JVN Answers Your Queer, LGBTQIA & Allyship Questions
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- Опубликовано: 21 июл 2024
- Well tomorrow starts Pride Month, and I think we need a little education session on all things queer and LGBTQ+. So get in your seats and get ready for Queer School. In this episode we're talking how to be the best ally, how to support your LGBTQ+ children (gay, bisexual, nonbinary, queer, lesbian, pansexual), how to start queer dating and so much more.
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This episode of JVN School is focused on all things queerness, LGBT, LGBTQ, LGBTQ+, bisexuality, non binary parenting, allyship and so much more. So if you're wondering how to raise gay kids, how to raise LGBT kids, how to support queer students, how to support LGBTQ students, then you should watch this video. Have more questions? Leave them in the comments below. Jonathan Van Ness is here to answer all of your questions!! 👀 Happy Pride, Everyone! 🏳️🌈
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Get in your seats class! It's time to be educated on all things queer! Have more questions? Leave them in the comments below!
After 8 long years of battling with insecurities, low self-esteem, with constant fear of the knowledge I could infect someone with HSV 1&2 was a nightmare to me. I'm so glad/grateful that I am over Herpes and its stigma! All thanks to Dr. Aloha ruclips.net/channel/UC_YFEEZEr1BxGkNg1d4vqww ❤️🙏🏻
As a parent myself, it’s so hard to not want to come to school and literally kick mean kids’ butts, but I do realize how that might be problematic. God bless your mom for her restraint. ❤️
I don’t know how she (or you) did it!
I swear, I am 13 years older than my sister. Some of her classmates need to be....well, you know. But I try to passive aggressively "talk."
I'm lucky that both my kids had/have friends groups while in school, that are very accepting and go mother bear on anyone that tries to fuck around
Can we clone you in mass volumes?!?!? We need a bazillion more human beings just like you. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Are you sure you can handle a bazillion of me?!
YESSSSSSS, PLEASE! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yesssss!!! Omg, the world would be such an amazing place if we had a bazillion Jonathans! 🌈❤️💪✨
@@stonwall9065 "The Lord is my Shepherd and he knows that I'm gay." - Troy Perry
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@@stonwall9065 it doesn't mention effeminate men and all that. It does mention however: thieves, adulterers, the sexually immoral (sleeping with prostitutes), greedy people, idolators, drunks, and slanderers. So, keep that same energy.
“Two complete people can make a good chain” THIS!! 🙌🏻 what a great analogy!
It’s the truth!!
I loved this too...it such good advice for everyone.
7:56 I don’t know how I am just discovering you now? You are just a dream of a person and so funny! I am a straight 52 year old married woman and mother and cannot get enough of you and your videos. Watching them all now and absolutely adore you, your advice, your spunk, humor, incredible looks and personality! Keep spreading your love all over the world, we need more of that and you! 🥰❤️
Oh 🥹 JVN making me cry this morning singing *NSYNC and gazing through the screen into our souls to validate bisexuality even when in a cishet relationship 💜💜💜
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@@jvn have you heard of youtubers like nostalgia critic, angry video game nerd, cinema snob, film brain, obscurus lupa, linkara, phelous, nostalgia chick, todd in the shadows, and rap critic
You know how you’ve talked about standing in your garden at night dressed in black to protect your pumpkins from those borer vine moths? That’s how I feel like we need to protect our lgbtqia+ friends and children. And also voting and protesting. 🏳️🌈
Yes!!! This!!!
Thank you for the kind words to the bi person. We deal with so much misunderstanding. As a bi girl in a hetero relationship for the first time in a decade, I feel you.
"I got cats, cuz I don't raise humans". - my new fav JVNism.
PS. Your hair is oooon point today.
Thank youuuuuu
The coffee shop one made me laugh so hard pls “are you… a lesbian”
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Ally here! This episode reminds me so much of one of my favorite classes I ever took in college. I had the privilege of being educated by a queer professor on the representation of the queer community in healthcare, the history of healthcare and policies for the queer community, and so much more. I just graduated but I always looked forward to that class and it really cemented my desire to pursue a public health degree. This takes me back. 💕 I can't wait for part 2!
For the parent with the label-less kid. I think the most important thing is to maintain open communication where they can come talk to you about their identity without judgement or over reaction. If they want to talk about how they feel as they navigate their identity, want to try a label to see if it fits, or express frustrations about what they are going through, be there, be kind, and be calmly supportive. They will know you can be a sounding board for them as they navigate their journey, and that you will accept them as they are regardless of what they do or don't identify as. A great strategy I learned in advocacy is to match their level of emotion, whether that be excitement, anger, or being calm. That helps you feel both safe and validating.
