How does an INFJ maximize their Seduction Style? | CS Joseph Responds

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  • @borisvandruff7532
    @borisvandruff7532 2 года назад +33

    Hearing “It’s your life” was exactly what I needed to hear. The past month I’ve been allowing myself to get spread so thin that I am giving myself nothing.

  • @VE11
    @VE11 2 года назад +11

    Your life is your life
    Know this while you still have it
    -Charles Bukwoski

  • @mrintj5164
    @mrintj5164 2 года назад +43

    The only thing I partially disagree with is that putting oneself above others is a component of masculinity. I thinks its more accurate to say that understanding and respecting your own self worth and value is masculine. But selflessness is also even archetypally viewed as masculine under the right contexts. For an example self sacrifice for people during say a war scenario is viewed as incredibly masculine behavior. Not just culturally but from an evolutionary perspective. So throwing your own self worth away pointlessly or not even acknowledging this self worth is very unmasculine but wisely spending this self worth is very masculine.
    It is true though that Fe users need to be more selfish to appear masculine. As they tend to sway towards an attitude almost akin to servitude. An Fi dom on the other hand can probably take this too far and appear a bit childish.

    • @serban2139
      @serban2139 2 года назад +1

      He didn't say disrespect your female companion, he just said you put yourself first which if you've watched other videos of himself it basically means that the woman enters YOUR life, not you enters HER life. Think about this way. If we are talking masculine and feminine, can we say that in this dynamic of duality, one is a leader and one is a follower? Now my question for you is: who is masculine and who is feminine? Is the leader masculine or feminine? Have you seen good feminine leaders? Pay attention. I said feminine, not females.
      You also mentioned selflessness is viewed as masculine. Sure is. Have you heard of the concept that selflesness can only come from realising you have enough? How do you have enough if you don't treat yourself first? Clinginess: is this a masculine or a feminine term? Does it rise from having enough or pleasing someone else to get something in return? Why do you want something in return if you have enough?

    • @mango38628
      @mango38628 2 года назад

      Mr. INTJ - That's a good point. I've also thought about that as well. The idea of laying down one's life and self sacrificing seems masculine to me. Food for thought though.....Men don't go into war unless they believe they are going to win. So it's more of the mentality that they are in war to conquer and so on which is masculine. They are taking the risk of their life for the sake of masculinity which is masculine in of itself. Kind of like the right of passage where the elders leave the boy to die in the woods.... Risk of life for the sake of masculinity in hopes that he will conquer the boy and become a man in this case. Or maybe what I'm saying is dumb. What do you think? (If you're not religious, then feel free to ignore the next section but I can't help but to think of this example). I think of God sacrificing his son and Jesus willingly laying his life down. Obviously God is masculine. People say that He did this action so that humans can have a way into eternal life.. which is true. But the purpose was to conquer Christ's enemy (which isn't necessarily mankind), and His enemy (as stated in Scripture) is sin and death. By entering death and being resurrected, He conquered it. All to his glory and his benefit. Those who believe (His bride) will benefit though, because why wouldn't a husband share in the victory with his wife.

    • @mrintj5164
      @mrintj5164 2 года назад +1

      @@KenericTheGeneric This is covered in "understanding and respecting your own self worth and value"

    • @aladdout9454
      @aladdout9454 2 года назад +2

      @@serban2139 nonono he never SAYS it directly, he just gives you a bunch of instructions to follow that are obviously disrespectful to the female companions.

    • @DavGre
      @DavGre 2 года назад +1

      @@serban2139 from a position of abundance, giving is very masculine. Having abundance is the problem, where people give things away too easily or sacrifice precious belongings. Women have to deal with it too, in terms of not giving their hearts/bodies away too easily.

