Happy to hear i'm not the only one with the anxiety going into new content. I'm fairly new to the game still in MSQ just starting Stormblood but i watch every dungeon/trial multiple times before queing up. This is the first MMO i've played with instant deaths and stuff where you can wipe the party so i freak out a bit whenever they show up in a fight. I think that's why even though i should be doing duty roulette to for the exp i don't as idk what i'll get so i cannot prepare prior by re-watching something. I am happy you were able to overcome it and hope to someday be comfortable as you are. Thanks for the content and keep up the great work!
I was the same way. Before I would never go into a dungeon or trial without both watching a guide multiple times. I think around the end of heavenward is where I got comfortable enough to stop and start going in blind. Also something that I think really helped me was realizing that it's very easy for a party to recover from mistakes thanks to raises.
When i started mmos, i was pretty similar to that, and i started with WoW so the community sucked, All i did was just go in as a DPS and just try and follow the other dps and not worry about doing my rotation optimally. In FF14 the community is super helpful, especially if you are still a sprout, if you just say at the start of a dungeon you are new they will either say nothing, and if so you don't have to worry about making a mistake cuz that usually means they just won't talk in general, and if they say something they are almost always super kind and often helpful if you have any questions. In ff14, i would also recommend healer if you are worried about mechanics. Your rotation consists of like 2 buttons, and during bosses, you rarely have to heal, and it can all be done with oGCD. That way, you can just focus on what's happening a lot easier
I'm currently in MSQ Stormblood, and I totally am such as you describe. Still watching every guide to non-duty support duties many times before queueing. Very stressful, as it's the first MMO I invest myself so much, even though kinda bad on game skill. Furthermore, I am too afraid to mess up in a party and get blamed or flamed (more a self-confidence/emotional kinda problem, tbh). However, I'm trying to improve and enjoy all the content while I build more confidence over the levels.
WHOLESOME CONTENT! you deserve to proud, and enjoy your flowers. your blue guides have been quintessential to my journey, and really added to my over all enjoyment of the class (that before apokalypsis) i never would have given the time of date. the grind solo was tedious, you made in manageable. but its easily my favorite overworld class. i got such a kick out going and getting rank3 retroactively (i didn't start shared fates until the Ti 'aitya mount) as i has sworn them off after having to do so many through HW to cap alts after the exp disparity. Regardless running what would otherwise be tedious fate farms with my blu was an absolute treat 10/10 will view again
I just wanted to say I appreciate you sharing your story. I’ve been and off and on XIV player for years and just made it out of Heavensward about 2 months ago. I had a lot of anxiety when grouping with people to the point where I wasn’t enjoying the game or how I felt when playing. Duty Support was a game changer for me and gave me a way to practice mechanics before trying with real people. It also got me comfortable enough with my character so I don’t have nearly as much anxiety about trials and stuff. The community here is also way better than any other MMO I’ve played and tend to be way more chill.
Thanks, Also yeah, I think duty support is one the best thing they have added to the game for just that reason letting players experience the game stress free.
Excellent video! Truly appreciate how open you were in this video. As someone who constantly doubts myself and my ability with playing harder content it is reassuring to hear other people who have experienced something similar and improved over time. Always remember to give it time, and trust yourself. Thank you for the video!
I can relate to the feeling of anxiety. While it didn't make me quit the game, it did make me wait years before going into certain content. My first Dun Scaith, the first time I jumped into Eureka, the first time I jumped into Bozja, continuing the Omega raid series after the first tier... All these things are things I wanted to experience, but didn't for years after their release. I can also relate to the high bar you set for yourself. I feel like a complete failure if I do a mechanic wrong or if I die (in content that isn't endgame raiding), and I feel like all eyes are on me with a vicious glare even if other people say nothing. I believe it's important not to set one's personal bar so high that anything below absolute perfection is akin to a complete failure. But sometimes, it's not one's own mistakes. It can be the people, too. One time, I was levelling white mage and the tank got really angry at me during the Tower of Zot pulls (even though I didn't let anyone die and things were going smoothly enough). I don't really know why, but it had to do with his own mechanics and me not healing him at the ideal time for his mechanics? I dunno, I don't play tank in duty content (tank anxiety and all that) so I don't know their mechanics other than surface level stuff. After that experience, I didn't touch white mage again aside for levelling it through non-duty means. All it takes is one bad experience and the anxiety wins over afterwards. Most of the time, nothing really bad happens, but the fear that something could happen can create a big mental block. A lot of people experience this feeling to some degree, but it can be absolutely crippling to the more anxious among us.
