1. Practice gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have. 2. Don't be attached to every thoughts you have. Monitor our thoughts. 3. Stop self-criticism. Don't be a perfectionist. 4. Take care of your body. 5. Observe and your self-talk. Recognize positive and negative self-talks. Use positive affirmations. 6. Get out of your comfort zone. 7. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Good luck to you! That happened to me in November. Him and his dead weight family left my life and things only got better from then on! I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and people all around notice it too! You got this mama!
Olivia White I also listen to assc direct and permission to Exist and have been using the “gray rock method” i kept my Side of the road clean and stopped Reacting to his games,insults, and compliments. I’ve literally been playing dead since April and have since broken our soul tie. It’s like I woke up and nothing will ever be the same. It’s definitely one step forward three steps back process but once you snap out of it and see light at the end of the tunnel it gets easier. He wasn’t getting the fix his ego needed from me so leaving was eventually a given.
I allow others to get inside my head, and spend a lot of time ruminating about conversations. I am working on putting myself first and recognising that this negatively affects me.
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
You are so right in work in yourself. It used to happen to me so often. When those thoughts would get in my head that’s what I did: I became aware by saying “not here, it doesn’t belong to me. Today is xx/xx and I am doing this action and I choose myself. This is somebody’s else problem and not mine.” This self talk brings me to the present and it helped me a lot.
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
I thought today I better exercise on my trampoline because so many people would love to have it. I wanted it so much ten years ago and have used it a lot. But haven’t much this spring. So grateful.
Self love is honesty with self. It's learning to laugh. It's inventing a zillion go to play behaviors which really make you laugh out loud and breaking them out often. Self love is attention to self. Self love requires introspective self examination. Self love is finding out who you are. Self love is being True to Self, letting yourself be flawed, saying what you think when you think it. Self love is creating Good Ego character traits like honesty, open mindedness, giving, mercy, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.. and then learning to love yourself because you know you are a good person who carries those traits when it's not easy.
1.Need to Practice gratitude, 2.I need to stop bringimg myself down so much. 3.Stop comparing myself to other people to where i am in life. 4. Regain confidence 5. Love myself again, stop telling myself im not good lookn for anyone and i eont ever find anyone even though i been in multiple past relationships and im older now.
Me too. Just start small and remember that ANY progress is progress. Maybe you told yourself you would go for a run and instead you go for a walk. That's totally fine! In fact, that's awesome! Don't be hard on yourself.
Today I felt like doing something different I left the house without any make up, didn’t even shower, only applied sunscreen. I’m feeling so light, more like myself, less fake and made up. I needed this.
Watch heaps and heaps more of these type of videos....get more knowledge about why you feel this way and how to cure it....I was like you, I immersed myself in dozens of videos a week to fix me up...all these type videos had a positive effect on me....I feel much better , more confident ....and smarter.....hope u try this out....
Hi Art, I just wanted to tell you I loved your sweet, thoughtful and encouraging words to Kristina. ❤️ She’s right Kristina, what you focus on expands. The more you immerse your mind with words that are intended to lift your spirit and to help you gain clarity, this is the path. Sending my very best.
Some of the things that has benefited my mental health is recognizing people's patterns and learning how to interact with them. I have narcs in my immediate family. I can avoid them for so long but when we do get together I no longer feel depressed after leaving their presence. They have stopped criticizing me but the manipulative ones still try to use me for their personal gain. I'm proud that I don't get frustrated anymore and just let it go.
Narcs(narcissists) will "narc" (narcotics informant) when they see other people when you're not around. Even if such things they say never occurred or they twist, bend, mold, change, modify the "TRUE STORY"
Thats what I do all time, smile at everyone , some people's faces light up when you smile at them , you've prob made their day by just smiling , you never know what they are going through etc
Omg this is the best! I'm a single parent with two autistic children, healing from a Dv marriage and not much support team! This is just what I needed to hear since I usually listen to others of how I'm never going to have a partner because my kids are too much. 😔 now I know this is what I need to practice more self love!!! 🙏❤
There's a beautiful soul out there just for you! LOVE yourself as much as you can and they will come to you easily and love your beautiful kids who they'll see as gifts! Keep the faith and look after yourself!
*Good Morning Sunshine! 🌞* *What a great way to start the day. Self-Love, Stephanie, and a Cup of Coffee. 💗* *May you all have a beautifully blessed morning, a joyful day, and a peaceful night. 🤗*
1. Gratitude Don't complain/be negative. Enjoy where you are & what you have. Radiate + energy 2. Detach From your emotions/thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Only makes you anxious. 3. Dont self criticize Acknowledge your mistakes and move on. You're not perfect. 4. Body Take care of it. Eat healthy/be healthy. 5. Self talk Either builds you or breaks you. Positive affirmations. 6. Get out of your comfort zone Smile at strangers. Builds self confidence. 7. Stop comparing yourself Somebody is always better. 8. Time This is a process. Be patient with yourself.
