I Gave Birth - The Risks of Labor Induction
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In this video I share my journey of giving birth in a hospital and having induced labor which included:
Foley Balloon Catheter/ foley bulb
Misoprostol
Pitocin
Epidural
I was able to have a vaginal birth, but having a lot of medical intervention took a small toll on my body. In this video, I also share my recovery after delivery and the vitamins/ supplements/ protein powder I am using to get back to health.
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Hospitals do not appropriately warn birthing parents of side effects during induction. It’s frustrating for me.
There was a pretty good documentary called the business of being born that mentioned the dangers of labour induction. I don’t plant to do it unless absolutely necessary when/ if that time comes.
@@E_MZ_ not enough people are researching documentaries like this. There are reasons we are one of the leading developing countries for maternal and fetal complications/mortality and yes it racism is partially to blame but the other part is that unnecessary interventions are often prioritized: profit> patient
@@E_MZ_ I saw the documentary two weeks before my due date and I was hoping my baby would naturally come on his own
Just like the documentary predicted happened (they gave me pitocin, my baby's heart rate was in danger, doctor's got the money for the emergency cesarean).
I know pregnancies are unique but when black women have the same or similar stories...hummm
it's like when we hear cops say black man was reaching for the gun.
We need more black obgyn... hell we need more blacks in all fields.
Sooo true
@@MsApril16th that’s horrible and so frightening. I am sorry that happened.
inserting that balloon to help with dilation, triggered my sexual assault PTSD. I wasn't prepared for the pain and the feeling of violation. I wish they had prepared me for that
I’m really sorry that happened to you Isabelle.
Omg! This I haven’t been sexually assaulted but I swear when they put that in I went in to shook I didn’t even want to be checked after that
Yup I don’t want to compare my experience to rape but that was my first thought after my poor birth experience felt like a bunch of things were done to me without my consent or knowledge. Violation for real. They wanna use all these chemicals but never wanna mention any natural methods or things you can do to reduce a risk
Oh wow. I'm so sorry this happened for you.
Wow! So sorry you had that experience
I want to hear Jared’s experience. Being a witness to birth must have been breathtaking! Congratulations again
OMG I hope he didn’t look down there.😱
Yes please!
@@aminazaria8592 as a dad who looked down there when my daughter was born... I regret nothing lol.
My mom says seeing me stretch and bleed was not nice.
😂😂
I've experienced/witnessed an induced labor in a hospital (terrible experience), a natural water birth at a birthing center (peaceful and amazing experience), and in a few weeks will be experiencing a natural home birth with our midwife. These experiences are necessary. If they won't take care of us properly we have to build our own system of care.
Some hospitals rush labor. It'a like an assembly line, medical crisis approach. That's why some stay home as long as possible to avoid all the medical interventions. A birth plan is very important.
Congrats to You, hubby and baby! ❤
Yes. I thought about this a lot afterwards bc we were given two opportunities to go home, but when you're overdue you just wanna get it over with, but now that it's over I wonder how different things would have looked had I gone home at least until the night time.
@@shanboody they always intervene. Freebirth all the way for me ❤️
@@shanboody love and respect always to You and Your beautiful family! Your hubby's song on this vid is beautiful and power-filled. Keep up the great works! ❤🙏🏿
AGREED..They wanted to bust my water at 2 center meters dialiated..
Umm hell no
I told them don't bring ya ass back in here.
I don't fuc with residents.
I will wait for my obgyn
Dismiss yourselves .
Keep in mind they induced my labor on a Monday
She was born on a Wednesday 11 :45 pm..
A TRUE EDUCATOR. Love your work Shan ❤️
I was severely turned off by the doctor's reaction to the dancing. What's the difference between dancing & laying in the bed?
And the lack of information is concerning bc it's not like they weren't asking questions, the side effects should have been communicated but at least they didn't take these things personally.
I can not imagine someone doing all this alone. This sounds like a lot but you did that Mama. Congrats to both of you.
