1. Practice self awareness. 2. Practice positive self-talk : Listen to positive affirmations to expand your vocabulary. 3. Spending time alone. 4. Listening to your intuition. 5. Practice forgiveness ( self & others). 6. Self unconditional love. 7. Celebration of Self.
Rilke said: "Let everything happen to you Beauty and terror Just keep going No feeling is final" Feel theese words deep inside you, every moment...you need nothing else.
I died when you talked about forgiveness. For a long time I have held this bitterness against an ex lover, wanting him to ultimately fail. He didnt. He moved on from me and is now happy. I realized that I havent forgiven him for the hurt he caused, nor myself for falling for his crap. But in the midst of it the fear of attaching to another person has also held me back. I decided to forgive both of us for being young and dumb and I feel so much lighter!
Ive always been an empath and a people pleaser. Blessing and curse. Recently i have been involved with a very toxic manipulative person and its been awful. I realised i needed to change my approach to these people and to work on myself its so difficult but i am much more aware now amd im starting to set boundaries and putting myself first and loving myself for once. Its taken me nearly 40 years to realise this! if you loveve yourself know who you are and are comfortable in your skin you'll attract the right people in your life the ones you deserve. Accept yourself first You shouldn't need to have to be accepted by others if they don't they shouldn't be in your life. Life lessons kids should be taught this stuff! Love your channel beautiful lady xx
Malignant Narcissists hunt for, search out, manipulate, and try to destroy empths like us..... I'm 58, have wasted too much time and energy dealing with those types. No more.
Exactly!! Nearly 58 here...who knew that self love meant that! Especially if we were never taught if you came from pack of narcs that you love because their family et al (which is the crux of my own hard re-wiring of past 5 decades) BUT their actions and behaviour are painful and damaging and real hell. Not a great role model for foundations to find partner out there.
@@homenhungry4987 yes. I am 75 and keep getting ripped off and manipulated. One trauma after another. So am getting better, catching it earlier. Rebounder helps!!!
I'm only recently learning to love and prioritize myself after ending a narcissistic relationship- journaling,exercising,taking myself out for coffee,being mindful of my thoughts,skincare,investing in good clothes or shoes just for my sake,reconnecting with friends and playing with my dog. Sometimes I just want to reinstate my own thoughts as to why it is so important to do this to heal me. That's when I come to your channel Stephanie,its inspiring how clear your thought process is and I aim to reach that someday. Sending love from India💜
@@anandalawrence6203 Hey Amanda, so far it's going well for me, though I lost my dog in August 2020,so that's been hard but im actually enjoying loving myself!
Awww so sorry about you dog😢😓 they are so loyal aren't they!! I came out of a toxic relationship and he owned to 2 dogs which I miss everyday . I'm starting to love my self buy doing doing things you have done and I'm starting to fall in love with me!! I'm excited about the future now . Sending you love and hugs from England xxx
So the same with me. Literally all of this.. and I just bought a house, turning one of the rooms into my own walk in closet! Seriously one of the most awesome things I'm doing for myself.
Tips to improve self love 1. Practice self awareness: take responsibility for personal feelings 2. Practice positive self talk: listen to affirmation 3. Spending time alone: 4. Physical exercise: take care of yourself 5. Listen to your intuition 6. Practice forgiveness 7. Don't judge yourself: Love yourself unconditionally 8. Celebrate yourself
i just realized i'm a codependent with childhood trauma. I enmeshed with a borderline about 4 years ago. I just summoned up the courage 6 weeks ago to go no contact. I blocked all phone,e mail and SM contact. I'm still dwelling on the illusion of what i thought i had but i know over time this too shall pass. i just wanted to write this out so i can read it and accept it. Thank you for all your advice.
I do want to buy myself a ring. If it is a ruby ring. It would be nice. Because the Bible says that the price of a virtuous woman cost more than the cost of a ruby. It don't have to be extravagant. I just want that as a reminder to me.
So I only caught 8 bullet point I am working an I missing something . This video is great btw. Self awareness Practice self talk Spend time alone Take responsibility for your own happiness Listen to your intuition Practice forgiveness Love yourself unconditionally Celebrate yourself
Stephanie ! you are amazing and you have helped me more than any therapist! I am greatful for your information and it is totally incredible that you put these videos out to the public. I am very thankful, you have helped me through the turmoil, pain and confusion I have been feeling after leaving a 25 year marriage to a full blown narcissist. I have come to realize that I am a highly sensitive person and an empath and I am building strength everyday because of YOU !! Thank you Thank you Thank you !!!!! God bless you girl !
Stephanie you are awsome . I cry when you said love unconditional and not to judge myself. I do not know about love. I think I did before. And I got hurt and became numb. And walk in anger bitterness and I judge myself all the time. Thank you so much. I am still crying. You really help me.
Stephanie, this is one of my favorite videos you've made. I smiled when you talk about celebrating yourself and you get goose bumps "hairs are up!" 18:37. So cute, genuine, and you. You're doing Gods work here. You're healing people. You can celebrate that! Thanks for all you've taught me the last couple years.
Forgiveness has helped me tremendously. It has allowed me release from all toxicity from that relationship. I needed to feel it, mourn it and forgive in order to be free because forgiveness isn’t about him. It is about me. He probably doesn’t accept accountability but that’s not business. He’s no longer in my life. I’m focusing on me. Unconditionally loving myself is a journey I’m continuing to work on.
