @yesenialopez1210
    @yesenialopez1210 2 года назад +14

    Thank you so sharing Chiquis. I cried as a survivor. Thank you for opening up. Gosh chiquis thank you. I am not what happen to me . I never will be.

  • @nataliem.3879
    @nataliem.3879 2 года назад +27

    Poor Chiquis man this soo sad she been threw soo much! I’m glad u went to therapy and got help that defitely helped ur healing! Your dad is a sick person and deserves to stay n jail for life!

  • @marisolruiz8816
    @marisolruiz8816 Год назад +15

    A person who loves you doesn't hurt you. He is a narcissist who was a great dad so he didn't feel guilty about what he was doing to his own kids.

  • @mariperez6526
    @mariperez6526 2 года назад +14

    I want to say all these beautiful ladies that have survived, you guys are truly angels and i wish nothing but happiness for your guys lifes ❤️❤️❤️

  • @lupitaramirez5009
    @lupitaramirez5009 2 года назад +18

    Mija I am so proud of you. Thank you for helping so many with all this! May God always keep you safe and keep you free!!

  • @lesliemuniz5000
    @lesliemuniz5000 Год назад +4

    I think its important to teach our kids about boundaries with people especially with family and family friends. When I was young I was always told to speak to ,hug, and fully trust family I didn't know what was ok and not ok for family to do. When I didn't feel comfortable around someone I was still forced to interact with them because it would be rude not to, we need to stop forcing our children to say hi or be around people they're not comfortable with. It's very important we teach and talk to our kids about these topics its uncomfortable but it's necessary. Make sure you're involved in your kids lives, social media, online games, so that they can feel comfortable speaking to you about anything.

  • @blessedbythebest1003
    @blessedbythebest1003 2 года назад +9

    The MOST important thing about these horrible situations is WHAT WILL THE PARENT DO?
    that changes EVERYTHING.

  • @ashleyfuentes4730
    @ashleyfuentes4730 2 года назад +21

    Thank you for speaking on this, I was raped and molested by a family friend from 7-9. It is crazy, and your emotions you felt were the same I felt and still feel until this day. I never pressed charges because I was so afraid 😭 and wish I did now.

  • @debbierodriguez6576
    @debbierodriguez6576 Год назад +9

    Hi Chiquis, I have always admired you! The things you have been through is crazy. Thank you for sharing your story. It definitely helps many people with their own stories to speak up. I am no one to judge your decisions. I respect you, and I wish nothing but blessings and good vibes for you and your siblings. #JenniForever

  • @akkiec9172
    @akkiec9172 Год назад +4

    oh my gosh i can't even imagine going through anything like this. I'm so thankful my mom talked to me at such a young age on what was okay and what wasn't. Definitely saved me from this happening bc i was able to advocate for myself bc i knew it was wrong.

  • @lilo2226
    @lilo2226 2 года назад +20

    My mom never did nothing about even when told.After years of being married, two yrs ago I told my kids and husband.My advice would be say everything tell everyone .It will hit you harder when you are older.Don’t lie for him no more secrets it ,ends today…

    • @marisamendoza3785
      @marisamendoza3785 2 года назад +2

      Your right as you get older it comes out ugh that's what I'm going through

    • @lilo2226
      @lilo2226 2 года назад

      @@marisamendoza3785 Hang on there has to be a day when this chapter is closed.Have you told your family or if your married your husband, kids?I told mine this past year and it did help ease some of the pain.I wish you the best and that you soon heal.Like I will one day.

