This has been the story of my life for 37 years. My so called Christian husband was caught in a lifetime of sex addiction. I've lived a life of being ignored, dismissed and discarded. I ended up getting cancer. I finally left.
We had a few pastors over the years because we moved a lot. I let each one of them know what was going on. The emotional, financial, mental & verbal abuse i was the victim of. My pastors had ME go to counseling not him. The pastors did not even call him out on it. They did nothing. They just asked me to pray. They gave no help at all
So spot on for what a friend is going through... not sure if I can share this with him though. Feels very dismissive of a situation where the man is being abused. Let's stand up for them too. Abuse is never right. Prayers for all those who are abused to see it clearly and get healing from the destruction it causes. God is the great healer ♡
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and you're absolutely right. Abuse is never acceptable, regardless of gender. It's crucial to acknowledge and stand up against all forms of abuse. Your concern for your friend is understandable, and it's important to approach the situation with empathy and support. God is the great healer, and may His love and guidance bring comfort and restoration to those who need it. 🙏❤
The Narcissist spouse is a cult leader, and after 59 years of staying with my narcissist mother, my vrainwashed father STILL believes that her screaming rage explosions weee his fault. She died 7 years ago, but he said "I must have done something to cause it" I said quietly "no Dad. That was abuse".
@caroliner2029, thanks for your vulnerability here in what sounds like such a painful, even dark experience. It's definitely hard for so many victims to recognize the truth of their circumstances. Praying for you and your dad right now.
At the 13:06 minute mark you said "this is beyond the regular defensiveness a man would bring." I want to know more about that. That sounds like a good topic of discussion. So a normal, healthy man is regularly defensive?
That's a great question. I think if we're honest, it's normal for human beings to be defensive when they feel wrongly accused, but there is a line where that behavior crosses over into abusive behavior. If the person can't transition from defensiveness into a learning and loving posture to begin healthy communication but instead continues to act out against the other person, this is a sin issue that often results in abusive behavior. It's so important for both parties in relationships to be humble enough to receive feedback and to approach conflict in a healthy and safe way.
What do you do when the justice system keeps making my daughter go back to the abuser who has sexually abused emotionally mentally physically abused by him and they let him keep going to court saying I'm in contempt because my daughter won't go with him and doesn't want to talk to him reunification therapist keeps ignoring her concerns and keeps manipulate us by saying don't you want to do what's right she isn't going to have a good life without a father etc.
Heartbreaking hear this. Such a tough situation... We can't give advice on your specific legal situation--but we do suggest calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help making a plan for you and your daughter, at 1.800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit www.thehotline.org/. Praying for you right now!
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This has been the story of my life for 37 years. My so called Christian husband was caught in a lifetime of sex addiction. I've lived a life of being ignored, dismissed and discarded. I ended up getting cancer. I finally left.
It IS. Crazy how much it effects our body not just our mind
We will be praying for you. 🙏
We had a few pastors over the years because we moved a lot. I let each one of them know what was going on. The emotional, financial, mental & verbal abuse i was the victim of.
My pastors had ME go to counseling not him. The pastors did not even call him out on it. They did nothing. They just asked me to pray. They gave no help at all
I'm so sorry to hear this. Are you in a safe place now with your relationship?
Thankfully, i am safe and divorced from my abuser
I love listening to family life today.
Spot on. I'm a survivor.
I made the mistake leaving without getting a support network first. Then he made a slander campaign and turned everyone against me. Family included. 😞
We are so sorry to hear this, we will be praying for you.
Most churches will not address this with men. It is then called secondary abuse
Yes so true and not the mark of a healthy church! Thanks for listening!
So spot on for what a friend is going through... not sure if I can share this with him though. Feels very dismissive of a situation where the man is being abused. Let's stand up for them too. Abuse is never right. Prayers for all those who are abused to see it clearly and get healing from the destruction it causes. God is the great healer ♡
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and you're absolutely right. Abuse is never acceptable, regardless of gender. It's crucial to acknowledge and stand up against all forms of abuse. Your concern for your friend is understandable, and it's important to approach the situation with empathy and support. God is the great healer, and may His love and guidance bring comfort and restoration to those who need it. 🙏❤
Great topic discussion!
Thank you for this content I sent two a couple friends and posted on support group private page for women in destructive marriages
This made me 😢 cry
The Narcissist spouse is a cult leader, and after 59 years of staying with my narcissist mother, my vrainwashed father STILL believes that her screaming rage explosions weee his fault.
She died 7 years ago, but he said "I must have done something to cause it"
I said quietly "no Dad. That was abuse".
@caroliner2029, thanks for your vulnerability here in what sounds like such a painful, even dark experience. It's definitely hard for so many victims to recognize the truth of their circumstances. Praying for you and your dad right now.
Like writing a book with Moses🙃
At the 13:06 minute mark you said "this is beyond the regular defensiveness a man would bring." I want to know more about that. That sounds like a good topic of discussion. So a normal, healthy man is regularly defensive?
That's a great question. I think if we're honest, it's normal for human beings to be defensive when they feel wrongly accused, but there is a line where that behavior crosses over into abusive behavior. If the person can't transition from defensiveness into a learning and loving posture to begin healthy communication but instead continues to act out against the other person, this is a sin issue that often results in abusive behavior. It's so important for both parties in relationships to be humble enough to receive feedback and to approach conflict in a healthy and safe way.
What do you do when the justice system keeps making my daughter go back to the abuser who has sexually abused emotionally mentally physically abused by him and they let him keep going to court saying I'm in contempt because my daughter won't go with him and doesn't want to talk to him reunification therapist keeps ignoring her concerns and keeps manipulate us by saying don't you want to do what's right she isn't going to have a good life without a father etc.
Heartbreaking hear this. Such a tough situation... We can't give advice on your specific legal situation--but we do suggest calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help making a plan for you and your daughter, at 1.800.799.SAFE (7233), or visit www.thehotline.org/. Praying for you right now!
I gave him a choice, me or the alcohol, he chose the alcohol.
So sorry to hear this, @montanagal6958. That sounds incredibly painful. Praying for you right now.