@@gargamellenoir8460 well, instead of blaming yourself for being lazy or that you're not disciplined enough. U could just do small tasks that don't require much motivation and get rewarded with enough motivation to do the bigger ones
Yeah but he's emphasizing "literally" because eye opening, literally, means that it makes you physically open your eyes. Like some type of torture device. Metaphorically however, it means that something is enlightening in some way. But people use "literally" as an exaggeration instead of as a way of clarifying that you're not saying something metaphorically, and that's what gargamel is pointing out.
@@Warriorfall lit·er·al·ly Informal used for emphasis or to express strong feeling while not being literally true. "I was literally blown away by the response I got"
Comment for the algorithm Personal notes: 15:10 - Cultivating motivation (garden analogy) 16:29 - Discipline explaination (deposits and withdrawals) 24:17 - 7 things to take care of yourself
The slow and steady approach always wins in the end. The human mind really _hates_ fast change - there are no magical pills and fast solutions for the majority of problems out there
honestly, part of the problem is there actually are things that act like magic pills and fast solutions, but their effects have barely any duration, so the benefit decays into the negatives below where you started which makes you rely on doing it again instead of doing things that sustainably improve motivation.
Interesting viewpoint. Kind of motivational. Fast results and benefit is what we all crave but the more you look at it maybe some things are arguably better and easier done slow and steady!
My impatience to improve is one the biggest contributors to failing, sometimes even before I start. That's when I get sort of doomer and it screws everything up for a while. Being 25 with a pending bachelor's doesn't help either.
I was very motivated last year to craft a daily routine, learn art and programming, and improve myself mentally, but this all came as a reaction to the intense existential dread I got from quitting my previous job. Now that I have found another job and am doing well, I find that my motivation for anything else is completely drained. I suspect there was some element of toxic productivity going on, but that intensely motivated state I was in for those few months felt really good, and I kind of want it back.
@@ValenLock1 Quite possibly, in fact I anticipated that happening. This is the first job I've had that I didn't dislike, and I'm not about to quit anytime soon, so I just gotta learn to work around it.
@@luke2017 Yeah its possible that it could be a cycle for OP. I went through something similar too when I quit my job. I think the key thing to remember is to look after yourself while you have a job, making sure you won't burn out. For me it's practising emotional awareness throughout the day, and relaxing outdoors after work, meeting up with friends, etc. Building skills can be just as draining as a job, so taking breaks may be what you need.
Don't say this, I'm in basically the exact same situation but without the follow-up job. :( Although I suppose the difference in my case is that I quit my job because of the intense existential dread it gave me rather than deriving that dread from my unemployment. I quit to hopefully hone my ability to write music and potentially make a career of that. I've been floundering a bit with my daily routine but I'm hoping I can keep it going for now and hopefully past whenever I do end up getting another job.
I cannot quantify how much this man changed my life & how many things I have learned about myself through this content. Absolute Legend, thank you Dr.K!
This resonates with me so much. I always felt like my motivation dropped to -20 after a weekend of "doing nothing to rest". Doesn't work for me, I need to keep rolling even a bit...
I would LOVE to have a follow up video explaining the actual mechanism and breaking down the "7 things". Like, WHY does exercising raises the bar overall and video game doesn't. Same for fruits compared to pizza. It's sounds like those things are pretty obvious using common knowledge, but I feel like little to no one actually understands what happens to our body and mind while we do these healthy habits.
yeah, when he talked about eating just fruits and nuts for a day and someone asked how does this help I was expecting a medical/biological explanation, but he just answered "oh because this will give you more motivation". (not that I don't believe that's true, but I find that often I'll have a much bigger chance of actually trying something out when I know some of the reasons behind it 😅)
@@DeboraSolnikI suspect you mean objectively and scientifically but I’d like to offer another perspective as well. I think it may have to do with our minds ability to adjust relative to its surroundings. Our mind continually seeks the highest form of stimulation and it more often than not gets it. This means shopping, junk food, sex, video games, etc. I’ve heard this theory pop up often in the realm of “dopamine detox” content and it’s actually very simple to self-prove this theory. I used to be a sugar fiend, and I mean, eat an entire cake for lunch kind of sugar freak. When I was in my late teens I decided to give up sugar to improve my health. Within a few months, I couldn’t even eat a cookie because it was overwhelmingly sweet and now fruits provide the same level (or perceived level) of sensory pleasure as sugar once did. Going to work, spending time with friends, working out… all the things we “want” to improve can’t come anywhere close to the pleasure porn can provide, as an example. So in this case, the brain sets this as the baseline expectation and anything on a “lower tier” now has no “value” to our brains novelty and pleasure seeking centers. Not only that, but these high-pleasure activities quickly and easily form entrenched neural pathways, turning into cravings and addictions. Then we really stuck in the loop. Sad thing is our society actually encourages a lot of these activities and behaviors. I am very confident this is why people can have such transformative experiences through meditation; particularly extended periods of dedicated meditation like a formal retreat. It’s as if it functions like a reset for the mind, restoring us to our baseline biological state. I always find it helpful to remind myself that functionally we all are animals born of nature, meant to be with nature, but thrown into a life full of unnatural environments and artificial stimuli. These 7 things (+social connection) are what fundamentally make up the natural human experience. By returning to them, we return to the very functions that formed us.
7 aspects to stay healthy: sunlight, food, water, air, sleep, air, excercise, meditation. I'll disagree and add human interaction to make 8. And I don't mean your Steam/League friend of a random passerby; I mean someone you actually have a connection with, care about and trust in. Might not cause immediate harm like a lack of water, but it's a slow killer. It'll get you in the end.
I gotta agree, human interaction motivates me in some way. Even a simple interaction would be enough, it’s hard to fine someone you can deeply talk with. I love talking to myself (reflections) but the scary part is sometimes I don’t realize I was self-sabotaging and little interactions made me realize those.
Exercise: Increases max bank amount Taking sips of Gatorade/suger water increases glucose levels in the front of your brain which helps maintain focus if your like, doing a test.
0:00 - Intro 0:23 - Cycles of boom & bust when it comes to motivation 1:29 - How the west views motivation 7:59 - Motivational Deposits & Withdrawals 14:01 - How diet/food affects your motivation 16:28 - What about discipline
This is the golden nugget that expands on so many other areas that used to have cryptic mystical meaning in a practical sense. The idea that you need to give motivation to gain motivation. What you focus on expands. What you give is what you get. What you tune into you become. Whoever has will be given more, whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. Sacrifice vs. instant gratification etc. Like a missing piece to it all for me. Definitely an eye opener. Awesome stuff, thanks a lot!
With the example of the gym and motivation being like withdrawals and deposits from a bank account... Coming from a guy that used to go to a gym for years. In the beginning, there's a lot of withdrawal and little deposit. However the withdrawals get less and less and the deposits become more and more, eventually what happens is the withdrawals reach a zero (this might be like 3-4 months of consistency) and deposits reach a large max, much larger than what your very first withdrawal was and then you just wanna go all the time. At least that's what I wanted to do. Lol. This makes so much sense to me and is so relatable. Plus the analogy of it being like watering a plant is so true. You gotta keep watering it otherwise you'll be unknowingly taking steps backwards.
