It’s so tough for an Arab man marrying a non-Arab woman. I can’t imagine. It’s a big a adjustment for both parties. It’s never easy. It’s very hard for a non-Arab woman marrying an Arab man as well. She has to conform to the religion, and the culture in the name of love. It’s a huge sacrifice. The ideal relationship should be two parties make a compromise. I understand now why lots of Arab men prefer to marry Arab women because of these reasons. It’s just sad that some Arab men used non-Arab women for sex because it’s convenient for them. They don’t really have the intentions in marrying them. The non-Arab women are partly to blame also because they gave in to deception, manipulation and seduction. I know, few women who ended up brokenhearted after falling in love with Arab men. I have interracial marriage. It’s never easy. Both of us make sacrifices to make it work. We have been married for 20 years. ❤
Who is superior in this world? Arab or human. Where is Allah? Allah is always with struggling people. Why do compare arab or arab? All are human and blood color is red. Allah is always with orphans, sick people, and single women. All are human, stand by or stand back. If someone is blamed because of indirect talk, Scythian plays if anyone talks indirectly. Talk straightforwardly on the phone and get a resolution or post a letter to clear everything up. Do, n't let to play Shythaan. If don't love it, leave it. if get happiness.
It would be interesting to talk about the other side and how the western woman have to deal with the arab family, mother in laws, cheating, submission and other risks of marring an arab.
Tell me HOW it's a 'huge sin'? So, a marriage didn't work (for whatever reasons).. and her going back to Christianity is a 'huge sin'? Sin for WHO? Judge and Jury here??
The problem with separating the idea of the man away from the idea of God, as reverts, is because the way to go to God is different before a woman reverts to Islam. The culture is different. The relationship with God is different on both sides. As for the food differences, the mother in law is the biggest blessing and teacher.
Completely respectfully disagree . Why is it always the Western women. portrayed as bad, stupid and uncaring? Cultures mix these 2024 days we are all a melting pot and boys and girls particularly us " no heart " Western women are quite happy together. In my million years on the planet and being engaged to a Muslim man ( but my family had disastrous outcomes that req life change safly) and being educated ( Masters ) and around Muslim my entire life and they are interfaith, inter cultural mix just great. Love is Love. I prayed with him and he prayed with me: And food? I cant cook good in any culture but the EFFORT a non arab puts forth with the Family we all laugh together. If you show respect and try then we all including the man laugh together. Some of my arab friends are covered some not these are doctors, lawyers or just stay at home talking care of their man. I cried at this video it makes Western non Muslim women and their relationship with Arab man look like we are alien with cold hearts. I promise that we Western ladies are moral, empathetic, cuturally sensitive, loving, caring, and as my Muslim family has told me ( and they are strict my best friend married a non Arab and she almost got sent to Siberia but then the other 2 girls my sisters married same and also completely opposite in terms of countries, 28 years later and kids and intermix of family the first generation ( which was extremely strict and thats say nice way) the second and third all is just fine and yes the Christian children took the Fathers religion or made their own choice. I prefer to look at the world with my naive glasses off that its the heart soul and love of a marriage that keeps the flame alive and this perception of the bad Western woman is not nice. You made me cry and God counted my tears. And yes if I go to a mosque- invited by the mosque, and I pray I wear hijab and any human that rips it off is not a non arab but a non human. I work as an aid worker packing food helping refugees. I see All cultures intermix marriages and we count humanity not logistics. Just bc Im a Catholic Westerner doesn't mean Im on a tv show all weird and without clothes. In fact my Jordanian fiancee muslim knew I could not cook and also I didn't get him take out come on. His family laugh at my attempts and I did learn. Not perfect like mother or grandmother but pretty good. Ask, learn love and respect = happy marriage. In 2024 the world is s melting pot of cultures and certainly the Western non arab woman ( insert Jaws movie song) isn't what you think😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Because Western women are self centered and privileged! Womens rights, weaker Western men, etc have all contributed to Western women being hard to deal with, having the mindset that what they want and think they should be the most important thing in every ones life and thus should have here way. When you marry a Muslim man and you are not muslim then you need to understand the culture and Islam, if you dont understand or care to understand it will never work. May Allah make it easier for us all🙏🏾🫶🏾
I have to agree with you! I have an Algerian boyfriend. I love him. he expects a lot and he also allows a lot. we fought a lot at first. I found out they respect it when your wife fights with you. I also found he's one of the warmest people I've ever met! the man who writes this blog is pretty sexist. it's not cultural. 2024 is a time to shape new begininngs!
@@dianedraveski6485 Thank you, because I felt like stereotype and it's wrong. Adulterer is adultery cheating is cheating, it's not just in our country is all over the world. Sold the stereotype needs to stop 🛑 when you love someone you love that person and in a relationship it is compromised there is no other way. Unless an individual is looking for a robot and human beings are not robots. You said well said. Thank you for sharing God Bless you.
I don't think it's right to attack the speaker in the video like that, or to insult or threaten him (you made me cry, God counts every tear). It's childish and paints a bad picture of us women (keyword: drama queens). He says right at the beginning that there are other videos in this series from other perspectives and that this video addresses the disadvantages. I am also a Western woman. I am German and converted to Islam of my own free will as a teenager. Two years later I married my husband (an Arab). I absolutely agree with the speaker. Even though there are of course women for whom this does not apply, we still cannot deny it because it applies to the majority. I have also often seen in our circle of friends that marriages have broken down between Arabs and Western women. Often because the cultural and religious differences were too great. If the woman is a Muslim herself by choice and not because of the man, then she does the things she does for her creator and for no one else. By the way, I love submission and loyalty. I love that my husband is the head of the family and I look up to him with respect. He treats me with respect and takes care of all my needs. I think it makes a big difference whether you marry a practicing Muslim or a shisha chigolo. Because to be honest, I don't know any sincere Arab man who cheats on his wife and all these things that I've read here.
Is this about Love or not? I m mostly concerned about the concept of love, when not being able to make a certain dish is a Problem. Specially for his family 🤔. Sounds like she s being judged upon her abilities not her character.