I’m going through a self healing journey but the hardest thing about it is not knowing what healthy thoughts/emotions/actions etc actually are. It makes me doubt or question myself when it comes to standing up for myself or putting myself first around the people I know. Sometimes I feel like I’m a bad person for trying to get my needs met. I was brought up in a very unhealthy environment and was never taught what you are teaching the world. If it wasn’t for videos like these and people like you on RUclips I wouldn’t know there was another way to live and continued my life in a environment that was unsafe/unhealthy for me but also my comfort zone because that’s all I’ve known. Thank you for showing me there is another way and because of that I feel more at peace in my inner self.
Stephanie Lyn Coaching Thank you again, for so much! I was scared when you started to say "people who spend time alone.." because I spend most - almost all - of my time alone - well, with my rescued little dogs that is.! So I was so glad to know I am healthy on my own, so long as I love myself! Just recently I was attacked by a neighbour (I was trying to help her) and it has had a very bad effect on me, but just afterwards, on my YT page, was your video about Projection and it described exactly what she did in anger ! Now I am learning from you with this video. I am so grateful to you Stephanie, you are a truly good person. I send my Granny-love from here in the UK, to you and your family. (P.S. the photo isn't me! it's an actress I admired, now deceased, who played Agatha Christi's "Miss Marple" the quaint and very clever old lady detective. I wish I could be like her!)
Hi stephanie, I just wanted to thank you for posting all of your videos. I have been in a negative mindset for about 6 months due to life. Ive been trying to practice self love for about 4 months now and in truth it has been very hard. I stumbled on your videos by mistake actually and in truth I am glad I did. Youre videos have been helping me so much and I think it's time I do practice self love using youre techniques. Thank you again so much!
I've recently summoned up the energy to walk away from a narcissistic man that was causing me a lot of emotional distress; whenever we talk about things, not only would he not take a stance from my perspective to see things, but he would also say hurtful things to me in "retaliation" because his ego was affected. Your videos really helped me see the true light. Thank you :)
Wow....This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point of my life. I've been going through a really dark time & this video really hit home for me. I wrote down all of these points & I will read them every day to remind myself of self-love & how truly exquisite & important I am. Thank you so very much for taking your time in making all of these amazing videos, Stephanie. You are incredible! 💞
Jacinta I'm in a really really dark place also. I'm not sure how to get out I'm stuck I feel like. My partner makes my life hell which has made me get this way and I feel stuck I don't know how to get out.
Jacinta I’m so glad you’re loving the videos! This stuff is so important to learn and it shocking that we can go majority of her life and not know these things. It is all about standing up for yourself taking time for yourself putting yourself first learning how to have positive healthy self talk! So so important!
6:00 This comment relates to semantics, her core message is on point. But for me, when my inner critic or she says wounded self isn't supportive, my first reaction is anger. I think her language naturally echoes that reaction. But the challenge for me (that she obviously has mastered if her calm, non-hostile tone is any indication) is to forgive the wounded self and NOT just shut it up. There is a good go-to phrase I heard somewhere that is a quick fix to both shut down the negative voice while respectfully acknowledging its purpose, maybe so it won't come back. I forget, something like: "Thanks, I know you mean well, but I -- whatever, actually love my healthy body, or can do this with confidence, or believe that I am no better or worse than anyone else, and I expect a great outcome, or at worst a learning experience that will create great results next time. But thanks for trying to protect me from getting hurt. That was a long time ago, and I got this now" etc.
I try my best to meditate and bring in positive thoughts all the time. The real challenge to this is when you’re surrounded by people who try and tear it down.
Stephanie Awesome word .I received everything I been judging myself a lot. I know understand how to love myself. Thank you so much. I am inspired. You are amazing.
Literally just discovered your channel today and I thank GOD that I did. I love the way you explain things and it's refreshing that you focus on how to heal during our journey of recovery. You're awesome. Thank you so much for this. Subscribed! 😊
positive self talk is not too hard to do, I have noticed that as soon as I feel some anxiety or feeling low, I try to do something to change it, I will listen to positive videos, or play some good music or just get up and walk around.
For most of my life, I’ve always struggled with understanding and/or learning to actually love myself. I can’t explain how grateful I am to discovering your video. I wonder what took me so long. My appreciation for the advice and experience you shared
I just remember one statement of yours... ask yourself what feeds the soul... and I have been doing this... I feel good in nature.. so now I go for walks every single day...and it has helped me immensely... two years I had so much pain.. I could not describe it in words... I thank you whole heartedly for your advice...
1. Practice self awareness to monitor your thoughts and feelings. Reminder to check in with yourself on feelings. 2. Replace -ve with +ve thoughts by listening to positive self affirmation/talk. Can do +ve affirmation before going to bed. Supportive thoughts come from yourself whereas negative thoughts come from the wounds and detach from those. 3. Spending time alone. Be happy with yourself now. 4. Listening to intuition. 5. Practice forgiveness for yourself. 6. Love yourself unconditionally..flaws, good stuff. 8. Celebrate and take care yourself. The wins, achievement, goals. To motivate yourself.
