I am a man that follows you. My wife and I came from different faith traditions and I researched wedding traditions and wrote (for lack of a better term) a script for our wedding that melded the two traditions into a ceremony that would be meaningful to each of us and our families. We each wrote our own vows (and they did NOT mention gagging or headboard banging). On top of not wanting to ruin that by smashing food in her face, I also knew that she took all day getting her hair and makeup done and getting dressed up for the occasion; I understood how important a moment it was and what it meant to her. WRT "babysitting", we agreed early on that neither of us "babysat" our son... we parented. People suck.
honestly I can imagine my partner and me saying smtg about gagging or headboard banging LOL, but it would have to be in like a second, casual ceremony/reception where jokes are appropriate. they wrote their sister's vows (per her request) and it was this like heartbreaking manifesto on what makes a relationship work, we had only been dating for a month but i was like i have to keep this one
@@QuinnOsgood-rj7wz Thanks, but I don't think anything I did should have been seen as special. I just did what I thought every person should for their spouse!
I'm a guy and I watch your channel! I'm also a hopeless romantic, and when I get married, you better believe my vows will be heartfelt. My partner and I have also talked about this weird af cake trend, and have agreed that it looks miserable and dangerous. I asked if she's comfortable with a little frosting nose-boop with the tip of my finger, and she said yes to that. Sooo, that's what'll be done.
Middle aged cis het guy here. The older I get, the fewer straight guy friends I have. I just don't think about things and look at life in a way that makes it easy to fit in with most of their culture and world view. There is just so much false bravado and a ton of projection that filters into everything they do. If I'm really stressed about something I'd rather talk to one of my female friends, it feels like a more authentic communication. I'm a former light heavyweight MMA fighter and played basketball in college, so listening to physically mediocre men chirp on and on about whether a random dude is acting gay, or if a guy does X activity it means they're gay, or how elite female athletes suck compared to male athletes, yada yada just fatigues me to no end.
That’s very interesting as a gay man. I don’t have many guy friends either, because so many guys i’ve known said something homophobic in the past and I honestly don’t trust them when they are so quick to throw slurs around when they think i don’t mind/can’t hear
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv Depending on his age (I have no idea what age a "high-schooler" is supposed to be, we use a different system where I live), I assume that he might just be in his "edgy phase". Like, people that age tend to have "edgy" versions of what they will care about later on in life. For exemple, my brother once defended the N4z1s in front of a Jewish girl, which teached him that he should not do such a thing in the future, and his "edgy phase" continued with him being really into the military. Similarly, in my "edgy phase", I was more conservative than I am now because I was really into religion, and since we don't have a whole lot of exemples from where I could learn about it, I just assumed that US evangelicals were the norm. This "edgy phase" phased out when I learned more about religion (and the world), and I became interested in liberation theology. If it's just that, then the solution is simple : your friend simply needs to learn more about the world, and about girls in particular.
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv XD Yeah, I can't tell you if it's like that just from this information. I got into my "edgy phase" a bit later than that, but from what I understand, my brother got there sooner. And of course, there is the "stereotype" of the "edgy atheist" who can be of any age. It could also be something else entirely; sometimes, people have trouble at home, or previous experiences weigh them down (my father is a great exemple, though he is taking it too far). I guess that the best solution would be to not antagonize him, but also to not necessarily go out of your way to "fix him", so to say. If you are to continue being friends with him, then it will happen and most likely he will have to grow and change; otherwise, it's not necessarily a bad thing, and you should just enjoy the time that you have together (if you do enjoy it, which I assume since you are friends).
I have a friend who's been engaged for years. They haven't set a date yet. Whenever she asks about a date for their wedding he changes the subject. He apparently thinks he has to pay for it all. I don't think he wants to get married.
I was married for 10 years. Wedding wasn't a big deal. A fun party and dress up opportunity. What bothers me isn't that he didn't prepare anything emotional and serious, it's the SHEER DISRESPECT of saying something like that to your partner in a public setting with all your family and friends watching. What the actual f*ck, dude? Do you just not respect her as a human being at all? That's gross. And not funny.
See I think Samantha slightly misspoke there because whilst marriages can be serious to some people and they are something a lot of women dreamed about, that's certainly not the case for all women. I think a better point is unless you and your partner have spoken and agreed you want it to be more casual and jokey then yes take it serious and write thoughtful vows. There should also definitely be a discussion about whether sexual content is appropriate to include.
@@princessofhell4639 He dirty-talked his wife, at their wedding, *without running it by her first* , IN HIS VOWS, *IN FRONT OF HIS MOM.* There's no reality where that's appropriate behavior, I don't care who you are.
