I reached a whole new level of maturity when I felt turned off by a man who will put more effort into an apology than they will put into behavior that doesn't require one.
Never let a man disrespect you. If he’ll do it once, he’ll do it over and over again. Been through it twice, and married them both🤦🏽♀️. It’s no joke. Now I’m free and trying to encourage other ladies. Thank you Tony.
True. If he immature with 41 he will always be, or the cheater..this women should have self respect and her ex is crazy, selfish manipulator, pribably frustrated who get the attention with her
That’s her chance to get her dignity back and move on. I’ve learned men come back to TEST you, not because they realized they actually love you 🙄 Block him and move on. That’s the best payback you can give a man who hurt you. 😘
My ex/son father did that to me, after he was done he went to sit on the sofa , saying he was sorry I went into the bathroom call 911, he when to jail that night ladies please don’t allow a man to put hands on you!!!
I have a younger co-worker and I pass on these lessons to her. If I can help another woman not waste her precious years with the wrong one then I will not feel like my suffering was in vain.
My mother was abu....d all of her marriage. She always fell for the "I don't remember beating you" because he was a paranoid schizophrenic. My father has been dead since 2010, but we are all still suffering. If you are with an abu.....ve man. Please leave. Don't stay "for the children". You are hurting them by staying. I'm 49 and my mother is 81. She's at the end of her life and we are still, still talking about the consequences of her choosing to stay. At 9 years old my father put a gun in my hand to teach me how to shoot. Let me tell you, I thought really hard. And I'm sure that my father saw that because he took the gun back. If you ever want sanity in your life. Run. Run. Run!
"You know Im from the streets, you know how I was raised, you know how I was abused by my daddy and by my momma.. so its like whenever you do that I just see RED!!! Alright Im finna give you another color to see with that red, throw some BLUE in there.." OH my goodness, I know he is serious and its a real topic, but I am cracking up on at least one line per each video!! How does he do this? Best channel on RUclips by far!
She just need to change her number, block him on all social media and get a restraining order against the sucker. Just to show him she is serious about not wanting him in her life. If she doesn't, he will continue and will get worse!!! Trust me!!
It shouldn't even have gotten past him texting other women. She stayed too long in the foolishness. I honestly recommend women getting some kind of weapon to protect themselves with. Stories like this are too common and they have gone way worse. Don't let no man lay hands on you and get away with it. CALL THE POLICE! And/or defend yourself with a weapon. Your life is precious. Him rotting in jail is better than you dying or ending up in the hospital.
Woman of my own heart! I never allow a man to raise his voice at me! I tell them in the exact tone your wife did! 'Never ever you raise your voice at me!' I'm called a 'no nonsense' woman! Lady, know your worth! As TG said, 'he's gotta go!'.
I've known plenty of bi-polar people in my lifetime. They can be some of the nicest, honest, and most loyal people I've ever met. But trust me, if they are using their bi-polar as a reason for the attitude/laying on of hands they do (if they do), then RUN! Anyone who uses their mental health diagnosis as a shield, or an excuse to be sh*tty to other people is using it in place of self reflection and accountability.
From personal experience, I can wholeheartedly assert that what Tony is saying is 100% accurate. Had I called the police the first time, there wouldn't have been a second, and surely wouldn't have been a third time. Each time escalated exponentially. I'm alive today because of the grace of God, and them boys in blue.
Any woman that deals with this type of abuse leave! It gets worse or even death. Like Eve say Love is blind. I lost a family member to physical abuse. God rest her soul.
Sis, he's sounds like he's getting to the point where if "HE CAN'T HAVE YOU, NO ONE CAN HAVE YOU"! Don't want you to be the top 10:00 o'clock news story.
This simple and yet complex line almost brought me to tears. Wow..I am super hard on myself and very forgiving with others. Im changing that today. I deserve my best. Ima get a life coach session in to get back to myself
Awesome point. Men are not dumb, just do bad things to you if you allow them to. Don't allow it period. You are never in need of a man who is an abuser or user.
Please, please do not give him another chance. His accusations will only get crazier. Yesterday my friend told me her ex husband accused her of cheating. .why? Because the big gold name plate fell off her Marc Jacob's bag and her husband thought it was a man's work badge. He was angry and wanted to know who Marc Jacob's was!
Whew I been through that every single day when I was in my 20s. He is definitely crazy sis. Never answer his calls and block all the numbers he’s calling from and don’t go back because he will NEVER change.
We put ourselves through some “stuff” when we don’t know our worth. I hope she is doing much better. I also hope that she was able to leave him all the way alone. Thank you and be blessed everyone.
Every since I've been listening to Uncle Tony, I stand on what I say.. example.. I had a boyfriend. We were only together for a month. He started not keeping his word, by saying "he'll call and don't " I addressed it . Then a week later , I returned his phone call. He never called back for a 1day 1/2. So.. I broke up with him. Told him "i communicated this was unacceptable. " I communicated calm, cool and collected but stern. I kindly left him and I walked away. And.. I'm sure he will try to get back.