  • @mywaymychoice5423
    @mywaymychoice5423 4 месяца назад

    Thank God for your mom protecting you. May she rest in peace. My half brother who's 11 years older than me molested me for 5 years. When I finally told my mom at 15 she forbade me from telling my dad. We had different dad's, and wouldn't take me to psychologist or to get any help. 10 years later my priest helped with forgiveness but explained it was to help me let go but it didn't mean I needed to allow my half brother in my life or have a relationship with him. That was a relief and blessing. Pray for us all we receive healing and help as needed to be ok and continue with life. Thank you for sharing Chiquis. God bless

  • @rainbowgoddesz4187
    @rainbowgoddesz4187 Год назад +18

    I spoke out about what happened to me! I was molested by my Step Uncle! His name is Porfirio Parga Jr and lives in Tucson, AZ!! I spoke up at she 12 and nothing EVER happened to him!! He's molested others as well. I feel my Dad & StepMom we're not good enough advocates for me!! I can't be around him, I leave family functions if he shows up. I wish somebody fought for me & made him pay but no. But he has to go in front of God & answer for what he did!!!

    • @morena_520
      @morena_520 Год назад

      I am truly sorry my love for all the pain and suffering you have gone through... Not having the people who should be there for you , be your voice and have your back!! Just know I know your pain and yes he will answer to God!! I love you more than you know and I will always be there for you ❤❤

  • @jennifergongora9727
    @jennifergongora9727 2 года назад +6

    OMGOODNESS ...CHIQUIS,,,I AM BECOMING YOUR #1 FAN !! keep living, keep smiling, keep loving NEVER EVER LOSE YOUR FAITH IN GOD ! YOU ARE A INSPIRATION AND THANK U FOR TELLING US YOUR TRUTH...HELPING US WHO CANT OPEN UP. COPE ❤️🙏

  • @vhg774
    @vhg774 2 года назад +63

    I wish I had a mom like Jenni who believed me and helped me 😕

  • @gitzelzarate1666
    @gitzelzarate1666 7 месяцев назад +1

    I never told anyone, then at 16 I went on vacation with my moms best friend and she caught me slippin. I was swimming in the beautiful ocean, and she just asked " did soso do something to you"
    And without even thinking I spit out the truth.😢
    She told my mom and when I got back home my mom gave me the option to handle it however I wanted. She said it was my chance to get my revenge.... 16 yr old me was too scared so I said no let's just never talk to him again.
    And we never saw him or spoke to him again. I'm glad everyone believed me, he was my favorite uncle 💔

  • @adrianasanchez1400
    @adrianasanchez1400 Год назад +4

    You telling your story is something that a lot of people that went threw it like my self and other woman won’t ever say a word and stay quite and be afraid more so I’m glad you told your story to aware other woman and girls don’t be afraid to speak 🗣 speak up 🆙 cause it can get worst 💯

  • @bellamescudi6901
    @bellamescudi6901 2 года назад +24

    So weird how this popped up on my feed. Been thinking about my abuse lately I just don’t remember anymore only bits … I think my brain blocked it, I don’t know if it’s true or not

    • @Marigold_617
      @Marigold_617 2 года назад +2

      I have the exact same memory but idk if it’s true or not

  • @GarCueAli
    @GarCueAli 2 года назад +20

    Don't say he was a good dad!!!!! 🙄😔He was GROOMING YOU!!!!!!

  • @lesliesinay
    @lesliesinay Год назад +3

    I could never forgive something like this. I’m sorry, but you never forget something like this. 😮 no. Thank you for sharing your story. You are a good person for still believing your dad is good man.

  • @elleef8944
    @elleef8944 2 года назад +9

    Thank you for this Chiquis. This is my first time tuning in & I really needed this ❤️❤️

  • @drose4TheLord5
    @drose4TheLord5 2 года назад +10

    Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. This topic is fr so taboo in our culture. I pray anyone going through sa gets the help they need 🙏

  • @berenicemartinez9238
    @berenicemartinez9238 2 года назад +9

    Being blamed or not believed is worse than the abuse itself

    • @microbios8586
      @microbios8586 Год назад +1

      That is absolutely true. The original "trauma" can be dealt with easily. The domino effect of self blame, shame, and distrust among many other patterns of thinking are what destroy people. It has taken me years to realize what you've said.