  • @jessicabrum9200
    @jessicabrum9200 2 года назад +11

    INFJ, female, 29: feel terrible about my self steem until 25, then I stop caring too much and I get a lot of attention. But I am VERY direct, I think some guys are scared
    But again, stop caring a long time ago

  • @aham9570
    @aham9570 9 месяцев назад

    I'm an infj, even according to your test, and I am a star

  • @KDROzzz
    @KDROzzz 2 года назад +14

    Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth ~ Jesus Christ

  • @serban2139
    @serban2139 2 года назад +12

    I'm an 27M infj and I agree with this video, just for the record. I was invisible when younger and I had no idea why, thought there was something wrong with my personality, had no idea how girls get turnt on and other stuff. Like SIR JOSE said here in le video, have your own car, your own place, pay for that shit, have a great job, purpose, do you workout? Make sure you get better, be among the best, in as many aspects of life as possible a.k.a competency...As I've grown in these areas and keep growing with time, I'm starting to see how more and more girls find me attractive and get feedback on this on a daily basis, but my game hasn't changed, it's not like I approach them or anything or flirt(knowingly for the record), personality is the same. Think about it this way, where was all this attention when I was good enough at 18? Why all these friendzone outcomes now end up in hookups/relationships prospects all of a sudden? It must be cause I iron my shirt, don't it?
    I do feel sad for C.S. as some people misinterpret a lot of the things he says and I like to point this out probably because it happens to me as well. He said that the most masculine men are most attractive and it goes the same way for the most feminine women. He didn't say you're a better person if you striclty focus on that, whatever anyone's definiton of a good person is lol...He might think that way, I don't know, I think it's irellevant to the topic, nonetheless...at the end of the day just be yourself, but please...if you are a balanced masculine/feminine energy, don't complain you don't attract the most masculine or feminine male/female, cuz that's just cringe..please some self awareness cheers :)

    • @sunsetjesus4719
      @sunsetjesus4719 2 года назад

      so you think when you were 18 , your peers were better than you? I dont think so. you just didn't approach women and didn't talk to them lol

    • @serban2139
      @serban2139 2 года назад +1

      ​@@sunsetjesus4719 Maybe you are right, if that's the case, all I've got to do now is approach women and talk to them? They're not going to care about my masculine traits? It's the personality that pulls them in?

    • @sunsetjesus4719
      @sunsetjesus4719 2 года назад

      @@serban2139 idk man I have seen pretty average guy with no real achivement or money hook up with hot women so may be you just need to talk to them and be yourself.

    • @serban2139
      @serban2139 2 года назад

      @@sunsetjesus4719 Thanks, I'll try and adjust my mindset then. I've never seen it happening, but I'll try again and see what happens, what do I have to lose?

    • @sunsetjesus4719
      @sunsetjesus4719 2 года назад

      @@serban2139 exactly

  • @faezix2124
    @faezix2124 2 года назад +8

    I can’t really agree with “trying to have a good first impression is fake” quote.
    If someone is pretending to be someone of high value to just give good impression yeah fair enough they’ll get exposed one day but I can show my positive side of my personality to give good impression and not be fake because I have build those positives and it is real.
    And I have to care about first impression because people are bias. They will judge you and treat you better based on that. Most of the times they won’t even give you second chance to prove yourself because of that first bad impression. You might give me second chance but I don’t think so about other types of people.

    • @Coneman3
      @Coneman3 2 года назад +3

      I can relate. Others can only see our true value through our achievements, but if we don’t talk about them they’ll never know. But talking about them can come across as vain. Better if they ask, but most aren’t interested, so it’s a problem. I guess the best strategy is just give a headline like “I’m a writer “. Then leave them to ask for more details if they want to.

  • @luudd5664
    @luudd5664 Год назад +2

    Infjs r born self above tribe and everyone else is just trying to pull them down/drag them back in

  • @shinoyashino7995
    @shinoyashino7995 2 года назад +1

    It’s true, an INFJ guy like me ( I’m INFJ too) but sometimes I feel like he may not be as mature as me, not being real enough. It’s hard to explain but I don’t feel like we are on the same page.
    I’m more estp subconscious oriented.

  • @mothnode
    @mothnode 2 месяца назад

    *Dives into season 31.* I appreciate you!