Thank you Dr. K I needed to hear this! When my mind constantly reminded me it was depressed I did a lot to take care of myself: Woke up very early every day, prayed before sunrise, did yoga at sunrise, and read scripture after that, and only THEN would I get dressed and try to study. I would cook a homemade meal most nights too. Now I don't do any of these things because I now have most of the things I want: more good days where I can productively study than before, friends, and a partner who seems to genuinely want a serious relationship with me. I reasoned it like "I'm feeling pretty good now, it all seems fine." Now I am back to spending hours on reddit sometimes. But I reasoned, "yeah I've done some studying, I've been trying to process my emotions and that's hard, I just worked on apartment seeking with my partner, that's stressful, so it's well deserved." So thank you for reminding me that I am only making things harder for myself in the end even if it feels like forgetting everything for a short time.
I definitely went through the successful highs and lows but recently I've changed my habits to things that add up motivation points and that I also enjoy doing like reading, studying, being organized, exercising, and such.
I really wish Dr K would publish the audio from his streams as a podcast, would be great to listen to when I’m on the go Edit: apparently there already is a podcast? I wish he would put the podcast on Apple Podcasts because I had no idea this existed
15:10 - Cultivating motivation (garden analogy) 16:29 - Discipline explaination (deposits and withdrawals) 24:17 - 7 things to take care of yourself, sunlight, food, water, air, sleep, air, excercise, meditation.
A Navy SEAL (I’m drawing a blank on the name) wrote a book called Make Your Bed, which elaborated on the idea that beginning every day with a tiny, two-minute achievement, will enhance your motivation to complete other, bigger, more significant tasks as the day goes on. Really interesting stuff.
This talk reminds me of the book atomic habits. The book is about how small habits that improve your life by 1% every day add up to a kind of compound interest until you become the person you want to be. However because they are habits you have to keep doing them. Make habits of the small buffs like exercise, eating good and meditating and over time you will see the results. On top of that habits will be easier to keep up after sticking with them so they become routine and you have more motivation to add other stuff on top of your existing habits. Found it interesting that grooming yourself or keeping yourself clean wasn't one of the 7 things that result into health. Enjoyed the video and I'm looking forward to the next one!
This blew my mind. When he said we think motivation is something we have before an action, but it's something we can also gain FROM that action. Ugh this makes me feel so much better about feeling depressed and guilty that I don't have motivation
Tbh I feels like the problems came from changing your habits to quickly , like a sudden change . Example I decided my self to do push up everyday , for like a month , for a first week it was fine but then the second week I was completely exhausted and burnout. This is where I realize I have to take a step by step instead of just full sprint in whatever I'm doing
That's highly dependent on the person and activity. For losing weight I cut any source of added sugar from the get go without tapering in. I also started lifting weights consistently jumping right in soon after that. Two years later and I'm still lifting weights and I still avoid added sugar, although I allow it from time to time now that I feel I have better control over the temptation. I sure as hell can't get myself to study consistently though.
This is why people with adhd have such a hard time! Going to the gym costs motivation and exercising pays back modivation BUT, people with adhd are payed back less and have less in the bank to begin with. That's why medication is effective, it's use is to normalize the banked motivation as well as the rewards of cleaning a room or exercising.
I feel you friend. I'm learning how to reward myself more to mitigate the losses. Buddy of mine has this theory about ritualistic behavior being good for ADHD (he's had it his whole life). The idea is making little rituals that engage your senses in a positive way AFTER you make a withdrawal to reinforce the behavior. Something small, something silly, something you can get excited about. It's easy for ADHDers to get excited lol His example (which is really weird) to get to sleep on time, every night he pours essential oil and water into this beautiful wooden bowl and washes his face and arms with it. It engages his sense of smell touch and sight (pretty bowl) and he actually looks forward to going to sleep because he gets to do his little weird ritual lol it's gotta be personal to you though
Yeah, the bank ballance is actually the perfect example, because it works exactly this way with money. And it is this quality of "one thing creating more of itself" that causes the rock bottoms and the cycles, both in poverty/wealth and motivation. Because if you have money, you need to "spend it" (invest it in some way) to make more money, or you can also actually spend it on things that bring no money back... And when you spend it like this, you lose your tool to create more, while at the same time, you also have nothing more to spend. But since spending is what you generally want to do - buy pizza or clothes or a car - you will be desperate to get more money to spend, right? And when you finally have some money, you want to immediately spend it. The idea of investing the money moves even further back in your mind. Over time, you forget that it even exists. And you are trapped, because money is the common denominator for both the spending and the "creating more money". So many people with solid income feel trapped, because the idea of using money productively is all but forgotten, while their "needs" have grown exactly proportionate to what they earn... or, God forbid, their needs surpass what they earn. It also causes relatively wealthy people to lose their wealth, exactly in the same way as with motivation - because as they focus on getting more money, they start to feel like they ARE wealthy and stop paying attention... and over time, their income/spending get closer and closer, cross over each other and... downwards trend occurs. With motivation - the actions that can make you feel more motivated, require motivation to do them. It is an "investment". While the "fun" action also drain your motivation. it is "spending". Motivation is common for both, so you get the same trap effect. The trap effect is especially brutal, because when you are at the very bottom, you really dont have much to work with, even when you suddenly recognize the problem and start solving it. And with motivation, the idea of (for example) working out every day, is just not within your budget at all. So one has to start smaller, and that is seemingly slow and one feels like there is no point and blahblah... Same with money - if you have so little, that even if you cut all spending to minimum, its barely worth anything, you will feel unmotivated to try... and yeah... its just a trap :D I fall into in all the time. With both.
This definitely help explain the motivation deposit/withdrawal analogy because I was wondering what would be considered good or bad/deposit or withdrawal and ig it's being productive and getting things u need/want to do done that helps or take away from motivation
Maybe motivation come from doing something we afraid to do , so the more you overcome the fear of starting and actually doing it , the more confident your are thus improving your motivation
No as per dr k. Doing something you fear will cost motivation and but overcoming the fear will deposit motivation. Fear has big motivation cost so people see it as Life changing because it's deposit is too big to get empty fast.
@@Mayurbhedru actually yes, for the exact same reasoning you gave. Fear requires a motivation withdraw, but overcoming the fear by doing it reaps a HUGE motivation deposit. The more things you are afraid to do and accomplish the smaller the motivation withdraw you would require to accomplish things that you are afraid to do, which in turn would reap larger and larger motivational deposits.
This is interesting, people should keep making strides forward even without motivation. New to his channel and did not understand what the channel was about at first. Keep up the good work
I really liked this vod. It felt really concrete. What I love with this I that I can actually follow the advice and understand why I do it. Not just go to the gym bro or if you start doing stuff it’ll probably be better. I am just left with no idea why I do it. Going out running for example helps but is also a very big drag since I just have in mind that I’ll have to do the same thing over and over again and maybe it will get better soon. That’s why knowing how it I’ll affect me and why I actually do it really helps.
Often the most basic unit of transformation is a single choice. Each single choice builds on top of another, and over time, this builds up our transformation.
An amazing thing about these videos is that everytime that I watch them (obviously not in a row but spaced some time apart) I get some small bit of knowledge or idea to ponder that applies to my current situation. Love it 👍
I had to stop before I even hit 00:30 because of the huge grin that sprung upon my face at "Big problems don't require big solutions". Damn Dr. K, you're good.