My focus areas for self ❤️ are: 1. Thought awareness 2. Avoiding caffeine, sugar & alcohol (they all seem to mess with my mind) 3. Recognizing my own personal journey in life 4. Daily positive affirmations 👍🏼Calmer-you website
❤Thank you. As you say, self-care and learning to self-parent (Love the inner children who weren't loved all through the different ages they needed to be), being gentle and kind towards yourself as you would be to others who you Love, replace the negative thoughts (energies) with positive thoughts (I use little phrases repeated over and over again of positivity), stay aware of how you feed and care for yourself, and be grateful for all that you have because there are those with much less in life. Enjoy all the beauty and joy you can each day because healing ourselves is a life-long journey and no one gets out alive or with their wordly possessions 😉😊
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
The best thing I ever did was believe in myself. I can tell you that the way I feel about myself today is a wonderful and beautiful experience.⚘ don't ever feel bad for taking time to love yourself. The journey to self-discovery and accepting the things that no longer work and looking forward to the things that you become worthy and deserving of make the journey worth taking🦋♥️
Gratitude definitely elevates the positive energy that you put out into the universe. Being grateful truly does trigger positive thoughts which radiates and attracts what you want in your life. In conclusion... it all starts with self-love. 💞 Love this video. Self love is, indeed, a big umbrella that is important to talk about and worth breaking down! From another self love content creator to another.. great video beauty! 💕
This was a milestone video for me Steph. I have watched a few of your videos before and they helped, but the other day when I watched this video, I was in the right headspace and it all just clicked. Everything just finally clicked in my brain. Self parenting finally made sense. I have been searching for everyone else to parent me all my life, I had never stopped to think, I can actually parent myself and reassure myself and tell myself it'll be ok, I love you, I'm not going to hurt you anymore because I love you. Self love is something I never had and I truly despised and hated myself all my life, so I kept running away from myself to find comfort in relationship after relationship and then running when they got hard to a fresh one for the good feelings that I never felt in myself. So it finally made sense to me watching this that I'm not gonna hurt myself anymore. I love myself and I'm here to reassure myself and that is so special and beautiful and really really affected me. So thankyou for this video. A lot of others helped me aswell. But this one just hit me and it was the right time when I needed it and broke through the walls. Thankyou so much. Mental health is so important and after years of ignoring it. I'm glad finally I've seen the need to journey to heal and develop my mental health. So thankyou for this video and the help it gave me. This is only early on in my journey 1.5months of healing after some massive losses in my life which made me finally wake up and realise I need to change and fix myself. I have a lot to go. But this arms me with the ability to parent and care for myself and be happy with myself. So thankyou! Whoop. Keep up the great work.
Truly terrific, cannot thank you enough for all. Understanding too that those scars bleed from time to time and that is a fact and we still though can be self aware of controlling powerful negative messages.
I love the way you talk about gratitude. I need to practice more gratitude as well as better eatting practices. Thank you for this video. So many talk about the need for self love, but not how to practice it. I needed this at this point in my life. I 💜
I know, i know, I KNOW that i am SOOO hard on myself! I take "everybody is their own worst critic" and i bolt a supercharger on it and ruminate myself into oblivion! Having said that, i am working on myself day by day. Your uploads and channel are really helping me accept that I AM NOT MY THOUGHTS! The first time i had ever heard that was on one of your uploads, and that one statement alone has profoundly changed how i am approaching myself. Thank you Stephanie, for teaching me that self love and healthy thoughts isnt a finishline to race towards, its a journey!🙏
being aware of what we're feeling to be aware of our thoughts, asking ourselves how are we feeling can help us understand better what we're thinking... and start substituting the negative thoughts for positive ones... sending love
This is perfect timing, as my daughter & I are hosting a self Love meditation tomorrow night. My self Love practice started with paying attention to my self talk. When I started noticing how many times a day I call myself stupid, I changed it up. It felt silly at first, like I was trying to baby myself. After a while though, it really helped me feel better, and be able to get into other self loving exercises; better diet, better self expression, shadow work. One thing I am always working on is my addiction to sugar. That is real stuff right there! I have to reel myself in regularly on that one. Also expressing my boundaries & needs is one I'm working on lately. I discovered that I'm not very good in that department. Here's to everyone's self loving journey! 💗
Stephanie you are my savior... I am such a fearful, anxious mess .. I didn’t know where to start until I started to watch your videos... you are very much to the point & this is really helpful for me .. Much Love 💕 ♥️ & Thanks
Taking care of myself, all the time, I finally get it. Keep consistently moving in the right direction despite wind and waves. It’s neat you talked about horses, I was talking to one this morning. Tommy B. : )
You are helping many souls .. seriously there are many who don't even realize they have self love deficit. We must be grateful of having this realization.
I agree with this! Being lonely and fear of dying alone has constantly been on my mind, and realized that you can live happily alone! (and maybe one day that love of your life comes around!)
My grandparents had a wood stove in their livingroom. I remember coming in from playing outside for hours in the snow, getting out of my winter stuff.. and just standing in front of it to get warm. It wasn't until I moved that I realized I had stayed too long, and it was painful the amount of heat on my jeans touching my skin. I guess this is how I feel looking at pictures of "us" together, for a bit it is so warm and cozy, but when I go to move on with the day it burns me so bad. I miss him and love him so deeply, I'm hurting myself trying to get cozy and warm - to fend off my lonliness... and not realizing or accepting that I will warm up on my own - that trying to warm up too quickly is just hurting me more.
So many good points, one of my fave is that its something that you have to realize "self-love is a daily practice that you are going to do for the rest of your life!" Needed this! thank you sooo much!
Great video! What I need to work on is the negative self talk. I need to give myself more credit and appreciate my qualities. And finally love myself and my singleness ❤️
Thank you for sharing these tips, I have been practising self-love, self-parenting, self-validation. I always feel and practice gratefulness every day while I walk to work: Thank you for my body, my health, my freedom, my job, my loving family, my colleagues, loving friends, my house, opportunities, living and working in NYC. Still working with perfectionism and inner critic
Accidentally found this and couldn't have came at a better time. Narc abuse has destroyed my already compromised view of self. Thank you for reminding me who I truly am💜💜💜
I need to focus on my self talk, my eating and exercising and to stop comparing myself to other coaches 😅💜🙏🏼. Thanks Stephanie. New subscriber. Love your videos.
I'm currently working on self-care as a focus. What I mean by that is exercise, grooming, taking care of my things, personal business, keeping up on the news, & keeping in touch with family.