Alone? How? Jared was there
I did but i didnt experience all the horrible labor she did. I just had a c section and was done with it
It’s not pleasant, my first was born at 26.3 weeks, 4.5 hours of a dry birth and a needle after to tell my body I’d given birth and produce colostrum as it essentially was in shock. Baby is fine now after months in the NICU ward my little fighter!! One of the most shocking thing was baby’s ears weren’t developed yet, so imagine the average ear, just almost ironed flat onto the head and no ear canal. But being alone was incredibly intense and I genuinely wouldn’t wish it upon anyone
Heath care has changed A LOT from 27yrs ago when I was induced with my son due to complications from my body. African American women/WOC still don’t receive the same care as white women & this needs to change. CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I just did an essay on this and it’s SO heartbreaking how POC/minorities get mistreated by the healthcare industry:(
How so?
@@KamoreeLove how heath care has changes in 27 yrs or WOC/Black women especially dint receive the same care?
@@KamoreeLove WOC usually are left to suffer in pain longer than other women since "we can bare more pain". We are more likely to be ignored regarding complaints of complications and tend to die as a result at higher rates.
@@paola7243 do you mind if I read it? I would love to
Shan being a mom has just made her so unstoppable in her field.
Sorry but I was so tired of people thinking she was limited only because she wasn’t a mother.
Hearing her praise her husband during this time already sets her apart. No other influencer mentions their support system to this level.
Shan is just amazing and 100% unapologetically herself through and through.
I also don't understand how society judges women in general based one being a mom and or not being a mom. Men are not judged as a person or their level of competency in a field of study or interest based on what they are in their personal lives.
I feel like I say this all the time now, but Shan I am in awe of how you've built your life on your own terms. So many of us pursue other people's blueprint of success and happiness only to realize it was never for them. But for as long as I've been following this channel you have been intentional and honest with yourself/us about what brings you joy, and ruthlessly pursuing it. You having a pregnancy plan vs a birthing plan is yet another example of that.
Having said all that, congrays on being a mom and I wish you abundant rest.
I adore you Isabelle. Whenever I see ur name I smile. We have grown and gotten to know each other through these comments. I love reading about ur life and experience, cheers to our continued journies
@@shanboody congratulations to both You and your hubby on such a beautiful baby girl! You had this totally down pat, and I’m so happy she was safely delivered. You two are excellent parents, and she’s very blessed! 🤰👶🏻🤱👨👩👧🌹🌹🌹🌹
The fact they left you fully dilated for two hours, scares the hell outta me 😭 like what the hell!!!
That’s the next way to do it ! “Laboring down” shortens the length of time you have to push
My nurse and husband practically caught my son. He wasn’t waiting for the doctor and didn’t care about other laboring mothers.
It helps cut your pushing time which can be an exhausting 2 hours
It's not as bad as you think So calm down
"It's not that riveting"
Chile please I was IN IT THE WHOLE TIME. Congratulations Shan.💙💙
Same yo
SAME!!!
yeah I was eating this story up!!!
Damn labor is scary af... Just this idea scares me endlessly so I don't think I could ever be this brave
Well, billions of women have been thru it, with the majority not having the benefit of an epidural so I think you’d be fine.
Every woman gets scared and it's more than understandable why but they got through it. When you're ready, you will too
Chile, I know for a fact I couldn't. They would knock my ass out and take the child without my participation.
Its not that bad, and the floods of hormones you get afterwards you forget after a few months. (Thays why people have so many kids). Everyone is different. I've had 6. 4 without pain meds and 2 with. 3 induced and 3 natural. My longest was 5.5 hours, my shortest... 1 hour 20 mins (my 5th). All of my labors from start to finish was shorter than Shans. Don't let one womans experience interfere with your life
It's honestly not that bad..all the pain and pressure serves a purpose and you just kinda ride it out
Jared crying made me tear up . So precious. I’m due at the end of April
Im due April 1st. My baby got jokes lol
omg im so sorry
They left her with the baby crowning ???!? And Jared had to call and say they were gonna push?? WHAT IN THE WORLD
Yeah I wouldve been pissed 😂 but im happy everything is good
It’s insane! These hospitals are so neglectful
That's so risky
I feel like the doctor should’ve let you dance and walk a little bit... I’m glad everything went well
The story was awesome
Yeah, that seemed kind of odd. They're there anyway. Who cares if she dances.
Yeah, um... I'm pretty disturbed if they actually made a reference to them being there to "eat their food"...
