I mean sometimes you might get lucky sometime the woman had the kid early made me High School birthday to my the mouth when you workout or if the mom was the grandma and the Big Daddy at the same time if the mother is helping her with her child do you got to see what type of family the woman' come from the guy tells you what type of living situation and live in me I don't know if nobody off living on government assistance but most of times Will Smith family dependent dependent off the system and Benefit office
I don't advise younger women being step-moms. You have the world ahead of you. Don't put your life on hold for baby daddies. If you're older, that's a different story because chances are, older women may have a child themselves.
Who wants to willingly sign up to be in the backseat. Its a great way to diminish your self esteem. It is about balance. No one in any relationship should feel like they are always put on the backburner, its very hurtful. Thats why there are a lot of divorces as as soon as kids enter the picture spouses usually get neglected + people get fed up.
Separate your new woman from your kids mother. Keep kids in there place. Be a man, a leader, a symbol of authority. No one should have to love under those circumstances
My current man made the mistake of bringing his last girlfriend around his ex and she caused her to leave. The girlfriend had a toddler and he had 3 kids and they thought celebrating a birthday all together was a good idea 😆. I would have had two separate birthdays instead of risking separating the relationship, but this was a few years ago. His ex was 42 and his new girl was 28 and he was 33...that ex ain't no joke...but I'm 44 and I know a bit more than them youngins. I've been seeing him the last 2 years now on and off and last week he introduced his 13 year old daughter to me. His ex is gonna flip a top because she thought she had succeeded getting rid of me. Nah...I never wanted to be involved with his family...why you think he's running off all the time to come to me? To have some frickin peace for once 😆
Is the problem with the guy with no kids yet that's a good thing what I believe if both people don't have no kids this is at least take the time to get know each other because of a little bit take a look kind of sling for like the first we must listen to find out what she went through her childhood you find it won't do it both of y'all find out if each other and y'all take that time you have built you know ask you to marry send a little bonding at the woman to pull up on RUclips
You pointed out all the main factors to consider. With all that being said, why would any childless woman date or marry a man with kids? Even if they were had in marriage, it is still the same issues. You will never have that man to yourself. I am getting close to my 30's and I still refuse to marry a man with children, because I don't have any. I want my weekends free with my man & I want all his money to stay in our household lol..I work full time, but when I have kids I will need time off work to care for the kids & I need his income to do that lol.. Man is the provider so if you marry a man who has to provide for another family, you will struggle financially unless he is one of the few brothers who make a six figure income. It is not ideal for a childless person to date someone with kids.
Vona Syeh Dwayne Wade is an exception. He’s a millionaire. That’s why I said unless he’s one of the few brothers that make six figures or more, you’ll be broke.
This is some what true but not totally. My husband did not play that shit with my step daughter mother. He kept her in check and he always put me as a priority.
If you dont mind me asking how did he do that while keeping the peace? Or did it cause drama but he didn’t let it phase the relationship? Most baby mamas equate making the wife a priority means a priority over everything else and cause problems. I was wondering how it went for you.
Healthy boundaries can always save a relationship and even in coparenting there's so many negative opinions on dating man with kids but I am happy with mine because I love him I don't know it's really that simple sometimes people are meant to be together and that's okay but why stop two people from being in love because of the past??? If he's taking care of his kids none of that should matter
Dont date a guy with kids if you don't have any... especially if the children are very young. A lot of these guys talk down on the mother of their child but will get back with her or sleep with her if she lets him. Do not date a guy who you know doesn't take care of his children because if he gets you pregnant you will go through the same things. Yes people change...but don't ignore the cues and the signs
I talked to a guy online who was a divorced single dad of 3 kids. He lived almost an hour away from me and so he decided to pull the plug because of how far we lived with each other. He did mention that him and his ex were kind of at wits end at each other because he didn’t have a consistent work schedule because he worked at a warehouse but she was a real estate agent so of course she had more flexibility in terms of her work hours. I guess I did dodge a bullet! I do also get attached to kids very quick too and one of my friends actually said hey it coulda been worse because you coulda gotten really attached and invested in his kids and it woulda hurt not just you but his kids too and of course him.
Ladies you don't have to put up with this get yourself a man who doesn't have kids or a man who's kids are grown and gone. You will have to think about grandkids though.