I’ve listened to a lot of self love videos in the past but I truly love yours. They really speak to me, I’m just so amazed and happy because I know they are really going to help me this time. 😭❤️😭
I make myself meals almost daily. I love good food. If I make dinner for my girlfriend or mother (she lives with us) they don’t eat it but go out to eat. I could only help myself.
Really appreciate your help Steph. Great direct, real useful tools for life. I find I need to talk to my younger wounded self, with my caring adult self, sets me right, whenever I have these sometimes negative thoughts creep in. From Australia.
These are all good things to keep before our eyes and learn to make them normal. I am writing these down, making a post up, re-reading them and practicing each one a little more as time goes by. It is good to know I can rely on myself! Thank you for sharing these powerful tools!
These are just the most amazing videos. Stephanie Lyn is such a great speaker and her positive energy comes through the screen. She is so bold and courageous, and is really insightful. I love these videos, she is so smart. There is such great advice. She breaks it down. Worth more than just one listen. Thank you for these empowering videos!
first off you are so so beautiful inside and out 😊. I was shattered into what felt like a million pieces so which thoughts are my true self are hard to distinguish. Most are negative and wounded self. It's been a year and I'm finally getting a little better. I want so much to find myself again. I am an Empath male 41 and Divorcing my narcissistic/borderline soon-to-be ex-wife that betrayed and cheated on me very blatantly and traumatically after 13 year marriage (3 kids) which led to drug abuse relapse, stroke and complete self devastation.😔Your videos are so helpful thank you so much you're an angel! Learning to love myself one day at a time😉 11 months clean I Rock!♥️❤️♥️
Thank You 🌹🌹🌹. I celebrate Myself ,.I appreciate Myself And being grateful for everything..I am still learning though .🙏🙏🙏. Lovely to hear this. All Thy Blessings Lyn 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
Wow, this video sends a very powerful message, a message that has opened the Door for me to know without reasonable doubt I put me first and more importantly I Love ME, myself and I 100%.
You are great!! I am from Spain (learned English in the US) and listening to you is very beneficial for me. Muchas gracias. Co-dependent (validation plus lack of self-love) enthusiastic to work on being THAT healthy woman with boundaries. Moving on from I believe covert narc (military officer, "perfect"). I dumped him 2 weeks ago and NOW (I cry -also laugh- here and there (recent) as grieving process), and it feels so good. I simplified it by accepting that he did not love me (but got the intuition that there was something else... and that is okay. He just wanted me to be "by HIS side." My medicine: exercise (ENDORFINAS), praying to God, and I hope to keep this strong (effort, CONSTANCIA). Downside: smoking tobacco these past month as my crutch... Thank you, Stephanie. Keep up your great job!
I think you are a beautiful women inside and out and I thank you for all the video's. I learn more from you then i do from my therapist. God Bless you!
Love you Stephanie! Fantastic tips that I feel I can definitely start to implement. I think one point to emphasize is that these things might feel weird or uncomfortable at first, but you get used to it and eventually you start to believe them or do them naturally. That has been the case for me :)
You Are Awesome.,God Bless You and Yours.Your Positive Outlook and Advise to Help Others Is So Beautiful..You Are Special / Aren't We All, Lol..I Am Doing Good.,Thank You So Much for Everything.❤
Yeah you are right if you don't forgive they're okay and getting on with their lives while it's you in the discomfort. That's actually a new way to look at it x
Thankyou Stephanie. I love this video. Listen to this one often. This year I celebrated my birthday because I've come a long way in loving myself. Thanks to you. If you ever come to Australia - would love to invite you to my house in the hills..I feel like I need to pay you back for how much you've helped me. Xx Jodie
This is a great insightful video. Everything starts within us. Our perception defines our reality and a big part of our perception is our view our inner self and how we view of ourselves is transferred to the world
I look at the shirt as a positive. Go out, GET LOST, in the moment! Enjoy the clouds and mountains…..nature. Listen to Leanna Crawford “How Can You Not”
I just started a week ago doing the mirror method for 10 min. a day saying "I Love you". It's pretty interesting. I will try to do this daily along w/ positive affirmations.
You are my favorite and super dope!!! I gained weight when this person hurt me...so i ate to make myself happy...now there on to there next supply but now o understand i loved them more then myself
This is great. Setting a reminder to check in with yourself. Sometimes we get so wound up we don’t get to pick that we are thinking negative. Thank you
Forgiveness within yourself, unconditional love, celebrate myself and taking care of myself, loving and supportive of myself not lookin for someone else to support me. Do it for myself! And everything in moderation! Another good point.