I was in and out of the hospital with someone all last year and trust me. Nobody goes for the food.
Edit: Just got to them not even telling her why she may be having the symptoms she had as a side effect to the induction method. Honestly, fuck Kaiser. They used to be called Group Health, and were known around here as "Group Death".
I cried so much during this video.
I never really saw this much joy from someone when they have children. But this is soooo precious, thank you for sharing these moments with us.
It means so much more for those of us who have been here since the beginning of this journey with you.
It is such a privilege to see my first ever mentor catapult in such an amazing way.
During this video I heard "spirit" and "legacy" and it just brought me to tears even more.
Imani I hope we meet and embrace oneday
@@shanboody me too. I love your work soo much and you truly inspire me.
I was prepared for a vaginal birth. But I had a failed induction and my baby's heart rate was dropping so I had to have a cesarean.
My baby is healthy 👶
But when I tell you that nothing went I how I planned (no baby shower, no family at the hospital, no family to visit once we arrived home, no postpartum support groups because there's pandemic) I went into a depression. Another thing I didn't prepare for. I know myself and I did not think depression would happen to me.
😥
I had the same exact birthing experience.
I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this, also glad your baby is healthy! 💕
Wow, my love! I can’t even explain how much it saddens me to hear that things didn’t go as planned for you, and I’m so sad to know that you’re dealing with depression. I think people don’t talk about the grief you feel regarding pregnancy, labor, and recovery because of this pandemic. This pandemic has taken so much from people, and I hate that this impacted you so heavily. Please know that everything is going to be okay. Things will get better and easier. Definitely reach out to your doctor, so that you can get some assistance with your depression. You’re valuable. You’re worthy. You’re enough. You’re doing the best you can. It’s hard to be the best mom to your baby, if you’re struggling to function, so please get the help that you need, beautiful. I’m sending lots of love, light, and blessings your way! ✨
@@sabrina.natalie Sabrina this means so much to me. Sometimes we get the best advice from strangers (angels 😇) Thank you. Hugs.
Same sis! Exactly the same.
The smile you had at the ending was everything.
And how Jared was supporting you. I can only hope I've got love like that someday.
Facts. I never will though. Good guys are hard to find ngl.
I don’t like how this hospital handled things based on your story.
Ryu means dragon in Japanese. It's a strong, beautiful name. Welcome, Ryu, and congratulations on a healthy baby.
Just a side note from what I can remember from nursing school...the +2 that Shan talked about is known as the “station” of the baby. That number is dependent on the position of the baby in the cervix*. The stations go from -5 (floating in the uterus) to +5 (crowning) so all the nurse was saying is that Shan (at +2) was fairly close to the baby crowning.
*Correction: the number is dependent on the position of the baby in the PELVIS not the cervix.
Thank you!!!!
@@shanboody you should pin this comment so everyone sees it.
Not the cervix, but the pelvis. The rest of your definition is almost right. 0 station means the head is engaged in the pelvis.
The station of the baby is relative to the ischial spines not the cervix hun
@@shanboody You’re welcome!
NOT RIVETING??? I was hooked the entire 25 minutes! I am so happy you and Ryu are doing well! Thank you for sharing your experience from conception to now. Nothing but blessings to your entire family!
My BIGGEST frustration with labor was that no possible side effects were ever discussed. I felt like there was so much information that was left out. I would have made different decisions knowing what I do now. You’re not alone.
Congratulations, mom and dad 💜
she’s a scorpio sun, a libra moon, and a sagittarius rising
I knew somebody would do this 😂
she’ll be so beautiful
She’s gonna be a knockout 💙
@@wronglayerbutok she's gonna be danger and a flirt. 😂💜
The fact that you only had two options either get an induction or get out kind of rubs me the wrong way like damn sis is in labor let her LIVE
She should have left the hosptial, it was her choice to stay
@@uhohstinky5850 but why couldn’t she stay by said choice but not get induced? This was not an option
@@liah-savannahslife5318 she probabalt could if she fought on it harder. But thats what happenes when you let the hospital decide. There was no need to stay at the hospital anyway
I wasn't even given two options LOL! I was told I had to go back home until I was at least 4cm dilated (which waited an hour--I was 5cm). I wonder why they made her wait for so long in the hospital---I went through Kaiser too and they told me protocol is that they usually let women in at 4cm after waiting in the room for an hour.
