LETS TALK: FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS | Jessie B
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- Lets talk: friends with benefits! Talking pros & cons, can you guys ever go back to being just friends, how to not develop feelings, how to pull off a successful one & much much more!
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I've only had one official friends with benefits relationship and I caught feelings after a month or two. I wouldn't recommend it to someone who falls for someone easily, because you can get really badly hurt. Luckily for me, he also caught feelings a month later and we've now been together for 3 months. Sometimes they're great, sometimes they can end in disaster. Just don't ever settle for a fwb relationship because the person you like doesn't want more. THAT will tear you apart.
Sara Tucker 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 aw wow I am so happy for you!! Like I am so happy that things actually worked in your favour because it doesn’t happen that often! But what you said is so freaking true 👏🏻❤️
G _95 That's amazing!!! Congratulations to the both of you 💖
oops LMAO
What if it's the Attention you fall for
As someone who’s messed around with these relationships in the past I can honestly say from my experience they never work. Both parties are never really on the same page and it usually leads to some lowkey resentment
xoOffWithHerHead preach!🙌🏼👏🏻
I agree with that
xoOffWithHerHead If she’s not cool with it, oh well. That’s why I posted the comment I just did.
It's a fact
Also I think it's important to note that oxytocin is a hormone that's present for men as well, it's not just women. & while it does create a feeling of bonding or whatever, and people do call it the "love hormone" it's not something that makes you fall in love necessarily. Your body also releases oxytocin when you eat chocolate, yknow? I think the idea that women are inherently more susceptible than men to falling in love any time they have sex is a little harmful because it's just not true! I think the fact that women tend to catch feelings more easily probably has more to do with socialization than something biological haha.
Facts
I agree with you 100%!
Omg yes. Exactly what I was going to say
true i had a female friend who had two friends with benefits with guys and they both wanted more and she didn’t
I have to say, I kind of disagree, and don't think this can be relating chocolate oxytocin vs an actual hug oxytocin. A hug feels much better, and doesn't have the same effect as chocolate in some sense in terms of effects (living longer through feeling socially included). I feel like it's inherently biological differences on a hormonal level
Yellow really suits you girl!! 💛
Sarah Celeste aw thank you girl, I do love the colour yellow 🙈 love me some bright colours ✨
Friends with benefits it's still friends, so you don't just have sex, you do care about them to some extend, if the person is your actual friend
Very well said Elena :)
Luv her videos ❤❤❤
Elena beautiful queen ❤❤❤
I am currently in a friends with benefits relationship and it is honestly absolutely great. While I was listening to your cons I came to realize that the fwb situation I am in resembles something like an open relationship that nobody knows of. We are friends in the daytime and a cuddling, sex-having "couple" in the night time. I don't know whether we secretly share feelings for another or it is just because we are such good friends, but it is very intimate. I have no fwb relationships to compare it with, but it seems to be much more intimate than usual ones
I'm literally in the same situation... it seems to be a lot more intimate than a usual fwb. idk what do
Thanks for sharing. This very much so is the dynamic I envision for two of my ocs.
I think it’s important to know what suits you.
I don’t get jealous, I have very separate views on love and sex, I don’t get emotionally attached almost ever. For this part of my life when I focus on work and wanna move a bit, friends with benefits really fits my situation. I really don’t wanna give the energy into possible relationship when I’ll move from this country in few months to a year. I’m lucky I found person where we are on the same page rn.
Also we take care of each other as good friends would and we do cuddle and sleep together. We talked about sleeping with other people and we are very open about it.
Third comment but I have a lot of thoughts on this 😄 I think it helps when you are as logical of a person as possible and as you said - COMMUNICATE (but that you should do in any relationship anyway)
Also I sooo agree on the ex. NEVER do that!