Oh yes the grandkids. I’ve been there trust me it does not end when they’re grown and out of the house. They’re always wanting daddy to babysit and of course he’s gonna want to spend time with his grandchildren that’s only natural. But it’s not wrong if you personally choose not to date somebody with children. That’s your personal right. Like men don’t wanna date fat girls some men it’s the same thing we don’t want to date single fathers. Because you never truly get your own time. My entire marriage revolved around his children and then one grandchild and I had to get out of there. I’m child free. I’m very close with my niece and nephew but it’s different that way. They go home with my sister. I’ve been single for a very long time because I just can’t do the kid thing. I’ve tried it several times and it always ends up the same... every time. There are a lot of men out there without children and I’m waiting for God to bring that man to my life. I’ve spent my whole life stepping aside for other people constantly it’s about time I think about myself for once. I was in a deep depression in that marriage. They didn’t mind taking my money but yet I had all these rules I had to follow in my own house from the baby mama.
Take care of ur kids by yourself; keep ur drama leave single women alone. it’s just not worth it with these situations. But they won’t tell you until you’re emotionally invested or timewise invested. Stay away from these types!! Lazy liars.
Most of the time those guys are still in love with their baby momma and drag innocent women into their bullshit drama. Those guys need to marry their baby momma and leave single women alone. Baby daddies ain't shit and nothing but drama.
He said he'd do anything to be close to he's done which means allowing baby mama do whatever she wants as long as it doesn't ruin he's relationship with his son
In my situation the BM who is 8 years older than me wanted me to help him (the father) pay her more money because he wasnt able to pay her what she wanted. I laughed so hard at that. She didnt get anything from me and never will.
Sometimes it works. And a woman may find true love with a single father and fall in love with the kids too. Anything is possible and different people are just that, different. I dated a man who has three kids. The kids didn’t live with him but I was always second place. He would go see them during the summer and couldn’t take off for a trip with me. He would leave to go see them for Christmas. He would buy them birthday gifts but didn’t want to buy me one. I had to hear about them all the time and that’s fine, I love children and I would ask how they were doing. When he would speak I would see the happiness in his eyes, I rarely saw otherwise. He would get in bad moods talking to his ex wife and than sulk the rest of the day. The issues continue on and on, but I regret it. I moved in more as a roommate and we became a couple, I wish I had kept it moving.
Everyone deserve to be loved have children or not..if you're happy with him and you don't want to leave him then go with him... So happy for you then... But think the future... It's either he will leave you or stay with you... So before you make a choice think it thousand times and prepare what will be the consequence of your choice...that's it... It's all depend on you..well Godbless to both of you....
I'm seeing one with 3 kids and it's pretty much the same, but I have my own life and goals so the time apart is the time I get my stuff done. We never talk or mention his ex ever because I'm not about to go there. Once he steps into my house it's me and him time so if he has any issues with her he needs to work them out in his own time, not on my time. I'm not even official cause his ex is just that petty. They're Facebook official because they have a huge extended family and friends and they want to keep up appearances for the kids I guess. This has been this way 2 years. Last week he introduced me to his 13 year old daughter and I advised against it because his ex knows my name and thought she was able to keep me out of the picture when he told his family about me 2 years ago. Well, I guess we'll see how this turns out. They got divorced 6 years ago and I guess she thought he would marry her again...I don't even want to get married cause I don't need no legal mess with childsupport or anything else. My Facebook status is still single as a Pringle 😆
Run far away this is a disaster from the beginning it's horrible I think it's better to be single atleast I wont have to deal with drama I got my own problems
The video I'm looking for is "signs you are dating a deadbeat dad". Men can be very good at hiding the fact they don't do shit for their kids and I'm really not trying to entertain any man like that. Any suggestions or advice would be great 👍
If he has kids but spends all his time with you deadbeat dad! Separate yourself from him so he has no choice but to see his children ! Check in when he claims to be with his children “proof”. Doesn’t know their age or borndates 🚩. Blames him not being a father on the child’s mother 🚩
SunKissNicole Run sis... you will always be secondary to his baby moms. And he will sleep with her at some point. And when comes time to chose he will always be loyal to her. Been there and know a lot of people that have been there too and it never fails... sorry to be a downer but what she is saying is very true
Lmaoooo think dating men with children try a woman with kids... WAYYYY WORST! . Women only have to deal with his kids sometimes men have to deal with other women children ALL THE TIME!
Rashad Micheal Not really. I only have one but she’s in daycare during the week and I spend time with her on the weekends. Plus if I date, a man doesn’t see my kid for a bit.
