Dating Is Dead In America: The Real Reason

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  • @AustonHolleman
    @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +27

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    • @cooka.s2817
      @cooka.s2817 4 месяца назад +2

      Yes. 80% of the females in the west is satanic. The only way you'd date the majority of those b*#s is if the dudes are satanic, toxic and narcissistic dudes. Me and my brother tested it before, because when we played like we were toxic narcissist dudes, most of the b*#s in the U.S wanted us. But when we acted as positive good men, they ignored and rejected us.

    • @gangstalkingsimulation1319
      @gangstalkingsimulation1319 4 месяца назад

      ruclips.net/video/9TPwjIohW54/видео.htmlsi=g9fzQ1XsAGojyLI1

    • @tianzi49
      @tianzi49 4 месяца назад +2

      Grow up, lad! We've got more pressing things to worry about as a community and for a more meaningful existence individually than a preoccupation with chasing and hounding another word for a 'cat.' ... But the ego does relish and crave adoration/attention doesn't it?

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +6

      @@tianzi49 my community lives outside the U.S.

    • @cooka.s2817
      @cooka.s2817 4 месяца назад +1

      @@tianzi49 man shut your jealous a*# up you fatherless bastard. Auston we're proud of you young brother. Keep on showing the truth

  • @handsomebarber424
    @handsomebarber424 3 месяца назад +105

    People walk around looking pissed off it’s like you can tell their life sucks without asking lol

    • @ralphjba
      @ralphjba 2 месяца назад +2

      My face in public screams depression. But inside, i m hella happy. So how could you possibly know? smh

    • @7digitss
      @7digitss 2 месяца назад +5

      More often than not, their facial expression does show how they’re really feeling. Because if people are happy, they don’t go around looking angry or depressed. Unless you’re a weirdo that looks sad when you’re actually happy…

    • @jbrobele
      @jbrobele 2 месяца назад +1

      Facts. I’m one of them😂 my life don’t suck but my dating life alone is enough to ruin my mood most days

    • @justinwilliams7801
      @justinwilliams7801 2 месяца назад

      @@ralphjba cap

    • @ralphjba
      @ralphjba 2 месяца назад

      @@justinwilliams7801 cap, no cap. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter

  • @DonovanAnthonyy
    @DonovanAnthonyy 4 месяца назад +249

    The U.S. should strictly be utilized to make money. Not to socialize, not to build in, not to marry or start a family. Just make your money, set something in place to generate income while you're gone, then actually live a fulfilling life outside of there

    • @redlionesv
      @redlionesv 4 месяца назад +37

      Bingo

    • @wunclerlaufenbumcorneliusu7047
      @wunclerlaufenbumcorneliusu7047 4 месяца назад +38

      This guy? This guy gets it.

    • @RoninMP
      @RoninMP 3 месяца назад +23

      Very good advice and one I've been telling my close friends about. That's actually what I'm doing now and basically living a digital nomad lifestyle overseas.

    • @camdenforrest
      @camdenforrest 3 месяца назад +9

      Agreed 💯

    • @kumkan3588
      @kumkan3588 3 месяца назад +8

      Absolutely 👌👍

  • @tyronewalker5764
    @tyronewalker5764 4 месяца назад +261

    In the USA, "hello" is sexual harassment!😢

    • @hotties3v3n
      @hotties3v3n 4 месяца назад +8

      Maybe your hello isn't wanted anymore.

    • @CC-pu6qn
      @CC-pu6qn 4 месяца назад +13

      No, it’s not. You’re projecting and/or people were showing you they don’t want to speak.

    • @lupa9527
      @lupa9527 3 месяца назад +8

      Ok but saying hello shouldn't be vilified

    • @tonyadams8812
      @tonyadams8812 3 месяца назад +18

      No matter how polite you ask them it's the same here in the UK,......if they don't find you physically attractive.

    • @fernandohood5542
      @fernandohood5542 3 месяца назад

      @@tonyadams8812 NO one wins in the end not even the women except for the most attractive men.

  • @jimmyvila4443
    @jimmyvila4443 3 месяца назад +150

    No one is building friends or relationships USA sucks for that. All we do is work and stay home

    • @ricosuave62094
      @ricosuave62094 3 месяца назад +15

      Yup since moving to Texas that’s all I’ve seen people do here

    • @joshuarichards9365
      @joshuarichards9365 3 месяца назад +9

      I've been trying to get more financially stable just so I can go out more and be more social. It's a thing a put off for years but man oh man it's very important to have a social life

    • @dario7071
      @dario7071 3 месяца назад

      Facts

    • @aaronbrutus2654
      @aaronbrutus2654 3 месяца назад +12

      @joshuarichards9365 I hear people say this, and I really don't agree. These relationships that people hold in such high regard are mostly superficial, very little substance underneath. Having a Hobbie is important. Gotta have something to do that you enjoy and if you have a few people that you enjoy doing it with, GREAT! Having relationships just for idle conversations? Nah, im good...

    • @forzaeonore780
      @forzaeonore780 3 месяца назад +7

      That is the same here in Europe. Almost all relationships are superficial and the few friends i have are those i met in high school...

  • @darrylhall9503
    @darrylhall9503 4 месяца назад +67

    I was at a deli yesterday. The two employees behind the counter were having a conversation while I stood there waiting. I asked If they were still open. One of the workers rolled their eyes at me and sighed as if I was bothering them. All I got was attitude. He is right. It's all over the USA. There are so many mean people in this country.

    • @pantherman8719
      @pantherman8719 3 месяца назад +5

      I dunno what part of the U S. but it sounds like the North East.

    • @redrock740
      @redrock740 3 месяца назад +9

      I have had the same kind of "service" here in America. It is beyond disappointing. I usually just walk away, and not give them my business.

    • @theoracle6881
      @theoracle6881 3 месяца назад +1

      I betcha they were hair hats lol

    • @stayingfitandfocused
      @stayingfitandfocused 3 месяца назад +2

      @@pantherman8719 im in texas and its like that here if you go to most corporate places .

    • @pantherman8719
      @pantherman8719 3 месяца назад +1

      @@stayingfitandfocused oh ok. Pretty much mostly corporate areas here too.

  • @bigmikeisaman
    @bigmikeisaman 4 месяца назад +300

    I'm 35, from Dallas, 6'2", retired Marine. I will say that I grew up around rich people, but I was middle-class. It used to be, when I was really young, that if a girl liked you, she liked you. Maybe that's just the innocence of being young. In the 2010's, it was the same thing. If you were good looking, it didn't matter what you did for a living, you are in your 20's, obviously you aren't there yet and women were cool. Now, especially after Instagram and all this other social media shit, being tall isn't shit unless you have a lot of cheddar. Women see what other women have on Instagram and now they ALL think they deserve all this money.

    • @dyinglight-gb2im
      @dyinglight-gb2im 4 месяца назад +42

      I’ll tell you this. Having a lot of bread and being tall and good looking just intimidates them. If they do give you the time of day it’s just to play games with you and string you along to boost their egos they dont want anything serious with you best case scenario you MAY get laid and she’s gone. You may attract a gold digger here and there. The rest of the stuff you said is on point tho. I grew up in the 1990s-mid 2000s. If a girl liked you, their weren’t many games. She will tell you to your face that she likes you or she will tell one of her friends to tell you or one of your friends to tell you. OR they will sometimes go as far as telling your parents/brothers sisters (this was back in the day where everyone knew everyone especially on a military base). Now in 2024 you can forget it. Even if she likes you, you’ll never know. She will walk right by you and act like you don’t exist but if you approach her that’s a problem too so what can you do as a guy in the states? Meet girls via work? At college? Be introduced by friends in your circle? Options are limited.

    • @kingmaafa120
      @kingmaafa120 4 месяца назад

      Nope they expect you to be a thug 👍
      Simper Fi
      That’s what they deal with

    • @yessir8805
      @yessir8805 4 месяца назад +5

      Spot on.

    • @stephenford6132
      @stephenford6132 4 месяца назад +41

      I'm 5'7 who would of thought of a day tall men started to complain about women lol normally that's all you need in most cases.

    • @kingmaafa120
      @kingmaafa120 4 месяца назад +4

      @@stephenford6132 😂

  • @2008topshelf
    @2008topshelf 4 месяца назад +173

    I went to a bar and a fella sat next to me and ordered a beer. I said hello. He ignored me. Some people just fear connections.