Yeees! At least the Arab man can cook his favourite dishes and non-Arab woman the same 🙃 but saying "if you care ENOUGH you can learn cooking" - it made me laugh so badly 😂 I can't get used to those rules, I'm sorry 🙃🙃
I appreciate your incites on this subject. I am an American revert praying for a Muslim husband and over the last year of strengthening my Deen and learning what a Muslim man is versus who I am. I agree with many of your statements and I pray that Allah guides us all with ease and mercy, Amen🫶🏾🙏🏾
As a revert woman who is married to an Arab man three years after reverting. I think you make very good points especially about turning to Allah swt when having issues instead of turning to other things and blaming the religion. ❤ may Allah bless everyone with peaceful marriages.
There are Arab Jews and Christians and they have the same culture as the Muslim ones. Arab culture is not Islamic culture. There’s a difference between culture and religion also.
There are different types of Jew. Marrying a Jewish man does not mean his family will force you to convert. You will definitely have culture or other differences. Sorry, if I am an outsider looking in and I only had a choice between marrying an Arab and a Jew, l would jump at the opportunity to marry the Jew. My job took me in both conservative Arabs and conservative Jews and non conservative Arabs, of all origins, and the average Jew by definition of culture and religion. I can tell you this as an outsider. I see lots of similarities between conservative Arabs and conservatives Jews. I absolutely respect both cultures and appreciate the conviction and reverence they hold for their belief systems. There are aspects of both groups I find endearing. However, given a choice between the two non secular Arab or Jewish groups, I am sprinting to the non-secular Jewish side. Why? Simply, I observed a degree of freedom and autonomy that I didn’t observe on the Arab side. Both sides have gossipy women. If you want to know the intricacies of a culture, observe the people, especially the women.
I am a southern American woman and I love cooking and cleaning, I find it relaxing And peaceful. My grandma has always said cleanliness is next to Godliness
Hola Here another southamerican woman, totally agreed with u, cleaning and organizing the home is like giving peace, in my case i dont cook so much, but my arab husband cook so good and we share our shores at home. Sometimes i think that us as latinamericans doesnt be totally in the "western" category.
Southern Lady here. Who has always been modest and cover my head. And keep home willing to have many more kids. I'm currently getting to know an Arab Muslim. Everything is flowing so smoothly in conversation and I feel his way of life fits me better than the American life.
I’m very conflicted with this video, seems liked you painted Arab women as saints and western as monsters. What’s funny is I have come across many devout Muslim Arab women ( and I specify it) who let soooo loose once they are out of the Arab world ( vacation ) then they prep themselves as goodie two shoes at the airport 😒 so please 😏 and are you saying the Arab woman is best because during a divorce she allows the man to decide if she is left high and dry.
He says very clearly at the beginning of the video that there are several videos on this topic and that this shows the perspective of why it doesn't work. So I don't understand the reason for these attacks here. I am also a western woman with an Arab man and I don't feel attacked because I know that he is right.
Interesting perspective. From the other perspective, I’ve heard countless stories and mysef witnessed western women put through the wringer by their partners family and heavy cultural expectations. And as an African Muslim in the west I have heard horror stories about the racism faced by the African partner
I love the idea of you elaborating on the language aspect. Also-do you think a relationship could stand a chance if the couple didn't speak the same language?
Im a black south African woman revert. Married to a Arab Muslim man. I become open minded I learned everything possible abt his culture, especially the the food & he also learned abt my culture & food. Its makes things easier. Im a very independent person but I had to learn to be more submissive towards him. I think that become easier cos an African woman its a given that no matter what culture a women must submit to the husband. As a revert my husband start being more religious because of me. I embraced Islam more.
I am an Asian revert.. Alhamdullilah I became Muslim because of the Quran, not for any man. Alhamdullilah I've been happily married to an Arab man for 2 years, the cultural differences are not insurmountable if the pair are both practicing Muslims and put religion first, over culture. Rasullulah Muhammad SAW said there is no superiority between an Arab and non-Arab, between black and white people.
Everything you said is right! You're good at naming the real stereotypes while knowing everyone is different. If the man does not have the patience of Prophet (PBUH) then it is not a good idea for the girl. If he or his family expect her to change with little patience for their sake, it can go very dark for her. Especially if they live in the west, she has no place-based context to learn and adapt. To the women who went back to her old life after divorce, she could have got swept away by him OR pressurized by him/family and Muslimized herself to keep him without metabolizing the faith in her heart first. (Only Allah knows) But preventing this can prevent the worst thing. She needs to grow into Islam at her own pace, and metabolize it internally in her own time and will. Both people need to be aware of, seek to understand, and love the whole entire holistic person and have enough tolerance and patience to learn each other's whole conditioning.
I think there are a few valid points you've made, however, I think there are quite a few I disagree with. I am in a relationship with an Arab man who is Palestinian/Jordanian but currently lives in Europe to get his master's degree. He is fluent in English, German, and Arabic so there is no real language barrier within our relationship. Sometimes we have little misunderstandings here and there, but nothing that can't be worked around with patience. I wouldn't mind learning Arabic from him either, though I don't think it's, or should be a requirement either. He also knows how to cook exceptionally well for himself and knows how to prepare the meals he likes. I'm not opposed to learning how to make some of his favorite dishes, as long as he isn't opposed to having mine. I am of Mexican and American heritage so there is nothing bland about the food I can prepare for us. He is a Muslim man, and I respect that about him, but I am not in any position to convert just to marry him. That's where I do agree with you when it comes to religion. If I were to become closer to God, and this relationship were to fail, to disassociate myself from my religion wouldn't make sense, because it seems I only converted for a man. A relationship with God is sacred, so if I were to become a devout Christian, and follow my family's beliefs, I would not steer away from that because my relationship with my Muslim man didn't work out. I am a good Western woman, who has never cheated on a partner and was not exposed to having family members cheat either. We're both the same age, give or take a few months and marriage is on the horizon for both of us. If he didn't share my feelings, I don't think he'd be with me or even have been as open about his life back home if it were just about sex, as some people may have mentioned. Sex is sex, but opening up to someone about your wants, dreams, and desires and then leaving is a waste of both our time. Yes, he could leave me for a Muslim woman, because it's what his family may want, what society would prefer and it's what's "morally" right for him, but do I think he will have that same connection with that woman that he has with me? Honestly, no. Will he be happy? Sure, maybe, maybe not. Will he be happier with me, a woman who loves him, values him, a woman he connects with, and also learns from and is willing to learn from him? I think so, and I know I provide that for him. Is it naive, maybe so, but if we're both willing to work on, and strengthen our relationship and find common ground within our cultures, then I think we could be very happy with each other. I am not ashamed of being a Western woman, I have a career, I am educated, speak two languages, and don't plan to marry him for money, considering he's still in college. I have my own strengths, dreams, and desires. If he wanted to be with a Muslim Arab woman he had 26 years to do so when he lived in Jordan. This video makes it seem like if I don't adhere to these rules, or "submit" my relationship will be doomed. But I know my relationship with him, and I know what we've brought into each other's lives. For the record, I am a subscriber of yours, and I've learned a lot from you, but there are just a few things in this video I agree to disagree with. Thank you!
