ONCE YOU STOP CARING… SHE STARTS CHASING?

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  • @CoachMelannie
    @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +23

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    P.S. What part of this video did you find the most interesting/helpful? Tell me in the comments! 👇

    • @brianbcpryor112
      @brianbcpryor112 4 года назад

      SPEAK🏆🏆💋💋🎉🎈🎉 COACH MELANNIE!!!!

    • @waudicas
      @waudicas 4 года назад

      TOTALLY!!!

    • @thomasgallegos2832
      @thomasgallegos2832 4 года назад +1

      The very last part. I'm busy and she is busy. Obsession leads to jealousy. That will be a huge turn off and make the room and bed cold.

    • @charlieswank8820
      @charlieswank8820 3 года назад

      Thanks you good job 💯👍🏻.

  • @raphaelanyie5140
    @raphaelanyie5140 3 года назад +49

    When I pursue, i was called needy and desperate. When I stopped, women kept coming but the toxic ones. All the other dating coaches are only interested in mind games and one night stand. All I ever wanted was a good stable relationship with a woman in Christ. Exhausting...

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +3

      I'm sorry to hear that! I have a video coming out on this tomorrow actually. Be on the lookout, it will help you tons!

    • @carlosdixan112
      @carlosdixan112 3 года назад +4

      You're a male, your goals shouldn't be a relationship, you should be pursuing your purpose

    • @raphaelanyie5140
      @raphaelanyie5140 3 года назад

      @@carlosdixan112 that's my point

    • @aeganratheesh
      @aeganratheesh 2 года назад

      @@raphaelanyie5140 maybe that's why white people don't have enough kids lol

    • @JT-gm4fk
      @JT-gm4fk 2 года назад +1

      @@carlosdixan112 That's a toxic way of thinking. "You're a male, your goals shouldn't be a relationship". If one of your goals in life is not to find a quality woman to share your life then I would argue you do not have very high goals. A quality woman will be by your side and help push you to those. You have primitive thinking

  • @SeanB-wi5yh
    @SeanB-wi5yh 4 года назад +31

    That concept are these lyrics in a nutshell
    "You want them when they dont want you, as soon as they do feelings change"
    - Eminem

    • @spencercarey1512
      @spencercarey1512 3 года назад

      Just heard that from spacebound the other day and thought the same thing. On point.

    • @jinnbone5244
      @jinnbone5244 2 года назад

      💯

  • @scott27288
    @scott27288 4 года назад +15

    This video hit the nail on the head. Thanks Coach Melanie. I've been in relationships where things seemed to be progressing then things as i like to say "went off the cliff" because the woman either said I was "pushing her" or "wasn't chasing her enough". I thought the same thing as you said in this video, as long as two people are chasing each other or as long as one is chasing the other, they're never getting any closer. I was once told by a female "The man is supposed to chase the woman". I replied, "No the man should pursue the woman not chase her" Then I resisted the urge to say, "If you want to be chased, you need a dog, not a boyfriend." lol

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      I love the dog analogy!!! 😀😀😀

  • @mryankee3566
    @mryankee3566 3 года назад +8

    This is true. I tried NC with an ex, we literally went like 7-8 months of doing it and no one reached out. Sometimes people do move on and I began to know a new lady who is great and my advice would be especially for those who got dumped, just move on with your life and it will bring you peace.

  • @JuanSanchez-tk4vr
    @JuanSanchez-tk4vr 4 года назад +14

    Her advice is the OPPOSITE of what all the men dating coaches say do Haha 😁. But her advice makes sense IF you can find a good woman nowadays which is not toxic. And that's not easy to find nowadays.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      I teach you how to do just that! Thanks for your kind words! And thanks for watching! 🙏

    • @80skid83
      @80skid83 2 года назад

      I find women coaches are indeed the opposite of what males coaches say, but I think it's far better to get an opinion from a woman coach as they will of course know women better.

    • @TheRhythmKnights
      @TheRhythmKnights 2 года назад

      Well, I don’t doubt Melanie is a good person, and honest … however, women are challenged to say they adhere to the higher standard (desire a “kind” man) but if they actually are attracted to a man who is not kind they will not necessarily admit it. Yes, best to avoid chasing toxic women to begin with, but if your target woman is dismissive (toxic) and admits she needs to change, she may respond in the short term to being ignored as a wake up call

  • @bobmorgan5636
    @bobmorgan5636 4 года назад +83

    Then why do they back away when a guy pursues....they call it needy, etc

    • @chimakalu41
      @chimakalu41 4 года назад +10

      Good question

    • @luckgalaxy8548
      @luckgalaxy8548 4 года назад +11

      This is what I'm saying we chase and they call it needy can you respond.

