I’ve been following Matthew for ever and I will say this is one of the rawest conversations he’s had. I fell more in love with the two of you after this. Shan you really received the message and gave such great follow up questions and reactions and responses. Just a great duo.
To be honest, most women I've met ... their standards haven't been around superficial things, but character-related and behaviour-related things e.g. kindness, consistency, honesty, open-mindedness etc. But hey ho, we all have different social circles. However, let's just admit that many men are still not held accountable for their behaviours. Somehow the accusing finger still ends up pointing to the women, "Oh pick better", "Oh love yourself", "Oh he's just not that into YOU" etc ... which are great and valid. But how about we start telling these men to do better?! Criticize men's bad behaviour for once instead of putting all the onus on the woman. This is the example of the emotional labour we see (and expect) women carry in relationships.
Telling men to change their behaviour means nothing if there aren't any consequences for them. Men are market driven and will adjust their behaviour when there are consequences for doing so.
My God… never get interviewed by Shan if you didn’t actually write your book 😅 she had QUESTIONS! Incredible questions, Questions that were in depth and specific; I was almost a bit nervous he would fumble. 🤣 Put Mathew in the hot seat for sure! Made it super engaging. Such a great video!! x
I agree!!!! I think her questions were some of the most intense and precise. I’ve seen him answer. He had to gather himself for a moment. Very proud of her.
@@toomuchinformation I think him being relatively attractive, British, and targeting primarily women helped him build his audience. It’s good there’s so much variety on RUclips these days, though. I hope people are making the most use of all this content!
”Self-love is truly caring about your own experience and protecting yourself.” Matthew Hussey He seemed nervous and uncomfortable doing this with you 🙄😉 thank you queen!
I agree 💯 i am soon celebrating 25 years of marriage and thank god for keeping it real! What do you want out of life and does it align with what i want and ok let’s do it! No games no testing no waiting! No wasting time!
I met him and his brother, went though their live dating program. Their standards were terribly high. Kind men but perfetionists. looks like things have changed. dating coaches need to humble themselves
It's lovely seeing two experts deeply fascinated by relationships and bonding speak on this subject. Thank you for facilitating such a profound conversation, Shan.
I love that you are intentional about your word choice, Shan. You articulate things so well and it makes what you're expressing so clear even when it's murky.
I am just thinking...how someone who admits was a confused and terrible person to date could build his career and sell his tickets for thousands of dollars on giving workshops on the subject of relationships? What was his knowledge based on? To use the parallel - would anyone open their account with a banker who admits they were very bad with money for most of their life...?
matthew hussey is such a gem! he not only offers love advice but LIFE advice which i cherish so much. we dont have so many mentors these days anymore. it's all about just making the most money / escaping inflation. we forget about the people around us and the meaning of life and thats why i love his podcasts as well.
Great content, as always ✨ Matthew can be a controversial guy but I really felt the self love message from him. Having said that, the format felt super cold and distant and in some instances where the camera was only on him, looked like he was giving a public statement and I missed seeing your face reacting to what he was saying
He’s the same guy who dated that Camila girl in her early 20s while he was in his 30s, correct? 🤔 I mean…hopefully he has some wise insight looking back on that as well..
his mentioning of david whytes poetry! you can see that wisdom has shifted him. loved this interview of matthew, so cool to see his growth and shift here and bringing his audience along. Really fantastic interview!
Damn this was too insightful into my current situationship, loved this conversation so much and it helped give me a reality check!!! I clearly need to finish the rest of his new book ASAP
My thoughts, too. He won't get the same scruinity that Andrew Huberman is under for his private life AND he can profit from it if he crucifies himself first.
Meh still felt like he was being disingenuous. like he doesnt know how stop being "matthew hussey dating guru" and actually just have a conversation sharing his epiphanies 🙄
Me neither. I knew he was always a player and he decided to create a career to tell women how to avoid men like him. He’s projecting by telling women to raise their standards (which is true for some) but he clearly lacks standards himself and I’ve never seen him claim a woman in public
The reality is as to why one would choose a physiologically attractive person is because of the foundational assertion that the person either has time, resources, or skill set/critical awareness for self regulation ie be attractive. It's a lighter mental load (well supposed to be) for a potential partner given the difficult intricacies of social behaviour. and then additionally for gardening future generations if you procreate with someone with a lack of those self sufficient requirements oy puts a strain on the trajectory of a local society who now has to make up for what the others lack which makes the line of quality fall behind. Not to mention the dating pool of future generations who now have to pick through what was created based upon a union that did not facilitate an understanding of the standards for a future outside of themselves; because you can have a baby doesn't mean you should just because you can make a relationship happen doesn't mean you should it really is not for everybody. Truly selfish relationships make for gritty opportunities for the next generation. Be attractive inside AND out, it's better for the global healthcare system, it's better for individualism and society as a whole. The hunchback of Notre Dame does not need to have a child just because he can.
