Wheat waffles seemed scared to actually take a position firmly and defend it. Instead he hid behind “this is what people in the manosphere are saying, I’m not saying I agree or disagree”. In that sense it didn’t seem like much of a debate.
Men who don't have options don't get to find out what kind of women would be best for them because they can't get enough at bats. You keep lowering your standards to find out where they will let you into the game, until you realize the level you're allowed to play doesn't make your life better, it makes your life worse. The women aren't that attractive, or they have mental health issues that just makes them not good companions. Some guys are so desperate they accept the abuse and lower standards, other guys reach the decision that the level they're allowed into the game makes it not worth being involved.
rule of thumb: Destiny will combat whatever complaint he hears from men with “well the women i know tell me this.”(while disregarding that the men he is speaking to are telling him their own first hand experience) and if it’s a complaint from women, Destiny will likely agree, offer little to no push back or explain why he thinks it might have credence. i also think it’s worth noting that what “women tell” Destiny seems to always align, as in he presents it as a consensus. that might have something to do with the type of women he has these discussions with.
wdym combat? He agree with a lot of the issue men say they are facing, like feeling like they're losing a place in society with women taking on more masculine roles. He offers the perspective of women he's talked to to give more context to those issue that men face. That's good because learning about men's disadvantages while never hearing of womens' will cause you to resent them. He shits on women a lot too. You just don't know
Broooooooo have you seen the mental illness gymnasium that is Destiny’s “Female Guests” 🤣🤣 They’re worse than destiny ❤ and THESE are the women he allows to represent ALL women??? I gotta take a shit 😂❤
I think for the single mother and father debate it has to do with preselection. If a girl was willing to have a child with another dude and he knows how to care for them it is seen as attractive. A woman has already seen him as a good potential "mate" for her offspring and was willing to have kids by him. Doesn't really work the reverse as not a lot of guys want a girl who has been "ran through" and waste his time and resources on someone else's kids.
12:00 destiny completely mis-represents financial settlements on divorce. It is not that single moms suddenly become rich on divorce. It is that the wife/mother gets a disproportionate amount of the marital pot. For example, in my UK divorce I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity and this has ruined me financially. Divorce ruins men financially and makes many men contemplate deletion (RIP Robin Williams, Jason David Frank, Chris Christensen at Disneyland), whereas the female's financial situation remains broadly the same.
Yea I noticed that too. It's not that they get Lamborghinis and all that silliness he said. But, they can be financially comfortable without having to work all that hard... thanks to the money from the guy they divorced, most certainly when kids are involved
@@donaldjdemarco the problem with destiny is that he is all theory/books and doesn't understand the real world experience of an average man. once he gets zero'ed out in divorce (if he and melina have kids) then he will understand the pain. some guys need to actually go through the destruction of a messy divorce before they will truly understand how ruthless karen the divorce judge is.
Also, the disproportionate rate of women who file and also the weirdly high rates of "divorce regret" show most are not making sensible calculations based upon perfect knowledge. I have had women in my extended family divorce but when you listen to what they expected to recieve it is bonkers. They do very well out of it but th8nk they have been short-changed. They get most of the assets but don't realise that most is still less than all. They don't get that the income spreads much more thinly across two households. They don't see the complexity of life that becomes more expensive post divorce. Humans are not rational. Then add in that many have terrible understanding of reality and all his points are irellevant.
Vegas and Nevada should be brought up anytime divorce rates are mentioned. Because the divorce rates there are so astronomically high, it skews the rest of the data.
The dynamics of marriage are changing so much now. Everybody brought up so many valid points here. Hopefully the comment that Todd said about “laws that should be adjusted” will Come into effect someday.
The number of times Destiny and the hosts implicitly appealed to the idea that men and women must think the same was so disappointing. We know they don't, but we find it hard to know how strong g the differences are. The "Well if men think so then women think so" lines of thinking were terrible. Often the reality is that there isn't enough infomation to work from, but they wanted conclusions based upon faulty assumptions.
@Soldat Intelectual some control at last, but they still welcomed huge amounts of "dociety enrichers". Scandinavians are kind of socialist in general and socialist ten to have idiotic woke tendencies.
@@juanmejiagomez5514 You well know what I mean, as in leftist parties with names such as socialists, social democrats and similar. Not about actual extreme socialism. Smart ass :)
Dating is mostly looks. This seems obviously true. So BP seems most accurate to me. If you want a more depressing take on it though, consider this: sexual validation, friendship, touch, sex, intimacy, procreation etc are the most hardwired evolutionary psychological needs we have (procreation beats survival in Darwin terms). So failing to obtain these is obviously going to result in serious mental illness, and getting these or not is 90% predicated on looks which are basically genetic and luck based. Now, to make matters worse, if you haven't had these needs met by a certain age, say early 20s (think about prehistoric humans again) you are going to have developed chronic emotional loneliness, which as wiki notes is likely incurable, and which causes enormous physical damage (worse than smoking) as well mental.instability. Even if someone gets those needs met later then, the loneliness will remain and the damage will be permanent. Basically, if you're young and ugly you're fucked for life. Seems true in my lived expereince.
@@Thomas-mx1fh Sorry to hear that. If youre short and ugly and over 21 then my best advice is to spend 2 full years trying everything you can to make yourself attractive and then see how women react to you. If they still reject you, insult you, grimace at you, ignore you, then yeah, you'll likely never be attractive to women. In which case, I suggest you drop out of mainstream life and choose an alternative lifestyle.
Bro, I rather hear that than “oh girls want a rich guy or an ambitious man”. With the loneliness aspect were u referring to just men? On a scale of 1-10 how much do u agree with destiny and wheat?
Permanent alimony is only awarded 10% of the time. Women get property settlements (non taxable dissolution of assets) And rehabilitation settlements for 2-5 years happens all the time.
Is Destiny underplaying the divorce fees? He makes it sound like its less than 10% of your income gone while most people talk about divorce fees being 50% of your money
I don't think he said it's only 10% of income that you pay He said that only 10% of divorced men pay alimony and that it's an over hyped issue that affects only a small number of men. In PT 1 I think he also pointed out that this generally happens in relationships where there's an extreme income difference (or when the woman has sacrificed her career to take care of your household and children)
WW content is about how to get into relationships and concentrating on looks department. Meanwhile the main topics of this video were about internal relationships dynamics, what are premises and results of broken relationships and etc. It's not his area of expertise
Yes, the only time I've seen so far that he didn't completely dominate a debate. Too bad, because many of you guys jump to your final conclusions about people after just watching one video with them in it. He's packed with loads of irrefutable data. To the point he was even able to write an entire book on everything he discovered.
@@Funymoney010He has tons of great data, and this is the only debate I've heard so far where he didn't absolutely dominate the debate. You're a fool if you judge him solely based on this one discussion.
It is absurd how far out of his depth WW felt in this conversation. He could provide no pushback for any point raised by anyone, could seemingly apply no stat to backup any of the things he parrots. Why is this dude even here? Can we get literally anyone else in on this conversation in the manosphere?