The things you say are just so fantastic, enlightening and fantastic! Actually, I have a lot of self love, but it gets threatened when I am in a close romantic relationship with someone who does not react to me as I hope they will.. mind you, when I start such a relationship, I loose very fast my self confidence feeling threatened by a possible rejection or that I cannot live up to their expectations, and I realise now, that I simply fall back into my relationship with my mum who was abusive and never made me feel loved or accepted, always correcting, fixing, wanting something else than I gave. The fear of this makes me behave like I behaved towards her.. trying to live op to her demands.. failing. and the funny thing is, that this provokes a negative cycle, confusing the other person about my boundaries, actually, behaving that way I tell the other person that I do not believe I am good enough which causes an escalating negative game. At the same time, while being in it, as I basically am a happy person and cherish and value myself, I start an internal fight between the unloved child and the self loving and conscious adult. And everything gets very messy.. 😂😂🤸♂️🧚♀️🌞 because the child’s instinctive reactions often take over. Actually, as it is now, unless the other person totally behaves as I expect ..and confirms me for good enough all the time ..l I get in that place. So, My problem lies within myself and only I can solve it by not depending of MY need to be confirmed as worthy. In my mind I know I am worthy, but under some circumstances my old feelings take over and just replay the old game from childhood. This is so 😝 crazy! I hope, that understanding my own game, will support me in keeping ,my confidence. Still, I have been able from time to time, to set boundaries in a good way and, to my surprise, every time, I was met in a positive way. So ... time will show how this developes , right now, I just have to focus on separating the past game from the present and meet myself and the person in the present. I am curious to see what will happen, I definitely believe it is worth giving it a try. You are right, it is all about ourselves. It is as if we build our own drama in life when it comes to relationships.. emotions. I mean, life can be hard enough ... illness, accidents, war, even loosing job (ex. Under the crisis) etc.etc. Come from the outside and we cannot always do something about those things.. but how we handle these things and how we manage our emotions and relations and mainly ourselves.. that is on us. Thank you for you very enlightening inputs. I like very much that it is not about the other person but about ourselves.. I mean, if we accept being treated badly, why do we accept it! Having written this, I do not expect things to change from one moment to the other, maybe it will end with nothing, but I wish to give it a chance. I am too curious about life and people and myself and it all, not to try. Ps: my mum was admired by everybody, giving this polished perfect presentation of herself to the world, the abusive things were secret.. i knew she was wrong but the world told me I was wrong.l luckily I felt accepted and loved by my dad, but he was very much absent, and his love was very distant .. he was a cold and distant, very self absorbed person. After their death (also happened in my childhood), i always said that she would have destroyed me totally if he had not been there. Mind you, after he died, she became a bit more human/relaxed. So... maybe she had a similar problem to mine.. 🤗🌞😀 . I wonder whether all this makes any sense to others? Have a great day
1. Practice self awareness.
2. Practice positive self-talk : Listen to positive affirmations to expand your vocabulary.
3. Spending time alone.
4. Listening to your intuition.
5. Practice forgiveness ( self & others).
6. Self unconditional love.
7. Celebration of Self.
Thank you!
So we've got 7 or 8 according to another commenter, but she says she's giving us 12.
♥️Stephanie ♥️you’re ♥️perfect right♥️
Rilke said: "Let everything happen to you
Beauty and terror
Just keep going
No feeling is final"
Feel theese words deep inside you, every moment...you need nothing else.
I died when you talked about forgiveness. For a long time I have held this bitterness against an ex lover, wanting him to ultimately fail. He didnt. He moved on from me and is now happy. I realized that I havent forgiven him for the hurt he caused, nor myself for falling for his crap. But in the midst of it the fear of attaching to another person has also held me back. I decided to forgive both of us for being young and dumb and I feel so much lighter!
Ive always been an empath and a people pleaser. Blessing and curse. Recently i have been involved with a very toxic manipulative person and its been awful. I realised i needed to change my approach to these people and to work on myself its so difficult but i am much more aware now amd im starting to set boundaries and putting myself first and loving myself for once. Its taken me nearly 40 years to realise this! if you loveve yourself know who you are and are comfortable in your skin you'll attract the right people in your life the ones you deserve. Accept yourself first You shouldn't need to have to be accepted by others if they don't they shouldn't be in your life. Life lessons kids should be taught this stuff!
Love your channel beautiful lady xx
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Lisa Weaver you’re not alone sister
Malignant Narcissists hunt for, search out, manipulate, and try to destroy empths like us..... I'm 58, have wasted too much time and energy dealing with those types. No more.
Exactly!! Nearly 58 here...who knew that self love meant that! Especially if we were never taught if you came from pack of narcs that you love because their family et al (which is the crux of my own hard re-wiring of past 5 decades) BUT their actions and behaviour are painful and damaging and real hell. Not a great role model for foundations to find partner out there.
@@homenhungry4987 yes. I am 75 and keep getting ripped off and manipulated. One trauma after another. So am getting better, catching it earlier. Rebounder helps!!!
I'm only recently learning to love and prioritize myself after ending a narcissistic relationship- journaling,exercising,taking myself out for coffee,being mindful of my thoughts,skincare,investing in good clothes or shoes just for my sake,reconnecting with friends and playing with my dog. Sometimes I just want to reinstate my own thoughts as to why it is so important to do this to heal me. That's when I come to your channel Stephanie,its inspiring how clear your thought process is and I aim to reach that someday. Sending love from India💜
Hi, how's it going, you've inspired me too as well as Stephanie xx
@@anandalawrence6203 Hey Amanda, so far it's going well for me, though I lost my dog in August 2020,so that's been hard but im actually enjoying loving myself!
Awww so sorry about you dog😢😓 they are so loyal aren't they!! I came out of a toxic relationship and he owned to 2 dogs which I miss everyday . I'm starting to love my self buy doing doing things you have done and I'm starting to fall in love with me!! I'm excited about the future now . Sending you love and hugs from England xxx
@@anandalawrence6203 All the best on your journey, I hope it's the most fruitful one 🤗
So the same with me. Literally all of this.. and I just bought a house, turning one of the rooms into my own walk in closet! Seriously one of the most awesome things I'm doing for myself.