If you’re not going to convert to Islam, leave him alone so he can be with a Muslim woman. Western Christian women thirst over Muslim men and then refuse to convert to Islam and then they confuse the kids and raise them as Christians or whatever other religions that are there! Leave Muslim men and go be with your Christian man and enjoy eating pork and drinking alcohol together!
I'm in an interracial marriage. We are both open-minded people with a team mindset and no ego-problems, so the whole "men should be this and women that" is not an issue, we sort it out how we want to. His parents disagree but so what. I have my own construction company! And he supports it.
This video is about Muslim Arab men who love their religion and are God-fearing and sincere. It probably won't affect you, because if your boyfriend is already in an extramarital relationship with you, he is not one of the men we are talking about here. Unfortunately, you have to expect anything. If a man has no fear of God and does not have to abide by the rules of Islam, he has nothing to stop him from committing other sins. I could never trust a man like that. The reason he didn't have a girlfriend in Jordan is not because he prefers a Western woman, but because he can only marry there. And Arab families do not normally let their daughters marry students. In Arab culture, men usually marry a little later in their late 20s or late 30s, when they have completed their education/studies and have a secure job.
I just found your channel. You have valuable insightful information in every video. I just love the way you break down the information and some of your witty jokes that help make the serious subjects more digestible. In all Egyptian men from what I am learning from your videos is that they want a traditional, classy happy lady. Great content.
@@magesense456 I agree with you, I love watching his videos as well. He has a lot of good points that I do agree with. And one of them should be all religious preference don't have sex outside of marriage how hard is it!? God told us not to do it for a reason, and that reason is to protect us from many things. Cheating an adultery ghost hand in hand can't have one without the other. So is fornication. But mostly in today's society especially in United States and other countries it's become accepting. Not all people do it though, but vast majority does. How hard is it not to do it! Is simple just don't do it! Broken homes, children of woodloch, heartbreaking, sometimes homicides, divorces, domestic violence, and diseases. How hard is it for anyone to comprehend is to wait till you're married to the right person!!!?
PS I also had my Arabic family watch this video, They are Palestinian. First generation so strict the shouting and such of my best friend of 40 years marrying a Non Muslim ( he converted but he wasn't Arabic omg the yelling shouting . They are married 25 years. They adopted a daughter from a different country, shes raised Muslim although at 13 she loves the K-pop boys as only a 13 yr old does. They all thought ( and these are deeply moral strict muslims ) you were wrong. They said too " We love habiti diane"😞 They love John now. Their daughters married men from other faiths and countries. I ask my friend omg is your parents house still standing from the yelling and screaming? She said its all good now they are ok as long as man is good etc. The third generation little kids are all different some arab some from the country hurting Pali now get it? Instead the First immigrant family learned love is love and respect is respect and they ard educated: Papa is Professor, Inventor, esteemed engineer won awards, mother is psychiatrist and so Muslim and in the beginnings heck no to the melting pot. I cannot stress enough the screaming: my best friend had a nervous breakdown. At the Dinner for friends and family after the documents etc for marriage were signed I knew I was loosing my best girl to the husband ( its a girl thing) and mother ( main screaming person in house) ( although father hit daughter for this John guy ) both of us mom and diane cry like babies hug each other " xyz is married " ( this is my second family ha now only family) and I am a ( Jaws song) a Western woman omggg!) Im sweet, loving, respectful and Im family. I waz very surprised the family house not fall over from the screaming in next generation but by then thd melting pot had been cooked and embrace others welcome otherz aas long as they are good to daughters. My little brother Eyad married a second generation Egyptian girl with nice hair ( lol). We all ask, learn , feed each other, pray and live. God is the judge not man. When my parents pass away there were 10 very strict muslims in the church. When my Sudanese friend ( and shes Shia), when her beloved 27 year old son Abdullah ( engaged to a blonde christian ( insert Jaws song) when that sweet boy came to visit his family from Florida, I waz stay at their house because Amna couldn't walk good to clean , Muslim Abdullah died in his sleep ( aortic heart valve failure) the screams were unbearable I still here them today in my head, I was invited to the Islamic " funeral " customs and sweet Abdullah who was just getting a big IT job and married in 4 months to Western teacher blonde no less, she converted. He is gone, did anyone in their Shia family care about this Western stuff? Noooooo. Instead : " Diane we are all one family we come from God". Can I cook Sudan food haha nooooo but we did get a laugh. Now Amna is in paradise with her son her suffering is gone mentally and physically. Nobody cared as long as your loving, happy to learn and care you are family and thats what they told me. Amna family ran from Sudan War to Egypt. Her mother sweet as can be sooo little I loved her from the start, she ( after Amnas father suddenly pass away) she had 8 children to support and age 60 got her PhD. Nobody cared , we mix it up they have their faith, me my faith but together we are humanity Fuad. And definitely no take out except the 2 days her mother loved Chicken and want me to go get her some take out ( which I insist to pay). it was funny Diane hates that restaurant. Shia is very strict. I know the difference I took classes but in the end we are all humans. Inshallah.