  • @nicholasmendez9108
    @nicholasmendez9108 2 года назад +4

    Thank you Mr. CS Joey!

  • @ashleyching5786
    @ashleyching5786 Год назад +1

    Women preserve social value
    Men build social value

  • @questinpodcast
    @questinpodcast 2 года назад +1

    I love your teaching style!! Will be exciting for your pre-order!

  • @user-hn2ou8nh5i
    @user-hn2ou8nh5i 2 года назад +12

    I’m 16M-INFJ: and i have started doing this. I made a routine that takes all of my day with everything that i want to perform very good/best at, but this routine is difficult, but it has gone well so far. How could i use my functions to the best potential to hold this routine without dating/having a (high Si user) influence me?

    • @gabriella.k8307
      @gabriella.k8307 2 года назад

      This is close to my question ...I think we're basically asking chase how to use our Istj super ego when we need it

    • @SykeeNot
      @SykeeNot 2 года назад +1

      Yay someone really tryna get some results and put some work in 😱😱👀😲😮😯😲😮😯😮😲😯❕😮😯😲😱. No si around you? Tap into your own si

    • @JB-qg3iw
      @JB-qg3iw 2 года назад +4

      Let go of Ni to use Si

    • @Pohzoz
      @Pohzoz 2 года назад +3

      What worked for me was conjoining my goals (Ni) with my routine (Si), that way you can use them both healthily together and not apart.

    • @user-hn2ou8nh5i
      @user-hn2ou8nh5i 2 года назад +1

      @@Pohzoz i actually noticed this. that i could hold this routine, when i combined my long term goals with this routine.

  • @gabriella.k8307
    @gabriella.k8307 2 года назад +11

    Can you please talk about how can I (as an infj) use my istj super ego (Si) to study and stick to study routine because you said that we need an istj study partner to study with but I don't have one, and medical school system forces every one to study like an Si/ Te user
    And I really need help because I'm falling at it 💔

    • @Fulano.de.Tal.
      @Fulano.de.Tal. 2 года назад

      Don't worry, if you fail the MCAT, you can always be a nurse.
      Lol i heard that joke and it kills when i tell it to people in medical school.
      In reality, i hope Chase responds to you and gives you a good answer.

    • @gabriella.k8307
      @gabriella.k8307 2 года назад +1

      @@Fulano.de.Tal. thanks god you're joking 🤣
      I'm actually a fourth year medical student ( in my country Medical school is 6 years)
      But the problem is that I need my scores to be way higher to match into a specialty ... Also bc I'm dying with every exam I prepare for ( exams here are 3 months long back to back with no breaks so it's killing me)

    • @faithyoung306
      @faithyoung306 2 года назад +2

      When I have to study for an exam or to be able to repeat something word for word, I write it down in my handwriting (with my own abbreviations) and study those notes. Also, with certification exams- study questions/exams work for me too.

    • @gabriella.k8307
      @gabriella.k8307 2 года назад +2

      @@faithyoung306 THANKSSSS🙏
      I really appreciate you sharing that and I will focus more on studying that was... But my problem is that medical school requires me to study about 10 hours a day in a room alone with books and it drives me crazy as a ppl focused person I just can't do it ... But there's been one exam that I kept falling and falling till I hit rock bottom and I told my self that either I'm gonna change or I'll quit med school cause I can't handle that much failure any more and that is when I was able to turn all the hate energy towards studying all day... I felt like a new person that I don't actually like but it did the work and I did very well on that exam, later it hit me that I was an istj for a week straight, so I really wish I could switch on and off when needed