I think it’s okay to have birth plans too. It doesn’t mean things will go according to plan, but knowing the types of inductions, knowing what a doula and midwife are, knowing what types of deliveries occur is great and allows you to know that you still have choices.
I’m so glad you took such good care of yourself through the entire process and delivered a happy, healthy baby. I’m glad that Jared spoke up and listened to you knowing your body! Great job Shan!! What a beautiful story!
Pregnancy and birth really terrify me. I want it so badly(not now but at some point) but I'm scared to tears over what it's gonna be like for me.
I appreciate your story and your channel. ❤
Sames
Knowledge is power! You can go down an entire rabbit hole learning all that you can about birth. The more I learned, the more excited I was to experience it. The media only shows the highly medicalized, high intervention, worse case scenario experiences and that shapes our cultures view of birth. Some cultures have zero fear of birth because they're not constantly bombarded with that messaging.
This was the best explanation of a labor I’ve ever heard and I’m so amazed. Also, s/o to Jared for TELLING the doctor if no one came he was going to deliver Ryu LMAOOOO
I need Mama Dr Jones to comment on the medical team you were dealing with...like...I’m confused by how much you had to prompt their response and care :/
exactly. Thats terrible imo.
agreed - sounds awful
YES!
I was thinking the same thing!
Yes!
Awww😍Congrats...that's my mommy's bday. She passed away 3yrs ago & this just warmed my heart💖
❤❤❤
That's such a beautiful thing to share. Congrats to your mom for living a full, rich life and sharing that with you. Happy Ryu shares a bday with a queen
As a Nurse, your explanation and way of telling your experience is 1000% accurate and beautifull at the same time. Very proud of YOU Madame
Please take it from my asexual, more interested in cats, endometriosis having ass THIS WAS THE LITERAL DEFINITION OF RIVETING! 🤣 I realised afterwards I had my hand over my heart the whole time, I didn’t want this to end. Seeing Jared looking at Ryu made me tear up and you with your Olympic gold medal 🥰wow. I didn’t realise I could feel so much joy for somebody else & so so far away. Wishing you nothing but blessings and incredible memories **wipes tears**
"You're just here eating our food"...
Bruh...nobody wants hospital food...lol...congratulations, Shan and J!
But wait, don't you pay for the food?
@@gingerjuice4053 LMAO I didn't even think about that! Overpriced ass shit!
She’s already back🙌🏾❤️
I love how supportive Jared was throughout the whole process and how he advocated for you when they kept telling you to wait
Congratulations! One thing that stood out to me is how your partner was able to support you and be your advocate throughout the process. That’s awesome.
The way Jared was looking at his newborn daughter just touched me my heart. You both will make incredible parents.
I'm surprised that she gave birth in a hospital, she seems like a home birth type of person.
She said her parents worked in the medical field. I’m sure they wouldn’t have been ok with a home birth if they’re were pushing for her to go without an epidural.
@@kelseyarciniega5319 but that doesn’t make sense lol. If they were against epidurals, it make sense that they would be for home births.
@@blue_intentions Epidurals have more risks and increase labor time and complication rates, home birth has a much higher risk of death.
@@blue_intentions you can give birth at a hospital without a epidural. It’s your birth plan. The hospital has to follow your plan if you let them know upfront.
You can have a natural birth at a hospital women do it all the time
It’s crazy the things us mamas go through! I was 15 days overdue (finally took Castor oil) ... laboured naturally in birth centre for 24 hours (contractions were 1 min apart from the first contraction😫), pushed for 8 hours .... my son was stuck in the canal. Had to take an ambulance to hospital, emergency c section. My son ended up in the NICU for a few days but ended up being healthy and now he’s 2 and thriving. If I had my time back and knew what I knew now, I would never do Castor oil again but I also would never allow my body to go 14/15 days overdue, thankfully my son was okay but it got really scary at one point. Blessings to you new mama!💛
Thank you for sharing. Sometimes the "never induction" crew is too one-sided and ignores the real risks of going over your due date that precipitate the doctor recommending induction in the first place.