The one about the husband not showing up was a small news story in Wales, the bride just turned it into a big party and the groon didnt even have the guts to get his stuff back, sent his parents to do that instead of seeing her
Saw you fighting the good fight on Twitter the last few days. Just wanted to say thank you for not only standing up for the LGBTQIA community and Lgbt kids, but for sharing your story as well. Hopefully some lost queer person will see it and learn that they are not alone. Love you ❤❤❤❤
What I hate about this is that there is some women who are into Men being this way because they think "this is just how men act" and sadly this thought process is more common in more conservative areas. Even though men can be held accountable some women are still raised to believe that this is "just how men are" and it's sick
Lets be fair, everything is relative. We are looking at this video because its exceptional. And we don't even know how staged these are. The fact is that men are geared to not only be ONLY expressive of anger and violence in public, but aren't really geared for expressing themselves AT ALL. Thats a SOCIAL problem that shouldn't just be dumped on individual men. I certainly never did anything this mind bogglingly stupid, but I AM guilty of very occasionally treating my wife flippantly in company. We've been married for 25 years so its hardly anything THIS bad, but I'd suggest that the REAL issue with this guy is how he reacts afterward. I had a girlfriend who said I treat her differently when we were with friends than alone. I don't think that was a compliment, but I've always remembered and always 'worked on it'. On the flip side of that, I remember being horrified as when she met my family, she spent much of the time talking about her ex. What a shock that didn't work out. WHether a woman wants to tolerate it or not, is kind of up to her, not society. But while I put my wife on a pedestal, I'm not about to state that women are some morally superior species. I forgive her things, she forgives mine. Thats a marriage. Again, thats not to defend this train wreck of a video, but tryhing to make it sound like this is ALL men is pretty disengenuous.
@@mikearchibald744they never even mentioned anything about “all men are like this”… the “boys will be boys” phrase has existed for ever, that itself proves that most things men do are excused with “that’s just how men are” instead of holding those men/boys accountable. All the person said is that many women accept this behavior bc they are literally raised to think that it’s normal just bc it comes from a guy. The fact that they’re complaining about it proves that they in fact do not think this is something all men do, it isn’t some genetic thing built into them. The person you replied to is literally complaining that whenever men act that way it is an active choice on their part, they have the ability to simply not do it.
@@chesiresays" that there is some women who are into Men being this way because they think "this is just how men act" " is what I was replying to. They gave no examples of 'boys will be boys' for this video I doubt anybody is out there saying 'boys will be boys' to this behaviour, whether conservative area or not. If anything right now is likely the first time in history when NOBODY accepts "boys will be boys" as any kind of rationale for any kind of behaviour.
@@mikearchibald744 “I doubt anybody is out there saying 'boys will be boys' to this behaviour, whether conservative area or not. If anything right now is likely the first time in history when NOBODY accepts "boys will be boys" as any kind of rationale for any kind of behaviour.“ I see you’re choosing to be delusional🤡
I saw people bring up a beautiful video of a groom's beautiful vows to his bride and it really was like poetry, he was talking about wanting to spend his whole life with her and find her in their next life, it was GORGEOUS, a real tearjerker. And hats off to that husband, he clearly felt the importance of that day and wanted to make it a special moment to look back on. But someone else brought it up that they went to a wedding where the groom just talked about all ~"mundane" things like "I promise to give you shoulder massages and make your coffee with two sugars and milk" just you know, all small things that show that he loves and appreciates and like, bloody KNOWS his damn wife. And even that made everyone at the event tear up because it was just such a beautiful moment between two people who love each other. Like you don't have to be a poet to write something nice, you just have to be yourself. And I guess if you are an ugly motherfker on the inside then that will really show on the effort you put in your vows.
Exactly. But it’s pretty clear, the wedding vows are the least of the problems here. I think being willing to humiliate your significant other during such an important event says a lot about you.
@@clivematthews95 Agreed. But I can't believe the women didn't have some small idea of what kind of men they were marrying before they got to the altar. Even the mom seemed to have an idea of what a dick her son could be. No excuse just hoping everyone worked out their shit and has a happy life.
These wedding vows would never never get past my mom she interviews couples before she weds them, and if there are any red flags she will refuse to do their wedding.
I saw the disgusting 'Margot Robbie/sex talk' vows a few months back and it made my blood boil. I hate that groom so much and feel so bad for the bride. She even made a video defending him so I'm genuinely worried for her safety and hope she leaves him. Your channel looks so good though.👍
If you listened to her vows, which have also been posted, you can hear how much he's torn her down to believing she doesn't deserve better. He's wrecked her self esteem and self worth.
@@midnightnyx261 Oh, you're so right, I saw a bit of her vows and it was heartbreaking and so concerning that she'd written them from the heart and kept saying about how she thought that he was too good for her, like, it was sickening, as if he wasn't already a walking red flag, that just made it even worse. Not to mention that their kids were at the wedding and heard the vows...
Happy New Year, Sam! “Men” like these will never represent me. A real man takes compassion and strength along with maturity into consideration above anything else. Thank you for everything you’ve done and will continue to do tenfold for many years to come!
Well said! Real strength comes from within, in doing what is right & standing up in the face of adversity, and showing our love with compassion & empathy. It takes real hard work, a lot of self-reflection, to come to an understanding that we are all just works in progress and the work never ends, but it’s good, rewarding work that we should be excited to do that work.
Weaponized incompetence actually is something that I have seen used by a lot of people. It is a real thing when people want to be lazy. However, when done around me, I tend to respond very negatively to it. It is primarily why I have few, if any, male friends. This tactic I not only see through, but it is the kind of behavior that warrants being berated. 😅
I've learned that there are some men who will "pick you up when you fall down" or "love you when you're broken", while actually just zeroing in on someone who's vulnerable and making them feel emotionally dependent. They will do just enough to get a woman to trust them, while undermining their self worth and manipulating then to keep them locked down. The brides here gave heartfelt, beautiful vows and the grooms took the opportunity to publicly humiliate them in front of family, friends and now, the internet. They do not deserve these women.
me watching this triggered af cause i get married in march 😂 my fiance wouldn’t DARE, omg. these women should be serving up divorce papers cause i know i would 🙃
The weaponised incompetence gets me so frustrated. I remember going to my mum's for three weeks to look after and run her shop whilst she was away with her second job. My sister lived with her and repeatedly told me she couldn't use the washing machine. She was 18/19. I refused to wash her clothes and told her she could look up online how to use a washing machine. She ended up calling our mum, who was on the phone crying, begging me to just wash the clothes for my sister. It was the most infuriating thing I have had to deal with. My sister had obviously worked up my mum beforehand on the phone so that she would have such an emotional reaction.
