Take it from this old lady who was always told that I should choose just one subject and do it well, but because I had more than one passion, I ended up following several diverse ones simultaneously and as a result was able to combine them into one fulfilling life. Follow your bliss because there are no wrong choices. 💞
Yes, Linda!! Me too... I have played in all the things my heart desires and its so beautiful to see the pattern of how they all end of working together because I become the common piece. It ends up creating a beautiful humans with compassion & love for living! Please Paola, don't master a few things of interest become a master of learning and everything your heart leads you to become! God bless you for this channel. I learn so much from listening and watching you. You are a blessing to me.
As a 76 year old woman who married, had children, educated formally and informally, with 3 careers I am now embarking on a new one, that of widow. A new chapter to write and I wonder what will be next.
Sincere condolences. My grandma lost her husband a few months ago. They were married for 60 years. It was such a hard time... She has good and bad days, but her energy is coming back now and I am so proud of her because she is mastering this new chapter with such a wise heart and positive thoughts. We are stronger than we think. I wish you a fulfilling new chapter Julie Thompson.
After obtaining a PhD in Psychology at a renowned university in the big city, five years ago I decided to turn my life around and do what my heart longed for - which was buying an old home in the countryside and make a living starting my own business. Although it was a scary decision to make, I've never looked back and wouldn't want to change my current life for anything else. Good for you to have done the same, Paola.
@elfiegmond9971 your comment really touched me. I just finished my PhD in Psychology as well and I was offered a postdoc position. However, after dealing with anxiety, I feel exhausted by the academic world and I long to find an alternative path for my career. Your comment gave me some hope that I'll manage it, thank you!
You remind me so much of my daughter. I have always called her an "old soul" as she is so wise beyond her years. I believe you are as well. She is an artist, musician, nature lover and introvert who easily gets overwhelmed by people even though she loves them. It is the beautiful souls in the world like you and her that help the rest of us understand what is important in life. Thank you dear one.
Maybe your daughter is an HSP (highly sensitive person.) When I discovered Dr. Elaine Aron’s book on the subject, it changed my life, and everything finally made sense. I was in my mid 30’s when I realized this, (I’m now 48.) had I know earlier, my life would’ve have certainly been very different...better. If in fact you’re daughter is an HSP, it is my hope this information will empower her, and to know she is not alone...that everything she feels finally makes sense, in this loud chaotic world. That’s what it did for me, anyway. Blessings
As being a quieter person too, I often ask myself if there is any place (professionaly) I can fit in or if I need to create that place myself. It's a harsh world and being sensitive is a curse and a blessing at the same time. Two years ago I quit university to start something totally different (working with animals) and never regret it. But I often still feel quite lost and struggling with what to do with the time that is given me. Thank you for being a little companion on this yourney. Sending you my love from Germany🌿
could you give any advice/tips on how to quit without feeling like i’m quitting or disappointing others. i’m about to finish medical school but i know in my heart of hearts i most likely won’t be working in the field. i honestly would love to be a writer but i feel like my family won’t even understand much less support my choice.
There's a great book by Julia Cameron called The Artist's Way that would be quite supportive and revealing on your journey . It's an international bestseller . The 12 weeks program will bring measurable results . Good luck
@@elvenaubade Start writing now. Go and find a way to make your writings financially and socially productive while still studying or practicing in hospitals. Try to be assigned to a children section and write some stories for them. See if you can do both, or else find a publisher for your stories and earn some money, so your family can see it's not just a flight of fancy but a real profession.
I remember doing a 5th grade report on what we wanted to be when we grew up. All I wanted to be was a mother. I got looks og discouragement being I didn't want some big career. I had both motherhood and an important job. But motherhood hands down was my greatest joy.
I'm a housewife and there's nothing better for me. I run our social life as a family, I'm molding my children, everything that truly matters in life is shaped by my hands as the mother. I couldn't dream of a better life. I wanted to be a dancer on Broadway when I was little. Glad I didn't.
I am 65. In highschool , I recall , in class, two girls behind me discussing how many kids they each wanted to have. I could no more relate to them than someone from a distant planet. I see having children as unjustified imprisonment and slavery. No haters please. We each have our own experiences. I was held down or enslaved or something in past lives likely imprisoned for a crime I did not commit. I was raised by immature Nazi- like parents who pushed obedience. I had no freedom. I have NEVER for a nano second regretted NOT having kids. I feel BLESSED that I do NOT have children. I do have many dogs. I am self realized, creative, happy and have freedom to do as I choose. I am not lacking in any way. To each her own. Others are NOT needed to be whole and fulfilled. Give back to life in any way that you choose. You can give to plants, to the environment, to people that are already here.
I was a firefighter for four years in the eighties and have been a law enforcement officer for the past 35 years. My Masters is in history and I sometimes think how nice it would have been to teach. Perhaps I will some day. However, I learned long ago not to doubt myself and the life I have chosen to live. My wife and I have raised two great sons (neither have followed me into the emergency services 😁) and we have had a blessed life. I don't know, maybe I will open a bookstore in a small town when I retire...
I remember when I first heard the concept of our "un-lived lives' and thinking it sounded rather odd. And yet, I find that I do wonder, quite often about other choices I could have made - it's natural to consider other ways we could have lived, or decisions we could have made. And yet, I think there is power in considering what 'could have been' - but instead of letting it lead us into guilt or regret, let it inspire and empower us to enrich our lives with multiple passions and interests. We cannot fulfill every dream, but we can carry the essence of those dreams with us. I don't know if this is a very relatable to you, but perhaps it can inspire a conversation! Do share your passions below, and how you incorporate them into your life. Sending my love. MY ETSY SHOP is closing near the end of the month due to my tiny post office getting too busy that time of year, I appreciate your support in the meantime!🦊🍄 It helps me keep this channel running: www.etsy.com/shop/thecottagefairyart
This topic reminds me of the poem "The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost. Hope you don't mind if I add it here. Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.
The Midnight Library is a semi-whimsical novel about unlived lives 😌 And of course pop culture movies like The Butterfly Effect and even the recent Netflix movie Look Both Ways explores how one decision/encounter (chosen or not) can lead to drastically different unfoldings...and yet also not necessarily. In the end, the 'what' may be less important than the 'how' (though they are interrelated)
A well-known saying is: you understand your life backwards, but you have to live it forward. Mistakes, wrong decisions and all are part of life, growth and important experiences. And all led you to the now and that now seems very promising and positiv. We would never be able to appreciate what we have, what good there is, if we would now know about the other parts and dark valleys of life. It is all good like it is.
I have rheumatoid arthritis and lost my nursing career. As my disability became more disabling, I lost more and more of those unlived ideas. It’s something I work through in therapy but I LOVE how you framed it… and gently reminded me to enjoy all my passions as fully as possible.
Oh how I have pondered this for the last 45 years, as I got married to a man I thought I knew, with who I had 2 children. That choice not only affected my life, but my 2 children as he had an affair and left the family to make a family with her and their child who was only 6 weeks younger than my youngest son. That one choice caused me to have a life of regret and watching my children push themselves through the hurt and pain all these years. Sitting here I have tears running down my face as it could have all been so different- so very different.
Prayers for you right now! I am very sorry. God knows all about your pain and your children's hurt and pain. I have been through a divorce. It has been 8 years this month and the pain is unbearable some days. God is helping me to heal day by day. It is a process. I know it is hard but I try to look at the positive. God blessed me with a wonderful son. God has helped me to become more independent and creative. Just know that God loves you. Sending you God's blessings.
Keep writing. Painting. Making films. Voices like yours are SO unique & needed in a world that seems to be increasingly losing heart, soul & authenticity in exchange for fast, loud & fake. Stay you. 🙏🏼
Spoken like a homeschooler. As someone who homeschooled I think there is great opportunity in informal education. The love of learning is often stripped in our cold, formal and overly structured learning institutions. Follow your heart and keep learning and most of all, living!
I homeschooled my kids for a long time. Until I got medical conditions and just couldn’t keep up anymore. I miss it and my kids are struggling in the “traditional” classroom that has a cookie cutter approach and if you don’t fit it, you’re odd
My mother spent the majority of her adult life as a public school teacher in two different states here in the USA and at US gov't-affiliated grade schools in 2 other countries. She has often bemoaned the slow, steady stripping of actual teaching & learning from curricula as they were slowly replaced by what "experts" (often with little or no classroom experience) deemed the proper kind of information to be imparted and the proper way to impart it... all while making sure those Godlike standardized test scores remain as high as possible for funding purposes.
A Jeffersonian education is th only education worth obtaining. I started off homeschooling my kids, then when I realized "school" was getting in the way, we removed it entirely and now we're just unschoolers. My kids haven't sat at a desk (or at the table with books) since they were little. Public school wastes time and money. Imagine what kids could be without the hindrance.
It's amazing, the difference between myself, my education, and my children's and the adults that they have become.I was educated in a very rigid school system, and I appreciate all my parents tried to do for me, but I homeschooled my three children and it's amazing how independent they are, how they have their own minds and their opinions and they're not programmed to think or act the way everyone expects them to. They are individuals and I really believe that homeschooling has done that for them.
Thank you for your thoughtful video. Married the wrong person but blessed with a caring son & daughter (adults). Lost my Mom 14 days ago at age 96. Feel like I am at a crossroads now, 68 years old and on disability, still want to learn & contribute. Love to read nonfiction but leaning into fiction. I believe in God & pray every day but lots of people don’t. Please enjoy weekend and continue to inspire me.💜
Sharon Aman, Big warm hug to you. Gentle people gather here My heart is with you. Mommy lived a long Life, yet we wish they could stay on board longer. She is resting in peace.One day she will awaken. Every version states the identical promise at John 5:28. Revelation 21:3,4. That day is already set. What Lovely people. My Mom, who finally rested 2 yrs ago. Dad is on the ending chapter of Life. Knowing with certainty that up ahead all will be returned. My parents had a theme song... It came along during a health crisis. "Just Around The Corner" Literally brought her out of hospice, to enjoyed around 30 extra months of Life. Blessings to you as you come to terms with this. It's a temporary separation. The bond between parent and child remains forever. Up ahead you will reunite, and her real self, body and mind, will be restored to vibrant health. Bless you and your family. May you navigate this chapter with insight and wisdom.🤗🙏🌱 You are likely exhausted. Get enough sleep. Listen to uplifting music. Someone sent me a video at a very vulnerable time. Look up " Precious Daughter" It was played by a group I had never met, We sang together during pandemic. On Zoom. 'Kingdom Melodies' kept me sane. 'Original Songs' saved our hearts. I'm not tech savvy, but became aware of how to access these. Search for them on most translated site on the 🌎. www.jw.org They gave me strength and Joy. International diverse group amazing musicians pooled their talents, combining efforts to produce an impressive collection. May your heart feel supported.🏞️
Not much to say but I understand. I married the wrong person, too. Still married to him - don't know if that will ever be possible to change. But I have an 18-year-old son with mental disabilities and ADHD and Asperger's ( yes it's a load!!) that I got out of the deal who needs me. I lost my mom last year. We were very close, and it's been really hard. She's always on my mind, and I still have - rough moments now rather than days. Time does heal. I love nonfiction, too, and reading and studying. I have lots of interests and never could figure out what to do with them. I quit college. Floundered. Worked part-time several years while living with my parents til I got married. My motto is it's never too late, and I just thought I'd share that with you. You can still learn and contribute. Always. It's something I keep in mind - if I could ever figure out what it is I actually want to do. I'm 51. Right now I enjoy my hobbies and my cats. Have a good day, and keep on keeping on. 🙂
Thank you Paola for the video. I have to admit I spend a lot of time thinking about "what if" and my "un-lived lives"- like it crosses my mind on a daily basis. In my case there are a lot of thoughts of regret and wishing I'd done things differently. But I try to remind myself that I don't really know how things would have turned out if I had done this or that. It's easy to look back and see "mistakes" but I have no real way of knowing how my life would have played out differently over the span of years if I had taken a different route. So I try to just stay present with what I have today and feel love and gratitude for my life as it is.
