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  • @shelbimdennis
    @shelbimdennis Год назад +3287

    Accountability does not mean apologizing. It means understanding the problem and working to have a better solution

    • @onnie.6815
      @onnie.6815 Год назад +25

      Oh how they “don’t understand” that

    • @ChristRecords2O16
      @ChristRecords2O16 Год назад +27

      Wow, never saw it like that. Thank you for upgrading me

    • @mzshanti2012
      @mzshanti2012 Год назад +32

      People don’t understand that. People use the word accountability as an attack and try to force people to be continuously in a negative light.

    • @kermitpurple8963
      @kermitpurple8963 Год назад +17

      And admitting your mistakes

    • @Unknown-lp9mu
      @Unknown-lp9mu Год назад

      right -- all that i want you to hear is bull crap too - i want you to DO! be the adult and guidance that a child needs - how many generations came before and the children still starting from scratch?-- BULLSHIT

  • @ChrixyRenae007
    @ChrixyRenae007 Год назад +4666

    The middle child ❤ she is the one who will break the generational curse. Very articulate, and soft in how she express herself, making the changes to not be like her mother, and actually healing from that trauma. Kudos to her !

    • @AkireMaru
      @AkireMaru Год назад +36

      She is NOT articulate. She is also NOT soft spoken. She is very contentious

    • @ChrixyRenae007
      @ChrixyRenae007 Год назад +310

      @@AkireMaru you must be like the mother ...hmmmmm

    • @des5257
      @des5257 Год назад +55

      I 100% agree with you, amazing woman doing the best for herself ❤

    • @kkimberly2004YT
      @kkimberly2004YT Год назад +104

      She sees a difference in her that's why she bumps heads with her the most.

    • @whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859
      @whoneedslovewhenyouhaves..859 Год назад +42

      She is gorgeous

  • @material-cheshirekhatter2413
    @material-cheshirekhatter2413 Год назад +2886

    Icelynn is breaking the generational curse, so proud of all the young ladies

    • @sharonfranks4031
      @sharonfranks4031 Год назад +28

      But mom's sex life is none of her business, besides that how she got here.

    • @4dyamondx745
      @4dyamondx745 Год назад +8

      How is she breaking the generation curse, she has children out of wedlock, probably more than one dad.

    • @bigdawg9826
      @bigdawg9826 Год назад +69

      @@sharonfranks4031 So you don't think as a child you'll be affected by having to see every sexual partner your mom has and then a different one on top of that?

    • @sharonfranks4031
      @sharonfranks4031 Год назад +3

      @@bigdawg9826 as a child who controls mama? As a child what do you know about mama's issues really? but she still raised you to be strong, voice your opinions and puck you up if you don't have the mind to get the hell on out mama's house and leave mama's crazy azz alone so her sanity can come back you get what you get. But she loves ❤️ 😍 you and got your back

    • @jaii7487
      @jaii7487 Год назад +25

      @@sharonfranks4031 yes it is when you growing up with men coming and out the house, especially with daughters in the house

  • @chazervin1363
    @chazervin1363 Год назад +1814

    The only reason why Icelynn was getting interrupted EVERY SINGLE TIME SHE TALKED, was because her mother knew that the way she delivers herself is FAR more better than the mother herself. So she decided to cut Icelynn off so the audience and Karamo won’t have to hear what she says, knowing what she is going to say mostly is true.

    • @yeseniamendoza5844
      @yeseniamendoza5844 Год назад +57

      Yuppp!! Thats how my mom was with me.

    • @lovettewilliams4114
      @lovettewilliams4114 Год назад +52

      A strategy to make chaos and deflect from the crisis at hand 🖐️

    • @speaklife404
      @speaklife404 Год назад +54

      The sad part is some mothers like her notice that characteristic and try to take their child's voice away starting at a very early age to feel more alpha especially if their parenting skills are being questioned by their own kid they see it as a challenge to defend their title and territory over them as a mother.

    • @neilbowman5334
      @neilbowman5334 Год назад +15

      That's true. That's what manipulative people do

    • @sophiaandre139
      @sophiaandre139 Год назад +25

      Narcissists always try to shut off the truth tellers

  • @bhuddalocs4406
    @bhuddalocs4406 Год назад +955

    It’s like she doesn’t like the most healed and articulate daughter.

    • @joydanleigh7711
      @joydanleigh7711 Год назад +6

      💜💜💜

    • @SuperShepard1
      @SuperShepard1 Год назад +17

      That daughter isn't healed. If she were that healed, she wouldn't have humiliated her mother on national TV by calling her promiscuous and telling the world she had 40 boyfriends! True love covers.

    • @Benjibarbie
      @Benjibarbie Год назад +76

      It’s because she knows she’s in a path to become a better women then she ever was she jealous of her own child trust me ik!

    • @bhuddalocs4406
      @bhuddalocs4406 Год назад +62

      @@SuperShepard1 she’s healed enough she could’ve said much worse !

    • @RyanTheDark
      @RyanTheDark Год назад +15

      @@SuperShepard1 By the words of someone who clearly hasn't face trauma and what its like to recover from abuse and have been given everything in life with a gold medal.

  • @LadyLove6685
    @LadyLove6685 Год назад +1338

    The middle child articulates and expresses herself so well and I believe the middle child is able to deliver her truth in a way that “it holds up a mirror “ and her mother keeps interrupting her because she doesn’t like the way her truth feels and what it forces her to see within herself.

    • @candicelollie4305
      @candicelollie4305 Год назад +25

      DANM, you worded and expressed exactly what I was thinking but I didn’t know how to put it into words 😅😂

    • @talisarose
      @talisarose 10 месяцев назад +5

      right on the money

    • @lifeeofcj
      @lifeeofcj 3 месяца назад +4

      You said this perfectly!

  • @nevaehgbss
    @nevaehgbss Год назад +586

    Icelynn is soooo beautiful, inside & out! the way she carries herself & creates boundaries to protect her peace is impressive. 😍🥺

    • @lb1798
      @lb1798 10 месяцев назад

      Icelynn will be the one to be done with the Mom.