I have a similar issue because i have tank anxiety but i force myself to play with real people because i want to overcome my fears. If you never leave your comfort zone the anxiety is going to win every time. Good video
Also a fellow quitter due to anxiety lol. For me it was titan normal, and none of my friends wanted to step foot in there again so I had imagined it must be a hard and scary fight. When I came back a few years later I was determined to get through it this time so when I reached titan again I just went "fuck it we ball" and queued up. And immediately took a floor nap at the bottom of the pit and stayed there cause this was back in no res era titan. I apologized and... everyone was really nice about it. I think that's all I needed, so in a way I'm glad I failed at titan because it just took all the pressure off me for the rest of MSQ. I can mess up, die, and generally the community will just pick me back up and say it's fine. FFXIV has definitely been an on-going lesson of me just needing to get in there and try, because more often than not it's always worse in my head than it really is. Also congrats on all the success Tharin!!
the first time i got to sastasha i asked a friend to unsync it for me 😭 then the first time i got to tam-tara i did queue in via duty finder (on cnj), but when i let the tank and then the party die on a big mob pull i logged off to pretend i disconnected, and didnt log back in for a couple days 😭
I first started as a Conjurer four years ago and my anxiety walled me at Sastasha. Took me a week from to get through it queuing in duty finder. I didn't get confident in my healing until the Keeper of the Lake dungeon. I'm competent as White Mage but having recently switched from keyboard and mouse to controller out of necessity, I feel anxious and disappointed since I feel I am not as proficient as I once was and holding people back now.
Happy to hear i'm not the only one with the anxiety going into new content. I'm fairly new to the game still in MSQ just starting Stormblood but i watch every dungeon/trial multiple times before queing up. This is the first MMO i've played with instant deaths and stuff where you can wipe the party so i freak out a bit whenever they show up in a fight. I think that's why even though i should be doing duty roulette to for the exp i don't as idk what i'll get so i cannot prepare prior by re-watching something. I am happy you were able to overcome it and hope to someday be comfortable as you are. Thanks for the content and keep up the great work!
I was the same way. Before I would never go into a dungeon or trial without both watching a guide multiple times. I think around the end of heavenward is where I got comfortable enough to stop and start going in blind. Also something that I think really helped me was realizing that it's very easy for a party to recover from mistakes thanks to raises.
When i started mmos, i was pretty similar to that, and i started with WoW so the community sucked, All i did was just go in as a DPS and just try and follow the other dps and not worry about doing my rotation optimally.
In FF14 the community is super helpful, especially if you are still a sprout, if you just say at the start of a dungeon you are new they will either say nothing, and if so you don't have to worry about making a mistake cuz that usually means they just won't talk in general, and if they say something they are almost always super kind and often helpful if you have any questions.
In ff14, i would also recommend healer if you are worried about mechanics. Your rotation consists of like 2 buttons, and during bosses, you rarely have to heal, and it can all be done with oGCD. That way, you can just focus on what's happening a lot easier
I'm currently in MSQ Stormblood, and I totally am such as you describe. Still watching every guide to non-duty support duties many times before queueing. Very stressful, as it's the first MMO I invest myself so much, even though kinda bad on game skill. Furthermore, I am too afraid to mess up in a party and get blamed or flamed (more a self-confidence/emotional kinda problem, tbh). However, I'm trying to improve and enjoy all the content while I build more confidence over the levels.
WHOLESOME CONTENT! you deserve to proud, and enjoy your flowers. your blue guides have been quintessential to my journey, and really added to my over all enjoyment of the class (that before apokalypsis) i never would have given the time of date. the grind solo was tedious, you made in manageable. but its easily my favorite overworld class. i got such a kick out going and getting rank3 retroactively (i didn't start shared fates until the Ti 'aitya mount) as i has sworn them off after having to do so many through HW to cap alts after the exp disparity. Regardless running what would otherwise be tedious fate farms with my blu was an absolute treat 10/10 will view again
I just wanted to say I appreciate you sharing your story. I’ve been and off and on XIV player for years and just made it out of Heavensward about 2 months ago. I had a lot of anxiety when grouping with people to the point where I wasn’t enjoying the game or how I felt when playing.
