Yes to this! I’ve only worn my hair on vacay with no problems. Just think ahead and buy those little travel size bottles to take all your hair potions.
Not going to lie I was a bit hesitant to share this one but the dialogue in the comments really brings me so much joy. I love y’all forreal 😭🥰🥹 #PathOfLeastResistance ❤️
I completely understand what you mean. I wear wash and gos 99% of the time because the thought of doing a braid/twistout or a protective style like braids or twists is just exhausting or even worse, it turning out badly and I’ve wasted my time. At least with a wash and go, I can redo it or turn it into a puff or low bun. I would love to see more “lazy natural” content.
"It wouldn't be difficult, if I didn't make it that difficult" ... I felt that black girl breakdown, while sitting with a half finished head of mini twists 😫 I guess I need to work more in accepting and appreciating my hair as it is and try wash and gos
I was studying and realised I was taking so much time away from it to wash and care for her. One night after studying statistics for hours, I went to wash my hair (at night). After I styled it. I took a shaver and shaved it off. Best decision ever! Grades went ⬆️ Edit. Now I have shoulder length hair and doing my MSc in data science. If she gets in the way again 💇🏿♀️💇🏾♀️. I think she knows her place now… in braids 🤷🏾♀️🥰
I felt this in my bones. “Three days?! 3 days!” “Imma put me first” Embrace the hair, the frizz the shrinkage, the fuzzy edges. Life should be about more so get out and enjoy it.
NO BUT SIS. You are PREACHING. My gosh! I wasn't sure how to articulate what I've been feeling about my hair recently, and I still find it hard to find the words but just know, EVERYTHING YOU SAID was exactly it!! I literally have a weekend trip (going away tomorrow, woo!) and I was considering staying up ALL NIGHT to do braids or faux locs or SOMETHING.... when really, I have this head of hair that is FREE (can we talk about it?) and a load of products that I can take with me to maintain a cute style. I'll be honest, the hair style I want, I can't achieve with my VERY thick hair (our hair is almost identical) and I didn't think it went with my outfit choices but SO WHAT! Honestly, I'm not killing myself over the crown I've been born with. So in short lol... I'm not doing this anymore WITH YOU!!!! Be blessed, sis! Love from the UK x
Awwwwww I love this!!! Thanks for sharing your story too. The thickness be a blessing and a burden sometimes 😭 So I just try to see her in her blessed state and work with it! Here’s to working with what we got 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I have never been the type of natural to do all the things to my hair simply because I don't feel the need. People see my hair in it's extraordinarily healthy state and are amazed when I tell them, "No I don't use a million products, I don't deep condition all the time, I don't do these fancy treatments and I don't use "protective styles". I keep her clean, hydrated, and leave her alone.That is it, that is all! I learned a long time ago that our hair as it comes...is already presentable. Baby if she clean, hydrated and yours, Your Fine! So just let her be LOL
Whewww girl I'm tired too 😓 When my hair is done and braided, I'm more confident and want to go out. I've spent years and years trying to understand my hair and take care of it. I've tried regular wash and gos, stretched wash and gos, twist outs and braid outs. I'm just still not a fan of how it looks on me but I love it on other people!!! How frustrating? I wish I was that natural that ended up loving her hair in these styles. I really tried. Me 5-10 years ago would have never considered locs. Me now, I WILL be getting locs. When I started looking at locs on Pinterest and watched videos of the process, I fell in love with them. The journey people go through to loving their hair and themselves more in locs is what I want. Put you first girl!
I didnt realize the amount of time I freed up with not worrying about my hair. Since the rona, I have been washing, blow drying and twisting my hair up. It would take all weekend.. and i would be ok with it because i felt accomplished and saved money. I realized my time is just as valuable as money and knowing when to hand over the skill to the professionals was a reawakening! I also have 4-5 routating styles that I feel cute in. That is good enough. I hope this was a good release for you! Excited to see this journey!
This is exactly why I started doing either wash and go or a roller set and press ONLY. I can’t be bothered anymore either! I feel so carefree now! Best of luck🙏🏽
I think the mentality was that back then we struggled to do our hair it was a nice little break to have someone else do our hair and not have to deal with it but guess what? We have evolved. Wash, condition and style doesn’t take all day anymore. Detangling doesn’t take 8 hours. And we are doing our own protective styles. We like doing our hair and we are good at it. So it doesn’t really make sense to keep doing a cute little “tradition” that no longer serves us. We can wear a wash n go or a braid out or mini twists or even large twists on vacation. It’s okay. It’s beautiful. It’s the path of least resistance.
You are so right about acknowledging how FAR we’ve come with learning how to do our own hair. You made me realize I got my detangling down to 2 hours! And styling is so much easier compared to where I started. Tbh I’m still learning how to be proud of wearing my twists and mini braids out all the time, but this is what I have to offer. This is what y’all gonna get and this is beautiful!
Honestly, as a person who went natural about 3 1/2 years ago with a big chop, I never plan on working that hard for my hair. I do get the urge when I see the braids and different styles. But as a full-time worker, getting my master's and having a full-time job it is not worth it. I do twist out 2 or 3 strands that I keep for a week, then I do a bonnet at night, let it get volume, then rock an afro for another week. When I get braids, I do not get any extensions; I just use whatever is on my head. I will also wash my hair, blow it out, and wear that style. I think people assume they need to make these grand gestures with their hair, and they really don't. I get more compliments on a blowout or an afro than any other time. IT IS ABOUT CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF!!!
I feel you girl... I do long term protective styles now. I suffer once and take a long break lol 🤣 It has really helped me ... I also plan for my hair in advance..... I can't wait for the tutorial
This is why I started my locs again. It's too much work. I guess I'm 4b & 4c and I spend time doing a style and it either doesn't come out right or I just don't like it. Flat ironing took too long and didn't last long enough. Now, I retwist my hair once and I'm good to go for a while. Lol put you first girl😅 Your hair came out sooo cute though!
I just put my comment about wanting locs but I'm so excited to get them! The thought of letting my hair do what it does best and not having to spend a lot of money anymore excites me
Girl I totally understand I have 4a/b/c hair and I've been doing my own braids since high school. Every summer since then I would spend hours sometimes DAYS doing my hair. I'm now 30 and over it. I haven't braided my hair in over a year and this is the longest I've went without braids. I actually bought braiding hair at the beginning of spring and it's just sitting there because I no longer want to take the time to do it. It's so much easier to literally wash and go. All I'm saying is you are not alone in how you are feeling. Girl every now and I I think about braiding my hair and I go look at the packs of braiding. I legit get anxiety now from the thought of spending that much time doing my hair lol
Yes, I have those breakdowns. I have thick /long hair. So does my 6 yr old daughter. I always try to do a style that's gonna last a wk for her hair. 🤔 And sometimes I just wear my natural fro or my own high puffed ponytail. Both of our hair gets dry quickly. So I try to keep it moisturized. But your hair stil turned out cute!l 🤩
Hi Truley, I've gotten to the point of washing my hair and twisting up. I do not take it down until I absolutely have to. I can't stress out about my hair no more.