    • @mettauttam7346
      @mettauttam7346 4 года назад +6

      Then don't chase... Just don't give excessive of anything.... Do your job and give some free time.... Every thing will work....🙂🙂

    • @luckgalaxy8548
      @luckgalaxy8548 4 года назад +1

      @@sweetness34km ohh that does kind of makes sense ok this is good sometimes us guys get confused on situations like this. No wonder 🤔

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +12

      This can happen for a few different reasons. Remember that pursuing is only effective when it's done the right way. Pursuing can come across as very needy if you don't have the right strategy. It doesn't matter how many times you pursue the wrong way you won't get the result you want. Also, it's important that you aren't pursuing a toxic woman. If you are then she will treat you badly all day long because she gets a thrill out of the fact that you pursued her. But she isn't really interested. Here are some videos that will help you with this ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA The last thing to pay attention to is that pursuing doesn't guarantee that a woman will be interested. It's important to know how to tell if a woman is interested first and then pursue if she is. Here are some videos that will help you with this ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-WjotkCVLvYKp30QhuvcKDN Thanks for your question!

  • @valentinanocross8677
    @valentinanocross8677 4 года назад +8

    We high quality women are taught that interested men won't let a great women get away. Playing no games and following your feelings is authentic.

    • @PeterAcrat
      @PeterAcrat 3 года назад

      Wooaaah up there a sec:
      If a woman is "Getting Away"... then does that not by definition mean she is moving *Away from* the guy? Could this begin 'inciting' him to pursue and "Not let a great woman get away"?? - Looks like double standards/game playing to me.
      Be the difference you want to see in the world. No one like games.

    • @valentinanocross8677
      @valentinanocross8677 3 года назад

      @@PeterAcrat no it means there was no games from the beginning because a man saw the value in front of him and a normal healthy relationship begun and communication was/ is key, connection was made and consistency continues.
      What I more. Importantly understand is that we see things as a projection of our insides. I believe you may be telling me your story and not asking me about mine. I believe I used the words authentic from the beginning. I am thinking you have some attachment style wounds that would be a better addressed in order to attract the relationship you want and not what you are. Theorie states we attract what we are not what we want. I have done enough work now to attract what I am ( authentic) and not reaching after what I want. I hope I didn't write too abbreviated so you understand this better this time. All the best.

    • @carlosdixan112
      @carlosdixan112 3 года назад

      @@valentinanocross8677 your shaming tactics don't, who hurt you is what you're saying jajajaia 😂

    • @carlosdixan112
      @carlosdixan112 3 года назад

      @@PeterAcrat you catch her bro , it's a double standard

    • @valentinanocross8677
      @valentinanocross8677 3 года назад

      @@PeterAcrat you're right. Poor wording on my part. I can see that

  • @ghostoferlock
    @ghostoferlock 2 года назад +5

    Great video. Makes a lot of sense, and the honesty of your words comes across very clearly. You don't double talk, or be rude to anyone watching. I can tell stories about the chasing games, being dumped, ignored, and the list goes on. There is a very strong sense of maturity, and strength in the vulnerability being shown in pursuing a woman, on both sides. If either person doesn't put some hope and faith into a relationship in the beginning, it will be games, and not the overlapping of love and caring towards each other that it could be. Sometimes, as one person sees what they lost, they can begin to understand it, and feel the days that could have been. A quick story, a girl that I had seen at one time, had come in to work, and was talking with me a bit. Conversation went to her walking out on me, and what have you, and she quite loudly said 'Because I love you' to me. It actually made me feel quite badly, because it seems that she realised. It's a very painful memory, because to see that kind of love sometime after, that can't be changed. Anyways, if anyone thinks they are the only ones that struggles with memories like this, they are wrong.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  2 года назад

      I'm so sorry she did that! God bless 🙏

  • @Melafx-consult
    @Melafx-consult 4 года назад +1

    Conventional dating advice encourages flirting, but you advice in this videos builds friendship.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I’ve experienced these scenarios Coach Melannie.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I’m trying to get that lifelong happy relationship.

  • @rtsbeyond
    @rtsbeyond 4 года назад +1

    I had stopped caring for years but it was all because I was convinced no one cares. I didn’t even care about chasing. Being alone and single gave me time to think about what I’d rather be doing in life and work on making it happen. I’m hopeful that who I really am will show and that I don’t leave everyone with the impression I’m a hateful person. Working on it all has made me happier and I went from not caring to not obsessing. You’re right too, the internet is full of so much stuff I don’t need to be viewing. I followed you here and on IG in the interest of replacing it all. Men deserve better...something of substance and I’m grateful you’re thinking of us 😢

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      I'm happy to hear my videos are helping you! Thank you for your kind words! If there are any questions I can answer for you feel free to email me (melannie@coachmelannie.com) or DM me on IG!

  • @freepressright
    @freepressright 4 года назад +3

    If you have to constantly pine for someones attention, beg them to be noticed or play reverse psychology to get some intimate connection, you are with a toxic, broken woman and you cannot fix her.