    • @Victor-fj5hy
      @Victor-fj5hy 4 месяца назад +1

      Sad that’s how shit American society is bro 😂 I’m sorry I’m passport bro at 19

    • @Ricocase
      @Ricocase 4 месяца назад +6

      Beer? Like a dude?

    • @jaybrick8973
      @jaybrick8973 4 месяца назад +1

      Something like this happened to me at the gym America is just trash man

    • @evansbezil7450
      @evansbezil7450 4 месяца назад +9

      @@Ricocaseexactly. Hella masculine. Probably why he didn’t even bother engaging with her

    • @chrisc.6551
      @chrisc.6551 4 месяца назад +33

      He didn’t want to talk to you because he thinks you are not attractive. Not because he’s afraid of you 😂.

  • @ronniethesilverbackgorilla2793
    @ronniethesilverbackgorilla2793 4 месяца назад +108

    A lot of men want to leave but they don’t have the money to do so misery loves company so they shame you simple as that

    • @ClassicGaming7
      @ClassicGaming7 4 месяца назад +3

      @VirtualInsanity-se8bcWhy wouldn’t he? It’s his home and you know America is beneficial to be in outside of dating, right?

  • @graysonguice5956
    @graysonguice5956 4 месяца назад +228

    Bottom line America has the best basic access and conveniences in the world, and for making money. But socially it is very isolating and the women are awful

    • @hjackson.92
      @hjackson.92 4 месяца назад +31

      Infrastructure is starting to fail in some places. It's not going to get any better.

    • @kathym8453
      @kathym8453 4 месяца назад +16

      So true, and it is reflected in the English language that we use. English is a language of business and war, and that is reflected in our society. English is much more limited than other languages when it comes to emotional and social expression and concepts. Thus our experience of those things is suppressed.

    • @user-gj6yq5qy8b
      @user-gj6yq5qy8b 3 месяца назад +3

      This goes both ways

    • @20maxilo
      @20maxilo 3 месяца назад +15

      yes america is good for 1 thing making money., but to find someone u may have to look elsewhere

    • @Sketch_Sesh
      @Sketch_Sesh 3 месяца назад +6

      @@kathym8453or people here have the vocabulary of a 9th grader

  • @dancerodie
    @dancerodie 4 месяца назад +213

    In America, you can still be confident and handsome, but still may not get anything until the 100th female.

    • @javionriley8739
      @javionriley8739 4 месяца назад +32

      Agreed

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +62

      My hinge has showed that

    • @bigmack-oq1nt
      @bigmack-oq1nt 4 месяца назад +38

      Maybe you need to stop concentrating so much on females and focus on getting your life in order.

    • @Bigmoney333
      @Bigmoney333 4 месяца назад

      I don’t know how because I’m a heavy set guy and I still get action I smash atleast 20 chicks a year with minimum effort.

    • @dancerodie
      @dancerodie 4 месяца назад +31

      That has nothing to do with nothing that has been said. Furthermore, for the last 10 years my life has been in order. Without a woman.

  • @OvertIntelligence
    @OvertIntelligence 4 месяца назад +66

    People are so disrespectful and rude these days that people don’t want to socialize with others. It is what it is. Evolution of society…

    • @user-kx1sl8wd1s
      @user-kx1sl8wd1s 4 месяца назад +14

      Very disrespectful

    • @Alazar654
      @Alazar654 4 месяца назад +10

      yup

    • @stephiiuni
      @stephiiuni 4 месяца назад +12

      Exactly. Disrespectful and judgemental.

    • @ancientafricanblood1547
      @ancientafricanblood1547 3 месяца назад +11

      Agreed! Drama oriented, insecure, petty, small-minded.

    • @boogitybear2283
      @boogitybear2283 3 месяца назад +3

      I’m 43 years old. From 1981-September 10, 2001 was great. After that, been hell since.

  • @aaronbrutus2654
    @aaronbrutus2654 4 месяца назад +84

    I used to seek friendships but then I experienced a few backstabbing situations, gossiping, disrespect etc. So, now I just want to be left alone. I keep people at arms length, it's really better that way. That's basically what I'm trying to say. Everyone is closed off because the environment is a little sick.

    • @16KidGuitar
      @16KidGuitar 3 месяца назад +10

      That’s how I am as well bro! Self-preservation is essential in the world we live in now!

    • @martinbirdwell7986
      @martinbirdwell7986 3 месяца назад

      Me Too ​@@16KidGuitar

    • @kingace2573
      @kingace2573 3 месяца назад +1

      What I am going through right now.

    • @martinbirdwell7986
      @martinbirdwell7986 3 месяца назад +3

      Me Too That's Why I Hang Alone

  • @tarikpierce
    @tarikpierce 4 месяца назад +224

    America is great but not for dating. It's a sausage fest. Hang out with the family and focus on your channel and business. Don't force relationships in America.

    • @MrPrettyBoyChina
      @MrPrettyBoyChina 4 месяца назад +45

      American is no longer great it’s ok

    • @VendieSolde
      @VendieSolde 4 месяца назад

      Then go back to those people.

    • @Blanka44447
      @Blanka44447 4 месяца назад

      It's not though women make up half of us so why's it feel like one?

    • @ksull5595
      @ksull5595 4 месяца назад +14

      @@rotweilerscholar1181 I have a 6 figure career and a daughter and I also feel this way. My relationships when I lived in 🇯🇵 ,🇪🇸, 🇨🇴 and 🇩🇯 were much more meaningful and felt more natural than dating here and I was born and raised in the USA.

    • @nellatl
      @nellatl 4 месяца назад +13

      But it's actually not a sausage fest. There's many more women then men. But it still sucks for dating. The women are miserable too but it's because of their unrealistic expectations.

  • @bwalk9338
    @bwalk9338 4 месяца назад +175

    Seeking women leads to an unfulfilled life. The more women you get the more you want and it's a cycle that repeats. Gotta focus on something else

    • @TruthFLA
      @TruthFLA 4 месяца назад +16

      Seeking a fulfilled social life or seeking to connect with people Is the point of life. We're put here on this earth not to simply make money or to build a house and live by yourself in the woods. We're put here on this earth for the purpose of connecting and being with each other. We are social creatures after all.

    • @bwalk9338
      @bwalk9338 4 месяца назад +33

      @@TruthFLA Seeking a social life vs seeking women are two different things. We definitely shouldn't be here alone, but a man without a purpose is an empty man. Too many men are chasing validation from women and it just leads to a bottomless pit

    • @TruthFLA
      @TruthFLA 4 месяца назад +1

      @@bwalk9338 They are not two different things One is part of the other.

    • @bwalk9338
      @bwalk9338 4 месяца назад +1

      @@TruthFLA No it's not. Seeking women to be accepted and liked is a hard task in 2024. That's why so many men on RUclips are angry. You can have money, go to the gym, and have your own place but women still won't pursue you. Meanwhile someone who has half of that has an inbox full of women. You'll never win in life chasing women.

    • @TruthFLA
      @TruthFLA 4 месяца назад

      @@bwalk9338 if we are still talking about Auston. He is 24. He has some before the life partner talk becomes critical.

  • @sntmdsa3628
    @sntmdsa3628 3 месяца назад +40

    The real reason is that the nation has turned away from God and it’s going to continue to go down hill.

    • @mjulianlee
      @mjulianlee 3 месяца назад

      Read ACTS 13 and know the MOST HIGH YAHUAH only cares about ISRAELITES (so-called Negroes, Bantus, Siddis, Kaffirs, Caribbeanos, DIASPORA).
      When it gets INCREDIBLY dire, our deliverance will happen:
      Israelites (so-called Negroes, Bantus, Siddis, Kaffirs, Latinos, Caribbeanos, DIASPORA),
      Jeremiah 30:7-8
      [7] Alas! for that day is great, so that none is like it: it is even the time of JACOB'S TROUBLE; but he shall be saved out of it.
      [8] For it shall come to pass in that day, saith the MOST HIGH YAHUAH of hosts, that I will break his yoke from off thy neck, and will burst thy bonds, and strangers shall no more serve themselves of him:

  • @GQ1921
    @GQ1921 4 месяца назад +134

    The average American male no matter what age no matter how rich or how poor lives like a castrated caged animal. 💯💯💯💯💯. Ive been living in Colombia the last two years and dating feels normal again life in general as a human being actually feels normal again

    • @fjohn8985
      @fjohn8985 4 месяца назад +3

      Look up - The ‘Oracle of Wall Street’ expands on the ‘crisis of the American male’

    • @GQ1921
      @GQ1921 4 месяца назад +25

      @@fjohn8985 life in America is not fun anymore

    • @kingchris6998
      @kingchris6998 4 месяца назад

      Becareful not to drugged by scopolamine down there

    • @GEOMETRICWARRIORS
      @GEOMETRICWARRIORS 4 месяца назад

      Inspiring 🧘🏽‍♂️

    • @TheChariot99
      @TheChariot99 4 месяца назад

      In America, a man is not allowed to be a man but have man responsibilities and to take care of a women.

