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@MyPOV Absolutely agree 💯INFJs definitely need that alone time to recharge the batteries to be able to take on the world each day! Thank you so much for leaving a comment and for taking the time to watch 👍🙂
I'm in the process of selling everything I don't need to move to the woods. Peace from others self invented horrors is a half a days trek from the woods to a grocery store and back again. Society is such a disappointment for me. 🤪
@Retired43 The world can be a very difficult place, especially for INFJs who can feel things so deeply. Taking in all of the emotions around you can be very taxing, to say the least. Finding that inner peace is paramount and you need to protect it. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment. 🙂👍
65 year old INFJ. Last AJuly(2021) my ex wife walked out on me and went back to live with her daughter. I won't go into details but this was the latest in many failed relationships. Realizing that I was part of the problem I knew I had to change the tape in my head. I left the US and now live in Albania. I deliberately chose Albania because an American can stay there for a full year without having to leave but mainly because very few people speak english and I knew that I would not get involved. I chose to isolate myself and heal. One year later I have regained myself but I will still not live in a country that speaks english deliberately.
@Pat Hogan Thank you so much for sharing part of your story. It can be tough being an INFJ - especially since it can be such a challenge for other people to truly "get" you. I am glad you have found a place to heal and reflect- that is monumental. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 🙌🙂
@noelle burton You are quite fortunate to have a friend that does totally understand you and that you can find comfort with them. It can be hard for an INFJ to find that, for sure. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 🙌🙂
I started watching these videos thinking I was an INTJ, but started to suspect I suppressed my feelings because they were too intense and learned to be more logical to save my sanity from gaslighters, as well as to avoid messy relationships. I had a friend who is definitely an INFJ, and I loved having meaningful talks with her. But she slammed the door on me when I addressed something that she did not want to believe about herself. I still love her, of course, and I understand her hypersensitivity.
Thanks for this! A lot of the points here resonate with me and I self-isolate for some of these reasons. For me, the two main reasons I self-isolate is: 1) I am INFJ + HSP + empath so it is natural for me to be able to "read" people quickly - their overall state of being/thinking PLUS their emotions - and many times it is not a pleasant outcome; 2) It is difficult to have a meaningful, balanced conversation with most people - they hijack the conversation and there is typically a constant, non-stop babble about themselves and/or superficial things, and if I manage to get a word in edge-wise it is clear that they are not interested or even listening.
Being a good listener, I tend to attract those with a lot of negative energy and took me for a rubbish dump for their negative energies. They tend to walk away feeling good and recharged, while i walk away feeling depleted of all my energy. If this is the kind of friends I am going to attract, then I'd rather be alone.
It is challenging to open up to someone when you are anxious or depressed as to do so, you are absorbing emotions of the other as they listen or react to you, while simultaneously trying to release and understand your own. I haven't found anyone I can completely open up to yet. I have some people that I feel safe with, if I need to open the pressure valve just a bit and then deal with the rest in isolation.
@Sue De Silva That is such a common story for INFJs. You are absolutely right, it can be very hard to find someone who can be totally yourself and free with. I am glad you have a least a few people you feel safe with and can "open the pressure valve" when you need to! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 🙂👍
People can complicate things (why I feel a love/hate feeling towards people..I am partially an existentialist - I believe heaven and hell manifests out of only people and not out of animals...it's the hell that bothers me)...plus it's more peaceful being alone and with nature but at the same time, people are like unique books, each one different and full of wisdom that my limited time can't en-campus on my own...I have a natural curiosity for people's stories and I like reading books too, I get to journey in my own mind when reading and active listening, I think in videos like watching a story unfold on an IMAX movie screen in my mind's eye, so if you see my eye's glaze over or slightly out of focus, it's because I am watching your movie inside my head...plus I like hearing from people, you're one of the good ones. You heard of people with photographic memory? I have a video-graphic memory, and I am a Set Director looking at all the props in the room of the character that gives additional clues and insights into their mind. When I self-isolate, I sometimes replaying the videos looking for clues captured in my peripheral vision. I have a need to make people feel good, not as in I like seeking validations from them, - a need for me to have someone give me my own identity out in the world, that gives others a power over a people pleaser (i.e. the dysfunctional people pleaser's mindset...having an external locus of control, scarcity mindset), goes against my strong nature of wanting my own independence and freedom...my lone wolf mentality. My identity is rock solid, INFJ introspection when being isolated and alone makes us intimately know our own strength and weaknesses, I know who I am in this world better than anyone else knows (besides, I am future focus, so any validation I received is pushed out of my mind as I go down my checklist of things to do for the day, I constantly ask myself, okay what's next?...so it's not validation that matters to me, yes...even it's time to stop and relax is on my to do list,,,work before play is my drive)... I just like uplifting spirits. I can re calibrate to negative people as well as positive people, all that shifting back n forth drains my short fuel tank of the highest octane grade gasoline, and it takes time to refine and replenish that highest quality gasoline, taking out the impurities so not to smog up my aura and make my well tuned high performance sport's engine hum on all cylinders (all my cognitive functions running in harmony...so I can be my best self out in the world...it is the INFJ's perfectionism). What's important to me is striking a balance between the two realities, meditating in my personal sanctuary alone and engaging with people and that reality testing improves my social IQ, why INFJs are the most extroverted of the introverts, we have better people skills than the rest of the other introverts. But since Ni is at the top of my hierarchy cognitive function stack, it gets more time then my Fe, so my isolation is slightly more important to me, people are second. On the airplane, during an emergency, its wise to put on your mask first, so you can be fully conscious and aware to help others put on their oxygen masks. (sorry for all the metaphors, it's just how INFJs like to communicate)
I started watching these videos thinking I am an INTJ because that was my test results, but I wasn't matching up with all of the attributes of an INTJ woman. I'm not that driven. Family is more important to me. I would have gladly stayed home all the time with my children, if my marriage hadn't broken up. I had to learn to be independent, but that was kind of how I was as a toddler. One of my uncles that I lived with said I was independent, and I liked playing with my brother and sister, but I had more fun playing by myself. I relied a lot of on my husband when I was married, but where other women like that might have gotten married again soon, I learned how to cope on my own and remained single. After I went to live with my mother and stepfather, when I was five years old and the environment became emotionally toxic, I lived in my imagination a lot to escape it. Fantasy was my escape far into adulthood when I was depressed, and that is definitely not an INTJ trait. I isolate a lot. I like my own company, but as a friend told me years ago, I like it too much.