I’ve been following Matthew for ever and I will say this is one of the rawest conversations he’s had. I fell more in love with the two of you after this. Shan you really received the message and gave such great follow up questions and reactions and responses. Just a great duo.
To be honest, most women I've met ... their standards haven't been around superficial things, but character-related and behaviour-related things e.g. kindness, consistency, honesty, open-mindedness etc. But hey ho, we all have different social circles. However, let's just admit that many men are still not held accountable for their behaviours. Somehow the accusing finger still ends up pointing to the women, "Oh pick better", "Oh love yourself", "Oh he's just not that into YOU" etc ... which are great and valid. But how about we start telling these men to do better?! Criticize men's bad behaviour for once instead of putting all the onus on the woman. This is the example of the emotional labour we see (and expect) women carry in relationships.
Same thoughts and experiences. Men will never buy books on how to be a better boyfriend or husband.
Telling men to change their behaviour means nothing if there aren't any consequences for them.
Men are market driven and will adjust their behaviour when there are consequences for doing so.
I think you’re gendering things when he’s just talking about humans and partners. His points apply equally to men and women.
He seems to be getting smarter and wiser with time. Good for him.
Always nice to see two wellness giants having a conversation
Agree!
Love this…. Authenticity and honesty get you where lies can’t
My God… never get interviewed by Shan if you didn’t actually write your book 😅 she had QUESTIONS!
Incredible questions, Questions that were in depth and specific; I was almost a bit nervous he would fumble. 🤣
Put Mathew in the hot seat for sure! Made it super engaging.
Such a great video!!
x
I agree!!!! I think her questions were some of the most intense and precise. I’ve seen him answer. He had to gather himself for a moment. Very proud of her.
This conversation made me realize Shan should be a lot bigger than she is. She’s so much deeper than Matthew, no offense!
She's not male and she's mixed.
@@toomuchinformation I think him being relatively attractive, British, and targeting primarily women helped him build his audience. It’s good there’s so much variety on RUclips these days, though. I hope people are making the most use of all this content!
”Self-love is truly caring about your own experience and protecting yourself.”
Matthew Hussey
He seemed nervous and uncomfortable doing this with you 🙄😉 thank you queen!
I agree 💯 i am soon celebrating 25 years of marriage and thank god for keeping it real! What do you want out of life and does it align with what i want and ok let’s do it! No games no testing no waiting! No wasting time!
Love both of you!! Can’t believe it’s been over a decade since I’ve discovered you! Both your journeys have been absolutely fascinating.
RIGHT!!! I feel the same way. So glad to finally connect with him.
Shan this was a really amazing podcast. My biggest takeaway was have high standards for the things that really matter
I met him and his brother, went though their live dating program. Their standards were terribly high. Kind men but perfetionists. looks like things have changed. dating coaches need to humble themselves
Dating men in general is labor. And we aren’t getting paid. We actually don’t even receive any incentives either.
So why do it?
what a braindead sexist take
It's lovely seeing two experts deeply fascinated by relationships and bonding speak on this subject. Thank you for facilitating such a profound conversation, Shan.
I love that you are intentional about your word choice, Shan. You articulate things so well and it makes what you're expressing so clear even when it's murky.
I am just thinking...how someone who admits was a confused and terrible person to date could build his career and sell his tickets for thousands of dollars on giving workshops on the subject of relationships? What was his knowledge based on? To use the parallel - would anyone open their account with a banker who admits they were very bad with money for most of their life...?
Exactly. You admit a lack of integrity yet I'm supposed to trust you now? No thanks. I'll trust the gottman institute.
@@catcat9582Preach.
I was thinking the exact same thing…
matthew hussey is such a gem! he not only offers love advice but LIFE advice which i cherish so much. we dont have so many mentors these days anymore. it's all about just making the most money / escaping inflation. we forget about the people around us and the meaning of life and thats why i love his podcasts as well.
Women have high standards for everything but character
Bars.
Not the women I know
This! I had this conversation last night with a friend. I said I don't compromise on character. He said my standards were too high. 😂
Woah this is a good one!!!
Shan you continuously evolve and it has been inspiring me for years. Thank you
I was just having a similar conversation about this today! Shan is always on point in my life, some-freaking-how. Lol
I love that! - and thank you for watching!
Great content, as always ✨ Matthew can be a controversial guy but I really felt the self love message from him. Having said that, the format felt super cold and distant and in some instances where the camera was only on him, looked like he was giving a public statement and I missed seeing your face reacting to what he was saying
He’s the same guy who dated that Camila girl in her early 20s while he was in his 30s, correct? 🤔 I mean…hopefully he has some wise insight looking back on that as well..