I must ask, why is it so important in this era to air your entire life story on social media 🤔... I am anti FB and social media because I know what FB was created for and whom. ... I am with Tony, folks start living your life, 😷 up, and detox from social media.
I just cut this guy off that I was dating for 3 weeks. He would call and text me literally every 2 hours..and if I didn't pick up he would call me every five minutes. So I got fed up and told him off. Haven't heard from him since. I think I avoided an abusive relationship. He would also make comments about what I was wearing and such.. he made my spirit so unsettled.....listen to your gut ladies
You think he's playing. It's just a joke or he is stressed out. Girl he ain't playing, he testing your boundaries and you better have them and address it right away. If he steps out of line with your "hard zero tolerance" leave him with no notice given. I left a guy after 1 month and another guy after 7 years. They knew my basic rules of respect and thought I would stick around?? I never looked back. GOT TO GO!!!!!
I left one. He tried to keep me hostage in his apt. I slipped out when he fell asleep. By the grace of God I never game him my address. Never answered his calls. He never heard from me again.
I DON'T LET MY KIDS HORSE PLAY PERIOD! OR LET THEM HORSE PLAY WIT ANYONE, PPL GET MAD & THAT PLAYING TURNS INTO FIGHTING , TURNS INTO KILLING! DON'T LET PPL PLAY WIT U PERIOD!
Whew wee, sis take it from Tony and me! run and never look back! He’s speaking the truth they will take our lives, don’t play with it. I’m glad you relocated!
I needed to hear this message today. I recently reached out to have an "Empty Chair" conversation (as my therapist calls it lol) with an abusive ex via email. I changed my phone number and combed through my social media accounts so he wouldn't have access. But that email opened up the gates of hell and he lashed out. I dropped back off the face of the Earth. He also noticed that my number was changed and tried to play it cool as if I'd come back because, well, I kinda did lol. Thanks for this message. I'm grateful to be in a much more stable and prosperous place, I needed this as a reminder that the situation I was in before was very dangerous and my closure can be found without his approval.
I have one thing to say. This conversation is for both men and women. I see this BEHAVIOR in a lot of people. Abuse is not ok towards your spouse. Not even towards your children. Buy some gym equipment and work it out. Violence is for the enemy. What are we fighting for anyways. The real fight in not between each other. Take it to the streets and let's fix the block. Love these topics! If you are single, practice celibacy~:-)... Peace, and LOVE!
I love this Tony.I just told my Husband, that I am done. I want out 10/12 years.his emotional cheating is the worse ...he is a narcissists.he loves to gaslight me always.we argue over the most stupidest things.dont know what going on with him, but at this point I don't care.I rather have peace, than all the stress-( no more) bp 187/126 hurting daily .changing locks and moving on.
@@PersonalGrowthUniversity Pepper spray is great! Also look into some small, inconspicuous defense items like knives. Amazon is a great place to start! Also look into taking a course on firearms so that you eventually feel comfortable getting a gun (or two 😉)!
@@PeaceBeStill- thanks girl! My mom just took a firearms course but I don’t live with her so I think I’ll take it too a little nerve wracking but you’re absolutely right!
I'm so thankful that you talk about important topics and inform women how men deliberately abuse! I wish someone had told me what you're saying years ago. Better late than never! I'm a 21 year survivor of domestic violence! Keep telling the Truth Tony!!! God bless you and your lovely wife! This is happening too often!
So many people ask me why I haven’t met anyone online and this is why! I’m almost 29 years old. I’ll just wait til the world opens back up again. Or Apostle Paulina!
I still have flash backs after 6 years. It gets better as long as you start to become aware of your triggers. Find a local domestic violence center they have meetings and like minded people and people that can guide you through forgiveness and letting go!! So sorry you went through it but there’s tons of women just like you in the same situations. You are not alone 💙
Im so glad Tony spoke on emotional cheating. It's real, and can hurt worse than physical infidelity. Some "grown boys", don't want to acknowledge this fact.
Block him and move on..hes toxic and will bring you down. I went through something similar as my ex pushed me in public because I broke up with him due to him cheating. He saw me out at a lounge and I didn't pay attention to him. So he decided to make a fiasco, in public, by cursing me out and pushing me. All because he was in the wrong. He was a demon, toxic and tried to pull me down througout our two year relationship. Im glad he is out of my life.
I am glad to say that I have watched enough of your videos to know what your suggestion is going to be. I really apply your lessons to my life and I have been succeeding in all aspects of my life spiritually, mentally, health-wise, career-wise, relationships and I could really keep going. Thank you Tony!!! Sometimes your truths are hard to swallow but it’s what is needed in my life right now. Thank you again!!