That's litterally the best video you've put out for me, I'm takleing my leftover exams this month and I generally don't have any big problems nor I had a difficult childhood/trauma. Thanks for the content you put out and the value you bring to us. Have a nice one
The talk about motivation deposits and withdrawals and how some activities are a net deposit reminds me of the concept of activation energy from chemistry. Sometimes you have to put energy into a system to get a reaction to happen. Sometimes that reaction generates more energy than you had to put in.
What I'e found in my life (shockingly lol) is that eating healthy, sleeping the necessary amount (find this out on your own) and keeping healthy habits (meditation, some exercise or activity and doing productive things even if they're not work) make me feel so good and they give me energy to keep doing other stuff. So basically what Dr K said lol
What stuck out to me was the pitfall of becoming attached to identity based-motivation - “I am a motivated person or I am an unmotivated person.” Instead we might consider that motivation fluctuates based on a multitude of factors and that activities may draw from or add to our motivation. Some activities may have an immediate cost, but generate future returns. It is easy for me to feel overwhelmed by the sea of possibilities and neglect small tasks as inconsequential. I can now better see how this contributes to my problems with motivation.
I would add a social aspect to that list of 7 things that improve health. Your brain deteriorates without human contact. I often wish for that pill or treatment that give me a moment where things click and I can finally improve. What I have to remind myself though, is exercise, food, etc is also literally medicine. It changes your brain chemistry in a positive way. If you have an unhealthy diet or lifestyle it will change your self image of yourself for the worse.
Seriously looking and applying for jobs is incredibly draining because for every 10 jobs I apply for, the ones that I interview and don't get the job just drain it all. I haven't been able to find a job in a year and a half and haven't been able to qualify for any type of gov benefits this entire time so I went through 20 k of my savings and it's just so demoralizing. Honestly having the motivation to play games and especially stream is almost impossible. I feel like my motivation deposits are just getting out of bed. If I don't I literally sleep 16 hours a day. My mind wants to move but I just physically can't and it's not like when you wake up in the morning and you hit the snooze it's more like you wake up and try to force your body to move and it only flinches. I don't know how else to explain it. Taking vitamins def feels like a deposit and so does talking out loud for me at least. Sometimes I go weeks or days without talking out loud. I try not to use whatever I'm going through as a crutch or attach a label to it because I don't want to use it as an excuse when I talk to someone about it like my cat. lol
"How you do anything, is how you do everything." Small, everyday productive activities (cleaning, reading for few minutes, showering in cold water...) spiral to macro behaviours (looking for job, college workload, etc.).
this is my first time writing a comment to dr.k video bc this topic has resonated with me so much more than i initially realized. I have always had problems with self discipline regarding school and education, but this became so much worse after i started doing my freelance work at home, now i have to be my own boss and relearn so many things. Honestly it so tough to pick yourself up and make myself do what i have to do, but i hope this painful proccess will be worth it in the end
Played video games all my life then took a 6 month break and figured out im highly conscientious. I recently went back to video games but with moderation and if I play too long my brain feels dull 🤣
6:45 Both influence each other in a self fulfilling prophecy I believe that faith or predictions based on a deep understanding of reality plays a big role in our ability or willingness to invest in motivation. To invest motivation in something that will return me in the future the costs of my motivation + profits I have to expect that there will be a tomorrow and that in such tomorrow I'll enjoy the fruits of today's motivation and hard work. My understanding of reality allows me to expect that even though now the sun is gone I know that the sun will come back at dawn. If I didn't have that kind of understanding then the next best thing to have is faith or hope. One should fill in the gaps of knowledge with hope, while at the same time trying to maximize knowledge and understanding as to be more effective in our decisions and to not have to rely on hope. If no one believes that there will be a field of roses tomorrow then no one will put the effort of planting and taking care of them today.
For me personally I see people on the internet and they say things like "I dont dip my foot in the water, i dive in head first, all in!" - thats not me at all. If I dont make small steps towards something it'll just collapse and I won't bother. To turn big, lofty scary goals into something more manageable is important for some people, especially anxious ones.
- La motivación es como el saldo del banco, ciertas acciones "retiran" motivación y otras lo depositan, o ambas al mismo tiempo (como ir al gym). La motivación es un estado, no una característica, no es como una casa, que una vez construida se mantiene firme, es más como un jardín el cual se tiene que mantener a diario para que no muera. - 7 cosas para una buena salud: Luz del sol, Aire, Agua, Meditación, Sueño, Alimentación, Ejercicio.
I feel how true this is... I ve be going to the gym literally every single day for 6 months and it felt like it was super easy, like it was my identity I can never lose... Then I decided do take a break for a month and now it is really tought to start going to the gym again especially when I dont have a coach I used to work with. I have to force myself to do it... It is like building an old habit I had from scratch. Hope I will get back on track soon.
The problem is that people are using the word motivation incorrectly, it's being used interchangeably with "enthusiasm." Motivation isn't whether or not you feel like you want something, it is the very something you want, that's it. What you have to do now is converse with yourself to see if what you want, is infact what you want, won't you get it if you're intrinsically compelled by it?
@@TheMysteriousHi What I meant was is that having an intrinsic reason, or a motivation is a good place to start if you want to achieve something. You may be given a hot plate, but it's well deserved in that case. Sorry if I made that confusing, I didn't mean it that way.
Problem with this is that intrinsic motivation (i.e. motivation for the like of doing something) is actually super uncommon for most things. In the motivational literature they make a distinction between intrinsic and other motivations. The education literature pooh poohs those professors, for example, who claim students should be intrinsically motivated to learn every topic/study in their class--students may not know of the topic's existence and their motivation to be in the class may be completely unrelated to the topic itself (e.g., they want to become a doctor but they don't actually care about chemistry, for example) and that those non-intrinsic motivators are valid. They basically say that we shouldn't look down on other types of motivation--people are allowed to do things for other reasons. We shouldn't expect everyone to be intrinsically motivated to do something (and alternatively we shouldn't only restrict ourselves to only pursing intrinsic interests/motivations).
Here's a motivation hack. If your apartment is too messy and you cannot get yourself to clean it, put 10 minute timer on a phone and spend that time cleaning it, each day. And if you feel like, in a groove don't stop with a timer. So instead of saying, I need to clean the kitchen today and seeing it's too large a task to do and cannot force yourself to do start. Just do ANYTHING for 10 minutes towards cleaning your apartment. And then one day your apartment is clean. And you didn't really have to push yourself through the barrier of that task takes so much time and effort that I don't really feel like starting.
His point on the urge of finding THE BIG solution hits home. Since a lack of motivation is such a huge problem for anyone and degrades literally every area of their life, its true that its a big problem, at least for them. Hence they believe, that there must me some hidden magical talisman solution that will be the key. I think its partly their ego at play, which always expects something phenomenal, like a sudden event or awakening which will motivate you through the rest of life. And, hence we keep looking for it and every time we believe to have found it, we realize later that its not the one. We need to realize that motivation is a fluctuating state of mind and there is not a bingo solution, we have to continually uplift ourselves and others so that we are on the profitable side of transaction.
21:45 Yup..I used to only eat fruitn on an empty stomach(a stupid myth i followed to no avail for like 7+ years) and I recently starting eating a little bit of fruit with all my meals, even of it doesnt make sense and my digestion drastically improved. Even if I have coffee all the food stays in my stomache. No stomache pain or diarhea. I have energy to work now.