The funny thing is if you watch his early debates he was very aggressive with pushing points using statistics and hard hitting examples and he was almost universally citizen for his "low emotional intelligence" and inability to see others prospective. Now that his not aggressive and takes a much lower and methodical approach slowly poking and produng at people's ideas looking fir where he can find common ground and where he can subtly change minds his "soft".
@@creeperkingdom3190 I just don't like how he stopped aggressively using studies. That's like the biggest selling point of blackpill and he didn't even use them that much here. This is especially bad since it's way easier to "deb00nk" studies outside debates, just by watching his videos, where WE can't push back.
@@ihateanimebutonlywhenitiso7227 Debate or not, WW should've used studies more. Because he was worse off from this convo and I doubt most of the people will take him seriously
This is what happen when you put 2 defensive player against each other. They both sit their and wait. The other problem is half the people fight against the red pill. Are running into black pill wich they can't under stand. It's blue pill vs red pill vs black pill. These 3 group are not on the say team.
Red pill agree with black pill, black pill agree with red pill... and both hate blue pill but will give it 5% credit. Red pill focus on: •Communication •Body improvement •Finance improvement •Putting woman last and goals first •Be ruthless in life in achieving one goal Black pill focus on: •Looks (attractiveness) •Genetic •Reality of one position and status to that of thr dating market Blue pill: •Put her first in everything •Be clingy •Spend big on her •Text her a long paragraph in the morning expressing your love •Buy her Flowers •Wait for her until she done with carousel •Be a step dad •Let people walk over you •Be passive aggressive
Interesting discussion. I’ve watched a few of these types of discussions involving red or black pill. That said, how do “black pill” creators win a debate? Do they just show study after study to back up their view? I’m honestly still confused as to what the end game is for black pill .
The idea of black pill is to tell people that looks matter the most, and your genetics are determined if you'll succeed in the dating market. While the people who are blue pill will debate against black pill like WW, will try to counter his points by saying that looks doesn't matter much and there are other factors that matters as well, such as personality, hygiene, etc. Basically, what you can change.
The goal of BP is for men to understand it is not their fault that they get rejected because they dont have the look, money, or status, or whatever she is looking for. Women can always want more so don't be surprise if she is not loyal. When a man understand that attraction is not a choice, and could be beyond his control, he should develop more realistic expectations and move along. A woman always have the right to choose...better than you, buyers beware
BP is just the idea that dating is mostly looks, and that looks impacts stuff outside of dating too. This is obviously true. It just points out the real issue rather than the false.
Interesting discussion. About 9 years ago I was in college and was talking to someone studying psychology and they told me something that I will never forget. They said that they learned that women care more about if the man is emotionally into them while men care more about if the women is physically into them. He explained, women don't care as much if a man sleeps around, but is emotionally loyal to her and men don't care as much if a women is emotionally into another man as long as she doesn't physically cheat on him. The biological reproductive explanation was that if a man is not emotionally invested in the women, he won't provide for her kids. On the female side, if the women becomes pregnant with a kid from another man, the man will not like that she has to mother another mans kids, but also he can't impregnate her for at least 9 months because the women will be pregnant with another mans kid. Therefore, women prioritize men caring for their kids and men prioritize that women conceive their kids. Men have the ability to have lots of kids with multiple women in a short amount of time while women can only have one kid every 9 months. Most people would recommend that a mother should wait at least a year in between pregnancies to allow for her to recover and replenish the nutrients and energy that she used during pregnancy. This is why traditionally women try to be more selective when choosing to carry a man's kid because they want to make sure he will stick around to provide for the kids and the mom. This explains why women have seemed to stay in relationships with men who are high earners, and provide for their family, the men may sleep around with prostitutes, but as long as he comes home to pay the bills and raise the kids, she puts up with it. It shouldn't be put up with it, but she cares more about the her security and her kids security than her husbands fling that he has no emotional connection to. I don't know if any of this is actually true because it may not be scientifically proven. Males and females have different biology that do equate to different ways of how are goals align with our actions. I guess time and research will shed more light on this theory.
That just sounds like a nightmare tbh. Imagine your LTR partner is emotionally distant to you and sometimes has pity sex with you. You are basically in a dead bedroom betabuxxing at this point "It's over for redpill psychologycels"
@@sajtospog9888 yeah sounds weird as hell. if a girl doesnt love you or care for you at all as a man, thats obviously worse than if shes just not having sex with anyone else for a relationship.
This was a VERY strange debate, it wasn't even structured like a normal debate. Typically the moderators, being Emily and Todd in this case, usually NEVER offer their opinion on the topic and stay unbiased, they are only there to do one thing. Moderate if stuff gets chaotic, that's it. Here, it was more or less Destiny having a convo with Emily & Todd about divorce, WW didn't even really speak but 5% of the time and when he did there were no points he refuted.
Destiny "Idk if a higher divorce rate is good for bad" >proceeds to infer "positives" to divorce 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) - 5 times the average. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes -32 times the average. 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes - 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control) 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes -14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26) 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes -9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report) Father Factor in Education - Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school. Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school. Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school. • Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A's in school. Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities. •75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes - 10times the average. Father Factor in Drug and Alcohol Abuse - Researchers at Columbia University found that children living in two-parent household with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs compared to all teens in two-parent households. Teens in single mother households are at a 30% higher risk than those in two-parent households. •70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes - 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988) 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes - 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction) Father Factor in Incarceration - Even after controlling for income, youths in father-absent households still had significantly higher odds of incarceration than those in mother-father families. Youths who never had a father in the household experienced the highest odds. A 2002 Department of Justice survey of 7,000 inmates revealed that 39% of jail inmates lived in mother-only households. Approximately forty-six percent of jail inmates in 2002 had a previously incarcerated family member. One-fifth experienced a father in prison or jail. Father Factor in Crime - A study of 109 juvenile Father Factor in Crime - A study of 109 juvenile offenders indicated that family structure significantly predicts delinquency. Adolescents, particularly boys, in single-parent families were at higher risk of status, property and person delinquencies. Moreover, students attending schools with a high proportion of children of single parents are also at risk. A study of 13,986 women in prison showed that more than half grew up without their father. Forty-two percent grew up in a single-mother household and sixteen percent lived with neither parent Father Factor in Child Abuse - Compared to living with both parents, living in a single-parent home doubles the risk that a child will suffer physical, emotional, or educational neglect. The overall rate of child abuse and neglect in single-parent households is 27.3 children per 1,000, whereas the rate of overall maltreatment in two-parent households is 15.5 per 1,000. Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves. Adolescent girls raised in a 2 parent home with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers. •90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census] • 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. [Criminal Justice & Behaviour, Vol 14, pp. 403-26, 1978] •71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. [U.S. Department of Health and Human Services press release, Friday, March 26, 1999]l •63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census] •85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. [Center for Disease Control] •90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. [Wray Herbert, "Dousing the Kindlers" Psychology Today, January, 1985, p. 28] •71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools] •75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes. [Rainbows f for all God's Children] 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father. [US Department of Justice, Special Report, Sept. 1988] •85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. [Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas Department of Corrections, 1992] •Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. [US D.H.H.S. news release, March 26, 1999] Census Fatherhood Statistics • 64.3 million: Estimated number of fathers across the nation 26.5 million: Number of fathers who are part of married-couple families with their own children under the age of 18. Among these fathers - o 22 percent are raising three or more of their own children under 18 years old (among married-couple family households only). o 2 percent live in the home of a relative or a non-relative. 