    • @freepressright
      @freepressright 4 года назад

      Believe me, I've been there, and been messed up from the rejection issues it caused. For years. This is especially common of love avoidant types. They wow you off your feet only to become absent right before your very eyes, leaving you to begin a toxic chase, but things never improve. You keep trying to become sweeter and more wonderful, but the more you do, the worse it becomes. It is not your fault, but convincing your mind of that is not easy. They actually came into the relationship with this dysfunction, and they will carry it into all others until they resolve it with professional help or an honest, dedicated effort.

  • @scottlasley4593
    @scottlasley4593 4 года назад +7

    This one had some eye-openers... It makes sense. There have been times where I attempted the "I don't care" attitude, and of course it doesn't work. She got mad or upset, and our feelings were both hurt. Never again, for sure. Thanks for the advice.

  • @lingomansradioshow4447
    @lingomansradioshow4447 4 года назад +6

    "Many thanks Coach Melannie" for giving your time and skills."

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +2

      I appreciate that! Thanks for watching! 🙏

  • @francinevassell7374
    @francinevassell7374 3 года назад +1

    This was a real eye opener. I thought the guy I liked a few years ago seemed alone and I tried to go after him to hopefully encourage him to help feel apart of the group. Honestly, I was chasing him because I was attracted to him and convinced myself that while chasing I can be a good friend. After watching this, I noticed he wasn't really genuine in getting know me and I fell for the chasing game and I was encouraging the bad behavior. Thank you for helping me realize what was actually going on and for helping me not develop toxic habits.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +1

      Thanks so much for your kind words. I am SO happy it was helpful! God bless! 😀

  • @Geforcepat
    @Geforcepat 4 года назад +4

    Thank you Melannie. I've been wondering about all this stop caring and she'll chase stuff for a few months now. Thanks for explaining it. i definitely won't be trying that in the future. One of your best of the year. Oh, and yes.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Thank you so much for your kind comment! I'm happy the video was helpful. I'll keep them coming!

  • @dougrayburn8179
    @dougrayburn8179 4 года назад +3

    I took her free master class and it helped me deter whether a female likes me for sure or not and her way of explaining both pros and cons is informative both mentally and emotionally she helps you understand that giving too much isn't good but not giving enough is also bad too and how to realize staying focused on yourself while pursuing a female shows them you still care about yourself and you want a mutual relationship plus she has other key points that make you see a females opinion matters too and how to apply those daily.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching! 🙏

  • @krakent8791
    @krakent8791 3 года назад +3

    Thank you. This is what I need. What you're talking about is totally make sense. Come to think of it, those mind games and tricks are for the immature and toxic people.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +1

      I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏

  • @JohnBrown-ig5nc
    @JohnBrown-ig5nc 4 года назад +7

    I'd like to see more videos on bad dating advice. I liked this video because you broke down what is wrong with conventional internet dating advice.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +2

      Perfect! I will keep them coming!💪 Thank you for your kind words! Have a great day 😀

  • @tompeterson4628
    @tompeterson4628 3 года назад +1

    It gets old if your the only person who appears to be interested or always having to make the effort.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +1

      A gal may be sending you signs she is interested, but you have to know how to read them. These videos will be very helpful! ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-WjotkCVLvYKp30QhuvcKDN God bless 🙏

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I wouldn’t want a relationship that’s hot cold hot cold.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I would never start a relationship on games.

  • @karenransom4177
    @karenransom4177 4 года назад +3

    I don't know why I'm drawn to this show, all I can say is it's interesting to hear what other people are actually going through.. I myself am in a tight relationship and we truly get along totally 100%wonderful..
    I do like this show though.
    You're doing an excellent job..
    Keep it up..

  • @bkirn4846
    @bkirn4846 4 года назад +2

    Exceptional content. I have listened to more than a few of those evade to be chased strategems on you tube and they make me sick. I've also been through a relationship like that. It's toxic as #3!!! I would never want to go back to that kind of torment. In any case you nailed It. This is so much healthier. Thank you for your message.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Thank you for your kind words! Have a great day 😀

  • @thomasverslycken2563
    @thomasverslycken2563 2 года назад +1

    I only get a crush on women i'm very close friends with for long enough because makes chances of having a relationship with a toxic woman usually very small because you already know them quite well, also having a crush on a very close friend doesn't completely remove the risk of failing completely by messing up, but it does lower that risk

  • @josephmunyao6639
    @josephmunyao6639 4 года назад +4

    This video has virtually impacted me Positively. Thanks you coach!

