Competition, Comparison, Jealousy & Gossip Are Ruining The Sisters | To My Sisters, The Podcast

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  • Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
  • Let's talk about it sis...these ugly habits have ruined more female friendships than a lot of other things.
    As a sisterhood we have to lay some rules in order to do the work. So grab your tea, and let's dig deep.
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Комментарии • 69

  • @Crystal-vr4kz
    @Crystal-vr4kz 3 года назад +48

    we need a TMS book list, pleaseeee

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  3 года назад +1

      Coming soon! We share a lot in our mailing list weekly ❤️

  • @ThokoTwala
    @ThokoTwala 3 года назад +40

    Competition & comparison drives up my anxiety. Once I clock that someone is comparing & competing with me, I shut them off, same with relatives who do this, I limit their access to me.

    • @benedictaidehen7911
      @benedictaidehen7911 3 года назад +5

      I resonate with this so much!! Yes girl

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows 3 года назад

      It’s not healthy at all. Even though many of us are guilty

  • @lindsaysvida
    @lindsaysvida 3 года назад +7

    Tending to your own garden is definitely something that you cannot ever do enough of. Don’t be preoccupied with others.

  • @zoehsam
    @zoehsam 3 года назад +41

    I relate to the dilemma so much! I’m 21 and I’m going through the same thing, and in a way feel guilty for going through it. But I have to say what’s been helping me get through it, is looking for God, and deepening my relationship with Him.

  • @nubuke
    @nubuke 3 года назад +18

    I think my favourite part of you girls talking is when you switch to American accents to say something 😂. Because my favourite American creators do the exact same thing with a British accent!

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  3 года назад +2

      HAHA no way??? Glad to hear it's not just us 😂

  • @yolees1265
    @yolees1265 3 года назад +37

    Social media is a barometer of success, I think it is intentionally set up that way. In reality it’s not normal to see what everyone in your life and strangers are doing. I’ve been struggling with these comparisons too esp as a dancer- I don’t post much content because of my comparison and often jealousy of other well established dancers. I’m workin on it daily. Thanks for this convo. It was needed👏🏾

  • @Kayla-kd8ov
    @Kayla-kd8ov 2 года назад +2

    Somethings that helped me tackle jealousy is;
    If they didn't have it, would I still want it?
    Me complimenting and encouraging another, doesn't take anything away from me.
    Nothing is as it seems.
    That person has that thing because they were willing to do the work and/or things that I wasn't willing to do.
    I could have something that somebody else wants, so cherish the things that I already have
    There's enough room at the table for everybody to eat

  • @onetallgirl1369
    @onetallgirl1369 3 года назад +7

    My sistas why are you attacking me like this, eh!?!? lol! But for real, being content and having joy is an active and something we are to choose every day! I always love your talks! Keep it up, sistas!! :)

  • @simrandigpal9262
    @simrandigpal9262 3 года назад +18

    Liking the video before I’ve even watched it ❤️ I know from the title you girls are about to get my LIFE and SNATCH all of my edges !!!

    • @natashabradbury6300
      @natashabradbury6300 3 года назад +1

      Not the edges 😭 but me too ! Our sisters always come to serve!!!

  • @yvonnengulu2039
    @yvonnengulu2039 3 года назад +6

    Whenever I am faced with challenges in this area I find solace and perspective in Psalm 131. Thank you. This was a timely conversation.

  • @whoiam239
    @whoiam239 3 года назад +9

    This is a good video once again, but I think there are some areas worth clarifying. I think most people experience envy but incorrectly describe it as jealousy. Envy is simply wanting what someone else has and I don’t think that’s unhealthy. I think we have to be careful not to shame people for another human emotion. I also think we should consider the role of privilege in the frequency of these emotions. If you are a fairly happy individual who has an abundance of academic, financial, emotional achievements then sure of course it’s easy to say that you rarely experience envy. If you are someone who is working hard to do something new or turn your life around - it is likely that some of it is fuelled by seeing what another person has achieved and wanting the same for yourself.