@KattReen She did just recently. Then, a month later, I lost my job and had to move in with my mum. This was after 10 years of living by myself. My mum keeps being surprised that I will just go places without demanding her to drive me there. I try to keep the house as clean as possible, too (neither my mum or sister are big cleaners), and help out with caring for the pets my sister left behind. My sister seems to be doing better. Like actually washing her clothes, but every time she comes to visit, she just completely slacks off again. My mum was sick when my sister visited at New Year and my sister just kept insulting her. She was very angry when I volunteered for us to walk the dog. This dog is actually hers, but she left it with my mum, alongside 3 guinea pigs (1 of which she had just bought), when she moved out because her new place didn't accept pets. I just wanted to help reduce the amount of stuff my mum needed to do. My sister is a lot like my dad. Just saps everything from you and still demands more. Funnily enough, they don't talk to each other and haven't for around 15 years. I think it's because they are way too similar.
I hate writing and sharing feelings (legit I can't even write birthday cards and stuff because it's so uncomfortable), but you best BELIEVE I spent weeks writing and revising my own vows because it was important to my husband!! I can't stand these dudes oh my GODDD.
I know many men have trouble with and/or feel it is weak expressing emotions. But for the love of god, don’t be a douchebag at your wedding. Be emotionally available that day, and an adult. You are allowed to be soft that day, and write/copy something heartfelt for your wife. I also get hella mad when men think their wife is supposed to be their second mom. Be a full partner in the home life too. Treat your wife with days off. Take care of her.
10:54 as a single parent, I could not agree more. My youngest child's dad was the same way, whenever he had to hold his own child for 10 minutes, he would hand her back to me the first chance he got. He also refused to change any diapers at first. We are friends now but he's not really involved, and honestly I'm much better off doing it all on my own.
I’m sorry but there had to be some red flags with these guys prior to their disastrous wedding vows, which were either missed or ignored by these women. 🙄
@@exilecomplex7344what does that even mean? That is not the first time those men said something reprehensible and yet the women chose to commit to them anyway. It’s hard to feel that much sympathy for them.
Omg, Ive lurked on your channel for years like an egg in an incubator lol. I have officially hatched and you have so much to do with that! Thank you so much for being there for all of us!
I am a man that watches your channel with my wife actually! We love your content. We got married recently and our vows were a combination of serious devotion and funny inside jokes, it was amazing.
Gotta say, those videos make me feel better about myself. I kinda fucked up my wedding vows, bc i kept stuttering and even forgot parts of it, but at least I TRIED.
I just got engaged and this man said he planned a whole year for this! He almost cried but I cried like a baby. All women deserve someone who actually cares
I couldn't imagine being put on the spot like that. My first instinct would be to say 'I don't' and just walk off, but these women probably prepared months for this moment. WTF
To the women in these videos: it’s not official until the court house gets the signed license. If you don’t turn it in, you’re not married. Just throwing that out there
I was just telling someone earlier today that soap is toxic so you shouldnt wash anything youre not peeling with soap. Personally i dont even know of anything id wash with dish soap, even if im peeling it🤷♀️
I'm a man, although I'm most likely aromantic, the fact that these men feel so entitled to their woman's life and love and affection and feel like they can throw away this day is... gross
ive seen a couple of these style wedding vows in person, and they really only go over well if your partner is a weirdo too. even then, think of your guests pleeeease.
Actually agree on Samantha's views. Think I realized why I've always been uncomfortable with men like ever. I think good men are rare and many think they are or don't care to be. It really makes me reacknowledge my own dysphoria.I've also have also always had admiration in strong women. Wow Samantha. Really showing it in this episode .lol.
Having your fiance no show would be so upsetting, but honestly better than being married to some of the dbags in this video. I would've left if someone said some of these things to me. It's hard enough to be up infront of everyone like that
My parents made me and my partner have a wedding when i was 19 (yes i got married at 19, i was super religious then). I hate having spotlight, I didn't want one, still one of the worst days ever. The dress, the attention. Horrible. Now I understand the fact that I'm trans had a lot to do with that XD
I'm a guy getting married in May. We will be doing private vows before the wedding ceremony, and traditional (but short) vows during the ceremony. Even saying these things with just my future wife is unfathomable on the day of the wedding. Save that for literally any day other than the wedding.
There are a lot of men that watch your channel and I am one of themI absolutely love your take on these tick-tock, and I agree with you. There are a lot of men that don’t respect their girlfriends and wives, but most of the men that I know, absolutely adore you. I can’t think of any man that doesn’t respect you I find you to be an absolutely wonderful woman.