Man, I gave up on hairstyles a while ago. The last few years since COVID hit especially, I just protect it at night and let it do its thing when I get up in the morning. If I gotta go somewhere, I'll put it in a big puff and that's it. Sometimes it just feels like the expectation for us to Do Something with our Hair (something I've heard for years growing up from even my own family) is just too much. As I get older, I've just been appreciating the process of just letting myself be. I had the energy to do crazy styles in my 20s but I'm in my mid-30s. I. Just... Don't have time for it anymore. I'll do it if I want to try something out but my day to day should be about me just being at peace with me.
I love when my faves watch my faves! That video from StarPuppy resonated with me too, and so does your experience. Thank you for your transparency, it’s nice to be reminded that none of us are alone on this natural hair journey. ❤️
Wow…I related to this so much…I have grown to love my hair and take it for what it is. I pretty much rotate between some sort of puff or bun 😂 to just love on my hair especially after having styles that I had to accommodate to the extreme for. I couldn’t do it on a consistent bases, but I’ve learned that that’s okay. Do you, love who God made you to be without envying anyone else for THEIR hair and love/enjoy MY OWN hair
It’s crazy that you’re saying this because you’re videos have made my natural hair journey so much easier! I’m traveling right now and your videos actually inspired me to wear my hair in its wash n go states. You put me on that as I am refreshing spray!!!!! GWORL. When I say it refreshed the product that was all in my hair AND detangled it! My hair travel experience has been so. Easy and it’s still detangled!!!! That being said I feel this black girl breakdown and have had it multiple times. But watching your content has helped me see how beautiful and flexible my natural hair is and it can actually be cute and convenient if you learn it. So thank you for showing this and showing us it don’t take all that anymore.
I have learned to accept my hair as it is once it’s washed. If it shrinks, I rock it just like that. I’m also at the point where I finally colored my hair and afterwards will loc it up so I won’t have to stress over a style. I’ll be connecting even more with myself.
And it’s crazy to say this, but I thought I was the only one who went through this. I was so close to putting that creamy crack back in my hair, but I thought of how beautiful my curls are. It’s tough being natural but it worth having thick, kinky and coily hair
I agree with you on the whole "hair has to be done if I'm going out for the weekend" outlook. I know not everyone agrees with the whole no oils/butters, three step method, 30 day detox, whatever you want to call it...but it's bc of that community I learned to not spend a whole day on my hair. wear bomb wash and go's to special events like weddings and birthdays. I'll be damned if I have to spend the whole day on my hair. my braider doesn't even take more than 5 hours to do medium/small box braids that are waist length. there's no reason for me to be in my hair for more than 2 hours
What I learned from the no oils no butters thing is to simplify the routine. I shampoo, deep condition, use 1 or two products to style my hair (usually twists for a twistout). Took me 2 hours today to wash detangle and twist my hair. Shampoo with hair loose in a downward motion. Deep condition for how long it says on the package, no more no less. Section to detangle. Use two products max to style. My hair is shiny and manageable and I love it.
I'm sitting here saying, 'but why not do a wash n go?' 🤣🤣🤣 in all seriousness them type 2, type 3 hair types will do the same curl routine no matter what and save other styles for a real special occasion so I dunno whyyyyy Type 4s think they gotta act different. shoot I washed my hair before work and that wasn't a chore 40 min wash, dried until I lost patience and went to work. I'd say get comfortable with a cut that looks good when you're hair is undefined so you can rock a fro
You are so right. Type 3's have no problem wearing their hair as is. However, type 4 always choose to wear stretched styles. I wish I can master wash and go without the tangles, or the knots it does to my ends. I think it's very easy to admire the comfotability type 3 have in the non-stretched state because type 4 has very high shrinkage.
@@xtelfolaj I think Type 4s really gotta confront their issue with shrinkage because my thought process is, 'i like this tight curl pattern' rather than 'my hair is actually thiiiis long when wet'. my priorities were embracing definition and shape rather than hair length. we can't have the same expectations as we did when we had straight hair, I think some folks are still hung up on that. I started my journey with a professional to lock down my wash n go and get a hair cut that works for me when I want to rock a fro and I think thats the best advice for those on their journey that have styling fatigue like this. We are not our hair, it doesn't need to morph and change every week for us to be relevant, and having a simple, quick and healthy routine is far preferable to setting aside a whole day for some braids
You are right on the money. Something I definitely plan or touching on more especially with my hair type. Especially that straight hair mentality you talked about!! Whew. But I have been thinking about actually getting a cut/shape that would make wash and gos easier cause I’m definitely team embrace the shrinkage.
@@TheVeritasForYou that's a self talk I need to have with myself because I am definitely a length girl. If I could wear my hair blown out (not talking about a silk press) after every wash, I would. But even with protectant, I still see a little damage on my fine, thick hair. I need to work on loving my hair shrunken. Do you have any tips on a successful wash n go?
@@xtelfolaj the most important things to realize, something RUclipsrs rarely say, is that your hair needs to build up the ability to remain hydrated when it's dried and that not everyone can last the whole week wearing a wash n go. those things need to be accepted in order to get the style down pat. It also all starts with a cut, specifically 4 every 3 months. I needed that many trims to stop my hair from knotting at the bottom. don't stretch or fluff, let your fro shake itself out of the cast and you'll be fine
I’m only 5 minutes in but your breakdown is so real! These were some of the exact emotions I felt a few weeks ago. I was trying to do knotless braids and struggled so much (Im not good at hair). at the end of the day half my Saturday was gone and nothing to show for it. I was so over it. That was honestly the final straw for me and I decided to start locs. My appointment is in 3 weeks! I donn’t want to worry about my hair anymore. Paying for it, doing it, how long it’s growing, etc. I just want to be free. YOUR HAIR AT THE END😩 TOO CUTE 🥹❤️
I'm right there with you. I'm over it. I'm putting me first. I just don't have the energy or time. I'm tired of being tired before I even begin my hair. It's overwhelming and overated. Go live your best life!!!🥳 😘💕🤸🏽♀️
I’ve learned that my wash & gos can last for a week just fine! I start it off stretched but by the end of the week it turns into this cute lil afro 🥰. Leaving it alone has been much easier for me! Even at night.. I don’t sleep with anything. Surprisingly trying to preserve it over night is what used to mess up the shape/ style the next morning.
I rarely rarely comment but this video has put words to what I've been thinking about for a few days now! I've been growing soooooo tired of having to do my hair week in and week out. And you're so right where different girlies don't have to face this situation. I've been thinking about just starting to wash, condition, moisturise and gooo and that's it! I'm excited to see how your content evolves with this potentially new mindset.
Ive honestly been feeling this same way about my natural hair too😩😭 it sounds complicated out loud but its true how heavy planning hair maintenance around life can be.
Girl I feel you ! I was natural for 7 years and I decided to loc my hair. I just turned 25 and had a baby this year and I honestly do not have the time to do my hair all the time! Now i am 3 weeks loc'd and I just take my scarf off and fluff it up and im on about my business!
