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I’m an INFJ male. I feel like I’m super awkward around people. I’m kind of a wallflower. I only have one friend I ever do things with. I want to be more social and meet new people, but I’m not outgoing enough. I am typically very lonely but have no energy to go do things with others. If it’s one on one I do better. In a group setting I’ll fade out. I’ve been told I’m standoffish but that’s cause I’m always in my head. Always thinking, never present in the moment. Hard to enjoy others when I feel that way.
I also always feel socially awkward. I only have one friend I ever see, but he visits me only when he knows I cashed my paycheck. We watch TV for about 15 minutes, then he gets up & takes all my money, saying he needs it way more than I do.
I would say this is pretty much spot on. The trust factor is a huge part of it. Almost all people have an agenda even in friendships and we know this. Hard to find friends that are genuinely true.
@@rockfordsolids5353 I agree 100%. Just a few weeks ago I was at a get together at a friends home. We played some board games that were intensely interactive. Just doing that for an hour or so drained me. I went and slept in their guest room. But that happens a lot with me.
been saying for the past few years. you never know a persons true intentions. But it will always eventually come out. it’s up to you to catch it. but will they?
Spot on! Not ashamed to admit i have zero friends. Altough i help every living being on this planet except myself. Unfortunately people bring me anxiety and stress, the kind that really drains me. After social interaction i need to rest mentally, go out into the woods, create music,...As an INFJ life is a constant struggle, with myself being my worst enemy.
I agree with all these points. The only disadvantage I’ve experienced is when it comes to meeting a potential intimate partner. I’m absolutely satisfied without having any friends, but, I do have strong family values and see myself as a husband and father someday which creates the only obstacle if you’re forced to follow the dating “norm” of the last 50 yrs.
As an INFJ. If others don’t respect my values or my character. Too Bad . That’s not my problem. A true friend accepts you for what you are A fake friend is truly not your friend. Using subtle means to manipulating your INFJ mindset
It's true, every bit of this video is completely accurate. When I believed that my happiness depended on finding ways to fit in, it seemed hopeless. Struggling to be a part of something that just wasn't me. led to feelings of failure. Many of you may be dealing with that at this time. Much of the information we have to work with is from the introverted world, and that can't fit for INFJs. In time I came to see that my life went better when I kept apart from the chaos of the society at large. When I took the MBTI and discovered my type, that began to turn around. I now have a system of thought that fits me, and my INFJ abilities now work for me, instead of problem solve for the problems as I formerly saw them. The kind of information available on this channel and the comments from others who share the same experiences helps to make a great change possible for me. Knowing who you are, and where the person you are wants to go, changes everything. Good results can happen, and life becomes better and more manageable.
It comes down to this with me. I go through a issue, analyze, adapt and grow. One day I will have a issue and the next I’ll be over it. I grow and learn and love doing it. I love people for who they are but they do struggle with this aspect of me. So I keep them at a distance because it is difficult for most people. I can’t stop learning and growing but doesn’t mean I don’t love where I’m at or the struggle I’m going through because I know I will learn and grow from it.