2.5 million: Number of single fathers, up from 400,000 in 1970. Currently, among single parents living with their children, 18 percent are men. Among these fathers - o 8 percent are raising three or more of their own children under 18 years old. o 42 percent are divorced, 38 percent have never married, 16 percent are separated and 4 percent are widowed. (The percentages of those divorced and never married are not significantly different from one another.) o 16 percent live in the home of a relative or a non-relative. o 27 percent have an annual family income of $50,000 or more. • Children with involved, loving fathers are significantly more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use, truancy, and criminal activity compared to children who have uninvolved fathers. • Studies on parent-child relationships and child wellbeing show that father love is an important factor in predicting the social, emotional, and cognitive development and functioning of children and young adults. • 24 million children (34 percent) live absent their biological father. Recent policies encourage the development of programs designed to improve the economic status of low-income nonresident fathers and the financial and emotional support provided to their children. This brief provides ten key lessons from several important early responsible fatherhood initiatives that were developed and implemented during the 1990s and early 2000s. Formal evaluations of these earlier fatherhood efforts have been completed making this an opportune time to step back and assess what has been learned and how to build on the early programs' successes and challenges.While the following statistics are formidable, the Responsible Fatherhoo d research literature generally supports the claim that a loving and nurturing father improves outcomes for children, families and communities. Nearly 20 million children (27 percent) live in single-parent homes. • 43 percent of first marriages dissolve within fifteen years; about 60 percent of divorcing couples have children; and approximately one million children each year experience the divorce of their parents. Fathers who live with their children are more likely to have a close, enduring relationship with their children than those who do not. Compared to children born within marriage, children born to cohabiting parents are three times as likely to experience father absence, and children born to unmarried, non-cohabiting parents are four times as likely to live in a father-absent home. • About 40 percent of children in father-absent homes have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26 percent of absent fathers live in a different state than their children; and 50 percent of children living absent their father have never set foot in their father's home. • Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents. • Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents. •From 1995 to 2000, the proportion of children living in single-parent homes slightly declined, while the proportion of children living with two married parents remained stable. 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Interesting though I think this info would carry the weight youd want it to have if youd compare it with data of children coming out of really bad famillies where partents fight, the ones Destiny critiqued. Is coming out of a fatherless household worse than that of a fighting one or better?
@@dienamychd7611you mfs are NEVER satisfied with evidence when it’s proving what you DONT believe 🤣🤣❤ Cuz I would argue, it’s more like you dorks WONT believe ❤ cuz then you’d be wrong 😂
@@danielsurvivor1372 switch many out with the majority. The vast majority of marriages do not end because in particular tge father is abusing the kids or tge wife.
It is apparent that no one in this conversation has been divorced in California. Even if both parties are on the same page about an equitable distribution and separation, you have to find and pay for a great and expensive lawyer to just push back on the State. Please note, on the whole, I like California, not just hating here. Just for feedback, I did not enjoy either part of the conversation. I am not sure what the objective was, what message or knowledge was trying to be shared. These were too long for just entertainment value and not why I follow this channel. I did not comment on the first part specifically because of this. Things were definitely better when Emily or Todd weighed in to shape the conversation more. Especially when getting at more open ended questions that are not directing a conclusion.
It was not until the last few seconds that I understood what was going on and why things were so weird. My recommendation is in post, edit in a little intro setting the stage for your followers. At least in my case, it would have assuaged a lot of confusion and frustration, and it would not hurt anyone else.
Maybe breeding and coparenting contracts are the future? No need for love, just pick the partner that is the most compatible on paper (race, height, IQ, interests etc.) to create the most perfect baby possible. Many couples only seem to get together to have kids anyways.
The divorce rates is the same all over the western world, even in countries that has evolved beyond that weird alimony tradition that the US have. This just proves one thing to me: Being monogamous is not in our nature, and people who have the financial and attraction-means to choose otherwise will do so. Why would you stay in a "dead bedroom" relationship at 35 when humans live to be 80? In a future where there are no laws/benefits connected to marriages, I predict that only 10% of the population will marry at all.
22:20 anthropologically women raised children together. It’s not like women only raised their own children. The hope is another woman would help raise their child when they do have children. This is primarily due to the extraordinary length of time it takes to raise human children to adulthood. This is part of human sociality systems, parasociality and eusociality. While women share labor resources to raise children, men throughout history didn’t do the same with sharing resources with the offspring of other men. This is the differentiation between the two. This is why even in the most egalitarian societies, women and men tend to gravitate to different occupational fields with women usually preferring more social and caretaking fields.
Most of the time Single Mothers are struggling or don't make that much money for several reasons. Single Fathers, if found attractive, generally make good money so that's why it's so different and not that hard to understand. I am a single father I make good money and have no problem providing. My single mother ex is broke, get the point.
Rate of divorce was actually higher in 1980 than it ever has been since, and it continues to fall steadily. We now have the lowest rate of divorce since the late 60s.
@@creeperkingdom3190 The percentage of the population getting married is lower, but the absolute number of people getting married is about 50% higher. Also the divorce rate is the percentage of marriages, not the percentage of the total population. So here are the number numbers: in the year 1960 1.5 million people got married and 34,000 of them got divorced. In the year 2019 2.3 million people got married, but only 31,000 of them got divorced.
25:40 no, because biologically, men are incentivized to provide for their offspring. The longer it takes to raise an offspring to adulthood, the more biological incentive there is for males to stick around. Show me a single animal where it takes years to raise an offspring to adulthood where the male doesn’t stay. Even the gestational period of 9months is too long for human males to abandon their mate. The situation you’re speaking of doesn’t happen unless there are systems in place that either punish the man for staying around or incentivizes women to leave.
And the thing about Des said to F&F about the single mothers who get alimony, they have responsibilities which they will try to make yours and they are usually emotionally f'ed up two of the many reasons to almost never date them, come on Des it's not 5D chess.
all this can be summed up as rational people can make good decisions for themselves and their children and irrational people won't create good environments because of a plethora of reasons
Destiny really needs to learn that people aren't rational. All his ideas are completely based upon a total lack of understanding of reality. What is more worrying is that Emily and Todd seemed to also make this same mistake. They are older and don't live in the wealthy California bubble which excludes people for failing to believe.
I don’t believe that 50% of marriages before were miserable because that’s the other implication. Why are divorce rates so high now? It can’t possibly be simply because women are now working and no longer are trapped in their marriages. Maybe women’s expectations for marriage or relationships have become skewed?
He was really wrong on the average age of marriage being twenty fifty years ago. What country? Not the US, if he was going a bit further back it would make more sense especially with the Second World War
22:20 This is how I can tell Destiny doesn't know what's going on. No. Not at all. Parents rarely invest equally in their children. Seeing a father that will take care of his children even though the mother is out of the picture is good evidence that he'll invest in any children you might have with him. A loyal man who has to divide his own time and resources is worth a lot more than one that's not there. I doubt it's the ideal situation, but it is preferable to other options depending on the sexual marketplace.