My 13 year old daughter and myself are quiet introverts and she is having a hard time at school because of “all those extroverts”😊 I think only us quiet introverts understand each other.❤
Hi Sara...I'm sorry your beautiful daughter is having a difficult time at school xx Sending all my love & wishes for her & also you 💜🙏💕 I hope she is able to stay true to herself and feel strength and resiliency throughout her life xx Blessings to you both xx
Quiet introverts end up being artists, scientists, musicians, conservationists, see beauty in all living things & nature, have a great insight into what is right for them and their needs in their chosen work and life, and generally are great true friends. Quiet introverts know they have special gifts to nurture and these gifts will end up being part of the beautiful creative person with sincere & true friends🌷
My mother died 31days ago. I’m so grateful for these videos and how peaceful they are. They lend a tremendous amount of perspective. I too long for a very simple life. I will never live that one kind of life, everyone keeps telling me about all of the opportunities I have a head of me now. It’s frightening and overwhelming, so much so that I find that I ultimately want to do nothing. Thank you for providing some peace and comfort through your wonderful videos
Give yourself time to grieve. There is no time limit for the process. Tiny steps, your mum would want you to be happy I'm sure. Just be kind to yourself 😌 and take care.
😓 Sorry you are facing this separation. One day she will be restored. May you be supported and FEEL supported. There is a promise found in every translation of the Scripture John5:28.resurrection awaits.🤗
My dad is actively dying and I am also so drawn to your videos …. I saw another lady comment they also just lost a parent. Something about your videos has healing and soothing and calming qualities…
You might not have been accepted for your writing earlier in life, but your talent definitely lies in your art, poetry and videos. I have your book on Kindle (partially sighted I read better on an iPad) and it is wonderful. 👌I’m sure if you wrote and illustrated a children’s “fairy” book - with your gentle storytelling and beautiful artwork it would be a best seller ! Yesterday is gone - today is here right now to live & enjoy and tomorrow is to fulfil your dreams ….many blessings dear soul 🙏
It's a great topic that you have brought out to talk about. For me personally, it is not healthy to daydream about 'what if' topics. It can send me down into deep deep depression for weeks. I truly try to enjoy the right now moments where it count. With so much chronic pain, my health depends on how my mind is going. It is important to stay on the positive side of things and how i can keep moving forward. Sometimes I do daydream about those what if moments, but only momentarily and then changed into some other thoughts/ideas for the day. I also believe that it's dangerous to stay in the 'what if,' daydream. The danger of being stuck in thinking the 'what if.' Mindset is that you can sabotage your own reality, where you are now. Like I said, it can send you into a deep depression, where you didn't intended to be. Where you live now with your husband; very secluded from cities is not for everyone. It takes a very creative and inventive type of a person, such as yourself to be able to thrive positively living where you are now. Blessings from the USA, eastern Oregon!!!
As someone who has spent far too much of my life obsessing over the roads not taken, I found this an incredibly uplifting perspective. The idea that those unlived lives are not wasted, but rather a way to enrich our real day-to-day lives is an amazing change of perspective for me. Thank you so much.
I'm in a very dark period of my life and there are some things I'd do differently if I had a choice. My faith is still my beacon and looking forward to your book.
I commenced and completed my university degree in my early 30s. I married very young, in my early teens, and had my two children. I was shocked at how much criticism I received from family/in-laws regarding my decision to study. I have had a brilliant career for almost 25 years now and I will never regret my determination to follow my dreams. My adult children tell me now that I was always a hands on mum and they never felt left out or neglected. Sure it was hard at times but I was/am much happier for it 😌
Snow already - and so much of it? Wow. This week I became fully prepared for when it hits here. Your camera work really is professional grade. When watching your videos, it's like we're seeing a cinematography award winning Hollywood film. Just another of your many talents.
Ever since school, I wanted to be a mother. And I fulfilled that dream 4 times over. And even though I have my other interests and things I enjoy studying. My first love and passion is still being a mother and grandmother. ❣ Lovely video. Thank you.
Congratulations on fulfilling your dream 😊. Nothing I could ever achieve could come close to the love, joy, awe, and pride I feel when I look at my four children. I’m happy with my “career”. And as they are becoming adults, I’m excited to start new adventures, and be a part of theirs!
My job was so stressful, I was a Social Worker. I started my own business but now I'm so isolated from working on my own all the time it's really affecting my mental health. I'm not a person that thrives in solitude. Paola your films are works of art, this is your medium !!!
Create a social circle and use your newfound independence to travel, meet new people and experience new things. A stressful, toxic career is not healthy ( physically or mentally). Remember why you left in the first place. If you are missing toxic socialization, something is wrong.
Maybe use your skills for people in need in a volunteer way? For children in the care system maybe? It is an intensely stressful job being a social worker but it comes with skills from working with different types of people and coping with people being aggressive etc. Those skills are invaluable to those who need them. You would meet new people too.
I am glad you chose this path, as there are not too many brave sensitive souls on youtube. And I love your so called "Archaic" way of writing/talking, it's beautiful and authentic to you. Keep being you ❤
I can relate to this so much. My life has been a rollercoaster and some big dreams were dead before I was twenty. Living in a poor country made me anxious that I will not be able to choose what I love in life and it's still a struggle. From my youngest years I often heard that there's no place for hobbys in adult life, it was so awful to even listen to that. I made some choices (dictated by my health) not to pursue a career, and am more happy than I would've been otherwise, but at times I tend to question my past choices. Because they're not in line with todays world.
Paola, you light up my life! I think if you ever wanted to offer an art class in your community, people would flock to the opportunity to enjoy some time learning with you.
Isn't it interesting that the choices you made end up enriching our lives. You are inspiring and I'm over 70. Thank you for always giving me something to think about.
I think this is a common question a lot of us as ourselves when you’ve created a certain life path. Did I make the right decision in having kids when I did? Should I have traveled more? Is this it for me? Am I truly happy with the life I’ve built? I’m 36 and I find myself questioning a lot. (Mid life crisis? Lol). Thank you for your kind words and reassurance. Love your videos! They calm my soul!
First, let me say that your cinematography is just breathtaking. The environment in which you live is just so beautiful. I hope to visit that part of the country someday. For myself, I still don’t know what I want to do for a living. I’m about to turn 55 in a few days and I have spent the last 30+ years in a job that I simply got comfortable in. The pay is decent, but far from anything that would allow me luxuries. While I used to enjoy it in the earlier years, now it is just a repetitive, stressful task where I don’t feel like I’m making a contribution to the work; but I’m vested at this point. I originally thought I’d go into editing or advertising, yet somehow ended up in a field completely opposite. I love to be creative and find myself using those gifts of mine often at the holidays or within and around my own home in the way of decor, baking, landscaping or doing something creative for the members of my family; particularly children. It becomes my therapeutic outlet. But, I find it harder to fit that time in due to work hours and being tired from my real job. So, here I am, a middle aged woman, still trying ti figure it out and how to be happy. As I former English major, I adore books, particularly old books and children’s books. I often think I belong working in an independent bookstore. I used to love to write and like you, I prefer the old “archaic” style of writing. Should you ever put a compilation of your short stories together, I would most definitely be interested in reading them. There is a whole genre that still loves the old fashioned style. Sometimes I feel that businesses cater towards what they think people want (new/flashy/trendy), but that’s not always the case. If it were, you would have very few followers to this channel, and we all know that’s hardly the case. Best wishes for a good week from unusually warm and still colorful New England. Stay cozy and warm in your winter wonderland full of snow, as our winter is about to show its icy breath here in form of cold temperatures very soon! So sorry for rambling on a bit.
Wonderful video! This was quite thought-provoking for me as an old guy looking back on the paths I've taken in my life. In some cases, there were dead ends and unfinished goals. In others, it was like being in the fast lane on the freeway. Each brought joys and regrets. But looking at my past, I'm not sure I would have done anything differently if I'd known what was ahead. Overall, I'm happy with where I ended up with a few exceptions. At my age, playing these memories like a video in my brain takes more of my time than planning new adventures for the future. I think that is to be expected as one ages though. Thank you for sharing another beautiful video. I truly hope whatever is ahead for you will bring you joy and satisfaction. Have a great week!
Lovely, I'm still taking different paths and some have led me to really scary teraine and I wonder, still how did I make it th through, I was asked at aged 23 to write my life story I thought it rather weird as I felt I hadn't lived enough yet, the professor who suggested it, was right I've kept diaries ever since now at 70 years of age I see I have something to write about and yes it's been worth it even the dead end paths.
Your videos have brought me relief during dark times in my life, and I can’t thank you enough for it. I’m so glad you didn’t give up on your writing and continued to share in the form of these videos. You’ve inspired me to do the same, as I’ve been writing novels for years and although I will be releasing my first one next year, I also like to share my work in a more immediate sense and your beautiful language and way with words in your content made me realise these visual mediums are wonderful ways to do that.
This video really hit home for me today. I turned 50 this year, and it has been surprisingly hard for me. I say surprisingly, because prior to this age, I never thought about my age. Now, I'm freaking out a little each day as I worry about retirement! Ack! I have forgone following a serious career when we had our son, because I wanted to be there for him when he was little. Now that he's grown, I often think how things would have been different if I had followed a career path. I don't regret my choices, but it is a curious thing to wonder about our different life paths that went unchosen. As always, your videos are so beautifully filmed and scripted and leave me wanting to see more! Thank you so much for allowing us into your world!
3.23… spectacular backdrop. I wish to live in such places surrounded by abundance of natural beauty and forage and walk in such lovely woods foraging, tree hugging,admiring ,trekking :))
I always say, our choices determine our destination. We can’t regret the “What if’s”, but we can always choose to move forward, choosing the good path, always. Yes, it is very relatable. And like you say, we must make peace with our choices. Incredible the snow that’s fallen since you filmed. Thank you for this beautiful and thought provoking video. You Paola have such a beautiful soul. 🌸 And btw I love love love “archaic” writing. And yes, look how far your choices have brought you.
Today in Maine it was 73 degrees. I am definitely looking forward to winter as that is my favorite season. And I received your book today in the mail and I'm giving it to my lovely wife for our 28th anniversary. Do I have regrets? Oh, tons of them but what can you do? Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But today is a gift. Which is why its called the present. Looking back and imagining a different path is fine and can be fun but not if it is colored with regret.
I've spent a lot of time reflecting on this too, in a couple different directions. I was always strong in math as a kid and often wonder what my life would be if I'd gone into engineering. At the same time, this year I've decided to explore hobbies, like little lives I never thought I could have - singing lessons, woodworking, dabbling in art. And I've really enjoyed that process!