  • @tilabryant5591
    @tilabryant5591 Год назад +1026

    Mothers never remember what they do🙄

    • @PITTSBURGH06
      @PITTSBURGH06 Год назад +82

      THATS GASLIGHTING AND MANIPULATIONS -THIS MOTHER IS A CLASSIC NARC! THEY NEED TO ALL GET DISTANCE FROM HER..

    • @Honestlycurls
      @Honestlycurls Год назад +29

      Yah my mom never remembered as I went through my career in dancing since 6 and still present day dancing.. calling me fat, disgusting, a pig, because I exercised so much and burned so many calories and would get hungrier then normal 🤣. Compare me to other girls and tell me I needed to look like them or be like them. Call me stupid, an idiot. Oh boy narcissist mothers.

    • @mamiecollins9761
      @mamiecollins9761 Год назад +1

      At all 😂

    • @AsiaArielJanae
      @AsiaArielJanae Год назад +8

      Or fathers

    • @AsiaArielJanae
      @AsiaArielJanae Год назад +6

      Or fathers 😒

  • @RestorationEdenMinistries
    @RestorationEdenMinistries Год назад +1017

    That Icelynn... she stands out from ALL of them. She is the curse breaker. If you see this.... keep moving in the direction the Most High leads. ( It's not been in vain. ) Your family needs you to.

    • @amabarrbrown3585
      @amabarrbrown3585 Год назад +25

      We all stand out and none of us is like are mother thank you but you don’t know no us personally. We are all well off on life. Thax

    • @soulbestiespodcast
      @soulbestiespodcast Год назад +86

      I was able to see this! God will forever get the Glory out of all of my trials and tribulations!! I appreciate this more then you know!

    • @jaeeluv
      @jaeeluv Год назад +5

      @@amabarrbrown3585 Sending Hug's ✨🙏🏿

    • @curtislaster2160
      @curtislaster2160 Год назад +4

      Icelynn got issues. The mom was a child when she had them. She is not perfect. And has work to do.

    • @4dyamondx745
      @4dyamondx745 Год назад +1

      TOO, ICELYNN pretty much did the same thing as her mom, children out of wedlock, more than one daddy.

  • @heathab...._-_
    @heathab...._-_ Год назад +810

    The daughter with the braids is very beautiful 😍 love her face structure

    • @twylamoses1471
      @twylamoses1471 Год назад +41

      The middle daughter really is almost model like

    • @4dyamondx745
      @4dyamondx745 Год назад +15

      What does her looks have to do with ANY of this? You people focus on the wrong things, the point was sorely missed here.

    • @heathab...._-_
      @heathab...._-_ Год назад +7

      @@4dyamondx745 OK

    • @twylamoses1471
      @twylamoses1471 Год назад

      @@4dyamondx745 what you gotta do with this conversation? girl shut up we can say somebody pretty fool..

    • @thelionandthemouse9933
      @thelionandthemouse9933 Год назад +4

      @@4dyamondx745 exactly! Beauty did not stop her abuser!

  • @jyadidtnova1051
    @jyadidtnova1051 Год назад +930

    The mom is acting like she's their sister, calling them names and fighting with them. She needs to be the bigger person as the parent, and show them geuine love and respect.

    • @laawaer7265
      @laawaer7265 Год назад +23

      The way I see it is that you can't give what you don't have !

    • @jyadidtnova1051
      @jyadidtnova1051 Год назад +67

      ​​​@@laawaer7265 So if she knew she couldn't give them proper love and respect, then why keep having more children?

    • @summera4019
      @summera4019 Год назад +5

      @@laawaer7265 yeah I feel like parents like that deserve to be left to fend for themselves and to never waste time on them. They will never change. Hurt people hurt people, but don’t nobody care at this point.

    • @calebdouglas7622
      @calebdouglas7622 Год назад +1

      Especially the youngest one

    • @livvn9845
      @livvn9845 Год назад +2

      @@jyadidtnova1051 cus they don't care , they don't see they're in the wrong with how they behave . it could be the mom is a product of her environment

  • @jollymollyramram9702
    @jollymollyramram9702 Год назад +1339

    Can’t stand that there’s almost a glorification of abusive mothers in the Black community. It’s seen as “strict taking no disrespect” etc. This mother looked proud so many times recalling what she did it was embarrassing to watch. And lady, no you’re not the reason Icelynn is mature and articulate - SHE did the work.

    • @fromama2011
      @fromama2011 Год назад +15

      Who do you see glorifying this? Y'all say anything.

    • @jollymollyramram9702
      @jollymollyramram9702 Год назад +122

      There’s definitely a general consensus among many Black people about this. On here the audience will even clap at times hearing about abuse but they consider it “discipline”. How do you not know this when it’s very common?

    • @Nurse_Shelly44
      @Nurse_Shelly44 Год назад +54

      ​@JollyMolly Ramram What's sad is that many in that same audience would cringe if the children weren't black. I've noticed how the media spins the narrative dependent up on the race of the family. I know that doesn't apply here, but we as a community need to wise up.

    • @poohchi6205
      @poohchi6205 Год назад +17

      Ironically the so called traumatized whoooings. The most disrespectful child did not get. Y’all killing me with whooopings are traumatizing

    • @jollymollyramram9702
      @jollymollyramram9702 Год назад +2

      @Nurse_ Shelley - You’re right about that.

  • @kenya1067
    @kenya1067 Год назад +224

    The middle daughter mentioning boundaries is actually very helpful to me. Thanks for sharing that. Boundaries are really so important. Some family dynamics view boundaries as a disrespect or being inconsiderate and not helpful even though you may be drained or it's taking everything out of you.

  • @ObeyJae
    @ObeyJae Год назад +2120

    It’s always us middle kids that gets disrespected the worst by our parents.

