i grew up being the cringy kid and it end up to me hiding my passions, now i try to not care if it's cringy or not, i'll just do it because it's fun and i'm enjoy it ! and i'm so happy that i realised that
You are lucky if this works for you. I'm 45 years old, I've done a lot of work in myself and I still struggle enormously with shame because in my case it's a trauma response that hijacks my body in a sense (I have CPTSD). There's a problem for regulating emotions which implies that I can't talk myself out of an unpleasant feeling. When a trigger happens, the neocortex (logical thinking brain) gets impaired and no matter what I say to myself in order to rationalize the situation, it won't work because I am in fight or flight mode. In those cases, what you have to do is use bottom up techniques to go back to a parasympathetic state (rest, social mode), calm your body in order to calm your mind and it's not always easy . Still in my healing journey. I like your videos though, I can relate to you. Keep doing what you're doing. Good luck in your projects.
literally just had this thought a few days ago. i'm a law student and look up to a lot of older law students and they just keep rejecting me -- and i realised it hurts too much to even care anymore. love the vid and perf timing for me hehe
whoa I wonder why, that sounds really mean, I’m sure you didn’t deserve that. I’m also sure there’s an older person who would be happy to mentor you or just be a friend 😭
today I felt so embarrassed I wanted to scream and just disappear but then I remembered this video and it just saved me and made me calm again. I loved your thought about "that's a you problem not a me problem", it helped a lot and I am really thankful you told us about it!!
I can relate to a lot of things you said . It was an incident of last year that i discovered that made me think that I might have some mental health related problems. When i used to wake up in the morning i used to feel really uneasy almost felt like puking when i used to go to school and my thoughts would trigger tht feeling more didn't know what that whole episode was but I indeed experienced mental uneasiness during tht point in my life. Whenever i used to go out it felt people sre just looking at me and thy are judging almost everything i am doing. It just to make me feel really uncomfortable and ruined my peace. This almost used to happen allmost daily basis when I was in school. I really prefer less people around and being alone with myself doing stuff. During this phase i also had some other things happening in my life. something which made my situation worse . I tried to act strong but that chunk of weakness was still embedded within. I have started going to college now i am in a better mental state these days . Trying to work on myself and yes the your last point ia absolutely relatable when you haven't even done something really wrong or nefarious deeds you still feel that crippling emotions and that realisation in itself leaves me speechless.
I know all of those feelings too well and being in therapy really helped me out with that ! I still struggle with insomnia but for the most part it’s so much better these days. I think being in college also helped a lot !
This is so PROFOUND and something that has held me back for a long time in my life. I had to do a lot of spiritual and personal development work to catch myself in the moment to ask myself, “ where are these feelings coming from “ because in my head I would say “F these people…” but I would still stay silent or stop myself from doing something I felt moved to do. For me, it was ultimately a self worth and confidence issue. I’ve finally come to a place where I love and value myself and I know how wonderful, dynamic and amazing I truly am. So now, when I encounter situations where I feel I could be judged or get fearful of it, if I say or do something wrong, I do it anyway and to be honest I’ve found that people appreciate hearing a different perspective or perhaps they share the same sentiments, or maybe they think I’m just silly but either way, I am confident and sure of myself and open to be vulnerable and give myself grace if I do “mess up” or I’m wrong. Life is a journey and we are all learning, and if I mess up or I am wrong, I’ll know better next time and do better. For me it’s about taking that data (feeling the fear and asking myself “why”, understanding where the feelings are coming from and working through that) making better decisions and growing. It has really helped me heal some childhood wounds and understand myself much better.
You are such on a good divine path you’re on. That I feel like you’re meant to be. You’re helping us in more ways than you think. I have been wanting to start a RUclips channel for 3 years now. I even ended up buying the equipment + planned out my content everything!!! And because of embarrassment and how I feel like people would perceive/view me, it’s really ended that I didn’t take no action at all. 4 years later now I’m still thinking about it but can’t push myself too. Maybe one day I will pick up the nerve and go for it. But your videos and character shows me it’s okay we can do this we just need to do it and believe. And you got this as well, you are amazing and beautiful and sooo happy that you’re sharing with us. If anything I appreciate you very much and I appreciate your content very much too. I am very grateful to have found your channel 🙏🏻🖤🖤
i grew up being the cringy kid and it end up to me hiding my passions, now i try to not care if it's cringy or not, i'll just do it because it's fun and i'm enjoy it ! and i'm so happy that i realised that
You are lucky if this works for you. I'm 45 years old, I've done a lot of work in myself and I still struggle enormously with shame because in my case it's a trauma response that hijacks my body in a sense (I have CPTSD). There's a problem for regulating emotions which implies that I can't talk myself out of an unpleasant feeling. When a trigger happens, the neocortex (logical thinking brain) gets impaired and no matter what I say to myself in order to rationalize the situation, it won't work because I am in fight or flight mode. In those cases, what you have to do is use bottom up techniques to go back to a parasympathetic state (rest, social mode), calm your body in order to calm your mind and it's not always easy . Still in my healing journey.