This is exactly how I feel now. I want to focus on school, moving to another country and getting a good job but as soon as I start having feelings for someone, I'm completely unable to focus on myself. It's like my brain has this all or nothing attitude. I think friends with benefits is the only solution for me at this point, since I've been alone for 3 years and don't want to live without sex anymore.
where was this video when i needed it 2 years ago when i had a friend with benefit smh
Nelly M smh where was this channel 2 years ago😂😂
Lmaooo true
I know rude right BUT ITS HERE NOW - thats actually mad how I wasn't even doing this 2 years ago like what it feels like i've been doing this since I left the womb
Every thing is over
Still getting over the heartbreak of my last (and only lol) FWB relationship... sad cause we dont talk anymore really but now I can truly understand the importance of communication
I've had loads of friends with benefits relationships and they always worked great. I agree with your ideas about when it's a bad idea, but for me I always maintained (pretty close) friendships and neither of us ever caught feelings (and the one time we did we ended up dating for about a year so it worked out lol) and whenever we were done we just stopped sleeping together. Never any hard feelings or anything. Just be clear about what you want from the start. It's okay to set boundaries and rules for a friends with benefits situation just in terms of like, "if this happens this is how we handle it, this is what I'm looking for and if that changes we need to stop, etc."
Kara Ann this🙌🏽
Loads??
@@coreygavin9134 Is that a problem?
@@karaann6966 sure...if you want a good man that you don't have to constantly lie to...men do not want sloppy seconds or easy girls...they will fuck them but they dont want to settle down with them...i'm sure you've heard "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free"...I know of what i speak, trust me...Oh yes the double standard exists for many reasons such as women prefer experienced men while men would rather be the teacher and it's obviously easier to clean the outside of a pipe than the inside...Plus true love is nearly impossible nowadays because people are getting increasingly shallow, especially women.
Loads of loads lol damn #gardentool
your like the older sister I never had xx 😘💝💕
THAT MAKES ME SO HAPPY - I always wanted a little sister so you can be the little sister I never had 🙊 xxx
+Jessie B yasssss
Your accent is the cutest on the whole world 🙏🏼
Karolina Sikorska where is her accent from?
For me it sounds perfectly british
It's Irish ❤️❤️
Karolina Sikorska She’s Irish, they’re two completely different accents lol
@@kittycat2312 Dublin
Great advice. You truly deserve your success. So much wisdom, and you're still very young, I wish I'd had such maturity at your age.
Its great that you have that ability to reach people, and they listen to you.
I love how real you are jessie you talk about the things all youtubers are scared to talk
About I love it so much ❤️
Alicerose Pigott Levers 😭😭😭 that means so much to me - thank you so much! When I started my channel I knew I wanted to talk about topics that aren’t spoke about because videos like this would of really helped me when I was younger so if I can help ANYONE then I will be one happy gal! Hehe but seriously thank you for supporting me - I am forever grateful ❤️
Experimenting; leading to learning and experiencing firsts with someone who is not your main man... That really turns off men who might have strong feelings for you once they find out...I couldnt deal with stuff like that so i decided to always stay single. The specialness of the relationship is then not special at all.
Virgin here but I feel like all these videos are gonna be so helpful one day 😊😂
Lmao same
Can u have a friends with benefits relationship if you are a Virgin so basically just do everything else except fucking ?
@@antoniajohst2835 im doing it, should be fine
Still virgin rn?
@@antoniajohst2835 wow that’s so weird. What’s the point then?
You are such a ray of sunshine. I love how you are so open and real with us in all your videos. Also, 30 mins of you talking is absolutely everything I could wish for. Love you💖
I don't have anything to say about the topic, but I'm german and I spent the last year as an Au Pair in Ireland. Listening to your lovely irish accent makes me just so happy. It feels like I'm having a chat with a friend back in Cork. Btw you're incredibly pretty. Lots of love from Germany xx
Well I have friends with benefits and we love each other as friends but also more than friends but it's just we can't have a relationship so it's just friends with benefits. See it does not only have to be sex it can be more. Everything more than friends and less than a relationship is in my eyes friends with benefits.
your makeup looks GORGEOUS in this video! Congratulations on 100K girl you deserve it!! Xx
Ah thank you so much darling!🙈 I still can’t believe it, it still feels like a dream!!😭❤️ xxx
I don't know if I'll ever want to be in this kind of relationship because I want the love. If I were in a romantic relationship with someone I wouldn't care that much about sex, I want the love that comes with it (hopefully)
Yeah these relationship is definitely not for everyone - these relationships are 100% not for me either as I need that connection and love with someone! x
same
Barbora Lukyova You can have the love. Just love having sex. Where’s the problem.
I only just recently found your channel, but oh my god you're such a beautiful person, inside out, and I LOVE how open and honest you are, and your accent is so cute.
I would never be in a FWB relationship, but I still watched this video all the way through because I love your videos 😂 this could be very helpful for so many people; so glad you made it!