I am an infj man. I've had large groups of friends at different points and times in my life but it was always via alcohol. I just couldn't be around people unless I was half drunk because it seems like everything other people talk about is just trivial nonsense to me. Some people you meet always want to talk about sports. Damn sports!. I know people that never want to talk about anything but a damn car motor. Who gives it down!? It's like most people just pick one little thing out of all the different things they could be interested in in this life and that's all they stick to. I can't relate! My mind is all over the place but it's not focused on things so shallow as who can get a ball over line or in a hoop or in a net the fastest. I had an interesting Motors when I was younger but when I was younger you could actually work on a car. I don't give a damn these days as long as the sumbitch runs. It is true I only have a handful of friends. I have a lot of acquaintances and I'm known by a lot of people but my circle is very small. I don't hang out in the bars or go to parties like I did when I was younger and I have no kids and I've never been married so I spend most of my time alone and I spend all that time researching all sorts of different things and I mean down to the core of the truth of what things are. Not the lies that this whole age of man has been fed for years and years and years. I can't hardly have a conversation with anyone else without getting half ticked off because I don't understand why they can't see through the clouds of BS or I can't see why they're so stuck on a person that has a physical skill as trivial is any sport. There was a Star Trek episode one time and I've always felt like the main guy in that episode. They went to a planet where everybody was insane and the one man that was rational appeared to be insane to everyone else around him because he was unique and different from everyone else. That's how I feel. I don't feel the need to have to prove what I think I know about this crazy world. I get it and if someone else doesn't it's not like I can explain something that's as complexed as the way I see the world to anyone in a freaking week if I tried. It took me years and years and years of studying to get my foundation for my reality to be built on. I can't convince anyone else that everything they think they know about their life is a complete lie. All I can do is carry the burden / blessing of knowing the truth about most things that most people can't wrap their minds around at all because they just don't care. All they care about is one little particular thing in life and that's what they study. The worst part is how most people take that one little interest they have and NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT IT because they want others to think their the best at that little one insignificant thing they're interested in. They have to prove their value to other people so they push that one little thing that they're interested in on everyone else around them like you have to hear them rambling on about the same stupid junk over and over and over and over again. The only time I feel like I need to prove myself to someone is when they're trying to harm me or any other innocent bystander. Then I'll do what I have to do and they're not going to like it. Yes, I am in a bit of a mood at the moment. I'm thinking some sleep I might do that some good. Peace out....
I often feel misunderstood, but that just sets me on a mission to find a way to explain things in such a way that they can. This has led to many nights of zero sleep. Sometimes just from the enthusiasm of thinking I found a way to get the point across and practicing in in my head.
Bruh this video is so spot on I cant believe it. Can someone explain me how its possible that so many people can develop the exact same characteristics even though all make different experiences in life I dont understand it?
I'm an INFJ man and I put a high value on connections. Having said that, I prefer one on one or small groups by far to large gatherings and if in a large gathering I tend to collapse it to a small sub-set that I interact with. I do value my alone time and large gatherings are draining but I've grown better at screening unwanted energy. Still, I do need to recharge. Too much interaction and too much alone time are for me both bad outcomes. I am most at joy with a fellow deep feeler where we swim the ocean depths. I am also filled though in a different way when I spend time with deep thinkers. Throughout my life, I have mostly had 1-2 very close friends at a time but of late I have more friends that are not as close but with whom I have placed a great deal of trust.
I'm an INFJ, my friends circles very small, 5 total Am I misunderstood? Or are most people simply soft in the head? For my experience it's more the latter. A lot of people are emotional and illogical they're thinking never goes terribly deep. They are creatures of reaction and emotion. 🐑🐑👫
I try to not put my friends to the same standard as me but it just annoys me when i feel they dont try to be better. I mean, why are we here? To waste time?
I suppose that loneliness comes not primarily from the fact that notINFJ(+P) dont't try to understand ourselves and our though-processes... but that, not having thoses processes, they don't try to understand themselves in the first place... Or not to the lenghts we do, seeing as fundamental to improve ourselves in order to make a difference in the world... And using our whole life as a lab (and often contemporary and past peoples life) to do that. And i suppose i won't be alone here, thinking that we learn a lot on different personnality and their though and emotions processes when we do that thoroughly. Then that's logical we feel less lonely by using our skills to help people understand themselves a little or a lot better... Not forgetting the fact that they have to be willing (that's what existential crisis are there for), and even then, that they probably won't connect that heartfelt necessity with any higher goal or life's mission as we tend to do. All in all, that can be a rather pleasant and moral activity, besides our utopian scheming and plotting ! 😊
Different interests separate different Mindsets. All associations is not created equal. Self- made INFJ Leaders versus. Traditional Conventional Followers. Just don’t Mix that’s why we don’t have Friends
What are your thoughts on these reasons INFJ men have no friends? Leave a comment and tell me your thoughts!
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I’m an INFJ male. I feel like I’m super awkward around people. I’m kind of a wallflower. I only have one friend I ever do things with. I want to be more social and meet new people, but I’m not outgoing enough. I am typically very lonely but have no energy to go do things with others. If it’s one on one I do better. In a group setting I’ll fade out. I’ve been told I’m standoffish but that’s cause I’m always in my head. Always thinking, never present in the moment. Hard to enjoy others when I feel that way.
That's me, exactly.
