Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention. Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen. Please tell me your comments Sincerely Thanks
Gabor Mate really understand in all levels about trauma and wounding. So much appreciation for his teachings. It speaks the unspoken truth of our society. Sending Love and healing to all people who is watching this video. 💖
I have improved my life 1000% by reading and following Gabor, and leaving all social media. I have real friends and quality of life now. American culture is so toxic right now. I also send love and healing hugs to all. 🫶
This is an extraordinary interview. And I've listened to several with Gabor, and am almost done with the book! Andre, you have done an incredible job with this interview, the best I've seen, with your presence, your understanding of the content.... it's more like a dialogue, than just barraging the interviewee with a bunch of questions. So well done! Thank you so much. We need this kind of information and perspective, so much, in these times.
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention. Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen. Please tell me your comments Sincerely Thanks
What a wonderful conversation. The lady who asked the first question made me cry as I decided years ago that I didn't want children as I couldn't bear it if I made then unhappy like my parents made me. I often think how different I would have been if I'd had parents who looked at how they behaved and realised the impact it had. I think this lady will be a brilliant mother.
My wife has learned so much of herself after going into a trauma reaction that she calls a mental health crisis. She has been istening to your books and watching your videos every day. You have given her comfort by making it (the trauma reactions) make sense to her. Now, she no longer wants to be a psychologist with a concentration in addiction. She wants to focus on trauma because she now believes that addiction is a result of trauma.
@rachael6829By coming closer to ourselves by listening to our body and thoughts and beliefs. It would take longer to gain this without listening to Gabor, but is certainly not impossible without him.
I am 71 and always knew that something was not right with me. In my 40’s it showed its ugly face…Cptsd, I was at a job where I was a receptionist waiting on Angry 😡 people. I had a medical retirement. I did have madd…and recently had 8 Ketamine infusions..it helped the depression, but I was left with the Cptsd…now working on dealing with it. I feel I wasted my life sadly ❤️🩹 Dr. Gabor Mate’ is Awesome he really knows his stuff. I love it when he makes a joke and laughs…He is a Dear man..KUDOS to him. Thank you Dr. ✌️🍀
Wow. What a treat to have this wonderful man on your show. He articulates so well what I’ve always felt deep in my soul but didn’t know how to express this in words. Everyone around me seemed to be so accepting and unquestioning and I always felt something was wildly amiss. Our society, has been and continues to be, very toxic indeed. Most people are trapped in jobs they don’t want to be in and that’s just for starters. Is it any wonder people are struggling. Anyway, I’m going to enjoy listening to the rest of this on my evening stroll. Thanks for keeping me company with such brilliant wisdom.
So agree on the definition of family and relating. No two kids have the same parents. I cannot like this enough. The answer to the woman contemplating creating a family is golden.
Days and hours of binge watching interviews with Gabor Mate' this would have to be one of my favourites. So many light bulbs moments, so many times brought to tears. Gabor is a true gift to mankind and his words have personally made me feel truly seen and understood.
Nicky is a rockstar to show mature growth in action. That is what willing to heal and grow looks like. Such a great talk. Gabor Mate is one of my favorites!
I had 2 NDE's and saw that it is not knowing who we are, being disconnected that leads to a fearful way of being and all kinds of strange and destructive behaviour comes from it. Trauma is one of the main ways this disconnection happens. Kind of like a rabid dog getting the rabies virus and becoming dangerous and unpredictable. We come here and we live in a particular culture, family, group of people and we get conditioned to not be our true selves. We kind of all catch the same "virus". We forget who we all are, which is Love and because of the disconnection and forgetting who we are, all kinds of insanity happens from being unconscious. Also, earth is a place of extremes from the worst of the worst to the very best and everything in between. We come here for that challenge. I was received in the NDE's with total unconditional Love, compassion and acceptance without judgement. There is no separate from us "God" of any religion, that hands out rewards, punishments and judgements. I saw that nobody is ever left behind. To awaken to who we all truly are, while we are embodied and having a human experience and then to live from that pure state of BEING as best we can, is to bring the kind of unconditional love without judgments I experienced in the NDE's, through us and into this realm. It deepens and expands the Love that we are, deepens our compassion and brightens the light that we are.
Well written… I too was fortunate enough to have a similar experience. It has forever changed my life. Unfortunately, it’s taken almost 3 years now for me to finally surrender & just accept that I can’t go back to that intense unworldly type of Love I was so lucky to feel. Or worse yet, searching for answers to “why” did this happen only for me and no one else around me? After living my entire life surrounded by trauma, I have learned to see life through a whole new light & that alone is something I’ll forever be grateful for. It was true enlightenment, knowing there’s certainly more to the universe than what we’ve all been told. Thee other side of the veil…. learning everything that happens to us, actually happens FOR us. Energy…. ⚡️ 🌎 ❤🙏
Thank you for uploading this. As someone who has only just reached a point where I have the appropriate psychiatric care to help me begin the journey of finding the self I am underneath all of the dissociative coping strategies that I used to survive, I think it’s important for mental health providers as well as survivors and patients to understand that the most challenging and productive work is letting go of coping mechanisms that no longer serve us and learning ways of existing that allow for less rigidity and more authenticity. Gabor Mate’s words are incredibly insightful.
Hi dear, please check out Irene Lyon and her nervous system healing work. The nervous system is the missing piece, where everything else clicks into place - in all things trauma and healing. We need to go through the body first. This work is such a complex yet simple, beautiful, self-honouring, gentle thing. It's tender magic is hard to put into words, let alone in a short youtube comment. Irene has a ton of high-value content on here and you can find more about her and her work on her homepage. I am currently starting her main program SmartBody SmartMind, which is going to enable me to truly become my own medicine; I can't wait to start living and thriving instead of merely surviving! (please check out testimonials - it's the most life changing, if not lifesaving work I have come across) Wishing you all the very best!
@@Jana_Rea I’m glad you find her work helpful! I prefer the work of other individuals, as she seems to glean from the research of others and synthesize it and explain it, which many have done. I actually prefer to read the research and other content in book form with annotated bibliographies so I can more easily trace the information. It’s a habit I got into in college after a lot of time in the science departments. I have an extensive reading list that I’m working through. I’m always glad to see more people speaking openly about such topics though! Thank you kindly for the recommendation! Best wishes! ^_^
Suffering leads to awareness, then the lesson , then compassion for the self and the suffering. Basic needs for safety and belonging are essential for survival and thriving.