    • @Memeparable
      @Memeparable 2 года назад +1

      Pamadora as a practice while studying helps a lot to maintain motivation

  • @puckbucky.5545
    @puckbucky.5545 2 года назад +1

    I really used to take your content for granted, I that much trusted your logic…

  • @LindiAdemaj1
    @LindiAdemaj1 2 года назад +1

    Hey I needed this

  • @Fulano.de.Tal.
    @Fulano.de.Tal. 2 года назад +5

    Hi Chase. What about feminine men? Not ladyboy or bi, or anything like that, just an NF guy that isn't masculine. Does the same Duality opposite (Masculine guy and feminine girl) still apply?
    I get along better with women because they understand me more, but trying to get a date is weird when i come off as a feminine guy. I'm not girly -just girl-ish in my way of thinking, which has put off a lot of girls (they lose interest really quick).
    Would you still recommend me watching 31st playlist you mention in this video?
    I don't know if trying to be more masculine may work for me, as I don't like doing masculine things, they simply don't interest me, and when i try, i simply feel like i am just lying to myself in my acting behavior.

    • @mrintj5164
      @mrintj5164 2 года назад +8

      Doing masculine things isn't really the component you should focus on. You can have very feminine interests and still do them in a masculine way or have them appear masculine. A funny example is the yoga instructor cliché. Its more about your mannerisms, competitive nature, awareness of value, competency, and well androgenicity. Androgenicity being the biological component of masculinity. Very masculine men can get away with very feminine interests or modes of thought. It actually tends to peak women's interests when a masculine man displays a feminine side, but it is a distinct turn off when a feminine man displays femininity. My best advice is to work out a lot, increase your natural testosterone levels, relentlessly work on goals / improve your value, and only once you have these things then focus on the personality / interests side of things.

    • @SirYITCHIN
      @SirYITCHIN 2 года назад

      Definitely still watch Season 31. Knowledge is power

    • @sarika_art_purchase2845
      @sarika_art_purchase2845 2 года назад +4

      When you practice owning yourself unapologetically and judging yourself for being too this or too that, harness your strengths, work on your weakness, you grow confidence. Regardless of type, or gender, people find confident people attractive, when you grow comfortable in your own skin, you get confident enough to step out of your comfort zone from time to time.
      You know what else is attractive? Attentiveness, thoughtfulness, treat a woman with respect, be observant of what she values, do they align with yours? We live in a new world, a sensitive (toward) a woman kind of guy can have the upper hand. Yes it is important that you empower yourself with ability, like having a job, money, a car to go on dates but it is not, in my opinion how seduction is done. Every woman is unique and different, find out what their "currency" is. The point of typing is to give one self awareness, to guage things. It is an INDICATOR. It is meant to help one learn the reasons WHY they experience themselves a certain way but it is not the bible. Not meant to push you to be someone you are not!

    • @marianbergroth8228
      @marianbergroth8228 2 года назад +3

      I actually think this is quite outdated advice. Of course, there are women who appreciate and are turned on by you and your feminine style. Why try to attract people who are not attracted? That seems like the opposite of self-love and a road to disaster. Instead: "Rise your vibration" you know. Why care about "women´s interest" as in women as a group? I mean, I guess you are looking for ONE girlfriend. The right one :) /Cheers, The former Tomboy

    • @coonieliabsiax3
      @coonieliabsiax3 Год назад

      it depends of what you want, if you want a femenine person then become masculine and viceversa

  • @rainbowmachine25
    @rainbowmachine25 2 года назад +2

    hmm I don't think extreme femininity is always more attractive to men
    Some man are more feminine and some females are more masculine which would reverse the dynamics
    That does not have any impact on the value of human beings....
    However, after listening to your video a bit more I think masculine and feminine mean different things when it comes to nature and nurture. So feminine interest leaning man can have a masculine sense of ambition and drive, can relate to that. That masculine archetype would be universally attractive to all types of females regardless of temperament.
    this is interesting and I would be curious to know more about these archetypes without referring to the gender roles and identity politics. And to know how these things are linked to biology, which would prove it all
    your content is forward thinking and food for thought even if I think it's controversial and really biased, you are still way more well read than me, which makes me have to consider it all, and your ability to piece stuff together is admirable. Time will tell what emerges from all of it!

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  2 года назад

      Only because they and you have been conditioned to be this way.

