He left out the part where the dancers were allegedly pressured to catch/eat bananas out of the adult performers' vaginas. Lizzo is clearly a degenerate and an awful person.
They hv to prove attendance was mandatory. They can’t prove that. Ur boss asks if u wanna come to a gross club in Amsterdam u say no and if u don’t like ur work environment QUIT! People quit their jobs every day. Those girls r adults not children
@@wiggly103I think I agree with you for the most part, although I think that if she invited two or three of them to go with her, they probably felt special for being singled out and asked to go along, and should have just said no if they were uncomfortable
I've wondered about her ever since she pulled a really nasty stunt in Boston. She was staying at a hotel here and ordered delivery of a lobster sandwich. The sandwich did not get delivered because she had used a fake name when she checked in. She publicly blamed the delivery person and said the person had stolen her sandwitch. She even put the person's name online. And the person got harassed, even got death threats.What a jerk.
Maybe it's not a good idea to prop up people as the paragons of our society who simply speak/sing a message about how society should change to accommodate them rather than measuring them by their acts over time. Just saying
That's a big part of why California allows the homeless population to attack people, use hard drugs out in the open, shoplift, camp anywhere they want, and poop on the sidewalk. To arrest them for doing bad things would be further victimization. Just take the punch, step in the poop, get your car window replaced, and keep paying your taxes.
According to several witnesses of Lizzo's misconduct, she is an obnoxious, arrogant, self-centered, and unkind person as well as racist and ableist. Either they all are lying or she is a bully of the worst kind. Narcissistic bullies often choose to play the role of the victim in order to target and harass innocent victims and get away with it.
And talking about premarital sex as bad, then working for Lizzo and going to the sex performance in the banana bar presumably. And the burlesque show elsewhere. She's a nutter.
Lol, this kind of thing is just normal in the entertainment industry in the US. There's a lot of group sex that goes on too, on tours, on film sets, etc.
@@mjanny6330 she actually lost quite a bit of weight. She used to be heavier, and she improved her lifestyle. But nobody ever says anything about that; they just keep criticizing her size. Just because she doesn't hate herself and hide away from everybody doesn't mean that she's "encouraging obesity." And, I'm saying this as somebody who is very disgusted with her conduct (assuming what is in the lawsuit is true). Also, although celebrities that are thinner aren't exactly paragons of health. Most of them get loads of plastic surgery, are on unhealthful weight loss regimens, and use drugs, but because they're thin, folks assume they are healthy and are good role models.
@@Joelswinger34body positivity is for people who have missing limbs, who have been war or horrific accidents, or who are born differently. You don't know what the body positivity movement is and how it's been hijacked by the obese.
@@Retrosenescentnewsflash: most people who are overweight don't ignore it, because they're not allowed to. They have constant reminders every day from people like you that they are somehow "less than" everybody else
Whether she's talented or not, I don't know. She is more known for telling people that being morbidly obese is beautiful and for wearing outfits that do not flatter her at all. She seems like she needs a lot of attention and will do or say whatever it takes to get it.
She does not tell people that being morbidly obese is beautiful. She teaches people that they have to accept and love themselves the way they are, including their bodies, because Society talks to you like you are crap and doesn't want you to love yourself.
@@LindaC616 I'm sorry, but I believe all of that "body positivity" is performative and really only applies to Lizzo herself. Clearly, she has no problem admonishing others for their weight. She's sounds like a raging narcissist, a hypocrite, and an all-around awful person; a fraud.
13:54 “or put another way, she added weight to the argument.” Dammit Dr. Grande is the best at adding humor to serious videos. Thanks Dr. Please look into doing a video on Debra Jeter who cut both of her daughters throats then called 911 when one lived and begged her to be saved. Would love to hear your thoughts on it.
Now let's not pretend regular people aren't this crazy as well. I think these people BEEN crazy & fame just exposed it. You don't just "wake up crazy" . It takes practice to get that efficient
This analysis was too kind, tbh. Just because you're bullied for something doesn't mean you get to treat others like garbage. If the accusations are true, I won't feel bad her career is over.
It's just bad taste overall. I feel bad for the dancers.❤ When you have people work for you. You should be looking out on their behalf. What happened to going out for dinner? Shame on her!!!!
I think Lizzo might have trouble recovering. Check out her song credits. There's typically 5 or more people writing her songs which include professional song writers. They won't hand over songs to her unless they think she can make them a lot of money off the songs.
Anyone notice who Lizzo is only body positive when it comes to big girls? When it comes to all the dudes in her videos, they're all ripped dudes with no body fat. Clothing challenged and a clothing deficit lol.
Thank you, Dr Grande for the analysis of this recent news topic. I have seen several headlines but I didn’t understand the entire situation until now. There were simply too many versions of the story. You can make clarity out of nonsense. ( edited cause I messed up.)
There are quite a lot of extremely popular modern day performers, and I am fortunate enough to have never once even heard any music from them. It’s actually something that I pride myself on. This person is one of those performers. I don’t like the sounds of modern popular music. As far as her behavior goes, I am getting the feeling that, because of the rewarding poor behavior trend that’s been sweeping the country over the past 8 years that there are huge amounts of people who feel entitled to behave in any manner that strikes their fancy. This trend is going to produce generations of people who are happily destroying societal norms. There are no consequences to any bad behavior, and it’s going to ruin the enjoyment of life for the rest of us. We are definitely on a decline as far as a society is concerned and it cannot possibly go any other direction without some major changes.
Best descriptions: clothing challenged performer, people with clothing deficit, this will tip the scales and weight her career down, she added weight to the argument... lol She is enjoying the power of having created a job for large dancers... she knows these young women are not going to work as dancers anywhere else... so she can say and do anything she wants, and she probably thinks the dancers have to take it and do so with gratitude....
