Let's Talk Insecurities: Pretty Privilege, Embracing vs. Changing & Self-Sabotage

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  • Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
  • When it comes to overcoming your insecurities you have to identify where they came from and get real with yourself about embracing and overcoming them. But sometimes there are insecurities which you actively seek to change; so how do you know the difference?
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Комментарии • 77

  • @breannajoseph2018
    @breannajoseph2018 3 года назад +109

    I am making a conscious decision to love myself. People say life is short, but life is too long to be discontent the whole journey

    • @ClayMastah344
      @ClayMastah344 3 года назад +4

      Exactly! I’m going to start using this saying ❤️ thank you

  • @Thesilentvoice...
    @Thesilentvoice... 3 года назад +90

    Pretty Privilege is real and I think most people are doing all they can to fit in the standards so they will be noticed. I imagine if people were noticed and treated nicely no matter how they looked or what they had, I'm sure fewer people would try and fit that mold and be themselves because they are accepted.

  • @MakeupByTammi
    @MakeupByTammi 3 года назад +41

    When Renee said the final boss is YOU I almost cried! What a word🤯

  • @Lashaquan
    @Lashaquan 3 года назад +54

    I don't understand why this show hasn't reached millions yet. You women are so intelligent and insightful. I've listened to other self-help podcasts that only think they are on the level of introspect that you ladies are. Let me be petty so you do not have to. I said what I said. :-) You mention that you are online big sisters. I looked up your ages and I have you guys by x-amount of years ;-) but you are so far more mature than I was at your age so I bow down and respect the fact that you are my big sisters doing big things! I cannot wait to listen to the next episode!

  • @erwstories9065
    @erwstories9065 3 года назад +72

    You ladies never miss, do you!? Such an enriching and needed conversation

  • @gl0hen
    @gl0hen 3 года назад +19

    “you need to be anchored in something that does not change”
    SISTERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS SO GOOD!!!! MY GOODNESS!!!!! NAH YALL WENT OFF WITH THIS ONE!!! wowowowowowowwwww AMEN to all of this!!! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @robertapisces
    @robertapisces 3 года назад +6

    Sis said 'u can't change something effectively from a place of self hate'
    FELT

  • @karsten2747
    @karsten2747 3 года назад +34

    When Renee said “you are the final boss” I felt that!!! 🔥

  • @gloriamurugik
    @gloriamurugik 3 года назад +25

    In Kenya we say “Habari” or “Hujambo” or “Sasa”
    I love listening to you guys . Love that a Kenyan babes dilemma was featured in the show

    • @shirleyn.8563
      @shirleyn.8563 2 года назад

      🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

    • @mchinia
      @mchinia 2 года назад

      😭 y'all still say hujambo?

  • @zanellemutoko4372
    @zanellemutoko4372 3 года назад +17

    Kenyan here. Can be anything from:
    Sasa (Hi) - Mzuri/poa (I'm good)
    Habari yako (How are you) - Mzuri (Good)
    to
    Jambo (Hi) - Jambo (Hi)

  • @kehanaj411
    @kehanaj411 3 года назад +29

    Hi sisters,
    PLEASE do a video on how-to's for CV letters! That would be super informative and our generation could use more women of color teaching these topics. You ladies are amazing and thank you for the content!

    • @peoniesarebeautiful3074
      @peoniesarebeautiful3074 3 года назад +1

      I REALLY NEED THIS TOO!!

    • @vsboardza
      @vsboardza 3 года назад

      I honest to God do not know how to write a cover letter or a job description

  • @Kaindi_S
    @Kaindi_S 3 года назад +6

    Mambo from Kenya 🇰🇪. Renee went OWF in this episode and I am here for it 👏

  • @wambuikamau5918
    @wambuikamau5918 3 года назад +13

    Sending lots of love from Kenya
    As for our greetings 'Jambo' means hello...the answer is poa

  • @josephinemuhuko9830
    @josephinemuhuko9830 3 года назад +9

    Hello - Habari 😊

  • @lizd6886
    @lizd6886 3 года назад +8

    Renée's facial expressions towards the end forever sending mee

  • @angieinthecity
    @angieinthecity 3 года назад +6

    I felt it when you mentioned we have one life to live. I'd be damned if I don't get to enjoy the best years of my life. I've lost 35lbs since year and it's giving me a new respect to myself and my body 😚 I feel bad for all the things I put her through but she has arrived with self-love! Amazing all around episode! You ladies say things way better than I could articulate them! 😭

  • @tinokhumalo9335
    @tinokhumalo9335 3 года назад +11

    This episode came at the right /perfect time. While I'm still processing the last episode, this one has helped me make sure I don't fall into ' birthday' insecurities cause I've learnt that insecurities come in all forms and sizes and this week my birthday insecurities are being addressed.
    And Also I think one of the biggest problems with nowadays is that people are taking advantage of the fact that people want and value strangers opinions
    I thank you ladies for this episode 🥺

  • @hlengiwemtshatsha964
    @hlengiwemtshatsha964 3 года назад +8

    This is my first time listening to a full episode and I loved it. Young women need this level of truth telling, and it is clearly based in love.

