Iv been with my husband for 16 years and we have learned (and I am glad you touched on) is that our FEELINGS in the moment is not more important than the family we have built.
Shawn is so right our parents never discussed anything. Always told you have to choose your battles. But it is so much healthier when you discuss it and resolve it and move forward. I have been married 35 years lots of ups and downs and have learned to communicate and respect each there feelings. You guys are doing great.
Thank you for making this episode. I grew up in a family where my parents would make us resolve conflicts in the heat of the moment instead of calming down first. This definitely gave me a new perspective and a more respectful way to talk to my husband on touchy topics. Thank you.
Thanks so much for this video, it is teaching me as a single lady to manage conflict better, I want to be prepared for when the right man comes one day, also thanks for mentioning my name in this episode. Peace and blessings 🙏
Exactly Shawn, my parents never talked about anything or told us kids anything. So now we have to break the cycle and let our children know emotions and feelings are OK to have and not everyone will always agree with you. And that’s ok.. ❤
My husband and I have been together 18, married 15, and as we have raised our kids and are older now, we are able to stop and realize that usually one or both of us is stressed or going through something and that whatever the argument is, is not what the actual issue is. We have learned to say "pause", ask if there are external factors causing this argument or if the issue is an actual real issue that needs talked through.
I freaking love this! I've been watching yall for quite some time now and seeing both of your growth is epic! Your growth in your relationship and as parents is outstanding! You help so much!!! Thanks again guys for sharing and I love yall!
I love your relationship. I have two young adult daughters and I would be thrilled for either of them to find a man like Andrew. Not to discount Shawn in this, but my kids are girls so I am always looking at the husband and thinking ''aww, what a great partner, dad, etc' LOL
Yes…about the parental generations and bottling things up! How do you help? Especially as our parents get older - how do you approach those topics and conversations? There is not a lot of self-awareness in our parents’ generations.
I love that y’all have learned these things when y’all are only 7 years in. I feel like it took my husband and I a good 12 years to learn these things. We’ve been married for 29 years and our marriage has been so much better ever since we learned how to approach touchy subjects and how to argue productively. Of course we are still learning, but our marriage has been so so much more enjoyable since we learned these skills through trial and error. I wish we had learned them earlier. But better later than never, right?!🤪We are so thankful that we persevered through the early years and worked on the hard stuff. As a result, we have such a deep and loving relationship. ❤️
44 years of marriage under my belt, and 3 children you’re still two different people with two very different opinions. A perfect marriage doesn’t exist unless you’re married to yourself. You will err along the way out of fear or hurt or unfair consequences. I believe it all can come from competition which is unfortunately, human survival
Obviously Dave Ramsey is like the extreme conservative end of finances. But I think all the methods of smart personal finance that aren't Dave Ramsey honestly take MORE and not less conscious effort. Because debt is bad. Most of the time, the interest you lose will outstrip any interest you make in the bank, and this while your money is constantly losing value against inflation, if the objective value goes down in concert with the purchasing power, it is an issue. Some people can leverage credit cards very well and not subconsciously overspend, I myself use credit cards. But I think keeping track of the cost effectiveness of everything, factoring in credit card points, your monthly budget and spending rate, it's more work and not necessarily less than just using the Ramsey method. So I don't see crushing Ramsey as a bad thing, even though I don't do it.
Ahh, marriage... 😅 My husband and I have been married 22 years, and it's still a roller coaster, but we are committed to riding it out. Some days are better than others.
Ok I have a question. Do you feel as a married couple, can you feel comfortable approaching the subject of having a brief crush or attraction on someone else. Example… years ago I was having a real emotional attraction to my doctor, long story short I went to my husband and told him all about it, he appreciated my honesty, he wasn’t threatened by it, it gave me a relief and we moved on. We were married almost 50 yrs he passed away Feb.3, 2020
Oooo I heard you say you’re in your 7th yr of marriage. Are you guys feeling, the “7 yr itch?” A lot of people say this is a real thing what’s your input?
u guys are so cute.........read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus !!!!!!.........talks of the diff of men and women, in general.....then go forward , :) good info,,,,,,,,,, of us , fundamentally ......
Iv been with my husband for 16 years and we have learned (and I am glad you touched on) is that our FEELINGS in the moment is not more important than the family we have built.
Shawn is so right our parents never discussed anything. Always told you have to choose your battles. But it is so much healthier when you discuss it and resolve it and move forward.
I have been married 35 years lots of ups and downs and have learned to communicate and respect each there feelings. You guys are doing great.
My therapist always said thoughts were like passing cars and you don't have to get in every one. You can just let them pass.
Yall, this is the best topic! Shawn I totally feel your psyco-analyzing and processing phase.😂 Or in Andrew's words, beating a dead horse 😂
A prayer that has helped me have self control with those “thoughts”.
Lord help me not to dwell on what I shouldn’t. 6:06
These are my favorite episodes! The 2am wake ups can really cause some tension… I can relate! 🤣
Thank you for making this episode. I grew up in a family where my parents would make us resolve conflicts in the heat of the moment instead of calming down first. This definitely gave me a new perspective and a more respectful way to talk to my husband on touchy topics. Thank you.
It is not just important to talk about all issues in marriage but CRITICAL! Man aren’t really good at it. I’m glad you are.
I used to watch y’all a few years back, before y’all had Drew, and I am just not coming back to watch y’all’s podcast. I have to say I love this.