  • @princemarora
    @princemarora 4 месяца назад +66

    American culture is very individualistic & capitalistic - Most world nations are socio-capitalistic and social life is vibrant .. USA is the only place with the highest depression, loneliness, stress and suicides due to the lifestyle.

    • @canadianbrotv1303
      @canadianbrotv1303 4 месяца назад +8

      I think Canada is higher ...but might count as less because of the lower population

    • @merchandise420
      @merchandise420 4 месяца назад +4

      Check on the UK, US, CANADA

    • @amirtak9886
      @amirtak9886 4 месяца назад +2

      ​@merchandise420 pretty much for every English speaking country, except for maybe South Africa

    • @amirtak9886
      @amirtak9886 4 месяца назад +1

      ​@@canadianbrotv1303canadian here, it's worse than the USA

    • @princemarora
      @princemarora 4 месяца назад +4

      I have been living in Illinois USA for years.. Neighbors hardly say hi.. When I was new I tried to be friendly.. Soon I realized no one cares.. They even don't like it when u are too friendly so I went back in my shell and adopted the lifestyle. I also keep quiet in my corner.

  • @julianharvey5045
    @julianharvey5045 4 месяца назад +91

    I didn't realize Austin was so young. He only 24 now so that mean when he first started traveling when he was 20 or 21. He went through that little drama and Brazil and have matured so much since then. He is way ahead of his time. I'm 42 and I haven't been out of the country yet. This man has been to plenty of countries and gained so much life experience.

    • @jakemccoy
      @jakemccoy 4 месяца назад +11

      Comparison is the theft of joy. Do you.😊

    • @kadubb2020
      @kadubb2020 4 месяца назад +4

      I tell my youngest who lives here in Houston with me and my wife to travel

    • @kadubb2020
      @kadubb2020 4 месяца назад

      I am giving him all the practice he can get at 13 years old

    • @kadubb2020
      @kadubb2020 4 месяца назад +1

      If they are Indian, Chinese, Mexican, black, or whatever kind of American woman, they are still American and will have that mentality

    • @kadubb2020
      @kadubb2020 4 месяца назад +1

      I want my son to get out of here asap

  • @ksull5595
    @ksull5595 4 месяца назад +324

    I lived in Japan for 6 years. The women there don’t leave home until marriage, the guys too.

    • @JakazuV2
      @JakazuV2 4 месяца назад +17

      King shit.

    • @kingmaafa120
      @kingmaafa120 4 месяца назад +14

      In the past not now 😮
      That’s from over 10+ yrs of living there and traveling
      Just spent a month there 👍
      Still no 1 spot
      Keep that a secret 😅
      Only high level PPB OK

    • @jakemccoy
      @jakemccoy 4 месяца назад

      Japan is wide open for pookies to exploit. I went to a club, met a hot Japanese girl, and had wild sx that night. She did not even want anything else, just wanted to have sx with a black man. Hopefully, Auston will not go to Japan.

    • @jakemccoy
      @jakemccoy 4 месяца назад

      Japan is wide open to be exploited by Pookies. They have social media too. My story about Japan just got instantly deleted.

    • @gthigpen6989
      @gthigpen6989 4 месяца назад +25

      This is true. My buddy, Jun, didn't leave home until he got married. He was in his early 40s. Now, he has a son.

  • @blackworldtraveler8920
    @blackworldtraveler8920 4 месяца назад +224

    Im tapped out the US dating market. Keep traveling and dating abroad.

  • @user-kx1sl8wd1s
    @user-kx1sl8wd1s 4 месяца назад +90

    I think people are also exhausted from being burned by people and trying to build community with no one else putting in effort.

    • @hotties3v3n
      @hotties3v3n 4 месяца назад +1

      You mean women are fed up with being burned by men.

    • @MultiKingvegeta
      @MultiKingvegeta 4 месяца назад +9

      This is the perfect answer

    • @novelcoronaheads
      @novelcoronaheads 3 месяца назад +1

      Exactly...America is like this because of colonialism...Its not western values its european chivalry religious indoctrination fake promises and foreign opportunist who never respected anything about the indigenous cultures in the first place

    • @aestheticmarc
      @aestheticmarc 3 месяца назад +6

      most ppl dnt care and only want the benefits , all u can do is find solutions and build community the best way u see fit

    • @novelcoronaheads
      @novelcoronaheads 3 месяца назад +1

      @@MultiKingvegeta Alot of people including myself are still suffering til this day because of the way we were concieved and the way we were treated as a child...The longer you live here the more you begin to realize how everything was set up for us to repeat the same mistakes generation after generation.Like a roller coaster ride with drugs alcohol guns prostitutes children and taxes..Whoever controls everything must not like the idea of a stable home for everybody

  • @masterblaster3021
    @masterblaster3021 4 месяца назад +125

    AUSTON - I'M 55 YRS. OLD . IN MY 20"S I WAS STATIONED IN CLARK AFB PHILIPPINES. I WAS HAVING THE TIME OF MY LIFE AND DIDN'T KNOW IT. I'M PLANNING TO GO BACK. THE ATTITUDES OF WOMEN IN AMERICA ARE AWFUL. THE COST OF LIVING IN AMERICA IS RIDICULOUS. I BEEN WATCHING YOUR CHANNEL. YOU LOOKED MORE RELAXED AND HAPPIER ABROAD. GO FIND YOUR HAPPINESS DONT GET CAUGHT UP IN THE MATRIX.👍🏿

    • @Wakeupsheeple607
      @Wakeupsheeple607 4 месяца назад

      😂😂😂😂 if u think the women are awful imagine wat the men are😂😂😂😂 even worse these men are in wigs and DL they be broke and dusty😂😂😂

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 3 месяца назад +1

      You're screaming

    • @Jame6999
      @Jame6999 3 месяца назад +3

      Stop yelling. But I get your point
      I haven't talked to a woman in the states since 2015.

    • @LovelyVibrations
      @LovelyVibrations 3 месяца назад

      Are you married sir??

    • @Wakeupsheeple607
      @Wakeupsheeple607 3 месяца назад

      @@LovelyVibrationsnobody is marrying these no wealth, no power having azz niggahs that complain abt women all day real men are fighting wars and fighting for world domination not whining and fighting women

  • @EqDior
    @EqDior 4 месяца назад +52

    You hit the nail on the head Austin. Social interaction in America is very sad. Awesome vid!

    • @redrock740
      @redrock740 3 месяца назад +1

      People in the US get offended if you say good morning! Like, why the heck are they greeting me? How annoying is it that I have to respond now.

    • @4romdabooot
      @4romdabooot 26 дней назад

      @EQdior I mean do you not witness this stuff yourself on a day to day. Auston had to come out with this video to validate what you’ve been thinking? He’s stating the obvious and I’ve been both abroad and here. It seems like y’all be worshiping these public figures! If America sad get up and leave or improve your situation just dont complain about it.

    • @EqDior
      @EqDior 25 дней назад +1

      @@4romdabooot I respect your comment bro. But where is my complaint at? Who says I am not making an effort to improve the situation just because I agreed with Austin's video? I'm agreeing with what I see. Not saying that all are like that but saying that there is a significant decline in social interaction.

    • @4romdabooot
      @4romdabooot 8 дней назад

      @@EqDior my apologies I shouldn’t have come at you like that you’re not complaining because honestly I see the same things you and Auston are seeing, the social interaction in America is severely hurting. I remember being in Medellin a couple of months ago and they do nothing but socializing even if they’re not working but they were still enjoying themselves. Here where I am in States most people just work and come home and live for the weekend completely different from living abroad.

    • @EqDior
      @EqDior 2 дня назад +1

      @@4romdabooot No worries fam. its all constructive to me. We can all grow from things like that.

