Staying in a place where you're not valued truly hurts. You know when the subtle words come up and they try to fix it with apologies, you know when they keep hurting you with criticism. Feeling like walking on eggshells because today could be good but tomorrow something new comes up. When the last word is only theirs and your opinion is not important. You know it's not the right place when doing what they are doing to you to them would never be forgiven. You're watching this video for a reason, keep choosing yourself, time is so precious to be played by someone who lacks empathy disguised as love or connection. They will not change.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Thank you Jillian for this episode. I' m in such a situation, where I'm in the process of letting go of MR. Charming. The situation-ship was exactly as you've described. There is q grief I'm going through of loosing all the nice things and memories we've had together. But I'm moving on.
As a forty five year old black man, I have been in a relationship for 6 years, i put so much value into this relationship. I wasn't getting anything back. I've been very patient with her drinking under the fluence and she said that she would change. She won't drink no more, but her actions didn't align with her words. So I got to the point that I am Wash my hands and I told her I was done. I don't understand why it's so hard to find a value woman out in this world that I just wanted to treat like a treasure and get old with. I know there's one out there, and I will find out one particular person that god will recommend me. And I just found she's sleeping with my friend.
When you mentioned the worthiness part: have I been charging less for my services, I have been yes, but he has been the one telling me to raise my fees and not sell myself short. That’s the tricky part. He would encourage me in my job but gaslight me in other areas related to our relationship because he doesn’t want to feel some emotions.
I need to be on your show. The toxic relationship I had was one of the worst I ever had and hit rock bottom. 3yrs later after doing the work I realize now how this happened for me.
Thank you so so much Jillian. We are so helpless sometimes, it is a treasure you are offering us. I'm french and I hope your book will be translated...in french.
Omg!! Matthew is an absolute fave of mine! This is going to be awesome! I’ll have to get your book ❤ This really resonated with me thinking about past relationships. One of them I was happy to part ways, the other one I was blindsided and discarded worst heartbreak of my life, maybe because it was rejection but also because he was the one I had the most connection and love with. Later I found out he has avoidant attachment and I became an anxious attachment so letting go was very hard. I finally detached and we did no contact, I did so much healing but now we’re talking and trying to be friends. I’m being cautious though and taking baby steps, there is no romantic feelings though and we live long distance so we won’t be seeing each other irl but it does feel nice that we can still keep in touch I just don’t want to get attached again and then discarded again.
The sick game I’m playing is seeking validation/closure from a person who rejected and betrayed me after 8 years of being together. I don’t know how to be honest with myself in these intense emotions or how to appreciate them to let them go.. I have already lost 😒 at the same time, I have made it known I don’t trust them anymore but I subtly show that I am emotionally dependent on them. Get me off this ride 🥴
🌈☀️ Very well said ! No holes in any of this. I enjoy sharing a variety of your content and videos with people of all kinds some couples that really need healthy guidance and other individuals that are single but could truly use some healthy preventive guidance. Paying it forward. You're a wise person from experiences with a sharp mind and kind heart ❤ !! I do believe you practice being authentic and are on a very healthy path ! Thanks for sharing your gift and experience with everyone ❤ . It would be a pleasure to meet you one day 🙂 ! Have an Awesome week Jillian !
Man, I'm going to put myself out there, I'm 45 years old, black male, very humble and spiritual looking for the same clone that respects me and values me in a relationship, I will bend over backwards for my queen to support as long they reciprocate the same.
In my case, I don’t believe it’s okay that they treat me like this. I feel like I love and respect myself enough and I always stand up for myself. So I believe it’s because of my feel-good hormones that tend to go high around them when they are kind and somewhat loving and paying attention to me (when they are warm) it raises my feelings for them. I loose respect toward them when they switch to cold and dismissive… If it wasn’t for the hot before the cold, I would let go earlier. Granted, I usually let go after few months max but that’s still too long
@ Yes and I also simply fell in love with the good parts in the person. And that’s what I miss the most. I miss the good memories we had. The meals he made me, the hot cocoa afternoon breaks we had, the walks and long talks we had, etc etc. So it is not only an addiction it’s also developing feelings towards their good sides. That’s why it’s hard to let go.
Prioritize the character YES 🙌🏼 « Low character (actions rarely match their words, they presents as very normal very cool people, it’s always the other person’s fault, doesn’t treat you or people with respect…) = emotionally unsafe »
Staying in a place where you're not valued truly hurts. You know when the subtle words come up and they try to fix it with apologies, you know when they keep hurting you with criticism. Feeling like walking on eggshells because today could be good but tomorrow something new comes up. When the last word is only theirs and your opinion is not important. You know it's not the right place when doing what they are doing to you to them would never be forgiven. You're watching this video for a reason, keep choosing yourself, time is so precious to be played by someone who lacks empathy disguised as love or connection. They will not change.
Thank you for this comment! I agree, keep choosing yourself. They won't change.
Healing begins when you are able to say: « I understand my role in all this »
When I AM confused and im limbo is a Red flag🎉🎉🎉
@@katarzynalindner594 Yes 🙌🏼🎯
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Omg congratulations on working with Matthew! 🥳
Thank you Jillian for this episode. I' m in such a situation, where I'm in the process of letting go of MR. Charming. The situation-ship was exactly as you've described. There is q grief I'm going through of loosing all the nice things and memories we've had together. But I'm moving on.