  • @SupportBIB
    @SupportBIB 3 года назад +6

    Yallllllll....... This episode right here!!!!! Tis tew mush😭😭😭.... Comparison kills. Great jobs ladies. You articulated your thoughts so elegantly and logically, wow. Utterly amazing.

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 2 года назад +1

    Gossip is such a terrible habit in friendships. Friendships with other women should be based on growth, love, honesty, and respect.

  • @kahinasaadi1591
    @kahinasaadi1591 3 года назад +10

    You both provide me the most amount of value and joy ❤️❤️❤️

  • @yanakabewa
    @yanakabewa 3 года назад +6

    Liking the video before I start watching 👍🏿🤭 I'm so ready for this episode!

  • @kraftthisile9113
    @kraftthisile9113 3 года назад +3

    This was great. Ladies thank you so much for this cast. I'm glad I found it, I never really had much feminine energy around me in my life but as I've gotten older I crave it more. Now I'm living in another country and now I'm playing life on ultra hard mode and I just needed this so badly.

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  3 года назад

      We got you ma! All good - a work in progress, and we'll definitely continue to encourage you ❤️

  • @Tam974eva
    @Tam974eva 3 года назад +2

    You shouldn't strive to be anyone but a better version of yourself! Comparison is the thief of joy! Especially in this yolo social media generation. Love yourself and only seek help from others for motivation and moral inspiration. :)

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 2 года назад

    Well said! And you never know what people are going through. Especially with mental health going on. Thank God for closed doors

  • @BeyondCommittedwithAyanna
    @BeyondCommittedwithAyanna 3 года назад

    This is a powerful conversation. Being fake definitely says a lot about your character.

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 3 года назад

    These are definitely conversations in your friendship to nip it in the bud. Especially as a believer. Pray with your friends if this is a struggle. Life is too short not to hard beautiful friendships.

  • @sandrat.1223
    @sandrat.1223 3 года назад +1

    This is a much needed episode. Thank you ladies!!! Let’s admire and become confident women 💚

  • @cativabonita3110
    @cativabonita3110 3 года назад +1

    Whew! What an introduction to the sisterhood. Love the content and conversations had on this platform. Can’t wait to see you both in the states ✨.

  • @nanay4071
    @nanay4071 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for this ❤️🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @RianneF92
    @RianneF92 3 года назад

    Clicking my fingers in agreement👌🏾 Such a word from two incredibly amazing sistas 💕💕

  • @lauran5427
    @lauran5427 3 года назад

    Knocking it out the park yet again ladies
    , I feel so blessed to be part of the sisterhood 💗

  • @leezyaniam1041
    @leezyaniam1041 3 года назад

    This is the kind of conversations we subscribed, continue to share and like for!!! 🔥 🤝

  • @gloriakanani1026
    @gloriakanani1026 3 года назад +3

    Renee loves singing 🤣love her personality 🤗great episode 💋

  • @blxopium
    @blxopium 3 года назад

    Love from America !!!! Ive been watching for a while now, I like to start off my mornings with this podcast :)

  • @User326-y3q
    @User326-y3q 2 года назад +2

    🕯🕯 For ALL my South African sisters to find this podcast and subscribe to this channel 😭 I love love this channel ❤️❤️

    • @___Neona
      @___Neona 2 года назад +1

      yessss i want that for us !