@@phyllisjackson4322 I agree, though I would say that every step of the way from suffering to awareness, from awareness to understanding, from understanding to compassion requires conscious decisions to do the hard work. I agree that humans cannot thrive until safety and belonging are established, but I suppose I have too often heard that suffering can lead to all of this growth opportunities without hearing that it CAN lead there but that suffering can also lead elsewhere. The difference, in my limited experience, is a sense of cultivating and working towards awareness and wholeness and safety. If suffering exists in the absence of human agency and conscious decisions to grow, without support, I feel like the results can be devastating, individually and societally.
What a tribe in the audience! Wow! All my favorite people that I follow, along with the incredible Gabor Mate whose way of talking is so soothing and healing. Huge! Thank you!
I’m from a very large family, took care of children and my experiences showed me childhood to adulthood. Dr Gabor Mate understands and speak for the children! Great talk!
I feel such a profound love for Dr Mate that I cry instantly when I hear his voice 😅 just can't control my compassion, or maybe it is effect of feeling his endless compassion for entire humanity...?
His insights make me feel sad about my childhood and become aware of myself and attitudes I had adopted to fit in which have damaged my real personality
I feel so much inspired by Gabor, every time I listen to him, I feel that being in therapy is the right thing to do not only for myself but for everyone else around me and future kids 🫰🏽
i am so grateful for this episode to be a live one. I have seen and heard many talks with Dr. Gabor Mate, and because they often tend to be repetitive (nonetheless still very interesting), it is the Q&A part that made this one so much better. I had so many a-ha moments that came through the answers to various questions from different people with different experiences that I could relate to. Thank you both for creating this space and to the audience who were not afraid to go deep. This was truly awesome to watch.
0:35 Sensitivity Is the only genetic thing Child need 16:52 1. Connection 2. Unconditional acceptance 3. Safety of experiencing every emotion 4. Spontaneous playing 28:08 kid becomes afraid of their true selves
Thank you for sharing this list. I'm 62 and re-parenting myself, discovering how to care for my needs. Through prayer, meditation, and writing, I'm prioritizing and practicing these essential needs in my life. Feeling alive as never before. Love and blessings to everyone here ❤
I am so glad to see him healthy and still active. He is among the best who influenced my life. Thank you sir! Be healthy and keep influencing oi ur life.
Without doubt THE BEST podcast I've ever listened to! SUch a blessing to have people like Dr. Gabor Maté living in our lifetime! And such a blessing to have people like André organizing such an event and then making it public for others to listen to as well. Thank you all so so much!
Thank you both for all you do! I am especially appreciative of how Gabor Mate is open and honest about his shortcomings. I have made tremendous progress in my life and I owe my success to three things: 1. I went inward to find out why I had issues, 2. I worked hard to improve myself and my life and 3. I practice heart brain coherence. This is the most enlightening information I've heard in a long time! Blessings to all in love and light!🙏🏼💜🙏🏼💙🙏🏼💛🙏🏼🧡🙏🏼💚🙏🏼
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention. Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen. Please tell me your comments Sincerely Thanks
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention. Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen. Please tell me your comments Sincerely Thanks
I've seen many Maté talks on this topic and his new book but this one has to be by far the most exciting and insightful of all for me personally. Thank you so very much for giving him a platform and also for your contribution to the discourse!
Same. I have known his work for a while now in English and in Hungarian but he really nailed these explanations not only detailed individually on a traumatic or Happy person but on society and on all creatures exist. Everyone should listen to this video and we all could have a chance changing our whole existence as humans on this beautiful Earth.
What an amazing session! I really love the Q&A, both Gabor and Andre did a fantastic job. Thank you both for making this knowledge available, what a beautiful thing to be on the Path ❤
Just wow. I'm only half way done with the video and I had to stop to comment this.. but this has to be the most profound and perspective changing video I have every watched. Thank you Andre, you never fail to bring on the most amazing guests and ask hard but very important questions as well. Love this video.
I just googled his age and was blown away to see he's 80 years old. Goes to show what having a healthy inside can do for you even in older age. he really summarises and makes sense of thoughts and feelings ive had
André, everything about you is awesome. It's the 3 rd interview of yours I see. Gabor Maté suits you and you, him! I don't know how much work you have done with your true Self, but your authenticity shines through. Thank you.
I must say that this was one of the best interviews I have seen. As a clinician, this was a training for me! So much good insight to take back to my practice and my book comes tomorrow. I also plan to take his compassion course. He gets it‼️ In order to do this work well and truly educate your clients, you have to be willing to truly connect with them and this whole interview stress the importance of connection and the negative side effects when we are not connected. Unfortunately, this culture is over feeding this activity of disconnect. Thank you for this❤
I am so glad you spoke about how children are not treated the same in the same family. The first child is First at everything. Mum usually has more time to spend with them relatives are excited for the First child or Grandchild. The second has much less time (in most circumstances) spent on them. They and feel this really Strongly that children now have to fit in! They have parents who are working full time. They shipped to nursery from such a young age and parents wonder why a child cries so much when they are left and are told ‘oh he/she will be fine when you’re gone’ the distress you hear in that babies cry 😢 yes they may stop crying when they are gone but surely it’s subconsciously that they have to survive. Why we don’t develop a community for parents/caregivers that includes both, for the first two years of a babies life, is beyond me. Instead, we have governments who encourage childcare for even younger babies, so that Mums can go back to work ! Having and bringing up a child is a gift and huge responsibility. If parents spoke and treated their children like they do their bestest friend we would be on the right road, I feel. I’m glad you said there is a way out of the Doom as in my role I see so many broken people. I, because of Dr Matê, ask nearly all my patients, how are you doing, how is life in general. Thank you
These conversations should most certainly be taught and happening more often especially in education and medicine.. new parents need to hear this man speak. Read his books. Connect with each-other more for healing and unlearning what society has lied to us all about. Our society needs to awaken to the truth that we have strayed too far.
The very 1st question: the 34 year old is afraid of being a mom because of perpetuating the cycle she experienced as a child. ⚠️Warning⚠️ I was given the same advice: because I am on a healing path and asking the questions I will be ok. For me it's not always ok. It's important to remember your children also pick you. It's important to witness your mistakes as a mother and the solutions. So yes, you will be ok. But if your experience is anything like mine, traumas sneak up, and triggers do happen. Give yourself the space to sit with those moments, do the healing, and let your kids witness you in your fullest! They learn more from your actions than your words. There is no perfect outcome in life, just moments. My wish for you is to have more moments of pleasure with your kids than the moments of pain. 💓✨️☮️
This is such an amazing segment. You shed light on so many issues amidst our society that really should be being looked at. I am glad you said this; This is my first time listening to you but I have loved “Know Thyself” for a couple weeks now. Basically people need the information. My question for you is if you feel the problems need to be addressed before healing can occur? These things take time but speaking is the first step to recovery.
