"If someone carves into a sapling with a knife, the injury is as wide as the entire trunk, though that mark will never fully heal, you can grow the tree around it, and as you grow the scar gets smaller in proportion." Now that is truly a beautiful piece. Well done.
If someone carves into a sapling with a knife the injury is as wide as the entire trunk though that Mark will never fully be you can grow the tree around it and as it grows the scar will get smaller and smaller
If you carve all the way around a tree and remove all the bark in a strip across the circumference, the tree usually dies. It’s called ring-barking. Elephants do it often.
@@alexrydin Sure but it didn't die because you carved into it, it died because you proceeded to remove the bark afterwards. If you just carve a strip all the way around and leave it alone, the tree will be fine.
@@@icouldntcareless3202 And that is unfortunate. For the ones who have to keep living with a loved one passed like that and for the ones who believed giving up on living was their way out.
This made me cry for hours. Whenever I talk to strangers, on the outside it might look like I'm okay, but on the inside I'm dying and screaming and I just want nothing more than to leave. I have panic attacks, social anxiety and depression. I am what people call "painfully shy". This happened because of bullies at my primary school, I tried so fucking hard to fit in for 5 years but it never worked. Now, I'm getting therapy. Even though things are hard sometimes I know that this is good and I know that I need help, otherwise I won't become happy. I feel sad or numb every day but things will get better. To everyone out there going through rough times, remember: you're not alone and things will get better.
@@frontside54 Frankly, we all check out eventually. Eventually that may change. Possibly for the rich and powerful. But they have their own problems. We all have problems. Sticking around through advanced genetic manipulation may be the fix. Or it may be a curse. We really don't know. Those that have moved on may be in a better place. Or nowhere. Or in a worse place. We really don't know. But what we do know is that as bad as it gets, if you stay here, you can only shorten your ability to get to a better place here. If you wait long enough, it will get better, or it won't. That's about all we know. But if you don't wait, you can't know. For the here and now. Best to stick it out, then see what happens. Because in the end, you'll be in the same place. A place we can't know is better, worse, or the same. I'd like to think that is inspirational to keep toughing it out. But it's basically saying we can't really know if anything means anything. So just stick to this because in the end, you go a while, then you don't. We know that. Make the most of the going a while. Why not?
I'd also like to amend that to say, if you go a while anyways, why not try to do the best you can? I've seen what a tiny dose of positivity can do to other people and it is lacking in our world right now. But it feels so good. Give on the little things. Pay attention to that and feed on it. It really helps.
As far as I can tell, things don't get better; circumstances change and that's all. So thing or things that cause you pain are always there, but not always in focus. When they are in focus everything feels like it's not worth the pain you are going through, and you want it just to stop. When your life/ focus shifts to something else, you are concentrating on that and your pain - still there - can't take over your mental landscape to the same degree. Sometimes you realise that a particular incidence of pain is lessened when you check in with it again, but the root cause of it never goes away. Eg. you may no longer remember the faces or the exact punishments/words of your childhood bullies, but you remember the feelings of being smaller and weaker, that no one coming to help proved your worthlessness, the bargain with yourself of avoidant behaviour (if I don't do X then they won't target me) to try fitting in better. It stays. But circumstances change.
Coming back to this after years. This spoke to me as an anxious, shy, scared child and it still speaks to me as a substantially more confident adult finding my footing. I’ve always loved this and the trust video because it made me feel connected to a community of people just trying to find their place in the world. So I guess, thank you.
This is purely beautiful, I cannot begin to express how much I am able to relate to what was said in this video. Thank you for making me feel not so alone.
The use of colors on color pallets here is really very good, it is similar to a child's adventure in finger painting which always seems to have an unpleasant consequence even if a child may be allowed to have this activity. As one of the commenters so meanly pointed out, who is going to clean up that damned mess. A child wants to finger paint everything, mashed potatoes, pudding, peanut butter, etc. But always, oh my god, what a mess! We steel the power away from every potential empowering thing in not only a child's life, but we do it to each other. We learn to hide inside and build up a shield around our selves because we just can't live with out some power, some sort of protection from the onslaught we endure. Harry found his power because he found his true passion, an outlet and inlet, a way to come out and shine no matter what. It will be good to see you all everyone as you begin to find your own passion and power. It will happen. Hugs are nice too, even if you have to ask for one. The world is a mess, but messes are also fun, and not always a chore, step in the paint and splash the mud puddles, the next rain will clean it up, no worries.