Hey Tony, I've been listening to your wisdom ALL day (your videos are my confirmation). Looking forward to the last 2021 group call tonight. Be blessed 🙏🏾
‘A man can’t put his hands on you and love you!’ He definitely hates himself and the woman is soooo true and is quite dangerous! Domestic violence often starts as something ‘playful’. Many of these relationships end with women abused physically, sexually, emotionally, spiritually, neglected and / or DEAD! And God forbid, if children are involved. I know. I saw the devastation. Friends of mine experienced this violent behavior. I volunteered at a women and children’s justice agency to assist those affected by domestic violence by an intimate partner. According to a CDC report I read, approximately 5,000,000 domestic abuse / violence cases were documented in 2020. Three million of this number involved men. These numbers only refer to the reported cases. Ladies please take heed of Tony Gaskins’ message to keep yourself and the children safe.
My mistake was letting my girlfriend keep her male friends, she let him text her boo/love which I confronted her about after I seen that. She told me it was because that’s how they talked to her when she worked at a bar where she was from. The 2nd issue was that she was on the phone at 2am while I was laying down sleep in her bed. I woke up to use the bathroom heard her talking from the Bluetooth speakers in her car. I texted her and she was like I’m talking to my friend because I was sleeping. I should have just left, but I stay there like a fool. We had an argument over that I explained to her that was way out of bounds. Thought we resolved it then a few weeks later she brought him up telling me about a conversation they had. I was fed up and got on Instagram message a girlfriend from the past gave her my number texted for two days until my ex seen it and got upset, which was my plan because I needed to see her reaction. She was upset. I told that she had to make a choice to go with what was my valuable my relationship with her or her friendship with him. She chose him at the end.
So sorry to hear ... please take care of yourself.... I am a woman and experienced that with my ex ... go on with your life and be happy ... no need to play games ...
And all these years I was taught that a woman should be available anytime for intimate moments.....its nice to hear a grown man especially a husband say that its on his wife's terms.
I tell you what men that put there hands on women are cowards I learned through my kids daddy I was young he was alot older so he took advantage of me straight out of highschool. He used to choke me push me off the bed while I was pregnant spit in my face and pulled guns on me while pregnant I got tired one day and gave him a piece of his own medicine he hit me for the last time and I fought him back beating the hell out of him. He never put his hands on me again and I took my kids while they was still babies and left till this day he is homeless on the street and on drugs he is reaping everything that he put me through I was 18 and I’m now 35 stay strong heal and move on it definitely gets better my kids don’t want anything to do with him and when somebody mentioned his name I say WHO????! Lol I don’t know him anymore so keep your head up and stay strong sis.
Women need to have boundaries & standards & discernment...more logic & less emotion. Know how to recognize disrespect; remove yourself from the situation & shut down the relationship...walk away...wrong is wrong! Correct, a woman can't change a man. He showed you who he was, now it's time for you to bounce!
I didn't watch this video yet tony but I just automatically wanted 2 chime in and just let you know I admire you 4 your honesty and using your gift that God gave you to help instruct and educate us women not just even black women BUT US WOMEN OF ALL RACES 😇❤❤❤💯🙌🙌🙌🤝💪💪💪i got a glimpse of da video and said 2 myself he made another video 4 me to watch i believe EVERYTHING HAPPENS 4 A REASON,,,so MY intuition as I'm becoming more intuitive with myself that I congratulate you and let you no you are appreciated cuz its not alot of us that are aware of the GIFTS we carry 2 severe our purpose here,, non da less do ppl just compliment other ppl anymore outside of being negative ,,, Thank you
Bro Tony hopefully this young lady has not gone back to this man that's putting hands on her and I pray that she put her track shoes on and have ran as far as she can go and never look back. Your message to her is 💯 truth.
TG..Thank you for this message, you're messages are always right on time in my life. Thank you again. Stay Blessed TG! many Blessings to You, "The Queen" and your Precious Children.
Hello Tony , I was in a similar situation but I am still with him for the sake of our children. We have 3 boys under the age of 9. We are constantly arguing about types of stuff. I do pray and forgive but the devil must be using him against me. I have been there and done that. I love watching your videos. They are very informative . I have learn some much from you and I wanted to stay thank you . I am so happy that I have found your page. Your page is such a blessing. God bless you ....
You say a similar situation I pray he's not throwing hands on you cause you're only teaching your boys how to treat a woman! If its a unhealthy toxic situation why would you stay for the sake of your boys you need to be leaving for the sake of your boys you can do it🙏💜
Children need a safe environment staying for the sake of the children is an excuse us women make when we are trying to rationalise our timidity/fear at leaving. I'm not judging you but I've been there your peace of mind and safety is more important than keeping up appearances.