Tips to improve self love
1. Practice self awareness: take responsibility for personal feelings
2. Practice positive self talk: listen to affirmation
3. Spending time alone:
4. Physical exercise: take care of yourself
5. Listen to your intuition
6. Practice forgiveness
7. Don't judge yourself: Love yourself unconditionally
8. Celebrate yourself
This is almost three years old. Yet it is right on time for me. God truly works in mysterious ways, and He truly is an on time God.
Your comment is almost 3 years old and it is right on time for me! 🙏
i just realized i'm a codependent with childhood trauma. I enmeshed with a borderline about 4 years ago. I just summoned up the courage 6 weeks ago to go no contact. I blocked all phone,e mail and SM contact. I'm still dwelling on the illusion of what i thought i had but i know over time this too shall pass. i just wanted to write this out so i can read it and accept it. Thank you for all your advice.
You have explained self love in a uncomplicated way. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you!! It is so important! 💗
Self Awarness
Self talk is everthing
Spending time alone
I love myself so much I am marrying my ownself and getting my own rings!!!! May sound crazy but thats what it is.... 💍💍💍
I’ve thought the same thing! lol
I do want to buy myself a ring. If it is a ruby ring. It would be nice. Because the Bible says that the price of a virtuous woman cost more than the cost of a ruby. It don't have to be extravagant. I just want that as a reminder to me.
Coast Crystal always save your money this will set you free when you’re ready be smart and all the best take baby steps.
I did the same thing I got a ring for myself and promise myself that it will never happen again how my ex husband treated me🥰
I was thinking when next valentines day comes to get flowers delivered to me at work provided we are back in the office in Feb
So I only caught 8 bullet point I am working an I missing something . This video is great btw.
Self awareness
Practice self talk
Spend time alone
Take responsibility for your own happiness
Listen to your intuition
Practice forgiveness
Love yourself unconditionally
Celebrate yourself
❤
Me too! I took notes and had only 8. I guess they are in there somewhere.
I also took notes and only got 8. This video got cut off abruptly at the end so I hope she can add on the last 4 in a part 2 of this!
Me too
Listen to Positive Affirmations while you sleep & Take care of your Health
Self aware take control of thoughts check in with urself positive talk yes love affirmation yes for sleep
This is truly eye opening. Please don't ever stop doing what you do. Again and Again and Again.
-Thank you Always💙
Stephanie ! you are amazing and you have helped me more than any therapist! I am greatful for your information and it is totally incredible that you put these videos out to the public. I am very thankful, you have helped me through the turmoil, pain and confusion I have been feeling after leaving a 25 year marriage to a full blown narcissist. I have come to realize that I am a highly sensitive person and an empath and I am building strength everyday because of YOU !! Thank you Thank you Thank you !!!!! God bless you girl !
Stephanie you are awsome . I cry when you said love unconditional and not to judge myself. I do not know about love. I think I did before. And I got hurt and became numb. And walk in anger bitterness and I judge myself all the time. Thank you so much. I am still crying. You really help me.
Yes, listening to our intuition and trusting ourselves is proof of self-love and healing.
Stephanie, this is one of my favorite videos you've made. I smiled when you talk about celebrating yourself and you get goose bumps "hairs are up!" 18:37. So cute, genuine, and you. You're doing Gods work here. You're healing people. You can celebrate that! Thanks for all you've taught me the last couple years.
Forgiveness has helped me tremendously. It has allowed me release from all toxicity from that relationship. I needed to feel it, mourn it and forgive in order to be free because forgiveness isn’t about him. It is about me. He probably doesn’t accept accountability but that’s not business. He’s no longer in my life. I’m focusing on me. Unconditionally loving myself is a journey I’m continuing to work on.
I’m going through a self healing journey but the hardest thing about it is not knowing what healthy thoughts/emotions/actions etc actually are. It makes me doubt or question myself when it comes to standing up for myself or putting myself first around the people I know. Sometimes I feel like I’m a bad person for trying to get my needs met. I was brought up in a very unhealthy environment and was never taught what you are teaching the world. If it wasn’t for videos like these and people like you on RUclips I wouldn’t know there was another way to live and continued my life in a environment that was unsafe/unhealthy for me but also my comfort zone because that’s all I’ve known. Thank you for showing me there is another way and because of that I feel more at peace in my inner self.
Stephanie Lyn Coaching
Thank you again, for so much! I was scared when you started to say "people who spend time alone.." because I spend most - almost all - of my time alone - well, with my rescued little dogs that is.! So I was so glad to know I am healthy on my own, so long as I love myself! Just recently I was attacked by a neighbour (I was trying to help her) and it has had a very bad effect on me, but just afterwards, on my YT page, was your video about Projection and it described exactly what she did in anger ! Now I am learning from you with this video. I am so grateful to you Stephanie, you are a truly good person. I send my Granny-love from here in the UK, to you and your family. (P.S. the photo isn't me! it's an actress I admired, now deceased, who played Agatha Christi's "Miss Marple" the quaint and very clever old lady detective. I wish I could be like her!)
P.S. The "Get lost" on your Tee Shirt could say "Get Lost in Unconditional Self-Love" or "Get Lost in happy thoughts" or "... in a lovely place" etc.