Gratitude is very important, but is obviously a difficult thing sometimes and will take time and patience. The self love I probably need right now is more time to myself to meditate, and more time with friends. We all get so caught up in our busy daily lives that we forget to stop and breath for a second. Thank you so much for your videos Stephanie 💗
I yearn for a true friend like you...you're an awesome woman Stephanie! Love your personality...God bless you..😇😇😇😇 Self-love thru prayer works best! Never underestimate the power of prayer cuz our God is an awesome God...pray, have faith, trust in God, be positive and God will do the rest..
This video,as well as all your other videos, have been so helpful on my journey to make myself a better person. Without saying, you are a beautiful person,and a very intelligent lady. Your videos are presented in such a down to earth manner, as if we are sitting down and you are talking to me one on one. Thank you for your help,and for being part of my life journey to self improvement. You are greatly appreciated as a person, and as a life coach. I look forward to your next video.Be well, take care.
I think the areas I need to focus on the most are my body (making healthier food choices and exercising regularly out doors) and positive affirmations.
A mentor of mine pointed out that I wasn't loving myself. When I asked her how she stated that I should ask God to show me the way. I started praying, meditating, googling, and of course RUclips searching. I learned that my diet and exercising had a major affect. I started a green juice fast to reset my body. Started working out 30 minutes 3-4 days a week. Changed my diet completely leaving out a lot of high sugar and saturated fat foods and imputing more greens. My mental health is improved. My thoughts don't seem as negative anymore and if they are I can recognize the pattern and let the thoughts go instead of perpetuating them. Now I'm understanding myself better that I like alone time and need a meditation session periodically to recharge myself. This video confirmed some ideas I have about self love and helped form new ones like comparing isn't good for growth if it's taken too far. Thanks for the good content.💕
Eating better, taking chances, and talking to people, stop the negative thoughts about myself, not being good enough, just to be good to me and take life easy. sometimes I feel everybody and everything gives me a hard time, for no reason.
Great video! 😃👍🏼 thanks a ton for your time, effort and advice! I know that I have to focus on: 1. Patience 2. Disengaging from non-constructive self-criticism 3. Stop comparing myself to an ideal self and others 4. Do more physical exercise 5. Monitor my thoughts 6. Practice gratitude 7. Stop being a perfectionist beyond reasonable limits I am a student in physics and sometimes I succeed in a lesson and sometimes I need to learn, but that’s okay because I progress if I am open to learning new skills, concepts and lessons. Thank you Stephanie!
Thank you for reminding me how important gratitude is! I can see how loosing my focus on it has been affecting many parts of my daily life and how I interact with others. Gonna fix that! I really need to work on self validation and telling myself it's ok to feel lonely, awkward, frustrated, etc. These are normal and healthy to experience when we're growing. They can be great cues to dive into what's going on inside my heart and head as well as what's going on around me and what I can do to change my heart, head, and situation so that I am free to shine on. ✨
What I need to work on is not attaching to my every thought and overthinking, but instead recognising them for what they are (fear and self-doubt, mostly). This video in particular will help me soooo much! Thank you, Stephanie - I've learned and continue to learn so much from you! 😘😘
Great talk! Setting boundaries is part of my life’s journey . I’m practicing self talk every day and that is so empowering to know your worth and value snd staying in the moment. Thanks Stephanie.
Hi Stephanie,av finally left my pychologicaly abusive husband of 8yrs with 2 kids,am a single mum now .it's been a little over a week,I have my moments when am down but am pushing forward,your videos are of great help to me, the thing that av embraced for my self love is waking up early and going jogging!thank you
I relate to this particularly right now in this time. It's the season for Sobering up for a while. It's a litmus test as to whether one has decision power. Things are only difficult when one is wishy washy, but when you decide on something, you can do anything
I hear everything that you're saying in this video and it all makes sense...but i'm so trapped in my head at times, that regardless of how many times i replay this, i cannot seem to find a way to feel love for myself. I am always grateful, and i find joy when i'm able to be present in the moment, but so often, i allow my worth to be dictated by how others treat me. It's like i can't see myself :(
I think the first step (not sure if it applies to you) would be for someone to stop feeling guilty or sad because they go through these bad spells of low self worth. See it as something that happens, like a headache. Uou know it passes. Also someone told me that self worth is meaningless, we pay too much attention to this concept and yet it cannot be measured, it cannot be demonstrated and it cannot be compared. And lastly, sometimes internal change just happens out of the blue, as log as you keep focus on what we want to change with some effort. This video is really good, I enjoyed listening to it :)
Having the courage to cultivate my skills and talents, learning to be my own best friend and enjoy my own company, unlearning the message that I need a partner to be fulfilled in life. Speaking to myself kindly, being my own best friend and giving MYSELF the benefit of the doubt rather than every body else. Learning to listen to my gut so that I start to learn whats good for me and what isn't, instead of saying "yes" to everything out of obligation/pleasing.
Love your topics for a long time and helped me a lot after my breakup to get myself back together and better than ever. Now I love your hair, great color for you!
Thank you for another great video. It's hard putting into words the impact of me coming into contact with you and the knowledge you've given me. You've opened a whole level of understanding that I knew was there but didn't know how to find it. Keep it up!! You are a blessing to me and many others. Thanks again❣
Love this ❤️ As someone with a disability, I always think about the fact that someone out there has it worse. Not to be happy with someone’s misery of course but grateful for what I do have and can do.
Right, I’m from a culture where greeting whilst looking each other in the eye was a usual thing. Here in the UK you either may end up in a fight or you have a potential partner when you look at someone. Absolutely differences in culture.
I started self love one day ago by practising this few steps.....I will update you guys in a month. Remember you don't need someone calling you beautiful in order for you to feel beautiful.
I was looking for the subject on self-love, and after searching and watching for hours on youtube, you are the first one that is saying something with experience and know-how, all others are just regurgitating someone else's garbage.....thank you for your insight....!!