  • @77jelani41
    @77jelani41 Год назад +174

    Icelynn proved herself. My God what a strong and independent woman. Sticking up for herself but not degrading others like her mother does. BRAVO! 👏🏽 🎉

  • @ceomafdet
    @ceomafdet Год назад +2103

    The mother was abusive.Let's call a spade a spade. Nothing calls for beating your child in the shower...nothing. That was the mother unleashing her rage on them

    • @jaygotgame8632
      @jaygotgame8632 Год назад +109

      Umm y’all ain’t grow up in a real black house hold😂 them whoopings come wit discipline and an understanding also with respect

    • @Muva2Tymes
      @Muva2Tymes Год назад +13

      @@jaygotgame8632 facts

    • @material-cheshirekhatter2413
      @material-cheshirekhatter2413 Год назад +543

      @@jaygotgame8632 being black has nothing to do with it, abuse is abuse, no "respect" or "love" behind it

    • @apriljoy425
      @apriljoy425 Год назад +202

      No Abuse is Abuse.

    • @athroughzo9
      @athroughzo9 Год назад

      @@jaygotgame8632 this is the narrative that must stop in black households. We took the whip from massa and unleashed it in the home, on children, and try to call assult “love”. Misquote Bible verses to justify what would be a charge in the real world. And do that to children. It's abuse. Call a thing a thing. Beat the community into submission and no we have now leadership.

  • @sicilysscenarios365
    @sicilysscenarios365 Год назад +518

    I don’t know how parents expect their kids to be the most respectful people when they aren’t respectful themselves. The mother is irking me she had to talk over every single one of them, your daughters are just as disrespectful as you ma’am

    • @chriswhite7323
      @chriswhite7323 Год назад +8

      I always tell my mom that I will respect my little kids because how will they learn respect if not.

  • @erynsdream5826
    @erynsdream5826 Год назад +723

    The mother may try to talk over Icelynn because she is very intelligent and self aware. She’s jealous and knows Iceland will call her out on her actions so she has to over talk her.

    • @SoleahWright
      @SoleahWright Год назад +11

      Jealous???

    • @Indigal
      @Indigal Год назад +8

      ​@@SoleahWright 🤷🏿‍♀️

    • @NubianP6
      @NubianP6 Год назад +85

      I agree. The fact that she can articulately identify the mom’s issues, and then request accountability probably makes the mom feel judged, and deficient. Maybe in her daughter, she sees the emotional intelligence that she wishes she could have had at her age, but rather than celebrating and being proud of her daughter, she pushes back against anything that she says. I applaud the daughter for recognizing her triggers, and for choosing to protect her peace, rather than engaging her mom.

    • @sandyr9081
      @sandyr9081 Год назад +30

      And, she did it with all respect. As she said I have to love my mom from a distance. Iceland’s boundaries are set! I love a healthy minded person.

    • @4dyamondx745
      @4dyamondx745 Год назад +1

      JEALOUSY? Of what?

  • @5764567467
    @5764567467 Год назад +504

    The daughter in the middle is so gorgeous 😊

  • @AlanaGurl
    @AlanaGurl Год назад +167

    The middle daughter has the right idea. I love her train of thoughts. She’s breaking generational curses, and setting necessary boundaries. Her mother is intimidated by her, that’s why she wouldn’t let her speak. Icelynn you are amazing!

  • @berlinwilliams4702
    @berlinwilliams4702 Год назад +42

    That middle child is us breaking down barriers and generational trauma in our families

  • @monharris28
    @monharris28 Год назад +50

    Icelyn, sounds so healed, yess sis. Same with me, i love my sister at a distance because being near her just reminds me of the abuse from childhood. Sibling abuse is real yalll

  • @a.konadu4010
    @a.konadu4010 Год назад +346

    What the middle child said hit me like a ton of bricks. I'm also very passive and permissive with my kids because of the way I was raised. I don't want them to feel the way I did but that too is not always good. There has to be a balance.

    • @cassandraduncan-tx5xi
      @cassandraduncan-tx5xi Год назад +5

      When I was young my dad whip us with 3switches and with our clothes off because that's what we needed but it's 5 of us 3 girls and 2 boys we never went to jail and was not disrespectful he didn't have to do all the time when I got older I told him thanks for the whipping he made me the person I am and I love my dad and mom . So girls get over it .

    • @vb593
      @vb593 Год назад +21

      ​@@cassandraduncan-tx5xiwhat college did you go to? How long have you been married? What career do you have? We should want our kids to do more than just turn out ok, we should want them to be better than us and thrive, not just survive

    • @calebdouglas7622
      @calebdouglas7622 Год назад +1

      @@cassandraduncan-tx5xi My brother and I also got spanked when we were growing up and I can definitely say we turned out great and both of us are very respectful law abiding citizens. Now of course it wasn’t whippings all of the time as they would still talk to us and give us warnings as well so there was always a balance. Now I don’t want people to get the wrong idea and think whippings and abuse are the same thing because they aren’t. There is nothing wrong with discipline as long as you aren’t name calling, punching, or kicking.

    • @_BOUYE
      @_BOUYE 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@cassandraduncan-tx5xiYou're a victim and gaslighting yourself.

    • @_BOUYE
      @_BOUYE 11 месяцев назад +8

      ​​@@calebdouglas7622Whoopings are abuse. They are the same thing. You don't need to hit someone, especially a child who can't/won't defend themselves, to get your point across. There are plenty of people out who never got whoopings and turned out to be successful adults.
      I got whoopings as a kid, but that did not make me a better person. Because I was Whooped, which left mental/emotional scars, I now have to work on healing from that. Whoopings have no correlation to making someone a better person. There are other ways to discipline.

  • @womanofvalor7
    @womanofvalor7 Год назад +202

    I love when the mothers apologize from the heart, she's a broken person too

  • @JamMasterKae
    @JamMasterKae Год назад +97

    Icelynn shines babyyy! I wish her the best in life. The more boundaries the better for her.

  • @ladyylomonroe
    @ladyylomonroe Год назад +78

    These parents got to accept accountability and how they actually impact their kids. Own up you contributing to their mental health.

  • @corneisharatcliffe8053
    @corneisharatcliffe8053 Год назад +120

    Iceland the middle child, God bless you sug!! We see you and your counseling is working keep doing it! Up top +they need you!

  • @absynthe7904
    @absynthe7904 Год назад +536

    That first daughter reminded me SO MUCH of my sister - immature, refusing to take accountability, irresponsible, etc. How are you honestly upset that someone called the police on you when YOU DECIDED to 1) do something to get a warrant out for your arrest and 2) destroy thousands of dollars worth of that person’s property??? She’s annoying the hell out of me, but the fact that she acts so much like my sister is rly making it easier to accept that I’m not the only one dealing with a person like this in my family.

