How I Ended Up Being Abused By A Married Woman
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2023
- Today's guest is Justin Woodbury, who will tell us about growing up in a church cult and being sexually abused by his mother's friend, a married lady. He eventually gathered the courage to tell his father, but what happened next?
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People have been calling her out so much on her Facebook that she removed her last name, turned off comments, and lost nearly ALL of her followers. Your video has made a huge impact and has possibly helped many young boys! I am so proud of you, Sir. Thank you for your story!
Do you know her Facebook?
What’s the Facebook name ?
That’s crazy
That’s awesome. I’m glad she’s exposed and knows she’s exposed! What a pig!!
she needs to go to jail
Your father was truly a protective man and watched out for you. We need more men to open up and heal instead of staying silent and suffer internally!
Hi how are you doing?
A protective father would have gone straight to the police.
protective, WHAT , more like an accessory , the police should have been called, not a church, not a pastor, the police should have been called, charges should have been pressed and she should be in prison, she molested a child, the child reported it to adults, and nobody called the police.... they HELPED a child molester escape jail, the allowed that child molester to go free to molest other children , they should all be ashamed
We don't express ourselves and deal with issues because we are raised to know that nobody actually cares. We process things internally because we are the only person we can trust. Good women are halfway screwed. The hoes always make themselves available. I believe this is why we now have a bunch of fellas who decided they're ladies. Ladies have it made and men are screwed. This happens from the ground up thru the legal system. More men need to recognize what they are before they can be open about themselves. We have been trained to forget that we are the most dangerous critter in the world. Once we get that back and women start acting like they actually want to l, we will be better off
Predatory behavior by women has unfortunately been weirdly romanticized in our culture when it is just as wrong and damaging as men preying on young girls. Unacceptable. I'm so sorry to hear you dealt with this.
I am so glad to hear about how your father handled this impossible situation and how he respected your wish but encouraged you to help stop a predator from taking other victims....but wow. No counseling, making a victim apologize to an adult....I'm sadly not surprised to hear that the fallout was bungled horribly by the church.
And the fact that she had to apologize to his parents and not him even tho he said a minor can’t consent
True nowadays i see those smut romanticizing where men rape , stalk, sexually abuse as well weird with people these days
You said it perfectly❤ Poor lads being preyed upon is no different. Your father and you are amazing!
The corruption of any youth, irregardless of their s÷x, is evil and wrong. It has a lasting impact that affects that person for the entire rest of their lives.
I think a lot of men end up being even more sexual as adults then they would have if they hadn’t been abused so young. To me there is a correlation.
I feel like young boys being sexually abused by older women are very common. My husband told me he first had sex at 14 with an older woman. In his eyes he is a man. But it completely messed up his head and how he views women and sex. It's so sad. There should be more awareness on this topic.
I dont know, i told my husband the story and he said it would not have impacted him negatively. I dont think hes messed up. I mean, as a woman i can see how it would mess a girl up and so I can imagine how a boy could feel. I think even worse is the way the church handled it in my opinion.
Same! I know so many guys who lost their virginity at 13/14 and the women were at least 17 and older.
@@jbwb_12369 "it WOULD not have impacted him". I can assume it means your husband did not go through that so he has no place commenting on it. If all the people talking about it say it was traumatizing, we should believe them.
How can you not see that a adult and a child is bad (or a late teen and a young teen)
@youparejo actually anyone can have an opinion and/or comment about anything! Just like you have no idea what our experience is and yet you have an opinion you shared 😀
I had sex at 12 with my babysitter.
Over my preteen years, I had 3 much older girls teach me the birds and the bees. I did not look any older than 12 mind you.
So glad he mentioned the fact that it was in no way enjoyable. I don’t know why grown men project like that and assume it was an enjoyable experience.