Great video... needed this!! Thank you, Stephanie... loved how you started this with "gratefulness".What a wonderful reminder, especially, when you feel as if , "life" has been very hard, the last few months. So, thank you for all you do!! 💜💜
I had a year where I put so much focus into my career that I lost touch with my physical health. Now that I am getting back into the balance I am so upset that I let such a crucial part of self care go. It feels like I am starting over with my fitness journey. However I have to do it to get back to feeling like me. Great video! I love your perspective that self care is more than a bubble bath and a trip to the mall.
This video could not be more aptly timed. Be gracious, Express gratitude and bless the things you have been blessed with- not just the tangible acquisitions one has through life. I suspect if you're watching this channel patience, honesty, the desire to help others are all in us. Recognize these blessings and stop comparing your journey to anyone else's especially not your own envisioned one. Thank you Stephanie Lyn for reminding me on my own path to wellness.
I need to work on everything you said. Being a single mother of three really makes it hard to even think about but I need to make some changes. Thank you for this❤️
I need to work on my health and being more grateful what I have. I will start drinking more water, more healthy meals , and working out. I need to work on stop comparing myself to others and stop comparing others. I am me and people are themselves.
My weakest area in self love is not loving myself enough. I’m an unfortunate people pleaser so I’ve always been more focused on other people’s happiness before my own. Thanks to you, I’m working on that! Thank you!
Sleeping on time, going for long walks, keeping friends only who really care and not the fake ones who are narcassists. Leaving whatsapp group and friends group which are bothering me.. I'm on my way.. I'm improving and I deserve this.. thanks for all your videos 😘❤
Definitely the self talk. Growing up I felt like my best was never good enough for my parents and I just realized through watching this video that I internalized a lot of that and now beat myself up emotionally too.
As for me, I've always been afraid to say no to people, and I often compare myself to others because I hate my flaws or worry about future problems. Lately, I have been listening to many lessons about self-love. First time here but I think i really needed your advice.
Stephanie, i love how you practice what you preach ABOUT self talk - cuz you said, "im a perfectionist AT TIMES" - you specified that it's only "at times" and it does NOT define you!! Thank you for being a beautiful example of surviving and THRIVING, girlfriend!
Am I the first one commenting? I love your coaching Stephanie, you inspire me so much, ever since I started loving myself, the whole started loving me as well, I truly believe the law of attraction and the mirroring theory! Keep it up!
I have no idea how to control my thoughts. They most certainly control me and I don’t know how to just observe them and let them go. Instead I sit with them and play them in an endless loop throughout the day. So that is what I need help with for self love. ❤️
Truly, in my experience, a simple walk every day, can change the way your brain works
Where do you go walking at? What do you think about when you walk? I’ve got to try something new in my life...
impactajuvenile anywhere there’s nature, beach, fresh air and hopefully a little sun
Lara Lee here in California it’s against the law unfortunately!
impactajuvenile I participated in protest yesterday 🇺🇸😃 👍
I can still walk around neighborhood. Governor’s not taking that away from me!
Lara Lee good for you, Americans should never be oppressed and held captive to facts that are not truthful. 👍🇺🇸✝️🙏💗
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Practice gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have.
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Don't be attached to every thoughts you have. Monitor our thoughts.
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Stop self-criticism. Don't be a perfectionist.
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Take care of your body.
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Observe and your self-talk. Recognize positive and negative self-talks. Use positive affirmations.
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Get out of your comfort zone.
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Stop comparing yourself to others.
Thank you for typing this out 🙏🏽❤️
Yassss I was hoping this comment was here
This will be my new goals.
Praveen NG Amen hallelujah thank you god
Awesome list, I have a hard time with no.3
My narc husband of 10 years finally left last night. I needed this . Thank you.
Congratulations 👏👏 Your Life begins now 🎉💕🤗
Good luck to you! That happened to me in November. Him and his dead weight family left my life and things only got better from then on! I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and people all around notice it too! You got this mama!
drea5510 h time to heal now and thrive! Listen to good RUclipsrs, narcology unscripted, ASSC DIRECT are my favorites!
How did you manage to make him leave?
Olivia White I also listen to assc direct and permission to Exist and have been using the “gray rock method” i kept my
Side of the road clean and stopped
Reacting to his games,insults, and compliments. I’ve literally been playing dead since April and have since broken our soul tie. It’s like I woke up and nothing will ever be the same. It’s definitely one step forward three steps back process but once you snap out of it and see light at the end of the tunnel it gets easier. He wasn’t getting the fix his ego needed from me so leaving was eventually a given.
I allow others to get inside my head, and spend a lot of time ruminating about conversations. I am working on putting myself first and recognising that this negatively affects me.
Im.tall dark handsome very educated and rich but I am I'n love with you ??👍🙆♂️
It's happening to me now
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
Thank you. Exactly what I need to hear this morning
You are so right in work in yourself. It used to happen to me so often. When those thoughts would get in my head that’s what I did: I became aware by saying “not here, it doesn’t belong to me. Today is xx/xx and I am doing this action and I choose myself. This is somebody’s else problem and not mine.” This self talk brings me to the present and it helped me a lot.
‘What are things in your life that other people would die to have’ really gave me a different perspective on gratitude.
Arlysse Rodney right?! So powerful!
Now this is interesting. I’m gonna try this asap! I never stick to nothing smh.
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
I thought today I better exercise on my trampoline because so many people would love to have it. I wanted it so much ten years ago and have used it a lot. But haven’t much this spring. So grateful.
Me too!
Self love is honesty with self. It's learning to laugh. It's inventing a zillion go to play behaviors which really make you laugh out loud and breaking them out often. Self love is attention to self. Self love requires introspective self examination. Self love is finding out who you are. Self love is being True to Self, letting yourself be flawed, saying what you think when you think it. Self love is creating Good Ego character traits like honesty, open mindedness, giving, mercy, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness, etc.. and then learning to love yourself because you know you are a good person who carries those traits when it's not easy.