  • @vanessaabeyta1905
    @vanessaabeyta1905 2 года назад +13

    My brother who is not entitled to be even called that I call him "Puto". Did IT to me for 4 years. I had a fall out with my daughter on México Mother's day this year She told my aunt what happened to me and I think my family still don't believe IT happened to me. This is why I never told my family. I knew they wouldn't believe me had a horrible childhood.

  • @mariagarcia4955
    @mariagarcia4955 17 дней назад

    Forgiveness is for you not the other person who hurt you. Especially the ones who do not take accountability for their actions. Just because you forgive it is something that will live with you forever, that is why just because you forgive does not mean you need to have a relationship with that person. May God bless you always for being strong. ❤

  • @evelyngonzalez7588
    @evelyngonzalez7588 2 года назад +23

    A family member tried to SA me and I never told anyone until I was 33years old I told my mom and she still keeps this person around. Make it make sense. 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @MARIAFELIX-ii2uo
    @MARIAFELIX-ii2uo Год назад +2

    DIOS MiO!! I was listening to this horrible but true story and I cried the whole time. I pray for you and your family for God to give you the strength to go on. God bless you Chiquis. 🙏 🙏 🙏

  • @phanyluxoxo
    @phanyluxoxo Год назад +2

    Poor baby, I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope those who get abused speak up, there’s always someone that’ll help ❤ GOD BLESS the good

  • @stephaniezaldivar4863
    @stephaniezaldivar4863 Год назад +1

    This story made me cry. My son is 9 and I could not imagine if someone ever would hurt him in this way.

  • @zaklinagavrilovski1573
    @zaklinagavrilovski1573 Год назад +1

    I am so proud of you speaking your truth. The use of your flat forms to help people is great.
    Amen

  • @dazzelingdirtyb
    @dazzelingdirtyb 2 года назад +15

    Subscribed! Wow what an amazing story you are so strong so brave to share this. I’ve been crying through out this whole video I hope one day I’ll be as brave as you to be able to tell someone about my assaults

  • @jennygarcia2266
    @jennygarcia2266 Год назад +1

    SPEAK YOUR TRUTH CHIQUIS!..YOUR VOICE NEEDS TO BE HEARD‼️💯

  • @solimarysramos8236
    @solimarysramos8236 Год назад +4

    This is so sad... I am soooo grateful for my mom....from very young she taught us that these are no no touch zones... you never keep secret from mom, she told us she would always believe us so we could only say the truth... mom's need to be open with their children...teach them about sex and tell the girls about their period etc... so much taboo in the Spanish community...

  • @xtina_m_marie7361
    @xtina_m_marie7361 2 года назад +6

    Man it really is in our community. I know from also being a victim. It wasn’t my dad but it was family

  • @NefaLaJefa
    @NefaLaJefa 2 года назад +6

    When i found out from my dad that my mother had been raped by her brother. I told his son and i told my moms sisters and more ppl spoke up against him. Unfortunately, the guilt had already killed him by the time the truth came out, but he asked for forgiveness before he died.

    • @GM-ue8xc
      @GM-ue8xc Год назад

      He offed himself?

    • @NefaLaJefa
      @NefaLaJefa Год назад

      @@GM-ue8xc no he had diabetes but basically did off himself cus he kept eating sugar like he wasn’t diabetic. He was blind from it too. Died at 50 something

  • @Alexa-uq6tq
    @Alexa-uq6tq 2 года назад +6

    This happened to my little sister and it breaks my heart I couldn’t do anything, our family really swept it under the rug it was our aunts husband.

  • @Kinliar
    @Kinliar 2 года назад +3

    I’m sorry this happened to you Chiquis… this is terrible.. specially as a child. I hope you’re okay & find peace of mind.