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Glad it was helpful! Thank YOU for your kind words! God bless 🙏

  • @rickyvasquez2133
    @rickyvasquez2133 4 года назад +4

    I’ve had this scenario play out so many different times oh help me because I’m a need you’re a such a great guy but I think we should just be friends it’s the typical story that most guys like myself who play the nice guy all the time to be genuine end up getting played the most but I appreciate what you said today coach Melannie you’re always right on point!

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Thanks for your kind words! I'm so happy you like my videos. I'm sorry you have had this experience with women. Have you seen these videos? ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Often times toxic women play off of nice men. And nice guys deserve nice girls!! Just sayin'! 😀😀😀

  • @rjc7289
    @rjc7289 4 года назад +3

    One chasing the other -- kind of like 2 negative or positive charges on a magnet. They'll only repel each other. There's a reason they say opposites attract!

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I’ve been hurt I’ve been burned I’ve been played.

  • @luigidibenedetto338
    @luigidibenedetto338 4 года назад

    love is not just looking into each other eyes but looking the same direction. When two people running the same direction and even if they dont each other yet, they will meet and the fulfillment of your hopes and dreams will be realized.

  • @Prentice-cv3xv
    @Prentice-cv3xv 2 месяца назад

    Yes, thank you so much for sharing this information. I have learned a lot from your videos. I am working to learn more about meeting high quality women that value my time and energy

  • @klewis4377
    @klewis4377 4 года назад +3

    Thanks! You really are the BEST coach ever. Keep them coming!

  • @danieljolson5884
    @danieljolson5884 4 года назад +1

    I need help Melanie! My girlfriend fell in love with me, and now says she loves me but not in love with me. I’m confused. She has said she loves who I am. We are new in the relationship and have had some real tresses come along which I think turned her away! I love this woman dearly!

  • @Lee-dd6nq
    @Lee-dd6nq 4 года назад +4

    Yes u r absolutely correct get hurt Loving a drama queen 2years one-sided thanks for the useful advice

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      I'm sorry to hear that! Here are some videos that will help you avoid women like that in the future ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Thank you for your kind words and let me know if I can answer any questions in the future!

  • @dantiger6406
    @dantiger6406 3 года назад +1

    One of my ex-girlfriend's I now realise having watched your video's was toxic. She, was never wrong, very bossy, physically abusive towards her daughter's and a complete nut job. Had to save various daughter's of hers on several occasions from being beaten up. Your right it definitely wasn't any fun at all. So all of stuff on the internet is just BS, very interesting. Thanks, so much Melanie...😍

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      That is so very sad! I'm so sorry about that!!!!! These videos might be very interesting to you. ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless! 😀

  • @ruskinjetter5799
    @ruskinjetter5799 4 года назад +3

    I love your tongue work at the end of your videos. Thank you sweetie !!

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I’m enjoying this video.

  • @fleadoggreen9062
    @fleadoggreen9062 3 года назад +1

    Well I for one realized my answer too late! 1) decide if you really want this girl, not just seeing if you can get her to like you , 2) make sure you are ready for her,like you have a job, take care of yourself or at least try, dress neatly ,
    3) get ur confidence up and lay your cards on the table! Just be honest like “ hey Mary I’d like to ask ya, we’ve been friends for a while, always have fun together, I’d like us to be more than friends , I’d like to try that new Thai restaurant that opened, when is the next night you are free, I’ll pick you up and take care of everything, all you gotta do is look cute lol !

  • @DaddyWesker7
    @DaddyWesker7 4 года назад +4

    Yes! I have a question that one of my friends asked: when a guy pursues why do girls call you needy? Is that a sign of a toxic woman?

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +2

      It depends on how the guy is pursuing. If you don't pursue the right way it does come across as needy. However, there are toxic women who will tear you down no matter what you do. This is why it's so important to know the signs of toxic women. Have you seen these videos yet? I'm sure they will help you ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Thanks for your question!

  • @Dj.D25
    @Dj.D25 4 года назад +6

    I did try the "No contact rule", planned to do it for about a month, like someone suggested, after losing patience with her. After about 2 weeks of avoiding her and hiding online, ignoring texts, it seems there's a chance God decided to get involved and forced me and her to spend more time together at work, with our recent schedule changes. I am able to have lunch with her at work once a week now and she wants to hang out soon. (Maybe she saw something interesting in me with one of those conversations?) And she's been more open to me lately.
    There's been a lot of other things that happened between us lately that don't look like a coincidence. Maybe God knew the No Contact Rule was silly and wants to bring us closer, even though it's been kind of slow.

    • @thomasgallegos2832
      @thomasgallegos2832 4 года назад +1

      Sometimes it works at work . That's how we started and didn't end well. Now that we don't work together it seems to have released the pressure.

    • @Dj.D25
      @Dj.D25 4 года назад

      Thomas Gallegos I know many believe dating a coworker isn’t recommended. My coworker even dated someone she shouldn’t have and hurt herself. But I still believe God can make something happen between me and her.