    • @MarieeeeeE22
      @MarieeeeeE22 Год назад +30

      You mean the youngest daughter?!

    • @mekhiachandler1927
      @mekhiachandler1927 Год назад +66

      @@MarieeeeeE22no she meant the first daughter to come out on stage.

    • @MarieeeeeE22
      @MarieeeeeE22 Год назад +3

      @@mekhiachandler1927 oh ok, thank you!!!

    • @brigiles5163
      @brigiles5163 Год назад +63

      The first daughter that came out is the youngest one

    • @mis3ricordia
      @mis3ricordia Год назад +99

      well if your sister is living the same life that girl is living i totally get it. That girl is angry. If we are to believe her sisters that mother is terribly abusive. Everyone reacts to abuse differently and this girl who has grown up being abused and watching her sisters be hurt too is clearly furious. We all want abuse victims to be weak and meek but the truth is a lot of abuse victims end up like that girl. Tbh that mother deserves it. Yeah she's impulsive but you can tell if she gets away from the situation she could learn to heal. If you notice she doesn't come at her sisters in that way..... just the person who hurt her and her sisters

  • @questionresearch8721
    @questionresearch8721 Год назад +134

    Iceland is not lying on her mother.

  • @luckyyylibra9362
    @luckyyylibra9362 Год назад +86

    She was a young mother, and she did not parent properly and that's exactly why kids shouldn't be having kids. Being abusive and promiscuous and putting boyfriends before her children had a huge impact on them and they are still hurting. There needs to be a lot of therapy, healing, and accountability. That is the only way I see her relationship with her daughters improving.

  • @ashmoneyy9353
    @ashmoneyy9353 Год назад +46

    11:50 HI, daughter of a narcissistic mother here:) BIG HINT: notice how the brother isn’t in the room, and it’s ONLY the daughters that have a bad relationship with the mother. mothers cherish the bond with their sons more than with their daughters.. that’s a BIG trait of narcissism…

  • @alexisd2587
    @alexisd2587 Год назад +51

    The middle child always gets the short end of the stick (even with great parents), but they always seem to come out best

    • @boothkris
      @boothkris Год назад

      So true I’m a middle child and I can attest to that.

    • @bossladiee
      @bossladiee Год назад

      I agree

    • @ddbangtannim2270
      @ddbangtannim2270 2 месяца назад

      As a middle child myself, I totally get this

  • @globalprincess5471
    @globalprincess5471 Год назад +208

    As a mom I don't have a problem apologizing to my children even though they are grown. A lot of people have learned to identify with their abusers and I'm not just speaking on this situation.
    Some people do believe beating on people will make them a better person. But when these same people get into abusive relationships or become abusive, before you know it you have people identifying with their abusers.
    Some children have a violent approach when it comes to things and they are quite destructive because that is how they learned to communicate. I do pray they work it out.

    • @onnie.6815
      @onnie.6815 Год назад +24

      Literally! I don’t understand the black community, they want respect and manners, without showin what it looks like… then get mad and want to beat they child Bc the child doesn’t know

    • @takeishawhite4964
      @takeishawhite4964 Год назад +2

      Your right

    • @globalprincess5471
      @globalprincess5471 Год назад

      @@takeishawhite4964 ♥ 🙏

    • @_BOUYE
      @_BOUYE 11 месяцев назад

      Literally ‼️
      Right on point. And then they be surprised when the child fights back.

  • @leahraenavasie2460
    @leahraenavasie2460 Год назад +14

    "Love you from a distance."
    Thank you. I won't feel bad like I'm doing something bad or something is wrong with me again. 🙏
    Bless your familes.
    Your all beautiful souls.

  • @almondkissed3794
    @almondkissed3794 Год назад +21

    My mother is my BIGGEST trigger . I’ve been loving my mother from a distance for the past two months and I must say I’m at peace !! I’m creating boundaries myself and she’s mad asf about it

  • @mrpatton70
    @mrpatton70 Год назад +562

    The young girl needs to take accountability. You’re borrowing your mother’s car so bring it back no matter the reason

    • @Caramel1109
      @Caramel1109 Год назад +48

      I understand. But I get where she BBC ok’ing from if I just told u what I was doing why u hitting me up then telling me u gonna put ur car out as stolen it’s extra af and bad as a parent. Like this aged black parents and grandparents wanna control everything the child does. So she probably felt mom making up another excuse she need the car just so I can’t go nowhere

    • @4dyamondx745
      @4dyamondx745 Год назад +23

      @@Caramel1109 it does not matter what the mom reasons were, IT WAS THE MOM CAR, that is what's wrong with you people?

    • @Caramel1109
      @Caramel1109 Год назад

      @@4dyamondx745 it matters when they obviously made it clear she can use it her mom is power hungry bitch just like mine who fake sick just to make u not have any fun idk why it’s so hard for y’all to believe being a parent doesn’t give u the right to dismiss and be an asshole to ur children and they feeling. My mom literally does the same shot we agree I can use the car if I put gas in it but when she wanna be petty she’ll pull sick shot or just some dumb shit. Sorry I can’t understand that parents can be wrong at too

    • @Yfntyyy
      @Yfntyyy Год назад +32

      @@4dyamondx745it’s about respect 🤷🏽‍♂️ and how you say things. As you can see the mother don’t want to own up to what she did to them. Trauma cause you to act a certain way

    • @blkluvchnl
      @blkluvchnl Год назад +35

      @@4dyamondx745 That’s her car, but the daughter said that they usually use the car whenever they need it. That day the mom went off the rails so the daughter was like “wtf?” And respect goes both ways. You can tell the mother hasn’t respected her children a day in their lives.