Duty Support was a game changer for me and gave me a way to practice mechanics before trying with real people. It also got me comfortable enough with my character so I don’t have nearly as much anxiety about trials and stuff. The community here is also way better than any other MMO I’ve played and tend to be way more chill.
Thanks,
Also yeah, I think duty support is one the best thing they have added to the game for just that reason letting players experience the game stress free.
@@TheNastyNamazu It's affirming to hear such a personal story from someone who is clearly good at the game.
Excellent video! Truly appreciate how open you were in this video. As someone who constantly doubts myself and my ability with playing harder content it is reassuring to hear other people who have experienced something similar and improved over time. Always remember to give it time, and trust yourself. Thank you for the video!
I can relate to the feeling of anxiety. While it didn't make me quit the game, it did make me wait years before going into certain content. My first Dun Scaith, the first time I jumped into Eureka, the first time I jumped into Bozja, continuing the Omega raid series after the first tier... All these things are things I wanted to experience, but didn't for years after their release. I can also relate to the high bar you set for yourself. I feel like a complete failure if I do a mechanic wrong or if I die (in content that isn't endgame raiding), and I feel like all eyes are on me with a vicious glare even if other people say nothing. I believe it's important not to set one's personal bar so high that anything below absolute perfection is akin to a complete failure.
But sometimes, it's not one's own mistakes. It can be the people, too. One time, I was levelling white mage and the tank got really angry at me during the Tower of Zot pulls (even though I didn't let anyone die and things were going smoothly enough). I don't really know why, but it had to do with his own mechanics and me not healing him at the ideal time for his mechanics? I dunno, I don't play tank in duty content (tank anxiety and all that) so I don't know their mechanics other than surface level stuff. After that experience, I didn't touch white mage again aside for levelling it through non-duty means. All it takes is one bad experience and the anxiety wins over afterwards. Most of the time, nothing really bad happens, but the fear that something could happen can create a big mental block. A lot of people experience this feeling to some degree, but it can be absolutely crippling to the more anxious among us.
I have a similar issue because i have tank anxiety but i force myself to play with real people because i want to overcome my fears. If you never leave your comfort zone the anxiety is going to win every time. Good video
Also a fellow quitter due to anxiety lol. For me it was titan normal, and none of my friends wanted to step foot in there again so I had imagined it must be a hard and scary fight. When I came back a few years later I was determined to get through it this time so when I reached titan again I just went "fuck it we ball" and queued up. And immediately took a floor nap at the bottom of the pit and stayed there cause this was back in no res era titan. I apologized and... everyone was really nice about it. I think that's all I needed, so in a way I'm glad I failed at titan because it just took all the pressure off me for the rest of MSQ. I can mess up, die, and generally the community will just pick me back up and say it's fine.
FFXIV has definitely been an on-going lesson of me just needing to get in there and try, because more often than not it's always worse in my head than it really is.
Also congrats on all the success Tharin!!
11:00 Hilarious contrast of you saying you had anxiety about old Cape Westwind while the footage is you carrying a healer lb save on m3s 😂
I was going to post the same comment. My jaw dropped when I saw it happen. 🤣
the first time i got to sastasha i asked a friend to unsync it for me 😭
then the first time i got to tam-tara i did queue in via duty finder (on cnj), but when i let the tank and then the party die on a big mob pull i logged off to pretend i disconnected, and didnt log back in for a couple days 😭
I started as a PLD earlier this year a week before DT early access and now I'm in Mamook currently
I first started as a Conjurer four years ago and my anxiety walled me at Sastasha. Took me a week from to get through it queuing in duty finder. I didn't get confident in my healing until the Keeper of the Lake dungeon. I'm competent as White Mage but having recently switched from keyboard and mouse to controller out of necessity, I feel anxious and disappointed since I feel I am not as proficient as I once was and holding people back now.
I can definitely relate to what you’re saying. However, I feel like I’ve been catfished since you are not, in a reality, a giant catfish 😜