Thank you Barbara. I'm in a dark place right now and really struggling. I am finding your videos a real life line as I try to be proactive through this bout. Thank you.
I realized that i am feeling anxious almost every second of my life. I am actually assessing every action of mine to determine whether i am a narcissist or not. Some negative thoughts come up and i get anxious about being toxic. I really need to calm down
Something that worked for me through CBT was to laugh at myself....and say out loud .. "here we go again" And laugh....also I would say ...."this is not real". Bringing myself back to reality that everything is okay.
Deep slow breathing or diaphragmatic breathing is something I regularly forget is a thing..and yet so easy and effective in the moment to calm the body and nervous system. Appreciate these videos very much.
It really is my go-to! I often recommend consciously doing it at least three times a day for two weeks - and then it begins to become automatic. So pleased you are finding my videos helpful and thank you for letting me know!
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thanks so much Barb! ..and for the practical suggestion. Best if it becomes second nature probably. An easy to access antidote to excessive rumination and an escape from the tensed up shallow breathing anxiety can create. I did a detour through the Botanical Gardens today…very calming. And yes..your videos are truly great.
I love to listen to you Barbara. You explain everything clearly and in such a manner that anyone can understand. I can give myself an anxiety very fast, and it take me hours or days to get rid of it. Usually it is from intrussive thoughts, or sometimes it starts right in my stomach. In 2022 I took a work position that was giving me anxiety and severe stomach ache, and my body was so dysregulated, that even unrelated stress was giving me severe stomach ache for hours. I had to take pain relievers every time, because it lasted for hours otherwise. The whole vicious cycle lasted maybe 3 months, untill I completely gave up on this job mentally, didn't care to keep it anymore, and be ready to quit if needed... Once I got to this point, my pains stopped....Severe stress can hurt you physically...
I have somatic anxiety. I don't believe the problem is random events we have no control over, it's the perception that we have no control. We can always make preparations to ameliorate the effects. And yes, deep breathing helps. Many thanks for the reminder.
Ah yes! I should’ve included this possibility! Sounds like you are aware of both physical and cognitive, which is actually helpful… so choosing which type of intervention works best or try one of each! Wishing you all the best!
Thank you for your reminders of how important it is to calm the body through breathing and grounding activities. It's a learning curve and a process. I love the way you focus on just a few things at a time. It helps me apply what I've been learning the last couple years to whatever arises from day to day. 💟🌹 Thanks again!
It's fascinating how often examples of catastrophizing end up with the person fearing homelessness. My adult aging sibling is homeless (chronic) and that is the trigger for my constant intense anxiety (which is both cognitive and somatic at the same time usually). Being homeless is not the worst case; it can get worse than that. And when your anxiety and worry is involving the health and safety of a homeless loved one, one whose health and safety has already been in jeopardy, the catastrophizing mind goes to some truly horrific places. Yes, the feelings of sadness and powerlessness are there. Your anxiety/boundaries video was a gem as well.
I can’t deal with the constant anxiety and panic attacks and the agoraphobia I want it to end and I do not know where to go or what to do I feel like crap every day the physical symptoms are to much I will never get better how can I do this I feel like I’m in a black hole with no way out
YOU POSTED THIS 5 MONTHS AGO: HOW I HOPE YOU ARE DOING BETTER. IF NOT, PERHAPS YOU CAN TELL US THE CITY IN WHICH YOU LIVE AND OTHERS MIGHT DIRECT YOU TO HELP...DO TAKE CARE, PLEASE
I was doing fine and I woke up and it was 3:45am and looking at my watch is what set me off. How does a watch do that. My watch was off my arm but I went to put it on and I saw it go 82bpm and to me that is not the right reading because I took a Tenormin which is a beta blocker at midnight and a NyQuil so I know it wasn’t going that fast but I thought it was anyway. I am so damn anxious right now that I’m here on my iPhone 2 minutes to 4:00am hoping that it doesn’t turn into a panic attack. This is one of the worst feelings I’ve ever had in my lifetime. I hate anxiety but I hate panic attacks even more. So to avoid getting one I didn’t want to sit in my bed in the dark and breathe my way through it, so I took 1mg of Klonopin. Ugh 😩 I have had panic disorder for the last 34 yrs. Barbara Heffernan if you’re reading this, I want to thank you for making these videos. You are my Dr. Claire Weekes on RUclips and for that I’m grateful!!
