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I cried. Ive been following you for 4 years now (idk if you remember but im the hungarian girl) and i felt what youve been through. I got diagnosed with a really bad (*) like 2 years ago, so i exactly know what you felt. I was almost praying for you to view life differently, cus i was suffering with the same thing. I am so incredibly proud of you. I am so thankful for you to always continue what you love and for always uploading videos for us. Your videos were (are) a distraction from life when it was hard for me. I escaped life for a brief time, to calm down and to ease my mind with your videos. It sounds silly but i really am thankful for you denis. And for Minka as well, you needed her. All of us are thankful for you. And the ones who arent are stinky rats who you shouldnt care about! So again, thank you.❤
It's so nice to listen to someone like Denis. Just opinions that are not censored or sugarcoated. You asked how to deal with people who are annoying and make you uncomfortable? Don't. Why would you engage with someone like that? If they're repeatedly approaching you, I would act very bland and uninterested, so they get bored and leave. And at the end of the day, it's totally fine to have a conversation with that person and let them know that you would like them to back off. You won't get far by giving social cues to someone who does not understand them. Keep up the great work Denis!
Denis I just wanted to say that I love how you're keeping your channel original and honest. Doing what YOU want to do on YOUR channel. You're probably the only sso ytber I watch constantly now because everyone just puts out the same mainstream and boring content. It's SO rare but refreshing to see videos that are creative these days since its very easy to just hop on sso content trends/having a facade on your channel. Grateful to still have this dinky rat family
If I'm being honest in my experience people like that need to be told straight up to back off. It's better to say it sooner rather than later so it avoids a big argument.. I hope you manage to fix the situation!! love ur content btw
this video really hit hard, it hit home. ive been through things i hate talking about, things that are gut wrenching for most, and after all that happened i was in a hole for years. i still struggle, some things are never truly gone but man i needed to hear this, the reality of living means going through hell and back, you're channel has been a comfort place for me for quite a while now, and i find myself rewatching your videos quite often. Thank you man, God bless you.
I’ve been watching you for 5 years now, and this is why I will always continue to. You always make me feel so comforted and honestly give the best advice. I’ve truly never related to someone more, it’s like you just described my exact situation. Your my comfort RUclipsr and just thank you for always showing up for us even when you were going through such hard times yourself. Thank you for being you, we love you denis.
Can 100% agree that acceptance of the state of the world around you will help with peace of mind and definitely helps ease any suffering, acceptance is one of the most powerful tools for your mental health, which combined with an optimistic attitude and a sense of hope can get you through majority of situations Thank you for talking on this topic Denis, mental health coping mechanisms such as this one needs to be talked about more
So I’ll admit it since i can actually be that annoying person sometimes, but i have gotten better at taking social cues that I'm talking too much. Thats my main problem. It sometimes embarrasses me to be told you are talking to much but have mostly matured to not get too offended and graciously accept i need to be quiet. So from my point of view i like it best when someone just very nicely says “hey im not a very talkative person, and you are talking too much for me. It just overstimulates me that is the way i am. Please just tone it down” Or they can nicely say “i just need peace and quiet right now. Im not in the mood to talk.” I think its best to not just out and tell them they are annoying as a person but to just give them hints like that. If that doesnt work, then yes from my pov here it is then appropriate to tell them they talk too much, you dont mind talking to them so long as its within reason. That sort of thing. Hope this helps
Personally I have felt the same way with my father he’s just very un self aware and what i recommend for people like that is to be blunt even if they think they are being harmless it doesn’t change how it’s affecting you it may seem rude at first but protecting your peace is important
To start off with, love you bunches! I also understand your autoimmune condition, a few years ago I was diagnosed with Reynauld's Syndrome; and it heavily debilitated me and my life in the colder weather. I've loved it, always have, but being stuck inside because of it was.. rough to say the least. I completely understand the complications that come with it, and how it has an impact on mental health. To carry on with that, all the advice you need is everything you stated in your video. You are a smart, funny, and impactful person that brings laughter where you decide to be at. The best advice you can every follow is your own intuition about how you feel in a situation. Enjoy everything this Winter Festival and the winter season has to bring!