Good advice
Forgive to be ready for the future !!!!😃👏🏼🌟
Please keep doing coach sessions it's very helpful we are struggling with self esteem issues☹️😁
Hi stephanie, I just wanted to thank you for posting all of your videos. I have been in a negative mindset for about 6 months due to life. Ive been trying to practice self love for about 4 months now and in truth it has been very hard. I stumbled on your videos by mistake actually and in truth I am glad I did. Youre videos have been helping me so much and I think it's time I do practice self love using youre techniques. Thank you again so much!
I could listen to you for HOURS I love your whole outlook. It’s always fair and real and makes SENSE. Thank you
I've recently summoned up the energy to walk away from a narcissistic man that was causing me a lot of emotional distress; whenever we talk about things, not only would he not take a stance from my perspective to see things, but he would also say hurtful things to me in "retaliation" because his ego was affected. Your videos really helped me see the true light. Thank you :)
Yay!! Good for you! You must feel so proud of yourself. All the best to you and thank you for watching!
Same
Self love is the meds ever self care self acceptance self value self worth self respect self help self discipline self challenges self happiness self knowledge self education self control self believe self belief self like self awareness self defense self stand up for myself self qualified self trust self involved self worksachoic self guided self spiritual self understanding self expression self optimist self confidence woman.
This is enlightening, I could listen to this all day.
I saved this particular video and will listen to it over and over and over again until it gets into my brain and stays there💞
my birthday is coming up, maybe I'll make myself a cake!
I like that idea
mary wolfe; Happy Birthday! Sorry if I'm late, Hope you had a great time! Love yourself! [flowers]
Ok
Ya, thats a great idea. What I do from time to time is buy myself flowers.
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1:15 I can confidently say I don't love myself, which is one of few things I'm confident in. I hope to learn self-love.
Wow....This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point of my life. I've been going through a really dark time & this video really hit home for me. I wrote down all of these points & I will read them every day to remind myself of self-love & how truly exquisite & important I am.
Thank you so very much for taking your time in making all of these amazing videos, Stephanie. You are incredible! 💞
Jacinta I'm in a really really dark place also. I'm not sure how to get out I'm stuck I feel like. My partner makes my life hell which has made me get this way and I feel stuck I don't know how to get out.
Jacinta I’m so glad you’re loving the videos! This stuff is so important to learn and it shocking that we can go majority of her life and not know these things.
It is all about standing up for yourself taking time for yourself putting yourself first learning how to have positive healthy self talk! So so important!
Casey Jones what is going on that you feel this way? You can send me a private email On my website.
Jacinta ditto
6:00 This comment relates to semantics, her core message is on point. But for me, when my inner critic or she says wounded self isn't supportive, my first reaction is anger. I think her language naturally echoes that reaction. But the challenge for me (that she obviously has mastered if her calm, non-hostile tone is any indication) is to forgive the wounded self and NOT just shut it up. There is a good go-to phrase I heard somewhere that is a quick fix to both shut down the negative voice while respectfully acknowledging its purpose, maybe so it won't come back. I forget, something like: "Thanks, I know you mean well, but I -- whatever, actually love my healthy body, or can do this with confidence, or believe that I am no better or worse than anyone else, and I expect a great outcome, or at worst a learning experience that will create great results next time. But thanks for trying to protect me from getting hurt. That was a long time ago, and I got this now" etc.
Sometimes all I need is to know that i am there for myself and give myself accolades when I deserve it
I try my best to meditate and bring in positive thoughts all the time. The real challenge to this is when you’re surrounded by people who try and tear it down.
Stephanie
Awesome word .I received everything I been judging myself a lot. I know understand how to love myself. Thank you so much. I am inspired. You are amazing.
Norma Deluna yay! I’m so glad! Just remember be gentle with yourself be patient with yourself you’re doing the best you can 💗😉
Literally just discovered your channel today and I thank GOD that I did. I love the way you explain things and it's refreshing that you focus on how to heal during our journey of recovery. You're awesome. Thank you so much for this. Subscribed! 😊
I practice this now everyday ever since I found your channel. Thank you for all you do.
positive self talk is not too hard to do, I have noticed that as soon as I feel some anxiety or feeling low, I try to do something to change it, I will listen to positive videos, or play some good music or just get up and walk around.
For most of my life, I’ve always struggled with understanding and/or learning to actually love myself.
I can’t explain how grateful I am to discovering your video. I wonder what took me so long.
My appreciation for the advice and experience you shared
They always say “when the students ready the teacher will appear.” I have always found people or coaches at just the right time in my life.
Steph the good u do will one day come back to u a hundred fold...you are great mama
The inner work is hard but you are right, it takes practice.
I just remember one statement of yours... ask yourself what feeds the soul... and I have been doing this... I feel good in nature.. so now I go for walks every single day...and it has helped me immensely... two years I had so much pain.. I could not describe it in words... I thank you whole heartedly for your advice...
Good. Nice. Wonderful. Great. Prosperous. Self-love
1. Practice self awareness to monitor your thoughts and feelings.
Reminder to check in with yourself on feelings.
2. Replace -ve with +ve thoughts by listening to positive self affirmation/talk. Can do +ve affirmation before going to bed.
Supportive thoughts come from yourself whereas negative thoughts come from the wounds and detach from those.