That's an insightful observation. I hadn't thought about how limited the job opportunities are for overweight dancers. I'm not diagnosing Lizzo as adopting this perspective, only speculating that someone like her may come to feel like the dancers "owe" her an extensive debt of gratitude for being employed at all. Also this could foster a dynamic where the employer knows her employees don't really have other readily available job options, so she can treat those employees unfairly or inappropriately without any real threat of them resigning. Or complaining and risking losing their job.
@@MeganVictoriaKearns You guys are intelligent, usually i dont say that about people... It's like communal narcisisism, where you can do good, but you are almost like feeling you are a god like figure or people should do whatever is asks, because "Look what I did for you" vs the "the stuff I put you through"..."i'm a good person because nobody would ever do as much for you as I did"
love that you’ve covered this dr. Grande! Have you ever seen Grey Gardens? I would love for you to analyze Little Edie and Big Edie and their relationship
I had the same thought about when lizzo made a fist and threatened, but I learned from EDB that that is assault- the threat of being hit. I had always thought assault was being hit, but that is battery. I had no idea! Great video tho, loved the puns lol
"WEIGHED" down! Hahaha, I love that dry humor, Dr. Grande! I'm not offended! A hockey analyst said that one of the Stanley Cup teams (the Maple Leafs) needed to eat a Lizzo-sized sandwich a few months ago. Everyone was so offended. You'd think he said that they needed to send bomb threats to the other team! (which actually did happen in the next round)
She slowly gained success but true fame and millions happened quickly after her 3rd album. That I believe gave her power to feel like she could do or say things bc she is LIZZO. Like so many before her all it takes is 1 or 2 people to come out and expose you..She just got cancelled for the super bowl halftime show i think this really will set back her career alot.
Body positivity is just an elaborate way of saying is OK to be fat. Im overweight myself but it's noting positive about it, I wanna drop my weight asap.
Dr. Grande was spot on when he said it depends on their level of talent. Look at the accusations against MJ, that’s about as bad as it gets. He was still immensely popular until his death despite the accusations and settlements he had to pay.
Michael Jackson was a very nice person. Damaged from childhood. Wanted to give other kids good childhoods - I highly doubt he molested anyone. Knew him well enough to doubt those allegations.
Well, if she was good enough with the flute to be in a classical music major in college, she may actually deserve to be called a musician. People who make classical music their college major are usually only able to declare that as their major after being selected for a particular music education program. She most likely had at least some proficiency with other instruments besides just the flute, and she certainly could read music and play by sight-reading. Otherwise she wouldn't have ever been accepted in any music performance program at any university in this country.
I can not tell you how relieved I am that I will NEVER have to find out for myself whether she is talented or not. Thank you, Dr. G, for suffering through her "art" so that I didn't have to.
Dr. Grande is a true national treasure. The sacrifices he makes to spare us from horrible, boring experiences is legendary. He must be protected at all costs.
I’m not a Lizzo fan but I just wonder about the unrealistic standards we set for others. Humans are imperfect by their very nature ! Hands up anyone who’s never sent an angry text, said something unkind, done something wrong… anyone?
I don’t think not making your employees grab bananas from performer’s orifices (allegedly) is an unrealistic standard … What you mention by comparison is way less than the gross misconduct Lizzo is accused of.
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a singer who sits around the house really sits around the house like this
This is huge. For someone as massively famous as Lizzo, I'm shocked at the immense gravity of the situation. I'm sure her employees are in for a big payout.
It's a human resources nightmare. Bosses need to establish boundaries and listening to the summary here it appears that had boundaries been more clear it would have been helpful. Boundaries are a positive as they keep people out of trouble and define expectations.
💯% agree. Don’t treat ur employees like friends but this is common. Business men feel like they shd keep up and end up drinking more than they shd and god knows all else that happens off the clock to curry favor with clients and bosses
Yup, I learned that as a young boss after a few accusations from people I thought were my friends. After that, never went out with my staff. Kept a strong boundary between work & personal life.
Sounds like a fairly typical toxic work environment to me....I wish someone had told me that I could sue every boss who has ever been mean, crossed boundaries, tried to cheat me out of due payment, belittled me, attacked some aspect of my appearance/personality just because it makes them feel better about their miserable selves for a brief moment... I could have become a multi-millionare by now!!!
As a large woman myself who is athletically gifted, I have some doubts about Lizzo fat Shaming. While my thoughts are speculative here is where I sit. It seemed from the court documents and the interviews Ari's performance was "allegedly" becoming problematic. As a big woman myself with strong athletic talents, I know all to well what a rapid 10lbs+ weight gain can do to one's ability...even more so for a person who still remains within a healthy BMI. We can get more sluggish, are more injury prone, movements may become more restrictive, etc. I can imagine that poor performance coupled with rapid weight gain could have been a concern for Lizzo and management, not because they want to fat shame, but because that dancer medically becomes a greater risk and liability. Ari, herself also stated in an interview that at the SXSW show when she revealed her medical conditions which included an ED, she said Lizzo and management was like "oooooh". That response doesn't seem like someone wanted to fat shame, that response sounds like someone who understood with more clarity what was happening. She also stated she wasn't even sure if Lizzo had received her medical and psychological assessment information from the dance competition show. So, it doesn't sound like fat Shaming, but I also could be wrong. I do want to add that I understand what it's like to be a big woman who is self conscious about my body...it seemed like perhaps Ari was projecting her own insecurities and her anxiety and depression may have exacerbated her sense of feeling ostracized regarding her weight. Once again I could be wrong and do not claim I'm 100% right about this, but just I could see this being a legit scenario. Now, those sexual harassment claims, are appalling...and while alleged the ladies seemed more confident and sure of themselves when talking about those issues. I'm inclined to believe Ari rightfully felt sexually harassed. Her boundaries weren't respected and not only that, intimate details about her virginity were shared and publically discussed without her conset, which doesnt seem ok.
I enjoyed this video,as I have many others. However, I do not agree with the statement that religion is often discussed at work. I'm 70 and have worked at several companies and honestly have not heard anyone talk about their religious beliefs. Almost everyone knows that stating one's religious beliefs in the workplace is not encouraged.