    • @thomasgallegos2832
      @thomasgallegos2832 4 года назад

      @@Dj.D25 I agree . Don't give up and don't smother . All the best to you ! !

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад

    I would never want to attract a drama queen.

  • @_Trakman
    @_Trakman 3 года назад +1

    missing detail attachment styles: Avoidant attachment vs Anxious attachment (runner-chaser)

  • @JT-gm4fk
    @JT-gm4fk 2 года назад

    If she chases you out of no contact, she only wants you when youre not available...think about that.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    I would never attract toxic women.

  • @bischandchips9421
    @bischandchips9421 3 года назад +3

    Hi Melannie, I have a perfect example of why you are right from two minutes ago. My girlfriend in Australia has been slowly replying less with fewer emojis, and just not engaging in the conversations. So I followed the make her chase you technique yesterday and felt terrible. I sent a photo of a bear in front of my door this morning. One response then nothing.
    I watched a video from a guy saying I should wait a week. That didn't sound right. It sounded petulant. I saw this video of your on the sidebar and watched it. Something about two people should be together, no chasing, clicked. We are a couple - healthy couples resolve problems together. I wrote, "Hi F.. You seem distant lately. Is something wrong?💕" . She immediately wrote back that she has been I'll and is awaiting a medical procedure. She did want to worry me. Imagine suffering alone and the guy you've chatted with daily disappears for a week. Thank you coach!

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      Thank you so much for sharing that! I'm so happy my video helped you 😀 Best of luck to both of you!!

  • @davymoose3815
    @davymoose3815 4 года назад +1

    Yes watch out for toxic ladies but also pray for them that they will come back to the Lord 🙏
    Some of them have just lost their way

  • @rayc1692
    @rayc1692 4 года назад +2

    Thank you for another great and insightful video, Melannie 😁 Oh, that song in your bloopers (if memory serves me right, lol) is Nsync's "Here We Go" 🤣

    • @Geforcepat
      @Geforcepat 4 года назад +2

      That's what i was thinking lol

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      You are so welcome! Thanks for watching! 😀

  • @richardtenorio7750
    @richardtenorio7750 4 года назад +1

    This is the dest gavi e I've heard life shouldn't be a game. Well done.

  • @SanderBastiaans
    @SanderBastiaans 3 года назад

    For two people to truly connect, both must be willing to invest in the other and thereby being open and vulnerable. As long as one chases the other, closeness cannot be established and their bond will be depending one person

  • @xjasonxbx1
    @xjasonxbx1 4 года назад

    A real Christian dating coach. Very refreshing!

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      You’re very kind! Thanks for watching! 🙏

  • @MrMockingbird1313
    @MrMockingbird1313 Год назад

    Hey Melannie,
    I have been doing the online dating game for quite awhile. I will suggest that half of the online interactions are with toxic women or outright scams.

  • @lakehawklakehawk7830
    @lakehawklakehawk7830 4 года назад +1

    Can you do a video about woman afraid of getting emotiinally hurt after abuse but has strong feelings for you. And is scared to see you for those reasons.

  • @justvideos3483
    @justvideos3483 4 года назад +1

    I stop chasing and girl was very happy and never return 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      I'm sorry to hear that things didn't go the way you wanted! Here are some videos that will help you ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VSJTPh27Xb7RNm14DvYN8X

  • @akashpandit1123
    @akashpandit1123 4 года назад +2

    Thank you, looking forward to your videos.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      Thank you so much! Have a great day 😀

  • @kingd.6059
    @kingd.6059 4 года назад +2

    I like what you teach. I hate what the pick up community is teaching

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏

  • @bigmike9486
    @bigmike9486 3 года назад +1

    I'm gonna be honest, I don't have a dream girl. I can't find women who have what I need so I will follow God and on resurection day I will be fulfilled.

  • @pakbesar3815
    @pakbesar3815 3 года назад

    This video liberates me, i can finally let my fear go because now i know i did well but my mistake was i attracted the wrong person. i become very self-aware and doubting myself. Then i stumbled this video, I finally realized who i was with. i hope god gives you the happiness i currently feel too. Thank you

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      I’m so happy it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 😀

  • @mikelee2583
    @mikelee2583 Год назад

    Yes, I learned about contradicting of what u teach and I believe u are right, so happy that I can learn from u for long lasting relationships, thanks and keep up the good work

  • @goalieczar-adamcooper6900
    @goalieczar-adamcooper6900 4 года назад +2

    Love this topic and the video Melannie! You are definitely on to something here for guys who want to have a meaningful relationship. I’ve pulled back to be chased before and it backfired. There not many others debating this topic.
    Everything is about balance. Women love a guy who takes initiative for dates or activities but texting too much for example during the day could get her annoyed and come across as needy. It might help to show more examples to guys on when pursuing can turn into needy behaviour.