Yea castor oil gives doesnt really help with going into labor it is a laxative and the stress of it may trigger labor but it isnt worth it lol
Your story IS riveting. I cried when you found out you were 10 cm. Congrats on your precious Olympic gold medal!!!
13 minutes in, OMG I’m so glad you shared this info about the bulb method cuz I had NO IDEA. It really annoys me that the docs don’t fully educate us on the side effects to of what they’re doing to us during such a sensitive moment in our lives. 🙄
I had a similar situation during labor with my first baby... focused more on having a positive mindset than researching everything and noooow I’m like mash, I need to educate myself on EVERYTHING! Lol
So thanks again!
I’m 24, not married, not pregnant but I LOVVEEEEED this story!!! So happy for Shan ❤️
Pregnancy was WAYYYY worse for me than giving birth I was induced and it went as smooth as it could go. Pregnancy was VERY hard for me so it was a trade off
I loved the whole story. I was a paramedic like your Dad but I worked in a very rural area about 80 miles from the nearest hospital that did deliveries. I delivered 21 over 18 years and only 2 of those were in the hospital during clinical. One of the hardest things I ever did was deliver a set of premies that were both under 2lbs. You did earn a gold medal that will quite possibly be the craziest part of your life for 20 years. Still, the rewards will so out way the difficult times.
Marshall what amazing work! 2 pounds?! I’d love to hear how they are now. Thank you for sharing
@@shanboody Well surprisingly we lost the biggest of the two and the little one pulled through. She was 1lb 7 oz but last I checked she is 19 now and still in the same small town. Shan what your parents do is an amazing field when it's a calling.
You need to feel safe for labor to happen. The change to the hospital environment Can delay labor.
Your doctor should have went over the risks of the foley balloon.
My estestician (however you spell that) had a terrible experience with that and she said when it didn't work they just yanked it out instead of deflating it first 😬😬
jclyntoledo sounds like it worked.
@@jclyntoledo Holy shit, that’s awful! Hopefully she’s alright, because cervical tears are a real thing that can impact your ability to have more children in the future.
It is riveting!!!!! I’ve watched you since since I was 18.!This journey! I swear. RUclips! Moving to LA, breakup, moves, so many amazing shows, videos, your solo context, vlogs, Jared’s music even!, the book. Proposal, marriage The conception, the pregnancy. Every step! Thank you! Thank you endlessly.
I love how she understands the function and purpose of everything they gave her. It's so healthy to approach situations with an open mind knowing what is happening to you and to your body
I'm quite frustrated for you, them not communicating with you! I'm really sorry it was quite hectic but your daughter looks so beautiful. I hope you'll feel your best self, and her too soon! All the best
Birth doula here: +2 station is the position of the baby in your pelvis. Basically baby was right there. And your body was using natural fetal ejection reflexes to push baby girl out.
P.S I would’ve had a baby without them lol fetal ejection reflexes is something you can’t ignore.
Congratulations Shan and Jarrod! Rye is so beautiful 😍
Me too, girl! 🤣 I’m a birth doula too! When I got to the hospital they asked me if I wanted an epidural because I was already at 10cm when I got there. I said no, let’s just do this! I was already pushing in the car!
@@Ilikefrogs.. lol I feel you I’m
not waiting on nobody. If my baby is ready to come in triage I’m pushing while they roll me up to my room. 😂
Yeah, but that bc you guys know what to do. For first time parents, it'd be like, "How do we make her start breathing?!" "What do we do with the placenta, just leave it on the bed?"
@@ShadesAndBoots there are tons of resources out there to prepare for childbirth you don’t have to feel that way.❤️
It’s the end for me “ I trained for you” ahhhh 😭😭😭 your medal lol ❤️🥺🥺
Ridiculous that they made you wait and I wonder if that had anything to do with you being a POC, because unfortunately that’s very common.
That is what I felt and I got pissed......thankfully things ended well
That waiting they did is how WOC are subjected to maternal mortality , I got pissed too when she said that smh glad Jared took control and told them ‘we’re pushing ‘
@@lysssismore2231 yeah I have heard of that and the high numbers are super concerning and no one really talks about it like the should. With my first I was told to wait and I didn’t have epidural and I yelled I am pushing so you can help or not right now!! Nurse ran and delivered my son within 3 mins of pushing. After that experience I read that they are not suppose to tell any woman to wait a lady sued a hospital for that because she waited too long and she ended up losing her uterus.