Respectfully, the younger generations (Gen Z specifically) are notorious for oversharing on topics in the workplace that in the past were considered taboo (mental health issues, gender identity, etc.). I’m 40 and I agree those conversations don’t belong in the workplace, nonetheless, it’s not uncommon these days.
We all have unpleasant past experiences. Just because she was fat and we've been pretending like it's a healthy lifestyle doesn't mean she should get a pass.
Surprised you did not include how easy it is to sue individuals with money? It is called deep pockets. In the US, you will likely get a settlement. Even if plaintiff goes to court and you loose, no skin off your back. Lizzo should place large boundaries between her and her employees.
She may have to eat her words in the end once the chips fall. I think the she underestimates the gravity of the situation and that it's going to be hard for her to bear the weight of the verdict in the end.
I think this is the problem with delusion. Trying to impart a positive message about size when they are obviously obese and unhealthy has turned round and bit them all on the bum. Even Lizzo must’ve realised that’s her dancers who need to be able to move, putting on additional weight just wasn’t going to work out. Not everyone should or can be stick thin but i think we all know when weight becomes an issue.
I know someone who used to dance and perform professionally and criticism for weight gain while in a show or on tour is just part of the industry. The performers are all supposed to maintain their body weight and shape so that the costumes fit and so that they have the stamina and flexibility for the routines they perform. Even if a person is already technically overweight when they are hired, they are putting a lot more stress than is ideal on their joints, and adding to that may mean they were not performing as well as when hired. The company hiring them is within their rights to expect a standard to be maintained. This has been twisted to sound like it's about body positivity hypocrisy - but it could well just be about fitness to perform their job.
Agreed 👍. If your employment is based upon your physical stamina and performance capabilities, as is the case for anyone hired as a dancer, your body *is* your commodity. You can't be hired with a body that can perform and function at one level, have that level noticeably decrease due to adding significant weight to your frame, and expect to keep the job you were hired for. You're no longer able to manage the demands of the job, you can be fired. Happens every day.
Good one, Dr. G. You handled this case respectfully. Too many people would want to shame Lizzo for her physical characteristics with regards to her treatment of those dancers.
I call BULLSHIT on this for we all know who Lizzo is, and what she's about & they are grown ass adults who can say NO, especially when ASKED to go to the Red Light District, nope they knew what the 411 was out the gate & they may or may not have felt some type of way regarding specific situations, I concur they're blowing it out of proportion for they got reprimanded than fired so this is them retaliating. Jst saying.
They must have been the most innocent, naive women on the planet, if they were invited after work, to the red-light district in Amsterdam and had no idea, that they were going to an all nude "burlesque" type of show. But let's say they had never heard of the red-light district and it's notorious reputation: Lizzo was pretty damn vocal about this club on the radio in that country and made it very clear she was interested in seeing this infamous banana show, so I can't imagine she wasn't vocal about it on the way to this club with her dancers. Even though this was an off the clock situation, it still shows why you shouldn't mix with employees in a situation that would be considered questionable and inappropriate in any other circumstances.
She plays flute and does tricks with bananas..If that ain’t talent,then it’s certainly a image… I have no idea who this lady really is and now feel so old.!.. Thank you Doctor Grande and all the best🇬🇧🇺🇸👍
Lizzo plays the flute, but it was Cherlene the dance instructor who works for Lizzo who does party tricks with a banana. Remember? She’s the self proclaimed “Christian” who can’t stop talking about sexuality and fantasies.
@@katarina1852 She sounds dreadful. From what I can gather she - and not so much Lizzo - has been the real instigator of any ill-feeling among the dancers.
Hi Dr. Grande. Could you analyze the behavior of Tori Spelling? I don't know how her children are not rebelling against their lack of privacy for one thing.
Having been subjected to viewing some of Lizzo's antics, i.e. her twerking while wearing buttless chaps at a basketball game, I am very happy to see that her 15 minutes are up.
Thank you for the fair and balanced analysis. I'm more concerned about her "fans" who dropped her stream like a hot potato. It's almost like they don't like her music.
We are supposed to have unconditional love for a star? I adored Chris Brown, loved R Kelly, Kevin Spacey, Cosby, E Degeneris, James Corden, but guess what, I dropped them all, just like every decent fan did. Not everyone is a fanatic and will be in denial about their “idol” like A Tate and Trump’s fans.
@@ellaella5537 This is exactly what I'm talking about. You're only interested in the person, not the output, and how it makes you look like a "good person." Your aesthetic choices have no bearing on the rest of the world, and your decision to drop all of them has no bearing on anything other than your own ego.
Some people genetically have a hard time with weight loss (blame nature). Some people are just selfish and lazy and gluttonous (blame character). Some people are wounded and anxious and eat to relax (blame unresolved emotional wounds.) Lizzo reminds me of the 2nd group.
Almost every comment is about her weight and how people find her disgusting. It's really sad and disheartening how mean people really are deep down inside. I hope they don't have children or other people that look to them to be good people. If Lizzo wants to be heavy, then she can. Even if I find it unappealing, I would never say the nasty and crude type of things I'm reading on here about another person because karma knows and what goes around comes around. There's no such thing as kindness anymore, or even just keeping your mouth shut Instead of being rude. By the way, I'm sure everyone on here is absolutely perfect 🙄
I completely agree with you! But what can you expect when half the country blindly follows a man like Donald Trump. Spewing hate and lies has become the norm.
Great Videos Dr. Grande, I am a professional guitarist songwriter and independent contractor. I find these videos very relaxing and entertaining. But they are also educational and can actually help us become better people by teaching about human behavior and relationships. Please cover these topics for future "today's question" videos: Patrice Cullers (BLM founder) and the scandal with her 4 mansions. The controversy with Jason Aldean and the song "try that in a small town" and Reverend Jesse Lee Peterson. Thanks again Dr. Grande.
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This entire situation contains so many trigger points: weight, race, employment, religion, morals...what a ticking bomb!!