I like your videos though, I can relate to you. Keep doing what you're doing. Good luck in your projects.
I really love you and you always help me
I feel the same thing .
Thank you
I remembered all the humiliating situations. I think of them with gratitude. They gave me strength. Since I survived them, I can handle anything. :)
Real 🙏🏻😂
I've never thought about that this way!!
Your voice is very soothing
literally just had this thought a few days ago. i'm a law student and look up to a lot of older law students and they just keep rejecting me -- and i realised it hurts too much to even care anymore. love the vid and perf timing for me hehe
whoa I wonder why, that sounds really mean, I’m sure you didn’t deserve that. I’m also sure there’s an older person who would be happy to mentor you or just be a friend 😭
today I felt so embarrassed I wanted to scream and just disappear but then I remembered this video and it just saved me and made me calm again.
I loved your thought about "that's a you problem not a me problem", it helped a lot and I am really thankful you told us about it!!
I can relate to a lot of things you said . It was an incident of last year that i discovered that made me think that I might have some mental health related problems. When i used to wake up in the morning i used to feel really uneasy almost felt like puking when i used to go to school and my thoughts would trigger tht feeling more didn't know what that whole episode was but I indeed experienced mental uneasiness during tht point in my life. Whenever i used to go out it felt people sre just looking at me and thy are judging almost everything i am doing. It just to make me feel really uncomfortable and ruined my peace. This almost used to happen allmost daily basis when I was in school. I really prefer less people around and being alone with myself doing stuff.
During this phase i also had some other things happening in my life. something which made my situation worse . I tried to act strong but that chunk of weakness was still embedded within.
I have started going to college now i am in a better mental state these days . Trying to work on myself and yes the your last point ia absolutely relatable when you haven't even done something really wrong or nefarious deeds you still feel that crippling emotions and that realisation in itself leaves me speechless.
I know all of those feelings too well and being in therapy really helped me out with that ! I still struggle with insomnia but for the most part it’s so much better these days. I think being in college also helped a lot !
This is so PROFOUND and something that has held me back for a long time in my life. I had to do a lot of spiritual and personal development work to catch myself in the moment to ask myself, “ where are these feelings coming from “ because in my head I would say “F these people…” but I would still stay silent or stop myself from doing something I felt moved to do. For me, it was ultimately a self worth and confidence issue. I’ve finally come to a place where I love and value myself and I know how wonderful, dynamic and amazing I truly am. So now, when I encounter situations where I feel I could be judged or get fearful of it, if I say or do something wrong, I do it anyway and to be honest I’ve found that people appreciate hearing a different perspective or perhaps they share the same sentiments, or maybe they think I’m just silly but either way, I am confident and sure of myself and open to be vulnerable and give myself grace if I do “mess up” or I’m wrong. Life is a journey and we are all learning, and if I mess up or I am wrong, I’ll know better next time and do better. For me it’s about taking that data (feeling the fear and asking myself “why”, understanding where the feelings are coming from and working through that) making better decisions and growing. It has really helped me heal some childhood wounds and understand myself much better.
what a beautiful mindset 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
You are such on a good divine path you’re on. That I feel like you’re meant to be.
You’re helping us in more ways than you think.
I have been wanting to start a RUclips channel for 3 years now. I even ended up buying the equipment + planned out my content everything!!!
And because of embarrassment and how I feel like people would perceive/view me, it’s really ended that I didn’t take no action at all.
4 years later now I’m still thinking about it but can’t push myself too.
Maybe one day I will pick up the nerve and go for it.
But your videos and character shows me it’s okay we can do this we just need to do it and believe.
And you got this as well, you are amazing and beautiful and sooo happy that you’re sharing with us.
If anything I appreciate you very much and I appreciate your content very much too. I am very grateful to have found your channel 🙏🏻🖤🖤
My exact thoughts 😔
🫶🏻 ty for the first comment !!
ok mom. im gonna go back to school ;) fresh sub here.
lmao that’s so cute
waiting for a new video😢❤
I’m so overwhelmed with school and work but I’ve been working on a script for like a month now 🥹
glad to hear❤✨