Can part two come sooner !! I absolutely LOVE your responses !! Always give me a chuckle !! You’re amazing JVN
Jonathan, you are literally one of my most favorite people everrr! I love you and everything you do for others and your fellow queer community. I wish more people were like you. So kind, caring, aware, funny etc. You're the total package. 🥰
Jonathan, you make me feel SO VALID as a queer individual in a hetero relationship with 3 kids. Thank you so much. I need this type of helpful tips in my life. You're my icon. 🥰💞
I am distracted by how good your hair looks. So shiny! ✨
Jonathan, thank you so much for making my queerness feel valid. As a recently semi-out bi woman that just happens to be married to a cis-het man for 13 years, I am always asking myself if I even count. Thanks for reminding me I’m way to cool to be straight. 💖💜💙🏳️🌈
Jump into this pond!!!!
Your videos always make me smile!😊🤩 and the analogy about the chain is just..🤯🤯🤯
All the love, Jonathan 💛🧡❤✨
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I was having a really terrible morning and watching this video made my whole day brighter. Thank you thank you so much jvn 💗💗
So so glad 🥰
Me too!
Somebody needs a re-listen of Natasha Bedingfields' Unwritten 😉
Just teasing, I love you JVN. This was most delightful 🤩 Can't wait for the juicy Part 2!!
I had never heard the term interdependent vs codependent, I loved JVN talking about 2 complete people make a chain that’s so beautiful! Such a good video I learned a lot!
#5 the circle chain analogy was very insightful and exactly what I needed. Jonathan you are such a wonderful human, I just love you so much ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
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Jonathan,you are treasure! ⭐️I ask my two daughters to try and be a friend to all. Because you never know who you might need some help from. That’s this Mama’s advice😘
That is terrific advice. And so so true!
Re allies speaking up/shutting up: I'm agender and bi, and have been asked this question about when to speak up or pass the mic. I think of it as input/output. When getting input, shut up and listen. Actually listen to understand how policies, personal bigotry, socialization into a cisgender heteronormative society affects us. When it comes to output, i dont think queer people should always be expected to do the work when we're already hurting (unless you want to). But that's when allies use their privilege to speak up, to do the work of calling out transphobic family members, interrupting harm done to your co-workers, etc.
Love this. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Happy Pride!! Love this! Yay! Thank you Jonathan!
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Thank you for cheering me up this gloomy morning. I've been battling depression most of my life, unfortunately the last few months have really thrown me back into darkness... thanks sweetpea! ❤️
I was kinda hoping for some more like ... Idk serious advice, but that's ok bc JVN cracks me up. Life is hard JVN is an icon. 😅
To anonymous: your bisexuality is valid no matter your partner 💜💜
Yes!
I once dated a BISEXUAL guy who pretended to be STRAIGHT and it was INFURIATING..please MEN if you are batting for BOTH TEAMS you NEED to tell a women on the FIRST DATE...some women, ( like me) do not WANT MEN WHO DO MEN. 🤬😠😡😤😠😠🤬🤬🤬
@@jenleigh342 lol
@@jenleigh342 you are right with the honesty bit. But also you have some issues with homophobia girl
Thank you💜
This is the affirmation I needed for the day.
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Yasss! More of the sexy qs next time, please and thank you. You are the actual best and we love you!
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👏🏼 Emily!
Always invite more lgbtqia+ to the school to help teach us
More minds is better than one
Lmao I love when u quote Sister Act 😂
Yassss this is exactly what I need in my life right now!!!! LOVE YOU JVN
Lol!!!! That was so my mom and I....we were always late back in the day when she would drop me off for school!!!!! That's so great!!!!! This was all kinds of awesome, really great questions and I love it!!! Love JVN!!!!😀🥰💞
Love that you’re here!
JVN's giving me some Tipsy Energy today!
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SEXY. QUEER. QUESTIONS!!!!!!!!! I love the LGBTQIA+ community so much ❤️ honesty, courage, acceptance, solidarity, and friendship are all words that come to mind. I’m here to be your ally and benefit from your residual positive energy because gatdammit I want to shower in your light!
Jonathan bringing some kinda energy to this video and it slaps. Maybe I need to start drinking dirty chais, damn.