I totally understand. I’ve been thinking of a big chop for months and my family keeps telling me no. I’m like you don’t have to do hair so you guys don’t understand. I can’t do wash and go, my twist-outs and braid-out don’t come out right anymore and I’m just over it.
I would love to see more lazy style content. Once I realised that I truly didn't care about all these styles and that I wanted my wash day to be simple, I did simple wash and gos. I and mean wash and GO. I did shave my head mid last year because I had always wanted to grow it from bald, but in it's in the awkard mini phase but I'm happy with my current routine. I find wash day and preparing to go out more peaceful and relaxing now, to the point where I'm excited to wash my hair I just need to learn how to use the head wrap and how to preserve my hair at night as it gets longer and I'll be at my peak!
I’m looking to get a traditional sew-in (it’s been yearssss) using a really good grade of Afro kinky straight from this black owned hair company that I have been eyeing . They sell 4a-c extensions 😍. That way I’m matching the weave with my hair instead of matching my hair with the weave like back in the day 😂. Good luck with the switch up Queen !!!
OMG I am actually going through the same thingggg, I feel burned out with my natural hair, 2 weeks ago I stated putting in braids, but I could not go past 1 braid, so i decided to wear a wig because, I am just tired. I don't know what to do.
I felt 5his WHOLE damn video!!! YASSSSSZ! With me and my 2 girls. I felt like 'wash day' was a whole damn week for allla us!!!!🥺😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 And now ALLLA 7s are loc'd. I'm sisterlocked, my oldest 19 year old is traditional loc'd (diy by herself) and my 13 year old is micro loc'd by me. Do you gurrrl! Because I'ma still be back to see your fun videos. I love your genuine personality.
I KNOW that’s RIGHT SIS!! Put YOU FIRST!! I can’t g bald EITHER! However sista locs are whispering MY NAME!! I CANNOT ANYMORE!! All I do is wear a bun and dasssIT!! I’m over it! Simply don’t have the time anymore....smh!
I’ve been feeling this way for weeks. Even doing my wash and go has had me wanting to give up half way through for no real reason other than I’m just tired. At this point I’m ready to just pay for the braids and have a couple weeks break. Hopefully that’ll fix it for me
I totally understand your frustration. A few years ago I said screw it and became a simple natural. I literally ONLY do wash n gos or two Dutch braids. I ain't got time to be spending hours twisting, bantu knotting, plaiting, etc. My hair is healthy and down my back. My wash days are no more than 1.5hrs..more like 1hr 15mins 😅
Yo! I feel you. Can't tell you how fast I clicked that StarPuppy video because out of everything, the one place I don't mind being called "lazy" is with my natural hair. It's still a bit of work my mane is a chameleon so whenever I think I have a good thing going with routine she switch it up on me. I can't deal with staying up all hours of the night with her so all blessings & rest to you. Please always put yourself before stressing out about the hair that can change. 💜
I KID YOU NOT, I WAS COMPLETELY TAKEN ABACK BY YOUR BEAUTY AT THAT LAST CLIP OH MY GOSH YOU ARE STUNNING AND PLEASE SHOW US HOW YOU CREATED THAT HAIRSTYLE YOU MAKE IT LOOK SO GOOD
I’m so glad more naturals are expressing burnout from styling their natural hair constantly. I always thought it was a must, but I’m glad to see I can be lazy/low maintenance and natural lol my hair prefers the low manipulation anyway
I feel as though my Black Girl Breakdown happened when I had my first son and hasn't stopped so through the years I've cut it several times and I just decided to loc it up almost 2 months ago. I feel more beautiful now especially since I don't have to put much effort into looking like somebody lol.
I love this for you! I love to wear my hair out on vacations after my very first one as a natural where I put in my own extensions that looked horrible and I hated it the whole time. It's always been so much easier for me than styled hair and it wears out nicer because it really is better moisturized. Love your videos and StarPuppy's
I just cut off most of my curls off into a pixie last week because I was just sick and tired of it. And I wasn't feeling it at first because it was shorter than I wanted and I was like nah I'm gonna have to get a sew in or something but now it's growing on me and when I tell you it's freeing I mean it takes me less than five minutes to do 😎🤌💯
It’s crazy because I just recently watched that StarPuppy vid you spoke of && both you & her hit my thoughts on the nail! I have a TWA currently and I’m in that awkward stage so scarves & cute simple protective styles w my own hair . Simplicity is ready be my new friend
This video was so needed lol!! Puts a lot of things into perspective. I have braid outs and wash n gos in rotation as far as day to day styles go and I'm quite fine with that. Heading on vacay on Saturday and had my mom do knotless braids for me because I actually do need a little break from doing my hair and personally didn't want my hands in my hair at all during vacation as I'd be in the water a lot. Needless to say, natural hair is as hard as you make it imo. Love the idea of normalizing natural hair on trips/vacations though. I've done this many times and it was literally more than okay loll. Glad you were able to release all that and come to a cute style with the curls
So no lie I just had the black girl breakdown. Like I have so many hair strands and my hair is so long that no one wants to do my hair. Like I don’t trust many hairstylists I’m very selective bc everyone CANNOT do my hair. Anddd I’m hella pre-rich so I can’t waste money like that. I really be borderline panic attack doing my hair. It got to the point that I’ve seriously considered relaxing it. What I usually end up doing is a simplified version of the style if my anxiety hold off to make progress with the style. If not then I’ll just leave my hair to do what it’s gone do. No one knows the difference if you don’t tell em. Oooh why don’t you start a series called “It really is that easy…” I’m sending healing, happy, and tame the mane energies your way boo.
You gotta do what's best for you, and I just think you're being practical. Gotta take care of you first before doing anything for anybody else! I know I'll still be here for whatever you bring.
gurl I relate to the breakdown. I love my hair but I'm in the process of relearning it cause it started breaking due to a lack of protein and nutrients cause I went through a depressive state and I didn't have the best relationship with food and my hair has definitely suffered for it. my hair changed from porosity to the rough feeling of my individual hair strands, to the elasticity and splits and the overall dry feeling and the breakage that I keep having to cut. I had a healthy hair journey for a year and I got the length and the density and everything I wanted with my hair. and now the thought that I have to start over has really made me not want to see or even deal with my hair (which is the opposite of what my hair needs rn). Idk if the structural damage is even salvageable, I'm not sure if it needs a detox if I should get new products, or if giving it protein and taking vitamins will stop my damage, and having to go through that process again is tiring.
Ever since I went natural 3 years ago. I never put my hair in a protective style. I felt hair really isn't that fragile, I don't need to treat it like fine porcelain glass. I accepted all hair types will just get split ends and knots and it is what it is. I will just trim regularly its just hair and it grows. And I was right my tight coiled hair has reached shoulder length, yes naturally their were ups and downs but that's expected. But I retained my length and thickness. And avoided most of the stresses that I didn't want to deal with.