I've noticed that when I am looking for big solutions to what I see as big problems it so I don't actually have to put in the work. I know the solution is lots of little tiny steps but I don't want to do it. My ego can't handle that answer so it comes up with this idea that there must be a sliver bullet out there I just haven't found it yet. That way I can sedate myself with looking for the big solution while continuing life as normal and it reduces the angst of not working toward that goal.
Bruh I actually did Dr. K's suggestion on the sattvic diet fast yesterday of only consuming water, fruits, nuts, dairy, and berries. I felt great yesterday and just ate normally today. It was easy for me to wake up this morning and wasnt as distracted working from home today. I'm ususally very sluggish when I wake up in the morning so this is very interesting. Definitely gonna spend some time to see what I should change in my everyday diet.
Very good point about the BIG5 tests (and similar tests) as well. Its self reported. So if you go in, unmotivated, you get a result that you are unmotivated. Big surprise. But then one tends to view it as this magical prophecy, that extends from now to the future. If that happens, you are screwed :D Because all it means is, that you took your current situation and solidified that is also going to be your future situation... The way to actually view it is like an identification of current weak points, that you can improve, or ideally work around. It is not a crystal ball simulator.
Small correction: if going to meetings, self-will or group support helps a person to stay sober, he’s not an alcoholic. He’s a heavy drinker. Working the program every day that’s what helps a true alcoholic to stay sober.
I literally can feel this everyday and try not to do things that withdraw too much sometimes but still not that good at it. it really helps understanding it and knowing what is happening everyday in my life.
To the person spamming in chat about what to do if they have 0 motivation and everything feels like a huge undertaking: Just start with some small, positive action - take a walk, make a healthy meal, go a day drinking only water. Do one small thing each day for a week, and see how it impacts your motivation to potentially even do more.
Watching this video was a small withdraw but a huge deposit. Feeling stacked with buffs, now the trick is to continue keeping these buffs up by taking care of myself
I love your content, I hate your thumbnails, whenever I look at them I feel like I'm going to watch a con artist or one of those cheap life-style choaches, anyways, thank you so mucn for your content
@@D_Jilla This is a good point. We're in the meta where content creators are incentivized to make "troupe-y" thumbnails and titles. We're in the attention economy stage of the modern internet.
@@nudibranch8659 yeah and whatever attention economy means in relation to other stages, at this point we just need to remember to hate the game and not player. I don't blame the HG team for working within the META, as you said.
21:18 "reduce what kind of macronutrients you take in. " one day a week eat only: fruits, nuts and dairy and water. = motivation +3 for next few days. 21:33 "no veggies"
As a stab in the dark I feel like it has to do with reward. Nuts, fruits, and milk aren't exactly rewarding foods but they are nutritious. Think of a rewarding food as one you can consume to excess (pizza, potato chips, fries, etc). It's my own personal opinion that indulging in highly rewarding, low effort behaviors tells your body it doesn't need to put in much effort in the future to be rewarded again. Everything he said that helps with motivation takes effort or isn't highly rewarding to the body/mind in the act or moment.
I love what Dr. K does to help this community, but beyond analogy I don't understand the scientific angle to promoting a sattvic diet. It's subjective and not supported by science, even though being mindful about what, when and how much you eat is very useful. Using analogies to make a point is problematic, because people may jump on the sattvic diet, which, from a health perspective, doesn't seem to be recommendable compared to modern science backed nutrition paradigms (government recommendation are not scientifically optimal diets, they are meant to be easier to achieve than those...)
tfw 7 things needed include- sleep and sunlight... gotta be up for work then inside a building all day with no exposure to sunlight ;).. ( i get a little sun in the morning if its not crappy out that kinda it.
We forget anothee factor here, its called habits... We build habits that we associate with laziness we call ot "bad habits" But suddenly when we talk about wanting to be better at something, we blame it on motivation... You can make it easier on yourself if you learn how to build habits that are benefitial to your purpose of life.
7 things you should do to take care of yourself 1-Sunlight 2-Food 3-Water 4-Air 5-Sleep 6-Excersice 7-Meditation 20:00 1 day a week only eat fruits, nuts and dairy +3 motivación
I dont even have enough motivation to play video games anymore. I don't think things are hopeless, but its intimidating to see just how far I have to climb.
very nice , i was wondering what this feeling was my motivation was feeling weird(bit overwelming), the bank example realy eplained it (i havent had it this full in a long time) i was worried that i would goo down too much resulting in a bad motivation, i now understand why i was worried about that. i notice now i have a sustainable balance (withdraw and deposeting going realy well make small increments, spending changes over time) i see the value go up slowly, i started at lets say 0~75 and now i am at 50~150 its going really well just realy proud wanted to share and also realy happy i can still learn a ton its gives me well +10 balance (if not more )
![Megan Thee Stallion - Bigger In Texas [Official Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/QxTkZTLWdo4/mqdefault.jpg)
His analogy for motivation as a cycle of transactions is freaking brilliant, like literally eye-opening.
ikr
*Literally* eye opening? How?
@@gargamellenoir8460 well, instead of blaming yourself for being lazy or that you're not disciplined enough. U could just do small tasks that don't require much motivation and get rewarded with enough motivation to do the bigger ones
Yeah but he's emphasizing "literally" because eye opening, literally, means that it makes you physically open your eyes. Like some type of torture device. Metaphorically however, it means that something is enlightening in some way. But people use "literally" as an exaggeration instead of as a way of clarifying that you're not saying something metaphorically, and that's what gargamel is pointing out.
@@Warriorfall lit·er·al·ly
Informal
used for emphasis or to express strong feeling while not being literally true.
"I was literally blown away by the response I got"
Idk why but just listening to dr K and understanding this kind of stuff really helps a lot
yeah, I wonder why... watching anime tiddies doesn't help
@@justgivemeanumber8215 wtf? 😅
@@justgivemeanumber8215 777
f
Awareness precedes control
Comment for the algorithm
Personal notes:
15:10 - Cultivating motivation (garden analogy)
16:29 - Discipline explaination (deposits and withdrawals)
24:17 - 7 things to take care of yourself
7 aspects to stay healthy:
sunlight, food, water, sleep, air, excercise, meditation.
@@iche9373 u wrote air twice
@@SS-yl5wo lol
Take a shot every time Dr. K says “I know this is kinda weird”
'let me think for a second'
Drunk in 8 minutes
Ok, but please make sure you know your limit! 😹
🫨🤪😹
I wish Dr. K would read audio books, I love his voice and energy
Yes he has that kinna voice that's very tolerable for audiobooks
Check out "Astrum" channel (it's about astronomy). That guy has probably the best voice I've heard.
The slow and steady approach always wins in the end. The human mind really _hates_ fast change - there are no magical pills and fast solutions for the majority of problems out there
honestly, part of the problem is there actually are things that act like magic pills and fast solutions, but their effects have barely any duration, so the benefit decays into the negatives below where you started which makes you rely on doing it again instead of doing things that sustainably improve motivation.
Interesting viewpoint. Kind of motivational. Fast results and benefit is what we all crave but the more you look at it maybe some things are arguably better and easier done slow and steady!
lol i feel like we are all hopelessly addicted to magical pills and fast solutions
My impatience to improve is one the biggest contributors to failing, sometimes even before I start. That's when I get sort of doomer and it screws everything up for a while. Being 25 with a pending bachelor's doesn't help either.