Shannon Leigh Music That is dedication girl I FREAKING LOVE YOU GOD!❤️ thank you so much lovely - hope you’re having a fab weekend! Xx
aw thank you!! :)
men's bodies release oxytocin too when having sex, not just women's bodies.
i think everybody should know this, bc even nowadays when we have so much more knowledge about this subject, many people still think that women are the more emotional gender and men are the opposite, when in fact both sexes develop feelings fairly easily towards their sexual partner. this has been (and still is) a very beneficial trait to us as a species, and that's why evolution has "made" us this way over the hundreds of thousands of years that humans have existed.
sexual partners developing feelings for each other is beneficial bc thats how they are more likely to stay together - for long enough to raise a baby to toddler age. even nowadays a relationship lasts on average for about three years. thats the time you need to make a baby, and the baby to grow to a toddler age and after that time its more likely for the romantic feelings to fade, and also the child has grown old enough to be looked after more by the whole community and not just their parents.
ofc in todays society many people want to stay together longer than that, and monogamy is the social norm of relationships in most of the cultures now. but this doesen't chage how evolution has "made" us work originally.
joo9000000 ooooh science. Thanks for all these details 🙌🏼
Thank you for clarifying, I was looking for this comment ;) I love Jesse's video but when she said this I was confused as to whether my understanding of biochemistry was wrong or not ^^'
Paris Azul no problem:-)!
Crystaloona thanks:-) i loved the video as well, just felt like clarifying this thing:-)
The hormonal response of women and men is different though. Men are driven to orgasm, while women are overflown after their orgasm. That's why it's so easy for men to just turn on their back and fall asleep right after they have orgasm. On the other hand, women naturally need some kind of physical contact after sex and feel more attracted towards their male partner.
One thing I think is really important when it comes to “friends with benefits” is that you NEED to know yourself very well. You need to listening to yourself and any signs of what makes it work or not work. Figure out what could cross your line and “safe zone” and what you find acceptable.
I have had sex with an sex, but that was after a few years and not right after the breakup. Overall I agree to it not being the best idea, but both of us knew feelings wasn’t an option for us. So feelings didn’t get caught, because we would stop right away if anything got unclear. So no hard feelings and nobody got hurt. Just remember it’s psychical affection and nothing more, so be prepared to let go at move on - no matter who you benefit from.
Great video, it was straight on point 🙌🏻
And thank you for talking about the harder subjects, because it’s needed. 👏🏻
"If you're not happy about what you're getting in the bedroom, or the car..." 🤣🤣🤣 Ahh I loved this!
The taking out on dates, giving gifts, and sleeping over do confuse me a lot. I find these types of relationships to be so emotionally draining.
I agree. Going through the same with someone who doesn't want a relationship but acts like a girlfriend is heartbreaking.
My guy literally hangs out with my parents for boardgames, drives me around and buys me meals. He just doesn't want a relationship with me.
THIS IS SO HELPFUL!!! I am currently in this situation and this really helped give me a clear head and was so good to hear about someone who has been in the same situation! Has really made me think about the relationship I am in, and to avoid ending up with a broken heart! Thank uuuu lovely💕
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!! I'm delighted that you hit 100,000 subscribers and to reach one million views on just one video is incredible
Patrick Dineen ISNT IT IM SO PROUD LOOK AT OUR JESSIE
THANK YOU SO MUCH - this was filmed before I hit 100k thats why I didn't address it in this video 🙊 It still doesn't feel real, i'm so happy 😭
I'm almost 2 years into a similar "it's complicated/friends with benefits" relationship to what you were, Jessie, and I can 1000000% vouch for everything you said. We started out "dating" with him saying he wasn't looking for anything serious and then it moved more into a "friends with benefits" thing without me really even realizing and I absolutely caught feelings and I ended up very very hurt and to this day still can't (and don't want to) walk away. Absolutely define clear lines and do leave it purely physical because we do/did go out on dates and from the beginning despite him saying he didn't want a relationship that's how he treated me so I got confused and caught those feelings and couldn't turn them off, because we still do hang out and no matter how you try and define things later on, once you've caught feelings its so difficult to uncatch them. It's very gray and very hard. Learn from my mistakes y'all!