🗣TUH!!!!! I'm there with you! I'd pay and struggle through whatever to hide my hair away which became expensive. Especially since moving to GA and not have a stylist. I do mini twist now exclusively because it's easy and free. A days work but weeks of freedom balances it out.
this! everything you're saying is validating the reason why I shaved my head after growing it to BSL for 12 years and it was the best decision I've made in a long time. when you said you're going to put yourself first and not your hair !!! I've been living like that for the last few months (because I aint got no hair) and while it's very foreign for me, the liberation!!!!
I don't wear my hair in wash and goes or twist or or braid out because i don't have time for that instead i will put my hair in braids for about two or three weeks at the end i will wear the braid out for two days and then I will go ahead do my wash day and braid my hair up again my hair grows
I’m cutting my hair next week for a similar reason. I redo my hair weekly but I usually wear it in twisted styles and I move slow so it takes a while. I’m also a perfectionist when it comes to the outcome and one time I spent an hour trying to make one part straight and it was the most frustrating moment. I used to really like seeing a picture of a style and recreating it or when someone would compliment it and ask who did it. But I don’t enjoy doing my hair anymore and maybe it’s because I’m in my second year of law school now and am going to share a bathroom for the first time in a few years but I don’t want to keep spending a day doing it. I don’t wear wash and go’s often because I feel….inconvienced by them?? I like them but if I see one side got squished or is crooked the perfectionist come out and my hair is too dense to do a loose puff with a wash and go. I don’t really want to plan my life around when I do my hair. This past year I would get a text from my friends asking if I wanted to get food or hang out and I would either respond saying I’m doing my hair right now or I would have to think about how late I could stay up to do it before the school week started. If someone tried talking to me while I was doing my hair I would talk to them through my bathroom door or get a scarf to cover up while I was “in process”. Since I don’t feel inspo anymore I have been doing the same style every single week and it feels like a waste. I’m also cutting because I don’t like how insecure it makes me when it’s not done (whether that be twisted or wash and go) and the attachment I have. And I have convinced myself that since short hair looks good on all the pretty people I see I’ll like it on myself shorter than I had it before when I big chopped after transitioning. I like how big my hair it and how much hair I have but that’s until I part it in half and see no end lol. Hope your hair doesn’t stress you out anymore! Just realized how long my comment is.
Love it. New to your channel. Would love to see things that I can do in my daughters hair that can be natural and relaxed and not as much effort. Thank you!
Take care of your self as always loved your VIDEO keep them coming looking forward to seeing you again so I really understand. I am a older women my hair have change a lot now but it is beautiful
I go through this a lot. I’m never tryna do too much but I do want some sort of hairstyle which is normally counter productive. I think about shaving my head A LOT
I understand what you're saying stress over problems can make it real hard i am having the same problem with my hair is growing out. Some I need to color my hair I have not color it because I am doing the wigs they are time I really want to do more my on hair. I really really understand what you're saying.
I like the final look. I have been wearing my own hair lately, and I have been loving and enjoying it. Since I have to wash it 3 times a week. This is the doctor's order for inflammation. I can't wait until this is over.
…I had that exact moment the last time I went to a salon and relaxed my hair: I had booked weeks ahead, travelled for over an hour, got messed around and overcharged only to come out like grease ball with a chemical burn on the nape of my neck. As I was sitting on the train home I thought never again ! I think it happens to all of us at least once😂!
I love your channel and Star Puppy. I believe natural hair is hard when we make it hard. When we go into elaborate styles and want our hair to be something it's naturally not, that makes it hard. I have 4c/b hair and I can wash, condition moisturize and put it in a clip to wear a high puff in like 30-45 minutes. I think it's what we make it. I feel you on the burnout though Sometimes we just gotta keep it simple to keep our peace ✌ 😌 🙏
You look R A D I A N T. A lot of us naturals have to set ourselves free from the unnecessary obligations that have been put on us by a “community” that truly doesn’t even reflect or support us anymore. Do what makes YOU happy with YOUR hair. Love you baby girl 💕
I can relate.....I don't do wigs...on the days I don't do my hair. I wrap my head in pretty African material and I'm out the door....I'm done with the stress.
I just keep my hair in flat twists and twist. I wake up and go. When I wanna be cute I slap on a wig. My hair grows fast in those styles. I recently had a moment where my hair was shedding excessively. I believe it was stress but I was tired of seeing it fall out so I cut it. I kiss my hair but I’m going back to what I was doing.
Me commenting again.... Lol yes girl I love the style i really want to see how u do that ammo need to wear my hair like that for the first day at college thank you
The struggle is real...but try to find grey...now that's really struggling. I prefer to wear my natural when traveling. Sandy beaches, pool and chlorine I find it healthier to just just wear a hat and wash and go. I'm with you.
I think we need to redefine “lazy natural”. I don’t consider myself lazy, I’m just not excessive (and yes, I think long-term protective styles are excessive). I do my simple wash n gos and alternate headwraps. To me, ‘lazy’ is neglect and my routine isn’t giving that. Twists on my own hair is the most I’ll do for vacation hair. If that.
I find that if you braid your hair when it's pressed out you can get it done quickly...my hair is waist length and when I press it out first I can get a whole head of knotless braids (pencil width) in 5 hours No breaks...6-7 hours with a break..
Wash and go life is the ooooonly life for me. Every few months I’m like “maybe I’ll try…” and then I blow my hair out to start a style and give up halfway through because like why am I wasting my time on this?! I’m a loose natural after having locs for 10 years and I REFUSE to let me hair run my life and dictate my schedule. It is not that serious
I wore my hair on vacation for the first time and guess what? Nobody died. It was AMAZING. Never going back.
Yes to this! I’ve only worn my hair on vacay with no problems. Just think ahead and buy those little travel size bottles to take all your hair potions.
Not going to lie I was a bit hesitant to share this one but the dialogue in the comments really brings me so much joy. I love y’all forreal 😭🥰🥹 #PathOfLeastResistance ❤️
I completely understand what you mean. I wear wash and gos 99% of the time because the thought of doing a braid/twistout or a protective style like braids or twists is just exhausting or even worse, it turning out badly and I’ve wasted my time. At least with a wash and go, I can redo it or turn it into a puff or low bun. I would love to see more “lazy natural” content.
I heardddd you 😏❤️
"It wouldn't be difficult, if I didn't make it that difficult" ... I felt that black girl breakdown, while sitting with a half finished head of mini twists 😫
I guess I need to work more in accepting and appreciating my hair as it is and try wash and gos
I was studying and realised I was taking so much time away from it to wash and care for her. One night after studying statistics for hours, I went to wash my hair (at night). After I styled it. I took a shaver and shaved it off. Best decision ever! Grades went ⬆️
Edit. Now I have shoulder length hair and doing my MSc in data science. If she gets in the way again 💇🏿♀️💇🏾♀️. I think she knows her place now… in braids 🤷🏾♀️🥰
Girl what??😵
I did the same thing for my engineering studies.
I felt this in my bones. “Three days?! 3 days!”
“Imma put me first”
Embrace the hair, the frizz the shrinkage, the fuzzy edges. Life should be about more so get out and enjoy it.