Seeing all the men in the comment talk about how good they treat their girlfriends/wives/partners is making my heart melt ❤ I'm a women in a relationship with a wonderful cis-man and I wish I could see more like him out in the world and media ❤
I have literally been to a wedding at a crowded dive bar where half the crowd wasn't part of the wedding party (and physically took a step away when she tossed the bouquet lmfao) where the bridesmaids (myself and another person) were in corsettes and tight jeans.... that were more heartfelt and genuine and less gag worthy than any of these. I am truly floored
Look even if that was their “dynamic” she wasn’t laughing like at all and clearly wasn’t comfortable with him saying that bs IN FRONT OF BOTH THEIR FAMILIES- ppl need to stop making excuses for his behavior. You’re at a wedding not a failed rookie comedy club, grow up and act accordingly.
The saddest thing in all this, is that these women are clearly so uncomfotrable, yet they feel like they must roll with it, laugh it off, act like it's not a big deal - it IS a big deal, they have every right to just silence him and ask what the fuck is he doing.
I'm a guy and watch your channel ❤ there is no wayyy in hell I would be rude to my wife-to-be in my vows, I would definitely not talk about our sexlife in them. I've never been much for the wedding stuff but even I know my vows should be about how much I love the person I'd be marrying , how happy I am to be with them for the rest of our lives. Seriously, I think alot of cis straight men need to do better ❤
Every time we watch one of these, my husband's like, why do they even get married in the first place? Meanwhile my whole med school group is full of this kind of boomer "humor" smh
The comments in the second video made me so mad. So many people were defending him with "well the bride is laughing so clearly it's fine." Nah, read her body language. She is clearly not happy about those vows but feels she has to act okay with it so she's not "high maintenance" in her vows you can clearly hear how little self esteem and self worth she has because of that man. He's torn her down to where she feels like she doesn't deserve better. That second one really boils my blood. My husband was ECSTATIC about getting married. He was so excited to be able to say "my wife" so much that he might irritate people. We didn't write vows, we just married in the courthouse but he was so happy about it. That man loves the f-ck outta me. He LOVES being married to me. Ladies, men like that exist and you deserve a man like that. Don't settle for these man children.
"Men, do better. Women.... do women."
-Samantha Lux, 2024
Unfortunately Sam is straight 😔
This is the way
@@itsyagirlMaya1999 This is the way.
Don't mind if I do!
Couldn't agree more!
This is why more and more straight women are choosing to stay permanently single than settle
True. Men are just not worth it
at least we found out what she meant by "you constantly challenge me".
Marriage is a government contract. It’s meaningless.
True that. 🎯
I suggest trying to date a woman 🕺🏽🕺🏽🕺🏽
its just so "funny" that people always say that everyone else is ruining thr "sanctity" of marriage.
meanwhile straight men:
Nailed it!!!!
I am a man that follows you. My wife and I came from different faith traditions and I researched wedding traditions and wrote (for lack of a better term) a script for our wedding that melded the two traditions into a ceremony that would be meaningful to each of us and our families. We each wrote our own vows (and they did NOT mention gagging or headboard banging). On top of not wanting to ruin that by smashing food in her face, I also knew that she took all day getting her hair and makeup done and getting dressed up for the occasion; I understood how important a moment it was and what it meant to her. WRT "babysitting", we agreed early on that neither of us "babysat" our son... we parented. People suck.
honestly I can imagine my partner and me saying smtg about gagging or headboard banging LOL, but it would have to be in like a second, casual ceremony/reception where jokes are appropriate. they wrote their sister's vows (per her request) and it was this like heartbreaking manifesto on what makes a relationship work, we had only been dating for a month but i was like i have to keep this one
@@QuinnOsgood-rj7wz Thanks, but I don't think anything I did should have been seen as special. I just did what I thought every person should for their spouse!
This is legit so sweet. More guys should do what you did💚 weddings are supposed to meaningful and important like this
Love it 🥰
Wish y’all the best :3
I'm a guy and I watch your channel! I'm also a hopeless romantic, and when I get married, you better believe my vows will be heartfelt. My partner and I have also talked about this weird af cake trend, and have agreed that it looks miserable and dangerous. I asked if she's comfortable with a little frosting nose-boop with the tip of my finger, and she said yes to that. Sooo, that's what'll be done.
I adore you all guys standing up in the comments! You're a fantastic guy I wish you the best
This is truly wholesome :)
Awww 😊🥹
Awww I'm sure that will be a very cute moment I wish you and your partner a wonderful wedding when the day comes :)
Wish you the best for you and your partner as well :)
Middle aged cis het guy here. The older I get, the fewer straight guy friends I have. I just don't think about things and look at life in a way that makes it easy to fit in with most of their culture and world view. There is just so much false bravado and a ton of projection that filters into everything they do. If I'm really stressed about something I'd rather talk to one of my female friends, it feels like a more authentic communication. I'm a former light heavyweight MMA fighter and played basketball in college, so listening to physically mediocre men chirp on and on about whether a random dude is acting gay, or if a guy does X activity it means they're gay, or how elite female athletes suck compared to male athletes, yada yada just fatigues me to no end.
That’s very interesting as a gay man. I don’t have many guy friends either, because so many guys i’ve known said something homophobic in the past and I honestly don’t trust them when they are so quick to throw slurs around when they think i don’t mind/can’t hear
Start HRT asap as there will be irreversible effects the longer you wait @@MetalCrowd-je2bv
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv Depending on his age (I have no idea what age a "high-schooler" is supposed to be, we use a different system where I live), I assume that he might just be in his "edgy phase". Like, people that age tend to have "edgy" versions of what they will care about later on in life. For exemple, my brother once defended the N4z1s in front of a Jewish girl, which teached him that he should not do such a thing in the future, and his "edgy phase" continued with him being really into the military. Similarly, in my "edgy phase", I was more conservative than I am now because I was really into religion, and since we don't have a whole lot of exemples from where I could learn about it, I just assumed that US evangelicals were the norm. This "edgy phase" phased out when I learned more about religion (and the world), and I became interested in liberation theology.