3. Spending time alone. Be happy with yourself now.
4. Listening to intuition.
5. Practice forgiveness for yourself.
6. Love yourself unconditionally..flaws, good stuff.
8. Celebrate and take care yourself. The wins, achievement, goals. To motivate yourself.
Thank you for this. Your voice, your logic, your advice is like a warm blanket to hurting spirits.
I’ve listened to a lot of self love videos in the past but I truly love yours. They really speak to me, I’m just so amazed and happy because I know they are really going to help me this time. 😭❤️😭
I make myself meals almost daily. I love good food. If I make dinner for my girlfriend or mother (she lives with us) they don’t eat it but go out to eat. I could only help myself.
I bet your meals are delicious!
Please keep posting videos. I am binge watching your videos and I love the videos.
I love this! ❤️
Best self love pep talk I've ever heard.
Bea M yay!! I’m so glad!
Really appreciate your help Steph. Great direct, real useful tools for life.
I find I need to talk to my younger wounded self, with my caring adult self, sets me right, whenever I have these sometimes negative thoughts creep in.
From Australia.
These are all good things to keep before our eyes and learn to make them normal. I am writing these down, making a post up, re-reading them and practicing each one a little more as time goes by. It is good to know I can rely on myself! Thank you for sharing these powerful tools!
These are just the most amazing videos. Stephanie Lyn is such a great speaker and her positive energy comes through the screen. She is so bold and courageous, and is really insightful. I love these videos, she is so smart. There is such great advice. She breaks it down. Worth more than just one listen. Thank you for these empowering videos!
James Egan thank you SO much for such a wonderful comment!!
first off you are so so beautiful inside and out 😊. I was shattered into what felt like a million pieces so which thoughts are my true self are hard to distinguish. Most are negative and wounded self. It's been a year and I'm finally getting a little better. I want so much to find myself again. I am an Empath male 41 and Divorcing my narcissistic/borderline soon-to-be ex-wife that betrayed and cheated on me very blatantly and traumatically after 13 year marriage (3 kids) which led to drug abuse relapse, stroke and complete self devastation.😔Your videos are so helpful thank you so much you're an angel! Learning to love myself one day at a time😉 11 months clean I Rock!♥️❤️♥️
hhosin i hope you doing well!!
@@Annamelese I'm struggling lately but Thank you.
Thank You 🌹🌹🌹.
I celebrate Myself ,.I appreciate Myself And being grateful for everything..I am still learning though .🙏🙏🙏.
Lovely to hear this.
All Thy Blessings Lyn 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
I love going out but sometimes I stay home to recharge myself! I love sometimes just chillin out at home by myself!😊
YOUR CHANNEL IS HELPING MY SOUL CALM, LEARN, GROW, TRULY UNDERSTAND, CHANGE, LIVE FOR MYSELF FOR THE 1st TIME IN MY LIFE! PRAISE THE LORD!!! 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
This is a very important video. Everyone should watch this! Thank you Stephanie
Poignant, valuable video. I already know I’ll come back to this a few times to remind myself. Thank you!
Very much in line with "A Course in Miracles" this is great thank you.
Another video I needed! This stuff is so easy but so hard. Thanks for the encouragement!
Wow, this video sends a very powerful message, a message that has opened the Door for me to know without reasonable doubt I put me first and more importantly I Love ME, myself and I 100%.
You are great!! I am from Spain (learned English in the US) and listening to you is very beneficial for me. Muchas gracias. Co-dependent (validation plus lack of self-love) enthusiastic to work on being THAT healthy woman with boundaries. Moving on from I believe covert narc (military officer, "perfect"). I dumped him 2 weeks ago and NOW (I cry -also laugh- here and there (recent) as grieving process), and it feels so good. I simplified it by accepting that he did not love me (but got the intuition that there was something else... and that is okay. He just wanted me to be "by HIS side." My medicine: exercise (ENDORFINAS), praying to God, and I hope to keep this strong (effort, CONSTANCIA). Downside: smoking tobacco these past month as my crutch... Thank you, Stephanie. Keep up your great job!
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This is such useful info. I wish parents and schools could take more time discussing with children this subject.
I think you are a beautiful women inside and out and I thank you for all the video's. I learn more from you then i do from my therapist. God Bless you!
I make myself happy other things outside you are not what determined my happiness.
I am responsible for my happiness.
Love you Stephanie! Fantastic tips that I feel I can definitely start to implement. I think one point to emphasize is that these things might feel weird or uncomfortable at first, but you get used to it and eventually you start to believe them or do them naturally. That has been the case for me :)
Your hair looks so beautiful and healthy ☺️🙏
Happy New Year. This is the last video , I’m watching in 2020. I strongly need this for 2021.
you’re amazing, you always make me feel better and keep me on track!
You Are Awesome.,God Bless You and Yours.Your Positive Outlook and Advise to Help Others Is So Beautiful..You Are Special / Aren't We All, Lol..I Am Doing Good.,Thank You So Much for Everything.❤
Yeah you are right if you don't forgive they're okay and getting on with their lives while it's you in the discomfort. That's actually a new way to look at it x
Thanks for sharing the Stephanie, self Love is so important,
Listening to ur intuition and forgiveness
Stephanie you're channel has inspired me to radiate more positive soft feminine energy and extend my love to those who deserve it.