How to pronounce oxytocin "oxy-toe-sin" ...i hope that helps, also can i just say that i love the fact that you talk about these things and arent afraid to be so open with us 💞💞
I seriously love your videos Jessie, you are so gorgeous and your videos are very entertaining. Love you
Jes 😭😭😭😭 I love you so much, thank you friend!!❤️
I'm sort of in a friends with benefit relationship at the minute. We haven't gone as far as sex so I don't know if the "friends with benefits" term actually applies, but he's been one of my best friends for three years and everything we HAVE done has worked super well for both of us. I have a lot of emotions for him, obviously, and him with me, but its great cause I honestly am in love with him as just a friend. So just on the certain part about whether it should be someone you're actually FRIENDS with or not, I disagree as I think it should be a real friend. This is just because I trust and know my friend really well already, and he is in the same place as me regards wanting to be single, AND he knows me and how my emotions are really well. So just saying, its worked better for me this way, but obviously it could be different if actual intercourse becomes involved. I love this video, kudos to you for talking about this!! Love your videos so much, and you're looking bombbbb as always xx
I really love watching your videos, so interesting and different to others♥️ congratulations for all you are archiving x ♥️
Aw wow 😩 that is such a lovely comment, thank you ever so much you've no idea how much that means to me! ❤️ sending you so much love & I hope you have a lovely weekend x
"Caught! Catched... Jessica, go back to school!" - I laughed out loud :D Great content, Jessie. I didn't even notice when 30 mins passed by :)
Hehe delighted to hear it gave you a giggle 🙈 aw wow that makes me so happy - the fact you didn’t notice the time passing! Thank you so much my lovely - hope you have an amazing weekend 💛
It did! It's nice to know that I'm not the only one doing that 😂 You're very sweet, have a nice one!
I am actually currently in a friends with benefits relationship and it’s been difficult because he was my first everything. I was a Virgin before him and he was so kind and patient and helped me to be less insecure and he’s honestly just been great. But it’s been confusing because over the past few months we have started to become really good friends and we really care and trust each other. I am trying to take it a day at a time but I wonder could he ever fall for me? Or will it just always be what it is? We also just met on Tinder so we were not friends before... idk I’m confused haha 🤷🏼♀️
wow how did that end? i'm kinda in the same position...well no but i could be hahaha. a guy who snappchatted me asked me if i have time
to..you know..do it with him. he's not a virgin anymore, but i am. idk its a chance for friends with benefits, i mean we never met, but if we
do in the future, there's a chance for a friendship+. idk kinda confused bc i'm not ready but he like turns me on hahah and maybe he would
also wait? bc it sounded like he would lmao yea ok lol
@@notyoubutme4153 tell me how it ended, I'm in almost the same boat as you 😂
Tae Yoon well lol we still talk in a friendship way...he has a gf now but he‘s not thaaat loyal lmfao...she isn‘t either....we talked on the phone for like 2 hours the last week and he was like „hmmmm would it be ethically ok if you come over now?“😉 and i was like NO LOL. they werent together at this point but a couple days after. lol...
Tae Yoon and what situation are you in?
@@notyoubutme4153 I met a guy and we were friends for a while but somehow that topic of fwb came up and now that's what we are 🤷🏻♀️
Lowkey freaked out when you answered my question. (First question btw)
Aine W hehe YAAAS!🙊❤️
I am a single mother and I feel its unfair on my son to date people and stuff. If it gets serious and my son likes them and we then break up it would be heart breaking for him. So I keep dating as a no and if I end up with a friends with benfits they never meet my son etc.
Is your son gonna suffer from heartbreak ? Yes he is. Mostly from girls he'll hit on. That will happen. A lot. (Maybe more so as a guy because you gotta make the first move, so even if you might not completely have fallen in love with a girl before making a move, you will be dealing with emotional rejection. A lot.). *And he needs to know it will happen.*
That's not quite the same as him feeling sad that the guy you're dating stopped dating you.
You're probably overprotecting him, and as a consequence you're not only indirectly teaching him to be paralyzed by the idea of future emotional disappointment and suffering, but you're also hurting yourself by not allowing yourself to fall in love and be loved and be disappointed and break up...
*Something ending doesn't mean that it wasn't worth starting.* That goes for movies, that goes for love, and that goes for life.
Now if what YOU WANT to do is F*** around, and you don't want more for yourself, then fine for you. And yes don't tell your son.
But if ever you were to meet someone who it might get serious with, then take your time, but go for it !