@jeffwatkins All good points, maybe you should make a video.
I come across like Ben Stein, saying Buehler? Buehler? lol
True
@@mildredantenor6654 Lives Matter❤
1.Need to Practice gratitude,
2.I need to stop bringimg myself down so much.
3.Stop comparing myself to other people to where i am in life.
4. Regain confidence
5. Love myself again, stop telling myself im not good lookn for anyone and i eont ever find anyone even though i been in multiple past relationships and im older now.
I need to exercise more and go out and do something that makes me happy more instead of always putting it off telling myself next time.
keesha1232 same here girl!
Me too 🙋
I can do all things thru Christ who strengtheneth me
Book of Philipeans
It’s so bad that I can cancelled hours before I’m supposed to be. Smh
Me too. Just start small and remember that ANY progress is progress. Maybe you told yourself you would go for a run and instead you go for a walk. That's totally fine! In fact, that's awesome! Don't be hard on yourself.
All it takes is to put 1 foot in front of the other. No other task ahead but the next foot.
Today I felt like doing something different
I left the house without any make up, didn’t even shower, only applied sunscreen.
I’m feeling so light, more like myself, less fake and made up.
I needed this.
Interesting 🤔 I LOVE it! Sounds so freeing…
Something so simple and yet uplifting, that's great
I am so depressed. I have lost interest in everything. I needed to hear this right now.
Watch heaps and heaps more of these type of videos....get more knowledge about why you feel this way and how to cure it....I was like you, I immersed myself in dozens of videos a week to fix me up...all these type videos had a positive effect on me....I feel much better , more confident ....and smarter.....hope u try this out....
Hi Art, I just wanted to tell you I loved your sweet, thoughtful and encouraging words to Kristina. ❤️ She’s right Kristina, what you focus on expands. The more you immerse your mind with words that are intended to lift your spirit and to help you gain clarity, this is the path. Sending my very best.
Some of the things that has benefited my mental health is recognizing people's patterns and learning how to interact with them. I have narcs in my immediate family. I can avoid them for so long but when we do get together I no longer feel depressed after leaving their presence. They have stopped criticizing me but the manipulative ones still try to use me for their personal gain. I'm proud that I don't get frustrated anymore and just let it go.
Narcs(narcissists) will "narc" (narcotics informant) when they see other people when you're not around. Even if such things they say never occurred or they twist, bend, mold, change, modify the "TRUE STORY"
I always look at people and smile. Most smile back. I do this so much, I end up talking to them about whatever just comes up. Ha...
Thats what I do all time, smile at everyone , some people's faces light up when you smile at them , you've prob made their day by just smiling , you never know what they are going through etc
It’s hard to smile at people now because everyone is wearing a mask.
T T I don’t know about that.
Omg this is the best! I'm a single parent with two autistic children, healing from a Dv marriage and not much support team! This is just what I needed to hear since I usually listen to others of how I'm never going to have a partner because my kids are too much. 😔 now I know this is what I need to practice more self love!!! 🙏❤
I'm sure there are quite a few that would be willing to be there for you and with you. Just to be with you. Don't give up on love. 💐✌
Yes, go for it! And do take care of your children too in the process, they are precious lives too. You can do it! ❤️
There's a beautiful soul out there just for you! LOVE yourself as much as you can and they will come to you easily and love your beautiful kids who they'll see as gifts! Keep the faith and look after yourself!
❤❤ I am a single mother too. The right person will come along, when you aren't looking. Twice this is my experience and my child is now 23!!
*Good Morning Sunshine! 🌞*
*What a great way to start the day. Self-Love, Stephanie, and a Cup of Coffee. 💗*
*May you all have a beautifully blessed morning, a joyful day, and a peaceful night. 🤗*
divineenergy your comment made me feel happier cause it’s literally what iam doing as well ))
*Yay! You made my heart smile. 😍*
*May everyone you see today feel your joy and have a lovely day as well. 🥰*
Thanks 🙏 Wish you more happiness 💜💜
Awesome video. You have helped me so much to get through a breakup
Likewise 💖
1. Gratitude
Don't complain/be negative. Enjoy where you are & what you have. Radiate + energy
2. Detach
From your emotions/thoughts. You are not your thoughts. Only makes you anxious.
3. Dont self criticize
Acknowledge your mistakes and move on. You're not perfect.
4. Body
Take care of it. Eat healthy/be healthy.
5. Self talk
Either builds you or breaks you. Positive affirmations.
6. Get out of your comfort zone
Smile at strangers. Builds self confidence.
7. Stop comparing yourself
Somebody is always better.
8. Time
This is a process. Be patient with yourself.
My focus areas for self ❤️ are:
1. Thought awareness
2. Avoiding caffeine, sugar & alcohol (they all seem to mess with my mind)
3. Recognizing my own personal journey in life
4. Daily positive affirmations 👍🏼Calmer-you website
What I need to work on is sefl-confidence and liking who I am.
Me too!! Thanks to people like this sweet lady. She's teaching us that struggle with this. 💐
❤Thank you. As you say, self-care and learning to self-parent (Love the inner children who weren't loved all through the different ages they needed to be), being gentle and kind towards yourself as you would be to others who you Love, replace the negative thoughts (energies) with positive thoughts (I use little phrases repeated over and over again of positivity), stay aware of how you feed and care for yourself, and be grateful for all that you have because there are those with much less in life. Enjoy all the beauty and joy you can each day because healing ourselves is a life-long journey and no one gets out alive or with their wordly possessions 😉😊
♥️ Thank you! Your words touched me deeply.