    • @rainbowmachine25
      @rainbowmachine25 2 года назад +2

      @@CSJoseph yeah but hyper-masculine man were also conditioned to be that way.
      So if I understand correctly you think men and women should be conditioned to be a certain way (to imitate traditional gender roles to a T) But isn't that counter intuitive for certain types?
      I think all human beings should try to integrate both their masculine and feminine traits since both are useful not sure it's worth being concerned with gender dynamics especially in relationships since too many people don't fit these boxes don't you think

    • @tharunthennarasu2839
      @tharunthennarasu2839 2 года назад

      @@rainbowmachine25 hypergamy doesn't care

  • @chrismantis1439
    @chrismantis1439 2 года назад +3

    This comes off as persuasive, but I really don't see any evidence to the framing of this video. Maximizing your masculinity? Maybe if you could define what it means to be masculine, but every person will have their own concept of what that means. This fitness, wealth, and reading 26 books seems a bit silly. Just be yourself and try to work towards being the best version of who you are, there's no template to self discovery.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  2 года назад +1

      That's what Season 31 painstakingly details.

  • @user-hn2ou8nh5i
    @user-hn2ou8nh5i 2 года назад +1

    How can a INFJ develop leadership skills?

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  2 года назад +9

      Surrounding themselves with good leaders will help as they mirror them and learn. Reading will help too.

  • @isabelledinneweth
    @isabelledinneweth 2 года назад +1

    Yes ,be real

  • @LAKESIDE-LIVING
    @LAKESIDE-LIVING 2 года назад

    I feel like he’s talking about me

  • @bananabreaduwu8246
    @bananabreaduwu8246 Год назад +1

    What about INFJ female?

  • @dookhynabeelah4897
    @dookhynabeelah4897 2 года назад

    Thanks for the advices 👍🏼👍🏼

  • @sarika_art_purchase2845
    @sarika_art_purchase2845 2 года назад +1

    Wow, this is so LIMITING! It must be hard to understand this type because they make up a small percentage of the population, but have to talk about them as an expert. It would make sense too why you would talk about the type, LIKE you know the type. You would have to maintain your reputation of expertise by doing so, right? So then, the advice would be possibly pretty limited and limiting. But you know your target age group, impressionable! Regardless of type, would listen to anybody who sounds like they know more than them!

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  2 года назад

      It is limited in scope to the question answered, more info in the lectures.

  • @nmorg1616
    @nmorg1616 2 года назад

    How is intj systematic with Si demon

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  2 года назад +1

      Si doesn't have anything to do with having a Systematic approach.

  • @fificore
    @fificore 2 года назад +4

    *Feminine= doormat.*

    • @dovio832
      @dovio832 2 года назад +4

      Nope! Being to nice= doormat.

    • @mrintj5164
      @mrintj5164 2 года назад +2

      @@dovio832 Not at all. You just need to know if you have the power to afford to be nice. Nice is only bad if it makes you vulnerable. Being unreasonably neurotic is also a turn off.

    • @chrismantis1439
      @chrismantis1439 2 года назад +1

      I’m a relatively feminine guy and I lay down pipe so wassup homie

    • @fificore
      @fificore 2 года назад +1

      @@mrintj5164: From the way CSJ describes femininity, it feels as though he's talking about voluntary captives.

    • @mrintj5164
      @mrintj5164 2 года назад +6

      @@fificore To be fair its pretty difficult to talk about these things as it runs in direct contrast to typical environmental values (Fe). Meaning one is pretty guarded when doing so. Its also why people typically retaliate through Fe to topics like this instead of considering and evaluating logically. Si inferior can also make one more sensitive to this topic so you might see quite a lot of negative emotion when he talks about this.
      That said I don't think he is wrong about the majority of this topic. But he is an Ne dom so he will go around amplifying the topic rather than clarifying, meaning he will probably overstep in some areas. Still I respect anyone who is willing to go against Fe values to get at actual truth.