Please
Be Happy
You're worth it
@@blop-a-blop9419 TLDR
Personally I dislike them. For me sex would be something I want with something who I love. For me to sleep with someone I would have been with them for quite a while and know that I can truly see myself with them for the rest of my life. Sex would be romantic to me. Special. I'm not against people who have them- if that's what you like then go for it! Do you boo! But it isn't for me.
Alice Philippa it’s 100% not for me either!❤️
+Jessie B Love you xx
YES! I fully agree :)
Agree
Well sometimes in life shits happens. And boom you're in it without realizing it. It just happens.😭
I was dead set against this type of relationship...Until now that I met someone I don't want as a partner but that I am attracted to physically.. We are friends, as a person theyre fun and great but we have very different ways of thinking so I know we'd only argue in a committed relationship.
Love you Jessie !!! Haven’t watched the whole video yet but am already in love with your advice so far thanku for everything xxxx
Laura Potter & I love you so much! Hope you enjoyed babe - thank YOU for supporting me it honestly means everything to me. ❤️
Spot on!
I think fwb works well only for short periods of time and mainly for men and/or people with an avoidant attachment style…
I had two and both were a disaster.
The fwb with the ex was most definitely a bad idea, don’t fall for it!
I love ur accent and ur beautiful
Aw thank you darling x
Thank you for yet another informative and great video! I definitely agree with all the positives and negatives
No thank you for always supporting me ❤️ Hope you have a lovely relaxed Friday! x
Jessie B when you make this sort of content we will always support you Jessie, yeah it hasn't been to bad thanks although tomorrow might be a surreal day! I hope you have a great weekend
Omg yes I actually needed this so much rn! Love your talking videos on relationships and stuff, you’re just gorgeous ❤️✨💔
People keep saying they don't like this idea because sex is about love to them. But why can't you love your friends? I certainly love all of my friends.
I'm currently in a fwb relationship and it's actually going great. We're pretty good friends and talk to each other in a very platonic way, it's just that we're both sexually attracted to each other so it's a win-win situation to have sex? We both also sleep with other people once in a while (but he's the one I sleep with the most) and none of us has any problems with that. We've been doing this for three months and I still don't want to date him (and I can't even imagine being in a relationship with him), and I highly doubt he wants to date me either. But yeah, it's also very difficult for me to catch feelings for someone and it's the same in his case so that is probably why this whole thing is going well. I wouldn't recommend fwb relationships for people who fall in love easily, because I've seen them completely break people down. So do it only if you're confident that you're not gonna fall for them.
Love this video! Love how honest you are in all your videos! We need to talk about these types of topics more! And also girls need to talk and empower each other so love your attitude to everything you do! Much love girly and you look S.T.U.N.N.I.N.G in this video love you 💕💕💕
Looking gorgeous Jessie! I'm a new subscriber but am already loving you!!! You're so relatable and funny, plus so pretty! Lotta love xx 💖
Aw thank you so much Emily! & thank you so much for subscribing - it honestly means the world to me. You've honestly just made my day 🙊 sending you so much love! xxxx
Jessie B aw no problem darlin! Xxxx
Luv her videos ❤❤
I think this kind of thing can definitely work, if both of you know it won't be for the long term, but for a limited amount of time. as soon as one of you catches feelings, it's time to end things. and that would still have been a successful FWB relationship, it just can't go on forever. communication beforehand is key.