Thank you. I found this video imparted so much sense. Our problems are multi-generational. When I meditate from the perspective of my early childhood all my senses hurt: sound hurts, light hurts, rough touch hurts, smell hurts, many foods taste foul, the emotions of others hurt. Youngsters eventually become more tolerant to the world; parents can, and are duty bound, to alleviate such discomfort.
I am not crying... you are. 😉🙏🏻 Thank you for this format and providing this special Q&A space for such profound and also impactful questions and answers. 💜 I appreciate it a lot. And I will let those answers sink in more deeply... Thank you a lot, André! Also to the openess and vulnerablity of the audience and also for the shared wisdom and life experience from Gabor. 🦋 This Q&A session has been a very special one for me and I am grateful to be able to have witnessed it. Thank you @SorelleAmore for the recommendation & your moving question. 🦋💜
Do the work now. I’ve read Gabor for yrs but didn’t treat the trauma My breast had cancer that has now spread to the lung liver and bones. I knew I was lonely and isolated and felt myself getting really sick. Doctors thought it was something else . I knew it was cancer. There is no treatment but people have dug deep to heal the trauma and lived with the worst diagnosis. Gabor works with one of those very women who was told she wouldn’t live so she treated the old wounds doing hard work and now is still living.❤
I remember looking at my mother in bed and realizing I did not matter…. I knew at 4 years old and it continued threw abuse by family members then onto growing up and marrying he abused me also. I am learning now at 68 I do so Matter, Thanks to folks like Gabor, Melanie Tonia Evens, Nick and Jessica Ortner that helped me know I do Matter.
Of course you do. We all are, but you have to define yourself every day again and again and do not believe to others how they treat you because that's their wound. Remember what happens to a $100 bill when you step on it, soak it wet, crumble it up, tear it half then tape it back, then chip it's corner! It will still worth $100.
How destinedly liberating when ALL faces make it in the room. Those who often need to hear the message are not being represented. I truly live and long for the moment in time when we are all free.
Thank God for this man. We are so far away from adapting all this knowledge soon enough for this world to be a friendly place to me, but I have hope for my daughter’s generation.
Gabor gives people with big T validation which comes healing. Not sure how aware he is of the many people he has brought the validation to light just by his talks and books. Gabor's insights are what society needs to heal in today's world. May be all be gentle with ourselves. ❤
"A levity & voice, that emanates from experience - is so worth listening to." "The most tender words.. come from the gut, grime, grit & glory -- of a life grasped in full." "A dance of life fulfilled.. it is passion & grace, elevated over time & space." "Prize progress -- over perfection. For maybe - it is the journey -- that matters most." .. Gabor's advice to the woman worried about parenthood was heart warmingly embracing and priceless!! ~ Paul Jung "What you are to be, you are now becoming." ~ Carl Rogers “What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson "If the day and the night are such that you greet them with joy, and life emits a fragrance like flowers and sweet-scented herbs, is more elastic, more starry, more immortal - that is your success." ~ Henry David Thoreau “I am seeking. I am striving. I am in it with all my heart.” ~ Vincent van Gogh
As we become less stable emotionally and mentally by generation or even just by a few years, we ought to be careful in telling anyone what is traumatizing and what isn't. A group of people can experience the same event and come away with not just different memories but different experiences of it. If highly sensitive people are more prone to trauma and there are no limits to levels of sensitivity, that indicates that any event can potentially be traumatic.
No, we aren't. That kind of trauma is what trauma is. Whining is not the same as trauma. And no,.being sensitive doesn't mean that you will traumatized. In fact, Dr Bruce Perry, a child psychiatrist and trauma expert, says "the earlier children experience adversity, the more impact it will have". The younger children are, the more sensitive they are. He also says that emotional attachment is what protects people from trauma. Those with strong emotional bonds fare better, always. So this isn't about people being too sensitive, it's about a world that is becoming more disconnected, which makes us prone to trauma. Don't worry about sensitive people, or about people being tricked into thinking they're traumatized. Make sure people have emotional connections, are allowed to freely express themselves at the same time. That way, we won't have traumatized people. Any good trauma therapist will tell, having healthy attachments and authentic expression, is what heals traumas not 45 min of therapy per week.
@@alvodin6197 It looks like you may have misinterpreted my expressions. Of course sensitivity doesn't bring about trauma, events and interpretation do. Practicing community is essential, but a person with no understanding of it or trust of it, needs help before jumping in the deep end. Only my experience. I'm also not sure why I'm worried about anyone being tricked into anything? Probably this format lacks depth.
Some events i.e. witnessing a murder is traumatizing to every human that watches this event occur. Different ppl may express i.e act out, their reaction to the trauma in different ways, but they all definitely have been traumatized.
@@Saoirse-xt7mi I respectfully disagree. A person who is deeply rooted in their sense of purpose and place in life will be upset temporarily by a murder but not disrupted by it. Think of wars and police. Also, if a person already has unhealthy views of life, no respect for it, witnessing murder has little effect on them. Trauma is personal and relative to the state of mind.
More than 2000 years ago, Socrates said that the task of living is ultimately to "know thy self". Dr. Gabor Mate is as close as you could get to a Socratic figure of the modern world. What he is saying are more liberating than all the wars that Idiots of today have unwittingly initiated that only caused human suffering.
wow dr gabor mate .. INFJ have the gift to experience all this .. but sir you are above an infj .. you could explain these skills for the world to heal .. you will always be in our hearts & tqvm sir
I would love to start a new society using all of Dr. Gabor Wate insights, I wonder who I might have been having known all that he is teaching me. 63 years to late.
I have healed through the Pesso-Boyden method and other therapies. Gabor is absolutely right and I love to see more content on us reconnecting to our own purity.
this is so crazym , at 29:00, in my family we never ignored the other for trowing tantruns as young people and I never really understood how my parents could do it. thanks mom for not raising a traumatized kid and not make us fight for love (btw we are awesome to our parents now in our 30-40s).
It’s absolutely stunning how much wistom and knowledge is in this video… not enough words to express my appreciation and gratitude for everything that Gabor shares 🙏 thank you thank you thank you. It’s totally transformative
Amazing interview and questions, super insightful and helpful for someone who is studying to become a therapist. Much appreciations to all who put this together as well as the brave audience members who asked questions.