@CANADIAN UKRANIAN how in the world is that victim blaming
@CANADIAN UKRANIAN who is the vicitm in this situation? The young boy. Who was the commenter talking about? Specific group of grown men. What are these specific men claiming? That young boys should enjoy being raped. Why? Because those men have probably never experienced it and had fantasies growing up of possibly having sex with a hot teacher. Or they have gone through the same experience and were shamed or gaslighted to believe that it was something positive.
So how is a comment of someone DISAGREEING with the grown men victim blaming? Victim blaming is putting the responsibility/blame of safety onto the victim.
The commenter obviously doesn't think it's okay for a grown woman to rape or sexually assault a young boy. Reading comprehension is important. I hope you do a better job at listening to understand at work.
Honestly as a man who was molested in a church bathroom urinal once by an older boy when I was 13..I'd only wish it was a women doing that to me instead of some closeted gay older teen. I know it's not right but I'm so glad I didn't turn out gay like happen to many others. I'd actually would have enjoyed the oral from an older woman as a teen...yes I must be sick but at least I'm honest..just as this guy was as honest saying he thought it was sick.
because whether or not the victim found it enjoyable is irrelevant. child abuse is child abuse.
@CANADIAN UKRANIAN NO no no. That is NOT victim blaming. Did you read it at all? Like AT ALL?
She said
MEN LIKE TO TALK ABOUT IT AS IF IT WERE ENJOYABLE.
SHE DID NOT SAY "THE VICTIM"
She said GROWN MEN
They forced him to apologize to that woman's husband for "trying to steal her husband" WTH ?!?!?! He was just 13, he was a CHILD. I honestly cannot believe that! That is the worst form of gas lighting. Despicable.
He said he apologized for trying to steal his wife not steal her husband.
@vc e 1 homi barata 13 or 15 it is a child!
@vc e 1 homi barata dude he was manipulated by her for years. Stop making excuses and trying to reframe this story with extraneous and completely irrelevant/unrelated information.
@vc e 1 homi barata writing in all caps doesn't add validity to your comment, it just makes it really irritating to read.
Even if the underage person were horny or tried to initiate (which clearly wasn't the case in this situation) the adult is still the person in power and morally responsible.
You are basically trying to argue that it's the underage person's fault for tempting the adult, very suspicious.
I believe he was nineteen at the time, it was a mess
Stories like this help me better protect my sons
Hold your boys close n love them for all of us women who cannot have kids, but wishes we could!!
@@SofiUk0319 and it's crazy because the fucked up moms could just give their babies to you all and they wouldn't be abused. But always check for kids in the system. I know they just want a real home.
@The_don_barbie true, every kid deserves a home to be loved in! I am single, but I still would be a foster mom on my own
well thanks to this irresponsible bunch, a child molester was let go , no consequences, no charges, abnd she has been around other children all this time, so I guarantee others have been abused by her, his parents should be charged with child neglect for not reporting the abuse, the pastor should bve in jail for being an accomplice and she should be in prison
“She crumbled the paper, swallowed it and ate it”…that’s a demon, not a human being.
That whole scene, from glaring from across the hall to the end was definitely not of human origin. Same with premeditated bedroom scene. Same with the piggyback guy. They need punishment, yes, but also deliverance. Otherwise they’ll just repeat no matter how much punishment they receive. It’s great this guy came forth and his father stood up for him. Imagine if he’d grown up with a single mother and the neighbor knew him from a younger age. He’d be a blue-haired basket case.
@@chamuuemura5314 they definitely need deliverance, otherwise like you said, they’ll keep repeating it.
No, that’s an angry woman.
@americandissident9062 I dont think they are wrong. Most things are spiritual, even anger, and the fact that not everyone on this planet is human. Those "aliens" people have been seeing for ages are demons I've seen one when I was young. And it was around the time I was very sick. Thats why nothing ever comes of this alien crap, it's just demons...everyone needs Jesus.
The fact that the preacher says there is no consent with a minor, but he had to apologize to her husband for stealing his wife.
Good on his father for telling his son to stay away from her. Although he should have reported her and pressed charges so she could receive jail time for her crimes. Also, seeing that his mother disagreed, his father should have spoken to her and explained exactly what he saw that was wrong so she could begin to see it too.