@@MO-zk8qs impatience can be a really big hindrance indeed. Our entire lifestyle contributes to cultivating impatience
I was very motivated last year to craft a daily routine, learn art and programming, and improve myself mentally, but this all came as a reaction to the intense existential dread I got from quitting my previous job. Now that I have found another job and am doing well, I find that my motivation for anything else is completely drained. I suspect there was some element of toxic productivity going on, but that intensely motivated state I was in for those few months felt really good, and I kind of want it back.
@@ValenLock1 Quite possibly, in fact I anticipated that happening. This is the first job I've had that I didn't dislike, and I'm not about to quit anytime soon, so I just gotta learn to work around it.
Quits job due to mental health reasons -> Works on mental health -> Mental health improves -> Lands new job -> Stops working on mental health -> ...
@@luke2017 Yeah its possible that it could be a cycle for OP. I went through something similar too when I quit my job. I think the key thing to remember is to look after yourself while you have a job, making sure you won't burn out.
For me it's practising emotional awareness throughout the day, and relaxing outdoors after work, meeting up with friends, etc. Building skills can be just as draining as a job, so taking breaks may be what you need.
You did stuff to upkeep your motivation cause you had existential dread from not having job. Once you found job, you stopped. He talks about it.
Don't say this, I'm in basically the exact same situation but without the follow-up job. :( Although I suppose the difference in my case is that I quit my job because of the intense existential dread it gave me rather than deriving that dread from my unemployment. I quit to hopefully hone my ability to write music and potentially make a career of that. I've been floundering a bit with my daily routine but I'm hoping I can keep it going for now and hopefully past whenever I do end up getting another job.
I cannot quantify how much this man changed my life & how many things I have learned about myself through this content. Absolute Legend, thank you Dr.K!
This resonates with me so much. I always felt like my motivation dropped to -20 after a weekend of "doing nothing to rest". Doesn't work for me, I need to keep rolling even a bit...
Yes i feel the same too. Try to just relax whole day make it worse..
I would LOVE to have a follow up video explaining the actual mechanism and breaking down the "7 things". Like, WHY does exercising raises the bar overall and video game doesn't. Same for fruits compared to pizza. It's sounds like those things are pretty obvious using common knowledge, but I feel like little to no one actually understands what happens to our body and mind while we do these healthy habits.
yeah, when he talked about eating just fruits and nuts for a day and someone asked how does this help I was expecting a medical/biological explanation, but he just answered "oh because this will give you more motivation". (not that I don't believe that's true, but I find that often I'll have a much bigger chance of actually trying something out when I know some of the reasons behind it 😅)
@@DeboraSolnik Exactly ! Same here
@@DeboraSolnikI suspect you mean objectively and scientifically but I’d like to offer another perspective as well. I think it may have to do with our minds ability to adjust relative to its surroundings. Our mind continually seeks the highest form of stimulation and it more often than not gets it. This means shopping, junk food, sex, video games, etc. I’ve heard this theory pop up often in the realm of “dopamine detox” content and it’s actually very simple to self-prove this theory.
I used to be a sugar fiend, and I mean, eat an entire cake for lunch kind of sugar freak. When I was in my late teens I decided to give up sugar to improve my health. Within a few months, I couldn’t even eat a cookie because it was overwhelmingly sweet and now fruits provide the same level (or perceived level) of sensory pleasure as sugar once did.
Going to work, spending time with friends, working out… all the things we “want” to improve can’t come anywhere close to the pleasure porn can provide, as an example. So in this case, the brain sets this as the baseline expectation and anything on a “lower tier” now has no “value” to our brains novelty and pleasure seeking centers. Not only that, but these high-pleasure activities quickly and easily form entrenched neural pathways, turning into cravings and addictions. Then we really stuck in the loop. Sad thing is our society actually encourages a lot of these activities and behaviors.
I am very confident this is why people can have such transformative experiences through meditation; particularly extended periods of dedicated meditation like a formal retreat. It’s as if it functions like a reset for the mind, restoring us to our baseline biological state. I always find it helpful to remind myself that functionally we all are animals born of nature, meant to be with nature, but thrown into a life full of unnatural environments and artificial stimuli. These 7 things (+social connection) are what fundamentally make up the natural human experience. By returning to them, we return to the very functions that formed us.
I’m sitting here thinking the same thing. This video is useless without more information about the types of activities that are “deposits”
7 aspects to stay healthy:
sunlight, food, water, air, sleep, air, excercise, meditation.
I'll disagree and add human interaction to make 8. And I don't mean your Steam/League friend of a random passerby; I mean someone you actually have a connection with, care about and trust in.
Might not cause immediate harm like a lack of water, but it's a slow killer. It'll get you in the end.
I gotta agree, human interaction motivates me in some way. Even a simple interaction would be enough, it’s hard to fine someone you can deeply talk with. I love talking to myself (reflections) but the scary part is sometimes I don’t realize I was self-sabotaging and little interactions made me realize those.
@@kyupified2440 Yeah, we need other perspectives not to get lost in our own mind-loops. :) Stay connected
Exercise: Increases max bank amount
Taking sips of Gatorade/suger water increases glucose levels in the front of your brain which helps maintain focus if your like, doing a test.
0:00 - Intro
0:23 - Cycles of boom & bust when it comes to motivation
1:29 - How the west views motivation
7:59 - Motivational Deposits & Withdrawals
14:01 - How diet/food affects your motivation
16:28 - What about discipline
Big up.
This is the golden nugget that expands on so many other areas that used to have cryptic mystical meaning in a practical sense. The idea that you need to give motivation to gain motivation. What you focus on expands. What you give is what you get. What you tune into you become. Whoever has will be given more, whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. Sacrifice vs. instant gratification etc. Like a missing piece to it all for me. Definitely an eye opener. Awesome stuff, thanks a lot!
With the example of the gym and motivation being like withdrawals and deposits from a bank account...
Coming from a guy that used to go to a gym for years. In the beginning, there's a lot of withdrawal and little deposit. However the withdrawals get less and less and the deposits become more and more, eventually what happens is the withdrawals reach a zero (this might be like 3-4 months of consistency) and deposits reach a large max, much larger than what your very first withdrawal was and then you just wanna go all the time. At least that's what I wanted to do. Lol.
This makes so much sense to me and is so relatable.
Plus the analogy of it being like watering a plant is so true. You gotta keep watering it otherwise you'll be unknowingly taking steps backwards.
Thank you Dr. K I needed to hear this! When my mind constantly reminded me it was depressed I did a lot to take care of myself: Woke up very early every day, prayed before sunrise, did yoga at sunrise, and read scripture after that, and only THEN would I get dressed and try to study. I would cook a homemade meal most nights too.
Now I don't do any of these things because I now have most of the things I want: more good days where I can productively study than before, friends, and a partner who seems to genuinely want a serious relationship with me. I reasoned it like "I'm feeling pretty good now, it all seems fine."
Now I am back to spending hours on reddit sometimes. But I reasoned, "yeah I've done some studying, I've been trying to process my emotions and that's hard, I just worked on apartment seeking with my partner, that's stressful, so it's well deserved." So thank you for reminding me that I am only making things harder for myself in the end even if it feels like forgetting everything for a short time.
I definitely went through the successful highs and lows but recently I've changed my habits to things that add up motivation points and that I also enjoy doing like reading, studying, being organized, exercising, and such.