Great analogy with the tap on the shoulder with pain compared to tapping on a burn & the severity of different levels of pain! Love this thank you 🙏🏻 (I’ve had a Gabor Healing binge Saturday. Been so Good. 😍 Thank you for your work & to all for this podcast! 😇❤️🩹☯️☮️
Fascinating interview. Having taught Football (Soccer) to young children 30 years its incredible that Adults expect young children to be like well behaved adults.. Some parents fail to understand that these young people are learning, will make mistakes and experience the full range of emotions. As a Coach i have learnt to love the chaos of running bots football teams and try not to be a control freak, but let children to experience and be a consequence of their actiobscwhilst supportibg them to understand what is like to be part of a team that will win and fail. But, we will stay together and enjoy the highs and lows..
Thank you guys for making this info possible for us, there could be no way for me to access this kind of help....thank you doctor Gabor mate, I really appreciate you and your lifelong studies. It has helped me immensely ..... thank you guys very much
Such an important and impactful Message and I am so grateful that you are bringing it to us. The understanding and compassion that comes through you now could only exist because you came through the gauntlet of trauma to awareness and healing. The work is when we become aware of it and become more compassionate with ourselves and others. You and Tara Brach ( of whom I am a long time fan) have brought this wonderful much needed RAIN to us thank you.
Yep, yep, society is a stress trap. Normal is wrong. We are far from civilisation. For civilisation to start we must have; Free food, proper education, housing and medicine, and finally total care and respect for the elderly. 😊
Amazing, thank you so much for this. Yes, when we think of these conditions like that, it's not our fault or anybody else's, the healing is much more compassionate, I hope when I wake up tomorrow to remember that, but I am very concerned about what I am seeing. We need to work together not compete with each other, God bless you all.
Everything he talks about, especially making the unconscious conscious is the core of hypnotherapy and NLP work. You don't need years of talk therapy, or even psychedelics to change your mind. Change can happen with a good practitioner more quickly than you think.
I've been going through these things and integrating my experiences for ~3 years and this still makes me cry. Meets not being met. Still carry that and it won't change either, just have to see the effect and work with it consciously 🧡
Thank you so much for this incredible live interview. I love this new format and it was so beautiful to have Gabor`s wisdom paired with so many of your former podcast guests in the space. Thank you André for all the love you pour into your work!
yes i do agree trauma is a lot deal with toxic homes. It's not easy to heal but anything is possible. I think these are great words of wisdom. As someone that had a best friend that was a clinical psychologist. I knew the old habits that I would fall into. Having adhd change my perspective of how I view my relationships and what it cost me. I am now on my healing journey after years of therapy dealing with a dysfunctional home. This comes so close to home. Like dr phil always say "we can't change what we don't acknowledge." I am studying in healthcare administration right now I see and study all these things that are so interesting that i never knew before. Psychology was always apart of me. a lot of successful people have trauma. it applies to everyone that has a toxic household i have seen. Facts are that people have the inability to be heard or seen.
I spent my whole childhood away from my family in care from a baby in schools aftercare. I only had my dog as a friend but they kept removing my pets too. I felt alone cold waging school at age 6. The sadness and the Loneliness is still vivid in my mind
So many insights and in that very welcome, soothing Maté voice, too. One tiny point on animals. Troop primates are frequently abusive as parents, too - and can allow abuse of their own offspring by others, usually further up the hierarchy. Orang Utan far less so, as they are naturally solitary with no troop politics to deal with (they only group in human-created environments).
Thank you both for this insight, transforming, helpful and hopeful session. Dr Gabor you are a blessing to the human race, thank you for insight, experiences, knowledge, wisdom and encouragement 🙏
Thankyou I feel like someone finally innerstands my mom would love on the boys and hate on me the only girl starting at a young age I’ve had to nurture myself and start taking care of me so I don’t end up going down a certain path
I really enjoyed this session Gabor has taught me a lot from this video and it reminded me why I'm going to college in the psychological field I love learning about this! The only thing that bothered me was Andre idk why but I feel like he wasn't fully present like everyone else like he was somewhere else.. This is the first video I've watched of his I usually don't watch his videos I watch Blu videos more but since he had Gabor I wanted to watch his video. As an empath and observer I can tell Andre is not all there. Why is that?
Revered guest ... nervous to be found out. Internally struggling still to not be judged. Said as another empath. He will be fine. Learning still. Like us all. ❤
Gabor is beyond insightful. He doesn't use fancy words to confuse people he just explains it in a clear way that resonates. ❤
Yes I agree with you.
Absolufakinlutely ❤️
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention.
Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen.
Please tell me your comments
Sincerely Thanks
Unlike a certain Canadian "intellectual"
Agreed 👍
I would give my life savings to spend just a few hours with Gabor, his insight is just impeccable!
your ife savings are likely small
Gabor Mate really understand in all levels about trauma and wounding. So much appreciation for his teachings. It speaks the unspoken truth of our society. Sending Love and healing to all people who is watching this video. 💖
The same to you ❤️
"Speaks the unspoken truth" ...well said!
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Culture is NOT youre friend. Terrence McKenna..
I have improved my life 1000% by reading and following Gabor, and leaving all social media. I have real friends and quality of life now. American culture is so toxic right now. I also send love and healing hugs to all. 🫶
These messages need to be spread far and wide
That lovely guy is my Bob Dylan of therapy. Cannot get enough of him.
This man is a gift. His books are great
This is an extraordinary interview. And I've listened to several with Gabor, and am almost done with the book! Andre, you have done an incredible job with this interview, the best I've seen, with your presence, your understanding of the content.... it's more like a dialogue, than just barraging the interviewee with a bunch of questions. So well done! Thank you so much. We need this kind of information and perspective, so much, in these times.
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention.
Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen.
Please tell me your comments
Sincerely Thanks
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What a wonderful conversation. The lady who asked the first question made me cry as I decided years ago that I didn't want children as I couldn't bear it if I made then unhappy like my parents made me. I often think how different I would have been if I'd had parents who looked at how they behaved and realised the impact it had. I think this lady will be a brilliant mother.
I hear you ! I asked the same question myself and decided to not have children exactly for the same reasons ❤
My wife has learned so much of herself after going into a trauma reaction that she calls a mental health crisis. She has been istening to your books and watching your videos every day. You have given her comfort by making it (the trauma reactions) make sense to her. Now, she no longer wants to be a psychologist with a concentration in addiction. She wants to focus on trauma because she now believes that addiction is a result of trauma.
He speaks such truth, wise and clear! That which we knew , Dr Gabor makes sense of it! Wish I was there ❤😊
"It's not your fault." Powerful ending. Thank you for this conversation.
@rachael6829By coming closer to ourselves by listening to our body and thoughts and beliefs. It would take longer to gain this without listening to Gabor, but is certainly not impossible without him.