  • @paradigm986
    @paradigm986 3 года назад

    "mind game" one of the reasons that i thought to my self i cant get a woman.. that im weak.. now i know this is one of the traits of a toxic woman.. i didnt realize that im chasing a toxic woman, not a classy high quality woman...ty for this video it really open my eyes..

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      I'm so glad it was helpful! These videos will help you even more. ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless 🙏

  • @issaskarkautoorora2296
    @issaskarkautoorora2296 2 года назад

    IS SUCH Ñ POWERFUL VIDEO PLEASE COACHMELANNIE CONTINUE... 🌀⚡🔥🌦

  • @Flameonish
    @Flameonish 4 года назад +4

    Yes I would like a long life relationship

  • @staycasual7203
    @staycasual7203 Год назад

    I love you coach Mel. The best x

  • @Thedesertguy75
    @Thedesertguy75 2 года назад

    Don't try and win someone back, get on with your life, or your mind will be in constant turmoil....

  • @scottdunn2178
    @scottdunn2178 4 года назад +1

    Stop chasing the wrong one... the right one won't run.

  • @tennisfrk123
    @tennisfrk123 4 года назад

    In my opinion, relying on the chase won't even get you a one night stand usually. When a girl only chases you when you stop caring about her, she isn't attracted to you, but she is only attracted to the idea of you because she can't have you. As soon as you start pursuing her, her "attraction" towards you will vanish. Very frustrating situation. When dealing with a girl in this kind of situation, just keep it moving. You most likely won't get with her. Find other girls who genuinely find you attractive.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Amen! Find other girls who are real 💪 I don't know if you've seen these videos yet but they will help you know how to avoid the toxic women and instead get the real women ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA

  • @eddierodriguezii1295
    @eddierodriguezii1295 4 года назад +1

    yes P.S love your bloopers they're really funny

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Thank you for your kind words! Have a great day 😀

  • @grizzlyrick2437
    @grizzlyrick2437 4 года назад

    I literally just started watching you and you seem to be the only person giving actual useful information. I’ve seen other you tubers about this info and there advice is pure shit garbage trash. You got my subscription.

  • @jastixier
    @jastixier 3 года назад

    yes. i have done what you said not to do. thanks for what you are saying

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      My pleasure! Thanks for your comment!👍You can totally turn things around!

  • @genestanfield9943
    @genestanfield9943 3 года назад

    Omg you hit it right on the head. With this one. Long story short. A woman I like keeps switching from we have very different lives she's not moving here im not moving there . Various reasons. She's a city girl, I'm a mountain man. Eat. We love each other but then if I say something like we'll then let's b friends forever but I need to find someone to hold and love she switches again and says she loves me we can do it. Seems like she's just getting my hopes up. And you are right I a m too needy and lonely. You are the master thank you

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      I'm so sorry that is happening. I hope these videos will help you! ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA God bless 🙏

  • @raiderlove5923
    @raiderlove5923 3 года назад

    I've pulled away from a woman who I upset by putting her down (not my intention). She basically told me that I hurt her and to have a nice life. I have since then backed off and went about my life. I still kind of care about her as we've known each other since like kindergarten only having some interest in each other recently.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +1

      If you'd like to email me I can help you with this. coachmelannie.com/contact-me/ Have a happy day! 😀

  • @UnexpectedWonder
    @UnexpectedWonder 4 года назад +1

    Thank-you!!! 😁😁😊😊🤗🤗👊👊 This is what I keep sayin'!

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Boom! You've got this 💪 God bless!

  • @andjelkovicjasmin2954
    @andjelkovicjasmin2954 Год назад

    Yep, once you start caring about yourself instead of her, she starts chasing you and trying to get you into bed.

  • @utublky4360
    @utublky4360 2 года назад

    Good video.
    I would say you are the only coach that says this. Alll of them says the opposite. Can dramatic toxic people come to their senses n settle in after some time?
    Solo pursuing seems pathetic but little droplets of carrots here n there by the other party feel like heaven.... just like a roller coaster.
    How do you know if it's really genuine shyness or toxic drama attitude coming from someone?
    Is someone who chooses which text to answer .... a dramatic person?
    Is someone who talks excitedly about dates n pulls away last minute n further drop silent..... a toxic person?

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  2 года назад

      These are great questions. These videos will help you with this. ruclips.net/p/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA And this too. coachmelannie.com/what-attracts-toxic-women-sign-up/ God bless 🙏

  • @jonathanaspiras8975
    @jonathanaspiras8975 3 года назад

    You know what my dream girl is avoiding me now, we've been getting along well before that but suddenly she changed..🤔🤔

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +1

      I'm sorry to hear that! Here is a video that will help you. ruclips.net/video/N8bFCKEBXIY/видео.html The last tip is especially going to help!