Love the natural makeup girl! Loved the vid too, thanks for helping xxx
OH HEEEEY ITS JESSIE B THE LIL IRISH BEAUTY THAT WENT VIRAL LOOK AT YOU GO(also what lip product are you wearing in this? The color and shine is gorgeous)
I stg you’re going to hit 300K by the time your channels 2 year anniversary hits 👀
MEGGIE YOU JUST ALWAYS MAKE ME SMILE SO MUCH!!!😭 Its by the brand pixi and its in the shade "peony bloom" it says its like a lip plumper but it doesn't make your lips tingle or anything so don't think it actually is as my lips just looked normal hahaha 🙈
Jessie B I have the soap and glory lip plumper and my lips tingle but they still don’t look plumper😂 I think plumpers are a lie ☕️
such a great video omg!!! i love you❤️
I love you so much - I am so happy you're enjoying! x
thankyou so much for this video. I have a friends with benefits relationship but I feel my lines are blurred because couply things are done such as cuddling and dates and I have been very confused on more what I want really. sometimes it was for me just speaking to a person rather than the physical stuff I might consider ending it because I want a relationship and I think in someway it stops you for looking for one. thanks Jessie x
That sounds quite similar to the situation I was in, which is a very confusing unfair position to be put in - they shouldn’t be getting “girlfriend” benefits when they’re not committed to you and that’s something I eventually realised. They are getting the best of both worlds then because it’s like they have a girlfriend without the commitment - if you 100% want a relationship and this is taking up a lot of space in your head I would end it because you’re the one who will be hurt in the end darling! Sending you so much lobe and hope you figure things out ❤️ x
Oh my god I can’t wait to watch this I love you too muchhhh you’re so gorgeous and amazing❤️❤️❤️
Oh baby girl 😭 Really hope you enjoy and maybe take something from it! I love you SOO much aswell - thank you so much for supporting me. Words will never be able to explain how grateful I am ❤️
GIRRRRL!! That 100k though!! I remember subscribing when you only had 200 followers... so proud of you gorgeous 💜 can’t think of anyone more deserving xxx
My girlfriend and I have an open relationship, and having friends with benefits (especially friends who also have a partner) works really well for us cause we have really varied sex drives due to antidepressants and stuff. Having other people means neither of us feel pressured to have sex when only one of us feels like it. We can really focus on our emotional relationship, and sex is really great when we come back to each other. It's just also fun sleeping with new people, and I always feel like I can trust my friends.
I agree with you when you say that communication is necessary. I'm fairly open about my dating/sex life with my close friends and I think if I was in a FOB relationship then I would want to keep that person updated on my closeness to people I could be close to getting into a relationship with.
I disagree, however, with you saying that it should only really be with an acquaintance. I think it's fine for them to actually be a friend, but you have to trust them enough that they're not going to get jealous, angry, or upset if you start properly seeing someone else. I can mentally go through my list of age-appropriate guy friends and cross off which I think it would be a bad idea getting into a FOB relationship with. If they're an acquaintance, fine, the only thing you really have to trust is STDs etc..
I think maturity also plays a part in it as well. There've always been those little relationships that have been Day One: I love you! then Day Five: I think we should break up. And I think if that's the maturity they're near then they're not ready for a FOB relationship.
I know a lot of ppl say this on videos, but this is incredibly useful. i really needed this advice as couldn't work out how i was feeling or what to do next. thank you so much xxx
I want to offer the story of my situation because it breaks a lot of “rules” about FWBs but somehow has been working really well? I’ve been sleeping with one of my best friends for 6 months now and while we are explicitly not in a relationship, from the outside it can definitely look a little blurry. We see each other regularly, we cook together, we go to the gym together, but we don’t go on “dates” or even spend all the time we’re around each other interacting (sometimes I just watch Netflix and he plays video games or something). We’re in a close knit friend group so we all hang out together regularly as well. He’s polyamorous and has had two romantic partners during this time (he recently broke up with one). All parties involved were aware of the situation and respected it. Basically, while it’s not “just sex” with this person, we’ve kinda created a space to channel the intimate feelings we experience into feeling just closer as friends and not have expectations of a romantic partner from each other. We get to have sex with someone we feel close to, but not create messiness in our friendship. We set that boundary in the very beginning and we’ve continued checking in about it. It’s required a lot of communication and self-awareness to make this work!
Had a Friends with benefits situation when i was in my 20's and she was 43. Lasted about 6 months. was GREAT for 4-5 months. Turned into a bit of a mess when she stated introducing me as her 'cub', and she was the 'Cougar.'-- She was using me to brag to her friends about her 'younger guy'-- A few of her her same age female friends decided they wanted me too. Some of them MARRIED!!!-- That was the end of that. --Got REALLY weird.---- One thing I have found is that sexual relationships should be thought of like a Ladder. ALL is great of the both of you are on the same rung. Level 1= Just Sex- ... Top Rung = Love Soul Mate Wanting to spend forever together--- If you are both together at any level, it is great! But if one of you is on that first rung, and the other is is being and wanting whats 5 rungs up? It will fall over every time.