  • @IWrite2Heal
    @IWrite2Heal Год назад +33

    I read the comments first, and y’all were correct about Icelynn!! I’m a middle child with two sisters. We all embody what these sisters embody. We all experienced a different version of our mother. But I was definitely the one who started the healing to be able to communicate and articulate to my mother where she hurt me, or where she dropped the ball. My older sister followed and my younger sister still has healing to do. They have very little to no communication whatsoever, she grew up fighting and arguing with my mom and definitely disrespected her on so many occasions. So the dynamics are very similar and I pray for healing with them.

  • @gab19guerin72
    @gab19guerin72 Год назад +467

    If you don’t want to go to jail, don’t commit a crime while on probation. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @Caramel1109
      @Caramel1109 Год назад +99

      As a parent idc wat u DID but I’m not gonna put my BLACK CHILD in a life or death situation by calling cops on them. Plain and simple

    • @gab19guerin72
      @gab19guerin72 Год назад +36

      @@Caramel1109 and she isn’t you. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @stone6135
      @stone6135 Год назад

      @@Caramel1109so I see you’re the type that would let your kids run all over you. Last time I checked if your kids are grown ass adults they should be able to face real life consequences.

    • @justIvy98
      @justIvy98 Год назад +10

      @@Caramel1109 FACTS!

    • @fountainmedia4683
      @fountainmedia4683 Год назад

      @@Caramel1109 And that's why black teens do not respect their parents, grandparents, their elders, or the church today. Because of parents like you! You coddle your teens, and allow them to disrespect you and get away with all that they do. That young girl was way too disrespectful to her mother on stage. Generation Alpha and Generation Z ARE THE WORST Generations out of all 7 of them. I wonder which generation you're from. You're probably from Generation Millennial, because we all know the people who were born within the first 4 Generations have always shown respect to their parents, grandparents, and elders. SMDH!

  • @bloomoon8652
    @bloomoon8652 Год назад +55

    Mother over talks because the truth hurts

  • @anastasiabeaverhausen860
    @anastasiabeaverhausen860 Год назад +56

    It really irritates me when these parents act like they can't understand why their kids hate them. Delusional af

  • @valhumphries2704
    @valhumphries2704 Год назад +73

    Whew…this hit home. Growing up my two sisters and I felt our mom put men over us. Honestly, a part of us still feel this way with her current husband. Now that we are in our 30s, we’ve learned to accept it. I’m literally the calm middle child too. Therapy has helped my sisters. Girls need a mothers love - not with material items but emotionally and with time. I hope my daughters feel unconditionally loved. Sending healing energy to that family.

  • @destinystith228
    @destinystith228 Год назад +37

    The mother is gaslighting her daughters to death glad her daughters have each others back

  • @yaniquehayes214
    @yaniquehayes214 Год назад +180

    I really hope they heal and come together . Wish it was longer tho.

    • @Logantaliaferro
      @Logantaliaferro Год назад +1

      The second sister said her past but didn’t keep saying it she actually did stuff to help her

  • @CD-xq1lc
    @CD-xq1lc Год назад +37

    This mother is just like mine. As a black woman I can only speak from my own experience and I hate to see other women who look like me have the same stories generation after generation. It’s one of the reasons why I don’t desire to be a mother myself. Wishing everyone involved healing and restoration.

  • @creolela
    @creolela Год назад +20

    My moma trigger me too. I thought I healed from her past mistakes but she still does things and I’m now in my late 20’s

    • @bossladiee
      @bossladiee Год назад +2

      Therapy is the only way to truly heal from that trauma

  • @diovanniirizarry1737
    @diovanniirizarry1737 10 месяцев назад +2

    Wow the middle sister did that! Very well spoken and set boundaries respectfully. She handled her emotions beautifully, I wish to have that much poise as I continue to grow.

  • @ShiraSpeaks
    @ShiraSpeaks Год назад +47

    Karamo is a good listener and gives good feedback but he look like he going through something too. It’s in his eyes..

    • @bredgethardison7372
      @bredgethardison7372 Год назад +6

      @Miss J I see it too

    • @vickychillin3255
      @vickychillin3255 Год назад +8

      Yup. Well he's gay, he's going through a lot as a beautiful gay black man

    • @vickychillin3255
      @vickychillin3255 Год назад +1

      Yup. Well he's gay, he's going through a lot as a beautiful gay black man

  • @chauncilanise
    @chauncilanise Год назад +56

    This is a case of narcissistic Mothers in the black community. They think talking at their children , hitting them, and not allowing them to express themselves is okay, and then brings up what the Bible says when it goes both ways. Don’t provoke the child and then play victim. The daughters just have had built up anger and it unleashed.

    • @Cortaya
      @Cortaya 5 месяцев назад

      Ughh me and my mom have our ups and downs a lot, she hates how I always have this attitude towards her when in reality I just can't stand the things she does, the things that she says when she is mad, and how she doesn't want to acknowledge people's feelings. I'm in my damn 20's and still struggles to communicate thoroughly and say the right pronunciations all because of how I was treated growing up, being put into tough situations that no child needs to go through with sick adults, missed out on a lot of fun childhoods just to make sure that my little siblings and the household is well taken care off. It's a lot to unpack but I just want to leave it all behind it's exhausting and I want to leave it all behind and not to look back.

  • @riyajones5312
    @riyajones5312 Год назад +49

    The fact that I must go through this with my own mother makes me feel for the middle child. I'm the oldest and I will say this shit is far more common than people realize. It is scary to see how the mother is so happy for what she did.

  • @jadasimone1206
    @jadasimone1206 Год назад +12

    The middle child is so beautiful 😍😍😍😍

  • @katmarie6754
    @katmarie6754 Год назад +6

    He is my new favorite talk person, mostly because he’s one of the realest men I’ve seen so this. So sophisticated, funny, REAL, like he better not go anywhere

  • @MsBronxlady
    @MsBronxlady Год назад +36

    Icelynn have the most beautiful spirit ❤ I pray that you guys can find happiness together if not it’s ok to love people from a distance.

  • @OneeCox-r5q
    @OneeCox-r5q Год назад +7

    the middle daughter is beautiful. shes graceful poised ladylike i bet she smart tooo.

  • @bomchic79
    @bomchic79 Год назад +26

    Icelynn you rock! Continue to work on you and protect your peace.