I think Pokimane on Twitch is one I believe (my own typing). CS Joseph has good videos on ENFJ's and other types. They are so different from INFJ's on this subject as she hated pandemic isolation, and INFJ's joke online about it being a blessing in disguise.
@Muzik Aficionado Thank you so much for your input! That is absolutely my plan - to get into all of the 16 personality types, absolutely. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment and for watching! 🙂👍
I think its bad to be in isolation without making progress ..if ur trapped in an ni ti loop then yes it can be bad ..but isolation can be productive ..should be productive ..everything in moderation and balance..even water can kill you in the wrong amount
Are you an INFJ? What are some of the reasons you isolate yourself? Leave a comment and tell me your experiences and stories.
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I like my solitude. It gives me the energy I need to interact with the rest of the world without losing myself.
@MyPOV Absolutely agree 💯INFJs definitely need that alone time to recharge the batteries to be able to take on the world each day! Thank you so much for leaving a comment and for taking the time to watch 👍🙂
I'm in the process of selling everything I don't need to move to the woods. Peace from others self invented horrors is a half a days trek from the woods to a grocery store and back again. Society is such a disappointment for me. 🤪
If you have Wi-Fi i dont think u will be missing out on much
@Retired43 The world can be a very difficult place, especially for INFJs who can feel things so deeply. Taking in all of the emotions around you can be very taxing, to say the least. Finding that inner peace is paramount and you need to protect it. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment. 🙂👍
65 year old INFJ. Last AJuly(2021) my ex wife walked out on me and went back to live with her daughter. I won't go into details but this was the latest in many failed relationships. Realizing that I was part of the problem I knew I had to change the tape in my head. I left the US and now live in Albania. I deliberately chose Albania because an American can stay there for a full year without having to leave but mainly because very few people speak english and I knew that I would not get involved. I chose to isolate myself and heal. One year later I have regained myself but I will still not live in a country that speaks english deliberately.
@Pat Hogan Thank you so much for sharing part of your story. It can be tough being an INFJ - especially since it can be such a challenge for other people to truly "get" you. I am glad you have found a place to heal and reflect- that is monumental. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 🙌🙂
I use my friends to discuss my problems. I do feel that one of my friends totally understands me & I find comfort in that
@noelle burton You are quite fortunate to have a friend that does totally understand you and that you can find comfort with them. It can be hard for an INFJ to find that, for sure. I really appreciate you taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 🙌🙂
I started watching these videos thinking I was an INTJ, but started to suspect I suppressed my feelings because they were too intense and learned to be more logical to save my sanity from gaslighters, as well as to avoid messy relationships. I had a friend who is definitely an INFJ, and I loved having meaningful talks with her. But she slammed the door on me when I addressed something that she did not want to believe about herself. I still love her, of course, and I understand her hypersensitivity.
Thanks for this! A lot of the points here resonate with me and I self-isolate for some of these reasons. For me, the two main reasons I self-isolate is: 1) I am INFJ + HSP + empath so it is natural for me to be able to "read" people quickly - their overall state of being/thinking PLUS their emotions - and many times it is not a pleasant outcome; 2) It is difficult to have a meaningful, balanced conversation with most people - they hijack the conversation and there is typically a constant, non-stop babble about themselves and/or superficial things, and if I manage to get a word in edge-wise it is clear that they are not interested or even listening.
I cannot even say how freaking accurate this is ...............................
Being a good listener, I tend to attract those with a lot of negative energy and took me for a rubbish dump for their negative energies. They tend to walk away feeling good and recharged, while i walk away feeling depleted of all my energy. If this is the kind of friends I am going to attract, then I'd rather be alone.