  • @cattorres-pace
    @cattorres-pace 2 года назад +17

    Awareness is key. Thank you for sharing 💗

  • @PinKsparkleZz1
    @PinKsparkleZz1 2 года назад +11

    Man this is soo hearthbreaking😢…i was molested too by an uncle, and listening to this my heart was hella pounding hard…im so sorry chikis. Bless you.

    • @xtina_m_marie7361
      @xtina_m_marie7361 2 года назад +1

      SAME!!

    • @PinKsparkleZz1
      @PinKsparkleZz1 2 года назад +1

      @@xtina_m_marie7361 im so sorry honey, hope you are doing well now.

    • @xtina_m_marie7361
      @xtina_m_marie7361 2 года назад +1

      @@PinKsparkleZz1 I’m also sorry that you had to experience that as well. I struggle with PTSD and depression but I’m trying to get better. ❤️

    • @PinKsparkleZz1
      @PinKsparkleZz1 2 года назад +1

      @@xtina_m_marie7361 im sorry to hear you are still struggling…keep your head up sweetie it will get better. I have struggled with anxiety & depression from ages 13-21 …21 was when i got help…so 21-25 still struggled but more milder and i started to get control of my life back…i decided to not give him my power anymore and deep down i know he is suffering for his evil doings, knowing i wasn’t the only one he did it too. When i told my parents at 21 they told me he had done it before to others… but i send you virtual healing and give you a big hug for hanging in their strong lil soldier.

    • @xtina_m_marie7361
      @xtina_m_marie7361 2 года назад +2

      @@PinKsparkleZz1 Thank you so much. Your comments mean a lot to me. I’m happy I’m not alone but also sad so many others have experienced the same thing. 🤗🤗 (hugs) to you!

  • @Gigi1989__
    @Gigi1989__ Год назад +4

    He played the part of a parent he’s not a good dad … Truly very sad to hear a person can do these things to children

  • @marlenegranados6289
    @marlenegranados6289 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for this !! You’re giving us the perspective of little chiquis and it’s good for awareness for other parents to know the signs !

  • @priscillacastillo5619
    @priscillacastillo5619 2 года назад +5

    It’s so true it’s such a taboo in the Latino community I’m my 30’s and yet no one in my family knows just my mom and sister however my grandpa has passed and now I feel like shit that I didn’t speak up and could have prevented someone else getting abused

  • @kadyrubio
    @kadyrubio 8 месяцев назад

    I think as victims of SA, we sometimes feel Guilt because we feel that people will judge us as to why we didn’t try to stop it from happening… & that makes us forgive people who really shouldn’t be forgiven. I was SA’d by my older cousin and I walk past him like nothing happened every time I go visit my aunt. Never opened up about it to my family.

  • @veronicalopezdenaranjo1252
    @veronicalopezdenaranjo1252 2 года назад +3

    Chiquis Youve been through Sooooooo much .. i hurt for you , i relate to your story...my respects to you .. your mentality remains positive which helps me on days im mad at the world

  • @vanessaortiz8003
    @vanessaortiz8003 3 месяца назад

    I told my mom my cousin and my brother molested me. Both in a similar time in my life I don’t remember how old I was I just know It was around 7-12 years old. She said “it wasn’t rape so it’s nothing. That’s just what kids do. Just forget about it already and don’t say anything” I felt so numb when she said that and I don’t know what to think.

  • @irisgreene4175
    @irisgreene4175 2 года назад +5

    Thank you so much for sharing. Respectfully, we do NOT have to forgive.
    Even God doesn’t forgive without someone being sorry and changing. The horrors my dad imposed are evil. And I’m definitely not bigger or better than God to do something even He isn’t willing to do when someone is unrepentantly wicked.