You’re videos really make my days and relief my anxiety ❤ I can’t believe that RUclips have been hiding you from me for 13 years, I’m so happy to have found you❤
I Love Archaic writing ✍ 💕. Victorian, Edwardian, etc! Love, love, your channel. I am patiently waiting for your book to arrive. Big Love from Alberta, Canada 🇨🇦. ♡♡♡
I frequently think “she has such a way with words, and is such a fantastic storyteller, I wonder if she’ll ever try writing “ while I watch your videos. This video especially made me wish you would so I was delighted when you started talking about it! I’m looking forward to your book and hopeful you will continue to put your writing out there, fiction and non fiction! Your style is absolutely perfect, my favorite type to read, and difficult to find these days. Thank you for putting these beautiful videos into the world❤
As we get older, we look down that road of "what ifs" and can see some clarity. When I made the decision to say OK to moving far away from my daughter and grandchildren and joining my husband in having a little ranch and raising cows I was heartsick for many years because I missed them. But we have made so many memories here with them and our move gave my daughter courage to move with her family away from that area to begin a new adventure in another town slightly closer to us. Regarding the weather...this year it was like a light switch. A beautiful autumn day and the next waking up to a winter wonderland. No gradual steps into winter .
Dear Paola, I would love to read one of your novels. (It doesn't have to be published to be a living, breathing novel. It was written; it is meant to be read.) I, too, love to read Victorian classics and adore the style of writing. I beg to read one of yours. I would love to read what such a young woman with such a wise soul has written.
I'm so happy you didn't need others approval to publish your old fashion style of writing. Look where you are now: A bestselling author. I'm looking forward to you book. Less than 10 days away........YAY!
I love the older fashioned writing. It's much more intelligent than today's, preferred dumbed down writing. You could always self publish, I'm sure your YT fans would love to buy a book of yours, I know I would. Peace ❤🙏
Exactly! People in past eras were better educated and more learned than us. Humanity regressed in that way, and many others. One of the many reasons we are currently destroying people and planet. I would love to see these archaic writings too.
As a person in my 50s I can tell you the pressure to have a degree is mainly from a young perspective. 10 years after you get a degree no one will ask you what you studied. 20 years after your degree you will not think about what you studied. You will become interested in politics and world events, the environment and humanity in general. Your interests will change many times over the decades. You may love cooking for 10 years and decorating and then suddenly change to gardening or music or other hobbies and not care at all about cooking. Life is interesting that way. You can study anything anytime. My mother told me "an active, and intelligent brain is never lonely " and she is right. The biggest pleasure of learning in university was the participation in learning in groups. I miss that. However you can take classes and learn with other people at any time in your life. I also used to have some seniors in my undergrad classes and at the age of 20 wondered why they were there. Now I have committed to studying archeology and anthropology when I am a senior! I cannot wait to be that wrinkled old lady in class with 20 year Olds around me and kicking butt and getting As in everything. Ha!
True. I was very educated when I met my husband… I moved to the state where he grew up and we started our marriage when I was nearly 30… by that time, no one asked me where I went to college or what my degree was in… I’ve lived 20 years in this area and a good portion of the people in our lives over the last two decades don’t even know I have a degree and went to grad school…. Was trained as a behavioral therapist with children with autism… sometimes I find it funny that they don’t know that side of me at all.
I love gardening. I choose to be a teacher but having retired I've been meaning to take some gardening courses. You've made me think about it so I'll do it over the coming winter. Thank you. 👍 - Frances
Beautiful work, and let me tell you that many of us would love to have your life (I would for sure) so no matter what other dreams you had, your life (from my perspective) turned out perfect, you have a loving husband, a fantastic and very successful youtube channel and you get to do what you love - that's the life I would want as well and have none of those so far, but I stay positive and hope that one day I will get there! Much love Paola, you are absolutely amazing! Much love! xxx
I’m kind of seen as a dorky gown up child and I am sure your editors think of someone like me when they say that your “voice is too archaic”. Jokes on them I studied poetry as something “fun to do on my own” as teen And I did not go lightly into that obsession. It’s a crime that they do not understand what people truly want, but they have only cheated themselves. I think video as a platform to create “archaic” style story telling is uniquely wonderful. It’s like getting an insight as to what all those old poets would have done if they’d had the power to vlog. Who knows what madness they would have been up to with TicToc.
I love Victorian literature and I love this kind of writing.You should keep writing as you do .The world needs people like you. I would be delighted to buy your books and so many people too.
“What aspects of those what ifs I can imbue into my present existence in order to enrich my day”--I love that so much. So practical and at the same time, honoring our true desires.
You brought up an interesting point on many levels. I've passed up offers others would have died for. Modeling and acting contracts, I even said no to a rock star. Sometimes I wonder if I made the right choices in life. We all do. I do regret not finishing my classes in interior design but I'm an artist and I'm happy with that as well. I can totally relate to your style of writing. I have an artsy romance novel coming out soon and I had to constantly remind myself not to be too formal. One of the supporting characters is a bit prim and proper, a bit formal in her persona, but I feel I've managed to balance it with the other characters who possess completely different personalities. My advice to you is to write archaic if you like. You must be true to yourself and if you like it others will too. If you are writing an historical novel it's a plus.
I couldn't sleep all night because of choices, and this video found me at 5:30 in the morning. I feel like I need to say this to somebody out there, among the wise comments. I'm a multi passionate, as well. I have searched my soul deeply year after year, and what was I driven by? A constant discomfort or pain. The chronic resistance, creative block, and feeling confused, lost and stuck. And I promise, I did both spiritual, mental, emotional and physical changes to come back to flow! I know what flow feels like, because I lived in synchronicity and magic for 2-3 years a decade ago. So I know it's possible, in addition to the stories I've seen and read: about people who surrender to the divine and live magical lives. It's not that I necessarily expected that, as when I was together with an amazing man until recent. . .but the comfort almost killed me, because it wasn't my TRUTH. In my case, it seems I have no other choice than to find God's path and follow that, because all other attempts keeps me plugged up and it shows up as chronic fatigue and other symptoms. The eclipse was terrible, because I didn't realise it was something I didn't see. I truly thought I was at the right path going into coaching and teaching, and then tonight. . . I found myself crying over my guitar that I haven't touched for a year, KNOWING I have to make music. It's not that I didn't receive signs about that, but let me tell you, the obstacles and resistance and lack of support has been momentous. As an example, my friend suddenly gave me a real compliment for my singing just a week ago, and it took her nine years to say something like that! The challenges we make for our selves can be unfathomable. Nobody, absolutely nobody, will believe in you or encourage you, if you don't have a speck of worthiness or belief in yourself to begin with. That's the universe's most cruel joke on us, but as long as we recognise life as a mirror and course correct, we'll find the way. And yeah, for me. . .it's really also been a process of letting go and let God, as I surrendered time and time again. This eclipse I prayed and prayed, in this pain of still feeling lost. I spent my last savings on going in the "wrong" direction, this year. Yet I feel almost as if. . .it's worth it, as long as the CHOICE of making music puts me back into the flow again. Living in resistance is too painful.
Your comment resonated so much with me, thank you. Especially what you say about absolutely no-one believing or encouraging you if you don't believe in yourself. I have wasted so much time, especially the last few years, looking for external signs of encouragement, validation, waiting for things to happen to give me true motivation. Now I have finally had to accept that it's 100% down to me. In my case, creative writing. All the best with your music.
It’s never too late to become a scientist. I did at midlife, and I found my way there from a heavily arts background. Your sense of wonder and curiosity are so valued and needed in scientific fields. The difficulty is preserving those precious gifts amidst the rigidity and formality scientific pursuits. But it can be done. Whatever you choose to pursue at any point in your life I have a hunch you will find the beauty and meaning in it and that is a tremendously special gift you already share with us all. Wishing you the joy of discovery down all the paths you traverse in this lifetime.
A wise person once remarked how thank goodness we dont get everything we wish for, and thank goodness we do get some things we never thought to wish for.
I really appreciated this video, Paola! I find it interesting that your works were rejected because of an "archaic" writing style. Sheesh! When I read fiction, and even some non-fiction, I often wish that writers would use better grammar, and a wider range of vocabulary. There are so many wonderful words that not many people use, and I really appreciate your videos because you have a delightful way of expressing yourself. Bravo! I am so looking forward to receiving your book this month. I would buy any book you publish. Sending a virtual hug to you!
Beautiful vlog 😊 Your country living reminds me of my childhood hometown. “ You take yourself out of the town but you can’t take the town out of your heart”🙏🏼
The mountains and the golden fields look as if you are walking through a painting. Such a beautiful video, as always. I read somewhere that all the choices that we did not take , are expressing themselves in a parallel universe.🤩💕
I am 42 now, and I have a lot of regrets. However, many of those are for things I didn't know were options for me, so I wouldn't have been able to take those paths at those times of my life anyway. Still, I always feel wistful thinking about those lost opportunities. About a decade ago I started changing my thinking in a way very similar to what you describe here. I began asking myself what my life would look like now if I had done X, Y, or Z. Then I take the elements of those lives that would enrich my life as it is now. I also think about what elements I would be able to work toward. I have been able to mostly quell those niggling thoughts and make that energy productive. I absolutely love what you said about the "treasure of insight into who you are and what you need" and I am adding that to my quote book. ❤
Beautiful video as always; each scene in the first three minutes looked like a painting. I especially loved the images with the striking white bark of the birch (?) trees. Also, as someone who feels guilty about having a lot of different hobbies and interests, many of which I enjoy but am not particularly good at, I loved the idea that pursuing a variety of interests allows us to experience what we would have felt if we had taken a different path in life. It's a great way to think about it.
i always get so excited when you post a new video ☺ usually i'm never there at the moment itself because i am fast asleep in the Netherlands! this is a lovely way to end my day thank you Paola😊🌿🌸
I received your book yesterday and have taken a brief look through and already know it will be one I will cherish. Thank you Paolo for your insight and for teaching us how to be more intentional and enjoy life. I will be sitting down with your book over the weekend here and there savouring every page. Take care until next time xx
The universe always puts us where we are meant to be. In every moment there are lessons for us to learn and others to learn from us. You have the ability to make your what ifs come true. Everyday wake up and do even one little thing that fills your soul with passion. Where you live looks like a fairytale to me. All the beauty that surrounds you. I think your life is so full. A degree isnt what makes you successful. You can teach art classes without a degree. You are an amazing human being and artist. Leave the nest and fly litttle bird. I send you love and healing energy.
I used to feel so anxious about this topic. I felt so much pressure to choose the "right" way that would make me the most happy. That life does not have to be perfect to be beautiful and worth living was a very big insight for me. Now I don't think there's a perfect right way and wrong ways anymore. Instead, we form our own way my moving step by step.
Linda’s comment is so true! I too am an elderly lady and was told as you were that my writing was too old fashioned. Yet there are plenty of people out there who appreciate every word you say on this channel. What the publishers really meant that there isn’t a big killing money wise, it’s too small an appeal, of course we all knew that. I was given a token for my Christmas present and I’m off now to buy your LOVELY book Paola. I so enjoy your films please keep on making them I’m quite sure they help a whole lot of people! ❤️💐😘xx
My life is definitely full of unlived lives, lives I didn't expect, and twists and turns that return me to paths I thought were closed. I did not study music in college because I did not believe I was good enough and that the market was saturated. However, I moved to an area where there was quite a demand. It has allowed me to reopen my more creative side after 6 years in law enforcement, followed by becoming a mother and several bouts of serious health issues. I am definitely learning the character choices we make on the daily build up to more than one road untraveled. If I had stopped playing violin in college (even though I didn't major in it) this may have never been an option for me. But I made that decision to not quit. My dad played bass for his college orchestra and hasn't touched one in decades. He often tells me he wished he kept playing. I try to encourage him it's not too late. But he seems resigned. It at least encouraged me to keep playing. In short, keep reading and pursuing your interests little by little. A lifetime of that attitude will build to more than you can imagine.