Funny seeing such comments, although "women" don't seem to have the same energy with men, I watched facts about dating a baby mother and it's basically reverse as if men are obligated to take on a womans responsibilities, and if they don't they are immature or not "real men" and to top it off they need to also provide all whilst experiencing the same things you speak about in this video how feminism works lovely.
Lmao please, for every “don’t date single dads” video there’s at least twenty about how single moms are trash. Also, it’s only men who say single dads should date childless women, but not the other way around. Women usually say single parents should date each other.
Toya Marie no one follows it anymore either. They want to make their own rules and then expect God to bless them with a life without no drama or no consequences. Its hard to follow this order with kids from previous relationships and a baby mama.
How do u put God first? What exactly would you do? Feed god first....play with god first..spend more time with god than ur children? How does this work???? Smh
What should i do. I just want to date this guy and not have anything to do with his kids and family because of problems with the kids mom and his mom. Im a lot older than him but he said if i don't be with his kids and family no more us
Eh, leave. If he wants to rope you in, chances are he wants you to be his personal nanny to his kids. If he didn’t want that, he wouldn’t mind keeping it casual with you.
Ok but let say the scenario baby mother & child overseas and he has 3 years without seeing her, he communicate with his son through his mom so they hardly talk and if they do only through fb my biggest fear is when they see each other after all these years old feelings will rekindle, out of insecurity i ask him to get my name tatted and he did i dont have children so sometimes i do question if it even worth staying even though he treat me like a queen never show me any doubt
You were very biased with this video. You basically presented this video as a deterrent. But you made the baby mama video as a pitch. In order words you were warning against baby fathers in this while selling baby mommas on the other. Keep the energy the same. Both should avoid single people. Single people should avoid both.
My fiance had two kids with his ex wife...which in my situation it's good coz it's a court thing he see the kids by someone bringing them to an environment and he spend 2hours or so with them most times I go with him if I don't have work he see them ones a month r depends on his schedule...now I'm pregnant with my first child and we live together so our baby gonna get lots of attention maybe his kids will be jealous of our baby but when that bridge come we will cross it😃
I knew my boyfriend for a long time we grew up around the sam e neighborhood even though he is older than me but my boyfriend was in a long term relationship with his babymom and has 2 children by her in the beginning I thought he was going to go back to her but we started dating which feb. 2nd, we spent damn near everyday together it was rocky kind of in the beginning because she complained about money then next thing you know he was hit with child support, at first I straight up asked him if he wanted to go back home because sometimes once things start getting heated guys cant take it but he said no so we countiuned doing us, his babymom did start stalking me also lol but we are 5 mos strong , I didn't get a chance to meet his children or anything yet
I have a child myself . I dated a baby dad before cause I have a child myself so why not and I will never do it again ! Only a truly single man I want. yes I come with a child ,idc. these are my standards and that’s it . If I wanted a polygamist relationship I would have one . I don’t come with baby daddy drama so why should I tolerate baby mama drama for
You still have standards even after a child? You want a childless man to choose you over countless of other childless women while u can't be with a single dad...Good luck with that!!!😂😂
@@journee8724 Why can't she have standards.... So she should lower herself because she has ONE child. Childless women are not the only one that are allowed to have standards. If she doesn't keep her standards she's going to find herself a single mom of two, three kids next. You are dumb. 1.) She just said that she doesn't come with baby daddy drama so I'm guessing she's doing it 100% on her own and not co-parenting with anyone why should she have to watch her BF going to another womans house to play house with their child when she's not doing that with the man of HER child? That's not even equal. Even if the single father were to marry her she would still have to watch her husband spilt his time between two homes. How is that fair if she's not spilting her time between two homes and co-patenting. Two single parents who are both co-parenting is equal dynamic not one parent co-parenting and the other one is not... It leads to resentment and anger. 2.) My single mom friends of ONE child all got married to men with no children...bought a house and now are expanding their families. Two of them are now stay at home mothers. Their husbands make good money. Everyone is under ONE roof and no one is co-parenting and going to another persons house to play house or sleep with and ex. I think that's why the original commentor said she doesn't want a single dad and she's allowed to have that.
@@edithnotime4losers295 she should have “standards” in that she should be looking for a decent SINGLE DAD. No, she has no value as partner to a childless man, even though she doesn’t have a baby daddy in the picture. She needs to stick with someone equally yoked
Im 19,my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years we than broke up.and got back together and during that time when we were apart he got a girl preg so im now a step mom at the age of 19.