Can I just say that I'm just thrilled there was no math involved in this school ~ my takeaway ~ when all else fails drink chai tea.🍵Cheers JVN
I literally had someone lounge next to me on the bus and ask if I was straight, on behalf of their friend who was checking me out. It was pretty awesome.
Love it!
reading your book as i type xxx love it
I totally related to the bi-in-a-het-relationship question because I didn’t even realize “oh shit I’ve been bi this whole time” until like less than a year ago and I’ve been with my husband more than 25 years! And I’m a person who is riddled with impostor syndrome to begin with so now I’m like… I guess I should come out? I’m the first person to tell other people to be as visible as they can because they owe it to their community but uggggggggh suddenly I’m THAT BITCH. 😂
Add the weird gatekeepy side eye that some folks give and boy is this fun.
Is this your coming out comment?!
@@jvn I came out on my own podcast (while being interviewed by another small podcast) but WAY more people will see it here so… OMG YEAH I THINK IT IS 💕💕💕💕💕
JVN HOLLERING AT THE LYRICS READ THROUGH 😂😂😂💀💀💀
Happy Pride Month Jonathan!!! Queer love (+dirty chai) forever❤❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I love the analogy!! Honest words to live by
Yes!
The UNC/Duke question cracked me up! Hahaha! I graduated from UNC in 2010 and now I work at Duke. I DID NOT see this for my career 😂
The chaos in this video is everything 🙌🙌
I mean, it’s just mirroring this anti trans chaos in government right now!
4:55 i needed to hear this 🥺
There are so many levels to you.....I'm here for it.
Multi dimensional queen! I’m certain you are too!
Watch The Hills together and home school lmao. I love it.
Give me part 2 & 3 NOW!! 🙏🏼😘
Oof! Cannot *wait* for Part 2!!! 🥰
Next week 👀
1st...I'm so glad St John's county Florida decided to Not ban your Peanut book. 👍👍👍👍
Second, it made my day to see your smile so early.
Third, just ask... don't assume anything.
Yes, yes, yes!
Great video! 🙂 These are really fun
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I needed to hear that answer to question three ❤️❤️
If you listen closely, there are some good pockets of advice. ❤️
@@jvn you're just so full of wisdom and beauty I can't handle it 😭❤️
I think in any position in life one of the most important things is respect. Always for everyone. You don´t need to love or like everybody, and maybe you can´t understand everything, but you can talk and ask if you want. We are all humans - and it´s everywhere possible to meet idiots. So what. This video is pretty helpful. When I had a crush and wasn´t sure if he likes girls, I flirted quite clearly - but charmingly and not too seriously - So i mostly got a clear reaction. I´m looking forward to next week. By the way,...Jonathan...you´ve got a big shiny thing on your left ring finger! 😮 Thought I would mention that, too. Awesome!!
I’m a bi female who’s been with my straight bf for three years. I’m not insecure about other girls, we talk about girls we think are hot together and it’s awesome. He’s not insecure that I find someone else attractive, i don’t have to hide my bi thoughts from him. It just makes our relationship even stronger because we are honest and we have fun with it. My ex was the opposite. Totally insecure and thought if I so much as look at a girl with the “daaaamn she fine” eyes it was the same as if I cheated. Really was a huge buzzkill.
You are so damn sweet and innocent; you are a breath of deliciously fresh air. I don’t mean innocent as in inexperienced or nonsexual (obvs), but you just seem to be your ineffable self no matter the circumstances. You don’t put on a mask to please your audience. Your audience can just love you or go screw themselves, whichever they prefer. I wish I could have been more like you growing up. I mean, I did have great hair, but other than that…
I am so angry and exhausted too. But we really are the best so that helps a little. And we have each other. 💙💜
We certainly do!
Your videos make me so happy
your comment makes me happy!
My heart beats for you love bug! ❤️❤️❤️❤️☀️
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I love you JVN. It’s not alliteration. It’s assonance. Consonants and vowels. Different poetic devices. I love you. 💕❤️😘
Wait a sec...where is part 2????? I cant find it :(
Ho JVN You beautiful human; Just wanted to say I hope You, your Boo & your garden are all doing super well. ✌🏼🏳️🌈🇨🇦🙂
This video is everything!
Everything???
That's what my Mom did!!! Lmao Mama bear is fearless when it comes to my brother and I!! 😆
The Bi-Bi-Bi by #NSYNC 🙌🎶☀️ you are so clever on your answers ♥️ I love it!!!
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I'm trying not to judge you for drinking dirty chai, but do you have any suggestions for growing hair faster?