I used to feel like I should stay because of my son and also the what if he will change and some other woman benefits. Not no more. My son IS my reason to leave. I want him to grow up in a healthy and loving environment. I want him to know right from wrong and how to handle conflict, treat a woman and effective communication. Also, I DON'T care about the next woman, because I only care about me making myself happy and the best that I can be for my son. 2021 will be a fresh start for me. I am planning and saving for that big move in August. You can do it.
The moment she says he put his hands around her neck, that was the end and the end FOREVER!!! How many women have taken back such a man only to have their lives end for real! :/
Hi Tony thank you always for your vlogs they have helped me so much. I remember watching you when you were on Oprah years ago OMG there is truly a God 😊. Stay Blessed and Stay Safe Always.
I was so nice when I first when I met my husband 13 years ago. I was 21 and hw was 34. I was quiet & shy but once I started to speak up for myself he would say that your mother telling you what to say. Now that I am 33 and he is 46. he got worst as the time went forward. I cant tolerate it no more but yet he act nice the next morning like two faced or something ? Taking about don't leave me .... I love you we marriage now divorce is not an option.....
You better stack your money slowly and surely, take care of yourself, move in silence and don't tell your scape to nobody (not even family). And when you think that you got everything that you want to move, just move when he is at work, change your number, emails all!!!! Don't stay unhappy with a man like that, you are young to find another man that treats you like a Queen you are!!!!
I reached a whole new level of maturity when I felt turned off by a man who will put more effort into an apology than they will put into behavior that doesn't require one.
this is the one!
This!!!!!!!
Preach
If a man throwing hands, them same hands he thrown at me, is getting cuffed 15mins later.
I ain't playing that.
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Amen👮🚨
If you make it. To make that call
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For battered women...the blossom of the god we serve. I choose life
Yes ma’am!!
Cuffed!!! God WILL NOT allow "if" with His daughters. Abuse is not acceptable and every person has the power not to accept it.
Never let a man disrespect you. If he’ll do it once, he’ll do it over and over again. Been through it twice, and married them both🤦🏽♀️. It’s no joke. Now I’m free and trying to encourage other ladies. Thank you Tony.
Are you sure you not me....omg this my story....FREE 2
True. If he immature with 41 he will always be, or the cheater..this women should have self respect and her ex is crazy, selfish manipulator, pribably frustrated who get the attention with her
God bless you
That’s her chance to get her dignity back and move on. I’ve learned men come back to TEST you, not because they realized they actually love you 🙄 Block him and move on. That’s the best payback you can give a man who hurt you. 😘
Yes..Tony has said this before...
Amen..so true!
I agree!
Period
I agree but also to test themselves too, to see what they can do, what games they can play
"All I saw is red"
"Well now you bout to see blue" 😄😄😄
😂😂😂😂😂 IM WEAK
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Yes, that was funny
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I’m a minute in & already I hear Tony saying “ Yea you Got to Go .. You hear meeeeah! Nawh gone bout your business!”🤣🤣🤣
@@AndreiFantastic he never disappoints girl !! I love it.. he said “ you realize that hold was a lil strong “ 😩
Lml!!!
Yes and I need allattt in a shirt ASAP lol
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Point blank periyood!
“Men can be crazy and change but not with you.” TG
I felt that!
Hello!!! 🔥🔥🔥
True!
YES!!!!
When a person show you the other side trust them. Sister that was just a warning. Walk away and don't look back
My ex/son father did that to me, after he was done he went to sit on the sofa , saying he was sorry I went into the bathroom call 911, he when to jail that night ladies please don’t allow a man to put hands on you!!!
Omg!
Did you press charges?
I did, but end up dropping it, he was born in Jamaica
@@dayciajtalk88 Glad you are well. I pray you are able to love again sis
I have a younger co-worker and I pass on these lessons to her. If I can help another woman not waste her precious years with the wrong one then I will not feel like my suffering was in vain.
My mother was abu....d all of her marriage. She always fell for the "I don't remember beating you" because he was a paranoid schizophrenic. My father has been dead since 2010, but we are all still suffering. If you are with an abu.....ve man. Please leave. Don't stay "for the children". You are hurting them by staying. I'm 49 and my mother is 81. She's at the end of her life and we are still, still talking about the consequences of her choosing to stay. At 9 years old my father put a gun in my hand to teach me how to shoot. Let me tell you, I thought really hard. And I'm sure that my father saw that because he took the gun back. If you ever want sanity in your life. Run. Run. Run!
Abusers go through a honeymoon phase and beg partners back and promise not to do it again. Women have died from going back into abusive relationship.
He showed you who he was!! Move on! He’s abusive!!
Amen, ikr he sure did showed her who he was
She better believe him!
"You know Im from the streets, you know how I was raised, you know how I was abused by my daddy and by my momma.. so its like whenever you do that I just see RED!!! Alright Im finna give you another color to see with that red, throw some BLUE in there.."