If it's just that, then the solution is simple : your friend simply needs to learn more about the world, and about girls in particular.
@@MetalCrowd-je2bv XD Yeah, I can't tell you if it's like that just from this information. I got into my "edgy phase" a bit later than that, but from what I understand, my brother got there sooner. And of course, there is the "stereotype" of the "edgy atheist" who can be of any age.
It could also be something else entirely; sometimes, people have trouble at home, or previous experiences weigh them down (my father is a great exemple, though he is taking it too far).
I guess that the best solution would be to not antagonize him, but also to not necessarily go out of your way to "fix him", so to say. If you are to continue being friends with him, then it will happen and most likely he will have to grow and change; otherwise, it's not necessarily a bad thing, and you should just enjoy the time that you have together (if you do enjoy it, which I assume since you are friends).
you know every last one of these horrible men will say to everyone they have no idea why their wives left them for the delivery driver.
I have a friend who's been engaged for years. They haven't set a date yet. Whenever she asks about a date for their wedding he changes the subject. He apparently thinks he has to pay for it all. I don't think he wants to get married.
That reminds me of Pam and Roy from The Office, tbh. And yeah, we saw how that one turned out
make sure to put some sense into her head before she makes a big mistake like marrying him
As a guy, these men completely disgust me. I hope they come to their senses
*white men
@@blueboozle774 Not just white men are assholes, don't be a racist all men can be gross assholes
@@blueboozle774I don’t feel like that’s necessary to point out..
@@0kamar189 it is
@@blueboozle774 She’s talking about men in general, she’s not talking about any specific intersections in the video
I was married for 10 years. Wedding wasn't a big deal. A fun party and dress up opportunity. What bothers me isn't that he didn't prepare anything emotional and serious, it's the SHEER DISRESPECT of saying something like that to your partner in a public setting with all your family and friends watching. What the actual f*ck, dude? Do you just not respect her as a human being at all? That's gross. And not funny.
See I think Samantha slightly misspoke there because whilst marriages can be serious to some people and they are something a lot of women dreamed about, that's certainly not the case for all women. I think a better point is unless you and your partner have spoken and agreed you want it to be more casual and jokey then yes take it serious and write thoughtful vows. There should also definitely be a discussion about whether sexual content is appropriate to include.
@@princessofhell4639 He dirty-talked his wife, at their wedding, *without running it by her first* , IN HIS VOWS, *IN FRONT OF HIS MOM.* There's no reality where that's appropriate behavior, I don't care who you are.
The one about the husband not showing up was a small news story in Wales, the bride just turned it into a big party and the groon didnt even have the guts to get his stuff back, sent his parents to do that instead of seeing her
Saw you fighting the good fight on Twitter the last few days. Just wanted to say thank you for not only standing up for the LGBTQIA community and Lgbt kids, but for sharing your story as well. Hopefully some lost queer person will see it and learn that they are not alone. Love you ❤❤❤❤
also glad, i mean its her community too
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agreed
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The biggest issue I have with the second one is that those were supposed to be his vows to HER but he just gave her “expectations” and “requirements”
What I hate about this is that there is some women who are into Men being this way because they think "this is just how men act" and sadly this thought process is more common in more conservative areas. Even though men can be held accountable some women are still raised to believe that this is "just how men are" and it's sick
Lets be fair, everything is relative. We are looking at this video because its exceptional. And we don't even know how staged these are. The fact is that men are geared to not only be ONLY expressive of anger and violence in public, but aren't really geared for expressing themselves AT ALL.
Thats a SOCIAL problem that shouldn't just be dumped on individual men. I certainly never did anything this mind bogglingly stupid, but I AM guilty of very occasionally treating my wife flippantly in company. We've been married for 25 years so its hardly anything THIS bad, but I'd suggest that the REAL issue with this guy is how he reacts afterward. I had a girlfriend who said I treat her differently when we were with friends than alone. I don't think that was a compliment, but I've always remembered and always 'worked on it'. On the flip side of that, I remember being horrified as when she met my family, she spent much of the time talking about her ex. What a shock that didn't work out.
WHether a woman wants to tolerate it or not, is kind of up to her, not society. But while I put my wife on a pedestal, I'm not about to state that women are some morally superior species. I forgive her things, she forgives mine. Thats a marriage. Again, thats not to defend this train wreck of a video, but tryhing to make it sound like this is ALL men is pretty disengenuous.
@@mikearchibald744they never even mentioned anything about “all men are like this”… the “boys will be boys” phrase has existed for ever, that itself proves that most things men do are excused with “that’s just how men are” instead of holding those men/boys accountable. All the person said is that many women accept this behavior bc they are literally raised to think that it’s normal just bc it comes from a guy. The fact that they’re complaining about it proves that they in fact do not think this is something all men do, it isn’t some genetic thing built into them. The person you replied to is literally complaining that whenever men act that way it is an active choice on their part, they have the ability to simply not do it.