I am 71 and always knew that something was not right with me. In my 40’s it showed its ugly face…Cptsd, I was at a job where I was a receptionist waiting on Angry 😡 people. I had a medical retirement. I did have madd…and recently had 8 Ketamine infusions..it helped the depression, but I was left with the Cptsd…now working on dealing with it. I feel I wasted my life sadly ❤️🩹 Dr. Gabor Mate’ is Awesome he really knows his stuff. I love it when he makes a joke and laughs…He is a Dear man..KUDOS to him. Thank you Dr. ✌️🍀
Wow. What a treat to have this wonderful man on your show. He articulates so well what I’ve always felt deep in my soul but didn’t know how to express this in words. Everyone around me seemed to be so accepting and unquestioning and I always felt something was wildly amiss. Our society, has been and continues to be, very toxic indeed. Most people are trapped in jobs they don’t want to be in and that’s just for starters. Is it any wonder people are struggling. Anyway, I’m going to enjoy listening to the rest of this on my evening stroll. Thanks for keeping me company with such brilliant wisdom.
Yes trapped in $jobs -
That still isn't balance for most. Take risks, always question, find a job more you. Join the revolution. Contribute you.
Now try to rewrite this without that spiritual religious babble
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So agree on the definition of family and relating. No two kids have the same parents.
I cannot like this enough. The answer to the woman contemplating creating a family is golden.
Days and hours of binge watching interviews with Gabor Mate' this would have to be one of my favourites. So many light bulbs moments, so many times brought to tears. Gabor is a true gift to mankind and his words have personally made me feel truly seen and understood.
Nicky is a rockstar to show mature growth in action. That is what willing to heal and grow looks like. Such a great talk. Gabor Mate is one of my favorites!
I had 2 NDE's and saw that it is not knowing who we are, being disconnected that leads to a fearful way of being and all kinds of strange and destructive behaviour comes from it. Trauma is one of the main ways this disconnection happens. Kind of like a rabid dog getting the rabies virus and becoming dangerous and unpredictable. We come here and we live in a particular culture, family, group of people and we get conditioned to not be our true selves. We kind of all catch the same "virus". We forget who we all are, which is Love and because of the disconnection and forgetting who we are, all kinds of insanity happens from being unconscious. Also, earth is a place of extremes from the worst of the worst to the very best and everything in between. We come here for that challenge. I was received in the NDE's with total unconditional Love, compassion and acceptance without judgement. There is no separate from us "God" of any religion, that hands out rewards, punishments and judgements. I saw that nobody is ever left behind. To awaken to who we all truly are, while we are embodied and having a human experience and then to live from that pure state of BEING as best we can, is to bring the kind of unconditional love without judgments I experienced in the NDE's, through us and into this realm. It deepens and expands the Love that we are, deepens our compassion and brightens the light that we are.
Well written… I too was fortunate enough to have a similar experience. It has forever changed my life. Unfortunately, it’s taken almost 3 years now for me to finally surrender & just accept that I can’t go back to that intense unworldly type of Love I was so lucky to feel. Or worse yet, searching for answers to “why” did this happen only for me and no one else around me? After living my entire life surrounded by trauma, I have learned to see life through a whole new light & that alone is something I’ll forever be grateful for. It was true enlightenment, knowing there’s certainly more to the universe than what we’ve all been told. Thee other side of the veil…. learning everything that happens to us, actually happens FOR us.
Energy…. ⚡️
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@@dallaslove-n3b Beautiful!
Thank you for uploading this.
As someone who has only just reached a point where I have the appropriate psychiatric care to help me begin the journey of finding the self I am underneath all of the dissociative coping strategies that I used to survive, I think it’s important for mental health providers as well as survivors and patients to understand that the most challenging and productive work is letting go of coping mechanisms that no longer serve us and learning ways of existing that allow for less rigidity and more authenticity.
Gabor Mate’s words are incredibly insightful.
Hi dear, please check out Irene Lyon and her nervous system healing work. The nervous system is the missing piece, where everything else clicks into place - in all things trauma and healing. We need to go through the body first. This work is such a complex yet simple, beautiful, self-honouring, gentle thing. It's tender magic is hard to put into words, let alone in a short youtube comment. Irene has a ton of high-value content on here and you can find more about her and her work on her homepage. I am currently starting her main program SmartBody SmartMind, which is going to enable me to truly become my own medicine; I can't wait to start living and thriving instead of merely surviving! (please check out testimonials - it's the most life changing, if not lifesaving work I have come across)
Wishing you all the very best!
@@Jana_Rea I’m glad you find her work helpful! I prefer the work of other individuals, as she seems to glean from the research of others and synthesize it and explain it, which many have done. I actually prefer to read the research and other content in book form with annotated bibliographies so I can more easily trace the information. It’s a habit I got into in college after a lot of time in the science departments. I have an extensive reading list that I’m working through. I’m always glad to see more people speaking openly about such topics though! Thank you kindly for the recommendation! Best wishes! ^_^
Suffering leads to awareness, then the lesson , then compassion for the self and the suffering. Basic needs for safety and belonging are essential for survival and thriving.
@@phyllisjackson4322 I agree, though I would say that every step of the way from suffering to awareness, from awareness to understanding, from understanding to compassion requires conscious decisions to do the hard work. I agree that humans cannot thrive until safety and belonging are established, but I suppose I have too often heard that suffering can lead to all of this growth opportunities without hearing that it CAN lead there but that suffering can also lead elsewhere. The difference, in my limited experience, is a sense of cultivating and working towards awareness and wholeness and safety. If suffering exists in the absence of human agency and conscious decisions to grow, without support, I feel like the results can be devastating, individually and societally.
What a tribe in the audience! Wow! All my favorite people that I follow, along with the incredible Gabor Mate whose way of talking is so soothing and healing. Huge! Thank you!
I’m from a very large family, took care of children and my experiences showed me childhood to adulthood. Dr Gabor Mate understands and speak for the children! Great talk!
I feel such a profound love for Dr Mate that I cry instantly when I hear his voice 😅 just can't control my compassion, or maybe it is effect of feeling his endless compassion for entire humanity...?
or you mentaly unstable?
His insights make me feel sad about my childhood and become aware of myself and attitudes I had adopted to fit in which have damaged my real personality
First the sadness, oh yes, I hear you. It's OK. We use what is available to us, what else? All that matters in the long run is your awareness. 😊
I feel so much inspired by Gabor, every time I listen to him, I feel that being in therapy is the right thing to do not only for myself but for everyone else around me and future kids 🫰🏽
i am so grateful for this episode to be a live one. I have seen and heard many talks with Dr. Gabor Mate, and because they often tend to be repetitive (nonetheless still very interesting), it is the Q&A part that made this one so much better. I had so many a-ha moments that came through the answers to various questions from different people with different experiences that I could relate to. Thank you both for creating this space and to the audience who were not afraid to go deep. This was truly awesome to watch.