He left out the part where the dancers were allegedly pressured to catch/eat bananas out of the adult performers' vaginas. Lizzo is clearly a degenerate and an awful person.
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You forgot to include bananas…
The poor girl's a whole Tyler Perry film...
How can race be relevant when all of the parties are of the same race ?
If I had a boss who required my attendance at strip clubbing in order for me to humiliate myself like that, I would sue her as well. Gross behavior
They hv to prove attendance was mandatory. They can’t prove that. Ur boss asks if u wanna come to a gross club in Amsterdam u say no and if u don’t like ur work environment QUIT! People quit their jobs every day. Those girls r adults not children
@@nettiea9384 I'm sure what you said was relevant but I really struggle to absorb sentences done in text-speak.
Attendance wasn’t mandatory though
@@It-is-me...Melsiewhat a shame, I had no difficulty understanding what they were trying to say
@@wiggly103I think I agree with you for the most part, although I think that if she invited two or three of them to go with her, they probably felt special for being singled out and asked to go along, and should have just said no if they were uncomfortable
"The evening imvolved going to a place occupied be people suffering from a clothing deficit", God I love Dr Grande's humour 😂😂
Agreed, however he still hasn't done an analysis on my missing father: Larry Wray Trevathan June 3rd 1993
He's avoiding demonetization of the video at the same time as making a joke.
It was a rather tasteful way of stating it. lol 🧚♀
It is the BEST humour lol
Dr.Grande is the best 😂 he’s so funny
I've wondered about her ever since she pulled a really nasty stunt in Boston. She was staying at a hotel here and ordered delivery of a lobster sandwich. The sandwich did not get delivered because she had used a fake name when she checked in. She publicly blamed the delivery person and said the person had stolen her sandwitch. She even put the person's name online. And the person got harassed, even got death threats.What a jerk.
i believe the dancers. i’ve heard horror stories about her
OMG!!! She's not a nice person.
I thought she said she was vegan lol
Lesson: Never mess with a person of that size and their sandwich.
I thought she was vegan also?
Love Dr. Grande's brilliant use of so many euphemisms for "naked."
The title says singer weighed down. 😂😂😂
@@carpediem4512fak! Lmao
Did you just call a stripper a clothing challenged performer 😂
That's why I love Dr. Grande😂😂😂😂😂
@@neutraliserjanine he's probably making sure its pg if kids are around, or doesn't get demonetized
@@neutraliserjaninelol- he probably said it like that because some people today are offended by every other word that’s spoken these days. 😂
It's brilliant if you ask me.
Maybe it's not a good idea to prop up people as the paragons of our society who simply speak/sing a message about how society should change to accommodate them rather than measuring them by their acts over time. Just saying
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It's really not that heavy she's fun and entertaining everyone knows that. As "charismatic" as she is, no one is aspiring to look like her.
😂😂 DID YOU SAY MEASURING?! 😅 savage🎉
very valid point! I love Dr. Grande’s subscribers. DANG! I didn’t catch that “HEAVY” until after i replied. 💯 SAVAGE!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😅
Also you know not many can PROP her up though let’s be honest 😮
Victim identity is allowing a lot of people to bully others. Nice to see that fact exposed.
If you want to see what happens when you give people an inexhaustible victimhood status
Just look at how Israel treats its neighbors
That's a big part of why California allows the homeless population to attack people, use hard drugs out in the open, shoplift, camp anywhere they want, and poop on the sidewalk. To arrest them for doing bad things would be further victimization. Just take the punch, step in the poop, get your car window replaced, and keep paying your taxes.
According to several witnesses of Lizzo's misconduct, she is an obnoxious, arrogant, self-centered, and unkind person as well as racist and ableist. Either they all are lying or she is a bully of the worst kind. Narcissistic bullies often choose to play the role of the victim in order to target and harass innocent victims and get away with it.
You are correct.
she is literally a plus sized black woman, she clearly is/was victim of racism and fatphobia. these are all allegations and not confirmed
She needs to give a well-rounded apology considering the massive weight of her actions.
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😮😮😮😮😮😮 no you didn't go there 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
@@nancyzehr3679ikr 😬😬
😂😂😂😂😂😂 yup!
I love how the same person who was lecturing about religion was also performing a “banana trick”. 🤔
Yeah, that confused me a little as well
And talking about premarital sex as bad, then working for Lizzo and going to the sex performance in the banana bar presumably. And the burlesque show elsewhere. She's a nutter.
Indeed 😬
Anyone can call themselves a Christian. It's all in the fruit.
Yeah, wtf?
“… a clothing challenged performer..” “clothing deficit” Dr. Grande you’re hilarious 😂
This lawsuit puts a HUGE DENT in her image
I'm not a BIG fan of hers. I really think she will lose a LARGE part of her audience over this.
I salute you sir.
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Fat dent
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If this cruelty is true, Lizzo must pay the dancers for their emotional and financial distress.
Lizzo hasn’t denied anything. She’s gonna have to pay up for a settlement.
Karyannfontsine Agree! I opposite! Underweight! Doesn't matter! Seems more famous she got more cruel!
Hopefully she goes broke.
@@JaxonSmithers If she did all this cruelty, then she deserves her penance.
Lol, this kind of thing is just normal in the entertainment industry in the US. There's a lot of group sex that goes on too, on tours, on film sets, etc.
It's About Damn Time Dr. Grande talks about Lizzo!
I can't believe what a huge story this is! Either way lizzo is no beacon of body positivity. She shouldn't be looked up to at all. Not even a little.
This woman is a classic hypocritical narcissist who probably so fat can't get a date so she harasses her employees. Typically rich boss grandiose
She is not celebrating being fat, only suggesting that fat people don't have to hate themselves. I don't think you know what body positivity is.