Wow I never heard of that self parenting. I love how you explain thoughts shouldn't be repeated. Such a powerful video.
I appreciate all of your videos and how much you invest and care in the well being of others. Bless you! ❤️
Thank you so much for a lovely common!
Sar Bear : EXACTLY🌷!!!)& U PRETTY SAR....
Sar Bear - you are beautiful
Love and Hugs from Australia. 😘
Hey your video is awsome! and thank u for spreading good message as well as important matter about self-love! i appreciate that a lot. If you also have a time, do you mind to check my video regarding self-love issue too? :) that would be very much appreciated.
The best thing I ever did was believe in myself. I can tell you that the way I feel about myself today is a wonderful and beautiful experience.⚘ don't ever feel bad for taking time to love yourself. The journey to self-discovery and accepting the things that no longer work and looking forward to the things that you become worthy and deserving of make the journey worth taking🦋♥️
Gratitude definitely elevates the positive energy that you put out into the universe. Being grateful truly does trigger positive thoughts which radiates and attracts what you want in your life. In conclusion... it all starts with self-love. 💞
Love this video. Self love is, indeed, a big umbrella that is important to talk about and worth breaking down!
From another self love content creator to another.. great video beauty! 💕
This was a milestone video for me Steph. I have watched a few of your videos before and they helped, but the other day when I watched this video, I was in the right headspace and it all just clicked. Everything just finally clicked in my brain. Self parenting finally made sense. I have been searching for everyone else to parent me all my life, I had never stopped to think, I can actually parent myself and reassure myself and tell myself it'll be ok, I love you, I'm not going to hurt you anymore because I love you. Self love is something I never had and I truly despised and hated myself all my life, so I kept running away from myself to find comfort in relationship after relationship and then running when they got hard to a fresh one for the good feelings that I never felt in myself. So it finally made sense to me watching this that I'm not gonna hurt myself anymore. I love myself and I'm here to reassure myself and that is so special and beautiful and really really affected me. So thankyou for this video. A lot of others helped me aswell. But this one just hit me and it was the right time when I needed it and broke through the walls. Thankyou so much. Mental health is so important and after years of ignoring it. I'm glad finally I've seen the need to journey to heal and develop my mental health. So thankyou for this video and the help it gave me. This is only early on in my journey 1.5months of healing after some massive losses in my life which made me finally wake up and realise I need to change and fix myself. I have a lot to go. But this arms me with the ability to parent and care for myself and be happy with myself. So thankyou! Whoop. Keep up the great work.
Truly terrific, cannot thank you enough for all. Understanding too that those scars bleed from time to time and that is a fact and we still though can be self aware of controlling powerful negative messages.
I need to focus on my health and loving myself!! ❤️❤️
I really liked the focus on gratefulness. I think that if most of us focus on that part, the rest of it will fall into place. Thank you for this.
I love the way you talk about gratitude. I need to practice more gratitude as well as better eatting practices. Thank you for this video. So many talk about the need for self love, but not how to practice it. I needed this at this point in my life. I 💜
Your Healing has begun..
I know, i know, I KNOW that i am SOOO hard on myself! I take "everybody is their own worst critic" and i bolt a supercharger on it and ruminate myself into oblivion!
Having said that, i am working on myself day by day. Your uploads and channel are really helping me accept that I AM NOT MY THOUGHTS!
The first time i had ever heard that was on one of your uploads, and that one statement alone has profoundly changed how i am approaching myself.
Thank you Stephanie, for teaching me that self love and healthy thoughts isnt a finishline to race towards, its a journey!🙏
Gratitude radiates that positive glowing energy within anyone .
being aware of what we're feeling to be aware of our thoughts, asking ourselves how are we feeling can help us understand better what we're thinking... and start substituting the negative thoughts for positive ones... sending love
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This is perfect timing, as my daughter & I are hosting a self Love meditation tomorrow night.
My self Love practice started with paying attention to my self talk. When I started noticing how many times a day I call myself stupid, I changed it up. It felt silly at first, like I was trying to baby myself. After a while though, it really helped me feel better, and be able to get into other self loving exercises; better diet, better self expression, shadow work.
One thing I am always working on is my addiction to sugar. That is real stuff right there! I have to reel myself in regularly on that one.
Also expressing my boundaries & needs is one I'm working on lately. I discovered that I'm not very good in that department.
Here's to everyone's self loving journey! 💗
Yay.. that is so great!
Giving myself the approval and appreciation that fills me up instead of relying on my close relationships to be the only ones giving it to me.
Stephanie you are my savior... I am such a fearful, anxious mess .. I didn’t know where to start until I started to watch your videos... you are very much to the point & this is really helpful for me .. Much Love 💕 ♥️ & Thanks
You give me hope to be a better person and loving myself! 🤗 Thank you for sharing your videos with us!!
Taking care of myself, all the time, I finally get it. Keep consistently moving in the right direction despite wind and waves. It’s neat you talked about horses, I was talking to one this morning. Tommy B. : )
You are helping many souls .. seriously there are many who don't even realize they have self love deficit. We must be grateful of having this realization.
Love ourselves and make us happy before loving someone.
I agree with this! Being lonely and fear of dying alone has constantly been on my mind, and realized that you can live happily alone! (and maybe one day that love of your life comes around!)
My grandparents had a wood stove in their livingroom. I remember coming in from playing outside for hours in the snow, getting out of my winter stuff.. and just standing in front of it to get warm. It wasn't until I moved that I realized I had stayed too long, and it was painful the amount of heat on my jeans touching my skin. I guess this is how I feel looking at pictures of "us" together, for a bit it is so warm and cozy, but when I go to move on with the day it burns me so bad. I miss him and love him so deeply, I'm hurting myself trying to get cozy and warm - to fend off my lonliness... and not realizing or accepting that I will warm up on my own - that trying to warm up too quickly is just hurting me more.