  • @christianreynoso1122
    @christianreynoso1122 4 месяца назад +47

    I’m half Dominican and half black, when I first traveled to El Salvador, they didn’t treat me like a black man in US. They treating me as if I belong there, interested in my features, they loved my black skin which I wasn’t use too. Coming back to the US it’s completely different. At 25 I’m giving myself less than 5 years and I’m getting outta here.

    • @Victor-fj5hy
      @Victor-fj5hy 4 месяца назад

      How bad is it for you in the us I’m Dominican to

    • @kingchris6998
      @kingchris6998 4 месяца назад

      Congrats young bro

    • @christianreynoso1122
      @christianreynoso1122 4 месяца назад +6

      @@Victor-fj5hy in terms of race it’s not bad. The problem that I see is it’s not just dating is dead it’s feminism has become a systemic program that is being taught, and as men I guess we are not suppose to have a say in how every day interactions with women are. Words like “predator” or “patriarchy” gets tossed around without people even knowing the definition or context

    • @nanakworld
      @nanakworld 4 месяца назад +2

      I just returned yesterday from San Salvador on my second trip to the country and I had a great time.

    • @Victor-fj5hy
      @Victor-fj5hy 4 месяца назад +1

      @@nanakworld lucky ass dude how was the women ?

  • @BrianWaller-qe7gr
    @BrianWaller-qe7gr 4 месяца назад +30

    I dropped out of the dating market. I’m done with it. Not sure why anyone with an sane mind would want to participate. I’m tired of the cycle of talking then going on date then she doesn’t feel the tingles then she either ghosts me or at least let’s me know she’s not interested, then talking stages then date then get no second date again. And the same cycle repeats over and over and over. The only way to end the cycle is to stop participating. Women don’t understand that it takes a bit for chemistry to develop. They want the fairytale romance where it’s instant sparks

    • @sunbox4700
      @sunbox4700 3 месяца назад +2

      She probably didn't get money or effort from you, not just tingles. Women want to see effort from man and how generous he is with money, women don't want just tingles, they want money and effort from a man. If you spend a lot of money on her and talked well and showed interest and put effort, it would be worth more than tingles. Most men are just very greedy with money and effort and feelings and conversation that's why women are not in. Need to impress her with something at least. But men expect a woman to have tingles for nothing. At least marriage could offer if nothing else. Women want something more from a man just tingles. But men want women to have tingles for nothing. But women need something very important like marriage or money or future together or effort from a man. And all men do just say hi and that he wants sex and expect a woman to have tingles and be impressed.

    • @BrianWaller-qe7gr
      @BrianWaller-qe7gr 3 месяца назад +1

      @@sunbox4700 never lead with you wallet never

    • @theoracle6881
      @theoracle6881 3 месяца назад

      them scallywags just wanted a free meal!

    • @SUNROSE7878
      @SUNROSE7878 3 месяца назад

      Absolutely. I am much older than you and I notice it. These young women are in a Cinderella world- of fantasy. They wouldn't know a real relationship. If it slap them across the head. All you can do is leave them alone because if you do get involved it's nothing but a bunch of drama, confusion and mental issues that you really don't want to deal with.

    • @plot229
      @plot229 3 месяца назад

      @@sunbox4700 what you have just described is prostitution, we are not interested in dating a prostitute…

  • @EternalKorvo
    @EternalKorvo 4 месяца назад +44

    This world is so shit but, I must keep going

  • @AP-WhatsUp
    @AP-WhatsUp 4 месяца назад +80

    Houston is better for mingling with women but finding a wife type woman is as difficult as anywhere else in the US

    • @Bravefit
      @Bravefit 4 месяца назад +19

      I’ve got all of the above and it’s still a trash environment for dating 🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @LightAlchemy-io9dm
      @LightAlchemy-io9dm 4 месяца назад +10

      Houston is good only if you're not the adventurous type. It's the same ol same ol everywhere you go. Its also very spread out so ppl tend to roll in cliques. They can be friendly though. Ppl will talk to you but it's dangerous because of how many scammers have come to the city recently.
      Also wear protection because it's worse than ATL, but the media wont tell you this

    • @SPnSQ
      @SPnSQ 4 месяца назад

      I’m here in Houston from Miami, Auston is absolutely correct

    • @AP-WhatsUp
      @AP-WhatsUp 4 месяца назад +3

      Yeah man it’s easy work in htown fr. But like I said, finding a quality wife is still a shit show but that’s more of a United States issue because of feminism.

    • @AP-WhatsUp
      @AP-WhatsUp 4 месяца назад +1

      I’ve been married before as well, I’m 36. But I’d like to have kids one day as I’ve already a lot of financial success and my next purpose is family. I don’t believe in having kids out of wedlock so this is why I mention marriage. I’ve already been there and done that with many many women, and that part is kinda old to me tbh.

  • @Passport_R
    @Passport_R 4 месяца назад +71

    Brazil is definitely racist....but they just don't talk about it like in America

    • @AirRider44
      @AirRider44 4 месяца назад +27

      Brazil racism is the kind where there is no “racism”, as long as you’re in your place. The moment you set outside of what is perceived to be your class… the racism kicks into high gear. Brazil’s population of African descent is several times that of the U.S. but Brazilians of visibly African descent are practically invisible amongst the professional class (doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc).

    • @Passport_R
      @Passport_R 4 месяца назад +12

      @@AirRider44 you don't hardly see any in government or high ranking positions

    • @360ODYSY
      @360ODYSY 4 месяца назад

      So pick your level of racism, not being represented in politics, media or education or being murdered by the people that are supposed to protect you

    • @sonderexpeditions
      @sonderexpeditions 4 месяца назад

      They can't because it's illegal. You can be put in jail for racism. However it's heavy there. Especially colorism. In Brazil the whitest is on top the blackest is on the bottom.

    • @theborg3237
      @theborg3237 3 месяца назад +3

      I love Brazil ; but , they never had a civil rights movement !

  • @NocturnalImmersion
    @NocturnalImmersion 4 месяца назад +47

    I'm from NC 27 year old female. And I feel like people take what they see on social media and make it reality. Like...red pill and feminism are ruining the human social experience. We think we hate each other so we don't even attempt to connect. I myself still speak with a smile. Sometimes I am acknowledged other times im ignored. Its what the country is pushing. Divided we fall....its all a plan.

    • @canadianbrotv1303
      @canadianbrotv1303 4 месяца назад +1

      Women ruined the western daring experience , too mich cock blocking , too much focus on materialism 😢

    • @thentic7622
      @thentic7622 4 месяца назад +1

      Facts glad you can see that it’s trying to separate us

    • @KevinEnty
      @KevinEnty 4 месяца назад +1

      Facts 💯

    • @thentic7622
      @thentic7622 4 месяца назад +4

      @VirtualInsanity-se8bc by “it’s” I was talking about red pill and feminism. And I don’t dislike Austin’s message it just that he can’t be mad with what he’s receiving since like you said he contributes to it

    • @NocturnalImmersion
      @NocturnalImmersion 4 месяца назад

      @actionpotential23 you're right. It's just gotten worse lol. I'm more than aware "WE" were never united. Especially the black community! But it is all a plan, a plan to make us all have victim mentalities and woe is my syndrome. Thus preventing us from making genuine interactions. And its a plan that has been in action for many, many decades, and they won. If that makes me a bot, then so be it.

  • @igpxmaster
    @igpxmaster 4 месяца назад +38

    I’m 27 and the fact that Austin sees this at a young age shows us how wise he is it’s sad I’m a social being and people suck now they think they are too good and now more ppl are racist due to social media it’s sucks

    • @igpxmaster
      @igpxmaster 4 месяца назад +6

      @@ogunmontgomery103 I’ll be 28 in 2 months but that’s not the point the fact that younger guys like us are seeing the dive in society is sad imagine how ppl 35 and up feel.. there no reason why Auston when he started traveling a few years ago made it up in his mind that the west is trash

    • @rockstarjoe5725
      @rockstarjoe5725 4 месяца назад

      @@ogunmontgomery103 we same age gang

    • @Freeeeeeeee27
      @Freeeeeeeee27 3 месяца назад

      It’s the life experience he has that gives him some wisdom. I can say that I understand Austin’s perspective because I’ve also travelled a bit. There is a huge difference internally compared to western countries. Heck, even Japan was more welcoming.