I was surprised to see how many leaves you still had left out there in the pnw in this video. Over here, in the mountains of Virginia, our leaves are basically all gone. It just got cold but seems far too early for winter here as well. Hopefully, we will still have some warm days where the temperature reaches the 60s. We have enjoyed many warm days here this Fall and I hope they continue. The gray days of winter when the sun doesn't shine through the gray sky can be depressing. The cold is not something I enjoy at all. The one trade off of these beautiful mountain views I get to enjoy is the cold winters. I could move to a warmer place like Florida but I wouldn't have these peaceful, beautiful and rural mountains surrounding me. Much Love Paola! Never stop dreaming! (Kaci)
There must be a word to describe the charming, heartfelt ‘paintings’ that you enact in your videos. I look forward to the beauty and feeling they touch in me💥❤️
WOW great concept to do a video on and what you did with it is to me, a treasure of wisdom. And i love that you created your own audience for your kind of writing and thus for your book ....well actually we already existed and it is not that you created your audience but that what you did was bypass the opinions of others who don't know really who and what your work was written for ..and so you just persevered and we found you.,..and you drew us to you. How special is THAT. And the impact is not about your STYLE of writing or your vocabulary...but the authenticity of you and what you think and say and the richness of that ----is beyond what anyone who missed the value of what is in your mind and in your words and your experiences shared, and is in fact....unfathomable. The simplicity of such a mind that is so present that a moment is a dimensionally rich experience that most miss in their busy lives...is beyond words.
I remember that other fulltime job. Now you teach us all both young and old. One thing for certain you always have a choice to make in life. Got confirmation your book is on the way and I can't wait!! Que Dios te bendiga amiga💗
There are millions of paths we can take. At every turn of our lives we choose one of them. It's wonderful to accept that we might have lived dozens of characters and that none of them is better than the other. Paola, I love your words: "We aren't missing out we're allowing our diverse interests and passions to live with us even if it's in a small way".
As I am currently finishing my undergrad and applying to Master programs, there is such anxiety about even getting accepted and subsequently making the “right choice” of where to go. This video has brought me so much comfort in stilling my heart and making peace with the future. Thank you! ✨
I applied to grad school because I had no idea what I wanted to do, only that I wanted to move out of the US. I picked a random school in England that I had never heard of before and 18 years later I still live in England in a village with husband and daughter doing something not really related to my field of study. You always make do with what life brings you and never know the things that they happen even if you try to plan it all out.
Have you ever considered writing a blog and sending emails as I would love to read your Victorian/archaic style of writing. Or writing a book with that style? I've put your current book on my Christmas wish list so I can hardly wait to read! This video is very relatable as I am also interested in so many things and wish I could do/learn them all unfortunately have to keep reining in my squirrel tendancies haha.
For me this sentiment is incredibly relatable, in fact I'd say that one of my biggest flaws is how deeply I feel regret and how, for a little more than a year, I have been constantly thinking about other life paths, and if my life would be better if I had just been a little smarter, less impulsive. Of course those thoughts lead to me thinking very negatively about myself, on top of already not feeling fulfilled in the first place. That's why I'm so glad I decided to watch this video. Everything you said comforted me, made the spiral of thoughts I find myself stuck in stop for a moment. Thank you! I'll remind myself about how there is no right or wrong path, just different lessons to be learned and opportunities to grow. I hope that in two years time I'll have your hindsight and see how even though right now this path feels unsure, maybe it's leading to great opportunities. Again, thank you Paola, for sharing your thoughts with the world 🥰
I know God has given me many blessings and tokens over the years, and now He is using your video to let me know He is still there listening to me and it is a ok to question and rethink how I want my life to go forward. I never seen your videos before but look forward to following you. Have a wonderful winter.
I just love your gorgeous and tranquil videos! Thank you for bringing us on this journey with you and helping us start those conversations, even if it is just with ourselves! Sending love from Estonia!
The poetry of Robert Frost always sends my thoughts along these lines....I'm not sure who said, "Life is such you can only live it looking forward, but only understand it looking back." and, as I get older and look back to 40 years of teaching, kids, grandchildren, etc. I really see the forks in roads. Your area is just lovely...as are you!
I'm so thankful to you Paola ❤️ I wish that, when you look back, you find beauty and grace in every path you took. A lot of love from the bottom of my heart 🥀
As life prepares us for a journey, I chose to let my life’s path led by God’s direction never thinking what to do. Now late in life I can honestly say it worked for me, Wife, mother, grandmother and now found joy in oil painting during my retirement years. God is great for me, I was led by his divine mercy.
It reminds me of the book I read not long ago "The Midnight Library", which is also about different lives that we could have lived :) It's a great story and book, I wholeheartedly recommend it and don't want to spoil anything, so I'll leave it as it is. I know how it feels to second-guess your decisions. I've always been afraid to decide on anything, so I just went with the flow. For the first time in a long while, I made the decision to try to pursue a career with things I like myself (electronics technician for devices and systems). It's a very demanding and difficult job, so I honestly don't know if I can pass it, but I'll try my best anyway. Mainly because of my disability, I'm having difficulties. But I've learned to try any way!
Hi Vanessa! I know you can do it. You can do it if you pit your heart into it. Pray also for God's guidance. It do really helps a lot.... And if you trust in God, even if you have disability, He can make you healthy when you're at work. Trust me cuz we're the same. I have rhinitis but everyday when I go to work, I lift everything in the Hands of God. And God never disappoints! How I wish I could repay the kindness of God but I know He doesn't need it because He's overflowing with abundance. Let us show gratitude to the kindness of God by being grateful and kind to everyone especially the needy. #PrayingForYouVanessa🙏🙏🙏
Paula, you are so wise! Thank you for sharing your insights. This video comforts the anxiety that plagues me over 'missed opportunities' and 'un-lived lives'. I have so many dreams and passions, I feel like time has run out for those that have yet to come into fruition. Though I share your sentiment of re-imagining how elements of the past can be integrated into a different path forward. One that, perhaps, I can't even imagine ❤
Thanks again for your lovely video. In my 20th I started surging for who I was before I was born in this live. I found my spirit guide and quite a adventure followed. Now I’m 63 and live just like you in solitude in a lovely home and enjoying the beautiful nature with elves, the dryads and gnomes in it. Love from the Netherlands 😘
This video feels like it came at the perfect time- I just finished my studies for the year after deciding 2022 will be the last year I spend at university. I start a job next week and I'm planning on going to art school, and even though I spend a lot of time these days thinking if I made the right choice, wondering what my life would have been like if I had stayed and finished my degree, I feel more settled and happy now than I have in years. I started university in 2020 and have struggled intensely with it since, and these videos have been a wonderful consolation and distraction in the time I spent this year wondering if I should finally take the plunge and drop out, fulfilling my escapist daydreams of the past three years. Now I'm looking forward to developing my skills next year, and my future feels brighter than it has in a while :)
I married my husband at 25, had my first baby at 26, and a 7 year old step son. I'm 27 now and I've often wondered what life would have been like if I traveled the world instead. I also live in a little mountain town in Colorado, and I have not utilized my psychology degree as i get to stay at home full time. There's always the what if's. However, I wouldn't trade my family for anything! And the simple, nature filled, introverted life is fufilling. Thank you for sharing, sending love ❤️
I'm so happy I found you....your voice and beautiful way of story telling is my new go to for some comfort when my anxiety comes...Thank you for being such a sweet, precious soul.
I definitely can relate to your message Paola. My work does not tap into my interests that my soul craves but seeing this comforts me in knowing the moments I take each day or so to allow time for what I love is well spent! I hope to find a way to incorporate my interests into my career. Sending love from your neighbour to the North 🍁
LOVED this episode❣ Thank you, Paola for not only always being yourself, but for sharing your journey with your subscribers. It's important for everyone to actually WITNESS others following their dreams...for it brings them strength to chase their own. What a BLESSING you are to us all, Fairy Witch Sister 🧚♀️💫🌟💕🧙♀️ !
Hi Paola 🥺recently with the change in seasons and the colder, darker weather I'm led to reflect a lot on my life's regrets and should haves. This video however came at the right time ❤You brought a really good perspective on this topic :) And you are right, although I'm not where I expected to be in life, I hope I can carry my dreams with me. As a kid into my teens I really enjoyed making art and getting lost in it but later on I made decisions based on what was a more "logical and stable" career path. But now my heart craves for my childhood love for art and although I'm no illustrator or professional artist, I'm really trying to rekindle my love for it by even creating something small every dayThanks for this encouraging video~
Contentment is a gift. I try to leave whatifs behind, but it's a daily practice. You broaden my thinking and feeling, another much appreciated gift. Thank you. Be there in 2 weeks! Hope I can find your book.
Thank you so much for this. I'm having to makes some very hard decisions right now on the heals of an unexpected death in the family, and in the midst of grief surrounding that. It very much feels like a crossroads of having to choose one potential life over another. The idea that parts of life that we don't choose but wonder if we should have chosen can still inspire the life we did choose, is a revolutionary, and quite a lovely and hopeful, concept to me right now. Thank you so much for sharing.
Take it from this old lady who was always told that I should choose just one subject and do it well, but because I had more than one passion, I ended up following several diverse ones simultaneously and as a result was able to combine them into one fulfilling life. Follow your bliss because there are no wrong choices. 💞
Yes, Linda!! Me too... I have played in all the things my heart desires and its so beautiful to see the pattern of how they all end of working together because I become the common piece. It ends up creating a beautiful humans with compassion & love for living! Please Paola, don't master a few things of interest become a master of learning and everything your heart leads you to become! God bless you for this channel. I learn so much from listening and watching you. You are a blessing to me.
You got that right! ❤️ 😍
Very well said! I think all of us can take what we need from your advice. Ty for this🥰
Amen to that Ms. Linda! ❤❤
Relatable to me too😃💖
As a 76 year old woman who married, had children, educated formally and informally, with 3 careers I am now embarking on a new one, that of widow. A new chapter to write and I wonder what will be next.
Sincere condolences. My grandma lost her husband a few months ago. They were married for 60 years. It was such a hard time... She has good and bad days, but her energy is coming back now and I am so proud of her because she is mastering this new chapter with such a wise heart and positive thoughts. We are stronger than we think. I wish you a fulfilling new chapter Julie Thompson.
Sending you an empathy hug, Julie. May you be comforted and supported on your new path. ❤️
Sending you my warmest hug 💖
Sending a heart hug- I hope this chapter will be enriched with good memories that comfort you.
Sending you my big hug Julie.
After obtaining a PhD in Psychology at a renowned university in the big city, five years ago I decided to turn my life around and do what my heart longed for - which was buying an old home in the countryside and make a living starting my own business. Although it was a scary decision to make, I've never looked back and wouldn't want to change my current life for anything else. Good for you to have done the same, Paola.
