Can I have a drink
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- Опубликовано: 7 июл 2024
- If you have a problem with alcohol, can you still have a drink sometimes? Can you just cut down the amount you drink? Can you drink on special occasions? Here is what I have to say.
00:00 Intro
00:10 Can I have a drink?
01:10 Consequences of drinking
02:20 consequences repeat themselves
04:10 life without drink
05:45 change of mindset
Sober life, Sobriety, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Alcoholic, Living sober, Coming to terms with alcohol, Alcohol recovery, Dealing with alcohol, Am I an alcoholic, Get sober, alcohol and mental health, overcome addiction, overcome alcoholism, AUD
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I just say to myself - im not going to drink for TODAY. One drink is too many, Ten is never enough. Currently just a month sober.
Good stuff.
Am a little over a month as well keep pushing and fighting the good fight
I'm just about to embark on a cut-down.....I am heading for a meltdown otherwise.
Found some inspiring content on here. Thanks for sharing 👍
Same here, a month and couple days running totally 0 alcohol, I nearly forgot what it's like to be totally sober lol. My body is thankful already.
Well done, keep it up. I'm about 4 years without alcohol. I didn't make a note of the date, I just stopped. I don't count days, I seldom give it a thought until I see a post like this. I released myself from its grip, I simply get on with a wonderful new life. It's what works for me
One drink is too many, 100 is not enough
The way he explained it about consequences slowly, 💀. creeping back into your life little by little- until you get a hangover again- and your right back where you started 😢 God deliver me - all of us from this 💀 🔥 demon
I try and consider how millions of people in the world never have any alcohol in their entire lives and are perfectly happy...so I can too...and also I know one or two drinks is enough to stimulate my desire for more and I have no control thereafter...so best to have none. So no, you can't have just one. And neither can I. But that's OK.
I started getting horrible hangovers as I got older. That's enough motivation for me.
Me too., I still enjoy a wee dram on the reg, but those slamming hangovers are in the past
I heard some dude on the radio say something that changed my life forever, he said don't ever promise you'll never drink again, it's just too big of a burden to handle on your own. And he's right after I heard that it was like a thousand pounds was lifted off my shoulders
I just say i havent drank in __. 7:35
it is always that first drink that starts the madness over again. I am 12 years sober and still crave alcohol every day I just avoid that first drink. years ago I was sober for about a year had me a half a glass of wine at diner and went on a 10 year drunk. it is always that first drink. wishing everyone the best.
That's a bit discouraging to hear that the cravings haven't left after 12 years. I'm on day 25 and my cravings are INCREASING.
@@davec8401 you just have to live with it and find your way around it.i think the hardest part for me was giving up the lifestyle that I miss so bad .but hey man the dead know only one thing it is better to be alive. wishing you the best I am 63 years old and all my drinking buddies are dead and gone every one of them died from alcohol terrible way to go trust me I can still hear them screaming on their death beds. semper fi. trust yourself and you will find your way.with anything. find yourself a hobby fast if you don't have one. you are in for one tough ride make sure you don't underestimate it that would be a big mistake. I was drinking 3 big bottles af vodka a day plus bear for over 25 years and I found my way and you will to but you have to want it and you have to appreciate it when you get it try not count the days it don't do no good. just go with it.
So true, every thing that he said is an absolute truth. I have been through this routine. I have come to the conclusion what I am an alcoholic therefore, I know that I cannot drink. Five days sober and I have a plan that is not to drink alcohol ever again.
Me too ! Go for it..I done 10 weeks felt amazing then blew it on an afternoon/ evening session..
Yes, day 60 here.
You can do this.
Day 47 after a 35+ year love affair. Everything you said chimes with me 100% - thanks for sharing :)
Fun fact, alcohol use disorder is more frequent than opiod use disorder. (13%, 10%).
Because it’s perfectly legal
@@GreggyZ this study was about prescription opiods. They are also perfectly legal. So its not the bad bad heroin but the good oxycodon with absolutely not the same effect and definitely not the same addiction potential
@@neffix6976alcohol is more available. You can get alcohol almost anywhere. There are stores everywhere you go
It's the hardest thing to kick. Once it gets you, it gets you. It's deep in the psyche, maybe even deeper, in the genetics.