“And I don’t wanna do that work-I’m having a black girl breakdown.” I feel you, deeply, sis.
The nervous laughter @12:28 has me cryingggg
NO BUT SIS. You are PREACHING. My gosh! I wasn't sure how to articulate what I've been feeling about my hair recently, and I still find it hard to find the words but just know, EVERYTHING YOU SAID was exactly it!! I literally have a weekend trip (going away tomorrow, woo!) and I was considering staying up ALL NIGHT to do braids or faux locs or SOMETHING.... when really, I have this head of hair that is FREE (can we talk about it?) and a load of products that I can take with me to maintain a cute style. I'll be honest, the hair style I want, I can't achieve with my VERY thick hair (our hair is almost identical) and I didn't think it went with my outfit choices but SO WHAT! Honestly, I'm not killing myself over the crown I've been born with. So in short lol... I'm not doing this anymore WITH YOU!!!! Be blessed, sis! Love from the UK x
Awwwwww I love this!!! Thanks for sharing your story too. The thickness be a blessing and a burden sometimes 😭 So I just try to see her in her blessed state and work with it! Here’s to working with what we got 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I have never been the type of natural to do all the things to my hair simply because I don't feel the need. People see my hair in it's extraordinarily healthy state and are amazed when I tell them, "No I don't use a million products, I don't deep condition all the time, I don't do these fancy treatments and I don't use "protective styles". I keep her clean, hydrated, and leave her alone.That is it, that is all! I learned a long time ago that our hair as it comes...is already presentable. Baby if she clean, hydrated and yours, Your Fine! So just let her be LOL
Whewww girl I'm tired too 😓 When my hair is done and braided, I'm more confident and want to go out. I've spent years and years trying to understand my hair and take care of it. I've tried regular wash and gos, stretched wash and gos, twist outs and braid outs. I'm just still not a fan of how it looks on me but I love it on other people!!! How frustrating? I wish I was that natural that ended up loving her hair in these styles. I really tried.
Me 5-10 years ago would have never considered locs. Me now, I WILL be getting locs. When I started looking at locs on Pinterest and watched videos of the process, I fell in love with them. The journey people go through to loving their hair and themselves more in locs is what I want. Put you first girl!
I didnt realize the amount of time I freed up with not worrying about my hair. Since the rona, I have been washing, blow drying and twisting my hair up. It would take all weekend.. and i would be ok with it because i felt accomplished and saved money. I realized my time is just as valuable as money and knowing when to hand over the skill to the professionals was a reawakening! I also have 4-5 routating styles that I feel cute in. That is good enough. I hope this was a good release for you! Excited to see this journey!
This is exactly why I started doing either wash and go or a roller set and press ONLY. I can’t be bothered anymore either! I feel so carefree now! Best of luck🙏🏽
I think the mentality was that back then we struggled to do our hair it was a nice little break to have someone else do our hair and not have to deal with it but guess what? We have evolved. Wash, condition and style doesn’t take all day anymore. Detangling doesn’t take 8 hours. And we are doing our own protective styles. We like doing our hair and we are good at it. So it doesn’t really make sense to keep doing a cute little “tradition” that no longer serves us. We can wear a wash n go or a braid out or mini twists or even large twists on vacation. It’s okay. It’s beautiful. It’s the path of least resistance.
I love the “path of least resistance”. Very beautifully put!!
P.S your words are the new tag line 😭 #PathToLeastResistance ❤️
@@TruleyTalentedBeauty lol thank you
You are so right about acknowledging how FAR we’ve come with learning how to do our own hair. You made me realize I got my detangling down to 2 hours! And styling is so much easier compared to where I started. Tbh I’m still learning how to be proud of wearing my twists and mini braids out all the time, but this is what I have to offer. This is what y’all gonna get and this is beautiful!
@@calistawithay106 Amen queen!
Honestly, as a person who went natural about 3 1/2 years ago with a big chop, I never plan on working that hard for my hair. I do get the urge when I see the braids and different styles. But as a full-time worker, getting my master's and having a full-time job it is not worth it. I do twist out 2 or 3 strands that I keep for a week, then I do a bonnet at night, let it get volume, then rock an afro for another week. When I get braids, I do not get any extensions; I just use whatever is on my head. I will also wash my hair, blow it out, and wear that style. I think people assume they need to make these grand gestures with their hair, and they really don't. I get more compliments on a blowout or an afro than any other time. IT IS ABOUT CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF!!!
I feel you girl... I do long term protective styles now. I suffer once and take a long break lol 🤣 It has really helped me ... I also plan for my hair in advance..... I can't wait for the tutorial
been here before!!! thanks for putting a name to the moment lol and that style at the end thoughhhh 👏🏾
This is why I started my locs again. It's too much work. I guess I'm 4b & 4c and I spend time doing a style and it either doesn't come out right or I just don't like it. Flat ironing took too long and didn't last long enough. Now, I retwist my hair once and I'm good to go for a while. Lol put you first girl😅 Your hair came out sooo cute though!
Ngl I had half the mind to loc up 😭 I definitely understand. And thank you love ❤️
I just put my comment about wanting locs but I'm so excited to get them! The thought of letting my hair do what it does best and not having to spend a lot of money anymore excites me
@@a_2502 it truly is a time saver, which was my main reason for getting them. Lol and yep, a money saver! Hope your locs flourish!
This is me when I get in the middle of doing my box braids. I’m like who decided to get braids?? Who picked this length?
Girl I totally understand I have 4a/b/c hair and I've been doing my own braids since high school. Every summer since then I would spend hours sometimes DAYS doing my hair. I'm now 30 and over it. I haven't braided my hair in over a year and this is the longest I've went without braids. I actually bought braiding hair at the beginning of spring and it's just sitting there because I no longer want to take the time to do it. It's so much easier to literally wash and go. All I'm saying is you are not alone in how you are feeling. Girl every now and I I think about braiding my hair and I go look at the packs of braiding. I legit get anxiety now from the thought of spending that much time doing my hair lol
Yes, I have those breakdowns. I have thick /long hair. So does my 6 yr old daughter. I always try to do a style that's gonna last a wk for her hair. 🤔 And sometimes I just wear my natural fro or my own high puffed ponytail. Both of our hair gets dry quickly. So I try to keep it moisturized. But your hair stil turned out cute!l 🤩
Whew I felt this in my soul. Every wash day has me ready to cut my hair, relax it or lock it. Thank you for affirming my feelings ❤️.
Hi Truley, I've gotten to the point of washing my hair and twisting up. I do not take it down until I absolutely have to. I can't stress out about my hair no more.
Man, I gave up on hairstyles a while ago. The last few years since COVID hit especially, I just protect it at night and let it do its thing when I get up in the morning. If I gotta go somewhere, I'll put it in a big puff and that's it.
Sometimes it just feels like the expectation for us to Do Something with our Hair (something I've heard for years growing up from even my own family) is just too much.
As I get older, I've just been appreciating the process of just letting myself be. I had the energy to do crazy styles in my 20s but I'm in my mid-30s. I. Just... Don't have time for it anymore. I'll do it if I want to try something out but my day to day should be about me just being at peace with me.