  • @sheikhishtiakali7056
    @sheikhishtiakali7056 3 года назад

    Just say whatever you like to say .sometimes we meet a girl once and we will never meet her again in life .why would we care about ego that time .we should just express our feelings.i regret all those women who I study with ,work with for many years and unable to express my feelings .I wish I would get rejected by saying that having regrets now for not telling .this is why I am single .because I have ego of not saying women what I feel

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      I understand why you feel this way. However, I would be very careful especially at work. It may come across and creepy and you could get in trouble. God bless 🙏

    • @sheikhishtiakali7056
      @sheikhishtiakali7056 3 года назад

      @@CoachMelannie I understand but I like a girl so much and work with her and study with her few years but never able to say her how much I like her .because of these fake dating gurus who says to ignore and she will chase you things are not always true . regretting of not saying is worst than rejection .

  • @BunnyMaester
    @BunnyMaester 4 года назад

    Coach Lee strongly suggests limited contact (either let them come to you, or only initiate contact when you absolutely have to. Keep it brief, cordial, fun, and polite.) to save your marriage.
    My wife and I had a stupid fight, and she left me to enter into a rebound relationship with the POS who had messed up our marriage to begin with😞
    We were lovers and best friends, too. And we have a kiddo whose about to turn 9.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      I'm so very sorry to hear that!

    • @BunnyMaester
      @BunnyMaester 4 года назад

      @@CoachMelannie any advice on how to win her back? She had proposed to me after only a few months because I was the only man to ever treat her like a real person and we were best friends. Meanwhile, all of this started with the man she left me for because he had raped and blackmailed her into an affair after being fed up of being told they were just friends and she was happily married to me.
      We tried to fix things, but he kept somehow worming his way back and I kept catching her having secrets conversations with him. We kept having fights about it, and she keep lying about who she was really talking to.
      She left last September to be with him, but came back in November when I told her I slept with another woman and that I was giving up on her and our marriage entirely.
      She fully blocked him, and did everything I had asked of her except for filing a restraining order against him to permanently burn the bridge and telling everyone the truth, and so I struggled to trust her. Even then, we didn't have a single fight, and everything was happy and wonderful as before, save for me occasionally checking her phone from time to time, which she had given me her blessing to do.
      Late march, she was with hanging out with our mutual friend, but wouldn't come home for whatever reason. She kept saying " just twenty more minutes". So around 10:30, I asked her what was going on and she wouldn't just come home, and if she was secretly with that scumbag, and we had a big fight and she said nothing would ever be good enough to regain my trust and that she was done with me and our marriage and that the scumbag who had to rape her and blackmail and play mind games with her was more deserving of her love. Afterwards, she moved right in with him while sending our son to live with her parents.
      She's gone back and forth between being warm and affectionate towards me and cold and distant. Lately, she's been distant, like maybe she's moved on completely and wants nothing more to do with me.
      But the worst part is that all of her friends and family have been so support of her and scuzzo, even calling him the "hero who saved her from a loveless marriage" and "a man finally deserving of her", and it's really heartbreaking to read such things when I had won her heart with kindness and sincerity and endless nights of Clue & Beatles music, and he "won" her by raping her and destroying our marriage, which he boasted about to our mutual friend, whom he repeatedly tried to have sex with in front of my her.
      My situation feels hopeless and the only thing going in my favor is that our son favors me over her, and that he continues to refuse to live with my wife and scuzzo, and wants nothing to do with him. He told him me that scuzzo was creepy and weird and that he didn't feel safe around him.
      People tell me I should just pack up and hit the road, start a new life wherever, but how do you just let your wife/best friend and son go? True, I'm not his biological dad, but I'm the one who raised him and the only dad he's known. And running away would only seem to cement my role as the bad guy in all this.
      I feel so lost.

  • @chrismcevoy2503
    @chrismcevoy2503 Год назад +1

    Yes!

  • @ohannesmatchoulian4826
    @ohannesmatchoulian4826 4 года назад +1

    Nice , thank you for the truth and clarification , Christ Rocks 💪

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      You are very welcome! Thanks for your kind comment! God bless 🙏

  • @jahjahbless547
    @jahjahbless547 3 года назад

    I like you. You got substance. U managed to get my attention. U represent yourself well melanie.

  • @frankupson465
    @frankupson465 4 года назад

    Crazy in love in 90s is what we should all aspire to! Thanks coach 😎

  • @waudicas
    @waudicas 4 года назад

    THANK YOU!!!, for killing that myth once n for all! People that support that concept obviously don’t know that if a woman is independent n used to a life without any man in it then she’ll frankly DGAF if You the man stops interacting with her. I know this from firsthand experience, altho when we didn’t had any contact that’s when she realized that actually missed me n not just a lil bit but in her own words “alot actually”.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so happy you enjoyed it!