17:30 why are two people who hate each getting married to begin with? I think that’s the bigger question. Culturally, something has shifted in the last 50 years and I’m willing to bet the larger proportion of the cultural change has been with women. Like Destiny has said in another video, women have always been surrounded by attention so that hasn’t changed. I also don’t believe that most women were miserable in their marriages 50 years ago. So what changed? If the motivation for divorces now are due to women being more miserable now, that’s the fault of women. If the motivation for divorces are financial, that’s on women. If the motivation for divorces are simply due to women losing interest and changing their mind, that’s also on women. In all instances, the increased divorce rates are on women. I think we can all agree that divorces are socially disruptive regardless of the reason. Where is my logic flawed?
@@faizan9010 so what? Divorce rates are based on percentages anyway. It does not matter if there are 1 million marriages or 600k marriages per year. They still count percentages of those 1mill or 600k not absolute numbers.
@@basedpatriotLT you missed the point. The statistical drop in divorce rates does not mean that people are having happier marriages these days like @This World implies. It just means that more people are dying alone. So you guys can quit using that statistic as proof that track society has been on for the past 50 years is good.
Destiny completely misunderstands all the arguments around body count. Then he tries to use his idea of evolution asking a social structure of America in the 1950s. We spent millions of years living in small humter gatherer communities the mid 20th century American society had no evolutionary impact. Men want women with a low body count, as one of a number of factors they are drawn too. Women want different factors, none of those factors are high body count. However, given the factors they do want and how rarely they cluster the men they want CAN sleep with a lot of women. Given the men who are active in the dating market, these men will then sleep with a lot of women. Women en have been willing to accept high bodycounts to get the factors that make that an option for the man.
Des is so out of place...like, what woman in the word doesn't think about alimony, i've heard an absurd amount of women who are about to divorce talking about it, and just because you can't a man can't pay it it doesn't mean he is not made to own it when he has money available. It's like...the system literally has a lot of fail safes for women and some i am not even aware of yet Des doesn't think of that? Weird...
ok, so the blackpill is just a stronger version of the redpill. i don't think destiny is bluepill though, he clearly thinks looks matter and status matters. that's redpill at least.
Red Pill and Black Pill are opposites in philosophy for dating Red Pill = Work on personal problems, set goals and you will elevate your status and attractiveness + success in dating eventually Black Pill = No matter what you do, only looks and genetics will determine your success in relationships and dating. If your not tall or attractive, don't bother dating.
It makes me sad that there are dudes who legitimately subscribe to the blackpill and orient their lives around it's messages. That's the actual matrix. Normal, every day people don't go around hyper analysing looks or social dynamics. Your lives would be so much better if you just went outside. I say this as someone who was sucked into this space HARD, and it took me ages to realise how self-destructive and downright useless it all is.
I would be interested to see how a true black pill guy lives his life..? Have they completely given up on women? I do agree though in many would benefit greatly by just going outside!
@@Macheako Yeah, women lie but the data on dating apps/sites doesn't, plus, there's sometihng called observable reality where we can see who women are going for with our own eyes, it's wild, right? You should check it out, the LA-La-Land just world doesn't seem to be a good representation of the .. you know.. real world.
Wheat waffles seemed scared to actually take a position firmly and defend it. Instead he hid behind “this is what people in the manosphere are saying, I’m not saying I agree or disagree”. In that sense it didn’t seem like much of a debate.
It’s not really a debate but more of a discussion. Wheat waffles honestly seemed bored but this is the first time I’ve listened to him
I don’t like “fence-sitters…”
That's what he always does...
"Actually one time, this happened - so that means it always happens"
Men who don't have options don't get to find out what kind of women would be best for them because they can't get enough at bats. You keep lowering your standards to find out where they will let you into the game, until you realize the level you're allowed to play doesn't make your life better, it makes your life worse. The women aren't that attractive, or they have mental health issues that just makes them not good companions. Some guys are so desperate they accept the abuse and lower standards, other guys reach the decision that the level they're allowed into the game makes it not worth being involved.
If you want a higher standard of partner you should work to be a better person.
@@afroxfairyxxx8382 Just be better 4Head
@@GoSuMonSteR just have a better genetic outcome. THINK ABUNDANTLY WITH POSITIVE FRAME. 😂
There is no level that allows entry
@@GoSuMonSteR Rope then? What are you waiting for? :)
rule of thumb: Destiny will combat whatever complaint he hears from men with “well the women i know tell me this.”(while disregarding that the men he is speaking to are telling him their own first hand experience)
and if it’s a complaint from women, Destiny will likely agree, offer little to no push back or explain why he thinks it might have credence.
i also think it’s worth noting that what “women tell” Destiny seems to always align, as in he presents it as a consensus. that might have something to do with the type of women he has these discussions with.
Or it has to do with blackpill, blackpill would say that they say yo him what he wants to hear or tell him whatever will not make them look bad
wdym combat? He agree with a lot of the issue men say they are facing, like feeling like they're losing a place in society with women taking on more masculine roles. He offers the perspective of women he's talked to to give more context to those issue that men face. That's good because learning about men's disadvantages while never hearing of womens' will cause you to resent them. He shits on women a lot too.
You just don't know
Destiny is not dumb, but he is a bluepill with subjective logic, so whatever you say to him he ignores if he want to.
Most likely his wife and her friends
Broooooooo have you seen the mental illness gymnasium that is Destiny’s “Female Guests” 🤣🤣
They’re worse than destiny ❤ and THESE are the women he allows to represent ALL women???
I gotta take a shit 😂❤
I think for the single mother and father debate it has to do with preselection. If a girl was willing to have a child with another dude and he knows how to care for them it is seen as attractive. A woman has already seen him as a good potential "mate" for her offspring and was willing to have kids by him. Doesn't really work the reverse as not a lot of guys want a girl who has been "ran through" and waste his time and resources on someone else's kids.
If society deemed the women to pay for another womens child they'd behave exactly like the redpillers.
12:00 destiny completely mis-represents financial settlements on divorce. It is not that single moms suddenly become rich on divorce. It is that the wife/mother gets a disproportionate amount of the marital pot. For example, in my UK divorce I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity and this has ruined me financially. Divorce ruins men financially and makes many men contemplate deletion (RIP Robin Williams, Jason David Frank, Chris Christensen at Disneyland), whereas the female's financial situation remains broadly the same.
Yea I noticed that too. It's not that they get Lamborghinis and all that silliness he said. But, they can be financially comfortable without having to work all that hard... thanks to the money from the guy they divorced, most certainly when kids are involved
@@donaldjdemarco the problem with destiny is that he is all theory/books and doesn't understand the real world experience of an average man. once he gets zero'ed out in divorce (if he and melina have kids) then he will understand the pain. some guys need to actually go through the destruction of a messy divorce before they will truly understand how ruthless karen the divorce judge is.