This is definitely me
Your ponytail is lovely 🥰
Yasss the slick bun suits you well!! So pretty.😍
I love when my faves watch my faves! That video from StarPuppy resonated with me too, and so does your experience. Thank you for your transparency, it’s nice to be reminded that none of us are alone on this natural hair journey. ❤️
Wow…I related to this so much…I have grown to love my hair and take it for what it is. I pretty much rotate between some sort of puff or bun 😂 to just love on my hair especially after having styles that I had to
accommodate to the extreme for. I couldn’t do it on a consistent bases, but I’ve learned that that’s okay. Do you, love who God made you to be without envying anyone else for THEIR hair and love/enjoy MY OWN hair
It’s crazy that you’re saying this because you’re videos have made my natural hair journey so much easier! I’m traveling right now and your videos actually inspired me to wear my hair in its wash n go states. You put me on that as I am refreshing spray!!!!! GWORL. When I say it refreshed the product that was all in my hair AND detangled it! My hair travel experience has been so. Easy and it’s still detangled!!!!
That being said I feel this black girl breakdown and have had it multiple times. But watching your content has helped me see how beautiful and flexible my natural hair is and it can actually be cute and convenient if you learn it. So thank you for showing this and showing us it don’t take all that anymore.
I have learned to accept my hair as it is once it’s washed. If it shrinks, I rock it just like that. I’m also at the point where I finally colored my hair and afterwards will loc it up so I won’t have to stress over a style. I’ll be connecting even more with myself.
Last week I had this feeling too 🤦🏾♀️😰 I thought I was the only one 😭😭
And it’s crazy to say this, but I thought I was the only one who went through this. I was so close to putting that creamy crack back in my hair, but I thought of how beautiful my curls are. It’s tough being natural but it worth having thick, kinky and coily hair
I agree with you on the whole "hair has to be done if I'm going out for the weekend" outlook. I know not everyone agrees with the whole no oils/butters, three step method, 30 day detox, whatever you want to call it...but it's bc of that community I learned to not spend a whole day on my hair. wear bomb wash and go's to special events like weddings and birthdays. I'll be damned if I have to spend the whole day on my hair. my braider doesn't even take more than 5 hours to do medium/small box braids that are waist length. there's no reason for me to be in my hair for more than 2 hours
What I learned from the no oils no butters thing is to simplify the routine. I shampoo, deep condition, use 1 or two products to style my hair (usually twists for a twistout). Took me 2 hours today to wash detangle and twist my hair. Shampoo with hair loose in a downward motion. Deep condition for how long it says on the package, no more no less. Section to detangle. Use two products max to style. My hair is shiny and manageable and I love it.
@@ifeoluwaogunkola8328 agreed that's true their method of doing things is freeing
StarPuppy!!! Shout-out love it!! Love you!!
That nose piercing is too cute😍
Thanks love!
I'm sitting here saying, 'but why not do a wash n go?' 🤣🤣🤣 in all seriousness them type 2, type 3 hair types will do the same curl routine no matter what and save other styles for a real special occasion so I dunno whyyyyy Type 4s think they gotta act different. shoot I washed my hair before work and that wasn't a chore 40 min wash, dried until I lost patience and went to work. I'd say get comfortable with a cut that looks good when you're hair is undefined so you can rock a fro
You are so right. Type 3's have no problem wearing their hair as is. However, type 4 always choose to wear stretched styles. I wish I can master wash and go without the tangles, or the knots it does to my ends. I think it's very easy to admire the comfotability type 3 have in the non-stretched state because type 4 has very high shrinkage.
@@xtelfolaj I think Type 4s really gotta confront their issue with shrinkage because my thought process is, 'i like this tight curl pattern' rather than 'my hair is actually thiiiis long when wet'. my priorities were embracing definition and shape rather than hair length. we can't have the same expectations as we did when we had straight hair, I think some folks are still hung up on that.
I started my journey with a professional to lock down my wash n go and get a hair cut that works for me when I want to rock a fro and I think thats the best advice for those on their journey that have styling fatigue like this. We are not our hair, it doesn't need to morph and change every week for us to be relevant, and having a simple, quick and healthy routine is far preferable to setting aside a whole day for some braids
You are right on the money. Something I definitely plan or touching on more especially with my hair type. Especially that straight hair mentality you talked about!! Whew. But I have been thinking about actually getting a cut/shape that would make wash and gos easier cause I’m definitely team embrace the shrinkage.
@@TheVeritasForYou that's a self talk I need to have with myself because I am definitely a length girl. If I could wear my hair blown out (not talking about a silk press) after every wash, I would. But even with protectant, I still see a little damage on my fine, thick hair. I need to work on loving my hair shrunken. Do you have any tips on a successful wash n go?
@@xtelfolaj the most important things to realize, something RUclipsrs rarely say, is that your hair needs to build up the ability to remain hydrated when it's dried and that not everyone can last the whole week wearing a wash n go. those things need to be accepted in order to get the style down pat. It also all starts with a cut, specifically 4 every 3 months. I needed that many trims to stop my hair from knotting at the bottom. don't stretch or fluff, let your fro shake itself out of the cast and you'll be fine
Currently going through it. It's been going on for a month 😮💨 at this point a wig is looking pretty great right now.
I felt this on so many levels had this whole convo half way through mini twist.
I’m only 5 minutes in but your breakdown is so real! These were some of the exact emotions I felt a few weeks ago. I was trying to do knotless braids and struggled so much (Im not good at hair). at the end of the day half my Saturday was gone and nothing to show for it. I was so over it. That was honestly the final straw for me and I decided to start locs. My appointment is in 3 weeks! I donn’t want to worry about my hair anymore. Paying for it, doing it, how long it’s growing, etc. I just want to be free.
YOUR HAIR AT THE END😩 TOO CUTE 🥹❤️
I'm right there with you. I'm over it. I'm putting me first. I just don't have the energy or time. I'm tired of being tired before I even begin my hair. It's overwhelming and overated.
Go live your best life!!!🥳 😘💕🤸🏽♀️
I’ve learned that my wash & gos can last for a week just fine! I start it off stretched but by the end of the week it turns into this cute lil afro 🥰. Leaving it alone has been much easier for me! Even at night.. I don’t sleep with anything. Surprisingly trying to preserve it over night is what used to mess up the shape/ style the next morning.
tell me how you don't end up with hair in your mouth???
I rarely rarely comment but this video has put words to what I've been thinking about for a few days now! I've been growing soooooo tired of having to do my hair week in and week out. And you're so right where different girlies don't have to face this situation. I've been thinking about just starting to wash, condition, moisturise and gooo and that's it! I'm excited to see how your content evolves with this potentially new mindset.
Ive honestly been feeling this same way about my natural hair too😩😭 it sounds complicated out loud but its true how heavy planning hair maintenance around life can be.