I also always feel socially awkward. I only have one friend I ever see, but he visits me only when he knows I cashed my paycheck. We watch TV for about 15 minutes, then he gets up & takes all my money, saying he needs it way more than I do.
I know that feeling too well.
@@michauxbôtsIsn’t that robbery???
Better to be alone than to be with bad company .
I would say this is pretty much spot on. The trust factor is a huge part of it. Almost all people have an agenda even in friendships and we know this. Hard to find friends that are genuinely true.
and the exhaustion thing is absolutely a truth....................
@@rockfordsolids5353 I agree 100%. Just a few weeks ago I was at a get together at a friends home. We played some board games that were intensely interactive. Just doing that for an hour or so drained me. I went and slept in their guest room. But that happens a lot with me.
@@xyphor317 you arent alone that is for sure
been saying for the past few years. you never know a persons true intentions. But it will always eventually come out. it’s up to you to catch it. but will they?
Spot on! Not ashamed to admit i have zero friends. Altough i help every living being on this planet except myself. Unfortunately people bring me anxiety and stress, the kind that really drains me. After social interaction i need to rest mentally, go out into the woods, create music,...As an INFJ life is a constant struggle, with myself being my worst enemy.
I agree with all these points. The only disadvantage I’ve experienced is when it comes to meeting a potential intimate partner. I’m absolutely satisfied without having any friends, but, I do have strong family values and see myself as a husband and father someday which creates the only obstacle if you’re forced to follow the dating “norm” of the last 50 yrs.
As an INFJ. If others don’t respect my values or my character. Too Bad . That’s not
my problem. A true friend accepts you for what you are
A fake friend is truly not your friend. Using subtle means to
manipulating your INFJ mindset
It's true, every bit of this video is completely accurate. When I believed that my happiness depended on finding ways to fit in, it seemed hopeless. Struggling to be a part of something that just wasn't me. led to feelings of failure. Many of you may be dealing with that at this time. Much of the information we have to work with is from the introverted world, and that can't fit for INFJs. In time I came to see that my life went better when I kept apart from the chaos of the society at large.
When I took the MBTI and discovered my type, that began to turn around. I now have a system of thought that fits me, and my INFJ abilities now work for me, instead of problem solve for the problems as I formerly saw them. The kind of information available on this channel and the comments from others who share the same experiences helps to make a great change possible for me. Knowing who you are, and where the person you are wants to go, changes everything. Good results can happen, and life becomes better and more manageable.
So few wish to be my friend and they all have their closer friends and I never bug them for time and they drift away.
It comes down to this with me. I go through a issue, analyze, adapt and grow. One day I will have a issue and the next I’ll be over it. I grow and learn and love doing it. I love people for who they are but they do struggle with this aspect of me. So I keep them at a distance because it is difficult for most people. I can’t stop learning and growing but doesn’t mean I don’t love where I’m at or the struggle I’m going through because I know I will learn and grow from it.
As an INFJ men, I find this true since i have trust issues, being perfectionist and being around with the wrong people can really affect to myself
I am an infj man. I've had large groups of friends at different points and times in my life but it was always via alcohol. I just couldn't be around people unless I was half drunk because it seems like everything other people talk about is just trivial nonsense to me.
Some people you meet always want to talk about sports. Damn sports!. I know people that never want to talk about anything but a damn car motor. Who gives it down!? It's like most people just pick one little thing out of all the different things they could be interested in in this life and that's all they stick to. I can't relate! My mind is all over the place but it's not focused on things so shallow as who can get a ball over line or in a hoop or in a net the fastest.
I had an interesting Motors when I was younger but when I was younger you could actually work on a car. I don't give a damn these days as long as the sumbitch runs.
It is true I only have a handful of friends. I have a lot of acquaintances and I'm known by a lot of people but my circle is very small. I don't hang out in the bars or go to parties like I did when I was younger and I have no kids and I've never been married so I spend most of my time alone and I spend all that time researching all sorts of different things and I mean down to the core of the truth of what things are. Not the lies that this whole age of man has been fed for years and years and years. I can't hardly have a conversation with anyone else without getting half ticked off because I don't understand why they can't see through the clouds of BS or I can't see why they're so stuck on a person that has a physical skill as trivial is any sport.