Shyness, unlike introversion, is painful for the person who has it. It's like wanting to reach out but at the same time you have this fear and anxiety that you will be pushed away or ignored. It's made worse by American society, I've seen, because this society is individualistic and it favors extroversion and people who are social butterflies. What happens is shy children do not get better as they get older because their parents apologize for them, for their shyness, and other children act like they're pariahs. This creates teens and even adults who have spent so long in their shell that they have almost completely lost confidence in their ability to get out and also have lost hope that it will be worth it to try.
+Emily Rose It speaks volumes. Being mute made this worse. I honestly don't know what would of happened to my emotional growth if my lifelong friend and now significant other hadn't been there. It's hard to be social when normal conversation moves too quickly for you to write a comment or story. I feel I'm relatively unafraid to communicate nowadays, but even today I have second thoughts about engaging in a conversation in fear of being lost in the flow. Don't give up though. The best you can do is find something to help you stand until you can grow on your own ^_^
I completely agree. I have diagnosed severe anxiety, I'm not shy, but every time my family even wants to go anywhere, I can't stop my brain from overflowing with thoughts. Will I throw up? Will people judge me? But, it is way worse than that. I can't explain it. Even after tons of self talk, meditation, the only thing that temporarily helps me is hydroxyzine. I would say this has caused me to be an introvert, and thus summer, I would get attacks all day. Nothing happening, just attacks. It's not so much about _being_ social and talking to people (I'm fine with that), it's going out and having the thought that you're not OK and something's wrong. You don't know why, but it traps you and chains you up. I now attend an online school, and I'm getting better, but trust me; introversion hurts.
"... unlike introversion, is painful to the person who has it." So... you're implying my severe introversion isn't painful? That it's not socially crippling and inhibiting, and causes anxiety? This is all totally different from introversion? Then I guess it's good to know I'm not introverted after all!
I cannot believe this channel is at almost 1 million subscribers. I remember when you just came back on youtube and had like 20 thousand. This channel honestly deserves 1 million more than most that already have it.
I honestly don't know why I'm crying. I didn't expect this to touch me as much as it did. I was watching it because I just wanted to see some more of an actor I liked, and found a true piece of art that was so beautiful, and meaningful and touching. This was truly an honour to watch, and so inspiring.
I'm at a loss for words. I can't get my thoughts together. All I can say right now is that I felt chills... And now that i'm starting to internalize this video I'm in the verge of tears. I never thought I could listen to someone say what I've felt all my life so clearly, or have someone show it by movement. It's an odd feeling when you have a stranger bring to light all that you have inside... I'm gonna stop now.
How personable. May I take a dump on your chest? no no no... must fight urge... to ... troll.... such... touching commentation on video.. impressed... by... ms paint talent... no no no...
Why do you place art in quotations like you're the authority figure on it?... while likely not being an artistic person or respecting art in general...
II QuietRiot II Well a lot of messes are a result of seemingly random/sudden occurrences. There are a lot of factors that play into making a "mess" which results in a lot of variety. For example, the way you might lash out your arm at a certain time in a certain position.
this video is for the introverts, who don't deal well in the extrovert world. They internalize their energy creatively instead of socializing. And when they show the world what they have to offer, it shines.
I really don't believe there is a difference between the two besides the names and how people take the meaning of either word. Sometimes I'm both of these things.
When I was a kid, I was really naive and outgoing. Too outgoing. Then, I was bullied for about 5 years, with my last "friends" also pushing me away all the time. Now, I'm really anxious when talking and can't even initiate a conversation properly - it takes so much courage, and even then, all I do is mess it up. I wish I had something I could find myself in, just like Harry has his dancing, but I have tried so many things now, and all they do is stress me even more. I'm so tired. And I feel so alone. But I don't know what to do.