I really wish Dr K would publish the audio from his streams as a podcast, would be great to listen to when I’m on the go
Edit: apparently there already is a podcast? I wish he would put the podcast on Apple Podcasts because I had no idea this existed
It’s on Spotify
@@tamzthoughts8467 :o i never knew that, ty
Check the description there’s a link
Throw away your iphone. They are starting to spy on everything you have saved on your device.
Or if you have RUclips premium you can watch videos with your phone locked
As a Tekken player, all I hear is:
-8 on Block
+6 on Hit
+9 on Counter Hit
+26 on Knock Down
15:10 - Cultivating motivation (garden analogy)
16:29 - Discipline explaination (deposits and withdrawals)
24:17 - 7 things to take care of yourself, sunlight, food, water, air, sleep, air, excercise, meditation.
A Navy SEAL (I’m drawing a blank on the name) wrote a book called Make Your Bed, which elaborated on the idea that beginning every day with a tiny, two-minute achievement, will enhance your motivation to complete other, bigger, more significant tasks as the day goes on. Really interesting stuff.
This talk reminds me of the book atomic habits. The book is about how small habits that improve your life by 1% every day add up to a kind of compound interest until you become the person you want to be. However because they are habits you have to keep doing them. Make habits of the small buffs like exercise, eating good and meditating and over time you will see the results. On top of that habits will be easier to keep up after sticking with them so they become routine and you have more motivation to add other stuff on top of your existing habits.
Found it interesting that grooming yourself or keeping yourself clean wasn't one of the 7 things that result into health.
Enjoyed the video and I'm looking forward to the next one!
This blew my mind. When he said we think motivation is something we have before an action, but it's something we can also gain FROM that action. Ugh this makes me feel so much better about feeling depressed and guilty that I don't have motivation
Tbh I feels like the problems came from changing your habits to quickly , like a sudden change . Example I decided my self to do push up everyday , for like a month , for a first week it was fine but then the second week I was completely exhausted and burnout. This is where I realize I have to take a step by step instead of just full sprint in whatever I'm doing
That's highly dependent on the person and activity. For losing weight I cut any source of added sugar from the get go without tapering in. I also started lifting weights consistently jumping right in soon after that. Two years later and I'm still lifting weights and I still avoid added sugar, although I allow it from time to time now that I feel I have better control over the temptation.
I sure as hell can't get myself to study consistently though.
I'm so glad I found your channel this summer 😭😭 you literally changed my life with your knowledge!!
Motivation bank. Sunlight, sleep, food, water, air, exercise, meditation
This is why people with adhd have such a hard time!
Going to the gym costs motivation and exercising pays back modivation BUT, people with adhd are payed back less and have less in the bank to begin with.
That's why medication is effective, it's use is to normalize the banked motivation as well as the rewards of cleaning a room or exercising.
I feel you friend. I'm learning how to reward myself more to mitigate the losses. Buddy of mine has this theory about ritualistic behavior being good for ADHD (he's had it his whole life). The idea is making little rituals that engage your senses in a positive way AFTER you make a withdrawal to reinforce the behavior. Something small, something silly, something you can get excited about. It's easy for ADHDers to get excited lol His example (which is really weird) to get to sleep on time, every night he pours essential oil and water into this beautiful wooden bowl and washes his face and arms with it. It engages his sense of smell touch and sight (pretty bowl) and he actually looks forward to going to sleep because he gets to do his little weird ritual lol it's gotta be personal to you though
@@camronchlarson3767 I have lots of rituals, I mean I have the templete of one tattoo'd on my arm :3:3 so I can write good luck charms uwuwu
Yeah, the bank ballance is actually the perfect example, because it works exactly this way with money. And it is this quality of "one thing creating more of itself" that causes the rock bottoms and the cycles, both in poverty/wealth and motivation. Because if you have money, you need to "spend it" (invest it in some way) to make more money, or you can also actually spend it on things that bring no money back... And when you spend it like this, you lose your tool to create more, while at the same time, you also have nothing more to spend.
But since spending is what you generally want to do - buy pizza or clothes or a car - you will be desperate to get more money to spend, right? And when you finally have some money, you want to immediately spend it. The idea of investing the money moves even further back in your mind.
Over time, you forget that it even exists. And you are trapped, because money is the common denominator for both the spending and the "creating more money". So many people with solid income feel trapped, because the idea of using money productively is all but forgotten, while their "needs" have grown exactly proportionate to what they earn... or, God forbid, their needs surpass what they earn.
It also causes relatively wealthy people to lose their wealth, exactly in the same way as with motivation - because as they focus on getting more money, they start to feel like they ARE wealthy and stop paying attention... and over time, their income/spending get closer and closer, cross over each other and... downwards trend occurs.
With motivation - the actions that can make you feel more motivated, require motivation to do them. It is an "investment". While the "fun" action also drain your motivation. it is "spending". Motivation is common for both, so you get the same trap effect.
The trap effect is especially brutal, because when you are at the very bottom, you really dont have much to work with, even when you suddenly recognize the problem and start solving it. And with motivation, the idea of (for example) working out every day, is just not within your budget at all. So one has to start smaller, and that is seemingly slow and one feels like there is no point and blahblah... Same with money - if you have so little, that even if you cut all spending to minimum, its barely worth anything, you will feel unmotivated to try... and yeah... its just a trap :D I fall into in all the time. With both.
This definitely help explain the motivation deposit/withdrawal analogy because I was wondering what would be considered good or bad/deposit or withdrawal and ig it's being productive and getting things u need/want to do done that helps or take away from motivation
Watching this while shoving a massive burrito down my throat at noon
And how does that make you feel?
@@Eilyn134 LMAOOO
I swear this is the best video on motivation I’ve ever seen. Literally
This was ridiculously useful, talking about big problems having easy solutions.
The bank and garden analogy was wonderful. Thanks for the insightful video ^-^
Maybe motivation come from doing something we afraid to do , so the more you overcome the fear of starting and actually doing it , the more confident your are thus improving your motivation
so true, I agree
No as per dr k. Doing something you fear will cost motivation and but overcoming the fear will deposit motivation. Fear has big motivation cost so people see it as Life changing because it's deposit is too big to get empty fast.
@@Mayurbhedru actually yes, for the exact same reasoning you gave. Fear requires a motivation withdraw, but overcoming the fear by doing it reaps a HUGE motivation deposit. The more things you are afraid to do and accomplish the smaller the motivation withdraw you would require to accomplish things that you are afraid to do, which in turn would reap larger and larger motivational deposits.
I love how Dr. K made motivation gamefied, I ficking love this dude. Wish there were more therapists/psychiatrists like him
The more I watch his guide and the YT videos I understand a bit more of each topic he talks about
Watching this video = +10 everyday for the foreseeable future. Thank you dr. K
I'd like to add social interaction to the seven things Dr. K said were necessary to take care of oneself.
This is interesting, people should keep making strides forward even without motivation.
New to his channel and did not understand what the channel was about at first.
Keep up the good work
I really liked this vod. It felt really concrete.
What I love with this I that I can actually follow the advice and understand why I do it. Not just go to the gym bro or if you start doing stuff it’ll probably be better. I am just left with no idea why I do it.
Going out running for example helps but is also a very big drag since I just have in mind that I’ll have to do the same thing over and over again and maybe it will get better soon. That’s why knowing how it I’ll affect me and why I actually do it really helps.