Hey Denise, I love your videos and how original you are with your videos! For the situation that you need advice on. I suggest talking to them and tell them about how their behavior makes you feel.(Do it respectfully). If you don't address the now it might turn into an argument that might affect you, the person and everyone around you. I really appreciate the advice you gave in the video about radical acceptance. I heard the term some time ago but never cared to know the meaning fully. Thank you for sharing your life experience. It helped me and it's going to help a lot of people also. Keep it up.😊❤
This was a very inspirational video Denis! I’m sorry you had to go through those tough times, to me sometimes I really want to run away from everything, but I know it would haunt me later. I love hearing your voice and ur cat I love your channel, you, Mink and everyone else ❤ btw I love all of your Breyer models, what are ur top 3 favs?
Maturing is realising that communication is usually hard but purely responsibility regardless to whom and for what reason. To not communicate to wait for an opportunity to lash out is also a sign of no self awareness. Doing stuff out of outburst is just childish, esp if there has been opportunities to confront. Im 27. Ive recently had this problem A LOT, ever since starting university somewhere new, two people in two years have latched onto me HEAVILY. One of them especially put my judgement so high, he would emotionally blackmail out of panic if i was not available. Honestly, telling people about your boundaries unfortunately IS your responsibility. People dont always know, which sucks and sometimes is used as a fake excuse, but they sometimes really dont. Someone might think theyre being nice (ive noticed boomers arent so emotionally mature to notice signs) even though yeah, theyre crossing it. So if this person is 40, constantly approaching(?) Idk the context, sometimes id genuinely question why they always want to talk to me. Like, " hey i find it interesting why you always speak to me even though youre much older, whats the reason for that?" And switch tones accordingly on the situation. And question it, stating that it was a little bizarre, you dont feel comfortable. They will probably even be forced to ask about how you feel about it, giving you an opportunity to say it.
I’m someone that doesn’t read the room. You don’t need to take this advice or even notice it but I’ll add my two cents since I’m terrible with socializing and I like being notified if I’m making someone uncomfortable. Tell them honestly. It’s gonna hurt them but I know I loved it way more when people told me straight up. “Hey, I hate you and please stop talking to me.” That’s what I got told in my work place a lot and schools and I’m thankful for the honesty. It stung in the first moment it happened. But I’d understand I’m making them uncomfortable and leave. Could be my mannerisms. The way I don’t make eye contact. The way my voice sounds. How I might not really understand the inside jokes at all. Could be anything. Im an idiot when it comes to just talking. I’d rather have that honesty than someone just smiling and saying they do like my company but on the inside they hate me and back stab me. Most hurt I ever was when I thought someone enjoyed being with me but I had no idea I made them uncomfortable until they tried to get me fired for something rather silly. Like leaving a small gate open for a few minutes. It sounds totally ridiculous but I almost got written up for a little gate. It’s gonna suck more if you do indeed have a good friend you like but they are friends with the person that makes you uncomfortable. Tell your friend first and foremost that the person makes you Rip the bandaid off. Honesty is terrifying and I’m happy and thankful when people are brutally honest. I’m an clueless yapper about plants and animals. And have a tough time socializing and thinking many people hate me to begin with. Socializing and looking at peoples eyes seems like a super power to me because I’m that terrible at it. Lol Just my two cents. If it was all an inside joke and I took it too seriously, then that’s on me. lol
What is this person doing exactly that’s making you uncomfortable? Is it the vibe, the way they say things, or just needing to be near you no matter what? I had a coworker that creeped me out; he wasn’t doing anything wrong per se but there was just something… off. A couple of weeks after my dad passed, I was at work; frustrated, irritable, etc. and he comes up to me and starts to piss me off more so I finally let him have it (in a polite way so he wouldn’t kill me or something). He finally stopped but ofc I was painted as the bad guy but oh well.
Saying no in a calm, nonaggressive way is NOT rude. The only reason society deems it as 'rude' is because people don't like being rejected because of their pride or entitlement. No one is entitled to your time and again, as long as you aren't like... Spitting in their face practically... It's not rude to just say, "hey, I know you probably mean well, but I really don't want to talk to you. I don't know you, I'm not comfortable around you, and I've been trying to hint at that but you aren't getting it. I mean no offense, but please stop trying to talk to me." Or something like that. But they aren't entitled to your attention and it's okay to set that boundary and just say enough is enough. They're probably neurodivergent and that's why they aren't picking up the cues, so the best way to communicate to them is just honesty. You are not responsible for their emotions.