  • @alidelatierra
    @alidelatierra 2 года назад +2

    Told my man about my experience and he’s so supportive of me but his family is very traditional in mex he told me they could never know or they won’t love me it’s sad but I’m moving forward to the point where I don’t need everyone to know cuz unfortunately not everyone is accepting or understanding thank you for sharing your story

  • @LEE-oc5xy
    @LEE-oc5xy Год назад

    This is so painful for us to go through not just fathers to do this but our brothers to do this...I have so much to say, but I am doing the therapy...I love you for just talking about this....

  • @Kawiboy
    @Kawiboy 2 года назад +14

    Absolutely jaw dropping hearing your story. Thank you for sharing such a heartbreaking story.. I'm a NEW sub today 👍 and I wanna thank your for your content 💙 😉.. Take care and know that your much APPRECIATED 🤗🤗😊😉 Til next time, OLD G

  • @makeupbyb1451
    @makeupbyb1451 8 месяцев назад

    i needed this. emotionally & mentally i needed to hear this. thank you Chiquis deeply 🙏🏼🤍

  • @crystalnoir1513
    @crystalnoir1513 2 года назад +9

    October-December I have the blues. I get depressed and wish this months could fly by or just go to sleep and wake up until January!!!! During this months I had to stay with my dad who lived in another state every other year, he will not have me and my brother with him he will literally drop us off at my aunts house and will never hear from him again because he was busy making a new family with one of his many wives. He was hiding us because he lied to this women that he had never had children before so his sister will keep us with her!!! She had two nephews living with her and my uncle low life MF!!! Along with his wife who had 5 kids so with jus kids plus my aunts 4 kids and me and brother so we were 11 kids living in her house plus her perverted nephews who were ages 15 and 17! Total of 17 individuals in that house. I started getting molested at the age of 8 by this two idiots who were exploring sex and sadly i wasn’t the only one but they did it with all of us little girls! All adults worked and we were getting babysitted by this two evil guys!! Plus an uncle that will visit at times to go “check on all of us” them two were recently brought to the US but never did shit but to rape and rob people basically up to no good!!! We spoke up for years!! We were even blamed of the raping that happened for years and nobody did shit for us until I had the courage to finally tell my mom. I almost destroyed my mothers life blaming her for all the shit that happened to me! My father disappeared years ago from our life my anger just kept growing and was unstoppable until one day I just got tired of me feeling ashamed and suicidal!! I started my healing process and still healing honestly I don’t think I’ll ever be but I got taught on how to control my emotions and forgave myself for so much damage that I have done to myself and my mother I have wasted years on having this amount of anger and resentment. Is an everyday battle, my wings get tired at times but I know I’m strong and will keep pushing and motivating myself everyday and just keep getting better for my kids, I have three angels that when it comes to sexual education I don’t sugar coat shit with them I talk to them openly about it because over my dead body something like my experience will happen to my babies!!!!! I encourage for everyone to please be careful with social media with your kids because now days they get groomed easily because there is so many ways on how this sick individuals use the web for this kind of shit and open up their minds. Please talk to your children because I wish my parents would have done that with me😭 I was always scared because my mom literally will intimidate me by telling g me to never let no one touch me because if I let them do it she will beat the shit out of me if I did. And guess what?? That stopped me from telling her that someone had grab me and did more than just grab!! So please talk to your babies

  • @marisolbenitez4311
    @marisolbenitez4311 2 года назад +8

    You know what made me love you? The fact that you forgave your dad and what happened. The fact that you don’t care what no one thinks and your heart forgave. Honestly, that really touched me.