Often the most basic unit of transformation is a single choice. Each single choice builds on top of another, and over time, this builds up our transformation.
An amazing thing about these videos is that everytime that I watch them
(obviously not in a row but spaced some time apart)
I get some small bit of knowledge or idea to ponder that applies to my current situation. Love it 👍
Dr K please do a video on where Guilt comes from and how to manage thanks!
I had to stop before I even hit 00:30 because of the huge grin that sprung upon my face at "Big problems don't require big solutions". Damn Dr. K, you're good.
Wow. This is stunningly accurate.
This video is too motivating, I gotta get up and do something productive.
Dr k I've been having a hard time recently and you have no idea how much of a difference discovering your channel has made on me. Thank you
This video gave me +5 motivation. Subscription added!
That's litterally the best video you've put out for me, I'm takleing my leftover exams this month and I generally don't have any big problems nor I had a difficult childhood/trauma. Thanks for the content you put out and the value you bring to us. Have a nice one
The talk about motivation deposits and withdrawals and how some activities are a net deposit reminds me of the concept of activation energy from chemistry.
Sometimes you have to put energy into a system to get a reaction to happen. Sometimes that reaction generates more energy than you had to put in.
What I'e found in my life (shockingly lol) is that eating healthy, sleeping the necessary amount (find this out on your own) and keeping healthy habits (meditation, some exercise or activity and doing productive things even if they're not work) make me feel so good and they give me energy to keep doing other stuff. So basically what Dr K said lol
You're saving lives!!! Thank you!!!!!
Wow what an amazing video thank you!
I want to give dr. k a big hug
Listening to Dr. K adds to my motivation bank balance.
I needed to hear the things Dr.K talks about 15 years ago
What stuck out to me was the pitfall of becoming attached to identity based-motivation - “I am a motivated person or I am an unmotivated person.” Instead we might consider that motivation fluctuates based on a multitude of factors and that activities may draw from or add to our motivation. Some activities may have an immediate cost, but generate future returns.
It is easy for me to feel overwhelmed by the sea of possibilities and neglect small tasks as inconsequential. I can now better see how this contributes to my problems with motivation.
I would add a social aspect to that list of 7 things that improve health. Your brain deteriorates without human contact. I often wish for that pill or treatment that give me a moment where things click and I can finally improve. What I have to remind myself though, is exercise, food, etc is also literally medicine. It changes your brain chemistry in a positive way. If you have an unhealthy diet or lifestyle it will change your self image of yourself for the worse.
That's it. I'm going to make my first step tomorrow. Thank you.
Seriously looking and applying for jobs is incredibly draining because for every 10 jobs I apply for, the ones that I interview and don't get the job just drain it all. I haven't been able to find a job in a year and a half and haven't been able to qualify for any type of gov benefits this entire time so I went through 20 k of my savings and it's just so demoralizing. Honestly having the motivation to play games and especially stream is almost impossible. I feel like my motivation deposits are just getting out of bed. If I don't I literally sleep 16 hours a day. My mind wants to move but I just physically can't and it's not like when you wake up in the morning and you hit the snooze it's more like you wake up and try to force your body to move and it only flinches. I don't know how else to explain it. Taking vitamins def feels like a deposit and so does talking out loud for me at least. Sometimes I go weeks or days without talking out loud. I try not to use whatever I'm going through as a crutch or attach a label to it because I don't want to use it as an excuse when I talk to someone about it like my cat. lol
"How you do anything, is how you do everything."
Small, everyday productive activities (cleaning, reading for few minutes, showering in cold water...) spiral to macro behaviours (looking for job, college workload, etc.).
this is my first time writing a comment to dr.k video bc this topic has resonated with me so much more than i initially realized. I have always had problems with self discipline regarding school and education, but this became so much worse after i started doing my freelance work at home, now i have to be my own boss and relearn so many things. Honestly it so tough to pick yourself up and make myself do what i have to do, but i hope this painful proccess will be worth it in the end
Played video games all my life then took a 6 month break and figured out im highly conscientious. I recently went back to video games but with moderation and if I play too long my brain feels dull 🤣
6:45
Both influence each other in a self fulfilling prophecy
I believe that faith or predictions based on a deep understanding of reality plays a big role in our ability or willingness to invest in motivation.
To invest motivation in something that will return me in the future the costs of my motivation + profits I have to expect that there will be a tomorrow and that in such tomorrow I'll enjoy the fruits of today's motivation and hard work.
My understanding of reality allows me to expect that even though now the sun is gone I know that the sun will come back at dawn.
If I didn't have that kind of understanding then the next best thing to have is faith or hope.
One should fill in the gaps of knowledge with hope, while at the same time trying to maximize knowledge and understanding as to be more effective in our decisions and to not have to rely on hope.
If no one believes that there will be a field of roses tomorrow then no one will put the effort of planting and taking care of them today.
Yes, like that posture stuff.
For me personally I see people on the internet and they say things like "I dont dip my foot in the water, i dive in head first, all in!" - thats not me at all. If I dont make small steps towards something it'll just collapse and I won't bother. To turn big, lofty scary goals into something more manageable is important for some people, especially anxious ones.
- La motivación es como el saldo del banco, ciertas acciones "retiran" motivación y otras lo depositan, o ambas al mismo tiempo (como ir al gym). La motivación es un estado, no una característica, no es como una casa, que una vez construida se mantiene firme, es más como un jardín el cual se tiene que mantener a diario para que no muera.
- 7 cosas para una buena salud: Luz del sol, Aire, Agua, Meditación, Sueño, Alimentación, Ejercicio.
I feel how true this is... I ve be going to the gym literally every single day for 6 months and it felt like it was super easy, like it was my identity I can never lose... Then I decided do take a break for a month and now it is really tought to start going to the gym again especially when I dont have a coach I used to work with. I have to force myself to do it... It is like building an old habit I had from scratch. Hope I will get back on track soon.
Все получится! ✊
The problem is that people are using the word motivation incorrectly, it's being used interchangeably with "enthusiasm." Motivation isn't whether or not you feel like you want something, it is the very something you want, that's it. What you have to do now is converse with yourself to see if what you want, is infact what you want, won't you get it if you're intrinsically compelled by it?
He corrected you in another video.
@@iwersonsch5131 What do you mean?
@@TheMysteriousHi Well maybe you're right, maybe you should have something you want, that would be good.
@@TheMysteriousHi What I meant was is that having an intrinsic reason, or a motivation is a good place to start if you want to achieve something. You may be given a hot plate, but it's well deserved in that case. Sorry if I made that confusing, I didn't mean it that way.
Problem with this is that intrinsic motivation (i.e. motivation for the like of doing something) is actually super uncommon for most things. In the motivational literature they make a distinction between intrinsic and other motivations. The education literature pooh poohs those professors, for example, who claim students should be intrinsically motivated to learn every topic/study in their class--students may not know of the topic's existence and their motivation to be in the class may be completely unrelated to the topic itself (e.g., they want to become a doctor but they don't actually care about chemistry, for example) and that those non-intrinsic motivators are valid. They basically say that we shouldn't look down on other types of motivation--people are allowed to do things for other reasons. We shouldn't expect everyone to be intrinsically motivated to do something (and alternatively we shouldn't only restrict ourselves to only pursing intrinsic interests/motivations).