Thankyou Stephanie. I love this video. Listen to this one often. This year I celebrated my birthday because I've come a long way in loving myself. Thanks to you. If you ever come to Australia - would love to invite you to my house in the hills..I feel like I need to pay you back for how much you've helped me. Xx Jodie
Thank you for this video. I truly needed to hear this ♥️
This is a great insightful video. Everything starts within us. Our perception defines our reality and a big part of our perception is our view our inner self and how we view of ourselves is transferred to the world
toneman335 well said! 🙌💗
Excellent video. Great practical tips. Thank you.
Thank you kindly for educating us and for helping us to rebuild ourself. 😘
It’s nice to be able to put urself first. .. I on a better fitness jornee now at 45. In s great. So thank you great video
1 month into positive affirmations and it is magic.
I can't thank you enough Stephanie!
I look at the shirt as a positive. Go out, GET LOST, in the moment! Enjoy the clouds and mountains…..nature. Listen to Leanna Crawford “How Can You Not”
Thanks so much to you and your families
Trying to practice self-love always through it was putting yourself first but i suppose its more than that Thanks Stephanie 🧡
You really have to love yourself before you can love someone else and to achieve your goals in you.
I just started a week ago doing the mirror method for 10 min. a day saying "I Love you". It's pretty interesting. I will try to do this daily along w/ positive affirmations.
You were 4 years ahead of Mel Robbins high five habit.🤚
One of the most amazingly important video I ever watched
Thank you
Thx Coach. Just what I needed this morning. Be blessed 🙏🏽
#loveyourself
You are my favorite and super dope!!! I gained weight when this person hurt me...so i ate to make myself happy...now there on to there next supply but now o understand i loved them more then myself
This is great. Setting a reminder to check in with yourself. Sometimes we get so wound up we don’t get to pick that we are thinking negative. Thank you
Forgiveness within yourself, unconditional love, celebrate myself and taking care of myself, loving and supportive of myself not lookin for someone else to support me. Do it for myself! And everything in moderation! Another good point.
Stephanie you are an amazing women! Thank you for your insightfull video's it helps alot !❤
The things you say are just so fantastic, enlightening and fantastic!
Actually, I have a lot of self love, but it gets threatened when I am in a close romantic relationship with someone who does not react to me as I hope they will.. mind you, when I start such a relationship, I loose very fast my self confidence feeling threatened by a possible rejection or that I cannot live up to their expectations, and I realise now, that I simply fall back into my relationship with my mum who was abusive and never made me feel loved or accepted, always correcting, fixing, wanting something else than I gave. The fear of this makes me behave like I behaved towards her.. trying to live op to her demands.. failing. and the funny thing is, that this provokes a negative cycle, confusing the other person about my boundaries, actually, behaving that way I tell the other person that I do not believe I am good enough which causes an escalating negative game. At the same time, while being in it, as I basically am a happy person and cherish and value myself, I start an internal fight between the unloved child and the self loving and conscious adult. And everything gets very messy.. 😂😂🤸♂️🧚♀️🌞 because the child’s instinctive reactions often take over. Actually, as it is now, unless the other person totally behaves as I expect ..and confirms me for good enough all the time ..l I get in that place. So, My problem lies within myself and only I can solve it by not depending of MY need to be confirmed as worthy. In my mind I know I am worthy, but under some circumstances my old feelings take over and just replay the old game from childhood. This is so 😝 crazy! I hope, that understanding my own game, will support me in keeping ,my confidence. Still, I have been able from time to time, to set boundaries in a good way and, to my surprise, every time, I was met in a positive way. So ... time will show how this developes , right now, I just have to focus on separating the past game from the present and meet myself and the person in the present. I am curious to see what will happen, I definitely believe it is worth giving it a try. You are right, it is all about ourselves. It is as if we build our own drama in life when it comes to relationships.. emotions. I mean, life can be hard enough ... illness, accidents, war, even loosing job (ex. Under the crisis) etc.etc. Come from the outside and we cannot always do something about those things.. but how we handle these things and how we manage our emotions and relations and mainly ourselves.. that is on us.
Thank you for you very enlightening inputs. I like very much that it is not about the other person but about ourselves.. I mean, if we accept being treated badly, why do we accept it! Having written this, I do not expect things to change from one moment to the other, maybe it will end with nothing, but I wish to give it a chance. I am too curious about life and people and myself and it all, not to try.
Ps: my mum was admired by everybody, giving this polished perfect presentation of herself to the world, the abusive things were secret.. i knew she was wrong but the world told me I was wrong.l luckily I felt accepted and loved by my dad, but he was very much absent, and his love was very distant .. he was a cold and distant, very self absorbed person. After their death (also happened in my childhood), i always said that she would have destroyed me totally if he had not been there. Mind you, after he died, she became a bit more human/relaxed. So... maybe she had a similar problem to mine.. 🤗🌞😀 . I wonder whether all this makes any sense to others? Have a great day
Stephanie, love your channel, as always,.. you are spot-on!
Boundaries! Dont give into low engery. Thank you for sharing.Happy New Year's.Blessings🤗🤗😘😘🙏🙏🙏👣👣👣👣
Why did I need this today thank you so much Stephanie God bless you
I keep re listening to this! So powerful. Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm about to start a new career. I think I'll have a yay me dinner with family!😁 such a blessing!
B Miles yay! Congrats!
💖💖💖💖I can watch this over and over. Thank you so much. Your video changed my life. 💖💖💖💖💖