@Joelswinger34 yes she is. And accepting a lifestyle as unhealthy isn't "hate"
@@mjanny6330 she actually lost quite a bit of weight. She used to be heavier, and she improved her lifestyle. But nobody ever says anything about that; they just keep criticizing her size. Just because she doesn't hate herself and hide away from everybody doesn't mean that she's "encouraging obesity." And, I'm saying this as somebody who is very disgusted with her conduct (assuming what is in the lawsuit is true). Also, although celebrities that are thinner aren't exactly paragons of health. Most of them get loads of plastic surgery, are on unhealthful weight loss regimens, and use drugs, but because they're thin, folks assume they are healthy and are good role models.
@@Joelswinger34body positivity is for people who have missing limbs, who have been war or horrific accidents, or who are born differently. You don't know what the body positivity movement is and how it's been hijacked by the obese.
I’m sure this lawsuit is weighing on her heavily. It might be enough to tip the scales of public opinion against her.
The lawsuit against her eats so much food it can't get out of bed anymore and needs to go to the zoo for an MRI
@johns1625 That sounded stupid, and childish. Grow tfu
Ba dum tsss
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So tired of all the “self love” messaging. The last thing ppl like Lizzo need is to love themselves more than they already do.
So DON'T love yourself...🤷
They need to love themselves for real by taking care of themselves. Ignoring their morbid obesity isn’t self-love.
@@Retrosenescentnewsflash: most people who are overweight don't ignore it, because they're not allowed to. They have constant reminders every day from people like you that they are somehow "less than" everybody else
Indeed.
There's obviously a tendency to confuse self love with NPD...
@@TomikaKelly actually ya. Stop thinking about yourself all the time
Whether she's talented or not, I don't know. She is more known for telling people that being morbidly obese is beautiful and for wearing outfits that do not flatter her at all. She seems like she needs a lot of attention and will do or say whatever it takes to get it.
She does not tell people that being morbidly obese is beautiful. She teaches people that they have to accept and love themselves the way they are, including their bodies, because Society talks to you like you are crap and doesn't want you to love yourself.
Also who the f*ck decided that clothes should be 'flattering'
I agree 👍
@@LindaC616 I'm sorry, but I believe all of that "body positivity" is performative and really only applies to Lizzo herself. Clearly, she has no problem admonishing others for their weight. She's sounds like a raging narcissist, a hypocrite, and an all-around awful person; a fraud.
Talking about how oppressed she is with her millions of dollars 🙄
I’m glad you weighed in on this
It’s quite a weighty subject
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This could have consequences of HUGE proportions
Glad he covered this topic it was an elephant in the room
Best comments on this video --right here folks!
Singer weighed down by hypocrisy 😂😂😂 this guy's humour cracks me up.
13:54 “or put another way, she added weight to the argument.”
Dammit Dr. Grande is the best at adding humor to serious videos. Thanks Dr. Please look into doing a video on Debra Jeter who cut both of her daughters throats then called 911 when one lived and begged her to be saved. Would love to hear your thoughts on it.
This channel covers such a diverse range of topics!❤
I know.. I never know what I'm getting into. Lol It's exciting.
I like it. There's only so much murder and horror I can endure. I just like a good and interesting story.
Fame got to her head!
I never heard of her until this lawsuit came out in the news
Now let's not pretend regular people aren't this crazy as well. I think these people BEEN crazy & fame just exposed it. You don't just "wake up crazy" . It takes practice to get that efficient
This video is the first time I've ever heard of her.
Are you guys not from the US? How the hell have you not heard of lizzo? I don't even listen to her music and I've heard of her.
“Never heard of her”. Okay so you haven’t turned on a radio or tv in the past five years 😂
@@d.n.8919Correct. I haven't watched TV for over twelve years. In the car I listen to CD's only.
Thank you for enlarging my knowledge on this weighty issue, Dr. Grande.
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Lizzo always struck me as very aggressive & self-focused. Great points & jokes, very timely, only listened to your version. Thanks Dr G😊💙💙
To be fair, you kind of HAVE to be very aggressive and self-focused to succeed in the music industry.
@@derkeheath5172 Maybe, not always. You can be assertive but she seems aggressive to others too
This analysis was too kind, tbh. Just because you're bullied for something doesn't mean you get to treat others like garbage. If the accusations are true, I won't feel bad her career is over.
I think Dr Grande's analysis glossed over way too many things as somehow unimportant or trivial.
@@skycloud4802 I thought he kept it concise and logical.
@@skycloud4802 I agree. He seems to have sympathy for her or something. Sorry but I don't. If true, her actions are abhorrent.
The dancers might just be bitter for being fired. The allegations sound vague, like they could be interpreted more than one way.
@@It-is-me...MelsieI agree, I think he is trying to stay as unbiased if possible. The whole point is, we don't know what's true yet
WEIGHED DOWN? I see what you did there, Dr. Grande, you sly dog you.
"Tipping the scales" got me, too! 😂
😂😂😂
It's just bad taste overall. I feel bad for the dancers.❤ When you have people work for you. You should be looking out on their behalf. What happened to going out for dinner? Shame on her!!!!
Or let them do their own thing after work. I wanna be myself after work lol.
I think Lizzo might have trouble recovering. Check out her song credits. There's typically 5 or more people writing her songs which include professional song writers. They won't hand over songs to her unless they think she can make them a lot of money off the songs.
Good point.
Most mainstream artists have ghost writers.
Anyone notice who Lizzo is only body positive when it comes to big girls? When it comes to all the dudes in her videos, they're all ripped dudes with no body fat. Clothing challenged and a clothing deficit lol.
Seems like a common theme with the female vs male size
"Weighed down" indeed 😂
Hurt people hurt people 😔
The night club stuff could be illegal work-related sexual harassment since Lizzo is their employer
"...people suffering from a clothing deficit." Just gold right there.
Thank you, Dr Grande for the analysis of this recent news topic. I have seen several headlines but I didn’t understand the entire situation until now. There were simply too many versions of the story.
You can make clarity out of nonsense.
( edited cause I messed up.)