They love John now. What that supposed to mean? They love him when they are old and pooping their pants or they love him now because he can’t carry from bed to chair and back.
I have to disagree with this at the same time I do agree. It depends upon the individuals and their reasons for marrying. I've seen marriages that lasted forever until death, where a woman marry a Muslim man and made a family with him. It's more or less a compromise and respect for each other. I do believe however God should be the most foundation in a family. Learning a language and cooking is not an issue and shouldn't be. Compromising and respecting a person's husband especially his religion as far as being modest should not be an issue, it should be common sense and respect for one's husband plus family. My children's father is Arabic and he is definitely Muslim, but are children end up going towards Christianity. Now we have a granddaughter who is 15 years old, she is definitely towards Islam. My oldest grandson Roman picks up a lot of the culture that are Islamic and he expects that a girl must be a virgin and modest. He doesn't eat pork at all nor does he participate in a lot of activities that most guys do in the United States. But he has a lot of respect for Muslims. Both of our daughters hat end up marrying Latinos, we have five grandchildren, four of them actions are more of Middle Eastern and one of them is not. I think it depends upon the individual, because regarding of what culture you're from and your nationality or religion either you're going to be for God or you're not, there's no in between it. But I can say this, if I knew what I knew now I would have worn completely long sleeves, but not so heavy in the summer and would have done a lot more to protect my hair because I wouldn't have gotten skin cancer. Even wearing sunscreens doesn't guaranteed protection but I know I would have done things differently if I knew what I know now. I would advise all Muslim women and men don't be ashamed of dressing more modest than those of Western cultures or even any European cultures for God has given us his reasons for covering and that is to protect ourselves in many ways than one. If a man loves his wife or the one who he wants to marry, then he would not want her to reveal her body for other men to look upon her with disrespect and I sexually and like wise the woman will want her husband to respect himself. When you love someone, truly love them you would already know what they would expect from you, and a person would never want to disrespect your spouse. A woman must follow her husband for he is the head of the household. Regardless both of our daughters continue dressing modest and always keep their dad's culture alive in their homes. This learning is carry on to my grandchildren and that's why four of them are towards to the Middle Eastern Culture. So it depends on the individual and the lifestyle they chose to follow. Good or bad comes from all cultures. Just like in Islam or should I say Arabic women, there are good and bad in those as well, and I have definitely seen it. For some reason or another when they enter United States and I'm not saying all, I'm speaking of those who grew up here or enjoy the lifestyle of European ways have tremendously disrespected their family's values and how sad is that.
Well I can give you my opinion on cheating, the manhood would be gone and the woman well I wouldn't want to find out. Cheating shouldn't be excepted to any religion, culture or otherwise period. If someone excuses it and it's acceptable within anyone's family or that person my own advice is run and I mean run like there's no tomorrow. Otherwise get out of Dodge and I mean fast. It doesn't mean pass go like in the Monopoly game and you get $200 after you pass go, it means run far away from the person because apparently morals and values got lost along the way.
I am a white western woman and a muslim. I don’t have any other option then marrying a arab man, well there are also some black. But here there are no other options. But I am fine with that and I have had many proposals, but I am being very selective and taking my time in this.
Yes, I hope you didn't get the idea that Western women are bad. That wasn't the message I intended to convey. In fact, many reverts can be more devout Muslims than those born into the faith. At the end of the day, we're all equal in the eyes of God, and the most pious among us are the best.
Im a German women who converts to Islam a long time ago. We are married since 2001. Something is true on the Story. Ithink Respect loyality and belive is very importend
Marry anyone whatever he likes. Cooking is not a problem as a slot of channels. Some people like to pray at home and don't pray during menstrual. Hijab always wearing. It's up to him, I don't care.Go with western women whatever Allah guide. But it's hard to get previous soul. Look culture, western, dress, language, money, culture cooking, Arab women., .Who is going to be perfect instead of Allahs guidance. I don't care, Allah is powerful to take care of me.Leave it and start new life.
Well as a see this video with this young man he must understand that when you go out of your own races just like them going out of it you must understand that both people have things that they like and i see that a lot if men wants his wife to be his race of woman waman dont mind following you and for to lead them but when i hear you speak its all about you and what you need for her to change in your way by doing what they do can i ask you something sir can we say that you dont follow our religion and eat our food and tell you that you dont do it like there man they use to do it hurts to be looked at as they should only convert to your ways and leave hers behind and parents has more to say about your relationship than your wife i have seen this happen when there was a problem he went to her than his wife and his mom put her hands on his wife to make her behave and told her to stop complaining about him putting his hands on her when he could of stuck up for her this is why they leave and not want to stay in your religion they dont have that many right unless they go to the law
I found learning how to cook the cultural of your husband a nice way to bond with his mother if she is willing to teach you . Second I believe you have to love or enjoy the food of that culture or it becomes hard to cook because you dislike. Lol I don’t know if I could marry , where I dislike the cuisine . Am I the only one ?
It’s so tough for an Arab man marrying a non-Arab woman. I can’t imagine. It’s a big a adjustment for both parties. It’s never easy. It’s very hard for a non-Arab woman marrying an Arab man as well. She has to conform to the religion, and the culture in the name of love. It’s a huge sacrifice. The ideal relationship should be two parties make a compromise. I understand now why lots of Arab men prefer to marry Arab women because of these reasons. It’s just sad that some Arab men used non-Arab women for sex because it’s convenient for them. They don’t really have the intentions in marrying them. The non-Arab women are partly to blame also because they gave in to deception, manipulation and seduction. I know, few women who ended up brokenhearted after falling in love with Arab men.
I have interracial marriage. It’s never easy. Both of us make sacrifices to make it work. We have been married for 20 years. ❤
@@MutyaBass God bless you two and with many more wonderful years ❤️❤️🙏.
@@MutyaBass I've been married 43 years with a Middle Eastern Man, we have two daughters and five grandchildren.