Girl I feel you ! I was natural for 7 years and I decided to loc my hair. I just turned 25 and had a baby this year and I honestly do not have the time to do my hair all the time! Now i am 3 weeks loc'd and I just take my scarf off and fluff it up and im on about my business!
I totally understand. I’ve been thinking of a big chop for months and my family keeps telling me no. I’m like you don’t have to do hair so you guys don’t understand. I can’t do wash and go, my twist-outs and braid-out don’t come out right anymore and I’m just over it.
I would love to see more lazy style content. Once I realised that I truly didn't care about all these styles and that I wanted my wash day to be simple, I did simple wash and gos. I and mean wash and GO. I did shave my head mid last year because I had always wanted to grow it from bald, but in it's in the awkard mini phase but I'm happy with my current routine. I find wash day and preparing to go out more peaceful and relaxing now, to the point where I'm excited to wash my hair I just need to learn how to use the head wrap and how to preserve my hair at night as it gets longer and I'll be at my peak!
I’m looking to get a traditional sew-in (it’s been yearssss) using a really good grade of Afro kinky straight from this black owned hair company that I have been eyeing . They sell 4a-c extensions 😍. That way I’m matching the weave with my hair instead of matching my hair with the weave like back in the day 😂. Good luck with the switch up Queen !!!
OMG I am actually going through the same thingggg, I feel burned out with my natural hair, 2 weeks ago I stated putting in braids, but I could not go past 1 braid, so i decided to wear a wig because, I am just tired. I don't know what to do.
I feel like more and more naturals are feeling this way
I felt 5his WHOLE damn video!!! YASSSSSZ! With me and my 2 girls. I felt like 'wash day' was a whole damn week for allla us!!!!🥺😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 And now ALLLA 7s are loc'd. I'm sisterlocked, my oldest 19 year old is traditional loc'd (diy by herself) and my 13 year old is micro loc'd by me.
Do you gurrrl! Because I'ma still be back to see your fun videos. I love your genuine personality.
I KNOW that’s RIGHT SIS!! Put YOU FIRST!! I can’t g bald EITHER! However sista locs are whispering MY NAME!! I CANNOT ANYMORE!! All I do is wear a bun and dasssIT!! I’m over it! Simply don’t have the time anymore....smh!
I’ve been feeling this way for weeks. Even doing my wash and go has had me wanting to give up half way through for no real reason other than I’m just tired. At this point I’m ready to just pay for the braids and have a couple weeks break. Hopefully that’ll fix it for me
I totally understand your frustration. A few years ago I said screw it and became a simple natural. I literally ONLY do wash n gos or two Dutch braids. I ain't got time to be spending hours twisting, bantu knotting, plaiting, etc. My hair is healthy and down my back. My wash days are no more than 1.5hrs..more like 1hr 15mins 😅
Yo! I feel you. Can't tell you how fast I clicked that StarPuppy video because out of everything, the one place I don't mind being called "lazy" is with my natural hair.
It's still a bit of work my mane is a chameleon so whenever I think I have a good thing going with routine she switch it up on me. I can't deal with staying up all hours of the night with her so all blessings & rest to you.
Please always put yourself before stressing out about the hair that can change. 💜
Yessss. I loved that video from star puppy, 4 simple styles in rotation and that’s itttt
I KID YOU NOT, I WAS COMPLETELY TAKEN ABACK BY YOUR BEAUTY AT THAT LAST CLIP OH MY GOSH YOU ARE STUNNING AND PLEASE SHOW US HOW YOU CREATED THAT HAIRSTYLE YOU MAKE IT LOOK SO GOOD
I’m so glad more naturals are expressing burnout from styling their natural hair constantly. I always thought it was a must, but I’m glad to see I can be lazy/low maintenance and natural lol my hair prefers the low manipulation anyway
Giiiirl!!!! The natural hair withdrawals are real. 😅 Glad you made it up that hill though. As for me and my house?! Y’a girl still struggling. 😆
I so agree with you. Those hair ads gear us to try this and try that. Enough already. New Subbie and I love the vlog!
You look absolutely gorgeous. The black girl breakdown is real ✨. Loving the lazy natural way ❤️
I feel as though my Black Girl Breakdown happened when I had my first son and hasn't stopped so through the years I've cut it several times and I just decided to loc it up almost 2 months ago. I feel more beautiful now especially since I don't have to put much effort into looking like somebody lol.
I love this for you! I love to wear my hair out on vacations after my very first one as a natural where I put in my own extensions that looked horrible and I hated it the whole time. It's always been so much easier for me than styled hair and it wears out nicer because it really is better moisturized. Love your videos and StarPuppy's
PREACHING TO THE CHOIR SIS! i am tired and i surely don’t want to work hard on my hair anymore so i’m not! i love this newfound freedom for us 💙
I felt this! It's 2:10 am and I'm only 3 braids in 😞
yes! i have about 4 styles in rotation and that's it 😄 i felt everything you said
The style you did is really cute.
Wrap that how up.......exactly how I feel😅🤣
I just cut off most of my curls off into a pixie last week because I was just sick and tired of it. And I wasn't feeling it at first because it was shorter than I wanted and I was like nah I'm gonna have to get a sew in or something but now it's growing on me and when I tell you it's freeing I mean it takes me less than five minutes to do 😎🤌💯
It’s crazy because I just recently watched that StarPuppy vid you spoke of && both you & her hit my thoughts on the nail! I have a TWA currently and I’m in that awkward stage so scarves & cute simple protective styles w my own hair . Simplicity is ready be my new friend
Oh and you did that!!! I LOVE that style at the end. 😍🥰
This video was so needed lol!! Puts a lot of things into perspective. I have braid outs and wash n gos in rotation as far as day to day styles go and I'm quite fine with that. Heading on vacay on Saturday and had my mom do knotless braids for me because I actually do need a little break from doing my hair and personally didn't want my hands in my hair at all during vacation as I'd be in the water a lot.
Needless to say, natural hair is as hard as you make it imo. Love the idea of normalizing natural hair on trips/vacations though. I've done this many times and it was literally more than okay loll. Glad you were able to release all that and come to a cute style with the curls
So no lie I just had the black girl breakdown. Like I have so many hair strands and my hair is so long that no one wants to do my hair. Like I don’t trust many hairstylists I’m very selective bc everyone CANNOT do my hair. Anddd I’m hella pre-rich so I can’t waste money like that. I really be borderline panic attack doing my hair. It got to the point that I’ve seriously considered relaxing it. What I usually end up doing is a simplified version of the style if my anxiety hold off to make progress with the style. If not then I’ll just leave my hair to do what it’s gone do. No one knows the difference if you don’t tell em. Oooh why don’t you start a series called “It really is that easy…” I’m sending healing, happy, and tame the mane energies your way boo.