You're a stronger man than me Robin. After a particularly bad bender season (6 months of a litre bottle of vodka a day) , I had to spend a 2 week in bed with anxiety and the sweats telling myself I will never touch drink again. Last year was bad for me. My doctor prescribed me diazepam because I couldn't sleep and I was having hallucinations. I came through it and stopped drinking for another 6 months but my brain was always looking at the spirits in the supermarket and telling me that one bottle won't hurt me. I'm at the point where my brain wins the argument but I tell it when enough is enough and I take control again. I'm the master of my brain, it doesn't dictate to me when it needs a drink. Abstinence is brutal for the self as boredom sets in and that's when I start to drink more. Stress in my life also sets me back off the wagon and makes me want to drink to forget my problems. I've found there is no answer to my problem apart from trying to manage my alcohol. I suffer therefore I am. Thanks for your videos Robin. They are enlightening.
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I totally agree. I can drink alcohol but I choose not to because I don't want to experience any the consequences.
Also, I imagine I never knew about or what alcohol was. I pretend it was never discovered...
I finally started to really take a look at the advantages and disadvantages of drinking even moderately. Not until AFTER I did some really deep soul searching for WHY I drank.
Thanks for the video, been sober 4 weeks after 50 yrs. of drinking everyday and finally wanted my life back as I near retirement. My job was the only thing keeping me from drinking ALL day. Sobriety for me hasn't gotten easier as the days progress, but has somewhat leveled out. Lately my brain has been telling me "you can have a drink, just don't get drunk", but I KNOW that isn't true, guess my brain doesn't know me as well as I know myself! And as Robin says I'm trying to keep stress at a minimum right now as I look to find other coping ideas. any suggestions appreciated. Thank you.
God bless all of us who are struggling with this poison called alcohol🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼Never give up on yourself❤Your are strong,beautiful n have a future..Like my dad told me(One day at a time daughter😌
Yeah, when I relapse. I'm sick of lying. " I've got it this time."
Worst thing is discovering we lie to ourselves, that is scary as hell.
After living a season in hell; why would anyone want to go back? I will celebrate 9 years in August. No safe or responsible drinking for me ever again.
Same here. 7 yrs.
Good work Robin
I was 2 months sober, had a drink that was still in my fridge for 2 months - had 2 days of 12 drinks. Back on sobriety that I genuinely missed so much in this relapse. Few days, even went to an AA and made some friends to talk to so I'm not so isolated this time 😢 helps to get out there, do what resonates some positive influence.
Crazy part is how I've mostly drank alone. 2-3 at a bar, 10 more back home just vegging out on the computer to music usually, often live performances.
Mostly have suffered so much autism asperger's level social awkwardness, anxiety, disconnect but my whole world changed when I started making a greater mental effort to stop seeking approval, stop trying to please everyone, and realize it's absolutely ok if some just don't like our genuine self, but some will . More boldly genuine, the more genuine the connections. It seems to work, I feel a lot less anxiety with the mindset of just be real and that other's reactions to that respectful and reasonable authenticity is their own business, and to wish everyone well in that mindset to also let go of the worry. Keeping a pleasant attitude is not pathological, just a choice of the vibe to navigate life. If we slip, remain calm, learn from the imperfection and let the soul be sober again as it desires.
A very good level headed description.
May well work for heavy habitualized drinkers.
On my own, it didn’t work for me.
I needed AA.
but I would describe my relationship to alcohol very very similarly to this.
Trying to control ones drinking, and drink in "moderation", is every alcoholiccs dream; all attempts to do so eventually become our nightmare!
Robin well said initially, I found it hard to deal with the four seasons in one year Christmas New Year holidays and birthdays, but I scraped bye
Of course.
Get excited about being the one at dinner without a glass of wine! You have escaped the trap that the others are still in. You aren't taking poison with your meal! You will sleep well and have energy to reach for the skies in the morning 🎉
Thank you. That was great
you have similar mannerism's and voice to David Bowie 😁😁😎😎, that aside, once I start drinking again , my life always starts to go downhill very fast.
When you understand and accept the consequences of your drinking, it does make it a little easier because you can ask yourself do I want that? I've learned to say no I don't want that I don't want to go to the hospital I don't want to go to jail I don't want to lose my family I don't want to lose my job I don't want to lose my car I don't want to lose my license I don't want to lose all my money and I don't want to end up dead
I'm not an alcoholic, I've never had much interest in boozing, but my youngest brother and beautiful soul suffered most of his life, having started drinking as a early teenager, I wish I was interested enough, in alcoholics, earlier, I may have been able to prevent his miserable death rather than witness it; It's an ugly, degrading and long drawn out misery.
It is interestingly to hear from a personal experience.