+Timeturner Within Time, You will find something that you will enjoy doing. It all takes hard..hard work. It won't be easy as it never is. But I can say this: I am proud that you at least tried those many things, Friend. I've met a lot of people who have desired to never try at all and yet, they will then wonder why they feel so disappointed of themselves. I am glad that you even told your summarized story of what has happened to you as you aren't alone in what you feel. I, myself, have felt similar feelings and after over a year of unbearable tasks that I had to endure through, I can tell you that I have found joy and still do to this day. So please, continue trying. Continue to search what your heart desires of what makes you happy. Only then, I know you will come back and say that you are truly content with what you found..and you will be at peace. I can't wait for that day.
or he could just stop careing(is that how u write it?please corec me),that's what i did,i just don't care ,or don't want to care,i wish to care but if i care i could get hurt,y get in trouble if u can avoid it,i just embraced the shell that i am in,accepted it and stardet to like it,it can hurt but...you just have to walk it off...look at the bright side,in another timeline u're not like this
I hate when people, even my friends, ask me why I'm so shy. "Just be more open" "Why do you never talk" "You're always so shy just say hello to them" I CAN'T. If I could build up the fucking courage to do it then I would. But even being at the slight center of attention makes me panic and I just freeze. Thanks so much for this, I hope one day I'll be able to be the crazy fun and exiting person I always aspire to be.
You should keep something in mind... just saying that "one day" something might be better isn't enough, it's just learning other abilities, practicing does the trick, not waiting. You should just start with people you are comfortable with like a friend or family member, slowly but surely expanding the people you are around with and always try to talk on your own; it sounds hard at first but it really shouldn't be. I was rather shy when I was a young boy and now I still like being alone from time to time and think about things but at the same time I like to be in a group and casually talk with people. You need to loose the idea that someone is judging you. You might say that that isn't the thing you are concerned about, but from my experience most people that are shy just don't want to be judged in fear someone might disagree (for lack of a better term) with an action you make something you say. (aka fear to embarrass yourself) For me it helped that I tried to look at it in another perspective. Just look what people do in situations when attention falls to them, even when they make a fool out of themselves... you "need" to learn how to ignore people to some extent; Like: "I don't care what you people think of me. That's who I am and this is what I do; Deal with it, or leave if you can't"... Being shy in a situation always felt like lying to myself. I hope that helps
I also hate when people say that. I'm extremely shy and quiet, I'm very afraid of talking to groups of people. So when they say "just speak up" or tell me they'll "stop my shyness" it ticks me off!! It's not a disease and it's not funny!!
A tip: think of yourself as a critic, an outside observer commenting on others, rather than being an active participant. That's how I deal with people. I can actually act pretty normal, especially when I don't have to see someone else's eyes (still am not good at that, I focus on the nose instead. They can't tell the difference, but it helps me a lot). The only downside is that you have to watch what you say. My thoughts start blending with my words when I go into observer-mode to talk, which can lead to some really awkward conversations, as I'm not an overly nice person when it comes to judging others. You may not have that issue, but just a head's up.
It's kinda funny how when people get fascinated in shy people and start saying they're shy as well, in reality very little do they know that they ignore shy people every day or even pick on them.
This is one of the most touching things I've seen a long time. As a very, very shy person who has found family amongst friends and strength in my fear, thank you for sharing this.
If you are in a shell, you could possibly be like Harry. If you are not like Harry and still reside in a shell, chances are that you are a tortoise...or even a clam.
This is Harry. As a boy, Harry was very, very shy. Some people may have even said he was painfully shy. As if his shyness caused them pain and not the other way around. There are many things that can cause a person to recede. To look away from other people's eyes or to choose empty hallways over crowded ones. Some shy people try to reach out and try, and nothing seems to come back and then there just comes a point where they stop trying. In Harry's case he was slapped in the face and called names designed to isolate him, designed to deliver maximum damage. This because he came from a different country and didn't know the right words to use or the right way to say them. And so, Harry learned how to be still, to camouflage, to be the least. Some people describe this as receding into a shell, where the stillness hardens and protects. But the eyes, even when they look down and away, are still watching, still looking for some way out or in; painfully shy. Then in middle school, Harry found theater, where he forced himself to speak through other people's words. And then dance, where he started to speak through the movements of his body. To be so still for so long when you're young, means a lot of pent up energy and it was released there through work, endless work. If someone carves into a sapling with a knife, the injury is as wide as the entire trunk. Though that mark will never fully heal, you can grow the tree around it, and as you grow, the scar gets smaller in proportion. If you, right now, are in a shell, you should know that you're are not alone and there are many, many people like you and that there is nothing wrong with you. It might even be necessary right now. It might keep you safe for a time. But once the danger is gone, or after it's exhausted it's use, you'll find a way out. You may need help, you may need to work really hard, you may need to find some ways to laugh at yourself, or find a passion, or a friend, but you will find it. And, when you do, it will be so good to see you. This is Harry. As a boy, Harry was very, very shy.