OH my goodness, I know he is serious and its a real topic, but I am cracking up on at least one line per each video!! How does he do this? Best channel on RUclips by far!
She just need to change her number, block him on all social media and get a restraining order against the sucker. Just to show him she is serious about not wanting him in her life. If she doesn't, he will continue and will get worse!!! Trust me!!
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It shouldn't even have gotten past him texting other women. She stayed too long in the foolishness.
I honestly recommend women getting some kind of weapon to protect themselves with. Stories like this are too common and they have gone way worse.
Don't let no man lay hands on you and get away with it. CALL THE POLICE! And/or defend yourself with a weapon. Your life is precious. Him rotting in jail is better than you dying or ending up in the hospital.
Woman of my own heart! I never allow a man to raise his voice at me! I tell them in the exact tone your wife did! 'Never ever you raise your voice at me!' I'm called a 'no nonsense' woman! Lady, know your worth! As TG said, 'he's gotta go!'.
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Take that bass out your voice when you call my name. Right in front of his friends. Stop s... when it starts.
I've known plenty of bi-polar people in my lifetime. They can be some of the nicest, honest, and most loyal people I've ever met. But trust me, if they are using their bi-polar as a reason for the attitude/laying on of hands they do (if they do), then RUN!
Anyone who uses their mental health diagnosis as a shield, or an excuse to be sh*tty to other people is using it in place of self reflection and accountability.
TRUTH
From personal experience, I can wholeheartedly assert that what Tony is saying is 100% accurate. Had I called the police the first time, there wouldn't have been a second, and surely wouldn't have been a third time. Each time escalated exponentially. I'm alive today because of the grace of God, and them boys in blue.
God bless you, beautiful. I'm so happy you're alive. Your choice to share just saved my life too. Xoxo Thank you.
Tony, I watch you so much, my three year old daughter asked, "Why you not wearing a hat?" 😂😂😂😂
Lol. Got a haircut. Gotta get some use out of it for a few days before this hairline come off.
Any woman that deals with this type of abuse leave! It gets worse or even death. Like Eve say Love is blind. I lost a family member to physical abuse. God rest her soul.
Sis, he's sounds like he's getting to the point where if "HE CAN'T HAVE YOU, NO ONE CAN HAVE YOU"! Don't want you to be the top 10:00 o'clock news story.
Give yourself the same energy, time, grace and love that you've extended to the non-deserving men of your past💯
Blessings tribe ✨
This simple and yet complex line almost brought me to tears. Wow..I am super hard on myself and very forgiving with others. Im changing that today. I deserve my best. Ima get a life coach session in to get back to myself
@@queenofpurpose7382 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Amen sis🤎
Forget that narcissistic man...you and any woman deserves better!
Awesome point. Men are not dumb, just do bad things to you if you allow them to. Don't allow it period. You are never in need of a man who is an abuser or user.
Please, please do not give him another chance. His accusations will only get crazier. Yesterday my friend told me her ex husband accused her of cheating. .why? Because the big gold name plate fell off her Marc Jacob's bag and her husband thought it was a man's work badge. He was angry and wanted to know who Marc Jacob's was!
Wow
Really??? Lord I'm stay single FOREVER
@@LA-wv7gf Exactly! Projection
Lol....sorry but this is funny😂
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Whew I been through that every single day when I was in my 20s. He is definitely crazy sis. Never answer his calls and block all the numbers he’s calling from and don’t go back because he will NEVER change.
Dont go back! He will not change!!!
We put ourselves through some “stuff” when we don’t know our worth. I hope she is doing much better. I also hope that she was able to leave him all the way alone. Thank you and be blessed everyone.
Every since I've been listening to Uncle Tony, I stand on what I say.. example..
I had a boyfriend. We were only together for a month. He started not keeping his word, by saying "he'll call and don't " I addressed it . Then a week later , I returned his phone call. He never called back for a 1day 1/2.
So.. I broke up with him. Told him "i communicated this was unacceptable. " I communicated calm, cool and collected but stern. I kindly left him and I walked away. And.. I'm sure he will try to get back.
He was definitely playing games! You did good!
I must ask, why is it so important in this era to air your entire life story on social media 🤔... I am anti FB and social media because I know what FB was created for and whom. ... I am with Tony, folks start living your life, 😷 up, and detox from social media.
I just cut this guy off that I was dating for 3 weeks. He would call and text me literally every 2 hours..and if I didn't pick up he would call me every five minutes. So I got fed up and told him off. Haven't heard from him since. I think I avoided an abusive relationship. He would also make comments about what I was wearing and such.. he made my spirit so unsettled.....listen to your gut ladies
You think he's playing. It's just a joke or he is stressed out. Girl he ain't playing, he testing your boundaries and you better have them and address it right away. If he steps out of line with your "hard zero tolerance" leave him with no notice given. I left a guy after 1 month and another guy after 7 years. They knew my basic rules of respect and thought I would stick around?? I never looked back. GOT TO GO!!!!!