Agreed, but hindsight is 20/20 and I think a lot of parents don't fathom that it could be people they know and trust. There is this idea that predators are creepy strangers and a lot of times it is a family member or family friend. 😔
Unfortunately, if he did that, he would have completely and possibly permanently damaged his son's trust in him. And I think his dad was instrumental in him coming out and eventually healing as well as he did. Being able to confide in his dad was the key that unlocked his process of recovery.
Thank you for your story. I'm a 48 year old man. I remember when I was 16 years old a man approach and asked me if I interested in doing yard work for him I told him yeah. He lured me into his vehicle under the condition he was going to show me the yard he was talking about. But he didn't. He driving around in wooded areas where there was no houses until he found a spot to force himself on me. I ended fighting him off and getting away but I held this story in for years. Which led to spiral out control. It wasn't till almost forty. When I told someone. By that time I was suffering from PTSD. Which is known as post truamdic stress syndrome. Now days I urge parents to make there kids feel comfortable enough to come out tell there parents. About creepy adults like he just talk about.
@Stephenbeard6186,
It is absolutely horrible that you went through this assault. You deserve to be heard.
May God be with you as you heal.
This man is so brave for telling his story. More men need to speak out about this and not be ashamed. You literally never know who you can trust 😕 He really has done a great job healing.
so many males get abused and they live with that for ever due to the stigma.
This cultic madness is not what Christ asked for. He himself told people NOT to blindly follow people in positions of authorities, NOT to be religious, but just to follow Him. These predators and power hungry demons need to be called out and jailed. Thank you for exposing how these people work their way into the minds of innocent children and youth.
Yup 💯
I don't think being strict is the problem...he didnt really describe a cult he sees it that way, the new lady with a jezebel spirit and a thing for little boys was the problem, having strict rules is a good thing to combat alot of the satanic crap going on in media and such and God is pretty strict relative to what the world does today.❤
I am so angry that they made you apologize to the husband. I'm so sorry.
I found my 38 year old husband spooning with his 16 year old niece. His brother had just died and he was "comforting her". Did it infront of pretty much his whole family.
They didn't know we had just had sex.
Totally disgusting.
I left and divorced him. Church going Christians. He refused to finalize the divorce for 2 years and then died of a heart attack.
Found out he had a warrant out for molesting his friends 7 year old daughter.
I thought we were supposed to expose evil when we see it and not condone it.
I was a school bus driver...had I stayed with him he would have ruined my reputation along with everything else.
I had to go back to truck driving because I couldn't sustain myself financially on a school bus salary.
I miss those days and I miss those kids who are now grown up with families of their own.
We had a few troubles pop up aswell. A coach had a year long sexual affair with a 15 year old student. Dude was 30 with a wife and kids.
There's like predators EVERYWHERE...
I used to want kids desperately and a family...but now I see in this world I would be worried frantically sick everyday about my kid.
Thank you for sharing your testimony.
its shocking to me that he reported being molested and raped, and not one adult went to the police
Hope you helped your niece.
This is the reason I am Antinatalist. Google the term. I had the best, most loving caring watchful parents and I can't count on both my hands the amount of people who sexually assaulted me from the time I was a toddler. While my parents were home.
Yeah, that pretty much wakes you up to the brutal truth that this isn't all that great of a place you are bringing your child into. Human capacity is limited, unlike what parents believe, against the trillion ways the world comes at your child.
How did he get a heart attack dang yo yo I'm a failed game designer and I have no kids and I can die of heart attack
WTH? What town are you from? Sodom or Gomorrah? Wow!
It’s not common for guys to share their abuse stories, but so many people need to hear it. Thanks for your bravery ❤
Wow, what an amazing man! I'm so glad he's found healing and a wonderful, supportive wife. That woman and church's actions are incredibly disturbing.