I prefered shelled myself, usually the unshelled ones are always oversalted. They just taste alot better without any of that cleaning or anything done to them.
absolutely beautiful. its so nice to see uplifting videos like this. to make people feel less alone is one of the greatest gifts anyone can give, and it is so simple. love it.
Absolutely beautiful and inspiring. I've definitely been in a shell. I found my way out through theatre. I discovered my passion and found people to share it with me. I took time but - like Harry - we all have a creative, beautiful person inside of us waiting for the right time to burst open and shine
I usually look to Zefrank for humor, but in this video he has given voice to emotions I have so long harbored, and even though in my case when I left "my shell" I was betrayed and left for dead, not figuratively, but literally , I survived, and I have formed a new shell, that I am only now becoming to emerge from, stronger than I was before that I may learn to take my shell and make something more manageable like instead a shell a malleable cloak made of microfiberous carbon. A shell that allows me to get closer to others with still some protection...
TiFFerzZehNiNjA im very shy around anybody i dont know because they mistake what i say and it embarass me so i just dont talk anymore if i have a bad day i just wont talk much unless its scicnce because i feel like i can do anything it that room but i hate english because every time i get a laptop i have to get a different one and i get stared at by evryone and my english teacher hates me and anyone who has a laptop ; ;
***** im shy so i turn to gaming and the interent it always makes me feel better. i know why im shy as a young child i never really went outside i was mainly in hospital or at the doctors and i moved a lot so i had very litttle freinds because i knew i wanst going to stay at that school very long :(
Receding in a shell is a self protection mechanism so that he stays alone and no one can hurt him, probably had few friends and most aren't around anymore but nice video and narration.
I don't think there is such as thing as a shell. People say introvert people are in a shell and needs to come out and become extrovert. Most modern sociologist agree everyone has a different level of social degree which they will exhibit, introvert and extrovert doesn't really have real meaning anymore.
aresaresares6 Introvert =/= shy I'm an introvert. That means I prefer solitude over groups, and need to recharge after a certain amount of social interaction or stimulation. I am ALSO shy. Very shy. I have anxiety when meeting new people and display fear reactions even in harmless social encounters. Not every introvert is shy. And some shy people are extroverts. I am introvert and that's fine, that's my personality. But shyness is something I developed in childhood, and need to overcome.
comiclover788998 I'm not saying shyness is entirely a good thing. I'm just trying to show people there's a certain level of social comfort everyone has. Some people love giving a speech about themselves in front of 1 million people, aka politicians like Biden. Other people like to be alone for the most part, ex. Tesla. The point is you can't group everyone who is an introvert into shyness category and force them to "come out of their shell" by making them do things they don't want to. Maybe they are happy where they are.
I use to be very very shy, but I eventually find my way out through exercise and weight lifting. I discovered that by improving my physical appearance, I became more confident and started being the person i always wanted to be.
Joe Brah Not all shyness is a matter of self image. When I was more fit than I am now, I was more shy, despite being MUCH more fit. With that said, I'm glad you've found a way to surmount it and remain happy. More power to ya man!
Joe Brah This happened to me too! I was shy because I didn't feel comfortable in my skin, like my mind wasn't really made for my body. I didn't speak much to people because I didn't want their eyes on me. Then I started to see my body not as a burden but as a tool, a part of me: I lost some weight, I exercised, I got the hairstyle I've always wanted, didn't feel ashamed to put some make-up on -- and I magically became confident, I let my interests and passions leave the cage that was my head, meet new people, and now I'm happy :) After all, the Romans did say: mens sana in corpore sano.