I'm infj and depressed right now. I haven't been on social media for so long that my sister flew 2k miles to check on me. I don't know sometimes....
It is challenging to open up to someone when you are anxious or depressed as to do so, you are absorbing emotions of the other as they listen or react to you, while simultaneously trying to release and understand your own. I haven't found anyone I can completely open up to yet. I have some people that I feel safe with, if I need to open the pressure valve just a bit and then deal with the rest in isolation.
@Sue De Silva That is such a common story for INFJs. You are absolutely right, it can be very hard to find someone who can be totally yourself and free with. I am glad you have a least a few people you feel safe with and can "open the pressure valve" when you need to! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for leaving a comment 🙂👍
People can complicate things (why I feel a love/hate feeling towards people..I am partially an existentialist - I believe heaven and hell manifests out of only people and not out of animals...it's the hell that bothers me)...plus it's more peaceful being alone and with nature but at the same time, people are like unique books, each one different and full of wisdom that my limited time can't en-campus on my own...I have a natural curiosity for people's stories and I like reading books too, I get to journey in my own mind when reading and active listening, I think in videos like watching a story unfold on an IMAX movie screen in my mind's eye, so if you see my eye's glaze over or slightly out of focus, it's because I am watching your movie inside my head...plus I like hearing from people, you're one of the good ones. You heard of people with photographic memory? I have a video-graphic memory, and I am a Set Director looking at all the props in the room of the character that gives additional clues and insights into their mind. When I self-isolate, I sometimes replaying the videos looking for clues captured in my peripheral vision.
I have a need to make people feel good, not as in I like seeking validations from them, - a need for me to have someone give me my own identity out in the world, that gives others a power over a people pleaser (i.e. the dysfunctional people pleaser's mindset...having an external locus of control, scarcity mindset), goes against my strong nature of wanting my own independence and freedom...my lone wolf mentality. My identity is rock solid, INFJ introspection when being isolated and alone makes us intimately know our own strength and weaknesses, I know who I am in this world better than anyone else knows (besides, I am future focus, so any validation I received is pushed out of my mind as I go down my checklist of things to do for the day, I constantly ask myself, okay what's next?...so it's not validation that matters to me, yes...even it's time to stop and relax is on my to do list,,,work before play is my drive)... I just like uplifting spirits. I can re calibrate to negative people as well as positive people, all that shifting back n forth drains my short fuel tank of the highest octane grade gasoline, and it takes time to refine and replenish that highest quality gasoline, taking out the impurities so not to smog up my aura and make my well tuned high performance sport's engine hum on all cylinders (all my cognitive functions running in harmony...so I can be my best self out in the world...it is the INFJ's perfectionism).
What's important to me is striking a balance between the two realities, meditating in my personal sanctuary alone and engaging with people and that reality testing improves my social IQ, why INFJs are the most extroverted of the introverts, we have better people skills than the rest of the other introverts.
But since Ni is at the top of my hierarchy cognitive function stack, it gets more time then my Fe, so my isolation is slightly more important to me, people are second. On the airplane, during an emergency, its wise to put on your mask first, so you can be fully conscious and aware to help others put on their oxygen masks.
(sorry for all the metaphors, it's just how INFJs like to communicate)
I started watching these videos thinking I am an INTJ because that was my test results, but I wasn't matching up with all of the attributes of an INTJ woman. I'm not that driven. Family is more important to me. I would have gladly stayed home all the time with my children, if my marriage hadn't broken up. I had to learn to be independent, but that was kind of how I was as a toddler. One of my uncles that I lived with said I was independent, and I liked playing with my brother and sister, but I had more fun playing by myself. I relied a lot of on my husband when I was married, but where other women like that might have gotten married again soon, I learned how to cope on my own and remained single.
After I went to live with my mother and stepfather, when I was five years old and the environment became emotionally toxic, I lived in my imagination a lot to escape it. Fantasy was my escape far into adulthood when I was depressed, and that is definitely not an INTJ trait. I isolate a lot. I like my own company, but as a friend told me years ago, I like it too much.
So true, nothing else to add, except for maybe making videos on the remaining 12 personality types as well esp ENFJs etc.
I think Pokimane on Twitch is one I believe (my own typing). CS Joseph has good videos on ENFJ's and other types. They are so different from INFJ's on this subject as she hated pandemic isolation, and INFJ's joke online about it being a blessing in disguise.
@Muzik Aficionado Thank you so much for your input! That is absolutely my plan - to get into all of the 16 personality types, absolutely. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment and for watching! 🙂👍
Can you do a video about sollutions to some of the bad common problems of INFJs?
Who says they are bad habits? Just because it's a rare trait doesn't make it a bad practice
@@bluesky7704 yes I understand but it is hard to live with those.don't you think?
I think its bad to be in isolation without making progress ..if ur trapped in an ni ti loop then yes it can be bad ..but isolation can be productive ..should be productive ..everything in moderation and balance..even water can kill you in the wrong amount
@@dallasfluff3347 is there any tips for me to get out that loop hole.idk it's weird
I will meditate on this and get back to you .. i dont want to say something just to fill up the screen and just hope it works