  • @mampholedimo3164
    @mampholedimo3164 3 года назад +9

    The TMS+ on CVs is a yes from me!

  • @ac_mitchelle
    @ac_mitchelle 3 года назад +2

    Hello from Kenya casually, can be "Sema?, Sasa? " more formally, be "Habari, Jambo". Loved the episode babes !!!! xo

  • @elleakenya
    @elleakenya 3 года назад +2

    In Kenya 🇰🇪 speak swahili just say Sasa, mambo it's like saying hi

  • @ceLzOA
    @ceLzOA 3 года назад +1

    Please pass over the offering basket because enongh hallelujahs and Amens for me today!!! Whoosh ❤️

  • @yuppitsashley
    @yuppitsashley 3 года назад +6

    Loved the episode! I always felt that Pretty privilege is real. Whew so much to digest 😂!

  • @bevz90
    @bevz90 3 года назад +2

    43:04 -.43:19 This is so me and I'm sure a lot of people feel like this too.

  • @yolahashingola
    @yolahashingola 3 года назад +4

    I find it so MAD that the topics you speak on always sync with what I go through at times it’s absolutely crazy.
    But I love it!!! Thank you so much ladies, this is definitely one that I need to come back to and take serious notes.
    🦋✨

  • @firdawsalaga3919
    @firdawsalaga3919 2 года назад +1

    You are screeaaamiinggg🤣.
    Preach sisters! Preachh!

  • @nolithamadigoe1479
    @nolithamadigoe1479 3 года назад +5

    Renee went in on this one!! 👏🏾💯

  • @jmail1984
    @jmail1984 3 года назад +2

    "This is IT!!!!!"

  • @icedmatchaluvr
    @icedmatchaluvr 2 года назад

    I'm so glad I found you guys

  • @Mahumo_Hope
    @Mahumo_Hope 3 года назад +4

    Sometimes I ask myself that if we were to live in a matriarchal society would pretty privilege exist ? And if it did to what extent would it exist.
    You mentioned that it isn’t a conscious decision people make to treat “conventionally pretty” people better. However I’ve found it less common amongst women to treat people they don’t find attractive badly …. Look at how many pretty girls are married to “conventionally unattractive men”
    And the times that women do treat other women badly is solely based upon the male standards instilled in us . Like for example accepting the pretty girl into your squad so you could get invited to parties and be the centre of male attention or bringing another womens looks down for male validation.
    It’s never for our own validation as women. While men on the other hand are rarely seen married to “conventionally unattractive women” when they bring a women down its to boost their own egos and to reflect their own inner insecurities and self-hatred. Not to get the validation of women .

  • @maryannwanjiru501
    @maryannwanjiru501 3 года назад +2

    I am Kenyan❤️😌

  • @amogelangkgomo2655
    @amogelangkgomo2655 3 года назад

    Enough with the fluff! Come on with it Team🙌 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩.Thank you for the necessary depth 🎇

  • @sollymadeit
    @sollymadeit 3 года назад

    💙sending out love to everyone regardless your race, ethnicity, religion or beliefs.

  • @o.u1151
    @o.u1151 3 года назад

    Consumption over Functionality!! This!!!!!

  • @sharmainenadela7034
    @sharmainenadela7034 3 года назад +1

    One of the BEST and MY FAVE episodes. you guys just killed it!!

  • @thedopestsoul007
    @thedopestsoul007 3 года назад

    not Shakira shake your hips jeans 🤣🤣🤣
    btw new subscriber 🥳

  • @yuppitsashley
    @yuppitsashley 3 года назад +1

    Yasssss 💖 my sisters! Ok, let me tune in 🥰

  • @anthonyvenable7867
    @anthonyvenable7867 2 года назад

    Why are they coming for my life 😂😂 this whole podcast

  • @___Neona
    @___Neona 3 года назад +1

    urgh i love you sisters SO much 😭❤ thank you for these gems!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  3 года назад +1

      Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed ❤️

  • @Olivia.............
    @Olivia............. 2 года назад

    excited for this one!