Oh sh*t, this was very helpful. I always dismiss people on the topic because they don't feel like they know what they are talking about, but lo and behold I had the opposite feeling with you :) Mine is definately somatic anxiety and it's CONSTANT and manifests as super tight legs, super tight muscles, a constant current of fear in my legs.
This is destroying my life and making me miserable. That, and my depression. My impulse control goes straight to 0 when the anxiety is at its peak... Then when it's over, I'm lie "What just came over me?" It's like a second person takes over when my anxiety is at its peak... I fight... Women. I wage war. With my husband, I flight. Anxiety causes delusions... I literally believe what ever is going on in my head... Replaying it over and over and over in my head. This is affecting me to the point of frequent anxiety attacks. How can I reach you? Do you take Tricare? Offer online therapy?
Hi Kori: I only do a very small amount of online coaching and do not take insurance. I have an online program that has helped people with anxiety, it can be a complement to therapy or stand alone, but it is not therapy. Info is here: www.awakenjoy.life/roadmap. There are testimonials from people about how it helps. More info is also available with my online webinar. Link in notes to this video. Wishing you health and healing!
Actually it is positive if you are aware of both. If one can become really aware of the cycle - how one fuels the other - then one has more ability to figure out where you can cut the cycle. I wish you health and healing!
@@BarbaraHeffernanI’d love if you’d consider creating a video discussing this subject and process if you haven’t already! Thank you for all your insights!
I am exhausted trying to deal with my anxiety!
same same
Same with anxiety and depression
Same here.
Thank you Barbara. I'm in a dark place right now and really struggling. I am finding your videos a real life line as I try to be proactive through this bout. Thank you.
I realized that i am feeling anxious almost every second of my life. I am actually assessing every action of mine to determine whether i am a narcissist or not. Some negative thoughts come up and i get anxious about being toxic. I really need to calm down
Something that worked for me through CBT was to laugh at myself....and say out loud ..
"here we go again" And laugh....also I would say ...."this is not real". Bringing myself back to reality
that everything is okay.
What other techniques does cbt do
I heard about this method and it actually works! 👍
Deep slow breathing or diaphragmatic breathing is something I regularly forget is a thing..and yet so easy and effective in the moment to calm the body and nervous system. Appreciate these videos very much.
It really is my go-to! I often recommend consciously doing it at least three times a day for two weeks - and then it begins to become automatic. So pleased you are finding my videos helpful and thank you for letting me know!
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thanks so much Barb! ..and for the practical suggestion. Best if it becomes second nature probably. An easy to access antidote to excessive rumination and an escape from the tensed up shallow breathing anxiety can create. I did a detour through the Botanical Gardens today…very calming. And yes..your videos are truly great.
I love to listen to you Barbara. You explain everything clearly and in such a manner that anyone can understand. I can give myself an anxiety very fast, and it take me hours or days to get rid of it. Usually it is from intrussive thoughts, or sometimes it starts right in my stomach. In 2022 I took a work position that was giving me anxiety and severe stomach ache, and my body was so dysregulated, that even unrelated stress was giving me severe stomach ache for hours. I had to take pain relievers every time, because it lasted for hours otherwise. The whole vicious cycle lasted maybe 3 months, untill I completely gave up on this job mentally, didn't care to keep it anymore, and be ready to quit if needed... Once I got to this point, my pains stopped....Severe stress can hurt you physically...
I have somatic anxiety. I don't believe the problem is random events we have no control over, it's the perception that we have no control. We can always make preparations to ameliorate the effects.
And yes, deep breathing helps. Many thanks for the reminder.
Thank you! It all happens so fast making it difficult to identify what came first. Thought, body,
Ah yes! I should’ve included this possibility! Sounds like you are aware of both physical and cognitive, which is actually helpful… so choosing which type of intervention works best or try one of each! Wishing you all the best!
Thank you for your reminders of how important it is to calm the body through breathing and grounding activities. It's a learning curve and a process. I love the way you focus on just a few things at a time. It helps me apply what I've been learning the last couple years to whatever arises from day to day. 💟🌹 Thanks again!
You are so welcome! Thanks for the feedback and for sharing how it helps to focus on a few things at a time!!
It's fascinating how often examples of catastrophizing end up with the person fearing homelessness. My adult aging sibling is homeless (chronic) and that is the trigger for my constant intense anxiety (which is both cognitive and somatic at the same time usually). Being homeless is not the worst case; it can get worse than that. And when your anxiety and worry is involving the health and safety of a homeless loved one, one whose health and safety has already been in jeopardy, the catastrophizing mind goes to some truly horrific places. Yes, the feelings of sadness and powerlessness are there. Your anxiety/boundaries video was a gem as well.