Who is superior in this world? Arab or human. Where is Allah? Allah is always with struggling people. Why do compare arab or arab? All are human and blood color is red. Allah is always with orphans, sick people, and single women. All are human, stand by or stand back. If someone is blamed because of indirect talk, Scythian plays if anyone talks indirectly. Talk straightforwardly on the phone and get a resolution or post a letter to clear everything up. Do, n't let to play Shythaan. If don't love it, leave it. if get happiness.
It would be interesting to talk about the other side and how the western woman have to deal with the arab family, mother in laws, cheating, submission and other risks of marring an arab.
Tell me HOW it's a 'huge sin'? So, a marriage didn't work (for whatever reasons).. and her going back to Christianity is a 'huge sin'?
Sin for WHO? Judge and Jury here??
Alxhamdulilah if we are muslim ☪️ ❤ we thank god to have such beautiful iman
The problem with separating the idea of the man away from the idea of God, as reverts, is because the way to go to God is different before a woman reverts to Islam. The culture is different. The relationship with God is different on both sides. As for the food differences, the mother in law is the biggest blessing and teacher.
As converted muslim, all so true! Thanks for sharing, Allah ma3ek jazakhLlahu khairan
Completely respectfully disagree . Why is it always the Western women.
portrayed as bad, stupid and uncaring? Cultures mix these 2024 days we are all a melting pot and boys and girls particularly us " no heart " Western women are quite happy together. In my million years on the planet and being engaged to a Muslim man ( but my family had disastrous outcomes that req life change safly) and being educated ( Masters ) and around Muslim my entire life and they are interfaith, inter cultural mix just great. Love is Love. I prayed with him and he prayed with me: And food? I cant cook good in any culture but the EFFORT a non arab puts forth with the Family we all laugh together. If you show respect and try then we all including the man laugh together. Some of my arab friends are covered some not these are doctors, lawyers or just stay at home talking care of their man. I cried at this video it makes Western non Muslim women and their relationship with Arab man look like we are alien with cold hearts. I promise that we Western ladies are moral, empathetic, cuturally sensitive, loving, caring, and as my Muslim family has told me ( and they are strict my best friend married a non Arab and she almost got sent to Siberia but then the other 2 girls my sisters married same and also completely opposite in terms of countries, 28 years later and kids and intermix of family the first generation ( which was extremely strict and thats say nice way) the second and third all is just fine and yes the Christian children took the Fathers religion or made their own choice. I prefer to look at the world with my naive glasses off that its the heart soul and love of a marriage that keeps the flame alive and this perception of the bad Western woman is not nice. You made me cry and God counted my tears. And yes if I go to a mosque- invited by the mosque, and I pray I wear hijab and any human that rips it off is not a non arab but a non human. I work as an aid worker packing food helping refugees. I see All cultures intermix marriages and we count humanity not logistics. Just bc Im a Catholic Westerner doesn't mean Im on a tv show all weird and without clothes. In fact my Jordanian fiancee muslim knew I could not cook and also I didn't get him take out come on. His family laugh at my attempts and I did learn. Not perfect like mother or grandmother but pretty good. Ask, learn love and respect = happy marriage. In 2024 the world is s melting pot of cultures and certainly the Western non arab woman ( insert Jaws movie song) isn't what you think😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Because Western women are self centered and privileged! Womens rights, weaker Western men, etc have all contributed to Western women being hard to deal with, having the mindset that what they want and think they should be the most important thing in every ones life and thus should have here way. When you marry a Muslim man and you are not muslim then you need to understand the culture and Islam, if you dont understand or care to understand it will never work. May Allah make it easier for us all🙏🏾🫶🏾
I have to agree with you! I have an Algerian boyfriend. I love him. he expects a lot and he also allows a lot. we fought a lot at first. I found out they respect it when your wife fights with you. I also found he's one of the warmest people I've ever met! the man who writes this blog is pretty sexist. it's not cultural. 2024 is a time to shape new begininngs!
@@dianedraveski6485 Thank you, because I felt like stereotype and it's wrong. Adulterer is adultery cheating is cheating, it's not just in our country is all over the world. Sold the stereotype needs to stop 🛑 when you love someone you love that person and in a relationship it is compromised there is no other way. Unless an individual is looking for a robot and human beings are not robots. You said well said. Thank you for sharing God Bless you.
I don't think it's right to attack the speaker in the video like that, or to insult or threaten him (you made me cry, God counts every tear). It's childish and paints a bad picture of us women (keyword: drama queens). He says right at the beginning that there are other videos in this series from other perspectives and that this video addresses the disadvantages. I am also a Western woman. I am German and converted to Islam of my own free will as a teenager. Two years later I married my husband (an Arab). I absolutely agree with the speaker. Even though there are of course women for whom this does not apply, we still cannot deny it because it applies to the majority. I have also often seen in our circle of friends that marriages have broken down between Arabs and Western women. Often because the cultural and religious differences were too great. If the woman is a Muslim herself by choice and not because of the man, then she does the things she does for her creator and for no one else. By the way, I love submission and loyalty. I love that my husband is the head of the family and I look up to him with respect. He treats me with respect and takes care of all my needs. I think it makes a big difference whether you marry a practicing Muslim or a shisha chigolo. Because to be honest, I don't know any sincere Arab man who cheats on his wife and all these things that I've read here.
And I can't believe other women do actually accept them. Submission is not imposed
Is this about Love or not? I m mostly concerned about the concept of love, when not being able to make a certain dish is a Problem. Specially for his family 🤔. Sounds like she s being judged upon her abilities not her character.
Yeees! At least the Arab man can cook his favourite dishes and non-Arab woman the same 🙃 but saying "if you care ENOUGH you can learn cooking" - it made me laugh so badly 😂 I can't get used to those rules, I'm sorry 🙃🙃
I appreciate your incites on this subject. I am an American revert praying for a Muslim husband and over the last year of strengthening my Deen and learning what a Muslim man is versus who I am. I agree with many of your statements and I pray that Allah guides us all with ease and mercy, Amen🫶🏾🙏🏾
As a revert woman who is married to an Arab man three years after reverting. I think you make very good points especially about turning to Allah swt when having issues instead of turning to other things and blaming the religion. ❤ may Allah bless everyone with peaceful marriages.