You gotta do what's best for you, and I just think you're being practical. Gotta take care of you first before doing anything for anybody else! I know I'll still be here for whatever you bring.
gurl I relate to the breakdown. I love my hair but I'm in the process of relearning it cause it started breaking due to a lack of protein and nutrients cause I went through a depressive state and I didn't have the best relationship with food and my hair has definitely suffered for it. my hair changed from porosity to the rough feeling of my individual hair strands, to the elasticity and splits and the overall dry feeling and the breakage that I keep having to cut. I had a healthy hair journey for a year and I got the length and the density and everything I wanted with my hair. and now the thought that I have to start over has really made me not want to see or even deal with my hair (which is the opposite of what my hair needs rn). Idk if the structural damage is even salvageable, I'm not sure if it needs a detox if I should get new products, or if giving it protein and taking vitamins will stop my damage, and having to go through that process again is tiring.
Awww. I just want to give you a hug. I get it.
Wow u got me emotional I relate so deeply 🥹💖💖
Ever since I went natural 3 years ago. I never put my hair in a protective style. I felt hair really isn't that fragile, I don't need to treat it like fine porcelain glass. I accepted all hair types will just get split ends and knots and it is what it is. I will just trim regularly its just hair and it grows. And I was right my tight coiled hair has reached shoulder length, yes naturally their were ups and downs but that's expected. But I retained my length and thickness. And avoided most of the stresses that I didn't want to deal with.
🗣TUH!!!!! I'm there with you! I'd pay and struggle through whatever to hide my hair away which became expensive. Especially since moving to GA and not have a stylist. I do mini twist now exclusively because it's easy and free. A days work but weeks of freedom balances it out.
this! everything you're saying is validating the reason why I shaved my head after growing it to BSL for 12 years and it was the best decision I've made in a long time. when you said you're going to put yourself first and not your hair !!! I've been living like that for the last few months (because I aint got no hair) and while it's very foreign for me, the liberation!!!!
I don't wear my hair in wash and goes or twist or or braid out because i don't have time for that instead i will put my hair in braids for about two or three weeks at the end i will wear the braid out for two days and then I will go ahead do my wash day and braid my hair up again my hair grows
I’m cutting my hair next week for a similar reason. I redo my hair weekly but I usually wear it in twisted styles and I move slow so it takes a while. I’m also a perfectionist when it comes to the outcome and one time I spent an hour trying to make one part straight and it was the most frustrating moment. I used to really like seeing a picture of a style and recreating it or when someone would compliment it and ask who did it. But I don’t enjoy doing my hair anymore and maybe it’s because I’m in my second year of law school now and am going to share a bathroom for the first time in a few years but I don’t want to keep spending a day doing it. I don’t wear wash and go’s often because I feel….inconvienced by them?? I like them but if I see one side got squished or is crooked the perfectionist come out and my hair is too dense to do a loose puff with a wash and go. I don’t really want to plan my life around when I do my hair. This past year I would get a text from my friends asking if I wanted to get food or hang out and I would either respond saying I’m doing my hair right now or I would have to think about how late I could stay up to do it before the school week started. If someone tried talking to me while I was doing my hair I would talk to them through my bathroom door or get a scarf to cover up while I was “in process”. Since I don’t feel inspo anymore I have been doing the same style every single week and it feels like a waste. I’m also cutting because I don’t like how insecure it makes me when it’s not done (whether that be twisted or wash and go) and the attachment I have. And I have convinced myself that since short hair looks good on all the pretty people I see I’ll like it on myself shorter than I had it before when I big chopped after transitioning. I like how big my hair it and how much hair I have but that’s until I part it in half and see no end lol.
Hope your hair doesn’t stress you out anymore! Just realized how long my comment is.
Love it. New to your channel. Would love to see things that I can do in my daughters hair that can be natural and relaxed and not as much effort. Thank you!
Put me first! Yesss, before my hair now. That’s what imma do. Thank you 🙌🏾
Take care of your self as always loved your VIDEO keep them coming looking forward to seeing you again so I really understand. I am a older women my hair have change a lot now but it is beautiful
I go through this a lot. I’m never tryna do too much but I do want some sort of hairstyle which is normally counter productive. I think about shaving my head A LOT
I understand what you're saying stress over problems can make it real hard i am having the same problem with my hair is growing out. Some I need to color my hair I have not color it because I am doing the wigs they are time I really want to do more my on hair. I really really understand what you're saying.
I like the final look. I have been wearing my own hair lately, and I have been loving and enjoying it. Since I have to wash it 3 times a week. This is the doctor's order for inflammation. I can't wait until this is over.
…I had that exact moment the last time I went to a salon and relaxed my hair: I had booked weeks ahead, travelled for over an hour, got messed around and overcharged only to come out like grease ball with a chemical burn on the nape of my neck. As I was sitting on the train home I thought never again ! I think it happens to all of us at least once😂!
I love your channel and Star Puppy. I believe natural hair is hard when we make it hard. When we go into elaborate styles and want our hair to be something it's naturally not, that makes it hard. I have 4c/b hair and I can wash, condition moisturize and put it in a clip to wear a high puff in like 30-45 minutes. I think it's what we make it. I feel you on the burnout though Sometimes we just gotta keep it simple to keep our peace ✌ 😌 🙏
You look R A D I A N T. A lot of us naturals have to set ourselves free from the unnecessary obligations that have been put on us by a “community” that truly doesn’t even reflect or support us anymore. Do what makes YOU happy with YOUR hair. Love you baby girl 💕
I can relate.....I don't do wigs...on the days I don't do my hair. I wrap my head in pretty African material and I'm out the door....I'm done with the stress.
I just keep my hair in flat twists and twist. I wake up and go. When I wanna be cute I slap on a wig. My hair grows fast in those styles. I recently had a moment where my hair was shedding excessively. I believe it was stress but I was tired of seeing it fall out so I cut it. I kiss my hair but I’m going back to what I was doing.
Me commenting again.... Lol yes girl I love the style i really want to see how u do that ammo need to wear my hair like that for the first day at college thank you
No because WHYY was I just thinking today while doing my hair “why don’t I ever just travel with it natural?” Like why tf not?!
The struggle is real...but try to find grey...now that's really struggling. I prefer to wear my natural when traveling. Sandy beaches, pool and chlorine I find it healthier to just just wear a hat and wash and go. I'm with you.
& that's why I cut mine short 😩 having to do mine and my little girls hair wad alot. My daughter been wearing her natural hair the last few weeks. 😍
I think we need to redefine “lazy natural”. I don’t consider myself lazy, I’m just not excessive (and yes, I think long-term protective styles are excessive). I do my simple wash n gos and alternate headwraps. To me, ‘lazy’ is neglect and my routine isn’t giving that. Twists on my own hair is the most I’ll do for vacation hair. If that.
Preach 🙏🏿
I find that if you braid your hair when it's pressed out you can get it done quickly...my hair is waist length and when I press it out first I can get a whole head of knotless braids (pencil width) in 5 hours No breaks...6-7 hours with a break..
twists, bantu knots, flexi rods oh my. and now it’s two braids and some leave in.
Wash and go life is the ooooonly life for me. Every few months I’m like “maybe I’ll try…” and then I blow my hair out to start a style and give up halfway through because like why am I wasting my time on this?! I’m a loose natural after having locs for 10 years and I REFUSE to let me hair run my life and dictate my schedule. It is not that serious