  • @kimberlyrivera5842
    @kimberlyrivera5842 2 года назад +6

    I’m so sorry🥺 exactly how I saw the movie de La Mariposa 😔 you’ll help so many people to speak up after this video

  • @katrynamcintyre5687
    @katrynamcintyre5687 5 месяцев назад

    Oh my....another family that has suffered at the hands of these 'psycho' dads. You are so brave....THANK YOU. *Beware of false prophets who come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. Matthew 7:15

  • @alloverdeezhuerta7783
    @alloverdeezhuerta7783 2 года назад +2

    That part when you said 31 years ,, he’s responsible for his own actions 💯

  • @priscillaflores10
    @priscillaflores10 Год назад +9

    I hate that Jackie makes you talk to your dad, if I were you I would never talk to him again, and I know Jackie is all about forgiving but something like this you can't forgive! I wouldn't I don't care if it was my dad or anyone else

    • @Savagemode09
      @Savagemode09 Год назад

      Its because she never experienced it yeah sure they seen their dad being abusive towards their mom , but its very scary situation. Its a very secretive thing because most hispanic families wanna keep it under the rug

    • @sam-ph9yl
      @sam-ph9yl Год назад +1

      it’s definitely weird since she has daughters herself

  • @marthaleyva9585
    @marthaleyva9585 Год назад

    Thank you Chiquis for bringing light to do this it has made me think of something I chose to pretend it never happened

  • @Charliesglamlife
    @Charliesglamlife 2 года назад +6

    So heartbreaking ❤️‍🩹 you’re so so strong. 😭

  • @emmayoder
    @emmayoder Год назад +1

    This testimony is so familiar to my own. My heart just goes out to all those that have bin sexual abused.

  • @Tnava817
    @Tnava817 2 года назад +3

    You’re so strong Chiquis and I understand that you believe that he was a good dad and I’m sure he was he had demons and sadly a lot of us do in so many different ways. We have to stay close to God to make sure he keeps us from them. I really hope he’s been allowing God to work on him.

  • @Ovoxorose
    @Ovoxorose 2 года назад +6

    This is heartbreaking thank you for sharing ur so strong 🥺🥺🥺

  • @missroxy1972
    @missroxy1972 2 года назад +4

    I'm still baffled on How many people say it's common and how Latinos tend to hide and protect the abusers.. and I am so blessed and grateful my family was so overprotective to this day my mom is always worried about where we go where my kids go etc etc... even my stepdaughter is now under their wings .. my parents and siblings don't fall into that taboo of them hiding it they would make sure whoever need punishment will get punishment ... I pray for those who suffer this pain ... 🙏

  • @angieSPEAKS1
    @angieSPEAKS1 Год назад +2

    I truly admire your honesty and your heart. You are so amazing Chiquis. I hope you know that :)

  • @greenbeautyandfit
    @greenbeautyandfit Год назад

    This made me cry 😭 so sorry this happened to you and Rosie 😡, Jenny was the best mother and artist and human being 💕🩷 we all miss her too 🙌🏼🫶🏼

  • @jasssss3555
    @jasssss3555 Год назад +3

    Oh honey. He wasn’t a good dad, you say that because he picked up in aspects that Jenni didn’t. Jenni was too busy working, and touring, and building her career that she didn’t have quality time for her kids, so since your dad picked up in that aspect you think he was a good dad. Almost sounds like a trauma bond. I’m so sorry, a real and good dad would never do that to his kids or sister in law. You’re so strong Chiquis!

  • @gp441
    @gp441 2 года назад +4

    Thabk you for sharing this and being so open and vulnerable.

  • @christinam1454
    @christinam1454 Год назад

    WOW Chiquis I admire your strength to be so vulnerable & do what was right despite your fear❤ You are the epitome of your mother! And your story, your platform is helping so, so many people!! Keep being real it looks good on you! God bless you❤🙏❤

  • @angieguerrero8003
    @angieguerrero8003 Год назад +1

    I stumbled upon 1 of your podcasts. Well I'm hooked. U r so humble, smart, and beautiful person inside and out. Chingona.

  • @queen_b7713
    @queen_b7713 6 месяцев назад

    I was sexually abused at the age of 9 by two family members I never said a word to anyone because I was so afraid no one would believe me so I keep it to myself until I was in my late 30s. My innocence was taken from me at a young age,then at the age of 37 I was diagnosed with stage 3 Cervical Cancer that was hardest part of my life.