As a forty five year old black man, I have been in a relationship for 6 years, i put so much value into this relationship. I wasn't getting anything back. I've been very patient with her drinking under the fluence and she said that she would change. She won't drink no more, but her actions didn't align with her words. So I got to the point that I am Wash my hands and I told her I was done. I don't understand why it's so hard to find a value woman out in this world that I just wanted to treat like a treasure and get old with. I know there's one out there, and I will find out one particular person that god will recommend me. And I just found she's sleeping with my friend.
When you mentioned the worthiness part: have I been charging less for my services, I have been yes, but he has been the one telling me to raise my fees and not sell myself short. That’s the tricky part. He would encourage me in my job but gaslight me in other areas related to our relationship because he doesn’t want to feel some emotions.
I need to be on your show. The toxic relationship I had was one of the worst I ever had and hit rock bottom. 3yrs later after doing the work I realize now how this happened for me.
Thank you so so much Jillian. We are so helpless sometimes, it is a treasure you are offering us. I'm french and I hope your book will be translated...in french.
26:15 and etc. Absolutely gorgeous 👏👏Absolutely true🙏 Thank you so much ❤️
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OMG that is so precious Jillian on love! Thank you the universe is so much better with your wisdom!
I appreciate you!
Thank you, Jillian. Absolutely wonderful. I feel grateful I found you this year. Thank you for all you do
I'm so grateful for you too. 💕
Your videos are so amazing I’m so happy for you
Omg!! Matthew is an absolute fave of mine! This is going to be awesome! I’ll have to get your book ❤ This really resonated with me thinking about past relationships. One of them I was happy to part ways, the other one I was blindsided and discarded worst heartbreak of my life, maybe because it was rejection but also because he was the one I had the most connection and love with. Later I found out he has avoidant attachment and I became an anxious attachment so letting go was very hard. I finally detached and we did no contact, I did so much healing but now we’re talking and trying to be friends. I’m being cautious though and taking baby steps, there is no romantic feelings though and we live long distance so we won’t be seeing each other irl but it does feel nice that we can still keep in touch I just don’t want to get attached again and then discarded again.
I relate so much to your story
Thank you😌🙏❤
The sick game I’m playing is seeking validation/closure from a person who rejected and betrayed me after 8 years of being together. I don’t know how to be honest with myself in these intense emotions or how to appreciate them to let them go.. I have already lost 😒 at the same time, I have made it known I don’t trust them anymore but I subtly show that I am emotionally dependent on them. Get me off this ride 🥴
Sending a huge hug 🤍
Sometimes what you are addicted is not the person but the dinamic itself.
Your videos are really helping me so much. Thank you for all of your help🙏🏽
You're so welcome! 🙏
Thank you so much! I felt like you were talking to me
You're so welcome! 💕
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Very well said !
No holes in any of this. I enjoy sharing a variety of your content and videos with people of all kinds some couples that really need healthy guidance and other individuals that are single but could truly use some healthy preventive guidance. Paying it forward. You're a wise person from experiences with a sharp mind and kind heart ❤ !!
I do believe you practice being authentic and are on a very healthy path !
Thanks for sharing your gift and experience with everyone ❤ .
It would be a pleasure to meet you one day 🙂 !
Have an Awesome week Jillian !
Thank you for sharing my work! I'm so glad it's helping others.
so on point…i’ve listened to this three times ..❤
Wow, thank you for the support :)
Man, I'm going to put myself out there, I'm 45 years old, black male, very humble and spiritual looking for the same clone that respects me and values me in a relationship, I will bend over backwards for my queen to support as long they reciprocate the same.
Super🎉
In my case, I don’t believe it’s okay that they treat me like this. I feel like I love and respect myself enough and I always stand up for myself. So I believe it’s because of my feel-good hormones that tend to go high around them when they are kind and somewhat loving and paying attention to me (when they are warm) it raises my feelings for them. I loose respect toward them when they switch to cold and dismissive…
If it wasn’t for the hot before the cold, I would let go earlier. Granted, I usually let go after few months max but that’s still too long
You arę addicted to the dynamic, not the person itself.
@ Yes and I also simply fell in love with the good parts in the person. And that’s what I miss the most. I miss the good memories we had. The meals he made me, the hot cocoa afternoon breaks we had, the walks and long talks we had, etc etc. So it is not only an addiction it’s also developing feelings towards their good sides. That’s why it’s hard to let go.
@@ceciliamac4283true, nobody is totally good or totally bad
What if we are trapped in a toxic, unfulfilling relationship, but are completely fulfilled in all other aspects of our life?
Prioritize the character YES 🙌🏼
« Low character (actions rarely match their words, they presents as very normal very cool people, it’s always the other person’s fault, doesn’t treat you or people with respect…) = emotionally unsafe »
Yeah I we need to make sure we know the difference between qualities and character. Someone may have good qualities but have low character.
@ a hundred percent
It’s key 🤍
Where will the event be? I really want to come 🤍