  • @benedictaidehen7911
    @benedictaidehen7911 3 года назад +9

    ALL OF THIS! ALL OF THIS! ALL OF THIS!!!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Jealousy to the point where you adopt my personality traits and character in public but assassinate my character behind closed doors by means of gaslighting……putting me up against others for comparison sakes in order to bring me down…….complimenting my skin tone when it’s convenient for you as a worker in the beauty industry but the minute we get into an argument, they throw a colourist remark your way……..whheeeew chile!
    They CONFUSE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR JEALOUSY and I remember being called a witch because they couldn’t prove my discernment to be off.
    I love doing my homework daily so it’s aggravates my spirit when others consciously choose not to. This whole episode was wholesome for me to say the least as it applies to not just friends but family too as they too often tend to freely think they can tap dance their way through your boundaries and violate you on many levels. Education has been power for me and watching videos like this shows me I’ve survived a loottt. Thank you online sisters❤️

  • @MiyzP
    @MiyzP 3 года назад

    This was truly insightful 🖤 wow you ladies are amazing 👏🏾

  • @jodytsotetsi6697
    @jodytsotetsi6697 3 года назад

    No ways guys 😭😭😭😭 Renee was coming for our edges chile.. Great episode ladies ❤️

  • @nkmsiza4731
    @nkmsiza4731 3 года назад +1

    "peoples real lives are up to be dissected" yol are talking to me staright up!!!!!

  • @choshanemagdeline2287
    @choshanemagdeline2287 3 года назад

    Mmmhmm….Sisters! You are PREACHING today!
    I’m taking notes 📝

  • @FaithwithT
    @FaithwithT 3 года назад

    I needed this cchhille she spoke to my soul😍

  • @feliciaharper-trotman9541
    @feliciaharper-trotman9541 3 года назад

    🙌🏾Preach!!

  • @michellemolefi5191
    @michellemolefi5191 3 года назад

    Courtney are you referring to me? Sis is always going for the honest truth 👏🙌

  • @Cairo21
    @Cairo21 3 года назад

    This episode though 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @BriaBarrows
    @BriaBarrows 2 года назад

    This! This is why I remove myself. Defamation of character

  • @nessykariuki634
    @nessykariuki634 3 года назад +4

    Anyone from Kenya here?

  • @akaangelica
    @akaangelica 3 года назад +2

    52:41 REST BELOVED! no but honestly say it louder

  • @kaylamugwara7411
    @kaylamugwara7411 3 года назад +1

    Any advice on not being sucked into toxic people? I know someone is very competitive and jealous and openly competes and compares themselves to me, I'm not like that but I makes me, in turn compete with her just to make them sore...I know, petty. How do I stop vengefully competing in these jealously based competitions?

    • @MrsGiggsxx
      @MrsGiggsxx 3 года назад +1

      Distance yourself from the person..?

  • @mk8358
    @mk8358 3 года назад +2

    Me nodding the whole episode !!!!!! my edges

  • @alikalee1988
    @alikalee1988 3 года назад +6

    Whewwwwwwwww. No this is good *claps*

  • @kendracash9231
    @kendracash9231 3 года назад

    Yes!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @aakshi.
    @aakshi. 3 года назад

    ngl Courtney what toothpaste do you use sis because dayummn your teeth do be glistening !!

  • @wendymurangi
    @wendymurangi 3 года назад

    From Namibia

  • @lizd6886
    @lizd6886 3 года назад

    Not AstroTurf 😭😭😭 #whyisyourgrassbrown

  • @tambomb26
    @tambomb26 3 года назад

    So what you’re telling me is my mom is an op 🤔

  • @Cairo21
    @Cairo21 3 года назад

    I love y’all ladies and get your coin but the ads are too much, every 4 minutes!

    • @phizzy123
      @phizzy123 3 года назад +3

      you get ads? 😮 i have never gotten ads while watching their videos before outside of one in the beginning

    • @Cairo21
      @Cairo21 3 года назад +1

      @@phizzy123 girl the adds are none stop.

    • @phizzy123
      @phizzy123 3 года назад +2

      @@Cairo21 damn that’s crazy, i wonder why i don’t get them. maybe it’s because i’m always pausing it to watch something else then i resume later 🤣

    • @tomysisters
      @tomysisters  3 года назад

      Hey miss, ads that you experience are out of our control - we've only added a limited number on our settings, but occasionally it may be your personal settings!