For someone who experiences the features of alcohol abuse oneself, I can say, there are lots of reasons to booze and to avoid booze.
It is quite terrible to be dependant on that stuff; but when being sober it feels great - and after a time one might feel trash again being sober.
Luckily, what means luckily, just drinking beer, and avoiding spirits, this feels controllable in a manner.
Working in a health care system spending hours seeing individuals who suffered decades of alcohol and drug abuse and suffering from it with all consequences - knowing, it can be myself in a matter of time - I still find it hard to accept, what I can avoid by disregarding alcohol. I got the information and education what alcohol can impact on - so I can take vitamins and in worst case I would get help before it is to late. But there is more. There are no just-alcohol-abusers. There are people "suffering" or struggling with other symptoms and diseases. And while alcohol is a really bad drug - those other drugs one would get seem to be more relentless. Nobody is advising alcohol to treat a mental or psychic disease - but the other options seem even worse in mid or long-term.
For sure, I would wish I would come to the day to farewell alcohol - but I think I would not be happy again in my life. Sometimes, I just want to booze myself. And fall asleep.
Staying in bed a whole day or two are not great. But staying in bed the same amount of time being sober while feeling like shit is even worse. And this happens. Not because of booze, not because of sobriety but because of being on a healthy lifestyle. Sounds weird. But working in an unhealthy environment and shifts makes you sick, also. And even worse.
I sure encourage everyone to disregard it. But for myself I would rather recommend to a controlled drinking lifestyle rather than avoid it at any cost.
It depends on a family history and personal view. None should experience delirium tremens because this is sick, none should experience heavy symptoms like intentional tremor, because it is sick.
But drinking when it is controllable is no fault. In the western world, there seems to be a net to be able, to help one with a disease.
I am not the one drinking bottles of vodka after a divorce or a disaster or a loss. I am drinking because I can relaxe and feel more myself than I am able in a "conscious" state.
I do not drink because I wanna be boozed, I drink because I want to feel my surroundings, I can sleep, I am able to exist in a society, I feel more comfortably.
For sure it is unhealthy but otherwise my life would be even a more mess.
Sorry, but you are completely delusional. You are only fooling yourself, my friend. Even your writing and train of thought is scattered snd all over the place, which reeks of addiction.
No is the answer.
10 days 3hrs
I have people in my family who are alcoholics and my mum and dad are worried about me because I drink too much and they are worried that I will be the same who were and my drinking has gone bad since my grandpa died this year on the 19th of April 2024 I don’t used to drink every Thursday but now I am and I don’t tell my mum and dad which is really sad for me😢 and my uncle has has liver failure because of the extend of drinking and he’s fine of me and my dad have a drink 😢
How do you sit through All the shit stories week in week out in AA
How do you have just one drink at the pub, with friends?
Sometimes for some people - you just have to ditch the pub permanently and your drinking buddies (which wont always have your best interests at heart).
You remind me of Damon Albarn
You should have a weekend with me lad.
I know away back
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Yes, Alcohol Is A Demon, You Are A Person, Not A Demon, You Don't Need The Demon In Your Life
That drink is not “worth” the “price”
I’m not an alcoholic, but I did stop drinking two years ago. Basically, medical and personal reasons just kept stacking up to the point where it didn’t make sense to drink anymore. I noticed something weird though that I think you might be able to talk about. A lot of the people used to drink with don’t seem to get the message that I just don’t want to drink anymore. They seem to think getting drunk is the problem. That leads to a whole lot of conversations like well you can just have one or you don’t have to get drunk. It’s hard to explain to them. No, I don’t want to drink at all.
Yes if I want to go through d ts again when I quit. Yes if I want to lose my job yes if I want to drink 24-7 yes if I want to do nothing but drink yes if I want to do all kinds of stupid shit yes if I want to fuck up my health even more yes if I want to ruin my little girls life
If you want to be happy and sober, go to AA.
Wait what consequences if u have A drink or 2?
1 or 2!!!!!!!!! Not 5 or 6
The consequence of falling down in the abyss of alcoholism again?
An alcoholic CAN’T ha a drink or 2… it will ALWAYS lead to more. The first drink sets off the craving they the alcoholic cannot stop.
Its eather drink or dont drink only two choices there is no ill just have one brew ill be fine nope we will not be fine after that one drink.2 choices thats it.
No yer bloody can’t
Drink???? One sip and i already know where im going. It hits different with me. Im an alcoholic. No way or straight to hell.
I wish I had the 25 years I was an a$$hole back. Never drink