Going to the gym, running, being active and eating nutritious foods really helps me to feel better about myself.
So many good points, one of my fave is that its something that you have to realize "self-love is a daily practice that you are going to do for the rest of your life!" Needed this! thank you sooo much!
Great video!
What I need to work on is the negative self talk. I need to give myself more credit and appreciate my qualities. And finally love myself and my singleness ❤️
Thank you for sharing these tips, I have been practising self-love, self-parenting, self-validation. I always feel and practice gratefulness every day while I walk to work: Thank you for my body, my health, my freedom, my job, my loving family, my colleagues, loving friends, my house, opportunities, living and working in NYC. Still working with perfectionism and inner critic
Accidentally found this and couldn't have came at a better time. Narc abuse has destroyed my already compromised view of self. Thank you for reminding me who I truly am💜💜💜
You seem like you really care about helping people. It feels like listening to a friend - so sweet
Gratitude is a must💯💙🙏🏾 Thank God for the journey, the earnings are just a plus😌
I need to focus on my self talk, my eating and exercising and to stop comparing myself to other coaches 😅💜🙏🏼. Thanks Stephanie. New subscriber. Love your videos.
LOVE the self-awareness!!
God sent me to this channel. The SPIRIT of my angle , spoke this word too me." Be Grateful what you have . And then I was iead too your channel.
I'm currently working on self-care as a focus. What I mean by that is exercise, grooming, taking care of my things, personal business, keeping up on the news, & keeping in touch with family.
Perfect timing.. I needed this more than you could ever know! Thank you, Stephanie! So glad I found your videos. 💛
Gratitude is very important, but is obviously a difficult thing sometimes and will take time and patience. The self love I probably need right now is more time to myself to meditate, and more time with friends. We all get so caught up in our busy daily lives that we forget to stop and breath for a second. Thank you so much for your videos Stephanie 💗
I yearn for a true friend like you...you're an awesome woman Stephanie! Love your personality...God bless you..😇😇😇😇
Self-love thru prayer works best! Never underestimate the power of prayer cuz our God is an awesome God...pray, have faith, trust in God, be positive and God will do the rest..
This video,as well as all your other videos, have been so helpful on my journey to make myself a better person. Without saying, you are a beautiful person,and a very intelligent lady. Your videos are presented in such a down to earth manner, as if we are sitting down and you are talking to me one on one. Thank you for your help,and for being part of my life journey to self improvement. You are greatly appreciated as a person, and as a life coach. I look forward to your next video.Be well, take care.
I’m so glad!
I’m going through a divorce and you have helped me more than you know
How do you feel now this comment was a year ago hows your life I'm going through something similar
Practice meeting my needs first before others and complain less in tough situations.
I think the areas I need to focus on the most are my body (making healthier food choices and exercising regularly out doors) and positive affirmations.
A mentor of mine pointed out that I wasn't loving myself. When I asked her how she stated that I should ask God to show me the way. I started praying, meditating, googling, and of course RUclips searching. I learned that my diet and exercising had a major affect. I started a green juice fast to reset my body. Started working out 30 minutes 3-4 days a week. Changed my diet completely leaving out a lot of high sugar and saturated fat foods and imputing more greens. My mental health is improved. My thoughts don't seem as negative anymore and if they are I can recognize the pattern and let the thoughts go instead of perpetuating them. Now I'm understanding myself better that I like alone time and need a meditation session periodically to recharge myself. This video confirmed some ideas I have about self love and helped form new ones like comparing isn't good for growth if it's taken too far. Thanks for the good content.💕
I just love how honest you are, Steph! 😘
I need to work on positive self talk to boost my confidence.
Eating better, taking chances, and talking to people, stop the negative thoughts about myself, not being good enough, just to be good to me and take life easy. sometimes I feel everybody and everything gives me a hard time, for no reason.
I really enjoyed this! I identified so much with everything you said. Glad I found your channel! ❤️
Physical health, comparing myself, self parenting. You have helped me tremendously with your vids, thank you!
Feel like you are getting even more relaxing when making videos. Love your positive energy it makes me wanna just chill and laugh with you.
Great video! 😃👍🏼 thanks a ton for your time, effort and advice!
I know that I have to focus on:
1. Patience
2. Disengaging from non-constructive self-criticism
3. Stop comparing myself to an ideal self and others
4. Do more physical exercise
5. Monitor my thoughts
6. Practice gratitude
7. Stop being a perfectionist beyond reasonable limits
I am a student in physics and sometimes I succeed in a lesson and sometimes I need to learn, but that’s okay because I progress if I am open to learning new skills, concepts and lessons.
Thank you Stephanie!
Thank you for reminding me how important gratitude is! I can see how loosing my focus on it has been affecting many parts of my daily life and how I interact with others. Gonna fix that! I really need to work on self validation and telling myself it's ok to feel lonely, awkward, frustrated, etc. These are normal and healthy to experience when we're growing. They can be great cues to dive into what's going on inside my heart and head as well as what's going on around me and what I can do to change my heart, head, and situation so that I am free to shine on. ✨
What I need to work on is not attaching to my every thought and overthinking, but instead recognising them for what they are (fear and self-doubt, mostly). This video in particular will help me soooo much! Thank you, Stephanie - I've learned and continue to learn so much from you! 😘😘
Great talk! Setting boundaries is part of my life’s journey . I’m practicing self talk every day and that is so empowering to know your worth and value snd staying in the moment. Thanks Stephanie.
Hi Stephanie,av finally left my pychologicaly abusive husband of 8yrs with 2 kids,am a single mum now .it's been a little over a week,I have my moments when am down but am pushing forward,your videos are of great help to me, the thing that av embraced for my self love is waking up early and going jogging!thank you
Removing toxic relationships and filling life with healthy ones. Employers, government and family relations.