Get away! You deserve so much better! You’ll always be an outsider. I wouldn’t even think about going back in those conditions. People just have kids willy nilly. You’re life will be all about that baby and the mother. They never lose connection. And if they are adults you’ll be helping raising the grandchildren. It doesn’t end and it will never be just about your time together. I’ve been there personally it made me so depressed don’t make my mistake.
I never had a baby mom the first thing before I make over my baby mama now I'll look at what kind of family come from a family history of coming back on see the history of how many men in a woman the family Ben with how many how many baby daddies have to have two three baby daddies Iraq flag
I fathered *5 children* of my own. My wife *gave birth to 7 children* all together which include her first 2 children. BTW, I made my step-children real dad's life a living hell all the way to his grave. As a stronger man mentally and physically, I basically bullied him. I think I was a little bit wrong for that.
So you had no kids and married a woman with 2 kids? Then you spent a lifetime being jealous of her baby daddy. How foolish. You must not have had better options. What a sucker you were. Your wife was lucky to find a sucker like you. You did lose in life & don't understand the concept of legacy.
Ladies just remember the chances of you becoming a single mom is high and when you become 30 and up the chances of you meeting a man that does not has kids is extremely low. single dads don't want a baby sitter, a new mommy for our children, a second paycheck, or any help with our kids. we been doing it on our own for a minute. we got this. we cook clean, homework, work, and have time to do want we want. Also it is 2020, you should have your own damn money and he shouldn't have to be spending money on you. hell even with out kids a man shouldn't be forced to spend his money on you unless he wants to. Get a damn job buy your own damn shit. we want a woman in our life but we sure as hell do not need one.
If you feel she should have her own money to spend on herself and you shouldn't have to, you don't need to have a woman because you obviously don't want to provide for her while you play with her reproductive organs and risk getting her pregnant therein having two baby mamas that you cannot afford. Reading what you just wrote is a warning sign to women not to get involved with someone like you. You should go be with your baby's mama.
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I feel like a woman without kids should not date a man with a kid or children.
Tijera Slack facts
Yes! Start on a fresh page with a man
Agreed
I mean sometimes you might get lucky sometime the woman had the kid early made me High School birthday to my the mouth when you workout or if the mom was the grandma and the Big Daddy at the same time if the mother is helping her with her child do you got to see what type of family the woman' come from the guy tells you what type of living situation and live in me I don't know if nobody off living on government assistance but most of times Will Smith family dependent dependent off the system and Benefit office
I don't agree 😊
Been there, done that. And never ever ever ever ever ever ever again.
ME TOO!
I don't advise younger women being step-moms. You have the world ahead of you. Don't put your life on hold for baby daddies. If you're older, that's a different story because chances are, older women may have a child themselves.
Miss Jay Leigh Too young
@KiddRogers I'm in a 30 year marriage which includes 7 children (3 college graduates). They're all grown now of course.
Depends
Absolutely
You definitely will get bored with hearing about dude kids and ole girl...smh & ole girl does become some weird ass stalker
😂😂😂😂 yes facts!
Who wants to willingly sign up to be in the backseat. Its a great way to diminish your self esteem. It is about balance. No one in any relationship should feel like they are always put on the backburner, its very hurtful. Thats why there are a lot of divorces as as soon as kids enter the picture spouses usually get neglected + people get fed up.
Separate your new woman from your kids mother. Keep kids in there place. Be a man, a leader, a symbol of authority. No one should have to love under those circumstances
Now that is the truth. Every man should do that
My current man made the mistake of bringing his last girlfriend around his ex and she caused her to leave.
The girlfriend had a toddler and he had 3 kids and they thought celebrating a birthday all together was a good idea 😆.
I would have had two separate birthdays instead of risking separating the relationship, but this was a few years ago.
His ex was 42 and his new girl was 28 and he was 33...that ex ain't no joke...but I'm 44 and I know a bit more than them youngins.
I've been seeing him the last 2 years now on and off and last week he introduced his 13 year old daughter to me.
His ex is gonna flip a top because she thought she had succeeded getting rid of me.
Nah...I never wanted to be involved with his family...why you think he's running off all the time to come to me? To have some frickin peace for once 😆
@aqua6613 so he's running to you for refuge, and how does he add to or improve your life?
I want a guy that has no kids.