Initially, I thought the person in question was a teen or young adult on the spectrum (given their trouble understanding social cues) with an innocent crush on you. However, when I learned that they were in their FORTIES, all I could think was, “STRANGER DANGER!!! PREDATOR ALERT!!!!!” 😬 I’d speak with a trusted, older adult about the situation and try to avoid being alone with the person in question. If this is in a work environment or college, I’d privately bring the situation to the attention of your boss or professor. On a side note, I appreciate what you had to say about radical acceptance.
Wow, I love how you’re not shy to open up, it’s really beautiful how much you’ve improved, Denis. I’m so happy for u🥹 u giving us therapy now, and tbh it’s a good way to cope with things. I kinda created a habit like that since childhood and it helps me to this day, some people say expect the worst to happen and when things work out or go well u will be ecstatic… but it’s also good to have faith in things and that might help them improve. I always had faith in u denis, and always will, we love u, little rodent:D ❤❤❤
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13:24 bro gave us time to reflect
IM DEAD, THAT WASNT SUPPOSED TO BE THERE
I cried. Ive been following you for 4 years now (idk if you remember but im the hungarian girl) and i felt what youve been through. I got diagnosed with a really bad (*) like 2 years ago, so i exactly know what you felt. I was almost praying for you to view life differently, cus i was suffering with the same thing. I am so incredibly proud of you. I am so thankful for you to always continue what you love and for always uploading videos for us. Your videos were (are) a distraction from life when it was hard for me. I escaped life for a brief time, to calm down and to ease my mind with your videos. It sounds silly but i really am thankful for you denis. And for Minka as well, you needed her. All of us are thankful for you. And the ones who arent are stinky rats who you shouldnt care about!
So again, thank you.❤
"mink. you're being a stink." was genuinely the best thing ever LOL
It's so nice to listen to someone like Denis. Just opinions that are not censored or sugarcoated.
You asked how to deal with people who are annoying and make you uncomfortable? Don't. Why would you engage with someone like that? If they're repeatedly approaching you, I would act very bland and uninterested, so they get bored and leave. And at the end of the day, it's totally fine to have a conversation with that person and let them know that you would like them to back off. You won't get far by giving social cues to someone who does not understand them.
Keep up the great work Denis!
Thank you so much! :)
Denis I just wanted to say that I love how you're keeping your channel original and honest. Doing what YOU want to do on YOUR channel.
You're probably the only sso ytber I watch constantly now because everyone just puts out the same mainstream and boring content. It's SO rare but refreshing to see videos that are creative these days since its very easy to just hop on sso content trends/having a facade on your channel.
Grateful to still have this dinky rat family
Thank you SO much
If I'm being honest in my experience people like that need to be told straight up to back off. It's better to say it sooner rather than later so it avoids a big argument.. I hope you manage to fix the situation!! love ur content btw
Really showing the "Wise" in Wisestorm😭ty denis
this video really hit hard, it hit home. ive been through things i hate talking about, things that are gut wrenching for most, and after all that happened i was in a hole for years. i still struggle, some things are never truly gone but man i needed to hear this, the reality of living means going through hell and back, you're channel has been a comfort place for me for quite a while now, and i find myself rewatching your videos quite often. Thank you man, God bless you.
Bruh this video needs to go VIRAL, viral. I'm 28 and still working on this kind of stuff. Love how you are straight to the point with it!
I’ve been watching you for 5 years now, and this is why I will always continue to. You always make me feel so comforted and honestly give the best advice. I’ve truly never related to someone more, it’s like you just described my exact situation. Your my comfort RUclipsr and just thank you for always showing up for us even when you were going through such hard times yourself. Thank you for being you, we love you denis.
Can 100% agree that acceptance of the state of the world around you will help with peace of mind and definitely helps ease any suffering, acceptance is one of the most powerful tools for your mental health, which combined with an optimistic attitude and a sense of hope can get you through majority of situations
Thank you for talking on this topic Denis, mental health coping mechanisms such as this one needs to be talked about more
Man i just needed a video to clean my room to but your radical acceptance talk hit me. I love u bro thank you for sharing fr❤
I’ve been really really struggling with this lately. 10:44 I have been speaking with my therapist and I want to get better. Thanks.❤
dude is helping me have some motivation to play the game. I love your content Denise thank q!