@@chesiresays" that there is some women who are into Men being this way because they think "this is just how men act" "
is what I was replying to. They gave no examples of 'boys will be boys' for this video I doubt anybody is out there saying 'boys will be boys' to this behaviour, whether conservative area or not.
If anything right now is likely the first time in history when NOBODY accepts "boys will be boys" as any kind of rationale for any kind of behaviour.
@@mikearchibald744 “I doubt anybody is out there saying 'boys will be boys' to this behaviour, whether conservative area or not.
If anything right now is likely the first time in history when NOBODY accepts "boys will be boys" as any kind of rationale for any kind of behaviour.“ I see you’re choosing to be delusional🤡
I saw people bring up a beautiful video of a groom's beautiful vows to his bride and it really was like poetry, he was talking about wanting to spend his whole life with her and find her in their next life, it was GORGEOUS, a real tearjerker. And hats off to that husband, he clearly felt the importance of that day and wanted to make it a special moment to look back on.
But someone else brought it up that they went to a wedding where the groom just talked about all ~"mundane" things like "I promise to give you shoulder massages and make your coffee with two sugars and milk" just you know, all small things that show that he loves and appreciates and like, bloody KNOWS his damn wife. And even that made everyone at the event tear up because it was just such a beautiful moment between two people who love each other. Like you don't have to be a poet to write something nice, you just have to be yourself. And I guess if you are an ugly motherfker on the inside then that will really show on the effort you put in your vows.
Moral of the story, practice your vows before the wedding. Wedding day is no time for surprises.
Exactly. But it’s pretty clear, the wedding vows are the least of the problems here. I think being willing to humiliate your significant other during such an important event says a lot about you.
@@clivematthews95 Agreed. But I can't believe the women didn't have some small idea of what kind of men they were marrying before they got to the altar. Even the mom seemed to have an idea of what a dick her son could be. No excuse just hoping everyone worked out their shit and has a happy life.
Moral of the story is white people got to fix themselves up
@@joelgertler3308they know how horrible their husbands are, they stay in such relationships bc they think such behaviors are “normal”
These wedding vows would never never get past my mom she interviews couples before she weds them, and if there are any red flags she will refuse to do their wedding.
Good on her
I saw the disgusting 'Margot Robbie/sex talk' vows a few months back and it made my blood boil. I hate that groom so much and feel so bad for the bride. She even made a video defending him so I'm genuinely worried for her safety and hope she leaves him. Your channel looks so good though.👍
If you listened to her vows, which have also been posted, you can hear how much he's torn her down to believing she doesn't deserve better. He's wrecked her self esteem and self worth.
@@midnightnyx261 Oh, you're so right, I saw a bit of her vows and it was heartbreaking and so concerning that she'd written them from the heart and kept saying about how she thought that he was too good for her, like, it was sickening, as if he wasn't already a walking red flag, that just made it even worse. Not to mention that their kids were at the wedding and heard the vows...
Happy New Year, Sam! “Men” like these will never represent me. A real man takes compassion and strength along with maturity into consideration above anything else. Thank you for everything you’ve done and will continue to do tenfold for many years to come!
White people behaviour, it’s a common trend in these videos
Well said! Real strength comes from within, in doing what is right & standing up in the face of adversity, and showing our love with compassion & empathy. It takes real hard work, a lot of self-reflection, to come to an understanding that we are all just works in progress and the work never ends, but it’s good, rewarding work that we should be excited to do that work.
Weaponized incompetence actually is something that I have seen used by a lot of people. It is a real thing when people want to be lazy. However, when done around me, I tend to respond very negatively to it. It is primarily why I have few, if any, male friends. This tactic I not only see through, but it is the kind of behavior that warrants being berated. 😅
I've learned that there are some men who will "pick you up when you fall down" or "love you when you're broken", while actually just zeroing in on someone who's vulnerable and making them feel emotionally dependent. They will do just enough to get a woman to trust them, while undermining their self worth and manipulating then to keep them locked down. The brides here gave heartfelt, beautiful vows and the grooms took the opportunity to publicly humiliate them in front of family, friends and now, the internet. They do not deserve these women.
me watching this triggered af cause i get married in march 😂 my fiance wouldn’t DARE, omg. these women should be serving up divorce papers cause i know i would 🙃
Don't wait until divorce papers are needed. If your fiancé pulls any of this bullshit, say "I don't", then turn around and walk out.
Congratulations!! I get married in July. It’s so exciting to be able to finally say “it’s our wedding year!!”
@@maevecostello2629 agreed! 🥳 congrats to you too!
@@CedeJacobsthank you!!
When/if I get married, and my partner is reading their vows.. if i hear any of these at ALL, I am BOOKING it.
«Women…do women😏» was the perfect summary of this whole video
The weaponised incompetence gets me so frustrated. I remember going to my mum's for three weeks to look after and run her shop whilst she was away with her second job. My sister lived with her and repeatedly told me she couldn't use the washing machine. She was 18/19. I refused to wash her clothes and told her she could look up online how to use a washing machine. She ended up calling our mum, who was on the phone crying, begging me to just wash the clothes for my sister. It was the most infuriating thing I have had to deal with. My sister had obviously worked up my mum beforehand on the phone so that she would have such an emotional reaction.
That's awful. Hopefully the day your sister moves out, reality will slap some sense into her and she'll take people less for granted.