Here's a motivation hack. If your apartment is too messy and you cannot get yourself to clean it, put 10 minute timer on a phone and spend that time cleaning it, each day. And if you feel like, in a groove don't stop with a timer. So instead of saying, I need to clean the kitchen today and seeing it's too large a task to do and cannot force yourself to do start. Just do ANYTHING for 10 minutes towards cleaning your apartment. And then one day your apartment is clean. And you didn't really have to push yourself through the barrier of that task takes so much time and effort that I don't really feel like starting.
His point on the urge of finding THE BIG solution hits home. Since a lack of motivation is such a huge problem for anyone and degrades literally every area of their life, its true that its a big problem, at least for them. Hence they believe, that there must me some hidden magical talisman solution that will be the key. I think its partly their ego at play, which always expects something phenomenal, like a sudden event or awakening which will motivate you through the rest of life. And, hence we keep looking for it and every time we believe to have found it, we realize later that its not the one. We need to realize that motivation is a fluctuating state of mind and there is not a bingo solution, we have to continually uplift ourselves and others so that we are on the profitable side of transaction.
21:45 Yup..I used to only eat fruitn
on an empty stomach(a stupid myth i followed to no avail for like 7+ years) and I recently starting eating a little bit of fruit with all my meals, even of it doesnt make sense and my digestion drastically improved. Even if I have coffee all the food stays in my stomache. No stomache pain or diarhea. I have energy to work now.
Amazing content, thank you so much
I've noticed that when I am looking for big solutions to what I see as big problems it so I don't actually have to put in the work. I know the solution is lots of little tiny steps but I don't want to do it. My ego can't handle that answer so it comes up with this idea that there must be a sliver bullet out there I just haven't found it yet. That way I can sedate myself with looking for the big solution while continuing life as normal and it reduces the angst of not working toward that goal.
As someone who's always wanted to graduate psych, but never could, this is so
Thank you Dr. K
I recently realized that with my therapist (recently = for the past 3 years), and it 100% changed my life
Bruh I actually did Dr. K's suggestion on the sattvic diet fast yesterday of only consuming water, fruits, nuts, dairy, and berries. I felt great yesterday and just ate normally today. It was easy for me to wake up this morning and wasnt as distracted working from home today. I'm ususally very sluggish when I wake up in the morning so this is very interesting. Definitely gonna spend some time to see what I should change in my everyday diet.
How are you now?
Very good point about the BIG5 tests (and similar tests) as well. Its self reported. So if you go in, unmotivated, you get a result that you are unmotivated. Big surprise. But then one tends to view it as this magical prophecy, that extends from now to the future. If that happens, you are screwed :D Because all it means is, that you took your current situation and solidified that is also going to be your future situation... The way to actually view it is like an identification of current weak points, that you can improve, or ideally work around. It is not a crystal ball simulator.
Small correction: if going to meetings, self-will or group support helps a person to stay sober, he’s not an alcoholic. He’s a heavy drinker. Working the program every day that’s what helps a true alcoholic to stay sober.
I literally can feel this everyday and try not to do things that withdraw too much sometimes but still not that good at it. it really helps understanding it and knowing what is happening everyday in my life.
To the person spamming in chat about what to do if they have 0 motivation and everything feels like a huge undertaking: Just start with some small, positive action - take a walk, make a healthy meal, go a day drinking only water. Do one small thing each day for a week, and see how it impacts your motivation to potentially even do more.
Watching this video was a small withdraw but a huge deposit. Feeling stacked with buffs, now the trick is to continue keeping these buffs up by taking care of myself
I loved this, Thank You Dr. K
I love your content, I hate your thumbnails, whenever I look at them I feel like I'm going to watch a con artist or one of those cheap life-style choaches, anyways, thank you so mucn for your content
That's just how youtube works
@@D_Jilla This is a good point. We're in the meta where content creators are incentivized to make "troupe-y" thumbnails and titles. We're in the attention economy stage of the modern internet.
@@nudibranch8659 yeah and whatever attention economy means in relation to other stages, at this point we just need to remember to hate the game and not player. I don't blame the HG team for working within the META, as you said.
Can't blame him for playing into the RUclips algorithm tho. It's what gets clicks at the end of the day
Underrated point. His thumbnails even look similar to the ones on pickup artists channels like 'The Attractive Man' as well.
21:18 "reduce what kind of macronutrients you take in. " one day a week eat only: fruits, nuts and dairy and water. = motivation +3 for next few days. 21:33 "no veggies"
Watching these videos are a buff to motivation!
I'm quite interested in the neuroscience behind why eating nuts or whatever is good for motivation.
i think it's more about the fact that you're cutting out other foods but maybe there is something about these nuts
As a stab in the dark I feel like it has to do with reward. Nuts, fruits, and milk aren't exactly rewarding foods but they are nutritious. Think of a rewarding food as one you can consume to excess (pizza, potato chips, fries, etc). It's my own personal opinion that indulging in highly rewarding, low effort behaviors tells your body it doesn't need to put in much effort in the future to be rewarded again. Everything he said that helps with motivation takes effort or isn't highly rewarding to the body/mind in the act or moment.
Habits. Physical cues and change make your mind alert.
Sometimes
I check if my motivation change or I'm unmotivated because it's easy to misunderstood which is which
This video is eye-opening
Very different perspective but makes sense logically thanks for the info
22:13 - not all big problems require big solutions
Bathing is notably not among the 7 things to take care of yourself. I don't know what to make of this.
I love what Dr. K does to help this community, but beyond analogy I don't understand the scientific angle to promoting a sattvic diet. It's subjective and not supported by science, even though being mindful about what, when and how much you eat is very useful. Using analogies to make a point is problematic, because people may jump on the sattvic diet, which, from a health perspective, doesn't seem to be recommendable compared to modern science backed nutrition paradigms (government recommendation are not scientifically optimal diets, they are meant to be easier to achieve than those...)
love ur videos dr k, they help alot ! thank u 🙏
Thank you for this
tfw 7 things needed include- sleep and sunlight... gotta be up for work then inside a building all day with no exposure to sunlight ;).. ( i get a little sun in the morning if its not crappy out that kinda it.
We forget anothee factor here, its called habits... We build habits that we associate with laziness we call ot "bad habits" But suddenly when we talk about wanting to be better at something, we blame it on motivation... You can make it easier on yourself if you learn how to build habits that are benefitial to your purpose of life.
7 things you should do to take care of yourself
1-Sunlight
2-Food
3-Water
4-Air
5-Sleep
6-Excersice
7-Meditation
20:00
1 day a week only eat fruits, nuts and dairy
+3 motivación
I dont even have enough motivation to play video games anymore. I don't think things are hopeless, but its intimidating to see just how far I have to climb.
Man I love this guy
And we love you :)
very nice , i was wondering what this feeling was my motivation was feeling weird(bit overwelming), the bank example realy eplained it (i havent had it this full in a long time) i was worried that i would goo down too much resulting in a bad motivation, i now understand why i was worried about that. i notice now i have a sustainable balance (withdraw and deposeting going realy well make small increments, spending changes over time) i see the value go up slowly, i started at lets say 0~75 and now i am at 50~150 its going really well just realy proud wanted to share and also realy happy i can still learn a ton its gives me well +10 balance (if not more )
8:30 self reminder to start here next time I watch this