Also, the disproportionate rate of women who file and also the weirdly high rates of "divorce regret" show most are not making sensible calculations based upon perfect knowledge.
I have had women in my extended family divorce but when you listen to what they expected to recieve it is bonkers. They do very well out of it but th8nk they have been short-changed. They get most of the assets but don't realise that most is still less than all. They don't get that the income spreads much more thinly across two households. They don't see the complexity of life that becomes more expensive post divorce.
Humans are not rational. Then add in that many have terrible understanding of reality and all his points are irellevant.
Vegas and Nevada should be brought up anytime divorce rates are mentioned. Because the divorce rates there are so astronomically high, it skews the rest of the data.
Destiny's own life has proved him wrong.
Destiny really don't know what he's talking about like 100% of the time. Oh god, she's divorced?! 70% chance of child being an emotional mess.
if you pay attention he acts like a women
AND WOMEN DO NOT CARE
they have no moral values
The dynamics of marriage are changing so much now.
Everybody brought up so many valid points here.
Hopefully the comment that Todd said about “laws that should be adjusted” will
Come into effect someday.
The number of times Destiny and the hosts implicitly appealed to the idea that men and women must think the same was so disappointing. We know they don't, but we find it hard to know how strong g the differences are.
The "Well if men think so then women think so" lines of thinking were terrible. Often the reality is that there isn't enough infomation to work from, but they wanted conclusions based upon faulty assumptions.
The laws re Child custody should be automatic 50/50 as It is in my country, Denmark. Force parents to figure out how to coparent and offer help
Nice to see woke socialist Denmark has something right
They are the majority of men don’t want custody look it up majority of men decide outside of court to not be active in that environment
@Soldat Intelectual some control at last, but they still welcomed huge amounts of "dociety enrichers". Scandinavians are kind of socialist in general and socialist ten to have idiotic woke tendencies.
@@basedpatriotLT No country in Europe is socialist
@@juanmejiagomez5514 You well know what I mean, as in leftist parties with names such as socialists, social democrats and similar. Not about actual extreme socialism. Smart ass :)
Dating is mostly looks. This seems obviously true. So BP seems most accurate to me.
If you want a more depressing take on it though, consider this: sexual validation, friendship, touch, sex, intimacy, procreation etc are the most hardwired evolutionary psychological needs we have (procreation beats survival in Darwin terms). So failing to obtain these is obviously going to result in serious mental illness, and getting these or not is 90% predicated on looks which are basically genetic and luck based. Now, to make matters worse, if you haven't had these needs met by a certain age, say early 20s (think about prehistoric humans again) you are going to have developed chronic emotional loneliness, which as wiki notes is likely incurable, and which causes enormous physical damage (worse than smoking) as well mental.instability. Even if someone gets those needs met later then, the loneliness will remain and the damage will be permanent.
Basically, if you're young and ugly you're fucked for life. Seems true in my lived expereince.
Shit I am screwed.
@@Thomas-mx1fh Sorry to hear that. If youre short and ugly and over 21 then my best advice is to spend 2 full years trying everything you can to make yourself attractive and then see how women react to you. If they still reject you, insult you, grimace at you, ignore you, then yeah, you'll likely never be attractive to women. In which case, I suggest you drop out of mainstream life and choose an alternative lifestyle.
Bro, I rather hear that than “oh girls want a rich guy or an ambitious man”. With the loneliness aspect were u referring to just men?
On a scale of 1-10 how much do u agree with destiny and wheat?
@@moonknight4053 I don't know what they say. I've watched a few wheat waffles videos, but that's it.
@@moonknight4053it’s not what they say it’s what they do
Permanent alimony is only awarded 10% of the time.
Women get property settlements (non taxable dissolution of assets)
And rehabilitation settlements for 2-5 years happens all the time.
Is Destiny underplaying the divorce fees? He makes it sound like its less than 10% of your income gone while most people talk about divorce fees being 50% of your money
Even if it was 1% it would be to much i should not be paying someone for tge rest of my life because I decided to sleep with them
I don't think he said it's only 10% of income that you pay
He said that only 10% of divorced men pay alimony and that it's an over hyped issue that affects only a small number of men. In PT 1 I think he also pointed out that this generally happens in relationships where there's an extreme income difference (or when the woman has sacrificed her career to take care of your household and children)
@@PrincePetti 10% if it were true accounts for hundreds of millions of men
Not 10% of the income. Its that in 10% of the cases its being paid
Poor showing from Wheat Waffles. Destiny did a good job in this debate, for a woman.
WW content is about how to get into relationships and concentrating on looks department. Meanwhile the main topics of this video were about internal relationships dynamics, what are premises and results of broken relationships and etc. It's not his area of expertise
Yes, the only time I've seen so far that he didn't completely dominate a debate. Too bad, because many of you guys jump to your final conclusions about people after just watching one video with them in it. He's packed with loads of irrefutable data. To the point he was even able to write an entire book on everything he discovered.
It would have been nice if WW could have spoken more than 5% of the time.
It would help if he knew what he was talking about or had any stats on it.
@@Funymoney010He has tons of great data, and this is the only debate I've heard so far where he didn't absolutely dominate the debate. You're a fool if you judge him solely based on this one discussion.
This podcast is great! You guys should bring Torsha on the interview.
It is absurd how far out of his depth WW felt in this conversation. He could provide no pushback for any point raised by anyone, could seemingly apply no stat to backup any of the things he parrots. Why is this dude even here? Can we get literally anyone else in on this conversation in the manosphere?
The funny thing is if you watch his early debates he was very aggressive with pushing points using statistics and hard hitting examples and he was almost universally citizen for his "low emotional intelligence" and inability to see others prospective.
Now that his not aggressive and takes a much lower and methodical approach slowly poking and produng at people's ideas looking fir where he can find common ground and where he can subtly change minds his "soft".
@@creeperkingdom3190 I just don't like how he stopped aggressively using studies. That's like the biggest selling point of blackpill and he didn't even use them that much here. This is especially bad since it's way easier to "deb00nk" studies outside debates, just by watching his videos, where WE can't push back.
It dont gotta be a debate its just a conversation bruh
@@ihateanimebutonlywhenitiso7227 Debate or not, WW should've used studies more. Because he was worse off from this convo and I doubt most of the people will take him seriously
They're not sending their best
This is what happen when you put 2 defensive player against each other. They both sit their and wait. The other problem is half the people fight against the red pill. Are running into black pill wich they can't under stand. It's blue pill vs red pill vs black pill. These 3 group are not on the say team.
Red pill agree with black pill, black pill agree with red pill... and both hate blue pill but will give it 5% credit.
Red pill focus on:
•Communication
•Body improvement
•Finance improvement
•Putting woman last and goals first
•Be ruthless in life in achieving one goal
Black pill focus on:
•Looks (attractiveness)
•Genetic
•Reality of one position and status to that of thr dating market
Blue pill:
•Put her first in everything
•Be clingy
•Spend big on her
•Text her a long paragraph in the morning expressing your love
•Buy her Flowers
•Wait for her until she done with carousel
•Be a step dad
•Let people walk over you
•Be passive aggressive
Interesting discussion. I’ve watched a few of these types of discussions involving red or black pill. That said, how do “black pill” creators win a debate? Do they just show study after study to back up their view? I’m honestly still confused as to what the end game is for black pill .