@elfiegmond9971 your comment really touched me. I just finished my PhD in Psychology as well and I was offered a postdoc position. However, after dealing with anxiety, I feel exhausted by the academic world and I long to find an alternative path for my career. Your comment gave me some hope that I'll manage it, thank you!
You remind me so much of my daughter. I have always called her an "old soul" as she is so wise beyond her years. I believe you are as well. She is an artist, musician, nature lover and introvert who easily gets overwhelmed by people even though she loves them. It is the beautiful souls in the world like you and her that help the rest of us understand what is important in life. Thank you dear one.
Beautiful words ! Your daughter is blessed by Having such a wise mother !
Maybe your daughter is an HSP (highly sensitive person.) When I discovered Dr. Elaine Aron’s book on the subject, it changed my life, and everything finally made sense. I was in my mid 30’s when I realized this, (I’m now 48.) had I know earlier, my life would’ve have certainly been very different...better. If in fact you’re daughter is an HSP, it is my hope this information will empower her, and to know she is not alone...that everything she feels finally makes sense, in this loud chaotic world. That’s what it did for me, anyway.
Blessings
As being a quieter person too, I often ask myself if there is any place (professionaly) I can fit in or if I need to create that place myself. It's a harsh world and being sensitive is a curse and a blessing at the same time.
Two years ago I quit university to start something totally different (working with animals) and never regret it. But I often still feel quite lost and struggling with what to do with the time that is given me. Thank you for being a little companion on this yourney. Sending you my love from Germany🌿
Lol, blessing? It seems like a losing hand in this world.
What is it you do with animals?
could you give any advice/tips on how to quit without feeling like i’m quitting or disappointing others. i’m about to finish medical school but i know in my heart of hearts i most likely won’t be working in the field. i honestly would love to be a writer but i feel like my family won’t even understand much less support my choice.
There's a great book by Julia Cameron called The Artist's Way that would be quite supportive and revealing on your journey . It's an international bestseller . The 12 weeks program will bring measurable results . Good luck
@@elvenaubade Start writing now. Go and find a way to make your writings financially and socially productive while still studying or practicing in hospitals. Try to be assigned to a children section and write some stories for them. See if you can do both, or else find a publisher for your stories and earn some money, so your family can see it's not just a flight of fancy but a real profession.
I remember doing a 5th grade report on what we wanted to be when we grew up. All I wanted to be was a mother. I got looks og discouragement being I didn't want some big career. I had both motherhood and an important job. But motherhood hands down was my greatest joy.
I'm a housewife and there's nothing better for me. I run our social life as a family, I'm molding my children, everything that truly matters in life is shaped by my hands as the mother. I couldn't dream of a better life. I wanted to be a dancer on Broadway when I was little. Glad I didn't.
You chose wisely.
I wanted the same, I’m now childless at 43
I am 65. In highschool , I recall , in class, two girls behind me discussing how many kids they each wanted to have. I could no more relate to them than someone from a distant planet. I see having children as unjustified imprisonment and slavery. No haters please. We each have our own experiences. I was held down or enslaved or something in past lives likely imprisoned for a crime I did not commit. I was raised by immature Nazi- like parents who pushed obedience. I had no freedom. I have NEVER for a nano second regretted NOT having kids. I feel BLESSED that I do NOT have children. I do have many dogs. I am self realized, creative, happy and have freedom to do as I choose. I am not lacking in any way. To each her own. Others are NOT needed to be whole and fulfilled. Give back to life in any way that you choose. You can give to plants, to the environment, to people that are already here.
Dear Kathleen, May your heart deepen and be healed with tenderness towards yourself, at this point. God bless you, dear and precious one.
I was a firefighter for four years in the eighties and have been a law enforcement officer for the past 35 years. My Masters is in history and I sometimes think how nice it would have been to teach. Perhaps I will some day. However, I learned long ago not to doubt myself and the life I have chosen to live. My wife and I have raised two great sons (neither have followed me into the emergency services 😁) and we have had a blessed life. I don't know, maybe I will open a bookstore in a small town when I retire...
who would have protected society if you'd been a teacher, NO REGRETS
i LOVE your comment 10 42 ..it's beautiful. .(and what does that number stand for? the number referring to is 10 42.
I remember when I first heard the concept of our "un-lived lives' and thinking it sounded rather odd. And yet, I find that I do wonder, quite often about other choices I could have made - it's natural to consider other ways we could have lived, or decisions we could have made. And yet, I think there is power in considering what 'could have been' - but instead of letting it lead us into guilt or regret, let it inspire and empower us to enrich our lives with multiple passions and interests. We cannot fulfill every dream, but we can carry the essence of those dreams with us. I don't know if this is a very relatable to you, but perhaps it can inspire a conversation! Do share your passions below, and how you incorporate them into your life. Sending my love.
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This topic reminds me of the poem "The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost. Hope you don't mind if I add it here.
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
The Midnight Library is a semi-whimsical novel about unlived lives 😌 And of course pop culture movies like The Butterfly Effect and even the recent Netflix movie Look Both Ways explores how one decision/encounter (chosen or not) can lead to drastically different unfoldings...and yet also not necessarily. In the end, the 'what' may be less important than the 'how' (though they are interrelated)
A well-known saying is: you understand your life backwards, but you have to live it forward. Mistakes, wrong decisions and all are part of life, growth and important experiences. And all led you to the now and that now seems very promising and positiv. We would never be able to appreciate what we have, what good there is, if we would now know about the other parts and dark valleys of life. It is all good like it is.
I have rheumatoid arthritis and lost my nursing career. As my disability became more disabling, I lost more and more of those unlived ideas. It’s something I work through in therapy but I LOVE how you framed it… and gently reminded me to enjoy all my passions as fully as possible.
Each choice we make is exactly the right one. There can be no other way. It is the only way that life unfolds.
Oh how I have pondered this for the last 45 years, as I got married to a man I thought I knew, with who I had 2 children. That choice not only affected my life, but my 2 children as he had an affair and left the family to make a family with her and their child who was only 6 weeks younger than my youngest son. That one choice caused me to have a life of regret and watching my children push themselves through the hurt and pain all these years. Sitting here I have tears running down my face as it could have all been so different- so very different.
Hugs! We are never to old to start a life we missed! I got my college degree at 54! Life always gives us options. Be the you you always wanted!
I hear you
I'm so sorry
I understand! It’s so painful! Blessings
Prayers for you right now! I am very sorry. God knows all about your pain and your children's hurt and pain. I have been through a divorce. It has been 8 years this month and the pain is unbearable some days. God is helping me to heal day by day. It is a process. I know it is hard but I try to look at the positive. God blessed me with a wonderful son. God has helped me to become more independent and creative. Just know that God loves you. Sending you God's blessings.
Keep writing. Painting. Making films. Voices like yours are SO unique & needed in a world that seems to be increasingly losing heart, soul & authenticity in exchange for fast, loud & fake. Stay you. 🙏🏼
Spoken like a homeschooler. As someone who homeschooled I think there is great opportunity in informal education. The love of learning is often stripped in our cold, formal and overly structured learning institutions. Follow your heart and keep learning and most of all, living!
i wish there is homeschooling in sweden
I homeschooled my kids for a long time. Until I got medical conditions and just couldn’t keep up anymore. I miss it and my kids are struggling in the “traditional” classroom that has a cookie cutter approach and if you don’t fit it, you’re odd
My mother spent the majority of her adult life as a public school teacher in two different states here in the USA and at US gov't-affiliated grade schools in 2 other countries. She has often bemoaned the slow, steady stripping of actual teaching & learning from curricula as they were slowly replaced by what "experts" (often with little or no classroom experience) deemed the proper kind of information to be imparted and the proper way to impart it... all while making sure those Godlike standardized test scores remain as high as possible for funding purposes.
A Jeffersonian education is th only education worth obtaining. I started off homeschooling my kids, then when I realized "school" was getting in the way, we removed it entirely and now we're just unschoolers. My kids haven't sat at a desk (or at the table with books) since they were little. Public school wastes time and money. Imagine what kids could be without the hindrance.
It's amazing, the difference between myself, my education, and my children's and the adults that they have become.I was educated in a very rigid school system, and I appreciate all my parents tried to do for me, but I homeschooled my three children and it's amazing how independent they are, how they have their own minds and their opinions and they're not programmed to think or act the way everyone expects them to. They are individuals and I really believe that homeschooling has done that for them.
Thank you for your thoughtful video. Married the wrong person but blessed with a caring son & daughter (adults). Lost my Mom 14 days ago at age 96. Feel like I am at a crossroads now, 68 years old and on disability, still want to learn & contribute. Love to read nonfiction but leaning into fiction. I believe in God & pray every day but lots of people don’t. Please enjoy weekend and continue to inspire me.💜
Sharon Aman,
Big warm hug to you.
Gentle people gather here
My heart is with you. Mommy lived a long Life, yet we wish they could stay on board longer.
She is resting in peace.One day she will awaken. Every version states the identical promise at John 5:28.
Revelation 21:3,4.
That day is already set.
What Lovely people.
My Mom, who finally rested 2 yrs ago.
Dad is on the ending chapter of Life.
Knowing with certainty that up ahead all will be returned.
My parents had a theme song...
It came along during a health crisis.
"Just Around The Corner"
Literally brought her out of hospice, to enjoyed around 30 extra months of Life.
Blessings to you as you come to terms with this.
It's a temporary separation.
The bond between parent and child remains forever.
Up ahead you will reunite, and her real self, body and mind,
will be restored to vibrant health.
Bless you and your family.
May you navigate this chapter with insight and wisdom.🤗🙏🌱
You are likely exhausted.
Get enough sleep.
Listen to uplifting music.
Someone sent me a video at a very vulnerable time.
Look up " Precious Daughter"
It was played by a group I had never met,
We sang together during pandemic.
On Zoom.
'Kingdom Melodies' kept me sane.
'Original Songs' saved our hearts.
I'm not tech savvy, but became aware of how to access these.
Search for them on most translated site on the 🌎.
www.jw.org
They gave me strength and Joy.
International diverse group amazing musicians pooled their talents, combining efforts to produce an impressive collection.
May your heart feel supported.🏞️
Not much to say but I understand. I married the wrong person, too. Still married to him - don't know if that will ever be possible to change. But I have an 18-year-old son with mental disabilities and ADHD and Asperger's ( yes it's a load!!) that I got out of the deal who needs me. I lost my mom last year. We were very close, and it's been really hard. She's always on my mind, and I still have - rough moments now rather than days. Time does heal. I love nonfiction, too, and reading and studying. I have lots of interests and never could figure out what to do with them. I quit college. Floundered. Worked part-time several years while living with my parents til I got married. My motto is it's never too late, and I just thought I'd share that with you. You can still learn and contribute. Always. It's something I keep in mind - if I could ever figure out what it is I actually want to do. I'm 51. Right now I enjoy my hobbies and my cats. Have a good day, and keep on keeping on. 🙂
Thank you Andrea, love your positive attitude: keep on keeping on!
Thank you Jem Jen for your warm hug & encouraging words, appreciate it
How does it feel to lose your Mom when you're that old? I'm guessing it's a lot less of a shock because it's expected, but still painful.
Thank you Paola for the video. I have to admit I spend a lot of time thinking about "what if" and my "un-lived lives"- like it crosses my mind on a daily basis. In my case there are a lot of thoughts of regret and wishing I'd done things differently. But I try to remind myself that I don't really know how things would have turned out if I had done this or that. It's easy to look back and see "mistakes" but I have no real way of knowing how my life would have played out differently over the span of years if I had taken a different route. So I try to just stay present with what I have today and feel love and gratitude for my life as it is.