Exactly!
I left one. He tried to keep me hostage in his apt. I slipped out when he fell asleep. By the grace of God I never game him my address. Never answered his calls. He never heard from me again.
I’m here for my daily lesson Blessings Tony!
I DON'T LET MY KIDS HORSE PLAY PERIOD! OR LET THEM HORSE PLAY WIT ANYONE, PPL GET MAD & THAT PLAYING TURNS INTO FIGHTING , TURNS INTO KILLING! DON'T LET PPL PLAY WIT U PERIOD!
Whew wee, sis take it from Tony and me! run and never look back! He’s speaking the truth they will take our lives, don’t play with it. I’m glad you relocated!
Ladies, listen to every single word this man says and learn. This situation is no joke!! God bless you Tony.
I needed to hear this message today. I recently reached out to have an "Empty Chair" conversation (as my therapist calls it lol) with an abusive ex via email. I changed my phone number and combed through my social media accounts so he wouldn't have access. But that email opened up the gates of hell and he lashed out. I dropped back off the face of the Earth. He also noticed that my number was changed and tried to play it cool as if I'd come back because, well, I kinda did lol. Thanks for this message. I'm grateful to be in a much more stable and prosperous place, I needed this as a reminder that the situation I was in before was very dangerous and my closure can be found without his approval.
" I saw red" well I'm about to show you another color blue! 🤣🤣 Tony is hilarious. Speaking facts!
I finally signed up for self love course.
I have one thing to say. This conversation is for both men and women. I see this BEHAVIOR in a lot of people. Abuse is not ok towards your spouse. Not even towards your children. Buy some gym equipment and work it out. Violence is for the enemy. What are we fighting for anyways. The real fight in not between each other. Take it to the streets and let's fix the block. Love these topics! If you are single, practice celibacy~:-)... Peace, and LOVE!
🤳 BLOCKED !!!
Girl blocked mine too it still let him call and leave a vm but at least I didnt hear it ringing I've also blocked him on social media
I love this Tony.I just told my Husband, that I am done. I want out 10/12 years.his emotional cheating is the worse ...he is a narcissists.he loves to gaslight me always.we argue over the most stupidest things.dont know what going on with him, but at this point I don't care.I rather have peace, than all the stress-( no more) bp 187/126 hurting daily .changing locks and moving on.
Don’t wait another day.. your peace & sanity is priceless..
@@bigflyness17 - thanks so much God bless
Yes, run girl. Life is too short 💕🙏🏽
@@dawnramsey9574 - thank you
Sending a spirit of strength and positive energy your way 🙏🏽...packing up after 16 years myself 😔
Tony is right, domestic violence is not nothing to play with, call the police the first time it happens and never go back.
If a man put his hands around my neck is going to jail that same moment so he better run bc the cops are coming
Always keep a weapon in your car and home 😉
@@PeaceBeStill- any suggestions? I have pepper spray
@@PersonalGrowthUniversity Pepper spray is great! Also look into some small, inconspicuous defense items like knives. Amazon is a great place to start! Also look into taking a course on firearms so that you eventually feel comfortable getting a gun (or two 😉)!
@@PeaceBeStill- thanks girl! My mom just took a firearms course but I don’t live with her so I think I’ll take it too a little nerve wracking but you’re absolutely right!
@@PersonalGrowthUniversity Yes! I'm trying to work myself up to the courses too! More women should! ✊🏾 God bless! 😇
I'm so thankful that you talk about important topics and inform women how men deliberately abuse! I wish someone had told me what you're saying years ago. Better late than never! I'm
a 21 year survivor of domestic violence!
Keep telling the Truth Tony!!! God bless you and your lovely wife! This is happening too often!
God bless you. 💐
So many people ask me why I haven’t met anyone online and this is why! I’m almost 29 years old. I’ll just wait til the world opens back up again. Or Apostle Paulina!
This is man telling nothing but the truth
Restraining order. Periodt.
I still have flash backs after 6 years. It gets better as long as you start to become aware of your triggers. Find a local domestic violence center they have meetings and like minded people and people that can guide you through forgiveness and letting go!! So sorry you went through it but there’s tons of women just like you in the same situations. You are not alone 💙
Im so glad Tony spoke on emotional cheating. It's real, and can hurt worse than physical infidelity. Some "grown boys", don't want to acknowledge this fact.
It’s true it’s starts with verbal disrespect then a push then a slap. I put on my track shoes. I stayed too long!!
Block him and move on..hes toxic and will bring you down.