Salena Culpepper I feel like I can’t find anyone with kids that is a decent match with me.
Well good luck with that
@@lordreyna6924 it's so hard
Is the problem with the guy with no kids yet that's a good thing what I believe if both people don't have no kids this is at least take the time to get know each other because of a little bit take a look kind of sling for like the first we must listen to find out what she went through her childhood you find it won't do it both of y'all find out if each other and y'all take that time you have built you know ask you to marry send a little bonding at the woman to pull up on RUclips
@KiddRogers is hard enough it's hard enough we deal with a woman that have a kid already past too much emotions and she bangs baggage
just had my first run in with dating a “baby daddy” never doing that to myself again. 👋🏾
ME TOO!
Me too. It was terrible🙈
Yup fuck that !
@@mileyroe4877 woow,girl why!plz help a girl out
Same here
You forgot that he may wake up one day & come to the “CHEAPER TO KEEP HER REALIZATION”
LOL
You pointed out all the main factors to consider. With all that being said, why would any childless woman date or marry a man with kids? Even if they were had in marriage, it is still the same issues. You will never have that man to yourself. I am getting close to my 30's and I still refuse to marry a man with children, because I don't have any. I want my weekends free with my man & I want all his money to stay in our household lol..I work full time, but when I have kids I will need time off work to care for the kids & I need his income to do that lol.. Man is the provider so if you marry a man who has to provide for another family, you will struggle financially unless he is one of the few brothers who make a six figure income. It is not ideal for a childless person to date someone with kids.
misscamara12 That part! 👏🏾
Learned this the hard way and became a mother.
misscamara12 Idk ask Gabriel Union 🤷🏾♀️
Vona Syeh Dwayne Wade is an exception. He’s a millionaire. That’s why I said unless he’s one of the few brothers that make six figures or more, you’ll be broke.
KiddRogers Exactly. Thank you
You are what we call leadership
This is some what true but not totally. My husband did not play that shit with my step daughter mother. He kept her in check and he always put me as a priority.
If you dont mind me asking how did he do that while keeping the peace? Or did it cause drama but he didn’t let it phase the relationship? Most baby mamas equate making the wife a priority means a priority over everything else and cause problems. I was wondering how it went for you.
@@Spokentruths725 Im wondering the same right now
Youre an exception
Healthy boundaries can always save a relationship and even in coparenting there's so many negative opinions on dating man with kids but I am happy with mine because I love him I don't know it's really that simple sometimes people are meant to be together and that's okay but why stop two people from being in love because of the past??? If he's taking care of his kids none of that should matter
@@camilee0797I’m struggling so hard to be like you or have your mindset or just not be bothered
Dont date a guy with kids if you don't have any... especially if the children are very young. A lot of these guys talk down on the mother of their child but will get back with her or sleep with her if she lets him. Do not date a guy who you know doesn't take care of his children because if he gets you pregnant you will go through the same things. Yes people change...but don't ignore the cues and the signs
I talked to a guy online who was a divorced single dad of 3 kids. He lived almost an hour away from me and so he decided to pull the plug because of how far we lived with each other. He did mention that him and his ex were kind of at wits end at each other because he didn’t have a consistent work schedule because he worked at a warehouse but she was a real estate agent so of course she had more flexibility in terms of her work hours. I guess I did dodge a bullet! I do also get attached to kids very quick too and one of my friends actually said hey it coulda been worse because you coulda gotten really attached and invested in his kids and it woulda hurt not just you but his kids too and of course him.
Ladies you don't have to put up with this get yourself a man who doesn't have kids or a man who's kids are grown and gone. You will have to think about grandkids though.
Oh yes the grandkids. I’ve been there trust me it does not end when they’re grown and out of the house. They’re always wanting daddy to babysit and of course he’s gonna want to spend time with his grandchildren that’s only natural. But it’s not wrong if you personally choose not to date somebody with children. That’s your personal right. Like men don’t wanna date fat girls some men it’s the same thing we don’t want to date single fathers. Because you never truly get your own time. My entire marriage revolved around his children and then one grandchild and I had to get out of there. I’m child free. I’m very close with my niece and nephew but it’s different that way. They go home with my sister. I’ve been single for a very long time because I just can’t do the kid thing. I’ve tried it several times and it always ends up the same... every time. There are a lot of men out there without children and I’m waiting for God to bring that man to my life. I’ve spent my whole life stepping aside for other people constantly it’s about time I think about myself for once. I was in a deep depression in that marriage. They didn’t mind taking my money but yet I had all these rules I had to follow in my own house from the baby mama.