From this story we can learn that man also could abuse by women man also need protection🛡️... Thank you for sharing your story with us you're are so strong💪
This happens a lot more than you would think. So far three people I know have told me similar stories. A lot of guys don't speak out. Good for your bro! I'm glad that you are thriving!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m so happy you healed. Kudos to your dad for noticing and not ignoring it.
What you said 👏
This guy is very brave to speak out and really helping others 💪🏼I’m glad he has a full life despite the abuse. The supposed moral leaders’ should hang their heads in shame as to how they handled this. As for the woman (read ‘creature’) who abused him..she deserves to do time 😡
Thank you for sharing and shedding light on males being abused. It is not often that you hear of men coming forward with their own stories of abuse. It is refreshing to see
Very raw and brave testimony. I hope you find peace, and justice finds your abuser.
Grown women preying on YOUNG men are just a mystery to me. I could never view a 13 year old as "attractive". Same goes for a 15 yo. This poor guy didn't deserve all of that shit.
Wow I'm so sorry that this happened to you...that was horrible to hear! Sharing your story would be a bittersweet comfort for those men/boys who have been through similar experiences, knowing that they can heal and be freed from that trauma. God bless you, sir.
in the 90s i grew up in a community accomodation house for minors and there i've lost my virginity with a social worker working there, i was 17, she was 33 married with a 5 years old daughter. We had a "relationship" for some years, ofc all hidden. the so many things that "relationship" ruined in my life i was able to comprehend only recently around 40.
There's such a free pass for female predators. Even if authorities at one point got to know it she faced no consequences. it is insane.
In England there have been a few cases of female Social/support workers prosecuted for abusing teenage males under their care, it's sad it's happened but hopefully it's a sign of it being taken more seriously and not kept in the dark?
Fellow Michigander here. I am so sorry you went through this.
Sexual immorality is high on the list of things that Christ doesn't condone. Yet, churches like this, shelter sexual predators and almost encourage the abuse.
In my church every adult has a background check. If you have a shady past, the church is notified as a whole group. You are then required to always have a chaperone to make sure no funny business goes on, and to prevent false accusations. There is to be at least 2 adults present in every Sabbath school class or other children's ministry.
We take protecting children and vulnerable adults seriously.
Michanagder Omg you guys have that crazy governor.
Love hearing a man’s story. Getting their stories out there helps so many others!
I’m glad you have named and shamed. This is what needs to be done with all abuse cases.
That’s why I protected my 4 boys 😢
Why is church and sexual abuse starting to go hand and hand? I’m very sorry for his pain.
"Starting"?🤔😂😂😂😂😂
Because satan disguises himself as an angel of light.
The same way it’s prevalent in anything that’s full of children … the enemy targets our children first. Smh it’s sad. That’s why when I tell people if you decide to join a church, never to idolize the pastor, his wife and so forth. Smh
Anywhere people can abuse authority. Church, schools, etc.
Because of the obedience culture and no gossip culture that wildly benefits Dark triads personalities.
My father molested me as a small child. It took years to forgive him and I have. However, I struggle in my romantic relationship. Right now, we are apart because I need healing. I'm glad your in the process of forgiveness.
You shouldn’t force yourself to EVER be around your abuser hun.
I'm not around any abuser. I was saying the abuse made it difficult to be in a relationship. Even if the man treats me well. Thanks for replying!
I hope your dad goes to hell.
You can forgive,but I doubt you will heal with him in your life.My advice ,stay away from him.
Wow! Testimonies are powerful. Thanks for sharing yours.
Thank you for sharing your testimony!
Thank you for sharing your story . Very brave of you in speaking out. God bless
Sorry what. His church forced him to apologise for being s*xually abus*d and said it was partly his fault. Utterly shocking, disgusting and traumatizing. This poor, poor man.
You're so brave for speaking. I'm so sad you had to go through that
God bless you for sharing and rising above it all to write 🌺
I'm so sorry you experienced that. You are so brave for telling your story and I hope others are empowered to speak out if they start to feel unsafe around predatory people.