I went through something similar as my ex pushed me in public because I broke up with him due to him cheating. He saw me out at a lounge and I didn't pay attention to him. So he decided to make a fiasco, in public, by cursing me out and pushing me. All because he was in the wrong. He was a demon, toxic and tried to pull me down througout our two year relationship. Im glad he is out of my life.
She did right by leaving him alone the first time. I pray she never goes back.
I am glad to say that I have watched enough of your videos to know what your suggestion is going to be. I really apply your lessons to my life and I have been succeeding in all aspects of my life spiritually, mentally, health-wise, career-wise, relationships and I could really keep going. Thank you Tony!!! Sometimes your truths are hard to swallow but it’s what is needed in my life right now. Thank you again!!
Hey Tony, I've been listening to your wisdom ALL day (your videos are my confirmation). Looking forward to the last 2021 group call tonight. Be blessed 🙏🏾
I used to work in a group home and them throwing hands is REAL!!!
You always make me laugh!!! The dialing though 🤣 I need more laughter in my life during these serious sad times I’m going through. Thank you!
‘A man can’t put his hands on you and love you!’ He definitely hates himself and the woman is soooo true and is quite dangerous!
Domestic violence often starts as something ‘playful’. Many of these relationships end with women abused physically, sexually, emotionally, spiritually, neglected and / or DEAD! And God forbid, if children are involved.
I know. I saw the devastation. Friends of mine experienced this violent behavior. I volunteered at a women and children’s justice agency to assist those affected by domestic violence by an intimate partner. According to a CDC report I read, approximately 5,000,000 domestic abuse / violence cases were documented in 2020. Three million of this number involved men. These numbers only refer to the reported cases. Ladies please take heed of Tony Gaskins’ message to keep yourself and the children safe.
Thank you for your time in making your videos i don’t go a day without watching at least 2 of your videos
Please leave! He do not love you!
My mistake was letting my girlfriend keep her male friends, she let him text her boo/love which I confronted her about after I seen that. She told me it was because that’s how they talked to her when she worked at a bar where she was from. The 2nd issue was that she was on the phone at 2am while I was laying down sleep in her bed. I woke up to use the bathroom heard her talking from the Bluetooth speakers in her car. I texted her and she was like I’m talking to my friend because I was sleeping. I should have just left, but I stay there like a fool. We had an argument over that I explained to her that was way out of bounds. Thought we resolved it then a few weeks later she brought him up telling me about a conversation they had. I was fed up and got on Instagram message a girlfriend from the past gave her my number texted for two days until my ex seen it and got upset, which was my plan because I needed to see her reaction. She was upset. I told that she had to make a choice to go with what was my valuable my relationship with her or her friendship with him. She chose him at the end.
So sorry to hear ... please take care of yourself.... I am a woman and experienced that with my ex ... go on with your life and be happy ... no need to play games ...
@Jasmyne Haywood very true. Thanks
@@clarkclarke5321 yes I am aware and thanks.
“Throw some blue in there”😫🤣
"Cause you know I'm from the streets"
I can't help but laugh every time you say that 😂 😂
And all these years I was taught that a woman should be available anytime for intimate moments.....its nice to hear a grown man especially a husband say that its on his wife's terms.
I tell you what men that put there hands on women are cowards I learned through my kids daddy I was young he was alot older so he took advantage of me straight out of highschool. He used to choke me push me off the bed while I was pregnant spit in my face and pulled guns on me while pregnant I got tired one day and gave him a piece of his own medicine he hit me for the last time and I fought him back beating the hell out of him. He never put his hands on me again and I took my kids while they was still babies and left till this day he is homeless on the street and on drugs he is reaping everything that he put me through I was 18 and I’m now 35 stay strong heal and move on it definitely gets better my kids don’t want anything to do with him and when somebody mentioned his name I say WHO????! Lol I don’t know him anymore so keep your head up and stay strong sis.
This was good. Brought back some memories & so glad I'm not in that situation any longer.
The blessed tribe 🙏 The more I grow the more I know👍 Thanks coach Tony I'm always in class ready for new knowledge 😊
Uhaul hooked up to no hearse ☠️☠️☠️🤣
Okay!!!
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Dont play about your life periodttttt!!!.Restraining Order. As Tony would say call the "Boys in Blue". Do not talk to him ever again.
Girl get a restraining order on him. Verbal or not a threat is a threat..
I thank you Tony every woman needs to watch you ! Free game makes dating so much easier !
"ain't no uhaul hooked up to a hearse" 😂😂🤦🏾♀️
Women need to have boundaries & standards & discernment...more logic & less emotion. Know how to recognize disrespect; remove yourself from the situation & shut down the relationship...walk away...wrong is wrong! Correct, a woman can't change a man. He showed you who he was, now it's time for you to bounce!
Tony Montana!! My love life guru 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 with the brilliant women impressions 🤣 love it all the way from the UK
Nothing like getting choked out on a seamlessly normal day. 🚩🚩🚩
Girl....