This is a really good way to tell people why you are shy. I am rather shy because I got bullied and excluded in primary school. Since coming to high school, I've come out of my shell, but sometimes I still need to be alone and get away from people, because I am very anxious. Just wanted to say my part :)
It means you're an introvert. In high school i came out of my shell; I even performed on stage, but i needed still needed a fair amount of alone time. Being an introvert means that you recharge when you're alone, so needing to be alone at times is normal.
The world isn't ready for you yet, you're too much to handle! Just don't play yourself small so people will feel comfy. Don't hide how awesome you are cuz other people don't get it.
ze, i came here expecting something funny about a snail or a crab or something... But no. You gave me a wonderfully inspiring video about the beauty of being yourself. This is also what you did in "Fitting In Cardboard". Please make more. You may not know it, but I know, somewhere someone has seen this video, someone on the edge of either hurting themselves or other people, and not done it. Amazingly done zefrank. I can honestly say I wish I could subscribe twice. :)
I've been shy my whole life. Worse than shy--I have social anxiety. And it hurts so much when people treat me like a burden or try to write my struggles off as 'laziness.' I'd give anything to be able to talk to people, to walk into a room and feel at ease and not struggle to breathe. It's just so hard.
Consider meds. If you feel that bad before you even enter the room, it's not on them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming you either. But sometimes short term medication can put you at ease enough to improve your social skills and build some friendships and have the kind of positive experiences that can change your outlook. I've heard of people going on antianxiety needs just for 6 to 12 months and later on discovering they just don't need them anymore.
Enjoyed... I too feel like I'm in a shell. Sometimes. But less and less as I get older. Also, RUclips has helped me too soo much... Never would have believed I would be doing this 5 years ago. Loved the video.
I JUST HAVE NO WORDS. THAT SPOKE TO MY SOUL. LIKE YOU WERE THERE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. WATCHED EVERY TEAR FALL. WITNESSED EVERYPLACE AND TIME I TRIED SEEKING REFUGE FROM THE HARSH AND UNFORGIVING JUDGEMENT I ENCOUNTERED.♡♡ THANK YOU
I don't understand... I don't understand why people make jokes about this video. How people refuse to look at the meaning. How people just stare blankly at the door and not even wondering what lies behind. How people say this isn't art as if art is a tangible thing that has a definite shape. Art has a wide spectrum, video making is art, music is art, writing is art, drawing is art, paint is art, destruction is art, everything is art if you make it, intending for it to be art. Every photograph you've ever seen was art, every movie you sat through was someone's art, every line in the sand you made was art. I look through the comments and see all this... all of this disgust. I see spite and I see pride. For all of you who stand there, looking at the door, pointlessly... either follow us in or walk away, because the door will look the same on the side you're on. But on our side, it keeps changing.
+Johnny Grim I really agree. I'm shy in real life. As I look at these comments I wonder what these people really think. Or if this is the low life we have all stooped to...
I used to be bullied by others, too. Eventually making myself invisible became so normal that I did it without even noticing. I developed social anxiety, which I had for seven years. Last year I realized that letting people contain me in a shell like that was letting them control me, without having to lift a finger. So I decided I was going to force my way out of that shell, and ever since then I have dedicated myself to that goal and made every choice based on that. It's been so hard along the way; it takes a lot of guts to choose to show yourself to the world after hiding away for so long. And it's still hard every day, but it's always getting easier to truly be myself. I've never been happier in my entire life. I've never had so much freedom to express myself. Now things that seem so mundane and normal to others are a gift for me, because I'd never been able to do many social things before. My heart truly goes out to all of those who hide themselves from others for fear of judgement. If I can say one thing to them, I will say this; I know it seems hard, and it's so scary, but you can do it. Let yourself be the blooming flower. You've been hidden away for so long, but when you finally choose to blossom, we will all be glad to see and embrace you.