    • @martinbirdwell7986
      @martinbirdwell7986 3 месяца назад

      They Were Racist Before Social Media But They Kept It Hidden

    • @igpxmaster
      @igpxmaster 3 месяца назад

      @@Freeeeeeeee27 it’s scary to think ppl in their early 20s are over it

  • @BlueFlame_l.o.g
    @BlueFlame_l.o.g 4 месяца назад +29

    I don’t blame you bro, I can’t wait to get outta here! People just be hating for no reason keep doin yo thing 💪🏾🙏🏽✨

  • @swiftjunk3692
    @swiftjunk3692 4 месяца назад +34

    100% correct about Dallas. The girls hang out in crews of 5 and 6. Went out to a bar by myself while visiting Dallas and a woman who was sitting with five other women invited me to sit with them. I'm sitting there me and the girl exchange numbers talking about where I'm from, why I was in Dallas and everything is cool. When the waitress came I order a drink for myself and told the waitress to bring her one of whatever she had. One of her friends starts telling me I'm rude for not buying them all drinks, that her friends don't mess with broke cheap men and tells her friend to delete my number which she does. It was most awkward experience in my life sitting there with six strange women pissed off with attitudes telling me I'm cheap and broke. I didn't know what to do and they were causing a minor scene so I got up and walked out of the bar before the drink came. I will never go to a bar in Dallas again.

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +13

      Sounds about right😂

    • @swiftjunk3692
      @swiftjunk3692 3 месяца назад +5

      ​@@AustonHolleman I still don’t know if it was because dudes in Dallas buy drinks for whole tables of random women, or if it was because they thought they found an out of town trick/simp to buy drinks. Being called broke with people staring, like I did something. I never felt more emasculated and embarrassed in my life.

    • @light_year6964
      @light_year6964 3 месяца назад +1

      That "woman" wanted to get something out of you without putting in the effort to wanting to get to know you and earning that bought drink. She's just miserable and projecting that out onto you and the true woman who actually took the time to speak with you.

    • @lees3117
      @lees3117 3 месяца назад +6

      Never take an invite from a group of women at a table because they want to use you for your money to buy their broke azzes alcohol.

    • @CharlesLockhart
      @CharlesLockhart 3 месяца назад

      There are a lot of women at clubs looking to use dudes for free shit. Just like there are a lot of dudes just looking to get sex. Probably not the ideal environment to meet people of quality.

  • @DmarquettePainter
    @DmarquettePainter 4 месяца назад +19

    I thought something was wrong with me back in the day until I went to Barbados and hung out with family and met a whole bunch of cool ass people on the street. I’d make it a point to say good morning to most people I passed and strike up a convo. The women were receptive, and everyone was generally polite. I remember coming back to Atlanta trying to do the same thing and it just didn’t work

  • @Kzb2022
    @Kzb2022 4 месяца назад +22

    Bro I’m glad you touched this topic of racism out in the world vs United States . People have no idea that it’s much better here than around the world in terms of racism

  • @oceanearth2243
    @oceanearth2243 3 месяца назад +7

    Dating in the USA has been ruined for a solid decade. Every single date I went on, I was ridiculed and judged and embarrassed, deemed unworthy. Yet abroad I become visible. I am an alpha everywhere else

    • @mogaz674
      @mogaz674 3 месяца назад

      Its all the west....Same in Europe 😅

  • @mickeyturner5677
    @mickeyturner5677 3 месяца назад +12

    I grew up in Richardson. My twin brother lives in Garland. I now live abroad with plans of never living in America again. I wish you were wrong but you are right. God bless you, Austin.

  • @Kuroyasha2099
    @Kuroyasha2099 4 месяца назад +35

    Bruh you're right it's the culture of people. It ain't work, it ain't racism, it ain't politics, it ain't just urban planning(though it is a factor). I'm glad you've noticed this so young. I saw the seeds of it around 08'-10' but it's gotten progressively worse. Social media has turned us into some kind of weird dystopian para social anti social NPC society. People have gotten fucking WEIRD. They are more engaged and invested in online relationships, clout and identity. I hate to be cliche but they really are plugged into the Matrix.

  • @dmh5982
    @dmh5982 4 месяца назад +90

    Bro you are so young with all this wisdom. You are the “True Goat.” Keep making these amazing videos.

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +12

      Thank you!

    • @Daykiss
      @Daykiss 4 месяца назад +3

      True Statement!Traveling you gain a lot of wisdom!

    • @oops541
      @oops541 4 месяца назад +2

      @@AustonHolleman You should do DNA ancestry test. We want to see how many percent of your European gene in you. 🙃

    • @robertibeh
      @robertibeh 4 месяца назад +1

      Facts. Much respect to Austin.

  • @conchobar
    @conchobar 4 месяца назад +34

    There has been a steady reduction in social events for young people, since the 1950s. Heck, in the 90s shopping malls and dance clubs(Where people actually danced) were considered low hanging fruit social settings. Today, your best bet is college campuses and work related conferences.

    • @AllFather-TheStoicGod
      @AllFather-TheStoicGod 4 месяца назад +6

      It's definitely not college campuses since the mid 2010s and fake rape allegations, especially after the guy had consensual relations, she even left the room and came back with the condom, and once done he moved on. Few days later she said she felt *"graped"* because he didn't have the same level of enthusiasm after for her. He got kicked out of school, lost the scholarship, but was later acquitted. Dating on college campuses has dropped to the single digits. Women are heated.

  • @Blacksword404
    @Blacksword404 4 месяца назад +26

    Our society is very isolating. If a Brazilian comes into a empty restaurant they will sit right next to you. An American would sit by themselves.
    How many times have people went to the grocery store, and the parking lot was empty? And you come out and you get passed off because in the empty parking lot, that person parked next to you.

    • @ziontrain7887
      @ziontrain7887 4 месяца назад +16

      Totally agree. My fist time in Rio I was at a restaurant by myself and a man and his family including his two fine ass daughters sat with me and he paid for my food and drinks. He said it’s not the Brazilian way to eat by yourself. True story. I was in copacabana. It was a beautiful experience!

    • @jaybrick8973
      @jaybrick8973 4 месяца назад +2

      Alot of ppl are depressed here what do you expect but I have ran into some friendly Americans but it's few an in between

  • @Figgs101
    @Figgs101 4 месяца назад +27

    America is draining compared to Brazil between the people, the music, groceries everything is draining

    • @danielwatts9803
      @danielwatts9803 4 месяца назад +1

      not "the groceries", haha'.. 😂💯

  • @emagicman6573
    @emagicman6573 4 месяца назад +49

    I have not had a relationship or tried dating in the United States since 2020. And even those women were a 4 or 5. Now I have a relationships in Colombia 🇨🇴 and the woman I’m in a relationship now is Venezuela who currently lives in Venezuela 🇻🇪. We’ll meet up in Cartagena in June. If you have not met your girlfriend through a friend or network of associates or college, you can forget as a man. Dating apps I guess good for hooking up but I don’t deal with women in America and especially in my city Chicago.

    • @KOJOSLIM007-so6cj
      @KOJOSLIM007-so6cj 4 месяца назад +4

      My woman is also from Venezuela and we also mete up in Cartagena about 2 or 3 times a year.

    • @thedopeconversationspodcast
      @thedopeconversationspodcast 4 месяца назад +10

      Yall sure these are your women? Lol

    • @canadianbrotv1303
      @canadianbrotv1303 4 месяца назад +8

      ​@@thedopeconversationspodcastBetter than being alone in America getting old you only live one life

    • @BushidoBoxing
      @BushidoBoxing 4 месяца назад +4

      Chicagoland area is terrible for dating

    • @mekichey129
      @mekichey129 4 месяца назад

      Aren't the Illegals going to Chicago

  • @defrank1870
    @defrank1870 4 месяца назад +36

    Bro. You're taking this shit to the next level.
    You're underscoring the REAL problem we are ALL facing.
    The Culture has COOKED this place. It's done bro and will take DECADES to undo.
    This is beyond just women.

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +12

      Thank you! Yes that’s exactly what it is

    • @defrank1870
      @defrank1870 3 месяца назад

      @chronicblast5505 facts

  • @alfredbaxter1061
    @alfredbaxter1061 4 месяца назад +66

    I’m from Minneapolis Mn it’s the same way here it’s dead everywhere

    • @MulanosVlogz
      @MulanosVlogz 4 месяца назад +1

      Whhhhhhaaaat ⁉️🤯

    • @alfredbaxter1061
      @alfredbaxter1061 4 месяца назад +11

      @@MulanosVlogz brothas here mainly date white women

    • @abboberg
      @abboberg 4 месяца назад +7

      I'm in Shoreview and found my wife and soul mate in Nigeria. She was really happy about our recent non-winter!