So TRUE...I literally thought I was going to die, but God.
Been there...
I love this channel omg he’s funny and knowledgeable. True teacher
Leave. Run. Stay gone.
He seeing red, see some blue too!! 🤣🤣🤣
Ever thought about acting?😂 i cant w u w all these monologues 😅😂🤣
You said you've moved on. Did you really..
I didn't watch this video yet tony but I just automatically wanted 2 chime in and just let you know I admire you 4 your honesty and using your gift that God gave you to help instruct and educate us women not just even black women BUT US WOMEN OF ALL RACES 😇❤❤❤💯🙌🙌🙌🤝💪💪💪i got a glimpse of da video and said 2 myself he made another video 4 me to watch i believe EVERYTHING HAPPENS 4 A REASON,,,so MY intuition as I'm becoming more intuitive with myself that I congratulate you and let you no you are appreciated cuz its not alot of us that are aware of the GIFTS we carry 2 severe our purpose here,, non da less do ppl just compliment other ppl anymore outside of being negative ,,,
Thank you
It’s the truth and I know from experience. They will try it again.
Bro Tony hopefully this young lady has not gone back to this man that's putting hands on her and I pray that she put her track shoes on and have ran as far as she can go and never look back. Your message to her is 💯 truth.
When I hear what to say in certain situations, I've been writing it down. Thanks for helping me find the words to say.
TG..Thank you for this message, you're messages are always right on time in my life. Thank you again. Stay Blessed TG! many Blessings to You, "The Queen" and your Precious Children.
Hello Tony , I was in a similar situation but I am still with him for the sake of our children. We have 3 boys under the age of 9. We are constantly arguing about types of stuff. I do pray and forgive but the devil must be using him against me. I have been there and done that. I love watching your videos. They are very informative . I have learn some much from you and I wanted to stay thank you . I am so happy that I have found your page. Your page is such a blessing. God bless you ....
You say a similar situation I pray he's not throwing hands on you cause you're only teaching your boys how to treat a woman! If its a unhealthy toxic situation why would you stay for the sake of your boys you need to be leaving for the sake of your boys you can do it🙏💜
Children need a safe environment staying for the sake of the children is an excuse us women make when we are trying to rationalise our timidity/fear at leaving. I'm not judging you but I've been there your peace of mind and safety is more important than keeping up appearances.
I used to feel like I should stay because of my son and also the what if he will change and some other woman benefits. Not no more. My son IS my reason to leave. I want him to grow up in a healthy and loving environment. I want him to know right from wrong and how to handle conflict, treat a woman and effective communication. Also, I DON'T care about the next woman, because I only care about me making myself happy and the best that I can be for my son. 2021 will be a fresh start for me. I am planning and saving for that big move in August. You can do it.
Brilliant always!!! My goodness Tony... Thank you🙌🏽🙏🏽... everything so true... God Bless you!
Cousin Tony got a fresh cut! Looking like a snack for Queen Sheri!
The moment she says he put his hands around her neck, that was the end and the end FOREVER!!! How many women have taken back such a man only to have their lives end for real! :/
Hi Tony thank you always for your vlogs they have helped me so much. I remember watching you when you were on Oprah years ago OMG there is truly a God 😊. Stay Blessed and Stay Safe Always.
Be blessed my big brother,one up for the wife and kids.
Tony is so right though don’t play with a man like they will hurt you!!!!!!
I was so nice when I first when I met my husband 13 years ago. I was 21 and hw was 34. I was quiet & shy but once I started to speak up for myself he would say that your mother telling you what to say. Now that I am 33 and he is 46. he got worst as the time went forward. I cant tolerate it no more but yet he act nice the next morning like two faced or something ? Taking about don't leave me .... I love you we marriage now divorce is not an option.....
Sounds like a threat from him. You have to plan quietly to leave and file for divorce.
Divorce is always an option. Verbal, mental, emotional or financial abuse is unacceptable. You deserve better. Plan your exit.
You better stack your money slowly and surely, take care of yourself, move in silence and don't tell your scape to nobody (not even family). And when you think that you got everything that you want to move, just move when he is at work, change your number, emails all!!!! Don't stay unhappy with a man like that, you are young to find another man that treats you like a Queen you are!!!!
@@alexiagoko9384 move in silence
@@alexiagoko9384 Comment spot on!!!
Love these on the ride to the crib. 🥰
Thank you... it's a pleasure listening to you talk... thank you for empowering us women
He's so right each time gets worse.
"Have you.....(pause) yes, you've lost your mind I ain't even got to ask," 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 T.O.N.Y 😂😂😂😂😂😂
God is trying to tell you something. Please listen. 🕊
Awesome message TG & your hair cut is flawless, good job 👍
16:42s The Skit TONY be saying he from the SKREET lol🥰🥰👍🏾👍🏾