@KattReen She did just recently. Then, a month later, I lost my job and had to move in with my mum. This was after 10 years of living by myself. My mum keeps being surprised that I will just go places without demanding her to drive me there. I try to keep the house as clean as possible, too (neither my mum or sister are big cleaners), and help out with caring for the pets my sister left behind.
My sister seems to be doing better. Like actually washing her clothes, but every time she comes to visit, she just completely slacks off again. My mum was sick when my sister visited at New Year and my sister just kept insulting her. She was very angry when I volunteered for us to walk the dog. This dog is actually hers, but she left it with my mum, alongside 3 guinea pigs (1 of which she had just bought), when she moved out because her new place didn't accept pets. I just wanted to help reduce the amount of stuff my mum needed to do.
My sister is a lot like my dad. Just saps everything from you and still demands more. Funnily enough, they don't talk to each other and haven't for around 15 years. I think it's because they are way too similar.
I hate writing and sharing feelings (legit I can't even write birthday cards and stuff because it's so uncomfortable), but you best BELIEVE I spent weeks writing and revising my own vows because it was important to my husband!! I can't stand these dudes oh my GODDD.
It’s sad to watch these women settle for less, even more, settle for nothing with those vows those men said to their wives and IN FRONT of people
I know many men have trouble with and/or feel it is weak expressing emotions. But for the love of god, don’t be a douchebag at your wedding. Be emotionally available that day, and an adult. You are allowed to be soft that day, and write/copy something heartfelt for your wife.
I also get hella mad when men think their wife is supposed to be their second mom. Be a full partner in the home life too. Treat your wife with days off. Take care of her.
Samantha choosing violence and I love it 🙌🏾
10:54 as a single parent, I could not agree more. My youngest child's dad was the same way, whenever he had to hold his own child for 10 minutes, he would hand her back to me the first chance he got. He also refused to change any diapers at first.
We are friends now but he's not really involved, and honestly I'm much better off doing it all on my own.
“GIRL! You wanna eat soap? He eats soap! Maybe that’s why he’s so dumb; He eats soap.” 🧼
I’m sorry but there had to be some red flags with these guys prior to their disastrous wedding vows, which were either missed or ignored by these women. 🙄
@@exilecomplex7344what does that even mean? That is not the first time those men said something reprehensible and yet the women chose to commit to them anyway. It’s hard to feel that much sympathy for them.
My marriage is gonna be so gay and witchy
Omg, Ive lurked on your channel for years like an egg in an incubator lol. I have officially hatched and you have so much to do with that! Thank you so much for being there for all of us!
When I realized I had been doing weaponized incompetence (years ago), I was horrified. I have spent a lot of time trying to undo so much of that.
1:55 His vows are even worse when you watch the whole video. The reason being is how much thought and emotion his wife put into her vows.
As a straight man guys can be just as bad if not worse than any Bridezillas
I am a man that watches your channel with my wife actually! We love your content. We got married recently and our vows were a combination of serious devotion and funny inside jokes, it was amazing.
Gotta say, those videos make me feel better about myself. I kinda fucked up my wedding vows, bc i kept stuttering and even forgot parts of it, but at least I TRIED.
hey, there's nothing wrong w/ having yr ex there if they're respectful. i went to my ex's wedding a couple months ago.
I just got engaged and this man said he planned a whole year for this! He almost cried but I cried like a baby. All women deserve someone who actually cares
Always a pleasure seeing Samantha's beautiful face in my notifications.
These vows are like train wrecks you want to avert your eyes but you also can’t stop watching.
I couldn't imagine being put on the spot like that. My first instinct would be to say 'I don't' and just walk off, but these women probably prepared months for this moment. WTF
0:48 even the guy officiating the wedding was disappointed lmao
Girl I love the sass you have for these guys in this video 😭
To the women in these videos: it’s not official until the court house gets the signed license.
If you don’t turn it in, you’re not married.
Just throwing that out there
I'm a man who watches your channel and I'm embarrassed for these dudes. Let me apologize on behalf on all men
I was just telling someone earlier today that soap is toxic so you shouldnt wash anything youre not peeling with soap. Personally i dont even know of anything id wash with dish soap, even if im peeling it🤷♀️
😂 exactly, what you’re speaking is just common sense
As a cis man, I am once again asking if the straights are ok
I don't think they are. 😭
As you notice all the people in the video are white
Yes we are normal and okay unlike you
@@QuinnOsgood-rj7wz not gay
@@gigachad1021 Excuse, those of us who are lgbtq are very much normal; also these TikTok’s say otherwise about if the straights(tm) are ok
I'm a man, although I'm most likely aromantic, the fact that these men feel so entitled to their woman's life and love and affection and feel like they can throw away this day is... gross
ive seen a couple of these style wedding vows in person, and they really only go over well if your partner is a weirdo too. even then, think of your guests pleeeease.
12:08 throw the whole man away omg
Actually agree on Samantha's views. Think I realized why I've always been uncomfortable with men like ever. I think good men are rare and many think they are or don't care to be. It really makes me reacknowledge my own dysphoria.I've also have also always had admiration in strong women. Wow Samantha. Really showing it in this episode .lol.
I genuinely most men or fine, but some of these dudes have me like, "GIRL RUUUUNNNNNNNN, GET OUT OF THEIR WHILE YOU'RE CHILDLESS!"
The queen posted!!!
I ran at the speed of trans
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I think the worst part of that second vows video is that their young daughters were there, watching and listening.