The idea of black pill is to tell people that looks matter the most, and your genetics are determined if you'll succeed in the dating market.
While the people who are blue pill will debate against black pill like WW, will try to counter his points by saying that looks doesn't matter much and there are other factors that matters as well, such as personality, hygiene, etc. Basically, what you can change.
The goal of BP is for men to understand it is not their fault that they get rejected because they dont have the look, money, or status, or whatever she is looking for. Women can always want more so don't be surprise if she is not loyal. When a man understand that attraction is not a choice, and could be beyond his control, he should develop more realistic expectations and move along. A woman always have the right to choose...better than you, buyers beware
BP is just the idea that dating is mostly looks, and that looks impacts stuff outside of dating too. This is obviously true. It just points out the real issue rather than the false.
Interesting discussion.
About 9 years ago I was in college and was talking to someone studying psychology and they told me something that I will never forget.
They said that they learned that women care more about if the man is emotionally into them while men care more about if the women is physically into them. He explained, women don't care as much if a man sleeps around, but is emotionally loyal to her and men don't care as much if a women is emotionally into another man as long as she doesn't physically cheat on him.
The biological reproductive explanation was that if a man is not emotionally invested in the women, he won't provide for her kids.
On the female side, if the women becomes pregnant with a kid from another man, the man will not like that she has to mother another mans kids, but also he can't impregnate her for at least 9 months because the women will be pregnant with another mans kid.
Therefore, women prioritize men caring for their kids and men prioritize that women conceive their kids.
Men have the ability to have lots of kids with multiple women in a short amount of time while women can only have one kid every 9 months. Most people would recommend that a mother should wait at least a year in between pregnancies to allow for her to recover and replenish the nutrients and energy that she used during pregnancy.
This is why traditionally women try to be more selective when choosing to carry a man's kid because they want to make sure he will stick around to provide for the kids and the mom.
This explains why women have seemed to stay in relationships with men who are high earners, and provide for their family, the men may sleep around with prostitutes, but as long as he comes home to pay the bills and raise the kids, she puts up with it. It shouldn't be put up with it, but she cares more about the her security and her kids security than her husbands fling that he has no emotional connection to.
I don't know if any of this is actually true because it may not be scientifically proven. Males and females have different biology that do equate to different ways of how are goals align with our actions. I guess time and research will shed more light on this theory.
And thats why most women can't leave the house without make up or a dress they wore more that twice.
That just sounds like a nightmare tbh.
Imagine your LTR partner is emotionally distant to you and sometimes has pity sex with you. You are basically in a dead bedroom betabuxxing at this point
"It's over for redpill psychologycels"
But women chose men just because they're tall and they don't stick around so this makes no sense.
@@sajtospog9888 yeah sounds weird as hell. if a girl doesnt love you or care for you at all as a man, thats obviously worse than if shes just not having sex with anyone else for a relationship.
All of this is correct and you did a good job of explaining it.
A guy with blue hair debating a ginger. That's like a 1/10 debating a 2/10 as to what women want. 😅
Hey now buddy! I’m a ginger and both my gf and Wheat’s are really attractive lol!
nice Vocal Fry from the female co-host
Emily and Todd are to nice. Some moments it seems like destiny doesn’t know how things actually are going on lol, but overall he did good !
This was a VERY strange debate, it wasn't even structured like a normal debate. Typically the moderators, being Emily and Todd in this case, usually NEVER offer their opinion on the topic and stay unbiased, they are only there to do one thing. Moderate if stuff gets chaotic, that's it. Here, it was more or less Destiny having a convo with Emily & Todd about divorce, WW didn't even really speak but 5% of the time and when he did there were no points he refuted.
Destiny
"Idk if a higher divorce rate is good for bad"
>proceeds to infer "positives" to divorce
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US
Dept. Of Health/Census) - 5 times the average.
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from
fatherless homes -32 times the average.
85% of all children who show behavior disorders
come from fatherless homes - 20 times the average.
(Center for Disease Control)
80% of rapists with anger problems come from
fatherless homes -14 times the average. (Justice &
Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless
homes -9 times the average. (National Principals
Association Report)
Father Factor in Education - Fatherless children are
twice as likely to drop out of school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less
likely to repeat a grade in school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less
likely to drop out of school.
• Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely
to get A's in school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely
to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities.
•75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse
centers come from fatherless homes - 10times the
average.
Father Factor in Drug and Alcohol Abuse - Researchers
at Columbia University found that children living in
two-parent household with a poor relationship with
their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink, or use
drugs compared to all teens in two-parent households.
Teens in single mother households are at a 30% higher
risk than those in two-parent households.
•70% of youths in state-operated institutions come
from fatherless homes - 9 times the average. (U.S.
Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988)
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless
homes - 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia,
Texas Dept. of Correction)
Father Factor in Incarceration - Even after controlling
for income, youths in father-absent households still
had significantly higher odds of incarceration than
those in mother-father families. Youths who never had
a father in the household experienced the highest odds.
A 2002 Department of Justice survey of 7,000 inmates
revealed that 39% of jail inmates lived in mother-only
households. Approximately forty-six percent of jail
inmates in 2002 had a previously incarcerated family
member. One-fifth experienced a father in prison or
jail.
Father Factor in Crime - A study of 109 juvenile
Father Factor in Crime - A study of 109 juvenile
offenders indicated that family structure significantly
predicts delinquency. Adolescents, particularly boys,
in single-parent families were at higher risk of status,
property and person delinquencies. Moreover, students
attending schools with a high proportion of children
of single parents are also at risk. A study of 13,986 women in prison showed that more than half grew up without their father. Forty-two percent grew up in a single-mother household and sixteen percent lived with neither parent
Father Factor in Child Abuse - Compared to living with both parents, living in a single-parent home doubles the risk that a child will suffer physical, emotional, or educational neglect. The overall rate of child abuse and neglect in single-parent households is 27.3 children per 1,000, whereas the rate of overall maltreatment in two-parent households is 15.5 per 1,000.
Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.
Adolescent girls raised in a 2 parent home with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers.
•90% of homeless and runaway children are from
fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
• 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come
from fatherless homes. [Criminal Justice & Behaviour,
Vol 14, pp. 403-26, 1978]
•71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. [U.S.
Department of Health and Human Services press
release, Friday, March 26, 1999]l
•63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. [US
D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
•85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders
come from fatherless homes. [Center for Disease
Control]
•90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only
their mother. [Wray Herbert, "Dousing the Kindlers"
Psychology Today, January, 1985, p. 28]
•71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless
homes. National Principals Association Report on the
State of High Schools]
•75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers
come from fatherless homes. [Rainbows f for all God's
Children]
70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no
father. [US Department of Justice, Special Report, Sept.