  • @lovelythoughts8855
    @lovelythoughts8855 Год назад +17

    That lil one sorry today. Mama gonna get cussed out again SOON!!😂😂😂😂

  • @gabriellebanks1749
    @gabriellebanks1749 Год назад +6

    This video made me cry and helped me heal from some pains I have with my own experiences

  • @TheMajorDash
    @TheMajorDash 4 месяца назад +4

    That middle daughter is absolutely beautiful!! Face card eatsssss

  • @naomizachery2303
    @naomizachery2303 Год назад +20

    My mom and I had a very turbulent relationship and now that im a mom i understand. She was dealing with grief on top of everything else. My mom took accountability and apologies for where she fell short and even if she doesn’t remember everything she never calls me a lie and acknowledges how I feel. She did the best she could and far better than what she knew. They have the potential to heal beautifully if they all do the work

  • @Nurse_Shelly44
    @Nurse_Shelly44 Год назад +28

    I've seen several commenters mentioning that the mother is a single parent and did the best she could as if that excuses her abusive behavior. Single parenting doesnt have to equal abuse, emotional neglect, and toxicity. Unless I misunderstood, is there a son as well? I wonder what his experience has been.

  • @synthiawilson941
    @synthiawilson941 Год назад +2

    Respect,shaking his hand/sit down,it’s sad for real n see this a lot n families/mental health is seriously on the arisen

  • @LuckyyLEVEN
    @LuckyyLEVEN Год назад +11

    Icelynn is BEAUTIFUL and any therapy she did is working ! Boundaries are extremely important with toxic parents. You have to love them from a distance or else you’ll drive yourself crazy. A lot of our parents think they did their best because that’s the only thing they knew but I don’t think they understand that sometimes their best isn’t good enough.

  • @jossyglossy
    @jossyglossy Год назад +8

    Watching them apologize towards the end really warmed my heart ❤️

  • @MilknCookies430
    @MilknCookies430 Год назад +132

    Anyone else see how the kids that were beaten and mistreated are more respectful than the one that wasn't? The youngest admits she was spoiled compared to the other two yet she came out nasty af. She didn't experience the trauma her sisters did... she was just mad that her mother gave her a boundary and a consequence.

    • @poohchi6205
      @poohchi6205 Год назад +21

      Meeeeeeeeeeeeee but whoopings is sooooooo traumatizing and abusive. This gentle parenting style getting on my nerves.

    • @msamariab
      @msamariab Год назад +12

      That young one needed a whipping! Being a parent is hard and finding the balance is hard. Lack of discipline is what has caused our youth to be so disrespectful! Now with whippings I believe you also have to provide positive feedback and guidance in order to balance the discipline.

    • @sleepy.thehuman
      @sleepy.thehuman Год назад +34

      @@msamariabmaking massa proud. getting so angry you have to put your hands on someone is beyond me.

    • @SuperShepard1
      @SuperShepard1 Год назад +4

      ​@@sleepy.thehumanYou don't have to be angry to administer corporal punishment.

    • @theiswithin3649
      @theiswithin3649 Год назад +14

      "My parents beat me as a child and I am not traumatized," said the man whose ex-partner reported him for physical violence.
      "When I was a child they left me crying alone until I fell asleep and it was so bad I did not go out," said the man who spends long hours in social networks, affecting his sleep.
      "They punished me as a child and I'm fine," said the man who, every time he makes a mistake, says to himself words of contempt, as a form of self-punishment.
      "As a child, they put a heavy hand on me and I suffer from a trauma called 'education'," said the woman who still does not understand why all of her partners end up being aggressive.
      "When I became capricious as a child, my father locked me in a room alone to learn and today I appreciate it," said the woman who has suffered anxiety attacks and can not explain why she is so afraid of being locked in small spaces .
      "My parents told me they were going to leave me alone or give me to a stranger when I did my tantrums and I do not have traumas," said the woman who has prayed for love and has forgiven repeated infidelities so as not to feel abandoned
      "My parents controlled me with just the look and see how well I came out," said the woman who can not maintain eye contact with figures of 'authority' without feeling intimidated.
      "As a child, I got even with the iron cable and today I am a good man, even professional," said the man his neighbors have accused the police for drunk hitting objects and yelling at his wife.
      "My parents forced me to study a career that would make me money, and see how well off I am," said the man who dreams of Friday every day because he is desperate in his work doing something every day that is not what he always wanted.
      "When I was little they forced me to sit down until all the food was finished and they even force fed me, not like those permissive parents" affirmed the woman who does not understand why she could not have a healthy relationship with food and in her adolescence came to develop an eating disorder.
      "My mother taught me to respect her good chancletazos to the point," said the woman who smokes 5 cigarettes a day to control her anxiety.
      "I thank my mom and my dad for every blow and every punishment, because, if not, who knows what would happen to me," said the man who has never been able to have a healthy relationship, and whose son constantly lies to him because he has fear.
      And so we go through life, listening to people claiming to be good people without trauma, but paradoxically, in a society full of violence and wounded people.

  • @patkaiersonkapeimberg4543
    @patkaiersonkapeimberg4543 Год назад +79

    This reminds me so much of my family dynamic back in the day. I wish as a black community, we could change a lot of the ways that we interact with our kids and break those generational issues. Its like a lot of black parents have kids and resent having them and then it shows in how some of us are raised. Its a sad cycle

  • @teddycarter396
    @teddycarter396 Год назад +26

    The middle daughter is 100%. She avoids accountability and over talks them to stop them from telling her the TRUTH about herself.
    The baby is outright disrespectful. Period. Her attitude is out of control.
    If all 3 of your daughters consider you problematic, you should stfu and reassess the type of mother and PERSON you are.

  • @s13ck_melody_76
    @s13ck_melody_76 Год назад +2

    I agree and This is exactly why kids dont talk to their parents at all and cut them out of their lives

  • @mskyndraful
    @mskyndraful Год назад +22

    It’s crazy to hear this… my mom was a lot like this mom. Those beatings were brutal. I know there were good times too… but the ptsd is real and I wish I could just get over it so we can have a better relationship for time we have left together. Somehow I gotta accept she will never communicate well. Somehow 😢

  • @thesugarcase7431
    @thesugarcase7431 Год назад +169

    That little one got a foul a** mouth. Too disrespectful for me towards her mom.