    • @OfficialRell_
      @OfficialRell_ 4 месяца назад +1

      They are Somalis in Minneapolis are they good women or westernised?

    • @alfredbaxter1061
      @alfredbaxter1061 4 месяца назад +7

      @@OfficialRell_yes it’s a lot of samolis in Minneapolis but they kinda mess with there own they don’t date out they stick to there own you might see very few date out but it’s a very few

  • @hesohit
    @hesohit 4 месяца назад +18

    This man drop content like a mad man. Who know the American day to day struggle was so entertaining.

  • @PaulClipMaster
    @PaulClipMaster 3 месяца назад +8

    I just started traveling internationally recently (last few years) and I went to South America for the first time this year. The best thing about women overseas is the lack of a gender war. Women are happy to be women and men are happy to be men. To me the United States doesn't have women, it has females. American women are hermaphrodites who want to be both men and women at the same time depending on which is more convenient. You could argue the men are similar.

  • @thebluefalcons92
    @thebluefalcons92 4 месяца назад +18

    Great video, I just returned from Europe after spending months there. Everything you said is spot on. Here in US people will treat you like an inconvenience. Unless you’re someone that can clearly benefit them. I’m thinking about packing and leaving every second.

  • @Michael-qs1yd
    @Michael-qs1yd 4 месяца назад +8

    I'm 49 years old and I am learning a lot from you - someone who is a wise 24 year old. Thank you for what you do. I'm trying to do the same. Live my life with courage.

  • @MRWONDERFUL-kk4db
    @MRWONDERFUL-kk4db 4 месяца назад +31

    MAN IT'S CRAZY WHERE I LIVE AT IT'S LIKE A BUNCH OF ZOMBIES IT WILL ALMOST PUT YOU IN A STATE OF SHOCK

    • @cedricmiller4370
      @cedricmiller4370 4 месяца назад +5

      Same where I live I'm on the east coast in the Carolinas and it's so many people strung out on different drugs it feels like a zombie movie it's unreal I remember in summer 2003 everything seemed so fun and exciting compared to 2024

    • @alans.philippines
      @alans.philippines 3 месяца назад +2

      It’s the whole country.

    • @MRWONDERFUL-kk4db
      @MRWONDERFUL-kk4db 3 месяца назад

      @@alans.philippines THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT I GUESS IM JUST GOING TO WALK ALONE IT'S CRAZY BECAUSE I'M A LIVEWIRE IN SIDE. BUT I GOT TO HOLD IT IN BECAUSE EVERYTHING IS DEAD AROUND ME.I CALL IT THE DEAD WORLD. DON'T MAKE NO SENSE IT'S ALL SELF DEVELOPMENT AND MAKING MONEY NOW SOME TIME I FEEL MY FACE TURNING TO STONE I GOT TO WATCH THAT BECAUSE I'M MR SMOOTH I CAN'T HAVE NO STONE FACE BUT THAT'S HOW I BE NOW I JUST BE LOOKING AT MYSELF AND WHAT I'M DOING IT'S CRAZY BECAUSE I'M A FUN PERSON AND HER I AM ALL MR SERIOUS NOW MAN THIS IS CRAZY

    • @-schattenpflanze-3755
      @-schattenpflanze-3755 3 месяца назад

      In Germany its getting even worse

  • @MotivationalMovements
    @MotivationalMovements 4 месяца назад +15

    Dude even here in the Mid Atlantic they will get mad if you ask a question too and they work at the place….complete clown world!

  • @TJ-pt8ei
    @TJ-pt8ei 4 месяца назад +11

    I live in Fort Worth Auston. It’s nice to see your perspective on what would seem normal to us locals. The juxtaposition shows a clear distinction on what we’re missing out on. I’m motivated more than ever, to get out and experience what seems to be a better quality of life.

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +5

      Thanks man I’m glad I could do that!

    • @yophilli
      @yophilli 2 месяца назад

      It’s crazy because the original dream was to live here in the states

  • @GETITDONE_11
    @GETITDONE_11 4 месяца назад +21

    Man bro you speaking facts 💯🙌🏿 I will be out soon living in Orlando Florida it’s horrible…

    • @maverickcapitalist1
      @maverickcapitalist1 4 месяца назад +3

      Same thing here in Pensacola Florida.

    • @ziontrain7887
      @ziontrain7887 4 месяца назад +4

      I’m in Orlando too and I can’t wait to go back to Brazil. Just waiting on my nomad visa. It’s sucks here in Orlando

    • @GEMINI_THE_BES1989
      @GEMINI_THE_BES1989 4 месяца назад +3

      I'm in South Florida lived there for 35 years born and raised. I want to leave Florida

    • @SpaceCaptainJ
      @SpaceCaptainJ 3 месяца назад

      These Florida cities are terrible because there’s no real community since everything’s so spread apart

  • @hassanzorome7497
    @hassanzorome7497 4 месяца назад +23

    You’re absolutely right bro unfortunately there’s no cure for this epidemic called loneliness America is taking over Japan.

  • @Blueskullz503
    @Blueskullz503 4 месяца назад +7

    I'm in the DFW also. Not only relationships but friendships hard to find. 1000% agree. the few friends i made were in MMA gyms they tend to be the down to earth. Working on moving the brazil. salute brotha!

  • @viralskatetoks2050
    @viralskatetoks2050 3 месяца назад +5

    I live in Destin Florida. Went to the beach yesterday by myself, an attractive guy, and had people all around me. No one made eye contact or was outgoing in the slightest. Unless it was toward their groups

  • @Keepingitrealhotline
    @Keepingitrealhotline 3 месяца назад +4

    America sucks when comes to dating women in getting married that's why I stayed single with no kids at age 48.

  • @clivethompson2102
    @clivethompson2102 4 месяца назад +7

    Brilliant, brutally honest, and above all real. Keep up the good work and speaking truth to power 👏👏👏👍🏾

  • @domirican81
    @domirican81 4 месяца назад +22

    I live near the beach here in the States, easy to talk to ladies. They’re just not wifey material. 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @Just-theory
    @Just-theory 4 месяца назад +17

    Your speaking the truth bro. I hung out on a rooftop in Hollywood, CA this weekend. I had a fresh outfit, clean haircut cut, smelling good ect… but all I seen was women dancing on each other (acting gay), and fellas standing around by themselves, or afraid to interact with the women. So to break the ice, I interacted with a chick (i wasn’t really interested in), only to have a bland conversation with subtle rejection. What i gather is that you have to just hangout in the U.S to simply enjoy the vibes with no expectations. And honestly, I’ve attracted the prettiest women by going in with that mindset.

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  4 месяца назад +8

      It’s true but man a sad habit to have

  • @tonyhornbuckle8378
    @tonyhornbuckle8378 3 месяца назад +6

    In today’s life dating is extremely dangerous for men and women.

  • @shyfly6560
    @shyfly6560 3 месяца назад +5

    I have no complaints about my Americanized black lady but I must admit I know she has no clue how to treat a man on the level of foreign women. My homeboys Brazilian wife washes his feet sometimes, she’s fine and she treats him like a king. I don’t think I’ve ever had a women touch my feet. It’s just a different mind set. If things don’t work with my lady I will definitely be joining passport brothers.

  • @perfectstorm2827
    @perfectstorm2827 4 месяца назад +6

    I'm in the DFW area also, originally from New Orleans, everything you spoke of is on point. I get culture shock returning here after just 30 days. Retirement is on the horizon.

    • @didyouknowamazingfacts2790
      @didyouknowamazingfacts2790 3 месяца назад

      Same here and I'm originally from New Orleans also. I lived in Colombia for 2 years and 1 year in Brazil and when I came back here I had no desire to speak to or deal with American women. It was a total culture shock coming back to the states. I'm right now in the works getting my visa for a year in brazil.

  • @blmarcy421
    @blmarcy421 4 месяца назад +11

    I am a much older man and know that pop and have traveled to Asia Including Philippines, Japan, Colombia. Don't waste your time in the USA.😊

  • @moresunsetsplease3578
    @moresunsetsplease3578 4 месяца назад +22

    Bro how are yall having such a hard time dating? No offense but a lot of yall are weird and don’t even realize it. A lot of yall are habitual daters. I got a homie who went on 30+ dates in one year. Like fam how tf you 0/30 from the field lmao it’s not the women IT’S YOU!