I’m so sorry for what u went through. I grew up in a fundamental baptist church and It was very controlling and cult-like; took many years to heal from the mess they made.
I hope this experience did not turn u away from God.
Your book title is amazing…going to look it up now.❤
I’m so glad you still seek God even though His people went so far astray❤ it’s important to keep an open mind and realize that just because people are imperfect doesn’t mean the God who made them is
I am so very sorry for what happened to you. Thank you so much for sharing your story and thus helping to create space for other men to feel safe speaking out. I’m so sorry that you ever had to suffer silently. I’ve added your book to my wish list and will be purchasing and reading!
Thank you for sharing your story
I’m so sorry this happened to you but you are so strong and you are not a victim but a survivor. Got bless you sir!
I am so sorry for what you had to go through......may God protect all the children around the world.
Thank you for sharing your story, you are truly a strong man. Your father is outstanding for protecting you, what a wonderful father.❤❤
Justin!!! I couldn’t believe I saw you here. I’m so sorry you went through this! I had no idea! I’m so sorry you went through this.
So many stories are coming out of AABC that it’s so hard to hear and I did notice some strange behaviour of some individuals.
Sending much love and thanks for sharing this. (You led singing in our wedding and I shuttled of the Britain. )
I’m thankful your dad was so vigilant.
Amazing testimony! This could have gone another way. Healing is very important.🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing this, I'm so happy with how far you've come. May God Bless you
That took a lot of courage to talk about and I’m proud of you. Stories like this helps mothers be more vigilant and aware of predatorial people and behavior to better protect our children. Thank you very much, I wish it never happened to you but you’re using your experience to teach and prevent others from becoming victims which is honorable. Thank you and God bless you and your family.
Thank you for sharing , hope this will help parents be more aware of their children’s sureounding.
Thanks for sharing your story with us I'm soo sorry you went through all this grief and pain 💔 😢 I'm glad you moving forward to God be the glory 🫂🦋😇😇😇🦋🫂🌹🩸🩸🤩🥰
I’m sorry for all you had to go through thanks to that sick woman, but I’m so happy that today finds you living a happy life. God bless!!
Thank you, for exposing the devil.
You have saved many lives by making this matter known. I liked when you mentioned how disgusted you were with her antics. Predators need to know how they are received.
God bless.
Thank you for telling your story. Abuse thrives on neglect. It's unfortunate how it was handled when you talked to the pastor. I wonder if it were a young girl that had been violated if she would be required to apologize to the perpetrators wife?????? Unlikely! Children should be protected.
Excuse me, Abuse thrives on silence is what I meant to say.
If it had been a young girl she would probably have been blamed for dressing seductively or something. The level of victim shaming in situations like these is off the charts.
She absolutely would have been blamed and silenced. They aren't protecting one sex of victim more than the other, they're protecting the predator in either scenario.
Thank you for sharing this 👍
This is infuriating. I'm so sorry.
Amen! Thank you for your testimony! Glory be to God!
You're a good man. Thank you for your story!!!
I'm glad that you're fine now❤ don't give up! You're great and powerful and this trauma can't be better than you! This video proves that you're brave and powerful! You surpass this and shared it, and maybe your video is now helping people that haved passe by that!❤ Godd luck and don't give up
I can relate to a lot of this and I handled it by over eating.
Thank you for sharing your story it really matters.
I am a former social worker and now a pastor's wife, I appreciate your story and look forward to reading your book. I will try to keep this from happening in our church. Good bless you, I'm very proud of you.
Good word brother. I work with kids and they admire godly men and very good to be affirming but acknowledging you are the teacher, not family. It is so good to show Jesus to them in godly care without touching. I serve with my wife. God bless you in giving this testimony as an overcomer.
Thankyou for sharing your story. Parents need to know what's out there.
I am so sorry you were targeted and exploited by this predatory woman. I salute you and your father for your bravery. You are a good person. I hope you continue to heal from this experience. You are really brave.