When you shine a light into darkness, darkness becomes light itself. Love this
0:35 Sensitivity Is the only genetic thing
Child need 16:52
1. Connection
2. Unconditional acceptance
3. Safety of experiencing every emotion
4. Spontaneous playing
28:08 kid becomes afraid of their true selves
Thank you for sharing this list. I'm 62 and re-parenting myself, discovering how to care for my needs. Through prayer, meditation, and writing, I'm prioritizing and practicing these essential needs in my life. Feeling alive as never before. Love and blessings to everyone here ❤
I am so glad to see him healthy and still active. He is among the best who influenced my life. Thank you sir! Be healthy and keep influencing oi ur life.
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Without doubt THE BEST podcast I've ever listened to! SUch a blessing to have people like Dr. Gabor Maté living in our lifetime! And such a blessing to have people like André organizing such an event and then making it public for others to listen to as well. Thank you all so so much!
excellant every health professional in the world should listen to this
One of the best hosting of Gabors presence. Thank you
Thank you both for all you do! I am especially appreciative of how Gabor Mate is open and honest about his shortcomings. I have made tremendous progress in my life and I owe my success to three things: 1. I went inward to find out why I had issues, 2. I worked hard to improve myself and my life and 3. I practice heart brain coherence. This is the most enlightening information I've heard in a long time! Blessings to all in love and light!🙏🏼💜🙏🏼💙🙏🏼💛🙏🏼🧡🙏🏼💚🙏🏼
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention.
Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen.
Please tell me your comments
Sincerely Thanks
Hi, everyone I have a secret for you reveal. The reason why the United States of America and the Vatican keep delayed time by playing the voting game between President Biden with President Trump even though they know their children is going to die for no reason because if the Tibet and India know Pope Francisco does not want to see Holy Dalai Lama but he sent a Vietnamese came to Tibet say Vatican and NATO will liberate the Tibet and India. In contrary; every time NATO visit any country, Pope Francisco will visit that country. They do know the Vatican had done with Tibet 's citizens, thus they don't even say sorry. Secondly; I hope the India' citizens please pay attention.
Don't you think this is disrespectful. Lastly; Pope Francisco told the whole world that he had a plan to make the world will be peace but I say from now to 10 years our economic will collapse and we will face the flood of the ocean that will drown alot of country such as Japan, Korea, Philippines and Taiwan etc later. Because Russia will fight with NATO in Europe at the west, and at the east, both of them fight at Alaska. When the iceberg break and melt, the sea level will be up. IF India doesn't allow NATO settle in their country. Unless Pope Francisco says sorry to them so this disaster will not happen.
Please tell me your comments
Sincerely Thanks
I've seen many Maté talks on this topic and his new book but this one has to be by far the most exciting and insightful of all for me personally. Thank you so very much for giving him a platform and also for your contribution to the discourse!
Same here. He is really on point. I don't know if it is the host asking the right questions or if he is well rested from his speaking tour.
Same. I have known his work for a while now in English and in Hungarian but he really nailed these explanations not only detailed individually on a traumatic or Happy person but on society and on all creatures exist. Everyone should listen to this video and we all could have a chance changing our whole existence as humans on this beautiful Earth.
What an amazing session! I really love the Q&A, both Gabor and Andre did a fantastic job. Thank you both for making this knowledge available, what a beautiful thing to be on the Path ❤
This man gives me permission to be human!
Yes, you are! We all are!!! 😊
Just wow. I'm only half way done with the video and I had to stop to comment this.. but this has to be the most profound and perspective changing video I have every watched. Thank you Andre, you never fail to bring on the most amazing guests and ask hard but very important questions as well. Love this video.
This man is a bouddha.
I will say it 100 times, this guy is fantastic 🙏🌟🌈❤️
I just googled his age and was blown away to see he's 80 years old. Goes to show what having a healthy inside can do for you even in older age. he really summarises and makes sense of thoughts and feelings ive had
Thank you Andre. Zach Bush, and now Gabor Mate. Saints of our world right now. Beautiful souls. Thank you so much.
André, everything about you is awesome. It's the 3 rd interview of yours I see. Gabor Maté suits you and you, him! I don't know how much work you have done with your true Self, but your authenticity shines through. Thank you.
I must say that this was one of the best interviews I have seen. As a clinician, this was a training for me! So much good insight to take back to my practice and my book comes tomorrow. I also plan to take his compassion course. He gets it‼️ In order to do this work well and truly educate your clients, you have to be willing to truly connect with them and this whole interview stress the importance of connection and the negative side effects when we are not connected. Unfortunately, this culture is over feeding this activity of disconnect. Thank you for this❤
@Bojan V I'm trying daily! Thanks
I am so glad you spoke about how children are not treated the same in the same family. The first child is First at everything. Mum usually has more time to spend with them relatives are excited for the First child or Grandchild. The second has much less time (in most circumstances) spent on them. They and feel this really Strongly that children now have to fit in! They have parents who are working full time. They shipped to nursery from such a young age and parents wonder why a child cries so much when they are left and are told ‘oh he/she will be fine when you’re gone’ the distress you hear in that babies cry 😢 yes they may stop crying when they are gone but surely it’s subconsciously that they have to survive. Why we don’t develop a community for parents/caregivers that includes both, for the first two years of a babies life, is beyond me. Instead, we have governments who encourage childcare for even younger babies, so that Mums can go back to work ! Having and bringing up a child is a gift and huge responsibility. If parents spoke and treated their children like they do their bestest friend we would be on the right road, I feel. I’m glad you said there is a way out of the Doom as in my role I see so many broken people. I, because of Dr Matê, ask nearly all my patients, how are you doing, how is life in general. Thank you
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Oh man...to have him as my physician would probably get me to a cure!
These conversations should most certainly be taught and happening more often especially in education and medicine.. new parents need to hear this man speak. Read his books. Connect with each-other more for healing and unlearning what society has lied to us all about. Our society needs to awaken to the truth that we have strayed too far.
The very 1st question: the 34 year old is afraid of being a mom because of perpetuating the cycle she experienced as a child.
⚠️Warning⚠️
I was given the same advice: because I am on a healing path and asking the questions I will be ok.
For me it's not always ok. It's important to remember your children also pick you. It's important to witness your mistakes as a mother and the solutions. So yes, you will be ok. But if your experience is anything like mine, traumas sneak up, and triggers do happen. Give yourself the space to sit with those moments, do the healing, and let your kids witness you in your fullest! They learn more from your actions than your words.