My 13 year old daughter and myself are quiet introverts and she is having a hard time at school because of “all those extroverts”😊 I think only us quiet introverts understand each other.❤
Yes
I am an unquiet introvert. 🤣🤣🤣
Hi Sara...I'm sorry your beautiful daughter is having a difficult time at school xx Sending all my love & wishes for her & also you 💜🙏💕 I hope she is able to stay true to herself and feel strength and resiliency throughout her life xx Blessings to you both xx
my daughter is similar, but it is so precious to sense her beautiful soul
Quiet introverts end up being artists, scientists, musicians, conservationists, see beauty in all living things & nature, have a great insight into what is right for them and their needs in their chosen work and life, and generally are great true friends. Quiet introverts know they have special gifts to nurture and these gifts will end up being part of the beautiful creative person with sincere & true friends🌷
My mother died 31days ago. I’m so grateful for these videos and how peaceful they are. They lend a tremendous amount of perspective. I too long for a very simple life. I will never live that one kind of life, everyone keeps telling me about all of the opportunities I have a head of me now. It’s frightening and overwhelming, so much so that I find that I ultimately want to do nothing. Thank you for providing some peace and comfort through your wonderful videos
So very sorry for your loss🙏🙏
Give yourself time to grieve. There is no time limit for the process. Tiny steps, your mum would want you to be happy I'm sure. Just be kind to yourself 😌 and take care.
😓 Sorry you are facing this separation.
One day she will be restored.
May you be supported and FEEL supported.
There is a promise found in every translation of the Scripture
John5:28.resurrection awaits.🤗
My dad is actively dying and I am also so drawn to your videos …. I saw another lady comment they also just lost a parent. Something about your videos has healing and soothing and calming qualities…
I’m so sorry 😞. You are not alone
I would love to read your ‘archaic’ style stories. I love tradition and cultured writing.
Beautiful video. ...I'm 53 now, too emotional to respond further. God bless you young lady 💜
You might not have been accepted for your writing earlier in life, but your talent definitely lies in your art, poetry and videos. I have your book on Kindle (partially sighted I read better on an iPad) and it is wonderful. 👌I’m sure if you wrote and illustrated a children’s “fairy” book - with your gentle storytelling and beautiful artwork it would be a best seller ! Yesterday is gone - today is here right now to live & enjoy and tomorrow is to fulfil your dreams ….many blessings dear soul 🙏
There is something so magical about birch trees. I think my love for them is influenced by Robert Frost :)
Thank you for showcasing exquisite beaauty.
It's a great topic that you have brought out to talk about.
For me personally, it is not healthy to daydream about 'what if' topics. It can send me down into deep deep depression for weeks. I truly try to enjoy the right now moments where it count. With so much chronic pain, my health depends on how my mind is going. It is important to stay on the positive side of things and how i can keep moving forward.
Sometimes I do daydream about those what if moments, but only momentarily and then changed into some other thoughts/ideas for the day.
I also believe that it's dangerous to stay in the 'what if,' daydream. The danger of being stuck in thinking the 'what if.' Mindset is that you can sabotage your own reality, where you are now. Like I said, it can send you into a deep depression, where you didn't intended to be.
Where you live now with your husband; very secluded from cities is not for everyone. It takes a very creative and inventive type of a person, such as yourself to be able to thrive positively living where you are now.
Blessings from the USA, eastern Oregon!!!
So true. Very important how we direct our minds if we want optimal energy.
Well said :)
I am 80 years young and enjoy your videos with the beautiful scenery of our Valley… I also love the success you have with your wonderful videos.
As someone who has spent far too much of my life obsessing over the roads not taken, I found this an incredibly uplifting perspective. The idea that those unlived lives are not wasted, but rather a way to enrich our real day-to-day lives is an amazing change of perspective for me. Thank you so much.
I'm in a very dark period of my life and there are some things I'd do differently if I had a choice. My faith is still my beacon and looking forward to your book.
I commenced and completed my university degree in my early 30s. I married very young, in my early teens, and had my two children. I was shocked at how much criticism I received from family/in-laws regarding my decision to study. I have had a brilliant career for almost 25 years now and I will never regret my determination to follow my dreams. My adult children tell me now that I was always a hands on mum and they never felt left out or neglected. Sure it was hard at times but I was/am much happier for it 😌
Snow already - and so much of it? Wow. This week I became fully prepared for when it hits here.
Your camera work really is professional grade. When watching your videos, it's like we're seeing a cinematography award winning Hollywood film.
Just another of your many talents.
Thank you so much! I have had a lot of fun learning how to use my camera ❤ I appreciate the encouragement! And yes, so so much snow! ❄️
@@TheCottageFairy agree with that comment about your filming. i love it.
Ever since school, I wanted to be a mother. And I fulfilled that dream 4 times over. And even though I have my other interests and things I enjoy studying. My first love and passion is still being a mother and grandmother. ❣
Lovely video. Thank you.
Congratulations on fulfilling your dream 😊. Nothing I could ever achieve could come close to the love, joy, awe, and pride I feel when I look at my four children. I’m happy with my “career”. And as they are becoming adults, I’m excited to start new adventures, and be a part of theirs!
@@bonniebrown1566 mine have all ventured on their own. I am so proud of all of them and they are all my best friends 💗
You know how to recreate the magic atmosphere in your videos. You have a great talent, interesting thoughts and refined feelings.
My job was so stressful, I was a Social Worker. I started my own business but now I'm so isolated from working on my own all the time it's really affecting my mental health. I'm not a person that thrives in solitude. Paola your films are works of art, this is your medium !!!
Create a social circle and use your newfound independence to travel, meet new people and experience new things. A stressful, toxic career is not healthy ( physically or mentally). Remember why you left in the first place. If you are missing toxic socialization, something is wrong.
Maybe use your skills for people in need in a volunteer way? For children in the care system maybe? It is an intensely stressful job being a social worker but it comes with skills from working with different types of people and coping with people being aggressive etc. Those skills are invaluable to those who need them. You would meet new people too.
I am glad you chose this path, as there are not too many brave sensitive souls on youtube. And I love your so called "Archaic" way of writing/talking, it's beautiful and authentic to you. Keep being you ❤
I agree with you. Paola is wonderful and I am so grateful to have her on RUclips.
I can relate to this so much. My life has been a rollercoaster and some big dreams were dead before I was twenty. Living in a poor country made me anxious that I will not be able to choose what I love in life and it's still a struggle. From my youngest years I often heard that there's no place for hobbys in adult life, it was so awful to even listen to that. I made some choices (dictated by my health) not to pursue a career, and am more happy than I would've been otherwise, but at times I tend to question my past choices. Because they're not in line with todays world.
Paola, you light up my life! I think if you ever wanted to offer an art class in your community, people would flock to the opportunity to enjoy some time learning with you.
Isn't it interesting that the choices you made end up enriching our lives. You are inspiring and I'm over 70. Thank you for always giving me something to think about.
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I think this is a common question a lot of us as ourselves when you’ve created a certain life path. Did I make the right decision in having kids when I did? Should I have traveled more? Is this it for me? Am I truly happy with the life I’ve built? I’m 36 and I find myself questioning a lot. (Mid life crisis? Lol). Thank you for your kind words and reassurance. Love your videos! They calm my soul!
Not Mid Life Crisis. You're too young. Maybe just the normal 'teenage questioning' that seems to show up every 10 - 15 years. LOL
The opening photoshoot is mesmerizing and so are you and your insights, very appreciated and valued here at this platform 💕💕
Managed to cry in my morning porridge, again. Thank you for this video and talking about this subject💛
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First, let me say that your cinematography is just breathtaking. The environment in which you live is just so beautiful. I hope to visit that part of the country someday.
For myself, I still don’t know what I want to do for a living. I’m about to turn 55 in a few days and I have spent the last 30+ years in a job that I simply got comfortable in. The pay is decent, but far from anything that would allow me luxuries. While I used to enjoy it in the earlier years, now it is just a repetitive, stressful task where I don’t feel like I’m making a contribution to the work; but I’m vested at this point. I originally thought I’d go into editing or advertising, yet somehow ended up in a field completely opposite. I love to be creative and find myself using those gifts of mine often at the holidays or within and around my own home in the way of decor, baking, landscaping or doing something creative for the members of my family; particularly children. It becomes my therapeutic outlet. But, I find it harder to fit that time in due to work hours and being tired from my real job. So, here I am, a middle aged woman, still trying ti figure it out and how to be happy.
As I former English major, I adore books, particularly old books and children’s books. I often think I belong working in an independent bookstore. I used to love to write and like you, I prefer the old “archaic” style of writing. Should you ever put a compilation of your short stories together, I would most definitely be interested in reading them. There is a whole genre that still loves the old fashioned style. Sometimes I feel that businesses cater towards what they think people want (new/flashy/trendy), but that’s not always the case. If it were, you would have very few followers to this channel, and we all know that’s hardly the case.
Best wishes for a good week from unusually warm and still colorful New England. Stay cozy and warm in your winter wonderland full of snow, as our winter is about to show its icy breath here in form of cold temperatures very soon!
So sorry for rambling on a bit.
Wonderful video! This was quite thought-provoking for me as an old guy looking back on the paths I've taken in my life. In some cases, there were dead ends and unfinished goals. In others, it was like being in the fast lane on the freeway. Each brought joys and regrets. But looking at my past, I'm not sure I would have done anything differently if I'd known what was ahead. Overall, I'm happy with where I ended up with a few exceptions. At my age, playing these memories like a video in my brain takes more of my time than planning new adventures for the future. I think that is to be expected as one ages though. Thank you for sharing another beautiful video. I truly hope whatever is ahead for you will bring you joy and satisfaction. Have a great week!
Lovely, I'm still taking different paths and some have led me to really scary teraine and I wonder, still how did I make it th through, I was asked at aged 23 to write my life story I thought it rather weird as I felt I hadn't lived enough yet, the professor who suggested it, was right I've kept diaries ever since now at 70 years of age I see I have something to write about and yes it's been worth it even the dead end paths.
Wow the birch trees are beautiful
Your videos have brought me relief during dark times in my life, and I can’t thank you enough for it. I’m so glad you didn’t give up on your writing and continued to share in the form of these videos. You’ve inspired me to do the same, as I’ve been writing novels for years and although I will be releasing my first one next year, I also like to share my work in a more immediate sense and your beautiful language and way with words in your content made me realise these visual mediums are wonderful ways to do that.
This video really hit home for me today. I turned 50 this year, and it has been surprisingly hard for me. I say surprisingly, because prior to this age, I never thought about my age. Now, I'm freaking out a little each day as I worry about retirement! Ack!
I have forgone following a serious career when we had our son, because I wanted to be there for him when he was little. Now that he's grown, I often think how things would have been different if I had followed a career path. I don't regret my choices, but it is a curious thing to wonder about our different life paths that went unchosen.
As always, your videos are so beautifully filmed and scripted and leave me wanting to see more! Thank you so much for allowing us into your world!