A beautiful (yet messy) philosophical representation on what it is like being an introvert and also the impacts of being bullied. Unfortunately, there too many incidents out there where people have been bullied. Bullying can be physical, emotional, or knowingly not reaching out to others when they need help. While not everyone goes from being bullied to success, everyone has their own bucket of paint with which to colour their world. #bullying #psychology #beautiful #introvert
I am a tomboy and as a little girl and I loved to dress like a guy and act like a guy and hang with guys and do guy things. I one day as a little girl a kid came up to me and asked of my gender, and I didn't really feel comfort in it. Therefore, I started slowly changing into a girly personality. Shyness comes into play for me because since I acted like a boy and hang out with boys my whole life, I was always shy to looking like a fool of myself trying to get along with girls. when I reached middle school I had to stop hanging out with my guy friends because my eyes would always try to be in perspective of a person who would look over people in levels of popularity. As a loner, I started to write poems about my depression and symbolism I found the world as. My real father died when i was in 1st grade and my step dad is obsessed with Beer, cigarettes, and lottery tickets. Although I still had my loving mother that wouldn't give up on me, I still was nearly always depressed and I was always scared and subconscious in trying to talk in front of a classroom or to people in school. I would always hide my shyness by forcing myself to speak in front of the class because I thought it would help me. entering 7th grade, the closest people I had were some people to talk to. The only times I could bring out true emotions were online gaming on Xbox and in poems, and in drawing. The highest level of confidence I could bring my self to was average. Never really to accelerate in anything I knew. I wish I had someone by my side at the time to tell me that I could take risks. Entering 8th grade I realized that when I was friends with boys I would always take risks in making friends and I always would be myself and people didn't even care about my personality. I began to act more goofy and more myself, and even as a tomboy, the girliest (I don't even think that's a real word) of girls accepted me into their groups and I didn't even pay attention to what people thought of me and before I knew it, people I didn't even know knew me. Some girls even told me about how witty I was and I didn't even know what that meant at the time. I feel so glad that I took risks in life and I realized and felt so blind to not know that life IS a risk itself. I could only wish I had someone that knew that could've told me when I was young, because now I can be myself, and I'm not nearly the prettiest person alive, I'm not the smartest person alive, but you know what? Who needs to be? Do you think you need to be the smartest person alive? Do you think you need to be the prettiest person alive? Do you think you need to be the greatest at anything? Just remember, if you practice and not worry, whatever you are trying to achieve will come to you. Like I said, life IS a risk, and YOU are the one to be taking it! Will you say "Challenge accepted"? Here's what I say. I can't believe I wrote a freaking essay over a 3 minute video! xD
Hey, I read this, and I'm here to tell you, you aren't alone :) all of us have our things. Even the popular kids, reach out, if they turn you down, fuck them! They aren't worth your time! Be a Tom boy! Personally where I live, tomboys are cool! And I have a couple of friends that are Tom boys, we're here for you! Don't worry.
+Rachel Decastro I'm a lot like you. I just moved and have met very many people. But Ive never been brave enough to really reach out and ask for a real friendship. I never had the guts to take action to my needs. The kids here are nice, since I live in a rural area where nobody is 'rich'. We are all equal here; and the popular kids are simply this big circle of all the funny extroverted people who are friends with everyone, and there aren't many small clicks around either. I often make up for the things I want to say or do through poetry and other variations of writing. And my biggest talent is drawing, and I often use it to express myself as I do with writing. But a big flaw of mine is using those things to block people out. But I want to break down that barrier and break out of my shell Ive been cramped up in for so long...I just don't know how.
This was the most beautiful and powerful thing I have seen. It spoken mountains of words and emotions to me. Sometimes the simplest of actions are the most thought provoking. Thank you :)
Years latter and it’s still so moving. I love the content on this channel, I watched everything years ago and now it’s coming back up on my recommended list.
I think why I like this so much is that it validates the reason why people are the way they are for a short amount of time, to protect themselves. IT also reminds you that you don't have to be that way forever and to remember to open back up.