There are Arab Jews and Christians and they have the same culture as the Muslim ones.
Arab culture is not Islamic culture. There’s a difference between culture and religion also.
There are different types of Jew. Marrying a Jewish man does not mean his family will force you to convert. You will definitely have culture or other differences. Sorry, if I am an outsider looking in and I only had a choice between marrying an Arab and a Jew, l would jump at the opportunity to marry the Jew. My job took me in both conservative Arabs and conservative Jews and non conservative Arabs, of all origins, and the average Jew by definition of culture and religion. I can tell you this as an outsider. I see lots of similarities between conservative Arabs and conservatives Jews. I absolutely respect both cultures and appreciate the conviction and reverence they hold for their belief systems. There are aspects of both groups I find endearing. However, given a choice between the two non secular Arab or Jewish groups, I am sprinting to the non-secular Jewish side. Why? Simply, I observed a degree of freedom and autonomy that I didn’t observe on the Arab side. Both sides have gossipy women. If you want to know the intricacies of a culture, observe the people, especially the women.
This is true. I have seen situations where the women left Islam after their relationships fell apart with the arabic men.
I am a southern American woman and I love cooking and cleaning, I find it relaxing And peaceful. My grandma has always said cleanliness is next to Godliness
Love that!
Hola Here another southamerican woman, totally agreed with u, cleaning and organizing the home is like giving peace, in my case i dont cook so much, but my arab husband cook so good and we share our shores at home. Sometimes i think that us as latinamericans doesnt be totally in the "western" category.
Southern Lady here. Who has always been modest and cover my head. And keep home willing to have many more kids.
I'm currently getting to know an Arab Muslim. Everything is flowing so smoothly in conversation and I feel his way of life fits me better than the American life.
I’m very conflicted with this video, seems liked you painted Arab women as saints and western as monsters. What’s funny is I have come across many devout Muslim Arab women ( and I specify it) who let soooo loose once they are out of the Arab world ( vacation ) then they prep themselves as goodie two shoes at the airport 😒 so please 😏 and are you saying the Arab woman is best because during a divorce she allows the man to decide if she is left high and dry.
He says very clearly at the beginning of the video that there are several videos on this topic and that this shows the perspective of why it doesn't work. So I don't understand the reason for these attacks here. I am also a western woman with an Arab man and I don't feel attacked because I know that he is right.
Interesting perspective. From the other perspective, I’ve heard countless stories and mysef witnessed western women put through the wringer by their partners family and heavy cultural expectations.
And as an African Muslim in the west I have heard horror stories about the racism faced by the African partner
I love the idea of you elaborating on the language aspect.
Also-do you think a relationship could stand a chance if the couple didn't speak the same language?
Yes, without a doubt.
It only problematic when the values and beliefs collide.
The language is just a complementary thing.
Im a black south African woman revert. Married to a Arab Muslim man. I become open minded I learned everything possible abt his culture, especially the the food & he also learned abt my culture & food.
Its makes things easier.
Im a very independent person but I had to learn to be more submissive towards him. I think that become easier cos an African woman its a given that no matter what culture a women must submit to the husband.
As a revert my husband start being more religious because of me. I embraced Islam more.
What Arabic country are you from Faud?
I am an Asian revert.. Alhamdullilah I became Muslim because of the Quran, not for any man. Alhamdullilah I've been happily married to an Arab man for 2 years, the cultural differences are not insurmountable if the pair are both practicing Muslims and put religion first, over culture. Rasullulah Muhammad SAW said there is no superiority between an Arab and non-Arab, between black and white people.
Everything you said is right! You're good at naming the real stereotypes while knowing everyone is different. If the man does not have the patience of Prophet (PBUH) then it is not a good idea for the girl. If he or his family expect her to change with little patience for their sake, it can go very dark for her. Especially if they live in the west, she has no place-based context to learn and adapt. To the women who went back to her old life after divorce, she could have got swept away by him OR pressurized by him/family and Muslimized herself to keep him without metabolizing the faith in her heart first. (Only Allah knows) But preventing this can prevent the worst thing. She needs to grow into Islam at her own pace, and metabolize it internally in her own time and will. Both people need to be aware of, seek to understand, and love the whole entire holistic person and have enough tolerance and patience to learn each other's whole conditioning.
I think there are a few valid points you've made, however, I think there are quite a few I disagree with. I am in a relationship with an Arab man who is Palestinian/Jordanian but currently lives in Europe to get his master's degree. He is fluent in English, German, and Arabic so there is no real language barrier within our relationship. Sometimes we have little misunderstandings here and there, but nothing that can't be worked around with patience. I wouldn't mind learning Arabic from him either, though I don't think it's, or should be a requirement either. He also knows how to cook exceptionally well for himself and knows how to prepare the meals he likes. I'm not opposed to learning how to make some of his favorite dishes, as long as he isn't opposed to having mine. I am of Mexican and American heritage so there is nothing bland about the food I can prepare for us. He is a Muslim man, and I respect that about him, but I am not in any position to convert just to marry him. That's where I do agree with you when it comes to religion. If I were to become closer to God, and this relationship were to fail, to disassociate myself from my religion wouldn't make sense, because it seems I only converted for a man. A relationship with God is sacred, so if I were to become a devout Christian, and follow my family's beliefs, I would not steer away from that because my relationship with my Muslim man didn't work out. I am a good Western woman, who has never cheated on a partner and was not exposed to having family members cheat either. We're both the same age, give or take a few months and marriage is on the horizon for both of us. If he didn't share my feelings, I don't think he'd be with me or even have been as open about his life back home if it were just about sex, as some people may have mentioned. Sex is sex, but opening up to someone about your wants, dreams, and desires and then leaving is a waste of both our time. Yes, he could leave me for a Muslim woman, because it's what his family may want, what society would prefer and it's what's "morally" right for him, but do I think he will have that same connection with that woman that he has with me? Honestly, no. Will he be happy? Sure, maybe, maybe not. Will he be happier with me, a woman who loves him, values him, a woman he connects with, and also learns from and is willing to learn from him? I think so, and I know I provide that for him. Is it naive, maybe so, but if we're both willing to work on, and strengthen our relationship and find common ground within our cultures, then I think we could be very happy with each other. I am not ashamed of being a Western woman, I have a career, I am educated, speak two languages, and don't plan to marry him for money, considering he's still in college. I have my own strengths, dreams, and desires. If he wanted to be with a Muslim Arab woman he had 26 years to do so when he lived in Jordan. This video makes it seem like if I don't adhere to these rules, or "submit" my relationship will be doomed. But I know my relationship with him, and I know what we've brought into each other's lives. For the record, I am a subscriber of yours, and I've learned a lot from you, but there are just a few things in this video I agree to disagree with. Thank you!