3.23… spectacular backdrop. I wish to live in such places surrounded by abundance of natural beauty and forage and walk in such lovely woods foraging, tree hugging,admiring ,trekking :))
I always say, our choices determine our destination. We can’t regret the “What if’s”, but we can always choose to move forward, choosing the good path, always. Yes, it is very relatable. And like you say, we must make peace with our choices. Incredible the snow that’s fallen since you filmed. Thank you for this beautiful and thought provoking video. You Paola have such a beautiful soul. 🌸 And btw I love love love “archaic” writing. And yes, look how far your choices have brought you.
Today in Maine it was 73 degrees. I am definitely looking forward to winter as that is my favorite season. And I received your book today in the mail and I'm giving it to my lovely wife for our 28th anniversary. Do I have regrets? Oh, tons of them but what can you do? Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But today is a gift. Which is why its called the present. Looking back and imagining a different path is fine and can be fun but not if it is colored with regret.
I've spent a lot of time reflecting on this too, in a couple different directions. I was always strong in math as a kid and often wonder what my life would be if I'd gone into engineering. At the same time, this year I've decided to explore hobbies, like little lives I never thought I could have - singing lessons, woodworking, dabbling in art. And I've really enjoyed that process!
A life of variety can be a joyous, fulfilling life.
You’re videos really make my days and relief my anxiety ❤ I can’t believe that RUclips have been hiding you from me for 13 years, I’m so happy to have found you❤
I Love Archaic writing ✍ 💕. Victorian, Edwardian, etc! Love, love, your channel. I am patiently waiting for your book to arrive. Big Love from Alberta, Canada 🇨🇦. ♡♡♡
I frequently think “she has such a way with words, and is such a fantastic storyteller, I wonder if she’ll ever try writing “ while I watch your videos. This video especially made me wish you would so I was delighted when you started talking about it! I’m looking forward to your book and hopeful you will continue to put your writing out there, fiction and non fiction! Your style is absolutely perfect, my favorite type to read, and difficult to find these days. Thank you for putting these beautiful videos into the world❤
Glad you didn’t give up! I love your thoughts and perspective! ❤
As we get older, we look down that road of "what ifs" and can see some clarity. When I made the decision to say OK to moving far away from my daughter and grandchildren and joining my husband in having a little ranch and raising cows I was heartsick for many years because I missed them. But we have made so many memories here with them and our move gave my daughter courage to move with her family away from that area to begin a new adventure in another town slightly closer to us. Regarding the weather...this year it was like a light switch. A beautiful autumn day and the next waking up to a winter wonderland. No gradual steps into winter .
Dear Paola,
I would love to read one of your novels. (It doesn't have to be published to be a living, breathing novel. It was written; it is meant to be read.) I, too, love to read Victorian classics and adore the style of writing. I beg to read one of yours. I would love to read what such a young woman with such a wise soul has written.
I'm so happy you didn't need others approval to publish your old fashion style of writing. Look where you are now: A bestselling author. I'm looking forward to you book. Less than 10 days away........YAY!
I love the older fashioned writing. It's much more intelligent than today's, preferred dumbed down writing. You could always self publish, I'm sure your YT fans would love to buy a book of yours, I know I would. Peace ❤🙏
Exactly! People in past eras were better educated and more learned than us. Humanity regressed in that way, and many others. One of the many reasons we are currently destroying people and planet. I would love to see these archaic writings too.
@@sregan5415 exactly... And I'm happy to have read many old books in our shelve before my crazy uncle burned those treasures. 😰😰😰😰😰
As a person in my 50s I can tell you the pressure to have a degree is mainly from a young perspective. 10 years after you get a degree no one will ask you what you studied. 20 years after your degree you will not think about what you studied. You will become interested in politics and world events, the environment and humanity in general. Your interests will change many times over the decades. You may love cooking for 10 years and decorating and then suddenly change to gardening or music or other hobbies and not care at all about cooking. Life is interesting that way. You can study anything anytime. My mother told me "an active, and intelligent brain is never lonely " and she is right. The biggest pleasure of learning in university was the participation in learning in groups. I miss that. However you can take classes and learn with other people at any time in your life. I also used to have some seniors in my undergrad classes and at the age of 20 wondered why they were there. Now I have committed to studying archeology and anthropology when I am a senior! I cannot wait to be that wrinkled old lady in class with 20 year Olds around me and kicking butt and getting As in everything. Ha!
True. I was very educated when I met my husband… I moved to the state where he grew up and we started our marriage when I was nearly 30… by that time, no one asked me where I went to college or what my degree was in… I’ve lived 20 years in this area and a good portion of the people in our lives over the last two decades don’t even know I have a degree and went to grad school…. Was trained as a behavioral therapist with children with autism… sometimes I find it funny that they don’t know that side of me at all.
I love gardening. I choose to be a teacher but having retired I've been meaning to take some gardening courses. You've made me think about it so I'll do it over the coming winter. Thank you. 👍 - Frances
Beautiful work, and let me tell you that many of us would love to have your life (I would for sure) so no matter what other dreams you had, your life (from my perspective) turned out perfect, you have a loving husband, a fantastic and very successful youtube channel and you get to do what you love - that's the life I would want as well and have none of those so far, but I stay positive and hope that one day I will get there! Much love Paola, you are absolutely amazing! Much love! xxx
I’m kind of seen as a dorky gown up child and I am sure your editors think of someone like me when they say that your “voice is too archaic”. Jokes on them I studied poetry as something “fun to do on my own” as teen And I did not go lightly into that obsession. It’s a crime that they do not understand what people truly want, but they have only cheated themselves. I think video as a platform to create “archaic” style story telling is uniquely wonderful. It’s like getting an insight as to what all those old poets would have done if they’d had the power to vlog. Who knows what madness they would have been up to with TicToc.
I love Victorian literature and I love this kind of writing.You should keep writing as you do .The world needs people like you. I would be delighted to buy your books and so many people too.
“What aspects of those what ifs I can imbue into my present existence in order to enrich my day”--I love that so much. So practical and at the same time, honoring our true desires.
You brought up an interesting point on many levels. I've passed up offers others would have died for. Modeling and acting contracts, I even said no to a rock star. Sometimes I wonder if I made the right choices in life. We all do. I do regret not finishing my classes in interior design but I'm an artist and I'm happy with that as well. I can totally relate to your style of writing. I have an artsy romance novel coming out soon and I had to constantly remind myself not to be too formal. One of the supporting characters is a bit prim and proper, a bit formal in her persona, but I feel I've managed to balance it with the other characters who possess completely different personalities. My advice to you is to write archaic if you like. You must be true to yourself and if you like it others will too. If you are writing an historical novel it's a plus.
I couldn't sleep all night because of choices, and this video found me at 5:30 in the morning. I feel like I need to say this to somebody out there, among the wise comments.
I'm a multi passionate, as well. I have searched my soul deeply year after year, and what was I driven by?
A constant discomfort or pain.
The chronic resistance, creative block, and feeling confused, lost and stuck.
And I promise, I did both spiritual, mental, emotional and physical changes to come back to flow!
I know what flow feels like, because I lived in synchronicity and magic for 2-3 years a decade ago. So I know it's possible, in addition to the stories I've seen and read: about people who surrender to the divine and live magical lives.
It's not that I necessarily expected that, as when I was together with an amazing man until recent. . .but the comfort almost killed me, because it wasn't my TRUTH.
In my case, it seems I have no other choice than to find God's path and follow that, because all other attempts keeps me plugged up and it shows up as chronic fatigue and other symptoms.
The eclipse was terrible, because I didn't realise it was something I didn't see.
I truly thought I was at the right path going into coaching and teaching, and then tonight. . .
I found myself crying over my guitar that I haven't touched for a year, KNOWING I have to make music.
It's not that I didn't receive signs about that, but let me tell you, the obstacles and resistance and lack of support has been momentous.
As an example, my friend suddenly gave me a real compliment for my singing just a week ago, and it took her nine years to say something like that!
The challenges we make for our selves can be unfathomable.
Nobody, absolutely nobody, will believe in you or encourage you, if you don't have a speck of worthiness or belief in yourself to begin with. That's the universe's most cruel joke on us, but as long as we recognise life as a mirror and course correct, we'll find the way.
And yeah, for me. . .it's really also been a process of letting go and let God, as I surrendered time and time again. This eclipse I prayed and prayed, in this pain of still feeling lost.
I spent my last savings on going in the "wrong" direction, this year.
Yet I feel almost as if. . .it's worth it, as long as the CHOICE of making music puts me back into the flow again.
Living in resistance is too painful.
Your comment resonated so much with me, thank you. Especially what you say about absolutely no-one believing or encouraging you if you don't believe in yourself. I have wasted so much time, especially the last few years, looking for external signs of encouragement, validation, waiting for things to happen to give me true motivation. Now I have finally had to accept that it's 100% down to me. In my case, creative writing. All the best with your music.
It’s never too late to become a scientist. I did at midlife, and I found my way there from a heavily arts background. Your sense of wonder and curiosity are so valued and needed in scientific fields. The difficulty is preserving those precious gifts amidst the rigidity and formality scientific pursuits. But it can be done. Whatever you choose to pursue at any point in your life I have a hunch you will find the beauty and meaning in it and that is a tremendously special gift you already share with us all. Wishing you the joy of discovery down all the paths you traverse in this lifetime.
A wise person once remarked how thank goodness we dont get everything we wish for, and thank goodness we do get some things we never thought to wish for.
I really appreciated this video, Paola! I find it interesting that your works were rejected because of an "archaic" writing style. Sheesh! When I read fiction, and even some non-fiction, I often wish that writers would use better grammar, and a wider range of vocabulary. There are so many wonderful words that not many people use, and I really appreciate your videos because you have a delightful way of expressing yourself. Bravo! I am so looking forward to receiving your book this month. I would buy any book you publish. Sending a virtual hug to you!
I’ve been waiting on this all week long 🥰 Your videos help me to remind myself of the beauty of simple, slow living.❤️
Beautiful vlog 😊 Your country living reminds me of my childhood hometown. “ You take yourself out of the town but you can’t take the town out of your heart”🙏🏼
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The mountains and the golden fields look as if you are walking through a painting. Such a beautiful video, as always. I read somewhere that all the choices that we did not take , are expressing themselves in a parallel universe.🤩💕
I am 42 now, and I have a lot of regrets. However, many of those are for things I didn't know were options for me, so I wouldn't have been able to take those paths at those times of my life anyway. Still, I always feel wistful thinking about those lost opportunities. About a decade ago I started changing my thinking in a way very similar to what you describe here. I began asking myself what my life would look like now if I had done X, Y, or Z. Then I take the elements of those lives that would enrich my life as it is now. I also think about what elements I would be able to work toward. I have been able to mostly quell those niggling thoughts and make that energy productive. I absolutely love what you said about the "treasure of insight into who you are and what you need" and I am adding that to my quote book. ❤
42 is definitely not too late to follow a new path in life. All the very best to you!
@@sregan5415 A little harder with a husband and four kids in tow
Beautiful video as always; each scene in the first three minutes looked like a painting. I especially loved the images with the striking white bark of the birch (?) trees. Also, as someone who feels guilty about having a lot of different hobbies and interests, many of which I enjoy but am not particularly good at, I loved the idea that pursuing a variety of interests allows us to experience what we would have felt if we had taken a different path in life. It's a great way to think about it.
i always get so excited when you post a new video ☺ usually i'm never there at the moment itself because i am fast asleep in the Netherlands! this is a lovely way to end my day thank you Paola😊🌿🌸
I received your book yesterday and have taken a brief look through and already know it will be one I will cherish. Thank you Paolo for your insight and for teaching us how to be more intentional and enjoy life. I will be sitting down with your book over the weekend here and there savouring every page. Take care until next time xx
Incredibly meaningful and so relatable topic. Thank you
The universe always puts us where we are meant to be. In every moment there are lessons for us to learn and others to learn from us. You have the ability to make your what ifs come true. Everyday wake up and do even one little thing that fills your soul with passion. Where you live looks like a fairytale to me. All the beauty that surrounds you. I think your life is so full. A degree isnt what makes you successful. You can teach art classes without a degree. You are an amazing human being and artist. Leave the nest and fly litttle bird. I send you love and healing energy.