There is no perfect outcome in life, just moments. My wish for you is to have more moments of pleasure with your kids than the moments of pain. 💓✨️☮️
This is such an amazing segment. You shed light on so many issues amidst our society that really should be being looked at. I am glad you said this; This is my first time listening to you but I have loved “Know Thyself” for a couple weeks now. Basically people need the information. My question for you is if you feel the problems need to be addressed before healing can occur? These things take time but speaking is the first step to recovery.
Thank you. I found this video imparted so much sense.
Our problems are multi-generational. When I meditate from the perspective of my early childhood all my senses hurt: sound hurts, light hurts, rough touch hurts, smell hurts, many foods taste foul, the emotions of others hurt. Youngsters eventually become more tolerant to the world; parents can, and are duty bound, to alleviate such discomfort.
I am not crying... you are. 😉🙏🏻 Thank you for this format and providing this special Q&A space for such profound and also impactful questions and answers. 💜 I appreciate it a lot. And I will let those answers sink in more deeply...
Thank you a lot, André! Also to the openess and vulnerablity of the audience and also for the shared wisdom and life experience from Gabor. 🦋 This Q&A session has been a very special one for me and I am grateful to be able to have witnessed it. Thank you @SorelleAmore for the recommendation & your moving question. 🦋💜
Do the work now. I’ve read Gabor for yrs but didn’t treat the trauma My breast had cancer that has now spread to the lung liver and bones. I knew I was lonely and isolated and felt myself getting really sick. Doctors thought it was something else . I knew it was cancer. There is no treatment but people have dug deep to heal the trauma and lived with the worst diagnosis. Gabor works with one of those very women who was told she wouldn’t live so she treated the old wounds doing hard work and now is still living.❤
❤ God Bless You ❤😇 😇 🙏 🙏 ❤
I remember looking at my mother in bed and realizing I did not matter…. I knew at 4 years old and it continued threw abuse by family members then onto growing up and marrying he abused me also. I am learning now at 68 I do so Matter, Thanks to folks like Gabor, Melanie Tonia Evens, Nick and Jessica Ortner that helped me know I do Matter.
Of course you do. We all are, but you have to define yourself every day again and again and do not believe to others how they treat you because that's their wound. Remember what happens to a $100 bill when you step on it, soak it wet, crumble it up, tear it half then tape it back, then chip it's corner! It will still worth $100.
How destinedly liberating when ALL faces make it in the room. Those who often need to hear the message are not being represented. I truly live and long for the moment in time when we are all free.
Thank you Dr. Gabor 💟🙏💟
Thank God for this man. We are so far away from adapting all this knowledge soon enough for this world to be a friendly place to me, but I have hope for my daughter’s generation.
Gabor gives people with big T validation which comes healing. Not sure how aware he is of the many people he has brought the validation to light just by his talks and books. Gabor's insights are what society needs to heal in today's world. May be all be gentle with ourselves. ❤
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This was so freaking powerful. Thank you for holding this platform. ❤❤❤❤
"A levity & voice, that emanates from experience - is so worth listening to."
"The most tender words.. come from the gut, grime, grit & glory -- of a life grasped in full."
"A dance of life fulfilled.. it is passion & grace, elevated over time & space."
"Prize progress -- over perfection. For maybe - it is the journey -- that matters most."
.. Gabor's advice to the woman worried about parenthood was heart warmingly embracing and priceless!!
~ Paul Jung
"What you are to be, you are now becoming." ~ Carl Rogers
“What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
"If the day and the night are such that you greet them with joy, and life emits a fragrance like flowers and sweet-scented herbs, is more elastic, more starry, more immortal - that is your success." ~ Henry David Thoreau
“I am seeking. I am striving. I am in it with all my heart.” ~ Vincent van Gogh
The guest selection for this podcast is amazing. Thank you for putting all the work in 🙏🏽 Another great conversation
As we become less stable emotionally and mentally by generation or even just by a few years, we ought to be careful in telling anyone what is traumatizing and what isn't. A group of people can experience the same event and come away with not just different memories but different experiences of it.
If highly sensitive people are more prone to trauma and there are no limits to levels of sensitivity, that indicates that any event can potentially be traumatic.
No, we aren't. That kind of trauma is what trauma is. Whining is not the same as trauma. And no,.being sensitive doesn't mean that you will traumatized. In fact, Dr Bruce Perry, a child psychiatrist and trauma expert, says "the earlier children experience adversity, the more impact it will have". The younger children are, the more sensitive they are. He also says that emotional attachment is what protects people from trauma. Those with strong emotional bonds fare better, always. So this isn't about people being too sensitive, it's about a world that is becoming more disconnected, which makes us prone to trauma. Don't worry about sensitive people, or about people being tricked into thinking they're traumatized. Make sure people have emotional connections, are allowed to freely express themselves at the same time. That way, we won't have traumatized people. Any good trauma therapist will tell, having healthy attachments and authentic expression, is what heals traumas not 45 min of therapy per week.
"that kind of trauma isn't what trauma is"*
@@alvodin6197 It looks like you may have misinterpreted my expressions.
Of course sensitivity doesn't bring about trauma, events and interpretation do.
Practicing community is essential, but a person with no understanding of it or trust of it, needs help before jumping in the deep end.
Only my experience.
I'm also not sure why I'm worried about anyone being tricked into anything? Probably this format lacks depth.
Some events i.e. witnessing a murder is traumatizing to every human that watches this event occur. Different ppl may express i.e act out, their reaction to the trauma in different ways, but they all definitely have been traumatized.
@@Saoirse-xt7mi I respectfully disagree. A person who is deeply rooted in their sense of purpose and place in life will be upset temporarily by a murder but not disrupted by it. Think of wars and police. Also, if a person already has unhealthy views of life, no respect for it, witnessing murder has little effect on them.
Trauma is personal and relative to the state of mind.
More than 2000 years ago, Socrates said that the task of living is ultimately to "know thy self". Dr. Gabor Mate is as close as you could get to a Socratic figure of the modern world. What he is saying are more liberating than all the wars that Idiots of today have unwittingly initiated that only caused human suffering.
"Above fray & fracas, to thy own self, above all, be true." ~ Paul Jung
Remember how Socrates ended 🔥😱🔥
wow dr gabor mate .. INFJ have the gift to experience all this .. but sir you are above an infj .. you could explain these skills for the world to heal .. you will always be in our hearts & tqvm sir
Brilliant questions by Andre for the brilliant Gabor Mate. Thank You!