Take care of ur kids by yourself;
keep ur drama leave single women alone.
it’s just not worth it with these situations. But they won’t tell you until you’re emotionally invested or timewise invested.
Stay away from these types!! Lazy liars.
Most of the time those guys are still in love with their baby momma and drag innocent women into their bullshit drama. Those guys need to marry their baby momma and leave single women alone. Baby daddies ain't shit and nothing but drama.
@@bossqueen6552 damn smh I'm in some shit then
Dating a man with multiple small kids with the same b/m are Not its Hell ..Run Run Run
I cant deal with the babymomma drama no more. He is not man enough to step up and set things clear. so I believe he is entertaining her as well.
I feel the same m so done
He said he'd do anything to be close to he's done which means allowing baby mama do whatever she wants as long as it doesn't ruin he's relationship with his son
In my situation the BM who is 8 years older than me wanted me to help him (the father) pay her more money because he wasnt able to pay her what she wanted. I laughed so hard at that. She didnt get anything from me and never will.
Sometimes it works. And a woman may find true love with a single father and fall in love with the kids too. Anything is possible and different people are just that, different.
I dated a man who has three kids. The kids didn’t live with him but I was always second place. He would go see them during the summer and couldn’t take off for a trip with me. He would leave to go see them for Christmas. He would buy them birthday gifts but didn’t want to buy me one. I had to hear about them all the time and that’s fine, I love children and I would ask how they were doing. When he would speak I would see the happiness in his eyes, I rarely saw otherwise. He would get in bad moods talking to his ex wife and than sulk the rest of the day. The issues continue on and on, but I regret it. I moved in more as a roommate and we became a couple, I wish I had kept it moving.
Everyone deserve to be loved have children or not..if you're happy with him and you don't want to leave him then go with him... So happy for you then... But think the future... It's either he will leave you or stay with you... So before you make a choice think it thousand times and prepare what will be the consequence of your choice...that's it... It's all depend on you..well Godbless to both of you....
@@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK If she got Married by him she would have to pay child support
Same for me
I'm seeing one with 3 kids and it's pretty much the same, but I have my own life and goals so the time apart is the time I get my stuff done.
We never talk or mention his ex ever because I'm not about to go there.
Once he steps into my house it's me and him time so if he has any issues with her he needs to work them out in his own time, not on my time.
I'm not even official cause his ex is just that petty. They're Facebook official because they have a huge extended family and friends and they want to keep up appearances for the kids I guess.
This has been this way 2 years.
Last week he introduced me to his 13 year old daughter and I advised against it because his ex knows my name and thought she was able to keep me out of the picture when he told his family about me 2 years ago.
Well, I guess we'll see how this turns out.
They got divorced 6 years ago and I guess she thought he would marry her again...I don't even want to get married cause I don't need no legal mess with childsupport or anything else.
My Facebook status is still single as a Pringle 😆
Run far away this is a disaster from the beginning it's horrible
I think it's better to be single atleast I wont have to deal with drama I got my own problems
izzy forever you should have no problem being single. Based on your looks alone, you need to take whatever bone is thrown your way
Correct 💯
The video I'm looking for is "signs you are dating a deadbeat dad". Men can be very good at hiding the fact they don't do shit for their kids and I'm really not trying to entertain any man like that. Any suggestions or advice would be great 👍
If he has kids but spends all his time with you deadbeat dad! Separate yourself from him so he has no choice but to see his children ! Check in when he claims to be with his children “proof”. Doesn’t know their age or borndates 🚩. Blames him not being a father on the child’s mother 🚩
Don't do it! Not worth it.
“Baby mammerrrrr”
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I liked the bit were u explained that you should always take a back seat. Kids always come first
I'm in this situation now..
SunKissNicole leave
Ryen C i have 😁
SunKissNicole i was about to say GET OUT SIS!
Brodie B never again! I'm dating a man now with NO kids #iupgraded
SunKissNicole Run sis... you will always be secondary to his baby moms. And he will sleep with her at some point. And when comes time to chose he will always be loyal to her. Been there and know a lot of people that have been there too and it never fails... sorry to be a downer but what she is saying is very true
I’m in this situation now and all what you said that what gonna on.
I feel child free people are better off dating other child free people. Single parents are better off dating other single parents
Wish I would on seen this video before....... never again.