So I’ll admit it since i can actually be that annoying person sometimes, but i have gotten better at taking social cues that I'm talking too much. Thats my main problem. It sometimes embarrasses me to be told you are talking to much but have mostly matured to not get too offended and graciously accept i need to be quiet. So from my point of view i like it best when someone just very nicely says “hey im not a very talkative person, and you are talking too much for me. It just overstimulates me that is the way i am. Please just tone it down”
Or they can nicely say “i just need peace and quiet right now. Im not in the mood to talk.”
I think its best to not just out and tell them they are annoying as a person but to just give them hints like that. If that doesnt work, then yes from my pov here it is then appropriate to tell them they talk too much, you dont mind talking to them so long as its within reason. That sort of thing. Hope this helps
Personally I have felt the same way with my father he’s just very un self aware and what i recommend for people like that is to be blunt even if they think they are being harmless it doesn’t change how it’s affecting you it may seem rude at first but protecting your peace is important
To start off with, love you bunches!
I also understand your autoimmune condition, a few years ago I was diagnosed with Reynauld's Syndrome; and it heavily debilitated me and my life in the colder weather. I've loved it, always have, but being stuck inside because of it was.. rough to say the least. I completely understand the complications that come with it, and how it has an impact on mental health.
To carry on with that, all the advice you need is everything you stated in your video. You are a smart, funny, and impactful person that brings laughter where you decide to be at. The best advice you can every follow is your own intuition about how you feel in a situation.
Enjoy everything this Winter Festival and the winter season has to bring!
Hey Denise, I love your videos and how original you are with your videos!
For the situation that you need advice on. I suggest talking to them and tell them about how their behavior makes you feel.(Do it respectfully). If you don't address the now it might turn into an argument that might affect you, the person and everyone around you.
I really appreciate the advice you gave in the video about radical acceptance. I heard the term some time ago but never cared to know the meaning fully. Thank you for sharing your life experience. It helped me and it's going to help a lot of people also. Keep it up.😊❤
Denis is faster at posting videos than rabbits are at multiplying
Bro😂😂
DEAD
I love you channel!! I’m your biggest fan!!
Actually I find the topic of accepting reality and all that is really interesting and helpful. Thanks Denis.
This was a very inspirational video Denis! I’m sorry you had to go through those tough times, to me sometimes I really want to run away from everything, but I know it would haunt me later. I love hearing your voice and ur cat
I love your channel, you, Mink and everyone else ❤
btw I love all of your Breyer models, what are ur top 3 favs?
@@sso_Cloudy thank you !!
Bondi, Acadia & Water :)
@ Wow you have great taste in Breyer models
10/10 yap would listen again
i like this deep talks with denis xD ive watched u ever since i was younger, so its cool to hear growth from u similar to mine!!
Maturing is realising that communication is usually hard but purely responsibility regardless to whom and for what reason. To not communicate to wait for an opportunity to lash out is also a sign of no self awareness. Doing stuff out of outburst is just childish, esp if there has been opportunities to confront.
Im 27. Ive recently had this problem A LOT, ever since starting university somewhere new, two people in two years have latched onto me HEAVILY. One of them especially put my judgement so high, he would emotionally blackmail out of panic if i was not available.
Honestly, telling people about your boundaries unfortunately IS your responsibility. People dont always know, which sucks and sometimes is used as a fake excuse, but they sometimes really dont. Someone might think theyre being nice (ive noticed boomers arent so emotionally mature to notice signs) even though yeah, theyre crossing it.
So if this person is 40, constantly approaching(?) Idk the context, sometimes id genuinely question why they always want to talk to me. Like, " hey i find it interesting why you always speak to me even though youre much older, whats the reason for that?" And switch tones accordingly on the situation. And question it, stating that it was a little bizarre, you dont feel comfortable. They will probably even be forced to ask about how you feel about it, giving you an opportunity to say it.
I’m someone that doesn’t read the room. You don’t need to take this advice or even notice it but I’ll add my two cents since I’m terrible with socializing and I like being notified if I’m making someone uncomfortable.
Tell them honestly.