    • @canadianbrotv1303
      @canadianbrotv1303 4 месяца назад +12

      Plantation bros need not apply

    • @Joshua-eo5hr
      @Joshua-eo5hr 4 месяца назад +1

      60% of men are single it's definitely the women

    • @TaphaSow75
      @TaphaSow75 4 месяца назад

      You don’t consider and understand law of attraction for single men who look for a legacy and well groomed children.
      Vetting for mariage & family IS different from dating for situationships, hook ups or unite single parents with women who don’t want children anymore.. Espacially with these laws and judicial courts (for divorce, child support etc).

    • @theonlyconstantischange123
      @theonlyconstantischange123 4 месяца назад +2

      0/30 is crazy haha

    • @SeanLarinzo
      @SeanLarinzo 3 месяца назад +1

      Omg Thankyou I was looking for someone to disagree or with a different perspective.. like is it that bad in Dallas.. I’m planning to move there soon and the dating can’t be that bad bro.. I live in the Midwest abd get play… it can’t be that bad in Dallas and Houston..I feel like you guys are waiting for the women to approach you… Maybe y’all should try making the first move 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @sjames5777
    @sjames5777 3 месяца назад +2

    I was born and raised here in Dallas. I do feel like work plays apart in this. I literally keep meeting all these guys who work 10-12 hours a day maybe even 6-7 days a week, they don’t have time for a social life or relationships.

  • @enochrry6024
    @enochrry6024 4 месяца назад +15

    Well within the last 10-15 years american has been through many transitions. From traditional vs the new woke, to a political battle the right vs the left, to straight vs the lgbtq, to sober vs legal marijuana, from traditional relationships vs the hookup culture, from social gatherings vs gathering on facebook, from coming back to a norm vs still stuck in the pandimic mode. This created a vacuum of social dynamics in america all over, not just in DFW it's all over america man.

    • @javionriley8739
      @javionriley8739 4 месяца назад +3

      I keep telling people that the shift took place in 2008! Aka when us 90s millennials (who are the biggest generation in USA) took over politically/socially/economically

  • @piziff
    @piziff 4 месяца назад +88

    It's That Bad.
    Yes it is.

    • @kingmaafa120
      @kingmaafa120 4 месяца назад +1

      It is 😅

    • @alans.philippines
      @alans.philippines 4 месяца назад +10

      It’s getting way worse.

    • @piziff
      @piziff 4 месяца назад

      @@alans.philippines Oh I know.

    • @-schattenpflanze-3755
      @-schattenpflanze-3755 3 месяца назад

      It is getting worse, im still in my 20 but geez Tinder doesnt work anymore. I get like 1 like per WEEK. On Hinge im not getting anything lmao. Im getting like 1 like a month on Hinge and its usually a landwhale.

  • @PhillyDom
    @PhillyDom 4 месяца назад +13

    You speak the True Champ

  • @Bankrollprimo
    @Bankrollprimo 4 месяца назад +4

    I'm born and raised in Dallas. I grew up in Oak Cliff and Pleasant Grove. I experienced the same stuff you have dating in DFW and pretty much all of the US. All of my relatives in DFW are experiencing the exact same thing as well. It's all messed up.
    I went to college in Thailand after I left the military and man I fell into a deep depression when I returned to the States.

  • @willjay1839
    @willjay1839 4 месяца назад +36

    They want single men lonely, extremely glad your expressing the selfishness in America things are mad sick 🤒 regardless.

    • @kingchris6998
      @kingchris6998 4 месяца назад +1

      Yeah true, they want men single so we can pay for these *****es OF. Time to gtfo here!

  • @jimmyr204
    @jimmyr204 4 месяца назад +6

    Sadly, us regular guys who haven't traveled outside the States don't know any different. We've become numb to socializing, let alone the absolutely miserable American dating scene.

  • @ej1692
    @ej1692 4 месяца назад +18

    Not sure I agree with the "they work harder abroad" argument. The US is a well oiled economic machine, we have the highest GDP in the world and are known for having a pretty efficient workforce. We also have the fewest holidays in the world. I think that is an ingredient of what makes it tough here, everyone works way too much. It definitely isn't the only thing though, we have a very weird social culture. By the way, this is definitely not only in DFW lol. Believe it or not, DFW is actually probably good. There is way worse, trying going to a city that has a scarcity of beautiful women like Pittsburgh, Cleveland, Buffalo, Indianopolis; DFW is a paradise compared to those places. Although, the entirety of the US is pretty much garbage for dating at this point.

    • @kur0mayne980
      @kur0mayne980 4 месяца назад

      you've not been abroad apparently, you probably read a statistic and said that was it.
      when i was living in Japan a street i used to always have to cross was damaged from an accident, that night they had men and machine on the scene repairing it. next day looked like nothing even occurred and everything was the same.
      how long does work take to get done in America again especially physical demanding labor? the facts behind poor, unpleasant culture and moral creates limitations in how well jobs preform and how long they take to get done. knowing how unpleasant majority of americans make themselves especially at work for the silliest of reasons leads me to believe you might be full on out of touch with your own thoughts on the matter so i see why you choose to look at numbers being crunched then a present example.
      also that "well oiled economic machine" is only applicable for select americans via race, financial status, and location otherwise america wouldn't be faced with the current issues its currently dealing with that dont encourage people to wanna be here nor participate in anything. they work harder abroad because they care more about each other abroad. no one gives a shit about anything in america unless they are forced to.

    • @Cahluvca
      @Cahluvca 4 месяца назад

      America puts its dirty laundry in the street others keep alot more in house. Everyone has a toilet....and trash to be taken out.

    • @pressurebusspipesmakesdiam1366
      @pressurebusspipesmakesdiam1366 4 месяца назад +3

      We are just really good at being hamsters on a wheel at this point I’ll give you that! Running in place going no where fast! So many places around the world has longer vacay, sick leaves, mommy leaves etc…We’re happy w/ 2 weeks paid vacay lol. But it’s all for show & our GDP means nothing it use too.
      I’ve watched several videos on the insufficiency of today’s workforce & how many of our “workers ” do nothing at their desk all day & add very little substance to our society. So don’t let the long hours fool you! Of course the blue collar & low wage workers put in work day in & out but there is a great percentage of folks ex. In the I.T industry that do nothing all day or that work from home (while on vacation) that get paid very handsomely. Our GDP is fluffed so we can continue looking like a “World Power”

  • @StevenRay-bx2jz
    @StevenRay-bx2jz 4 месяца назад +6

    It’s the devils playground out in the world now . Forcing people to do what that may not have done 20/30 years ago.

  • @bkfeva
    @bkfeva 4 месяца назад +5

    You're correct about the social aspect if the 90s... we were always running and jumping and meeting people face to face...

  • @angelarose249
    @angelarose249 3 месяца назад +6

    It's not just you. People are weird now. You are absolutely right, money don't mean anything if you have no social life

    • @davidh7832
      @davidh7832 3 месяца назад +1

      lol it’s still somewhat important to continue living

  • @adinisrael3574
    @adinisrael3574 4 месяца назад +6

    You almost at a 100k subs I started following you at 5k, congrats and keep growing my man!

  • @currwi3091
    @currwi3091 3 месяца назад +3

    People in America worry to much about dating and what woman do … just grow up get your own home car and learn credit , learn self love and live your life , stop worrying about falling in love and dating just live life and go with the flow. Learn yourself and start dating in your 30’s

    • @AustonHolleman
      @AustonHolleman  3 месяца назад +2

      Horrible advice. A dude that goes monk mode for 12 years will hate women when he makes it. Horrible advice

  • @justswitched8841
    @justswitched8841 4 месяца назад +10

    Yeah i don't really have any social life outside of work. I have associates from previous jobs but no close friends. I mostly just game, do art watch tv and work.

  • @bigmikeisaman
    @bigmikeisaman 4 месяца назад +35

    Another thing I will say, Dallas is like the LA of Texas. It's really bad now because there are so many Yankees and Californians moving here. Something like 700 people a day moving to the Dallas area everyday...maybe more. Dallas is less friendly, and it was already heavy on the boujie. 2015 was when I started to notice a change in expectations, social behaviors. A true Texan waves when he passes you in traffic, or when you let him into your lane. Texas means Friendship. We've lost much of our charm. I blame social media, but also, the feminist vibe is a huge part. Government is making money off all these baby mamas too. They get a cut of the child support payments. An "independent woman" is another pay roll tax, another renter, another gas tank, another consumer, another money generator, another Democrat voter. The Democrats are to blame for a lot of this grift.