I relate to this particularly right now in this time. It's the season for Sobering up for a while. It's a litmus test as to whether one has decision power. Things are only difficult when one is wishy washy, but when you decide on something, you can do anything
Thanks, Stephanie!! Great timing! Really needed that.
I hear everything that you're saying in this video and it all makes sense...but i'm so trapped in my head at times, that regardless of how many times i replay this, i cannot seem to find a way to feel love for myself. I am always grateful, and i find joy when i'm able to be present in the moment, but so often, i allow my worth to be dictated by how others treat me. It's like i can't see myself :(
I think the first step (not sure if it applies to you) would be for someone to stop feeling guilty or sad because they go through these bad spells of low self worth. See it as something that happens, like a headache. Uou know it passes.
Also someone told me that self worth is meaningless, we pay too much attention to this concept and yet it cannot be measured, it cannot be demonstrated and it cannot be compared.
And lastly, sometimes internal change just happens out of the blue, as log as you keep focus on what we want to change with some effort.
This video is really good, I enjoyed listening to it :)
Having the courage to cultivate my skills and talents, learning to be my own best friend and enjoy my own company, unlearning the message that I need a partner to be fulfilled in life. Speaking to myself kindly, being my own best friend and giving MYSELF the benefit of the doubt rather than every body else. Learning to listen to my gut so that I start to learn whats good for me and what isn't, instead of saying "yes" to everything out of obligation/pleasing.
Love your topics for a long time and helped me a lot after my breakup to get myself back together and better than ever. Now I love your hair, great color for you!
Thank you for another great video. It's hard putting into words the impact of me coming into contact with you and the knowledge you've given me. You've opened a whole level of understanding that I knew was there but didn't know how to find it. Keep it up!! You are a blessing to me and many others. Thanks again❣
Love this ❤️
As someone with a disability, I always think about the fact that someone out there has it worse. Not to be happy with someone’s misery of course but grateful for what I do have and can do.
she is the cutest therapist on youtube do not argue with me
Right, I’m from a culture where greeting whilst looking each other in the eye was a usual thing. Here in the UK you either may end up in a fight or you have a potential partner when you look at someone. Absolutely differences in culture.
I wish I found you a long time ago. Thank you. You’re so helpful ☺️
I started self love one day ago by practising this few steps.....I will update you guys in a month. Remember you don't need someone calling you beautiful in order for you to feel beautiful.
I was looking for the subject on self-love, and after searching and watching for hours on youtube, you are the first one that is saying something with experience and know-how, all others are just regurgitating someone else's garbage.....thank you for your insight....!!
Perfection is a myth that keeps you striving and just a little disappointed in yourself and others, good enough is good enough!
Great video... needed this!! Thank you, Stephanie... loved how you started this with "gratefulness".What a wonderful reminder, especially, when you feel as if , "life" has been very hard, the last few months. So, thank you for all you do!! 💜💜
I had a year where I put so much focus into my career that I lost touch with my physical health. Now that I am getting back into the balance I am so upset that I let such a crucial part of self care go. It feels like I am starting over with my fitness journey. However I have to do it to get back to feeling like me. Great video! I love your perspective that self care is more than a bubble bath and a trip to the mall.
This video could not be more aptly timed. Be gracious, Express gratitude and bless the things you have been blessed with- not just the tangible acquisitions one has through life. I suspect if you're watching this channel patience, honesty, the desire to help others are all in us. Recognize these blessings and stop comparing your journey to anyone else's especially not your own envisioned one. Thank you Stephanie Lyn for reminding me on my own path to wellness.
💛💛💛happy is the goal ☺️
I really needed this video . Thank you so much !
I need to work on everything you said. Being a single mother of three really makes it hard to even think about but I need to make some changes. Thank you for this❤️
I need to work on my health and being more grateful what I have. I will start drinking more water, more healthy meals , and working out. I need to work on stop comparing myself to others and stop comparing others. I am me and people are themselves.
My weakest area in self love is not loving myself enough. I’m an unfortunate people pleaser so I’ve always been more focused on other people’s happiness before my own. Thanks to you, I’m working on that! Thank you!
I really appreciate all your videos there very helpful and I’ve been learning so much thanks ☺️
Sleeping on time, going for long walks, keeping friends only who really care and not the fake ones who are narcassists. Leaving whatsapp group and friends group which are bothering me.. I'm on my way.. I'm improving and I deserve this.. thanks for all your videos 😘❤
Definitely the self talk. Growing up I felt like my best was never good enough for my parents and I just realized through watching this video that I internalized a lot of that and now beat myself up emotionally too.
Thank you so much for your videos. I appreciate that you want to help people help themselves.
I appreciate your videos so much, it’s just crazy how the mind works. Your way of speaking helped me understand & I’m grateful for that ! ❤️
As for me, I've always been afraid to say no to people, and I often compare myself to others because I hate my flaws or worry about future problems. Lately, I have been listening to many lessons about self-love. First time here but I think i really needed your advice.
Stephanie, i love how you practice what you preach ABOUT self talk - cuz you said, "im a perfectionist AT TIMES" - you specified that it's only "at times" and it does NOT define you!! Thank you for being a beautiful example of surviving and THRIVING, girlfriend!
Journaling , quality time, creative outlets
Am I the first one commenting? I love your coaching Stephanie, you inspire me so much, ever since I started loving myself, the whole started loving me as well, I truly believe the law of attraction and the mirroring theory! Keep it up!
I have no idea how to control my thoughts. They most certainly control me and I don’t know how to just observe them and let them go. Instead I sit with them and play them in an endless loop throughout the day. So that is what I need help with for self love. ❤️
I allow others to control me. I am working on learning to say 'NO'. I like listening to your talks. I am going to work on my self daily.