No it wasn‘t because she was a POC. I can say you that as someone whose mum was traumatized by a birth. She is featured in a documentary about that subject matter. The film is in German, but you can watch it with subtitles:
ruclips.net/video/OrK2wnS_8Xo/видео.html&ab_channel=WDRDoku
@@empressvibe It wasn‘t because she was a POC. These kind of stuff happens in hospitals 24/7. I can say you that as someone whose mum was traumatized by a birth. She is featured in a documentary about that subject matter. The film is in German, but you can watch it with subtitles:
ruclips.net/video/OrK2wnS_8Xo/видео.html&ab_channel=WDRDoku
omg I go so teary-eyed when you included the audio and Jared was encouraging you by saying "push".. I literally felt the emotion and love in his voice. I am so proud of you both! Great job and you two are such a great team! I am so so proud, words cannot express.
That is terrifying I’m so glad Jared is such a supportive partner to you! This is such a huge reminder how important it is to find the right partner that will be there and support you in the hardest of times!! And people wonder why I’m so selective when choosing a partner.
The shivering happened to me while I was in labor too it can be scary to experience it but so worth it. the female body is amazing
I was on the fence about having my baby in the hospital this time around. Thank you for helping me choose a home birth.
There is a lot they don’t tell you in hospitals as an expecting mother especially as a WOC... they want you in and out as fast as possible. There are a lot of WOC passing still from child birth. This needs to be talked about more, would love to see you explore this topic on the channel! Glad you and the baby are healthy congratulations to your family!
Your face had lighten up when you said "and then we had the baby" ! So heartwarming❤ Congratulations!
CONGRATULATIONS MAMA!!!
Our labor and delivery stories are sooooo similar! I went for a regular dr appt at 37ish weeks and my blood pressure/size of baby made my dr decide to have me admitted and induced. I started with the tablets, moved to pitocin, took regular pain meds, epidural at 6 cm, rest and sleep, presssuuuurrrreeeeee at 10 cm and I kept yelling that I had to poop 😂😂😂 Labor for almost 3 days and pushing for 22 mins 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽 us moms are so strong and are honestly untouchable. Enjoy motherhood and that sweet baby!
Thank you for sharing your labor story❤️! I’m a doula and also a mom of three so I know firsthand just how precious labor and delivery is, but also all of the things that can go wrong. That’s why I created my motherhood channel, because I want to help women on their path to motherhood as well. You’re such a trooper momma🥰, congratulations on your baby girl 💕🤗💕!
Shan -- Oh my goodness. I followed your whole pregnancy, we were pandemic-pregnant at the same time. I had my baby son 2 weeks or so before you (Oct 20th): 41 hours of labor, active labor of 8 hours, 100% unmedicated (unplanned), I shivered the whole time, he got stuck 3x coming out (I pushed for HOURS) ->>> BUT. YOU. When you mentioned balloon catheter, I gasped. I'd gotten a tip before birth they were the worst things you could have (the "m" drug is intense and that a pitocin induction was like a freight train) and you braved this all. And to WAIT?! You did that thing. You are all warrior, Mama.
"There you go babe" I hope everyone has that 😊😊 i can imagine how good it felt to not be alone
Congrats yall
WOW! Thank you for sharing this with us! You didn't even have a doula or anything!
10+2 means you are 10 cm dilated and +2 effacement means the baby is low in the birth canal, ready to be pushed out at any minute. Effacement ranges from -2 to +2, so -2, -1, 0, +1, +2. -2 means the baby is high, not in the canal yet, 0 means the baby is entering the canal, and +2 means the baby is coming out ASAP.
I love how you explained this! I just finished my obgyn rotation.. and it’s such a reflective experience to listen to this video and actually understand the terms you’re using. The +2 refers to where the baby’s head is.. so negative numbers mean that it’s hasn’t descended as much vs + numbers which indicate it has descended past the ischial spine of your pelvic bone. So at +2 your baby’s head was two cm below your ischial spine.
Congrats on your newborn! Love this for you.