I see a notification from Jessie, I click ❤️ seriously ilysm Jessie congrats on 100k you should have many more but yeah again another great video 💚💚💚 ly
Ah YAS girl you got me 😉🙈 I love you so much too & thank you so very much gorgeous - your support means the world to me. Hope you have a fab weekend ✨💛
Jessie B you too 💛
I had that F&B relationship before with person who was the responsible of this type of relationships , I didn’t know that type of 🤙is true . But I caught feelings with him !! I got heartbroken. He told me that’s he doesn’t want that true relationship because he won’t love . But That was late. Now he knows that I’m loving him , but after that he turned from F&B pro to lover with person and that’s makes me jalouse. He knew that I’m feeling like that . Its really painful. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do know !!! , He played with my feelings without even realizing .
Love your chat videos! You give amazing advice and you share so much with us which shows us no matter what times will get better!
I've missed reading my lovely Ellies comments 🙊 I am so happy to hear you love my long chatty vids because there one of my favourite videos to film but sometimes I worry there too long for you guys 🙈 I also hope you're smiling and staying positive and if you have a bad day always remember tomorrow is a new day so don't be too hard on yourself! You are such a ray of sunshine my god ❤️ I hope you have an amazing weekend too my beautiful girl - I love you with all of my heart. And seriously am so grateful for all the love you show me. xxx
BEEN WAITING FOR THIS! That’s my gurl💜💜
YAY! When someone says they have been waiting for a certain video it just makes my heart so happy hehe - hope you enjoy my gorgeous girl! ✨
Luv her videos ❤❤
i loved this Jessie, and congrats on 100k! so proud lol😂 but when is that brow tutorial coming girl?💔😭 your makeup is goals😍💞💞
You are so humble. You bought another subscriber
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Thank you for uploading and distracting me from my crap exam that I had x
I could listen to you talk all day tbh
You look gorgeous I would find it difficult to be friends with someone after that kind of relationship I would probably cut them out of my life it may seem cold I don't bother with relationships personally this is a very interesting informative video love you Jess
You should definitely do a video about how you do your hair. Like your different hairstyles you wear in your different videos
100% agree with you on the ex-boyfriend fwb thing. i learned the hard way haha
Hi sweetheart. The hormon is called oxytocin . It is also called feel good hormon. When you care for people. caress and kissing. and it is even used with child birth.
FWB is no problem for me and I've done it in the past and it was all fine. There was only one time when things got bad with one person and that is because even though we both initially agreed that we're not looking to have a relationship, over time (months) we both started acting and treating each other in a way that was waay more than FWB (and I know because I can compare with past experiences). Eventually I was lead to think this was mutually growing into something more, while he claimed that nothing had changed from his side and he still sticks to our initial agreement from months ago. This was quite a devastating experience for me because we not only lost a nearly 10-year long friendship but this was also the only person in my life that I've been close to that I've ever completely lost contact with - on purpose.
So I don't know what the lesson is or what I can advice people. I guess - communication throughout is key. Be honest, oh so honest about your intentions every step of the way. Don't say one thing and then act differently. Also it's easy to be logical and reasonable when you're thinking clearly, but the moment feelings&emotions get involved things get tricky. So please - steer clear of feelings if you have no serious intentions and no intention of commitment on any level! Please!
I think also my other mistake was agreeing to be exclusive. I'd never done that in the past when it came to FWB and that's what made it work for me. The moment you focus all your attention on this one person, it gets extremely hard not to develop feelings for them.
Now I have Friends with Benefits by KSI stuck in my head 😂
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Becky Redmond Omg same 😂
This is such a helpful video and really liked it and I really like your opinions and this subject is important and your amazing love u so much xxx
I love these videos so much. They’re so helpful❤️ love you girl
I needed this two weeks ago haha! Might have saved me some heartbreak 😂 great content Jessie!
I prefer fast and quick flings.. that way you get all the benefits of a fwb but with added some dating features but also the ability to detach or reset the relationship at will.
Would really like a fwb now though where I live.. it's so cold I need somebody to get warm with and maybe spend a few hours every week or night with.
Loved your impersonation of the feelings creeping in! You so cute
L H 🙈🙈🙈 thank you friend!✨
LH I love cat returns 😻
My friend used to have feelings for me, and recently I had a dream that I kissed him and it was really nice. We really love each other, and I’m starting to see him differently. I don’t know what to do. We’re going away together soon, and I have a feeling it’s semi romantic, but I don’t know if I want a relationship... but maybe I do... I don’t want to lead him on, but I also think we could be amazing together... I think friends with benefits would be out of the question in this case though...