I used to feel so anxious about this topic. I felt so much pressure to choose the "right" way that would make me the most happy. That life does not have to be perfect to be beautiful and worth living was a very big insight for me. Now I don't think there's a perfect right way and wrong ways anymore. Instead, we form our own way my moving step by step.
Linda’s comment is so true! I too am an elderly lady and was told as you were that my writing was too old fashioned. Yet there are plenty of people out there who appreciate every word you say on this channel. What the publishers really meant that there isn’t a big killing money wise, it’s too small an appeal, of course we all knew that. I was given a token for my Christmas present and I’m off now to buy your LOVELY book Paola. I so enjoy your films please keep on making them I’m quite sure they help a whole lot of people! ❤️💐😘xx
My life is definitely full of unlived lives, lives I didn't expect, and twists and turns that return me to paths I thought were closed.
I did not study music in college because I did not believe I was good enough and that the market was saturated. However, I moved to an area where there was quite a demand. It has allowed me to reopen my more creative side after 6 years in law enforcement, followed by becoming a mother and several bouts of serious health issues. I am definitely learning the character choices we make on the daily build up to more than one road untraveled. If I had stopped playing violin in college (even though I didn't major in it) this may have never been an option for me. But I made that decision to not quit. My dad played bass for his college orchestra and hasn't touched one in decades. He often tells me he wished he kept playing. I try to encourage him it's not too late. But he seems resigned. It at least encouraged me to keep playing.
In short, keep reading and pursuing your interests little by little. A lifetime of that attitude will build to more than you can imagine.
I was surprised to see how many leaves you still had left out there in the pnw in this video. Over here, in the mountains of Virginia, our leaves are basically all gone. It just got cold but seems far too early for winter here as well. Hopefully, we will still have some warm days where the temperature reaches the 60s. We have enjoyed many warm days here this Fall and I hope they continue. The gray days of winter when the sun doesn't shine through the gray sky can be depressing. The cold is not something I enjoy at all. The one trade off of these beautiful mountain views I get to enjoy is the cold winters. I could move to a warmer place like Florida but I wouldn't have these peaceful, beautiful and rural mountains surrounding me. Much Love Paola! Never stop dreaming!
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There must be a word to describe the charming, heartfelt ‘paintings’ that you enact in your videos. I look forward to the beauty and feeling they touch in me💥❤️
WOW great concept to do a video on and what you did with it is to me, a treasure of wisdom. And i love that you created your own audience for your kind of writing and thus for your book ....well actually we already existed and it is not that you created your audience but that what you did was bypass the opinions of others who don't know really who and what your work was written for ..and so you just persevered and we found you.,..and you drew us to you. How special is THAT. And the impact is not about your STYLE of writing or your vocabulary...but the authenticity of you and what you think and say and the richness of that ----is beyond what anyone who missed the value of what is in your mind and in your words and your experiences shared, and is in fact....unfathomable. The simplicity of such a mind that is so present that a moment is a dimensionally rich experience that most miss in their busy lives...is beyond words.
I remember that other fulltime job. Now you teach us all both young and old. One thing for certain you always have a choice to make in life. Got confirmation your book is on the way and I can't wait!! Que Dios te bendiga amiga💗
There are millions of paths we can take. At every turn of our lives we choose one of them. It's wonderful to accept that we might have lived dozens of characters and that none of them is better than the other. Paola, I love your words: "We aren't missing out we're allowing our diverse interests and passions to live with us even if it's in a small way".
As I am currently finishing my undergrad and applying to Master programs, there is such anxiety about even getting accepted and subsequently making the “right choice” of where to go.
This video has brought me so much comfort in stilling my heart and making peace with the future.
Thank you! ✨
Your degree is a great accomplishment, but let it live with your heart and not vice versa.
I applied to grad school because I had no idea what I wanted to do, only that I wanted to move out of the US. I picked a random school in England that I had never heard of before and 18 years later I still live in England in a village with husband and daughter doing something not really related to my field of study. You always make do with what life brings you and never know the things that they happen even if you try to plan it all out.
Have you ever considered writing a blog and sending emails as I would love to read your Victorian/archaic style of writing. Or writing a book with that style? I've put your current book on my Christmas wish list so I can hardly wait to read! This video is very relatable as I am also interested in so many things and wish I could do/learn them all unfortunately have to keep reining in my squirrel tendancies haha.
For me this sentiment is incredibly relatable, in fact I'd say that one of my biggest flaws is how deeply I feel regret and how, for a little more than a year, I have been constantly thinking about other life paths, and if my life would be better if I had just been a little smarter, less impulsive. Of course those thoughts lead to me thinking very negatively about myself, on top of already not feeling fulfilled in the first place.
That's why I'm so glad I decided to watch this video. Everything you said comforted me, made the spiral of thoughts I find myself stuck in stop for a moment. Thank you! I'll remind myself about how there is no right or wrong path, just different lessons to be learned and opportunities to grow. I hope that in two years time I'll have your hindsight and see how even though right now this path feels unsure, maybe it's leading to great opportunities.
Again, thank you Paola, for sharing your thoughts with the world 🥰
I know God has given me many blessings and tokens over the years, and now He is using your video to let me know He is still there listening to me and it is a ok to question and rethink how I want my life to go forward. I never seen your videos before but look forward to following you. Have a wonderful winter.
I just love your gorgeous and tranquil videos! Thank you for bringing us on this journey with you and helping us start those conversations, even if it is just with ourselves! Sending love from Estonia!
The poetry of Robert Frost always sends my thoughts along these lines....I'm not sure who said, "Life is such you can only live it looking forward, but only understand it looking back." and, as I get older and look back to 40 years of teaching, kids, grandchildren, etc. I really see the forks in roads. Your area is just lovely...as are you!
I'm so thankful to you Paola ❤️
I wish that, when you look back, you find beauty and grace in every path you took. A lot of love from the bottom of my heart 🥀
As life prepares us for a journey, I chose to let my life’s path led by God’s direction never thinking what to do. Now late in life I can honestly say it worked for me, Wife, mother, grandmother and now found joy in oil painting during my retirement years. God is great for me, I was led by his divine mercy.
It reminds me of the book I read not long ago "The Midnight Library", which is also about different lives that we could have lived :) It's a great story and book, I wholeheartedly recommend it and don't want to spoil anything, so I'll leave it as it is. I know how it feels to second-guess your decisions. I've always been afraid to decide on anything, so I just went with the flow. For the first time in a long while, I made the decision to try to pursue a career with things I like myself (electronics technician for devices and systems). It's a very demanding and difficult job, so I honestly don't know if I can pass it, but I'll try my best anyway. Mainly because of my disability, I'm having difficulties. But I've learned to try any way!
Great book!
Hi Vanessa! I know you can do it. You can do it if you pit your heart into it. Pray also for God's guidance. It do really helps a lot.... And if you trust in God, even if you have disability, He can make you healthy when you're at work. Trust me cuz we're the same. I have rhinitis but everyday when I go to work, I lift everything in the Hands of God. And God never disappoints! How I wish I could repay the kindness of God but I know He doesn't need it because He's overflowing with abundance. Let us show gratitude to the kindness of God by being grateful and kind to everyone especially the needy.
#PrayingForYouVanessa🙏🙏🙏
Soooo much wisdom in your words. Thankyou for sharing your woods with us…🍂🍁
Paula, you are so wise! Thank you for sharing your insights. This video comforts the anxiety that plagues me over 'missed opportunities' and 'un-lived lives'. I have so many dreams and passions, I feel like time has run out for those that have yet to come into fruition. Though I share your sentiment of re-imagining how elements of the past can be integrated into a different path forward. One that, perhaps, I can't even imagine ❤
Thanks again for your lovely video.
In my 20th I started surging for who I was before I was born in this live. I found my spirit guide and quite a adventure followed. Now I’m 63 and live just like you in solitude in a lovely home and enjoying the beautiful nature with elves, the dryads and gnomes in it.
Love from the Netherlands 😘
This video feels like it came at the perfect time- I just finished my studies for the year after deciding 2022 will be the last year I spend at university. I start a job next week and I'm planning on going to art school, and even though I spend a lot of time these days thinking if I made the right choice, wondering what my life would have been like if I had stayed and finished my degree, I feel more settled and happy now than I have in years. I started university in 2020 and have struggled intensely with it since, and these videos have been a wonderful consolation and distraction in the time I spent this year wondering if I should finally take the plunge and drop out, fulfilling my escapist daydreams of the past three years. Now I'm looking forward to developing my skills next year, and my future feels brighter than it has in a while :)
I married my husband at 25, had my first baby at 26, and a 7 year old step son. I'm 27 now and I've often wondered what life would have been like if I traveled the world instead. I also live in a little mountain town in Colorado, and I have not utilized my psychology degree as i get to stay at home full time.
There's always the what if's. However, I wouldn't trade my family for anything! And the simple, nature filled, introverted life is fufilling. Thank you for sharing, sending love ❤️
I'm so happy I found you....your voice and beautiful way of story telling is my new go to for some comfort when my anxiety comes...Thank you for being such a sweet, precious soul.
I definitely can relate to your message Paola. My work does not tap into my interests that my soul craves but seeing this comforts me in knowing the moments I take each day or so to allow time for what I love is well spent! I hope to find a way to incorporate my interests into my career. Sending love from your neighbour to the North 🍁
LOVED this episode❣ Thank you, Paola for not only always being yourself, but for sharing your journey with your subscribers. It's important for everyone to actually WITNESS others following their dreams...for it brings them strength to chase their own. What a BLESSING you are to us all, Fairy Witch Sister 🧚♀️💫🌟💕🧙♀️ !
Hi Paola 🥺recently with the change in seasons and the colder, darker weather I'm led to reflect a lot on my life's regrets and should haves. This video however came at the right time ❤You brought a really good perspective on this topic :) And you are right, although I'm not where I expected to be in life, I hope I can carry my dreams with me. As a kid into my teens I really enjoyed making art and getting lost in it but later on I made decisions based on what was a more "logical and stable" career path. But now my heart craves for my childhood love for art and although I'm no illustrator or professional artist, I'm really trying to rekindle my love for it by even creating something small every dayThanks for this encouraging video~
Contentment is a gift. I try to leave whatifs behind, but it's a daily practice. You broaden my thinking and feeling, another much appreciated gift. Thank you. Be there in 2 weeks! Hope I can find your book.
Thank you so much for this. I'm having to makes some very hard decisions right now on the heals of an unexpected death in the family, and in the midst of grief surrounding that. It very much feels like a crossroads of having to choose one potential life over another. The idea that parts of life that we don't choose but wonder if we should have chosen can still inspire the life we did choose, is a revolutionary, and quite a lovely and hopeful, concept to me right now. Thank you so much for sharing.