Look at you making an entire human being. Your transparency throughout your entire pregnancy including your own health and your relationships is so important because it helps everyone. Your word is protection and knowledge of another experience. Thankyou and welcome to the world, Little baby!!
I am really pissed they made you wait 2 hrs to push...but so happy the ending was amazing 💜 enjoy your bundle of joy!
Shan, could you made a video talking about why your parents preferred you didn’t get an epidural? Super interesting and I feel like some labour nurses are sometimes not open about the truth about them.
I think sense epidural is so new the older generation doesn’t recommend it. I know my parents were the same because in older generations epidurals were looked down upon and not that much information. But now everyone gets them pretty much.
I think there is an element of culture included too, epidurals (I believe - please correct me if someone knows better) are less common in the UK than the US. I was told an epidural would slow my labour down and make it last slightly longer.
The amount of epidurals that leave people with pain for years & things going wrong is pretty high-but thats any time a needle goes in your back. Then there is others who believe they “easy way out” instead of suffering like older generations. Lastly, natural birth has become “popular” recently because of peoples distrust in drugs & doing it the way God intended. I’m not saying her parents have that reason but thats usually the top 3.
Epidural affects the baby
@@soraya.e5482 my grandma and mom advocate for epidurals all the time. When I told my grandma “well u didn’t have one” her response was “cuz I had no choice.. I would have jumped on that if I had the option”
I can say this was one of the best labor videos on the internet, Thanks Shan for showing pregnancy from a logical perspective and not the romantization everybody puts to not look like a bad mother I guess, I know you and Jared are going to be kick ass parents (sorry for the bad english if any)
I had to get induced 2 days before she was due, just because my baby was already so large she was already over 8 pounds and my doctor said she's just going to get bigger. She weighed 8 pounds 12 oz when born super big baby. When they put that inside to start the contractions omg that was the worst pain i have ever been in my life the nurse's whole hand just way up inside moving around omg so painful! I pushed for 2 hours it was hell, they were 10 mins away from putting me on the gernie to do c-section, luckily I was able to get enough strength to push hard enough for her finally come out. Had stage 4 epiotosmy so painful 😫 Thank you so much for sharing your birth story! I'm so glad I'm not the only one in pain and went through so much! So happy to hear you had healthy baby congratulations 💗💗
Ugh I even cried just hearing the birth audio, I’m too emotional😭
I'm so happy for you 3! Your daughter is so lucky to have you two as parents!
Congrats on a healthy baby!
I can relate to your induction story. I had to be induced for both of my pregnancies because they were high risk. My first pregnancy was a horror experience. My blood pressure was extremely high and ended up having to push too early because of it. Which later caused me to get 3rd degree tears. It took my body 3 1/2 months to heal from the tears. But anyway, congrats on your new bundle of joy.
It's great that Jared was allowed to be with you. Some hospitals aren't allowing any visitors for any reason because of Covid.
This was great! As a fellow covid birth giver (???) and someone who was induced, had pitocin, and did 18 hours of labor, this brought back so many positive amazing memories. Welcome to motherhood Shan!
When she said 10cm and +2, the +2 is wear the baby is positioned in the birthing canal (pelvis) basically how far down the baby was.
Shanboody had a baby!!!!!!!!!! Welcome to the club sis! I'm so proud of you! I'm in love with your little family! Been following you for years and plan to continue for a long as you let me! Congratulations you two/3😂!🤩👸🏽🤴🏽👸🏽
i love Jared for speaking up. like look ill deliver her my damn self.
My midwife told me that labor is an active sport. It's crazy that they gave you a crazy look for dancing
I know! my midwife encouraged all movement and getting up. I went for walks and danced with my tummy through my contractions till it was time to bear down and I delivered my babies, my midwife was there but I trusted my body to do what I needed it to and I brought them in to the world.
Major red flag from the jump when she mentioned the doc's response to her dancing.
Thank for sharing your experience! I enjoyed watching!!I’m a midwife and I do feel like a lot of people present an unrealistic picture sometimes. Sounds like “laboring down” was your friend and way to go on pushing!