Maria Hernandez she i wish tooo shhhhhhh....
Lmaoooo think dating men with children try a woman with kids... WAYYYY WORST! . Women only have to deal with his kids sometimes men have to deal with other women children ALL THE TIME!
Rashad Micheal Not really. I only have one but she’s in daycare during the week and I spend time with her on the weekends. Plus if I date, a man doesn’t see my kid for a bit.
@@tijeraslack3 you're assuming not living together. Its awful
So very true
Funny seeing such comments, although "women" don't seem to have the same energy with men, I watched facts about dating a baby mother and it's basically reverse as if men are obligated to take on a womans responsibilities, and if they don't they are immature or not "real men" and to top it off they need to also provide all whilst experiencing the same things you speak about in this video how feminism works lovely.
Lmao please, for every “don’t date single dads” video there’s at least twenty about how single moms are trash. Also, it’s only men who say single dads should date childless women, but not the other way around. Women usually say single parents should date each other.
Kids dont come first its God then the spouse! Stop with the videos if yall dont know God Chain of command!!
Toya Marie no one follows it anymore either. They want to make their own rules and then expect God to bless them with a life without no drama or no consequences. Its hard to follow this order with kids from previous relationships and a baby mama.
How do u put God first? What exactly would you do? Feed god first....play with god first..spend more time with god than ur children? How does this work???? Smh
Ayanna E. Lol exactly. Putting god first doesn’t mean anything. Besides pay a church to read the Bible to you.
Totally Marie you better preach. Straight facts
you probly that jahovas witness i saw the other day who thought i was the "devil's messenger"
What should i do. I just want to date this guy and not have anything to do with his kids and family because of problems with the kids mom and his mom. Im a lot older than him but he said if i don't be with his kids and family no more us
Eh, leave. If he wants to rope you in, chances are he wants you to be his personal nanny to his kids. If he didn’t want that, he wouldn’t mind keeping it casual with you.
Run. Leave.
Ok but let say the scenario baby mother & child overseas and he has 3 years without seeing her, he communicate with his son through his mom so they hardly talk and if they do only through fb my biggest fear is when they see each other after all these years old feelings will rekindle, out of insecurity i ask him to get my name tatted and he did i dont have children so sometimes i do question if it even worth staying even though he treat me like a queen never show me any doubt
Are you still together?
You were very biased with this video. You basically presented this video as a deterrent. But you made the baby mama video as a pitch.
In order words you were warning against baby fathers in this while selling baby mommas on the other. Keep the energy the same.
Both should avoid single people. Single people should avoid both.
I’m in this situation now.
Run
Are you still w him?
Where hv u been
My fiance had two kids with his ex wife...which in my situation it's good coz it's a court thing he see the kids by someone bringing them to an environment and he spend 2hours or so with them most times I go with him if I don't have work he see them ones a month r depends on his schedule...now I'm pregnant with my first child and we live together so our baby gonna get lots of attention maybe his kids will be jealous of our baby but when that bridge come we will cross it😃
Chantal Grant good!!!i hope that baby get alllll the attention
Yes, until he meets baby mama #3. 🤰😂
2 hours a month isnt much of a dad
Listen to yourself & think about what's really going on..... 🥴🤦🏾♀️
ThankU
This is soooo true. ...Chelsea well done 🙏👍👍👍👍👍
Hey, you’re literally so sweet 🥰❤️🙏🏻
We share the same name :) mines spelt Chelsea though 🖤
You're very pretty! 😊
I knew my boyfriend for a long time we grew up around the sam e neighborhood even though he is older than me but my boyfriend was in a long term relationship with his babymom and has 2 children by her in the beginning I thought he was going to go back to her but we started dating which feb. 2nd, we spent damn near everyday together it was rocky kind of in the beginning because she complained about money then next thing you know he was hit with child support, at first I straight up asked him if he wanted to go back home because sometimes once things start getting heated guys cant take it but he said no so we countiuned doing us, his babymom did start stalking me also lol but we are 5 mos strong , I didn't get a chance to meet his children or anything yet
Shayzee Are you still together?
Did it work out?
How is it going now ? Still together
@@seekgod1st291 nope im actually with someone else and expecting a baby boy lol
@@coconutwater4531 nope actually with someone else and a expecting a baby boy in April 2022
True af 😂😂😂
You should really find out what a fact is.
Video should be titled “worst case scenarios about dating single fathers” I heard nothing positive in this video.
