I felt ignored for years and years by my wife and never looked elsewhere for love. On the other hand, my wife claims she felt unloved and ignored for several years, and began a texting affair with another man. There was no physical contact as he lived in another state. But I consider this to be an affair none the less. It was an emotional affair, no less damaging to our marriage than a physical affair. She texted him from work, she texted him in the evenings when she would excuse herself claiming to be tired, and then texting him for hours. She texted him on family day trips, A two week vacation to Washington State where she texted him every time we weren't together. Even if it was only for 5 or 10 minutes. The vacation texts, and evening texts are what bother me the most. I just can't get beyond the thought that I was no longer important to her; he was.
Jay Monroe wow, I am just in the middle of the the same situation; my husband was having an affair with another women, he also was texting her during work hours, when we were watching tv!!!, when I was sleeping.... very similar to you.... I feel betrayed and devastated. For me, I think I am not important anymore for him as you mentioned as well. I am considering divorce right now.
How do u survive a spouse who had multiple one night stands , and a few affairs of seeing the same person repeatedly , and this went on for 21 yrs out of a 35 yr relationship. It is life shattering , and when the spouse says they meant nothing , I never had any intention of leaving you and the children , as if that makes it ok .
I think we need a video discussing emotional affairs. I would be interested to see y partners choose to go to lets say a co worker(opposite sex( and discuss things that are wrong in a relationship at home. I don't feel like bringing a flying monkey into the mix fixes anything. And I do believe my husband is a narcissist(this is my son's acct so you don't need to respond) but I did go to him many times and try to fix things and she holds his *secret secrets*. That doesn't do anything except put that person in their corner. W out getting the truth from the spouse
He's good but just a little too rational for me, or practical. There's certain truths such as thou shall not lie, or bear false witness, that to me would make it impossible to suggest that she did not confess. Even if he or she thinks it's for the good of the marriage. A little lacking in a few basic absolute truths for my taste.
I’ve been conversing with multiple women and want to be forgiven, I’m bombarded with insults and other anger filled emotions I take it because I broke the trust but it’s hard being reminded every time I say something 💔💔
That is very hard, but if you choose to stay with a partner that you betrayed, then putting in that work of repairing and rebuilding trust, continuing to listen and empathize and understand their hurt, past and present, doesn't ever make things worse, it makes them better over time. It's very demoralizing at first, but acknowledging and taking accountability for what happened is the only way forward AND it starts the long journey of forgiveness, in yourself and them forgiving you. It's a very humbling process, but it's necessary if you want to rebuild trust after a betrayal.
I felt ignored for years and years by my wife and never looked elsewhere for love. On the other hand, my wife claims she felt unloved and ignored for several years, and began a texting affair with another man. There was no physical contact as he lived in another state. But I consider this to be an affair none the less. It was an emotional affair, no less damaging to our marriage than a physical affair. She texted him from work, she texted him in the evenings when she would excuse herself claiming to be tired, and then texting him for hours. She texted him on family day trips, A two week vacation to Washington State where she texted him every time we weren't together. Even if it was only for 5 or 10 minutes. The vacation texts, and evening texts are what bother me the most. I just can't get beyond the thought that I was no longer important to her; he was.
Jay Monroe wow, I am just in the middle of the the same situation; my husband was having an affair with another women, he also was texting her during work hours, when we were watching tv!!!, when I was sleeping.... very similar to you.... I feel betrayed and devastated. For me, I think I am not important anymore for him as you mentioned as well. I am considering divorce right now.
How do u survive a spouse who had multiple one night stands , and a few affairs of seeing the same person repeatedly , and this went on for 21 yrs out of a 35 yr relationship. It is life shattering , and when the spouse says they meant nothing , I never had any intention of leaving you and the children , as if that makes it ok .
I think we need a video discussing emotional affairs. I would be interested to see y partners choose to go to lets say a co worker(opposite sex( and discuss things that are wrong in a relationship at home. I don't feel like bringing a flying monkey into the mix fixes anything. And I do believe my husband is a narcissist(this is my son's acct so you don't need to respond) but I did go to him many times and try to fix things and she holds his *secret secrets*. That doesn't do anything except put that person in their corner. W out getting the truth from the spouse
He's good but just a little too rational for me, or practical. There's certain truths such as thou shall not lie, or bear false witness, that to me would make it impossible to suggest that she did not confess. Even if he or she thinks it's for the good of the marriage. A little lacking in a few basic absolute truths for my taste.
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I’ve been conversing with multiple women and want to be forgiven, I’m bombarded with insults and other anger filled emotions I take it because I broke the trust but it’s hard being reminded every time I say something 💔💔
That is very hard, but if you choose to stay with a partner that you betrayed, then putting in that work of repairing and rebuilding trust, continuing to listen and empathize and understand their hurt, past and present, doesn't ever make things worse, it makes them better over time. It's very demoralizing at first, but acknowledging and taking accountability for what happened is the only way forward AND it starts the long journey of forgiveness, in yourself and them forgiving you. It's a very humbling process, but it's necessary if you want to rebuild trust after a betrayal.