There was a Star Trek episode one time and I've always felt like the main guy in that episode. They went to a planet where everybody was insane and the one man that was rational appeared to be insane to everyone else around him because he was unique and different from everyone else. That's how I feel. I don't feel the need to have to prove what I think I know about this crazy world. I get it and if someone else doesn't it's not like I can explain something that's as complexed as the way I see the world to anyone in a freaking week if I tried. It took me years and years and years of studying to get my foundation for my reality to be built on. I can't convince anyone else that everything they think they know about their life is a complete lie. All I can do is carry the burden / blessing of knowing the truth about most things that most people can't wrap their minds around at all because they just don't care. All they care about is one little particular thing in life and that's what they study. The worst part is how most people take that one little interest they have and NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT IT because they want others to think their the best at that little one insignificant thing they're interested in. They have to prove their value to other people so they push that one little thing that they're interested in on everyone else around them like you have to hear them rambling on about the same stupid junk over and over and over and over again. The only time I feel like I need to prove myself to someone is when they're trying to harm me or any other innocent bystander. Then I'll do what I have to do and they're not going to like it. Yes, I am in a bit of a mood at the moment. I'm thinking some sleep I might do that some good. Peace out....
I often feel misunderstood, but that just sets me on a mission to find a way to explain things in such a way that they can. This has led to many nights of zero sleep. Sometimes just from the enthusiasm of thinking I found a way to get the point across and practicing in in my head.
Bruh this video is so spot on I cant believe it. Can someone explain me how its possible that so many people can develop the exact same characteristics even though all make different experiences in life I dont understand it?
I'm an INFJ man and I put a high value on connections. Having said that, I prefer one on one or small groups by far to large gatherings and if in a large gathering I tend to collapse it to a small sub-set that I interact with. I do value my alone time and large gatherings are draining but I've grown better at screening unwanted energy. Still, I do need to recharge. Too much interaction and too much alone time are for me both bad outcomes. I am most at joy with a fellow deep feeler where we swim the ocean depths. I am also filled though in a different way when I spend time with deep thinkers. Throughout my life, I have mostly had 1-2 very close friends at a time but of late I have more friends that are not as close but with whom I have placed a great deal of trust.
I’d say this is pretty much exactly accurate.
Wow I'm an INFJ woman. This is so true.
I'm an INFJ, my friends circles very small, 5 total
Am I misunderstood? Or are most people simply soft in the head?
For my experience it's more the latter.
A lot of people are emotional and illogical they're thinking never goes terribly deep.
They are creatures of reaction and emotion. 🐑🐑👫
I try to not put my friends to the same standard as me but it just annoys me when i feel they dont try to be better. I mean, why are we here? To waste time?
even as an INFJ female, i can relate to this.
I live with 3 people. Me myself and I.
In actuality, I have 2 very good friends. I grew up with one of them.
I suppose that loneliness comes not primarily from the fact that notINFJ(+P) dont't try to understand ourselves and our though-processes... but that, not having thoses processes, they don't try to understand themselves in the first place... Or not to the lenghts we do, seeing as fundamental to improve ourselves in order to make a difference in the world... And using our whole life as a lab (and often contemporary and past peoples life) to do that. And i suppose i won't be alone here, thinking that we learn a lot on different personnality and their though and emotions processes when we do that thoroughly.
Then that's logical we feel less lonely by using our skills to help people understand themselves a little or a lot better... Not forgetting the fact that they have to be willing (that's what existential crisis are there for), and even then, that they probably won't connect that heartfelt necessity with any higher goal or life's mission as we tend to do. All in all, that can be a rather pleasant and moral activity, besides our utopian scheming and plotting ! 😊
Good timing.
INFJ stand out and overshadow the weak. People will resent you for that.
''With fronds like these, who needs anemones?'' - Marlin
It can be hard. I'll leave it at that.
I am unique according to my female boss, another coworker says I am.weird, I am just laughing on the inside.
I don't want to lead, I don't want to follow, and I don't want to argue about it. Just give me some space.
Different interests separate different
Mindsets. All associations is not created equal. Self- made INFJ Leaders versus. Traditional Conventional Followers. Just don’t
Mix that’s why we don’t have
Friends
Not all roads leads to Rome, that principle applies to INFJ, Not all mindsets leads to INFJ.
Well, I actually have friends
why is this exclusive to men
😂😂😂😂