I’m not feeling the hospital you went to or your doctors! So many red flags! but I’m so glad Ryu is healthy and you are healthy! So happy for you guys!
my sister had positive labor stories, (that i know)... But there are stories that black women have problems in hospitals especially labor. So, it makes me so concerned bc its that the reality i have to face when having a baby. It’s very worrisome, plus the costs... it’s beyond scary
On the bemba side of my family we congratulate the mother for bringing the new life into the world, it is an incredible thing. So congratulations for taking care of your daughter while she lived in you and delivering her. Thank you for sharing part of your personal life with us.
yea, definitely never having a baby. But my my most heartfelt congratulations to you, Shanon and your little family!!
I admire anyone who goes though labor, it takes so much strength and courage. It terrifies me.
Congratulations on your baby girl!!!🎊🌸✨ you’ll be a smart, influential mother.
Everyone needs a Jared in their life....the support he provides is just beautiful!!🙏🏽
OMG we had a very similar experience. Thank you for brining attention to this much needed subject, especially as it relates to advocating for yourself at the hospital. Our daughter arrived on 10/30/2020 (7lbs-7oz) and we vlogged our experience to support new moms and dads out there as well. I absolutely loved the audio clip. Congrats and great job mama and dad. You're going to be amazing parents!❤️❤️❤️
14:20 GIRL! NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO SAY WHAT THEY PREFER YOU TO DO WITH YOUR BODY BESIDES YOU!!! DON'T LET THEIR OPINIONS WEIGH ON WHAT YOU DECIDE IS RIGHT FOR YOU!
Awe! I’m 8 months pregnant and I cried this whole video! Especially when Dad kept motivating you and talking you through your birth! Amazing 🤩 beautiful family
This birth story is so fascinating, thx for sharing! Congratulations hope you feel better❤️❤️
You said all that because is the most important miracle you’ll ever do and you’ll remember those details for the rest of your life
Oh Shan, I'm so elated for you and Jared. She is beautiful and you all seem like wonderful people with free minds, and I know you will do your best to allow your child to be free as well ❤
Can I say how proud I am of you? I’ve been watching your videos for yearsss. You went from not wanting marriage or kids to being a full blown wife and mother! You are amazing! When I’m feeling confused about life, I look back at your videos and think....yes, it’s okay to feel these feelings and I’m going to be alright! Thank you for being so open!
I love Jared calling the nurse to tell them you're about to start 😂👏🏼👏🏼 thank you so much for sharing with us!! My best friend just had a baby right before Halloween & I've been sending her all of these videos 💛
Wow your birth story had some similarities to mine for sure. I was induced, had the folley bulb, got an infection, high fever then the body rash post delivery. But after 3 days of labor my son turned sunny side up and got stuck in my pelvis so I ended in c-section because my fever got so high and my bp got out of control. I had NO idea that the folley bulb had all of those side effects. I was just told it would help my cervix dilate. Im so glad you made a video like this so more people are informed about topics that aren't as widely known. I never watch birth stories but im glad that I watched yours. Congratulations to you and your family!!
I love the name Ryu! Congrats on your bundle of joy Shan & Jared!!!
When I had my first baby last year the only thing I needed was an epidural. I was pretty well into labor so it was mostly waiting some hours for the pushing process. I feel a bit upset they gave you so many options for medication that could have harmed you or the baby, and made you WAIT for other people giving birth! Lol When I was ready I simply waived at a nurse and a team came in my room ready to go! Glad you and the baby made it out the hospital healthy. Enjoy this new motherboard journey!
I’m so happy that you had a safe and healthy delivery. I can’t wait to be a mom someday in the next 10 to 15 years lol
I was told that I had to wait too! My midwife was attending another mom at the same time and they told me I had to wait until her child was born. I was given pitocin to speed up labor, and then my son starting coming out too quickly and they gave me more drugs to slow it down. So when my doctors told me to wait my turn, they told me not to push. We basically did the same thing Jared did and I said I don't know how to stop, I need someone in here! My midwife did not seem happy with me but my labor was progressing more quickly so I did end up getting attended to first. You two are such good parents and great job to Jared for speaking up for you!
I think its so important, that you know your body. and it needs strength to actually know your body THAT well, that you can just control it in that kinda situation! 💕
I’m in tears at the 5:00 mark 😭😭😭 so happy for you two, praying for a smooth recovery and adjustment to parenthood. Love you guys ❤️