I would love to start a new society using all of Dr. Gabor Wate insights, I wonder who I might have been having known all that he is teaching me. 63 years to late.
no two children have the same parents, experiences, life - even if they are a twin. I learned this - this year.
I have healed through the Pesso-Boyden method and other therapies.
Gabor is absolutely right and I love to see more content on us reconnecting to our own purity.
i love focusing on Gabor speaking, so many things learned as a psychologist myself. Thank you for making this video possible Andre.
this is so crazym , at 29:00, in my family we never ignored the other for trowing tantruns as young people and I never really understood how my parents could do it. thanks mom for not raising a traumatized kid and not make us fight for love (btw we are awesome to our parents now in our 30-40s).
It’s absolutely stunning how much wistom and knowledge is in this video… not enough words to express my appreciation and gratitude for everything that Gabor shares 🙏 thank you thank you thank you. It’s totally transformative
Thank you Gabor Mate , just listening to you is healing.
Gabor Mate is the GOAT and every adult needs hear these facts
Wonderful descriptions of how trauma develops and works. But I'd like to know more about how it heels? 2:01:30
Amazing interview and questions, super insightful and helpful for someone who is studying to become a therapist. Much appreciations to all who put this together as well as the brave audience members who asked questions.
Great analogy with the tap on the shoulder with pain compared to tapping on a burn & the severity of different levels of pain!
Love this thank you 🙏🏻
(I’ve had a Gabor Healing binge Saturday.
Been so Good. 😍
Thank you for your work & to all for this podcast! 😇❤️🩹☯️☮️
Fascinating interview. Having taught Football (Soccer) to young children 30 years its incredible that Adults expect young children to be like well behaved adults.. Some parents fail to understand that these young people are learning, will make mistakes and experience the full range of emotions. As a Coach i have learnt to love the chaos of running bots football teams and try not to be a control freak, but let children to experience and be a consequence of their actiobscwhilst supportibg them to understand what is like to be part of a team that will win and fail. But, we will stay together and enjoy the highs and lows..
Thank you guys for making this info possible for us, there could be no way for me to access this kind of help....thank you doctor Gabor mate, I really appreciate you and your lifelong studies. It has helped me immensely ..... thank you guys very much
Absolute life changing talk here. Thank you André & Gabor, wow... will be rewatching!!
I happy as a young man I’m able to find this man before venturing into parenthood
This man is a genius!!
Such an important and impactful Message and I am so grateful that you are bringing it to us. The understanding and compassion that comes through you now could only exist because you came through the gauntlet of trauma to awareness and healing. The work is when we become aware of it and become more compassionate with ourselves and others.
You and Tara Brach ( of whom I am a long time fan) have brought this wonderful much needed RAIN to us thank you.
Yep, yep, society is a stress trap. Normal is wrong. We are far from civilisation. For civilisation to start we must have; Free food, proper education, housing and medicine, and finally total care and respect for the elderly. 😊
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Amazing, thank you so much for this. Yes, when we think of these conditions like that, it's not our fault or anybody else's, the healing is much more compassionate, I hope when I wake up tomorrow to remember that, but I am very concerned about what I am seeing. We need to work together not compete with each other, God bless you all.
Everything he talks about, especially making the unconscious conscious is the core of hypnotherapy and NLP work. You don't need years of talk therapy, or even psychedelics to change your mind. Change can happen with a good practitioner more quickly than you think.
dr Gabour is gift to humanity ❤
Such an amazing talk. Thank you for sharing and Dr. Mate for his wisdom 😊🙏
Gabor Mate. A world treasure.
Wow, thank you SO much for this amazing podcast.
btw - love all the words of this man so much that I can't even make a compliment so THANK YOU for existing
I've been going through these things and integrating my experiences for ~3 years and this still makes me cry. Meets not being met. Still carry that and it won't change either, just have to see the effect and work with it consciously 🧡
Thank you so much for this incredible live interview. I love this new format and it was so beautiful to have Gabor`s wisdom paired with so many of your former podcast guests in the space. Thank you André for all the love you pour into your work!
Wonderful descriptions of how trauma develops and works. But I'd like to know more about how it heels?
yes i do agree trauma is a lot deal with toxic homes. It's not easy to heal but anything is possible. I think these are great words of wisdom. As someone that had a best friend that was a clinical psychologist. I knew the old habits that I would fall into. Having adhd change my perspective of how I view my relationships and what it cost me. I am now on my healing journey after years of therapy dealing with a dysfunctional home. This comes so close to home. Like dr phil always say "we can't change what we don't acknowledge." I am studying in healthcare administration right now I see and study all these things that are so interesting that i never knew before. Psychology was always apart of me. a lot of successful people have trauma. it applies to everyone that has a toxic household i have seen. Facts are that people have the inability to be heard or seen.
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ripping shots from the sky lets go baby thank you, been utilizing your efforts across platforms its hitting hard
Love this man, can't wait to see this 😍
I spent my whole childhood away from my family in care from a baby in schools aftercare. I only had my dog as a friend but they kept removing my pets too. I felt alone cold waging school at age 6. The sadness and the
Loneliness is still vivid in my mind
So many insights and in that very welcome, soothing Maté voice, too. One tiny point on animals. Troop primates are frequently abusive as parents, too - and can allow abuse of their own offspring by others, usually further up the hierarchy. Orang Utan far less so, as they are naturally solitary with no troop politics to deal with (they only group in human-created environments).
Humble wisdom thank you.
Thank you both for this insight, transforming, helpful and hopeful session. Dr Gabor you are a blessing to the human race, thank you for insight, experiences, knowledge, wisdom and encouragement 🙏
"When you are caught up in this - you do not know it" This.
This deserves more views
Thankyou I feel like someone finally innerstands my mom would love on the boys and hate on me the only girl starting at a young age I’ve had to nurture myself and start taking care of me so I don’t end up going down a certain path
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I really enjoyed this session Gabor has taught me a lot from this video and it reminded me why I'm going to college in the psychological field I love learning about this! The only thing that bothered me was Andre idk why but I feel like he wasn't fully present like everyone else like he was somewhere else.. This is the first video I've watched of his I usually don't watch his videos I watch Blu videos more but since he had Gabor I wanted to watch his video. As an empath and observer I can tell Andre is not all there. Why is that?
Revered guest ... nervous to be found out. Internally struggling still to not be judged. Said as another empath. He will be fine. Learning still. Like us all. ❤
Scorpio male ♏️ sentativity BAM! SOMETHING I COULDN'T SAY IN 3 YEARS,AND THIS GENIUS IN 3 SECONDS ONE WORD!