Having your fiance no show would be so upsetting, but honestly better than being married to some of the dbags in this video. I would've left if someone said some of these things to me. It's hard enough to be up infront of everyone like that
Also, you don't HAVE to say vows to each other on your wedding! My husband and I didn't because that's awkward, and we're not good with words
My parents made me and my partner have a wedding when i was 19 (yes i got married at 19, i was super religious then). I hate having spotlight, I didn't want one, still one of the worst days ever. The dress, the attention. Horrible. Now I understand the fact that I'm trans had a lot to do with that XD
Happy 2024 Samantha.🎉
10:27 had me howling! 😂😂 Everybody needs a friend like Samantha
mismatching all someone’s socks is the biggest threat made in this video 😂
The cringe was so intense that I almost couldn’t finish the video but I’ll do it for you Samantha 😭
I've seen genuinely funny wedding vows, but my my, these guys are giving me the ick
Each and every one of these;
"Devohrse Baeybes"
(also, sam - the violent tendencies towards these deadbeats are the funniest sh*t ever)
Good lord, what is wrong with these people? 😱
I am a man and romantic, and these guys are embarrassing and toxic.
I love how much worse these tiktoks get...I mean, maybe not for the wives, but still.
I think the word you're looking for is "officiant".
I'd have made him those soapy potatoes tbh. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Of course his name is Cody.
I'm a guy getting married in May. We will be doing private vows before the wedding ceremony, and traditional (but short) vows during the ceremony. Even saying these things with just my future wife is unfathomable on the day of the wedding. Save that for literally any day other than the wedding.
Happy New Year. And i completely agree with u bc what is wrong with these husbands.
“Women?…Do women.” AMEN. 😂😂😂
Also the vow of the toaster strudel or twinky was also in front of the couples children
There are a lot of men that watch your channel and I am one of themI absolutely love your take on these tick-tock, and I agree with you. There are a lot of men that don’t respect their girlfriends and wives, but most of the men that I know, absolutely adore you. I can’t think of any man that doesn’t respect you I find you to be an absolutely wonderful woman.
The straights: we are not ok
4:58 “he thinks he ate” lmaooo I’m cryinggg 😂😂 you right. He really thinking he did something that was so disrespectful
I watched both these videos already elsewhere so I'm liking and commenting 🙏
when he said "nothings better than the sound of gagging and headboard slamming" i literally choked 😭 couldn't breathe for a good few second
I cant drink cuz of meds i take, so i got a bottle of Martinellis 😂😂 happy new year bestie❤❤
Happy new year Samantha! Love the fit! ❤❤
If I ever get married, you better believe I'm gonna write an emotional and inspirational poem for my vows.
Seeing all the men in the comment talk about how good they treat their girlfriends/wives/partners is making my heart melt ❤
I'm a women in a relationship with a wonderful cis-man and I wish I could see more like him out in the world and media ❤
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Also, I'm absolutely love love loveee your videos!!
I have literally been to a wedding at a crowded dive bar where half the crowd wasn't part of the wedding party (and physically took a step away when she tossed the bouquet lmfao) where the bridesmaids (myself and another person) were in corsettes and tight jeans.... that were more heartfelt and genuine and less gag worthy than any of these. I am truly floored
Happy new year, Samantha. ❤
Uff her makeup always so on point
2 consistent things about this channel, solid content and she looks gorgeous every time she uploads
Look even if that was their “dynamic” she wasn’t laughing like at all and clearly wasn’t comfortable with him saying that bs IN FRONT OF BOTH THEIR FAMILIES- ppl need to stop making excuses for his behavior. You’re at a wedding not a failed rookie comedy club, grow up and act accordingly.
Girl it is 5 am and i am obsessed with your vids 💚 iconic
how is a wedding day not also the best day for a man?? disgusting
The saddest thing in all this, is that these women are clearly so uncomfotrable, yet they feel like they must roll with it, laugh it off, act like it's not a big deal - it IS a big deal, they have every right to just silence him and ask what the fuck is he doing.
I'm a guy and watch your channel ❤
there is no wayyy in hell I would be rude to my wife-to-be in my vows, I would definitely not talk about our sexlife in them.
I've never been much for the wedding stuff but even I know my vows should be about how much I love the person I'd be marrying , how happy I am to be with them for the rest of our lives.
Seriously, I think alot of cis straight men need to do better ❤
I can't even comprehend there are people like this... Even if i tried to fuck something up, i wouldnt even be able to come up with this shit
Every time we watch one of these, my husband's like, why do they even get married in the first place? Meanwhile my whole med school group is full of this kind of boomer "humor" smh
This a man who gets notifications when you upload. And in the very unlikely event that I get married my vows wouldn't be that tacky.
If a man calls it babysitting when he's watching his own kids, the mother deserves better.
The comments in the second video made me so mad. So many people were defending him with "well the bride is laughing so clearly it's fine." Nah, read her body language. She is clearly not happy about those vows but feels she has to act okay with it so she's not "high maintenance" in her vows you can clearly hear how little self esteem and self worth she has because of that man. He's torn her down to where she feels like she doesn't deserve better. That second one really boils my blood.
My husband was ECSTATIC about getting married. He was so excited to be able to say "my wife" so much that he might irritate people. We didn't write vows, we just married in the courthouse but he was so happy about it. That man loves the f-ck outta me. He LOVES being married to me. Ladies, men like that exist and you deserve a man like that. Don't settle for these man children.