Awesome video - keep up your mission to help the suffering people in this world!
Thank you! Hope this was helpful!
I can’t deal with the constant anxiety and panic attacks and the agoraphobia I want it to end and I do not know where to go or what to do I feel like crap every day the physical symptoms are to much I will never get better how can I do this I feel like I’m in a black hole with no way out
me, too!
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YOU POSTED THIS 5 MONTHS AGO: HOW I HOPE YOU ARE DOING BETTER. IF NOT, PERHAPS YOU CAN TELL US THE CITY IN WHICH YOU LIVE AND OTHERS MIGHT DIRECT YOU TO HELP...DO TAKE CARE, PLEASE
I was doing fine and I woke up and it was 3:45am and looking at my watch is what set me off. How does a watch do that. My watch was off my arm but I went to put it on and I saw it go 82bpm and to me that is not the right reading because I took a Tenormin which is a beta blocker at midnight and a NyQuil so I know it wasn’t going that fast but I thought it was anyway. I am so damn anxious right now that I’m here on my iPhone 2 minutes to 4:00am hoping that it doesn’t turn into a panic attack. This is one of the worst feelings I’ve ever had in my lifetime. I hate anxiety but I hate panic attacks even more. So to avoid getting one I didn’t want to sit in my bed in the dark and breathe my way through it, so I took 1mg of Klonopin. Ugh 😩 I have had panic disorder for the last 34 yrs. Barbara Heffernan if you’re reading this, I want to thank you for making these videos. You are my Dr. Claire Weekes on RUclips and for that I’m grateful!!
Hi: I'm reading... and I'm so sorry to hear what a horrible night you had! I truly hope my videos are helpful... You can do this :)!
I am really impress with your wealth of knowledge and how you are able to explain it for the everyday person. Thank you .
Oh sh*t, this was very helpful. I always dismiss people on the topic because they don't feel like they know what they are talking about, but lo and behold I had the opposite feeling with you :) Mine is definately somatic anxiety and it's CONSTANT and manifests as super tight legs, super tight muscles, a constant current of fear in my legs.
How are you today ?
@@DH-ht9pl Actually recovering from a minor fever.
Thank you Barbara.
Thanks
This is destroying my life and making me miserable. That, and my depression. My impulse control goes straight to 0 when the anxiety is at its peak...
Then when it's over, I'm lie "What just came over me?"
It's like a second person takes over when my anxiety is at its peak...
I fight... Women. I wage war.
With my husband, I flight.
Anxiety causes delusions...
I literally believe what ever is going on in my head... Replaying it over and over and over in my head.
This is affecting me to the point of frequent anxiety attacks.
How can I reach you? Do you take Tricare?
Offer online therapy?
Yes They Offer Online Therapy.
Hi Kori: I only do a very small amount of online coaching and do not take insurance. I have an online program that has helped people with anxiety, it can be a complement to therapy or stand alone, but it is not therapy. Info is here: www.awakenjoy.life/roadmap. There are testimonials from people about how it helps. More info is also available with my online webinar. Link in notes to this video. Wishing you health and healing!
EXTREMELY HELPFUL...MANY THANKS...
Very helpful. Thank you!
Superb insight!
How do I stop thinking dark/dangerous thoughts?
Thank you for this! It was so helpful!
excellent
Good narrative 👏
Thanks! I hope it is helpful!
I get both cognitive and somatic lol
These tips are helpful. Deep breathing and choosing right behaviour is really helpful.
I have both more than three time a day
When to decide going to benzos is the only solution?
Benzos are never the "solution" only a bandaid with very harmful side effects. There must be something else!
But what if you really are in danger (or could be), being in a high-stressz safety sensitive job, but dealing with this intense anxiety.
✅ good video
Thanks ✌!
What if you’re aware both somatically and cognitively.?!?! 😭
Actually it is positive if you are aware of both. If one can become really aware of the cycle - how one fuels the other - then one has more ability to figure out where you can cut the cycle. I wish you health and healing!
@@BarbaraHeffernanI’d love if you’d consider creating a video discussing this subject and process if you haven’t already! Thank you for all your insights!
What if u have both...
First
💙🧡💜
Hurricane might hit 😭 I got scared and I don't even live near an ocean
Does anyone knows if having a headache constantly is a part of anxiety??
I don’t know but that’s started with me. TMS pain free u may help