    • @lifewithyana2924
      @lifewithyana2924 Год назад +24

      fr. I'm sorry but I did not like her energy at all, or towards her mom.

    • @jazzyjennshighway
      @jazzyjennshighway Год назад +22

      Yea her attitude is a no go, she should e been addressed! No need to disrespect your mom like that on tv especially when she was in the wrong.. that was her moms car

    • @MianaBella
      @MianaBella Год назад +5

      But it is what it is , the youngest is usually the craziest and most angry

    • @mesmerio-0
      @mesmerio-0 Год назад +5

      Wasn’t their mom like super shity to like-all of them in different ways. Like what are y’all expecting. Do you treat everyone close to you(family or not) like crap their whole life because you feel entitled to and still expect them to be good to you after!?!?🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @thesugarcase7431
      @thesugarcase7431 Год назад

      @@mesmerio-0 there's a level of respect you have for your elders especially your mom. You can get your point across as the "child" without the hostility or just walk away. There should never be a point where you want to fight your parents. Trust me on this. I've been through a lot growing up and I have 10 kids all with different feelings and or attitudes and not one has ever approached me like they lost their mind.

  • @mr.haneef22
    @mr.haneef22 Год назад +79

    Icelynn...pertaining to her, that therapy/counseling has worked wonders for her and it shows. Keep up the good work!! That mother has a lot of work to do. If she wants her girls back as she stated, she's gonna have to have a Come to Jesus meeting and admit her faults and take ACCOUNTABILITY!!!!

  • @brendawelch6477
    @brendawelch6477 Год назад +3

    Respect is earned not giving the mom is disrespectful too

  • @Itzyhani
    @Itzyhani Год назад +182

    Only 5 minutes in and I am so thankful for my mother and the sisters I have!
    What children have to do is understand that their parents are HUMAN. They have flaws, they sin, they are not perfect. We as people put so many expectations on folks just because of their title. A mom, dad, sister, pastor, doctor, and so on does this and not that! No we are humans and all deserving of understanding.

    • @material-cheshirekhatter2413
      @material-cheshirekhatter2413 Год назад +48

      Exactly, parents are human
      That means they need to take accountability as well, thats not an extreme expectation, asking an adult to acknowledge the pain of and apologize to their kids.

    • @sicilysscenarios365
      @sicilysscenarios365 Год назад +52

      They might be human but the day you sign up to be a parent you should at least try to do your best for your kids. Don’t expect sympathy when you signed up to do this job, they never asked to be here.

    • @Itzyhani
      @Itzyhani Год назад +13

      @@sicilysscenarios365 so because I am a parent I don’t deserve sympathy and understanding?
      Who said she didn’t try when she clearly allowed her grown child to live there, spoils her, allowed her to drive her car, takes the abuse she spews and still reached out for help.
      No one is perfect and there is no blueprint to being a parent.
      So children can forgive a horrible cheating ass man, ain’t shit as friend, Pervy boss, or trick in the street- but they can’t forgive their momma.
      Na that don’t make sense to me.

    • @Itzyhani
      @Itzyhani Год назад +4

      @@material-cheshirekhatter2413 did you mean to reply to someone else. I never said anything about a parent shouldn’t listen and take accountability. I actually heard the mother do that. But you can clearly see that there is a severe fracture in the way they communicate.
      It can not all just been attacking and pointing the finger! Her daughters didn’t come on there to take accountability also, they came to point out what she did wrong as a mother. How can you expect anyone to give you a heartfelt apology and listen when you are disrespectful. It won’t work. Not a parent, boss, or a bum in the street. Communication is not just stating your opinion it also includes active listening, mindfulness and open minded people who are looking to resolve issues.
      Look I held so much resentment towards my dad for not being there. I used to watch him on tv and at high powered events protecting some of the most famous ppl in the world. I used to think how can he care about them but not me his daughter.
      It took for me to go through life, F up a few times and need forgiveness from others, and have a child myself before I could forgive him.
      I realized that I had to meet him where he was and accept it or walk away. I wanted this box office movie apology and I wanted him to change everything I didn’t like. But that is not possible.
      So once I let go of the hate and the need to be validated by him it was easy.
      Her daughters pain is real and their own. There is nothing the mom can do or say to alleviate that. Whenever it happens it will be because they decided to release it.

    • @sicilysscenarios365
      @sicilysscenarios365 Год назад

      @@Itzyhani I said don’t expect and I’m referring to this situation in particular because the mother is obviously a narcissist that feeds off the fact she did the job she signed up for. I can’t believe you are defending this sorry ass excuse of a parent but hey you might be just as bad so let me me not speak

  • @ljackson24
    @ljackson24 Год назад +14

    There’s so much that went on, I just pray they each find the peace they need. It may be apart. The mom doesn’t want to listen to Iceland bc it’s too much truth for Mama. She can’t take it. Sadly smh

  • @teirracook4695
    @teirracook4695 Год назад +7

    It’s unfortunate because no one wants to take accountability. I can not stand a parent that feels they never do anything wrong. Just own your shit!

  • @alicemiriah
    @alicemiriah Год назад +18

    7:15 “I learned a lot of behaviors from my mother” that’s exactly what her daughters have done. Mainly the youngest.

    • @mesmerio-0
      @mesmerio-0 Год назад +1

      I guess when your a child growing up in a toxic household where your own worst enemies is the world AND YOUR PARENTS you feel like you need to push your true self down and match their energy for a little while, just until you get out of it. Unfortunately by the Time you do, you don’t realize you might’ve been infected by the bad environment.

  • @corneisharatcliffe8053
    @corneisharatcliffe8053 Год назад +31

    Karmo jus know if I EVER see you I'm hugging you and I normally DO NOT get in folks space, but you are jus a joy! your listening skills are kinda frightening (that's my own trauma) but to be heard. You definitely hear well, Keep up the amazing work! UP Top ✋

  • @loveneisha
    @loveneisha Год назад +14

    Their mother is acting like she hasn't done anything.