I live in a shell. A very thick shell. But the shell is one thing that may define me and my life. I've slowly started hitting my shell, trying to break it. Then I see people stare at me, with cold eyes, as if they are judging me and my choices in life. I know they don't know how bad it feels to be stared at in judgement, but they don't know my story. The ones who judge me may know my name, birthday, favorites, but they can't describe anything that I have been through. I remember I got stressed out during a test, and I heard someone tell my teacher that I was crying, then both of them sighed. Then the same person said that I cry often, which only made it worse, I just wanted to put him in my shoes, make him care about something for once. I ended up giving myself some sort of motivation by telling myself that moping around won't change my life.This video helps me see clearly in words that I have to change myself by building a social life and my own reality. Thank you ZeFrank. And thank you too everyone else in the comment section sharing their own sorrows for proving that I'm not the only one. Thank you. And I'll shut up now.
i won't really call myself shy. i'm more of a quiet person who gets frustrated easily. but on the internet i'm a different person and it sometimes amazes my friends (internet AND school) about how different i can be behind a screen and in real life. this kind of relates to me, and i get it since i have a lot of shy friends. if you're shy, it'll get better i promise. just keep your head up
I was never shy. I was always very extroverted... But somehow I can relate to this. I don't know if it's because of empathy or because despite the fact that I was comfortable around people, I never really opened myself honestly to others so in a way, I was "shy"... But I really get it.
Oh wow. This is actually so beautiful, I can feel his emotion through his movements, and I feel like I can live it through the words. As a kid I was shy... still am, but maybe I'll find the colors in my life :)
Zefrank, thank you. Looking through these comments and the way I feel about the video, I would say you have affected and helped a lot of people. In one of your TED talks you told the story of Ray, and how you admired what he did to try to affect strangers with his song, just like what you were trying to do. And I think it's accurate to say you have fulfilled that hope. Cheers mate.
When I moved to U.S I was just like Harry but after a while I had a conversation with myself (11 year old self). Those people, kids in school, were not going to determine who I was going to become. I was not going to let them rule me and make me feel insignificant. So I decided to be ME. I stopped caring what they thought. I then found happiness within myself which translated into my relationships with family and friends. I had friends that could not do this. Some sunk in a deep depression that required therapy. Some were never able to recover from it. Most of us were able to adjust because we had each other to lean on and for that I am thankful. When someone/something is new, ignorant people immediately eject the thought of it because it is easier to disregard the "thing" than to try to understand it. They are afraid it might be better than them.
It's crazy knowing how far Harry has come today and how impactful and important some of his characters in his acting career have been for him and others 💜
Thank you for this. Like the person who commented before me, it did describe very personal feelings and experiences, but in the past, not through the same reasons but ones that felt similar. Over the years I've slowly but surely worked my way out of my shell, I guess it's a process that even now I'm still trying to work on. I find that sometimes I prefer to stay receded within myself, but it is now often more due to choice than trapped fear of the unknown, although there is still much. I think I'll be watching this again and again, to remind myself to keep trying.
This video is amazing, and also painfully true for a lot of people out there in the world, including myself. And this video also proves that Harry Shum, Jr. can find a way to show up in my life constantly and make me amazed with the things that he can do.
My story is too long to explain. So I'll give you a short story of it: In highschool, I created a wall between myself and the other students because I didn't want to get hurt. I would not let myself reveal any expression on my face during my school days as to keep myself from exposing the weakness that others could gossip about. My school wasn't one for bullying but rumors were nasty things that nobody wanted to catch. During all of this I was ignorant of the drama going on but I don't regret it. On the other hand there were consequences. One was I had literally focused so hard on surviving each school day, that I didn't know how to *live*. And what do I mean by that? Each day I would run my routine the same way: get up for school, eat lunch, go home, do homework and then it repeats itself. It wasn't until one night in bed when I realized that I was nothing but an empty shell. I cried myself to sleep that night and had made up a resolve to actually make friends. To find the people who will be my life long friends. Although the second consequence of my quiet nature was that I had absolute no conversation skills. So I had to work on that, starting with one person at time. In the end, I still consider myself an empty shell but now I have a great group of friends that I refer to them as my "family."
+XLADEDAX Try that all over again but then you find someone who you fall madly in love with. That person then tears you away from those friends, prevents you from talking to your own family. They then tell you to write out every day how much of a monster, sociopath, liar and empty shell you are. The person that you love with all your heart not only makes you feel like a burden but tells you that you are every single day without fail.
Just remember,. You're FEELINGS are not the truth about you. You feelings are a complex mess of chemicals in your brain and your gut. Do not let them dictate who you are or your future. Regardless of how you feel, you are much much more than an empty shell. And even if you don't feel that way right now, you still have so much potential to become something wonderful. You might be the person who invents interstellar flight. And where would the rest of us be without you?!?!?