    • @alans.philippines
      @alans.philippines 4 месяца назад

      Dallas and Houston are disgusting. As are most US cities. Horrible infrastructure, spread out to the max, same ugly malls + big box stores.

    • @LightAlchemy-io9dm
      @LightAlchemy-io9dm 4 месяца назад +6

      Wow! Even though you were talking about Dallas, you just described Houston to a T. It's the exact same way these days.

    • @Rottenxcaramel
      @Rottenxcaramel 4 месяца назад

      Minneapolis and st.Paul ain’t even better . At least in Dallas I can get some and get some friendship but not so much in the twin cities, probably because many people come from Chicago and California with bringing their stupid w oke values here

    • @keremcagintv
      @keremcagintv 4 месяца назад +5

      Texas is becoming Cali or NY Lite at this point

  • @RemoteAdminJayJay2
    @RemoteAdminJayJay2 4 месяца назад +8

    Sugar dating is saving romance in America

    • @TLOPassportBro
      @TLOPassportBro 4 месяца назад +8

      Seeking Arrangements is literally the only option in America

    • @RemoteAdminJayJay2
      @RemoteAdminJayJay2 4 месяца назад +1

      @@TLOPassportBro 💯

  • @dc3470
    @dc3470 4 месяца назад +6

    It's not just Dallas, when I go home to Cleveland it looks abandoned also. Quite a contrast from when I was a child. Everyone was outside playing, interacting, and sirens blowing

    • @amirtak9886
      @amirtak9886 4 месяца назад +1

      Yeah, 10-15 years ago, before social media was a big thing, people would be outside interacting everywhere.

  • @chrisbell3366
    @chrisbell3366 4 месяца назад +7

    Preach brother. Ive been all around the world. I went to Nairobi and Mombasa and it is night and day compared to america. Uganda is cool too.

  • @Hiperid
    @Hiperid 3 месяца назад +5

    Believe me, it's not much better in EU, even Eastern Europe is catching up fast. Soon, dating game will be completely dead, except for small number of ppl, who have ample options.

  • @remixisthis
    @remixisthis 3 месяца назад +1

    I moved to a condo recently and people don’t say hi to each other. They just walk past and ignore each other. Really bizarre stuff man

  • @nubi4life
    @nubi4life 3 месяца назад +2

    You are absolutely right about what you say. I regurgitate this all the time. I took your advice 2 months ago and went to the Philippines. I went to Manila, Butuan city, and finally settled in Cebu. Had the time of my life. I extended my visa for a month and didn't want to come back. I came back 3 days ago to Dallas area where I live. I hate it here man. The system is designed to keep people segregated here. It's what they want. We will keep exploring the world and go to places with people who have the same mindset. Stay strong brother!

  • @hyster2568
    @hyster2568 4 месяца назад +4

    Here in the states, if you’re not appealing to their eyes and you approach them, you’re considered a creep. If you’re “good enough” for them, you have to keep trying.

  • @TheBlackManMythLegend
    @TheBlackManMythLegend 4 месяца назад +6

    his analysis is super spot on. the psychological aspect of lower expectation that happen because you only get the bad treatment and abroad you still believe you can't get better while actually you can get better it's just the US that conditionned your to think like you do not worth better

  • @user-yh7rl7tb1l
    @user-yh7rl7tb1l 4 месяца назад +5

    in the US, we are in an age of being lovers of ourselves - there is no true love anymore.

  • @lancestruthers6529
    @lancestruthers6529 4 месяца назад +12

    Do your thing fam you were the first cat that I discovered traveling

  • @MrDayna39
    @MrDayna39 4 месяца назад +4

    I agree with some of what was said in the video, but there is a term that is said in America that is supposed to represent the culture, " rugged individualism ". Because that term is the underlying part of the reality in America, people do not consider close relationships to be of big importance. People think that basic communal living is a bother to them.

  • @Brando_Yancey
    @Brando_Yancey 4 месяца назад +12

    Damn he is speaking so many facts

  • @davepazz580
    @davepazz580 3 месяца назад +2

    I have lived in Dallas for several decades...
    Back in the early 90's, a cousin of mine from California (Los Angeles area) came to stay with us for a time, and I remember in the days leading up to his visit, he kept telling all of us here how successful he was at dating... seems he had no issues talking to women and lining up dates left and right.
    But once he arrived in Dallas, after just a few days he turned to us and said "You know, for some reason this place feels a lot different than my place back home... it looks *really* difficult to find a girlfriend here. The women don't seem as approachable, they aren't outgoing and appear as if they don't want to be bothered".
    Sometime after, I traveled to his hometown area (Los Angeles) and I could instantly see what he was talking about... even at a normal fast-food restaurant, the women in L.A. seemed a *lot* more outgoing and willing to at least have a casual conversation with random guys.
    Of course, I can't speak to how things are in L.A. now... just what I recall being the case back then.
    Fast forward a few years to the early 2000's... a buddy of mine had moved here to Dallas from upstate N.Y.
    Mind you, he was no Cassanova... but he could be considered "normally successful" in dating as he had a few girlfriends in upstate N.Y.
    On top of that, he was quite tall (6'4") mid-20's (back then) and not bad looking at all...
    He ended up spending nearly 2 years in Dallas and couldn't get *any* women whatsoever no matter what he tried... not at clubs (majority of people at clubs were men anyway), not at the workplace... nothing.
    He simply couldn't understand seeing so many people go to a typical club, spend a while there, and coming back out *exactly* as they had come in (i.e. with no new partner or at least a list of numbers for possibilities) and experiencing the same thing week after week, month after month.
    Funny enough, once he left Dallas and flew back home, within just a couple of weeks he had a new girlfriend...

  • @Kim-Yo-jong
    @Kim-Yo-jong 4 месяца назад +5

    It's not really cheaper to live in those countries if you actually have to live and work there necessarily. It's just that the U.S. dollar is worth more than they currencies so obviously if you're just traveling your money will go further.

  • @semien24
    @semien24 4 месяца назад +4

    It takes 1 year to get readjusted to living in the states again. Unless your moving back, ur visits home will be miserable. 2 weeks is the maximum time that u can visit home.

  • @udey0001
    @udey0001 3 месяца назад +2

    The difference between other countries and ours is that the people value spending time with each other in other countries and here we value materials over people

  • @brainsmasher6617
    @brainsmasher6617 3 месяца назад +1

    I'm 67. I noticed about 25 years ago right before I stopped going out to clubs that only about 2 or 3 guys, sometimes less than that, were getting any action and traction. The rest of the men were just buying women drinks and gassing them up.

  • @icycaribe
    @icycaribe 4 месяца назад +5

    100%.
    I am from Oak Cliff and moved out as soon as I hit 18.
    Have property in Northeast Texas but reside in Costa Rica and Panama half the year.
    In Dallas, I found this to be a Black issue. My nonblack friends still get together socially weekly or biweekly.
    We go out and routinely meet new friends who come to us as strangers.
    I don’t go to clubs. I attend bars and my favorite spot that I’ll admit is a club is Red River 2000. But the culture is country there.
    Here in Costa Rica, ifs family and friends and we get together often.
    So yes, Dallas has an issue and I don’t give a damn about what the reason is. When I’m there I have great friends and locations to frequent.

  • @wjm479
    @wjm479 4 месяца назад +3

    Building meaningful social connections takes time and effort. It can be viewed as another job in terms hours put into it but it’s a worthwhile endeavor. Back when I was dating, I didn’t go out to bars looking for people. I was going to happy hours or other events sponsored by orgs I (voluntarily) worked in. Built my social network around like-minded/similarly-interested people and the rest, along with good times, followed. Where ever you are, you can find someone. You might just need to put more effort into positioning yourself to do so while also swearing off instant gratification.

  • @the95effect
    @the95effect 3 месяца назад +2

    As much as we slander America, the whole reason stuff is cheap (to us) in other countries is because our dollar is strong (right now). Our currency is weakening year by year as our government keeps printing money and staying in debt to other countries. Inflation is growing and our current system is not sustainable. Other countries use our currency as their reserve currency and that's one reason we have so much privilege, so much buying power. The moment our dollar tanks, we will be just like everyone else and we will be looked at as dusty broke black men with nothing to offer and we won't be able to buy jack if we haven't prepared for the economic collapse. I say this to say... We need to be humble and we actually need to help keep America economically strong if we want to reap the benefits of it elsewhere around the world.