  • @antd2733
    @antd2733 4 года назад +4

    When you are just dating are you supposed to talk on phone everyday?

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      That's a great question! Are you asking because you do or do not want to talk on the phone every day? For the most part it's up to the couple and what they would like.

  • @0820XXX
    @0820XXX 3 года назад

    You said some good points above Melannie and I don't like playing mind games with any female that I'm in a romantic relationship with and I hope she doesn't do that to me also.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад +1

      I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏

    • @0820XXX
      @0820XXX 3 года назад

      Thanks for your reply back to me on this Melannie.

    • @0820XXX
      @0820XXX 3 года назад

      @@CoachMelannie You're welcome and I appreciate your positive response back to me also.

  • @darrenbutler4508
    @darrenbutler4508 3 года назад

    Your very good, and a very honest coach your smart and your awesome thank you for bringing the 2021 in the right way, Darren.

  • @paulorlando5877
    @paulorlando5877 3 года назад +1

    The nice guy thing doesn't work anymore, sad but true, unless you have a time machine and go back to 1942,lol.

  • @mr.goodwrench8273
    @mr.goodwrench8273 4 года назад +1

    What part of this video did I find the most interesting/helpful ? All of it was both interesting and helpful. I was especially glad to hear you emphasize on your last point, that all of this game playing on men and women's behalf is IMMATURE. Even though I already know that, I was just glad to hear you say it. Folks have gotta grow up and get away from that.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад

      Thanks! So glad you liked it! 🙏

    • @legacies9041
      @legacies9041 3 года назад

      @@CoachMelannie you may as well go to Hollywood and produce fiction also know as romantic movies

  • @PeterAcrat
    @PeterAcrat 3 года назад

    In his "Caring", he's *already* being sincere, honest, open and real.... and if she's not responding or appears uninterested, he should just walk away and assume she's not attracted to him. That's it. Plain and simple. Male logic.
    If She follows (AKA [not to get stuck on wording here]: chases/pursues/reaches out/reconnects/shows interest), he *might consider* hearing her reasons for her actions, but really, he deserves someone who, _if she is genuinely attracted to him and not a TOXIC type_, will respect his mutual attraction AND respond by moving TOWARD him. If she won't; then it's time to value yourself my friend - just split and keep walking. There's someone better for you.

  • @ronfarrell776
    @ronfarrell776 3 года назад

    I totally agree with you 100% from experience.

  • @NathanSmutz
    @NathanSmutz Год назад

    How does this relate to the no-contact pull-back thing people suggest to get out of the friend-zone?

  • @sven_ampleforth
    @sven_ampleforth 2 года назад

    Hi Coach Melannie!!
    I have a question:
    What is the difference between and ?
    Because you said: The concept of one person chasing the other is actually flawed.
    And in your videos you recommend we need to persue her, in order to she feels safe, and femenine and she sees us like man; and because that is the way we are wired by God.
    Maybe you could do a video about this.
    Thanks for the lessons.
    14:46-14:52 The blooper that is not a blooper but is funny because the truth is, in some sense, something amuse.

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  2 года назад

      If you'd like to email me I can help you with this. coachmelannie.com/contact-me/ Have a happy day! 😀

  • @jcsaito4780
    @jcsaito4780 4 года назад +1

    Makes a lot of sense to me 👊🏽

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      Thank you for your kind words! Have a great day 😀

  • @PulseCodeModulate
    @PulseCodeModulate 3 года назад

    What a magnificent breath of fresh air...

  • @jimsmith6547
    @jimsmith6547 4 года назад +1

    Thank you young lady for the info you provide for us I'm so glad I stumbled across your station i guess i always attracted the wrong women in my life so again thanks

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      You are so welcome! Please let me know if I can answer any questions for you! 😀 Thanks for watching! melannie@coachmelannie.com

  • @kristiannoel4866
    @kristiannoel4866 3 года назад

    What if the reason you appear to don't care is that you've been hurt that much you've built up a wall around yourself?

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  3 года назад

      I'm sorry that happened. It's important to get the help you need so you can heal and be happy! God bless 🙏

    • @kristiannoel4866
      @kristiannoel4866 3 года назад

      @@CoachMelannie Thanks Mel. I always appreciate your videos.

  • @mikioni
    @mikioni 4 года назад +1

    Beautiful video, thank you 🙏👏

    • @CoachMelannie
      @CoachMelannie  4 года назад +1

      Thanks! So glad you liked it! 🙏

  • @alanmills-rw2pp
    @alanmills-rw2pp 10 месяцев назад

    What's it mean when you walk past her in church and her head is down but looks in your eyes she is standing up, and her mouth is slightly open, she looks at you like a puppy dog?

  • @alanmills-rw2pp
    @alanmills-rw2pp 10 месяцев назад

    Her mother is always laughing at me