  • @8877Bella
    @8877Bella 3 года назад

    ReNee Snapped honey!!! ❤️🔥🔥🔥 at the beginning of the video ..Yaasss!!!

  • @kanezacandia
    @kanezacandia 3 года назад

    This podcast 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿. You guys never miss

  • @smilergal89
    @smilergal89 3 года назад

    Love this, very honest and the range is there. I will posit that there is no such thing as objectively pretty. Aside things like hip to waist ration there is no science to attractive/pretty. It’s very much convention and subjectivity

  • @qnande_d
    @qnande_d 3 года назад +4

    Renee and Courtney DID NOT HOLD BAACK in this episode ...urghhh loved this episode👐🏾💓👐🏾 . It is a new fave 🥺and I have shared with a couple of friends who need to hear THEEE honesty .

  • @JC-ti4kn
    @JC-ti4kn 3 года назад +1

    Re: Kenyan greeting, you could say “jambo” or “niaje” or “habari”

  • @user-oc4wl4tj3n
    @user-oc4wl4tj3n 3 года назад

    Congrats to 20.000 Ladiess!!! Well deserved! ❤️

  • @ayandancube3593
    @ayandancube3593 3 года назад

    Really enjoyed this, and really needed it!!! Thank you!!❤❤

  • @marie_martina
    @marie_martina 3 года назад

    you guys are so amazing!

  • @Mscherriification
    @Mscherriification 3 года назад +1

    The 1 liners in this episode took me out!😅👌🏽🙌🏽 2 eggs a day, I dont wanna hear it! 😭

  • @Lizzeshade
    @Lizzeshade 3 года назад

    Every single point was hitting ladies! Much needed conversation to hear 💜

  • @temidayoakogun1439
    @temidayoakogun1439 3 года назад

    Amazing! simply amazing. I'd love it if you could do an episode on finding a mentor and being mentored. thanks !!!

  • @jearbearz2296
    @jearbearz2296 3 года назад +2

    I loveee you guys omg😭

  • @beatricemburu1640
    @beatricemburu1640 3 года назад +9

    Kenyan here, 'Habari yako?' for How are you?

  • @christabel2651
    @christabel2651 Год назад

    Let's get into the braids tho😍

  • @emmanuellaennison6487
    @emmanuellaennison6487 3 года назад

    I luv it here

  • @Judi621
    @Judi621 3 года назад

    Love you ladies 💖

  • @Janil.Elizabeth
    @Janil.Elizabeth 3 года назад

    I never miss one 💕

  • @amahlemakhaye3315
    @amahlemakhaye3315 3 года назад

    I looooveee y’all soo much.

  • @cherika_skates
    @cherika_skates 3 года назад

    Love love LOVE THIS!

  • @kengymartinez9604
    @kengymartinez9604 3 года назад +4

    Renee went off on this one🔥🗣

  • @lindagatwiri869
    @lindagatwiri869 2 года назад +1

    We have normalized insecurity as humility
    I will be damned if I stand in my own way.

  • @dolphineakoth
    @dolphineakoth 3 года назад

    Hi am Kenyan,
    Hello- Sasa or Habari

  • @broughttoyoubynmblake
    @broughttoyoubynmblake 3 года назад

    Great episode 👏🏾

  • @___Neona
    @___Neona 3 года назад

    you both look so beautiful 😍

  • @Mahumo_Hope
    @Mahumo_Hope 3 года назад

    But this podcast was fire though 🔥

  • @beinghope511
    @beinghope511 3 года назад

    damn not even 30s in and they spilling truths

  • @sarakilburn2711
    @sarakilburn2711 3 года назад

    This was needed!!!!

  • @SuperIvashkovL0V
    @SuperIvashkovL0V 3 года назад

    I really like this podcast, however I don't think people voicing certain goals you should have is always bad. You can have any goals you want, but that does not mean it will get you to where you want to be. For example if you want to be fit, working out once a week and eating pounds of cake is not going to get you to that goal. Some of your goals are nor realistic and will not get you to the life you want to attain.

  • @christinarodriguesmusic
    @christinarodriguesmusic 3 года назад

    👏🏽

  • @geegee_509
    @geegee_509 3 года назад

    The only thing you should be sacrificing your comfort for is the weights ladies.
    Lift those weights, you will not look like a man.