It’s gonna hurt them but I know I loved it way more when people told me straight up. “Hey, I hate you and please stop talking to me.” That’s what I got told in my work place a lot and schools and I’m thankful for the honesty. It stung in the first moment it happened. But I’d understand I’m making them uncomfortable and leave. Could be my mannerisms. The way I don’t make eye contact. The way my voice sounds. How I might not really understand the inside jokes at all. Could be anything. Im an idiot when it comes to just talking.
I’d rather have that honesty than someone just smiling and saying they do like my company but on the inside they hate me and back stab me. Most hurt I ever was when I thought someone enjoyed being with me but I had no idea I made them uncomfortable until they tried to get me fired for something rather silly. Like leaving a small gate open for a few minutes. It sounds totally ridiculous but I almost got written up for a little gate.
It’s gonna suck more if you do indeed have a good friend you like but they are friends with the person that makes you uncomfortable. Tell your friend first and foremost that the person makes you
Rip the bandaid off. Honesty is terrifying and I’m happy and thankful when people are brutally honest. I’m an clueless yapper about plants and animals. And have a tough time socializing and thinking many people hate me to begin with.
Socializing and looking at peoples eyes seems like a super power to me because I’m that terrible at it. Lol
Just my two cents. If it was all an inside joke and I took it too seriously, then that’s on me. lol
idk when i struggle with social interactions i ask chat gpt
Yes denis I want more videos with your advice 🤞🏼😌
What is this person doing exactly that’s making you uncomfortable? Is it the vibe, the way they say things, or just needing to be near you no matter what?
I had a coworker that creeped me out; he wasn’t doing anything wrong per se but there was just something… off. A couple of weeks after my dad passed, I was at work; frustrated, irritable, etc. and he comes up to me and starts to piss me off more so I finally let him have it (in a polite way so he wouldn’t kill me or something). He finally stopped but ofc I was painted as the bad guy but oh well.
Yap Away you little Rat King!
Saying no in a calm, nonaggressive way is NOT rude. The only reason society deems it as 'rude' is because people don't like being rejected because of their pride or entitlement. No one is entitled to your time and again, as long as you aren't like... Spitting in their face practically... It's not rude to just say, "hey, I know you probably mean well, but I really don't want to talk to you. I don't know you, I'm not comfortable around you, and I've been trying to hint at that but you aren't getting it. I mean no offense, but please stop trying to talk to me." Or something like that. But they aren't entitled to your attention and it's okay to set that boundary and just say enough is enough. They're probably neurodivergent and that's why they aren't picking up the cues, so the best way to communicate to them is just honesty. You are not responsible for their emotions.
when you said 1st of dec I thought you'd mention Romania's National birthday, I'm so braindead
@@knownasclemencepuppyburg lol i thought about mentioning it
Initially, I thought the person in question was a teen or young adult on the spectrum (given their trouble understanding social cues) with an innocent crush on you. However, when I learned that they were in their FORTIES, all I could think was, “STRANGER DANGER!!! PREDATOR ALERT!!!!!” 😬 I’d speak with a trusted, older adult about the situation and try to avoid being alone with the person in question. If this is in a work environment or college, I’d privately bring the situation to the attention of your boss or professor.
On a side note, I appreciate what you had to say about radical acceptance.
Thanks for this video Denis, I’m in a crisis right now and i don’t know why, i just felt heard
@@sarahloo2295 hope you feel better soon ❤️ you're not alone!
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Ayyy I’m training too
Radical acceptance = it is what it is lol
Wow, I love how you’re not shy to open up, it’s really beautiful how much you’ve improved, Denis. I’m so happy for u🥹 u giving us therapy now, and tbh it’s a good way to cope with things. I kinda created a habit like that since childhood and it helps me to this day, some people say expect the worst to happen and when things work out or go well u will be ecstatic… but it’s also good to have faith in things and that might help them improve. I always had faith in u denis, and always will, we love u, little rodent:D ❤❤❤
@@kitCat-andreyna thank you 🥺
@deniswisestorm np pookie🥹 thx for reading my essay 😅
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I don't mind these kinds of videos, I think it would be alright to post these here and there, but I LOVE sso related content from you.
rodent is in his philosophy era
Maybe wearing a scarf around your face and bundling up big time like layers of pants and coats, that’s what I do, can’t stand the cold.