I have an occasional fwb. We've been good friends for a long time and just hook up when we are both single. It's been going on for 10 years. We hang out, text each other, but there is actually no "dating" each other. It works for us.
I just found out for your youtube channel! And I need to say.. YOU S L A Y ! And i watched couple of your videos and you have amazing themes and talk about everything and i like it! You go girl!!!❤
You look beaut in yellow! I think friends with benefit situations can often get out of hand of you don't communicate. You're right the lines are very easily blurred.
I’m not made for this at all, it would emotionally mess me up so badly, but I wish I was because girls who do friends with benefits always seems like these cool, chill girls
I love your video's !!!!! just subscribed 2 days ago and I love it... You are a funny and relatable girl
Omg I would never be able to do that I think :/ Me who wanted to experiment with girls because even though I know in my heart I'm bi, I wanted to hook up a little. But I am all of the things you mentionned: emotional, sensitive, never thought I'd have sex without being in love, etc. Plus, I only had one relationship and it was a long term one of 5 years.
PS: Jessica, I really like this simple make up. It soothes your eyes, I really love it
I've been in one for a few months now and we met from a one night stand. We've gotten pretty close as friends since he is a friend of a friend who likes to hang out with both of us a lot, so we actually communicate a lot more in person more than in text.
Other friends ask about how our relationship works a lot so we actually talk about it a lot too. We care and respect eachothers feelings and don't intervene whenever we talk to other people, and sometimes we mention who else we've had sex with before we do it with each other again. If he ever thinks I'm uncomfortable he makes sure I'm ok and asks if I would rather not, which makes me want him more lol
He's still kind of hung up on his last ex so sometimes he's not in the mood, which is fine. I give him massages or just lay down with him instead and it helps him feel better.
Shout out to Christian, awesomest one night stand I ever had and now one of my closest friends ♡
I needed this video and I didn't even know it until today🙌🏼 thank u very much
I have been married almost 13 years but before I married my husband. I did do the whole friends with benefits thing. Usually with ex boyfriends which is never a good idea. I think friends with benefits only works for people who can do it without catching feelings. Or treat sex as sex not making love.
Jessie girl....I needed this video months ago..lols. But it's okay. I appreciate the advice now.❤
Ehh, why it always goes that way. In my past FBW I felt for a guy but it turned out he rejected me and found himself a girlfriend straight away. Now, the guy I'm hooking up with developed some feelings while I'm cold turkey to him, so I guess it's time to quit.
How about don't sleep with a guy till you know him!!
Truly living for these videos, got dat notification on boi
DATS MY GIRRRRL, she's got my back she's got my back hehe 😉 Hope you enjoy lovely x
Nice to get home from 2 exams to see a video from you!! You are so amazing and gorgeous ahh 😍 just so ya know, it's pronounced ock-see-toe-sin hehe xx
Jessie, you should write a book about this.
I ghost my fwb's and then pick them back up when I'm able to discern my feelings.. Sometimes months later... It's an issue of feeling like I'm overly available to anyone who's not invested
Just subscribed to ya, and went on a video marathon and you've helped me so much. Love ya ❤❤
Dearest Jessie, Oxytocin is definitely cupids arrow it's a love hormone, however it's also a maternal hormone e breastfeeding. We also use it for post-partum haemorrhage, breast engorgement è induction of Labor. By the way bella the pronunciation is (ox.e.to.cin). Please don't think I am being rude just wanted to help you out bella girl. 💜
I completely get what you're saying in this. I'm just one of those girls who is able to have detached sex. To me, it is completely different to sex in a committed relationship. In some relationships with men however, they have caught feelings, but we then talk about it and then stop, or become more. By doing this I have remained friends with all of my previous sex with benefits partners! It can work, it just depends on your outlook on sex, and your emotional involvement with the individuals.
since the name of that lable ist FRIENDS with benefits, from my perspective, I see them as such. Me and my FWB are friends and we meet up sometimes and either meet to have sex, or meet do so some stuff together that friends would do, like partying or something. We have a good bond and share a lot of interests and we both feel very comfortable around each other. The only rule I set for myself to make it work is to keep bed room stuff in the bed room and nowhere else. We hold hands and cuddle in bed. But no good bye kisses, no holding hands anywhere, no frequent texting. And it honestly works great!