If you’re not going to convert to Islam, leave him alone so he can be with a Muslim woman. Western Christian women thirst over Muslim men and then refuse to convert to Islam and then they confuse the kids and raise them as Christians or whatever other religions that are there!
Leave Muslim men and go be with your Christian man and enjoy eating pork and drinking alcohol together!
Muslims don’t date. They marry. Be aware of that…
I'm in an interracial marriage. We are both open-minded people with a team mindset and no ego-problems, so the whole "men should be this and women that" is not an issue, we sort it out how we want to. His parents disagree but so what.
I have my own construction company! And he supports it.
This video is about Muslim Arab men who love their religion and are God-fearing and sincere. It probably won't affect you, because if your boyfriend is already in an extramarital relationship with you, he is not one of the men we are talking about here. Unfortunately, you have to expect anything. If a man has no fear of God and does not have to abide by the rules of Islam, he has nothing to stop him from committing other sins. I could never trust a man like that. The reason he didn't have a girlfriend in Jordan is not because he prefers a Western woman, but because he can only marry there. And Arab families do not normally let their daughters marry students. In Arab culture, men usually marry a little later in their late 20s or late 30s, when they have completed their education/studies and have a secure job.
Language wise , indeed it’s hard to express ,
I am smiling while watching because that is right, how to cook the food .
I just found your channel. You have valuable insightful information in every video. I just love the way you break down the information and some of your witty jokes that help make the serious subjects more digestible.
In all Egyptian men from what I am learning from your videos is that they want a traditional, classy happy lady.
Great content.
Hey, thank you for the feedback! Much appreciated.
@@magesense456 I agree with you, I love watching his videos as well. He has a lot of good points that I do agree with. And one of them should be all religious preference don't have sex outside of marriage how hard is it!? God told us not to do it for a reason, and that reason is to protect us from many things. Cheating an adultery ghost hand in hand can't have one without the other. So is fornication. But mostly in today's society especially in United States and other countries it's become accepting. Not all people do it though, but vast majority does. How hard is it not to do it! Is simple just don't do it! Broken homes, children of woodloch, heartbreaking, sometimes homicides, divorces, domestic violence, and diseases. How hard is it for anyone to comprehend is to wait till you're married to the right person!!!?
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I also had my Arabic family watch this video, They are Palestinian. First generation so strict the shouting and such of my best friend of 40 years marrying a Non Muslim ( he converted but he wasn't Arabic omg the yelling shouting . They are married 25 years. They adopted a daughter from a different country, shes raised Muslim although at 13 she loves the K-pop boys as only a 13 yr old does. They all thought ( and these are deeply moral strict muslims ) you were wrong. They said too " We love habiti diane"😞
They love John now. Their daughters married men from other faiths and countries. I ask my friend omg is your parents house still standing from the yelling and screaming? She said its all good now they are ok as long as man is good etc. The third generation little kids are all different some arab some from the country hurting Pali now get it? Instead the First immigrant family learned love is love and respect is respect and they ard educated: Papa is Professor, Inventor, esteemed engineer won awards, mother is psychiatrist and so Muslim and in the beginnings heck no to the melting pot. I cannot stress enough the screaming: my best friend had a nervous breakdown. At the Dinner for friends and family after the documents etc for marriage were signed I knew I was loosing my best girl to the husband ( its a girl thing) and mother ( main screaming person in house) ( although father hit daughter for this John guy ) both of us mom and diane cry like babies hug each other " xyz is married " ( this is my second family ha now only family) and I am a ( Jaws song) a Western woman omggg!) Im sweet, loving, respectful and Im family. I waz very surprised the family house not fall over from the screaming in next generation but by then thd melting pot had been cooked and embrace others welcome otherz aas long as they are good to daughters. My little brother Eyad married a second generation Egyptian girl with nice hair ( lol). We all ask, learn , feed each other, pray and live. God is the judge not man. When my parents pass away there were 10 very strict muslims in the church. When my Sudanese friend ( and shes Shia), when her beloved 27 year old son Abdullah ( engaged to a blonde christian ( insert Jaws song) when that sweet boy came to visit his family from Florida, I waz stay at their house because Amna couldn't walk good to clean , Muslim Abdullah died in his sleep ( aortic heart valve failure) the screams were unbearable I still here them today in my head, I was invited to the Islamic " funeral " customs and sweet Abdullah who was just getting a big IT job and married in 4 months to Western teacher blonde no less, she converted. He is gone, did anyone in their Shia family care about this Western stuff? Noooooo. Instead : " Diane we are all one family we come from God". Can I cook Sudan food haha nooooo but we did get a laugh. Now Amna is in paradise with her son her suffering is gone mentally and physically. Nobody cared as long as your loving, happy to learn and care you are family and thats what they told me. Amna family ran from Sudan War to Egypt. Her mother sweet as can be sooo little I loved her from the start, she ( after Amnas father suddenly pass away) she had 8 children to support and age 60 got her PhD. Nobody cared , we mix it up they have their faith, me my faith but together we are humanity Fuad. And definitely no take out except the 2 days her mother loved Chicken and want me to go get her some take out ( which I insist to pay). it was funny Diane hates that restaurant. Shia is very strict. I know the difference I took classes but in the end we are all humans. Inshallah.