I doubt he has, he just knows what to say to stay relevant and sell his book🤢
say you haven't watched the video without saying you haven't watched the video
Yes he is
The lyrics to here songs are very interesting!
his mentioning of david whytes poetry! you can see that wisdom has shifted him. loved this interview of matthew, so cool
to see his growth and shift here and bringing his audience along. Really fantastic interview!
Damn this was too insightful into my current situationship, loved this conversation so much and it helped give me a reality check!!! I clearly need to finish the rest of his new book ASAP
Love love love these two worlds colliding, great conversation, great host and great guest
Danm Matthew that really hit ! You describing “Selflove” ❤ thank you both for this 🙏🏽🫶🏽
A smart way to avoid cancel culture!
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My thoughts, too. He won't get the same scruinity that Andrew Huberman is under for his private life AND he can profit from it if he crucifies himself first.
This is why I tell women to stop take dating advice from men 😭
Your view on self love is revolutionary! I'm taking that with me. ❤❤❤
This was amazing. Like, every second was pure quality gold 😮
Meh still felt like he was being disingenuous. like he doesnt know how stop being "matthew hussey dating guru" and actually just have a conversation sharing his epiphanies 🙄
What a brilliant conversation. Saving to my favorites. Congrats to Matthew on the marriage and the book!
Not me knowing and loving this whole family (Boodram fam) that I can see Shan is sitting in Laurens newly renovated office hehe!
Beautiful discussion and I especially appreciate the comments on self-love and loving life
Correction: Men need to be better.
With all the social media click bait psychology this is really genuinely great. Intelligent and confident, this guy shines.
This was a great interview ❤
I just came to comment. I was surprised to see Shan on The mediator with Ice T.. I hope she continues to thrive in her element!
So happy this is here
Tbh. I really didn’t like him 5 years ago. But now he seems very genuine and honest.
This is such a gooood conversation. Nah ya'll put your foot in this it was beautiful.
2 INCREDIBLE human beings!
Omg my two favorite RUclipsrs are finally collabing!!!!!!
Omg so much bars, im trying to rework my mental to something along these lines and its tough, loved this video
Just purchased the book because of this interview. Thanks.
Great interview, great emotion🌟
Two amazing open and vulnerable souls! I’m in love
Isn’t it boring to be so obsessed with your romantic relationship? I would be bored to tears if I had to think about it all the time
Great interview
My two favorite coaches in one video!
Never liked this guy. I always knew he would be difficult with women.
Me neither. I knew he was always a player and he decided to create a career to tell women how to avoid men like him. He’s projecting by telling women to raise their standards (which is true for some) but he clearly lacks standards himself and I’ve never seen him claim a woman in public
@@destinyschild5768A White English Derrick Jaxn?
I stumbled into his content at 12 and it made me think you have to constantly perform for men
This was a great interview!
I think I would have more regrets not being there for friends and family than I would not having a romantic relationship.
I loved this convo thank you!
This was a wonderful conversation ❤
The reality is as to why one would choose a physiologically attractive person is because of the foundational assertion that the person either has time, resources, or skill set/critical awareness for self regulation ie be attractive. It's a lighter mental load (well supposed to be) for a potential partner given the difficult intricacies of social behaviour. and then additionally for gardening future generations if you procreate with someone with a lack of those self sufficient requirements oy puts a strain on the trajectory of a local society who now has to make up for what the others lack which makes the line of quality fall behind. Not to mention the dating pool of future generations who now have to pick through what was created based upon a union that did not facilitate an understanding of the standards for a future outside of themselves; because you can have a baby doesn't mean you should just because you can make a relationship happen doesn't mean you should it really is not for everybody. Truly selfish relationships make for gritty opportunities for the next generation. Be attractive inside AND out, it's better for the global healthcare system, it's better for individualism and society as a whole. The hunchback of Notre Dame does not need to have a child just because he can.
this duo!! yayyy. also always a fan of the hat :)
i dont trust this guy.
I love you Shan.🥰
you flirt! :)
ahh shan love this interview!!
Matthew is incredible! ❤
Woooow its the collab I've been waiting for 😍
Thank you so much for this ❤
“Men are only seen as worthless when class is not displayed” -Shan Boody
I love this discussion so much
Cool crossover
Matt looks nervous in this video
dating coach that admits he’s horrible to date
That's quite common.
Preemptively canceling himself ?
He looks like griezmann
And sounds like Harry Potter.
Like your content but don't need to advertise every few mins. I think it detracts from the content
No kidding! At first I was like, she needs to make a living. But it's 2 ads within the first 10 minutes!
Grifter or real? I wish I didn't ask myself these questions
Kevin Samuels WAS…
Lolololol
Wow 🤩 I love it so much to witness these two souls in one room .🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
awesome interview I really liked it thank you 🫶💎🕊
Already putting them degrees to Werrrk 🫶🏽