Since when being fat became a positive personality trait? And don't forget all the health issues that come with it
Sounds like she’s got a lot on her plate. This lawsuit is going to be a lot to swallow.
Bahahha
Sounds like Lizzo developed a big ego!
Weighed down 😂
There are quite a lot of extremely popular modern day performers, and I am fortunate enough to have never once even heard any music from them. It’s actually something that I pride myself on. This person is one of those performers. I don’t like the sounds of modern popular music. As far as her behavior goes, I am getting the feeling that, because of the rewarding poor behavior trend that’s been sweeping the country over the past 8 years that there are huge amounts of people who feel entitled to behave in any manner that strikes their fancy. This trend is going to produce generations of people who are happily destroying societal norms. There are no consequences to any bad behavior, and it’s going to ruin the enjoyment of life for the rest of us. We are definitely on a decline as far as a society is concerned and it cannot possibly go any other direction without some major changes.
Yes, we are sliding down a slippery slope silently sealing our fate.
Analytical, nuanced and intelligent. You rarely disappoint with your commentaries. Well done!
Best descriptions: clothing challenged performer, people with clothing deficit, this will tip the scales and weight her career down, she added weight to the argument... lol
She is enjoying the power of having created a job for large dancers... she knows these young women are not going to work as dancers anywhere else... so she can say and do anything she wants, and she probably thinks the dancers have to take it and do so with gratitude....
That's an insightful observation. I hadn't thought about how limited the job opportunities are for overweight dancers.
I'm not diagnosing Lizzo as adopting this perspective, only speculating that someone like her may come to feel like the dancers "owe" her an extensive debt of gratitude for being employed at all. Also this could foster a dynamic where the employer knows her employees don't really have other readily available job options, so she can treat those employees unfairly or inappropriately without any real threat of them resigning. Or complaining and risking losing their job.
@@MeganVictoriaKearns You guys are intelligent, usually i dont say that about people... It's like communal narcisisism, where you can do good, but you are almost like feeling you are a god like figure or people should do whatever is asks, because "Look what I did for you" vs the "the stuff I put you through"..."i'm a good person because nobody would ever do as much for you as I did"
love that you’ve covered this dr. Grande! Have you ever seen Grey Gardens? I would love for you to analyze Little Edie and Big Edie and their relationship
I’d be very surprised if he hasn’t.
@@mjrussell414 I don’t think he has! If anyone knows otherwise pls lmk!!
Others have asked him to do this, I don't think he did, yet. Ima look it up!
I had the same thought about when lizzo made a fist and threatened, but I learned from EDB that that is assault- the threat of being hit. I had always thought assault was being hit, but that is battery. I had no idea! Great video tho, loved the puns lol
In the workplace, at least in California, "violence" has 3 levels, and doesn't include physical acts till Level 3. Surprised me too
"WEIGHED" down! Hahaha, I love that dry humor, Dr. Grande! I'm not offended!
A hockey analyst said that one of the Stanley Cup teams (the Maple Leafs) needed to eat a Lizzo-sized sandwich a few months ago. Everyone was so offended. You'd think he said that they needed to send bomb threats to the other team! (which actually did happen in the next round)
You can learn a lot about yourself by what bugs you in others.
Lol this is so true and I hate checking myself because of someone I don't like
Yes, I have learned that I don't like bullies.
Most of us don't like murderers. Does that mean we are all murderers?
@@Joelswinger34maybe we are
@@Joelswinger34That comment bugged you, eh?
She slowly gained success but true fame and millions happened quickly after her 3rd album. That I believe gave her power to feel like she could do or say things bc she is LIZZO. Like so many before her all it takes is 1 or 2 people to come out and expose you..She just got cancelled for the super bowl halftime show i think this really will set back her career alot.
The scales of justice may crushed in this lawsuit!
Body positivity is just an elaborate way of saying is OK to be fat. Im overweight myself but it's noting positive about it, I wanna drop my weight asap.
I always thought she was grotesque but nobody seemed to want to say a word against her until recently.
Let's just stick to criticising the behaviour and not her appearance.
@It-is-me...Melsie her behavior is what makes her appearance grotesque
@@floridagirl386that's cowardice, and you know it
@@LindaC616 what the hell are you even talking about.
Dr. Grande was spot on when he said it depends on their level of talent. Look at the accusations against MJ, that’s about as bad as it gets. He was still immensely popular until his death despite the accusations and settlements he had to pay.
Michael Jackson was a very nice person. Damaged from childhood. Wanted to give other kids good childhoods - I highly doubt he molested anyone. Knew him well enough to doubt those allegations.
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I feel like if lizzo was cracking her knuckles and telling her “she’s so lucky rn” it doesn’t take much mind reading to know what she meant lol
This makes my heart feel *VERY* heavy.
Heh, "heavy."
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you for calling her a “singer” and not a “musician”
Well, if she was good enough with the flute to be in a classical music major in college, she may actually deserve to be called a musician. People who make classical music their college major are usually only able to declare that as their major after being selected for a particular music education program. She most likely had at least some proficiency with other instruments besides just the flute, and she certainly could read music and play by sight-reading. Otherwise she wouldn't have ever been accepted in any music performance program at any university in this country.
I think there's more than just allegations weighing her down 😂
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That title 🤣🤣🤣
I can not tell you how relieved I am that I will NEVER have to find out for myself whether she is talented or not. Thank you, Dr. G, for suffering through her "art" so that I didn't have to.
Dr. Grande is a true national treasure. The sacrifices he makes to spare us from horrible, boring experiences is legendary. He must be protected at all costs.
Her music is on a lot of ads and shows. So I am sure you heard her before without realising that it was Lizzo who was singing.
I’m not a Lizzo fan but I just wonder about the unrealistic standards we set for others. Humans are imperfect by their very nature ! Hands up anyone who’s never sent an angry text, said something unkind, done something wrong… anyone?
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I hate that "I'm not perfect" excuse. Nobody is asking anybody to be perfect. They are asking them not to bully.