  • @finnthehuman7159
    @finnthehuman7159 Год назад +26

    Theres definitely love here. Praying they mend their relationships 🙏🏽

  • @diamerist88879
    @diamerist88879 Год назад +9

    I believe tf out of them. Narcissistic parents always choose their partners over their kids.

    • @diamerist88879
      @diamerist88879 Год назад

      The parents always also go after the kid that forced them to realize the messed up traits about themselves. I was the scapegoat so ik first hand how it goes.

    • @nana8135
      @nana8135 9 месяцев назад +1

      True❤

  • @aliciamai1994
    @aliciamai1994 Год назад +8

    Being the middle child myself .. whew I felt that . Idk if it’s being that middle child but I’ve certainly had to love my family from a distance . I only speak to my sisters . Anyone that brings me head ache or heart ache , I can’t let in my space .

  • @Betruebekind
    @Betruebekind 10 месяцев назад +5

    Karamo never address the children when they are being disrespectful to their parents on his show.

  • @R-DinHo
    @R-DinHo Год назад +86

    The mother is just as disrespectful

  • @erinmartin9905
    @erinmartin9905 Год назад +8

    Can we talk about the boots the mom has on? They are fire.

  • @lexielexie8819
    @lexielexie8819 Год назад +24

    The young one is the type who will kill her parents because she was spoiled all her life and can’t handle being told no.

    • @Lady.Pressed
      @Lady.Pressed Год назад +6

      Sure would. Then she brags about never being disciplined. Girl we can tell. 🥴🥴

  • @aishachandler4570
    @aishachandler4570 Год назад +6

    That youngest one something else! Very disrespectful and whoever agree with her is sick. She is extremely entitled.

  • @JJ-kx8gi
    @JJ-kx8gi Год назад +66

    The daughter in the blue,girl….. smh.

    • @BOSSLADY-cu8vs
      @BOSSLADY-cu8vs Год назад +4

      She need to be on somebody's runway modeling

    • @Toriab
      @Toriab Год назад

      @@BOSSLADY-cu8vs nal she needs her a s s beat for disrespecting her mom like that!

    • @JJ-kx8gi
      @JJ-kx8gi Год назад +2

      @@BOSSLADY-cu8vs the youngest? Absolutely not lol Icelynn though,I agree!

    • @samanthac.7965
      @samanthac.7965 11 месяцев назад

      Right!

  • @lcmodelchick
    @lcmodelchick Год назад +96

    That little daughter is so rude! Icelynn is beautiful inside out.

    • @I3love92
      @I3love92 Год назад +2

      Very rude

    • @mesmerio-0
      @mesmerio-0 Год назад +5

      She should be, her mom was terrible TO ALL OF THEM!!!

    • @shortyduwhop319
      @shortyduwhop319 10 месяцев назад +5

      She’s just like her mom, actually.

  • @bossladiee
    @bossladiee Год назад +3

    That was so difficult to watch! While not my experience, I know SO many woman that have lived this life and still struggle as adults w/children of their own - some repeating the cycle. Praying for healing for this family!

  • @rachellbanks503
    @rachellbanks503 Год назад +18

    Everything starts with the parent!!!! That’s all I’m saying 🙊

  • @mo_e_1
    @mo_e_1 Год назад +7

    13:47 the most realest thing ever said on the internet

  • @journeywithjesus
    @journeywithjesus Год назад +8

    The way the youngest would talk to the mum I was like 😱😱 I could never talk to my mum or my dad that way. Hope they work things out.

  • @shawnda8317
    @shawnda8317 Год назад +291

    The youngest one need a foot in her *** - mad disrespectful. The way the mother disciplined the older two is how she should have done her.

    • @2intriguing1
      @2intriguing1 Год назад

      And judging from the comments I hope none of these ingrates have kids, they think it's ok if a mother isn't perfect they can disrespect her. I don't like her nasty @ss

    • @deshawnbrinson2298
      @deshawnbrinson2298 Год назад +12

      I said the same thing

    • @Godchgshe
      @Godchgshe Год назад

      Yeah her mom should've fcuked her up when she was kicking her down😂😂....

    • @Toriab
      @Toriab Год назад

      It’s like the youngest is so disrespectful to the point the mother is scared of her. Cus I would’ve beennnnnn put my foot up her a s s

    • @shiloh8734
      @shiloh8734 Год назад +83

      She’s a product of her mother so why should she be blamed for the bad parenting of her mother? What she needs is healing and some compassion. Y’all always want to blame the kids for their behavior while glancing over the parents and the environment that created them.

  • @SW-ry3ni
    @SW-ry3ni Год назад +13

    Sadly the mom only respects the children who are the most disrespectful toward her

  • @MM-954
    @MM-954 9 месяцев назад

    The middle child will continue to elevate and blossom. Proud of her and blessings to her and her children. 💯

  • @divinedriven1693
    @divinedriven1693 Год назад +12

    You see tht little one sense she catered to her there is no respect - tht middle child I feel for her and the oldest

  • @noomigilljam4641
    @noomigilljam4641 Год назад +18

    I think its very important to acknowledge that If a child/teenager holds that much anger towards their parents, something is wrong, and that it can come from the parents and what they have done. A person that is that angry and disrespectful is that for a reason, I have been that myself, NOT as much as the girl in this video, but that can be resentment towards the parents and grief most of the time. This doesn’t mean that it’s okay at all, but it’s important to understand. I hope they all heal🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @fatoub.3539
    @fatoub.3539 Год назад +8

    Icelynn is GORGEOUS!

  • @RolandaBoutiqueLondon
    @RolandaBoutiqueLondon Год назад +3

    The problem is no boundaries it's very difficult for a single mum

  • @Honestlycurls
    @Honestlycurls Год назад +9

    My mom is the same. The whooping made you who you are… oh that’s the signature non accountability mothers

  • @Prettyprincessnae_
    @Prettyprincessnae_ Год назад +2

    ‘ Yes ma’am 😹 ! icelynn is very outspoken 🥰 .

  • @MsLady-gb3gy
    @MsLady-gb3gy Год назад +22

    The mom may need to get another therapist..because whoever she been seeing doesn't have her take accountability..maybe he /she is a yes therapist 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