Thanks so much for this video, it is teaching me as a single lady to manage conflict better, I want to be prepared for when the right man comes one day, also thanks for mentioning my name in this episode. Peace and blessings 🙏
I wish the episode has not ended that way. It would have been helpful to see how you to work through that moment. Curious how Shawn remembers it. ❤️
Even if it catches your attention don’t give it your attention! Go Shawn !
Exactly Shawn, my parents never talked about anything or told us kids anything. So now we have to break the cycle and let our children know emotions and feelings are OK to have and not everyone will always agree with you. And that’s ok.. ❤
I loved this podcast. I’d love to know how to get back to a good place with your spouse when one isn’t all in anymore and things feel so uncertain.
My husband and I have been together 18, married 15, and as we have raised our kids and are older now, we are able to stop and realize that usually one or both of us is stressed or going through something and that whatever the argument is, is not what the actual issue is. We have learned to say "pause", ask if there are external factors causing this argument or if the issue is an actual real issue that needs talked through.
Never go to bed angry…life is a gift…it is fragile. There is no guarantee you’ll have tomorrow to say: “I’m sorry…I love you”
You can see the bump here!
I love it when y'all talk about things like this!
I've only watched the solo episodes. I enjoy the mindset.
I freaking love this! I've been watching yall for quite some time now and seeing both of your growth is epic! Your growth in your relationship and as parents is outstanding! You help so much!!! Thanks again guys for sharing and I love yall!
Andrew was spot on with his description of the generational differences.
I love your relationship. I have two young adult daughters and I would be thrilled for either of them to find a man like Andrew. Not to discount Shawn in this, but my kids are girls so I am always looking at the husband and thinking ''aww, what a great partner, dad, etc' LOL
My husband and I will be married 36 years on Tuesday and we're still learning about each other.
I have been married for 40 years, and I believe expressing everything you think or feel is a prime opportunity to hurt your spouse.
shawn and drew look so much alike! they have so many of the same facial expressions!🥰😍
Yes…about the parental generations and bottling things up! How do you help? Especially as our parents get older - how do you approach those topics and conversations? There is not a lot of self-awareness in our parents’ generations.
I love that y’all have learned these things when y’all are only 7 years in. I feel like it took my husband and I a good 12 years to learn these things. We’ve been married for 29 years and our marriage has been so much better ever since we learned how to approach touchy subjects and how to argue productively. Of course we are still learning, but our marriage has been so so much more enjoyable since we learned these skills through trial and error. I wish we had learned them earlier. But better later than never, right?!🤪We are so thankful that we persevered through the early years and worked on the hard stuff. As a result, we have such a deep and loving relationship. ❤️
This a great conversation guys! Thank you for doing this.
Great episode!
You can be right or you can be happy. Too many people want to be right….
You have got to get Taylor & Travis on at some point. They need a bit more time to couple it up though. ❤
44 years of marriage under my belt, and 3 children you’re still two different people with two very different opinions. A perfect marriage doesn’t exist unless you’re married to yourself. You will err along the way out of fear or hurt or unfair consequences. I believe it all can come from competition which is unfortunately, human survival
The touchiest subjects in my relationship are money, physical intimacy and quality time.
Obviously Dave Ramsey is like the extreme conservative end of finances. But I think all the methods of smart personal finance that aren't Dave Ramsey honestly take MORE and not less conscious effort. Because debt is bad. Most of the time, the interest you lose will outstrip any interest you make in the bank, and this while your money is constantly losing value against inflation, if the objective value goes down in concert with the purchasing power, it is an issue.
Some people can leverage credit cards very well and not subconsciously overspend, I myself use credit cards. But I think keeping track of the cost effectiveness of everything, factoring in credit card points, your monthly budget and spending rate, it's more work and not necessarily less than just using the Ramsey method. So I don't see crushing Ramsey as a bad thing, even though I don't do it.
Have Dave Ramsey on the podcast. I’m interested.
The most awkward ending ever lol
What do u do if one person talks and the other just does not respond. This always deteriorates into a full blown argument
Ahh, marriage... 😅 My husband and I have been married 22 years, and it's still a roller coaster, but we are committed to riding it out. Some days are better than others.
Ok I have a question. Do you feel as a married couple, can you feel comfortable approaching the subject of having a brief crush or attraction on someone else. Example… years ago I was having a real emotional attraction to my doctor, long story short I went to my husband and told him all about it, he appreciated my honesty, he wasn’t threatened by it, it gave me a relief and we moved on. We were married almost 50 yrs he passed away Feb.3, 2020
Love this show
What is the pre marital counseling did you go too?
Is "redirected" coming back!?
the ending LMAO
Oooo I heard you say you’re in your 7th yr of marriage. Are you guys feeling, the “7 yr itch?” A lot of people say this is a real thing what’s your input?
They talked about this in a previous episode! Maybe the beginning of the year
This is fucked up....... No one can make you do anything and I hate addicts who blame themselves for their addiction,.... no.
😂 to be continued….. 😂
Drippling?…DRIPPLING?
😂
Great word
😂
u guys are so cute.........read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus !!!!!!.........talks of the diff of men and women, in general.....then go forward , :) good info,,,,,,,,,, of us , fundamentally ......
Need to add in-laws to that list!!! @andrewdeast
@shawnjohnsoneast