I don’t think not making your employees grab bananas from performer’s orifices (allegedly) is an unrealistic standard …
What you mention by comparison is way less than the gross misconduct Lizzo is accused of.
Me seeing the video’s title and knowing Dr Grande’s love of puns: 😮- 🤣
Just a reminder, I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a singer who sits around the house really sits around the house like this
@ImplicateOrder Yes, that was what I was referencing!
This is huge. For someone as massively famous as Lizzo, I'm shocked at the immense gravity of the situation. I'm sure her employees are in for a big payout.
It's a human resources nightmare. Bosses need to establish boundaries and listening to the summary here it appears that had boundaries been more clear it would have been helpful. Boundaries are a positive as they keep people out of trouble and define expectations.
who takes their employees to a strip club?? seriously inappropriate and unprofessional
💯% agree. Don’t treat ur employees like friends but this is common. Business men feel like they shd keep up and end up drinking more than they shd and god knows all else that happens off the clock to curry favor with clients and bosses
Yup, I learned that as a young boss after a few accusations from people I thought were my friends. After that, never went out with my staff. Kept a strong boundary between work & personal life.
She is the before picture with no after picture.
Sounds like a fairly typical toxic work environment to me....I wish someone had told me that I could sue every boss who has ever been mean, crossed boundaries, tried to cheat me out of due payment, belittled me, attacked some aspect of my appearance/personality just because it makes them feel better about their miserable selves for a brief moment...
I could have become a multi-millionare by now!!!
As a large woman myself who is athletically gifted, I have some doubts about Lizzo fat Shaming. While my thoughts are speculative here is where I sit.
It seemed from the court documents and the interviews Ari's performance was "allegedly" becoming problematic. As a big woman myself with strong athletic talents, I know all to well what a rapid 10lbs+ weight gain can do to one's ability...even more so for a person who still remains within a healthy BMI. We can get more sluggish, are more injury prone, movements may become more restrictive, etc. I can imagine that poor performance coupled with rapid weight gain could have been a concern for Lizzo and management, not because they want to fat shame, but because that dancer medically becomes a greater risk and liability. Ari, herself also stated in an interview that at the SXSW show when she revealed her medical conditions which included an ED, she said Lizzo and management was like "oooooh". That response doesn't seem like someone wanted to fat shame, that response sounds like someone who understood with more clarity what was happening. She also stated she wasn't even sure if Lizzo had received her medical and psychological assessment information from the dance competition show. So, it doesn't sound like fat Shaming, but I also could be wrong.
I do want to add that I understand what it's like to be a big woman who is self conscious about my body...it seemed like perhaps Ari was projecting her own insecurities and her anxiety and depression may have exacerbated her sense of feeling ostracized regarding her weight. Once again I could be wrong and do not claim I'm 100% right about this, but just I could see this being a legit scenario.
Now, those sexual harassment claims, are appalling...and while alleged the ladies seemed more confident and sure of themselves when talking about those issues. I'm inclined to believe Ari rightfully felt sexually harassed. Her boundaries weren't respected and not only that, intimate details about her virginity were shared and publically discussed without her conset, which doesnt seem ok.
The fact that "weighed down" is in the title. I see you, Dr. Grande 👀😂
I enjoyed this video,as I have many others. However, I do not agree with the statement that religion is often discussed at work. I'm 70 and have worked at several companies and honestly have not heard anyone talk about their religious beliefs. Almost everyone knows that stating one's religious beliefs in the workplace is not encouraged.
Respectfully, the younger generations (Gen Z specifically) are notorious for oversharing on topics in the workplace that in the past were considered taboo (mental health issues, gender identity, etc.). I’m 40 and I agree those conversations don’t belong in the workplace, nonetheless, it’s not uncommon these days.
Keeping the fired dancer from leaving unless Lizzie’s security inspected her phone is a big problem.
Maybe
It's also a big problem to secretly record someone in a two party state.
Sounds like security guards on tour are hired thugs who do more than protect their employers from physical threats.
I am so happy you have analyzed this lawsuit, I already know this will be good! 👍🏻
We all have unpleasant past experiences. Just because she was fat and we've been pretending like it's a healthy lifestyle doesn't mean she should get a pass.
Surprised you did not include how easy it is to sue individuals with money? It is called deep pockets. In the US, you will likely get a settlement. Even if plaintiff goes to court and you loose, no skin off your back. Lizzo should place large boundaries between her and her employees.
shes a no talent
Dr Grande...that title I wonder why no one said anything "Singer Weighed Down..." OMG ...you owe me a keyboard if it stops working!!
Dr. Grande's words really carry a lot of weight.
She may have to eat her words in the end once the chips fall. I think the she underestimates the gravity of the situation and that it's going to be hard for her to bear the weight of the verdict in the end.
I think this is the problem with delusion. Trying to impart a positive message about size when they are obviously obese and unhealthy has turned round and bit them all on the bum. Even Lizzo must’ve realised that’s her dancers who need to be able to move, putting on additional weight just wasn’t going to work out. Not everyone should or can be stick thin but i think we all know when weight becomes an issue.
"Tip the scales"
"Weigh her career down"
Llllllllllmmmmmmmmffffffaaaaaooooooooo
I know someone who used to dance and perform professionally and criticism for weight gain while in a show or on tour is just part of the industry. The performers are all supposed to maintain their body weight and shape so that the costumes fit and so that they have the stamina and flexibility for the routines they perform. Even if a person is already technically overweight when they are hired, they are putting a lot more stress than is ideal on their joints, and adding to that may mean they were not performing as well as when hired. The company hiring them is within their rights to expect a standard to be maintained. This has been twisted to sound like it's about body positivity hypocrisy - but it could well just be about fitness to perform their job.
Agree
Agreed 👍. If your employment is based upon your physical stamina and performance capabilities, as is the case for anyone hired as a dancer, your body *is* your commodity. You can't be hired with a body that can perform and function at one level, have that level noticeably decrease due to adding significant weight to your frame, and expect to keep the job you were hired for. You're no longer able to manage the demands of the job, you can be fired. Happens every day.