They love John now. What that supposed to mean? They love him when they are old and pooping their pants or they love him now because he can’t carry from bed to chair and back.
I have to disagree with this at the same time I do agree. It depends upon the individuals and their reasons for marrying. I've seen marriages that lasted forever until death, where a woman marry a Muslim man and made a family with him. It's more or less a compromise and respect for each other. I do believe however God should be the most foundation in a family. Learning a language and cooking is not an issue and shouldn't be. Compromising and respecting a person's husband especially his religion as far as being modest should not be an issue, it should be common sense and respect for one's husband plus family. My children's father is Arabic and he is definitely Muslim, but are children end up going towards Christianity. Now we have a granddaughter who is 15 years old, she is definitely towards Islam. My oldest grandson Roman picks up a lot of the culture that are Islamic and he expects that a girl must be a virgin and modest. He doesn't eat pork at all nor does he participate in a lot of activities that most guys do in the United States. But he has a lot of respect for Muslims. Both of our daughters hat end up marrying Latinos, we have five grandchildren, four of them actions are more of Middle Eastern and one of them is not. I think it depends upon the individual, because regarding of what culture you're from and your nationality or religion either you're going to be for God or you're not, there's no in between it. But I can say this, if I knew what I knew now I would have worn completely long sleeves, but not so heavy in the summer and would have done a lot more to protect my hair because I wouldn't have gotten skin cancer. Even wearing sunscreens doesn't guaranteed protection but I know I would have done things differently if I knew what I know now. I would advise all Muslim women and men don't be ashamed of dressing more modest than those of Western cultures or even any European cultures for God has given us his reasons for covering and that is to protect ourselves in many ways than one. If a man loves his wife or the one who he wants to marry, then he would not want her to reveal her body for other men to look upon her with disrespect and I sexually and like wise the woman will want her husband to respect himself. When you love someone, truly love them you would already know what they would expect from you, and a person would never want to disrespect your spouse. A woman must follow her husband for he is the head of the household. Regardless both of our daughters continue dressing modest and always keep their dad's culture alive in their homes. This learning is carry on to my grandchildren and that's why four of them are towards to the Middle Eastern Culture. So it depends on the individual and the lifestyle they chose to follow. Good or bad comes from all cultures. Just like in Islam or should I say Arabic women, there are good and bad in those as well, and I have definitely seen it. For some reason or another when they enter United States and I'm not saying all, I'm speaking of those who grew up here or enjoy the lifestyle of European ways have tremendously disrespected their family's values and how sad is that.
I reply to the shorts haram one but on my part it says 0 responses Dont know why but Im listening and replying. Technology is mind of its own
Well I can give you my opinion on cheating, the manhood would be gone and the woman well I wouldn't want to find out. Cheating shouldn't be excepted to any religion, culture or otherwise period. If someone excuses it and it's acceptable within anyone's family or that person my own advice is run and I mean run like there's no tomorrow. Otherwise get out of Dodge and I mean fast. It doesn't mean pass go like in the Monopoly game and you get $200 after you pass go, it means run far away from the person because apparently morals and values got lost along the way.
I am a white western woman and a muslim. I don’t have any other option then marrying a arab man, well there are also some black. But here there are no other options. But I am fine with that and I have had many proposals, but I am being very selective and taking my time in this.
Yes, I hope you didn't get the idea that Western women are bad. That wasn't the message I intended to convey.
In fact, many reverts can be more devout Muslims than those born into the faith.
At the end of the day, we're all equal in the eyes of God, and the most pious among us are the best.
Thank you for explaining this to the sister. Habeebti welcome to Islam. May Allah bless you... Good luck habeebi
I am a white muslim from Bosnia and same
Best bet is a black man living in west, Arab men are too strong regarding cultura conformity.
Im a German women who converts to Islam a long time ago.
We are married since 2001.
Something is true on the Story.
Ithink Respect loyality and belive is very importend
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You’re absolutely right. An Arab woman or a Muslim woman will want her share during divorce based on Islamic sheria
Marry anyone whatever he likes. Cooking is not a problem as a slot of channels. Some people like to pray at home and don't pray during menstrual. Hijab always wearing. It's up to him, I don't care.Go with western women whatever Allah guide. But it's hard to get previous soul. Look culture, western, dress, language, money, culture cooking, Arab women., .Who is going to be perfect instead of Allahs guidance. I don't care, Allah is powerful to take care of me.Leave it and start new life.
I never understood how a man could marry a woman that converted for him what do you ex
Expect
Fuad learn to cook sambusa 😂😂
I'm don't think I will 😅🙏
@Fuadtalks hhh I was just kidding you, fuad. I like jocks
We speak i english but me i know many suras in arab he cant speak he Is kasmiri
Manshallah Manshallah Manshallah
Well as a see this video with this young man he must understand that when you go out of your own races just like them going out of it you must understand that both people have things that they like and i see that a lot if men wants his wife to be his race of woman waman dont mind following you and for to lead them but when i hear you speak its all about you and what you need for her to change in your way by doing what they do can i ask you something sir can we say that you dont follow our religion and eat our food and tell you that you dont do it like there man they use to do it hurts to be looked at as they should only convert to your ways and leave hers behind and parents has more to say about your relationship than your wife i have seen this happen when there was a problem he went to her than his wife and his mom put her hands on his wife to make her behave and told her to stop complaining about him putting his hands on her when he could of stuck up for her this is why they leave and not want to stay in your religion they dont have that many right unless they go to the law
Jazakallah Jazakallah Jazakallah
Indian veg parter muslims indian😮
I found learning how to cook the cultural of your husband a nice way to bond with his mother if she is willing to teach you . Second I believe you have to love or enjoy the food of that culture or it becomes hard to cook because you dislike. Lol I don’t know if I could marry , where I dislike the cuisine . Am I the only one ?
It's ok he cooks!
Food Is problem
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