Definitely buying ur book. God bless u & ur family 🙏
You are an amazing human being! So courageous!
I also being abused by the person who provided the speed so I could born, I had called him father until now but I don’t remember to have one!
What a great take thank you
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this ... thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for sharing
Your testimony is a blessing to so many boys and young men that have been shamed to silence. I hope this can reach them and possibly be the catalyst to begin the long hard work of healing that is possible for us all. Thank you so much for following the call of your spirit and expressing your experience so wonderfully clear and understandable.
I’m sorry this happened to you and I’m glad you made it out.
The abusers can instill prudishness in the victims, so they are unable to talk about the horror out loud to anyone.
So sad 🤢🤢🤢 Why would an adult think that a child would be attracted to them? This is so gross!!!
Sickos!
Wow very well said you can't heal whilst you're being wounded
You Sir are inspirational thank you.
Thanks for sharing
SO SO important you talking openly about this! Thank you. Mother of two boys- #european
I love that you share your story with such courage when I think back about being raped by a person that I did love and also as an abuser, it’s hard to say those two things in the same sentence, and make it make sense like I don’t even know what it sounds like to even say that out loud, but I know how it felt to trust somebody that you loved and they would constantly hurt you but you still loved him at one point now I’m grown and I’ve had therapy. It doesn’t ever change the fact that I didn’t feel like I had the courage to talk about that the way that you did praying for you and I’m proud of you.❤
Wow what a story ❤
You are an amazing hero for sharing your story and writing a book 👏 Wishing you continued growth and healing 🙏
Thank you for sharing your story.
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It reminds me as a parent to be alert and be very careful about who my boys spends time with .
Leaving the place- that's something people don't do. They stay and live under a dark cloud. I left. Still took a long time. And also know that guy that's 'great with the kids, big kid himself' is the threat. Church, eek. Full of gossip, bigotry, evil, blame. The woods and the ocean are my church
So happy you are doing well.
Thank you for sharing and so happy to see you healing. ❤️ your wife must be an angel. I know my husband is an ángel to me in the very same healing process. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
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Im so sorry to hear what happened
I’m sorry this happened to you! Men are conditioned not to speak out about this. You were taken advantage of and that was wrong & horrible. Stay strong 💖
„Stealing his wife“?!? So weird 😤😡
Yep. Some lovely victim blaming right there
So sorry you went through that it's horrific 😢
Yes sir. Thank you for calling a spade a spade. Safeguards must be in place.
The man's father was so close to handling this the right way. If only the Church had not had to be involved. Counseling might have benefited this man, but it would have had to be the right kind of Counseling. Other men have spoken up about being sexually abused, and then having the professional who was supposed to be helping them through it say the most asinine things, the most damaging things.
Thank you for sharing your story.
It doesn't minimize your sexual abuse because you were a teenager. I think that's the biggest takeaway....sexual abuse is sexual abuse.
I grew up in a very strict Christian household. I empathize with you. ❤️
Valid information.
Thank you!!!!
Thank you or sharing your storie
Mazel tov on your book. Much success and health to all.
And there I was all my youth long hoping this could happen to me and it never happened.....
As a sexual abuse survivor myself, I can certainly identify with what Justin Woodbury has been through! Divine Justice will take care of the monster who did this to him!
My husband was abused by all his aunties since 11yo. That set his mind to how he sees womans as an adult.
He doesn't believe it was abuse because he was a boy. Today he is misogynistic, objectifying womans.
We're been working hard to reset his mind, specially now that he has a 15yo daughter.
I'm still working his way to teraphy
I'm hoping that mostly HE is the one doing the work and not you. He'll have to realise he needs to change.
@@jdmmg4904 yes. He does.
@@jdmmg4904 he regrets how he used to think and thanks me for opening his eyes for how toxic and immature he was
Sexually abused ?
May God be with your family as you navigate this path together.
What his aunties did was a gross evil...plain and simple.
Don't take it to the dean , teacher, pastor, etc, take it to the local authorities.