This art teacher loves you ❤️❤️❤️
Can you please please please do a “gay of thrones” version for the house of dragons?!?!? Like “house of drag” or something. The name doesn’t even matter I would 1000000000% watch it so many times as I still watch gay of thrones now!!! Please and thank you. You’re amazing. Hope you have a great day
These were the most un-serious answers to really good, profound questions. I'm not sure if Jonathan's support staff really gets him. He's a heart-felt guy... but he craves nothing but drama.
Plus I relate to your cat supportage and southern accent.
we need Jackie 2-4xs per week !!!! JVN4Prez
2:29 me as a mom… 2:47 also me as a mom 😂🤣
JVN seems just so fed up with everything right now, and like same. 😭
How can my spouse and I communicate better? We tend to get in arguments about little things.
Your HAIR looks so shiny and healthy 😍😍😍😍😍
It’s that JVN Hair!!
Three cheers for dirty chai!
Wow Emily is STUNNING
“Person or boy” two separate categories. Jonathan I love u.
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You are the best and I’m kicking myself I didn’t join your live! Can’t wait for next week!
Hi everyone !
I need info , as a French person I don’t understand what is the difference between being queer and being gay . The definition I am finding sounds the same . Maybe it is a langage barrière thing and it doesn’t translate properly .
Not that it is anyone obligation to educate me but I would very much appreciate the help here !
My understanding is that the label queer is more comfortable for some people because they feel that it isn't as restrictive/allows for more nuance and freedom and expression. Though it's good to keep in mind that it's also a generational thing; younger people generally reclaim that label but maybe other people still have some pain attached to it because some ignorant people do still use it as a slur. So it depends on context and who you're talking about. Gay usually means mlm/wlw but it may also be a more flexible term now like queer is. I know you said English isn't your first language so I hope this makes sense and is helpful! Thanks for listening and learning!
@@calamitydeeds thank you so much for taking the time to help me !!! I had no idea queer use to be a slur ! 🙏🙏🙏 does make sense to me now
I love that you're promoting homeschooling, even if it is a joke 😃😅
From messy bun to messy hun, Oh my word, just when I think I can't adore you more....
I’m multi dimensional!
your amazing human thanks for being you.
no you're amazing!!!
Just saying, great advice for straight people too. Love it
Yes!! Good for all of us!
Ok but I need to know, Duke or UNC?
I am bi women,and in love with a man, I will marry him. After I came out a few years ago I used to hang out with some gay friends. When I started dating this guy, they stopped inviting me to things :(. I felt invalidated but… I got better friends who do not judge me. Also, I don’t talk a lot about my queerness. I explore my queerness with movies, music and writing queer poetry that nobody reads. Anyway, I think we are decades away of full acceptance, both outside and inside the queer community.
You’re welcome and validated here ❤️❤️❤️
@@jvn 💓💙💜 thanks 😊
Dad, please explain this Monster Truck t-shirt. i do not understand, but LuvU still, xo.
I’m almost thinking this advice is sort of …yeah… direct. Lol.
Question number three hit me tho
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Your hair 😻
I'm not queer but you are cute, funny and real. So, I'm watching...
Glad you’re here! Stick around!
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Omg love the support for my favorite coffee place in Austin! Love!!!!!
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They literally said 🎶 bi, ,bi, biiii 🎶 I love it for us 🏳️🌈
Just for us queer people!
Emily is gorgeous
Yes!!
You remind me of Jesus...not that I knew Jesus, but you are so real, so adorable, so honest, so good with humor/serious. Love!
Hello! I want to be a person who uses other people’s preferred pronouns correctly. I understand he/him, she/her, they/them, but I feel less confident knowing which pronoun to use when someone’s preferred pronouns include a mixture such as she/they. Can you clarify how to use pronouns respectfully in this situation? Sorry not juicy, but would love some guidance! ❤️
I’d say just ask the person. I know some people use different ones depending on the day, while others prefer to have you kind of switch between both, then just practice :) I would practice using both though first. Usually the first pronoun they list is the one they like used the most but it is important to get all of em in
Ask the individual. Don't be shy about it. They will be glad you show a genuine interest in getting it right. I could say that, in general, the pronoun mentioned or listed FIRST is usually the preferred pronoun-- but that might not always be correct. They might really want people to switch it up and not stick with one or another pronoun all the time. It comes down to the individual, so just ask them.
@@trevors6991 Thank you! So helpful!
@@tabularasa Thank you!! So helpful!
Im mad too!!! Lol
we're not going to take it anymore!!!