Ever think that’s reality?
I have a child myself . I dated a baby dad before cause I have a child myself so why not and I will never do it again ! Only a truly single man I want. yes I come with a child ,idc. these are my standards and that’s it . If I wanted a polygamist relationship I would have one . I don’t come with baby daddy drama so why should I tolerate baby mama drama for
you are a fool.
You still have standards even after a child? You want a childless man to choose you over countless of other childless women while u can't be with a single dad...Good luck with that!!!😂😂
@@journee8724 Why can't she have standards.... So she should lower herself because she has ONE child. Childless women are not the only one that are allowed to have standards. If she doesn't keep her standards she's going to find herself a single mom of two, three kids next. You are dumb. 1.) She just said that she doesn't come with baby daddy drama so I'm guessing she's doing it 100% on her own and not co-parenting with anyone why should she have to watch her BF going to another womans house to play house with their child when she's not doing that with the man of HER child? That's not even equal. Even if the single father were to marry her she would still have to watch her husband spilt his time between two homes. How is that fair if she's not spilting her time between two homes and co-patenting. Two single parents who are both co-parenting is equal dynamic not one parent co-parenting and the other one is not... It leads to resentment and anger. 2.) My single mom friends of ONE child all got married to men with no children...bought a house and now are expanding their families. Two of them are now stay at home mothers. Their husbands make good money. Everyone is under ONE roof and no one is co-parenting and going to another persons house to play house or sleep with and ex. I think that's why the original commentor said she doesn't want a single dad and she's allowed to have that.
@@edithnotime4losers295 she should have “standards” in that she should be looking for a decent SINGLE DAD. No, she has no value as partner to a childless man, even though she doesn’t have a baby daddy in the picture. She needs to stick with someone equally yoked
@@austind4301 I agree 100%. If they don't want their kinds (other parents), it makes really difficult for single people like us to want them.
Im 19,my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years we than broke up.and got back together and during that time when we were apart he got a girl preg so im now a step mom at the age of 19.
Run!! I beg you. You're too young to settle for that crap.
You are beyond stupid if you continue to value that relationship. Move the fuck on
Get away! You deserve so much better! You’ll always be an outsider. I wouldn’t even think about going back in those conditions. People just have kids willy nilly. You’re life will be all about that baby and the mother. They never lose connection. And if they are adults you’ll be helping raising the grandchildren. It doesn’t end and it will never be just about your time together. I’ve been there personally it made me so depressed don’t make my mistake.
Girl leave runnnnnn
Who’s your baby daddy?
Get your own money. Just sayin.
I never had a baby mom the first thing before I make over my baby mama now I'll look at what kind of family come from a family history of coming back on see the history of how many men in a woman the family Ben with how many how many baby daddies have to have two three baby daddies Iraq flag
Uuf my recommended 😔
I fathered *5 children* of my own. My wife *gave birth to 7 children* all together which include her first 2 children. BTW, I made my step-children real dad's life a living hell all the way to his grave. As a stronger man mentally and physically, I basically bullied him. I think I was a little bit wrong for that.
nukeman444 you a punk bitch for that you weak bitch
So you had no kids and married a woman with 2 kids? Then you spent a lifetime being jealous of her baby daddy. How foolish. You must not have had better options. What a sucker you were. Your wife was lucky to find a sucker like you. You did lose in life & don't understand the concept of legacy.
Wow 7 kids... I wonder what her body looks like now.,
Ladies just remember the chances of you becoming a single mom is high and when you become 30 and up the chances of you meeting a man that does not has kids is extremely low. single dads don't want a baby sitter, a new mommy for our children, a second paycheck, or any help with our kids. we been doing it on our own for a minute. we got this. we cook clean, homework, work, and have time to do want we want. Also it is 2020, you should have your own damn money and he shouldn't have to be spending money on you. hell even with out kids a man shouldn't be forced to spend his money on you unless he wants to. Get a damn job buy your own damn shit. we want a woman in our life but we sure as hell do not need one.
Half of y'all are not handling it and that's why it's a common problem for women dealing with other women's baby daddies
If you feel she should have her own money to spend on herself and you shouldn't have to, you don't need to have a woman because you obviously don't want to provide for her while you play with her reproductive organs and risk getting her pregnant therein having two baby mamas that you cannot afford.
Reading what you just wrote is a warning sign to women not to get involved with someone like you. You should go be with your baby's mama.
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