1988]
•85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless
home. [Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas
Department of Corrections, 1992]
•Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop
out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail;
four times more likely to need help for emotional or
behavioral problems. [US D.H.H.S. news release, March
26, 1999]
Census Fatherhood Statistics
• 64.3 million: Estimated number of fathers across the
nation
26.5 million: Number of fathers who are part of
married-couple families with their own children under
the age of 18.
Among these fathers -
o 22 percent are raising three or more of their own
children under 18 years old (among married-couple
family households only).
o 2 percent live in the home of a relative or a
non-relative.
2.5 million: Number of single fathers, up from
400,000 in 1970. Currently, among single parents living
with their children, 18 percent are men.
Among these fathers -
o 8 percent are raising three or more of their own
children under 18 years old.
o 42 percent are divorced, 38 percent have never
married, 16 percent are separated and 4 percent are
widowed. (The percentages of those divorced and
never married are not significantly different from one
another.)
o 16 percent live in the home of a relative or a
non-relative.
o 27 percent have an annual family income of $50,000 or more.
• Children with involved, loving fathers are significantly
more likely to do well in school, have healthy
self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social behavior,
and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use,
truancy, and criminal activity compared to children who
have uninvolved fathers.
• Studies on parent-child relationships and child
wellbeing show that father love is an important factor
in predicting the social, emotional, and cognitive
development and functioning of children and young
adults.
• 24 million children (34 percent) live absent their
biological father.
Recent policies encourage the development of
programs designed to improve the economic status
of low-income nonresident fathers and the financial
and emotional support provided to their children. This
brief provides ten key lessons from several important
early responsible fatherhood initiatives that were
developed and implemented during the 1990s and early
2000s. Formal evaluations of these earlier fatherhood
efforts have been completed making this an opportune
time to step back and assess what has been learned
and how to build on the early programs' successes
and challenges.While the following statistics are
formidable, the Responsible Fatherhoo d research
literature generally supports the claim that a loving
and nurturing father improves outcomes for children,
families and communities.
Nearly 20 million children (27 percent) live in
single-parent homes.
• 43 percent of first marriages dissolve within fifteen
years; about 60 percent of divorcing couples have
children; and approximately one million children each
year experience the divorce of their parents.
Fathers who live with their children are more likely to
have a close, enduring relationship with their children
than those who do not.
Compared to children born within marriage, children
born to cohabiting parents are three times as likely
to experience father absence, and children born to
unmarried, non-cohabiting parents are four times as
likely to live in a father-absent home.
• About 40 percent of children in father-absent homes
have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26
percent of absent fathers live in a different state than
their children; and 50 percent of children living absent
their father have never set foot in their father's home.
• Children who live absent their biological fathers are,
on average, at least two to three times more likely to be
poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health,
emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of
child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than
their peers who live with their married, biological (or
adoptive) parents.
• Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health,
emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of
child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than
their peers who live with their married, biological (or
adoptive) parents.
•From 1995 to 2000, the proportion of children living
in single-parent homes slightly declined, while the
proportion of children living with two married parents
remained stable.
E 210
Interesting though I think this info would carry the weight youd want it to have if youd compare it with data of children coming out of really bad famillies where partents fight, the ones Destiny critiqued. Is coming out of a fatherless household worse than that of a fighting one or better?
Jesus Christ calm down HE'S ALREADY D E A D XD.
Seriously though THIS is what WW should've done, he should've PUSHED BACK at Destiny.
@@dienamychd7611 The issue is that many divorces have nothing to do with father being an ahole.
@@dienamychd7611you mfs are NEVER satisfied with evidence when it’s proving what you DONT believe 🤣🤣❤
Cuz I would argue, it’s more like you dorks WONT believe ❤ cuz then you’d be wrong 😂
@@danielsurvivor1372 switch many out with the majority.
The vast majority of marriages do not end because in particular tge father is abusing the kids or tge wife.
It is apparent that no one in this conversation has been divorced in California. Even if both parties are on the same page about an equitable distribution and separation, you have to find and pay for a great and expensive lawyer to just push back on the State. Please note, on the whole, I like California, not just hating here.
Just for feedback, I did not enjoy either part of the conversation. I am not sure what the objective was, what message or knowledge was trying to be shared. These were too long for just entertainment value and not why I follow this channel. I did not comment on the first part specifically because of this.
Things were definitely better when Emily or Todd weighed in to shape the conversation more. Especially when getting at more open ended questions that are not directing a conclusion.
It was not until the last few seconds that I understood what was going on and why things were so weird. My recommendation is in post, edit in a little intro setting the stage for your followers. At least in my case, it would have assuaged a lot of confusion and frustration, and it would not hurt anyone else.
You need to make a short outro to indicate when the video ends.
When one cheats there's the threat of infection with deadly disease. So yes it's tant amount to murder or at least manslaughter.
i think destiny is insane
Yeah, insanelly wrong and should just keep playing factorio and stfu about dating and Incels altogether!
Divorce rates are not at an 'all time high". They've actually been trending down for decades now.
no wonder the marriage rate is very low
Marriage rates have been trending lower for decades.
@@CornChippy
exactly lol
men dont want to get married anymore
13:00 🙋🏾♀️ ditto. 😢
Maybe breeding and coparenting contracts are the future? No need for love, just pick the partner that is the most compatible on paper (race, height, IQ, interests etc.) to create the most perfect baby possible. Many couples only seem to get together to have kids anyways.
If it is in the future, I can't imagine it happening any sooner than 300 years from now
@@WanderTheNomad I think it could happen much sooner.
The divorce rates is the same all over the western world, even in countries that has evolved beyond that weird alimony tradition that the US have. This just proves one thing to me: Being monogamous is not in our nature, and people who have the financial and attraction-means to choose otherwise will do so. Why would you stay in a "dead bedroom" relationship at 35 when humans live to be 80?
In a future where there are no laws/benefits connected to marriages, I predict that only 10% of the population will marry at all.
no one is getting married the info is all over the internet
MOST MEN ARE OPTING OUT
or just ending their lives
I mean the women deserve it
Is be funny to see the guy with the blue hair try dating in The Bronx.
22:20 anthropologically women raised children together. It’s not like women only raised their own children. The hope is another woman would help raise their child when they do have children. This is primarily due to the extraordinary length of time it takes to raise human children to adulthood. This is part of human sociality systems, parasociality and eusociality. While women share labor resources to raise children, men throughout history didn’t do the same with sharing resources with the offspring of other men. This is the differentiation between the two. This is why even in the most egalitarian societies, women and men tend to gravitate to different occupational fields with women usually preferring more social and caretaking fields.
Most of the time Single Mothers are struggling or don't make that much money for several reasons. Single Fathers, if found attractive, generally make good money so that's why it's so different and not that hard to understand. I am a single father I make good money and have no problem providing. My single mother ex is broke, get the point.
Rate of divorce was actually higher in 1980 than it ever has been since, and it continues to fall steadily. We now have the lowest rate of divorce since the late 60s.
That because marriage rates have dropped.
The reason they are less divorces is because far less people are getting married in the first place.
@@creeperkingdom3190 The percentage of the population getting married is lower, but the absolute number of people getting married is about 50% higher. Also the divorce rate is the percentage of marriages, not the percentage of the total population.