Your analysis is always spot on-and I love this new shirt!
Good one, Dr. G. You handled this case respectfully. Too many people would want to shame Lizzo for her physical characteristics with regards to her treatment of those dancers.
„For instance she’s very skilled with her flute”…😂😂😂
I about fell off my chair, Dr. Grande!
It's nothing more than a prop for her.
@@robertgiles9124 You didn’t get the joke didya… 🤦🏾♀️
Her whole act is a Joke. But you enjoy yourself there, low brow rider. @@lowrider81hd
Thanks for all the interesting and informative videos every day, Grande.❤ They’re all so great. I really enjoy them, especially the Grande zingers!❤
I call BULLSHIT on this for we all know who Lizzo is, and what she's about & they are grown ass adults who can say NO, especially when ASKED to go to the Red Light District, nope they knew what the 411 was out the gate & they may or may not have felt some type of way regarding specific situations, I concur they're blowing it out of proportion for they got reprimanded than fired so this is them retaliating. Jst saying.
They must have been the most innocent, naive women on the planet, if they were invited after work, to the red-light district in Amsterdam and had no idea, that they were going to an all nude "burlesque" type of show. But let's say they had never heard of the red-light district and it's notorious reputation: Lizzo was pretty damn vocal about this club on the radio in that country and made it very clear she was interested in seeing this infamous banana show, so I can't imagine she wasn't vocal about it on the way to this club with her dancers.
Even though this was an off the clock situation, it still shows why you shouldn't mix with employees in a situation that would be considered questionable and inappropriate in any other circumstances.
Tim dillon has the best take on this.
@@AnaLucia-wy2ii I gotta check it out than
You have to do the mushroom case going viral in Australia! Erin Patterson! Very fresh case. No arrest yet
She plays flute and does tricks with bananas..If that ain’t talent,then it’s certainly a image…
I have no idea who this lady really is and now feel so old.!..
Thank you Doctor Grande and all the best🇬🇧🇺🇸👍
Lizzo plays the flute, but it was Cherlene the dance instructor who works for Lizzo who does party tricks with a banana. Remember? She’s the self proclaimed “Christian” who can’t stop talking about sexuality and fantasies.
@@katarina1852 She sounds dreadful. From what I can gather she - and not so much Lizzo - has been the real instigator of any ill-feeling among the dancers.
@@It-is-me...Melsie In truth I was lost at the banana trick at the party,whatever that was.?.Perhaps she made everyone there a great fruit salad.?.
@@themajesticmagnificent386 🤣🤣🤣
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"People suffering from a clothing deficit" 🤣👍🏻
Hi Dr. Grande. Could you analyze the behavior of Tori Spelling? I don't know how her children are not rebelling against their lack of privacy for one thing.
Every time you say her name a walrus in heaven gets it's flippers stop talking about and breathing life into the popularity of bad examples of humans
Sounds like sexual harassment by definition
The title...😂 "Singer weighed down" and talking about Lizzo. 😂😂😂
Having been subjected to viewing some of Lizzo's antics, i.e. her twerking while wearing buttless chaps at a basketball game, I am very happy to see that her 15 minutes are up.
This is a ton of information 😮
I see what you did there! 😅
That title 😂😂👏🏼👏🏼
Look at dr. G looking all fresh and clean with his haircut!!👏👏❤
Thank you for the fair and balanced analysis. I'm more concerned about her "fans" who dropped her stream like a hot potato. It's almost like they don't like her music.
We are supposed to have unconditional love for a star? I adored Chris Brown, loved R Kelly, Kevin Spacey, Cosby, E Degeneris, James Corden, but guess what, I dropped them all, just like every decent fan did.
Not everyone is a fanatic and will be in denial about their “idol” like A Tate and Trump’s fans.
@@ellaella5537You sound very bitter.
@@ellaella5537Kevin Spacey was found not guilty.
@@ellaella5537 This is exactly what I'm talking about. You're only interested in the person, not the output, and how it makes you look like a "good person." Your aesthetic choices have no bearing on the rest of the world, and your decision to drop all of them has no bearing on anything other than your own ego.
It used to be if you didnt like your job, you left
Some people genetically have a hard time with weight loss (blame nature). Some people are just selfish and lazy and gluttonous (blame character). Some people are wounded and anxious and eat to relax (blame unresolved emotional wounds.) Lizzo reminds me of the 2nd group.
As much as I love Stephen Root, *this* is the man who should have played Milton on Office Space.
Almost every comment is about her weight and how people find her disgusting. It's really sad and disheartening how mean people really are deep down inside. I hope they don't have children or other people that look to them to be good people. If Lizzo wants to be heavy, then she can. Even if I find it unappealing, I would never say the nasty and crude type of things I'm reading on here about another person because karma knows and what goes around comes around. There's no such thing as kindness anymore, or even just keeping your mouth shut Instead of being rude. By the way, I'm sure everyone on here is absolutely perfect 🙄
I completely agree with you! But what can you expect when half the country blindly follows a man like Donald Trump. Spewing hate and lies has become the norm.
Yeah, I'm certainly no advocate for promoting unhealthy body shapes but many of the comments are just nasty.
@@nellou5527 yes, the age of Trump most definitely normalized cruelty as the standard.
@@It-is-me...Melsie people have no filter anymore. The Internet has normalized hatred😢
@@sbrooke210 Sadly you're not wrong. I need to become less shocked by some of the comments I read.
Great Videos Dr. Grande, I am a professional guitarist songwriter and independent contractor.
I find these videos very relaxing and entertaining. But they are also educational and can actually help us become better people by teaching about human behavior and relationships.
Please cover these topics for future "today's question" videos:
Patrice Cullers (BLM founder) and the scandal with her 4 mansions.
The controversy with Jason Aldean and the song "try that in a small town"
and
Reverend Jesse Lee Peterson.
Thanks again Dr. Grande.