So here are the number numbers: in the year 1960 1.5 million people got married and 34,000 of them got divorced. In the year 2019 2.3 million people got married, but only 31,000 of them got divorced.
25:40 no, because biologically, men are incentivized to provide for their offspring. The longer it takes to raise an offspring to adulthood, the more biological incentive there is for males to stick around. Show me a single animal where it takes years to raise an offspring to adulthood where the male doesn’t stay. Even the gestational period of 9months is too long for human males to abandon their mate. The situation you’re speaking of doesn’t happen unless there are systems in place that either punish the man for staying around or incentivizes women to leave.
Stop treating sex as a forme of entertainment. It's called making love as your making someone that you are supposed to love.
And the thing about Des said to F&F about the single mothers who get alimony, they have responsibilities which they will try to make yours and they are usually emotionally f'ed up two of the many reasons to almost never date them, come on Des it's not 5D chess.
I lived in a hatred household myself and I can somewhat agree with destiny it sucked but it did get better/ happy family like.
all this can be summed up as rational people can make good decisions for themselves and their children and irrational people won't create good environments because of a plethora of reasons
And most people ain’t THAT rational bud
Destiny really needs to learn that people aren't rational. All his ideas are completely based upon a total lack of understanding of reality.
What is more worrying is that Emily and Todd seemed to also make this same mistake. They are older and don't live in the wealthy California bubble which excludes people for failing to believe.
Well women find single father attractive is because they are pressured to te replacing a mans role compared to women who are single mothers
I don’t believe that 50% of marriages before were miserable because that’s the other implication. Why are divorce rates so high now? It can’t possibly be simply because women are now working and no longer are trapped in their marriages. Maybe women’s expectations for marriage or relationships have become skewed?
He was really wrong on the average age of marriage being twenty fifty years ago. What country? Not the US, if he was going a bit further back it would make more sense especially with the Second World War
22:20 This is how I can tell Destiny doesn't know what's going on. No. Not at all. Parents rarely invest equally in their children. Seeing a father that will take care of his children even though the mother is out of the picture is good evidence that he'll invest in any children you might have with him. A loyal man who has to divide his own time and resources is worth a lot more than one that's not there.
I doubt it's the ideal situation, but it is preferable to other options depending on the sexual marketplace.
17:30 why are two people who hate each getting married to begin with? I think that’s the bigger question. Culturally, something has shifted in the last 50 years and I’m willing to bet the larger proportion of the cultural change has been with women. Like Destiny has said in another video, women have always been surrounded by attention so that hasn’t changed. I also don’t believe that most women were miserable in their marriages 50 years ago. So what changed? If the motivation for divorces now are due to women being more miserable now, that’s the fault of women. If the motivation for divorces are financial, that’s on women. If the motivation for divorces are simply due to women losing interest and changing their mind, that’s also on women. In all instances, the increased divorce rates are on women. I think we can all agree that divorces are socially disruptive regardless of the reason. Where is my logic flawed?
Bro…..these girls will NEVER admit just how much they contribute to this societal shit sandwich….
That’s all men gotta understand 😂❤
Divorse rates are the lowest in history since no-fault divorse was introduced. Painful to hear an arguement based on the inverse.
Because marriage rates are dropping
@@faizan9010 so what? Divorce rates are based on percentages anyway. It does not matter if there are 1 million marriages or 600k marriages per year. They still count percentages of those 1mill or 600k not absolute numbers.
@@basedpatriotLT you missed the point. The statistical drop in divorce rates does not mean that people are having happier marriages these days like @This World implies. It just means that more people are dying alone. So you guys can quit using that statistic as proof that track society has been on for the past 50 years is good.
Why is that woman always frying her voice?
Bitch fried my brain 🧠 too
45:25
Destiny completely misunderstands all the arguments around body count. Then he tries to use his idea of evolution asking a social structure of America in the 1950s. We spent millions of years living in small humter gatherer communities the mid 20th century American society had no evolutionary impact.
Men want women with a low body count, as one of a number of factors they are drawn too. Women want different factors, none of those factors are high body count. However, given the factors they do want and how rarely they cluster the men they want CAN sleep with a lot of women. Given the men who are active in the dating market, these men will then sleep with a lot of women. Women en have been willing to accept high bodycounts to get the factors that make that an option for the man.
Destiny is bi or what? His views are skewed
He's bi
Waffles has no real life experience and that shows in this debate.
Des is so out of place...like, what woman in the word doesn't think about alimony, i've heard an absurd amount of women who are about to divorce talking about it, and just because you can't a man can't pay it it doesn't mean he is not made to own it when he has money available.
It's like...the system literally has a lot of fail safes for women and some i am not even aware of yet Des doesn't think of that? Weird...
ok, so the blackpill is just a stronger version of the redpill. i don't think destiny is bluepill though, he clearly thinks looks matter and status matters. that's redpill at least.
He's moderate and not basing his life on a misinterpretation of the matrix movie
Black pill and red pill are becoming more meaningless terms as time goes on. Especially the red pill. Black pill I’m still not sure exactly what it is
He's in an open relationship, as blue pill as they come.
Red Pill and Black Pill are opposites in philosophy for dating
Red Pill = Work on personal problems, set goals and you will elevate your status and attractiveness + success in dating eventually
Black Pill = No matter what you do, only looks and genetics will determine your success in relationships and dating. If your not tall or attractive, don't bother dating.
It makes me sad that there are dudes who legitimately subscribe to the blackpill and orient their lives around it's messages.
That's the actual matrix. Normal, every day people don't go around hyper analysing looks or social dynamics.
Your lives would be so much better if you just went outside.
I say this as someone who was sucked into this space HARD, and it took me ages to realise how self-destructive and downright useless it all is.
I would be interested to see how a true black pill guy lives his life..? Have they completely given up on women? I do agree though in many would benefit greatly by just going outside!
I would say I'm pretty BPilled in that I truly believe that dating is 90% looks. What do you want to know?
Without fame DESTINY wouldn’t even get a match on tinder. Let alone a date or a gf or wife. What a fool
Now that…..
Is objectively true 😂❤
He was having plenty of sex before he got on twitch. The dude is doing just fine.
@@hauntedmushroomsasmr7716 SOURCE...TRUST ME BRO
of course but does that matter when a girl is on her phone swiping on tinder? Or when you make a stupid cold approach somewhere... NNOOOOPE
@@jcransome5616 Have you talked to any living person in the last 30 years? Of course it matters. If for no other reason than how you carry yourself.
Why are these dudes who clearly have never had any experience with women pretending to be experts...
They read the studies bruh 😂😂
And we all know women don’t lie, so we can trust the studies bruh….
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
These guys have girlfriends.
@@Macheako yea all red pill/self improvement channels on RUclips usually get their “facts” from statistics they found on google search
@@Macheako Yeah, women lie but the data on dating apps/sites doesn't, plus, there's sometihng called observable reality where we can see who women are going for with our own eyes, it's wild, right? You should check it out, the LA-La-Land just world doesn't seem to be a good representation of the .. you know.. real world.
@@anderson-gb8rp bruh......you lost me at *women lie* 🤣