...I came to watch this video because i thought it was a hilarious facts video about animals with shells.. But the first few lines i felt what it meant by shell.. As an introvert, I already don't speak much...but I am also extremely shy or more on the lines of Anti Social ... When I was younger. I was often excluded from activities... both home and school. Not because I didn't want to be apart of, but because I wasn't accepted. I felt like an outcast as everyone would be huddled together and chat while I sat quietly in a corner. I could see in there eyes and glares as the noise quiets down as I approach; that they didnt want to bother with me. and I could hear their gossips under their breath, often referring to me as that weird quiet kid sitting in the corner, cracking jokes about how sad I looked as the entire crowd would laugh and all I could do was sit, endure, and ignore it for the time being even though it still hurt.. I couldn't speak aloud very well or show my emotions very well and often not at all when I did to try to make friends and get people to notice me, I'd often stifle upon my words as people laughed and mocked. After much time passed. I started to give up on trying to reach out because all I got back was negativity. I had a few friends who reached out for me after a while and actually talked to regularly, but it didn't last long because I moved a lot. And the illusion of "fitting in" didn't fair well with me. I didn't want to change the way they wanted me to be so I could be like everyone else, I wanted to remain who I am and still have people accept me for me, and would be willing to reach out and help when I try. Because I never spoke, or took part of the class, people would automatically label me the weird one. others where afraid and scared because they thought I was that stereotypical quiet guy who would one day bring a bunch of weapons and shoot the school up if i was pushed too far, while others thought I was 'weak' because I seemed so passive, people would pick on me, calling me names like the reject; which sparked fights instead of just leaving me alone. I tried telling close people, one family member to keep it private, but they would only tell everyone else when they promised not to. my brothers closest to my age would only laugh while the eldest and parents or rather my step "father" would try to "Help" by changing me.. it was repulsive.. so I secluded myself from people, going into a shell as I hid from the world being the "least". people would often tell me that they never knew that I was In the class even though I have sat behind them for a year, but that was what I wanted. I was already a ghost. Over hearing my own brothers say that my youngest brother should've replaced me since he is more like them and not so different or "quiet" really does something to you. My life consist of quietly waiting and watching the world as it goes by from the sidelines, waiting for a chance, or at least the right person who can actually see me. I am fine with me being quiet and shy and being in a shell for my well being, but this is a painful shyness. one that destroys my self confidence and makes questions my conscience, All because I wanted to see what It was like to be involved; putting me in a different shell that I must admit, makes me feel more comfortable. after a while when I came back to my old friends and home, I quit talking and "lost" what I had left of my social life, I hardly spoke a word or related to my old friends anymore because of how deep I was in my shell. I wore a 'blank' or emotionless face, similar to the face that harry is making during the end of the video when he first lies down before the little smile. I rarely displayed emotions because they were bottled up. The doctors diagnosed me with depression afterwards even though I didnt want to accept that because I always felt I was a happy person and others didnt deserve my emotions, so I threw away the pills they gave me, because they made me feel worse after taking them. I couldn't look people in the eyes and avoided large crowds, even talking to close friends because I was afraid to put myself out there again so I hid myself, or camouflaged just as Ze says in the video. I decided to selectively choose people who feel the same as me instead of having a lot of people acknowledge me and not give me the cold shoulder. Instead of talking, I decided to start drawing as a means to get all of what I wanted to say out. a skill I've have for a while as well as writing (somewhat), but never took it as serious as I do now because I use it to express myself since I can no longer speak it/ or no longer want to speak it. Creating a story instead since my words are spoken in thought rather than aloud. I created two characters in the form of brothers, both symbolizing me, the one that wants to reach out for others to return the favor and the one that wants to remain in his shell, isolated from everyone. People have found out about my "Story" and call it interesting and all of these positive things, Unknowing that these characters represent me and my life, personality, and feelings so far, personified into two beings. It's ironic and kind of upsetting for me to watch how they admire and reach out for the characters but did the exact opposite for person who the character embodies. I guess you can say its my own indirect way of getting people to acknowledge me as a person even to this day. As of today, I do have friends, albeit a very small group, we understand each other, accepting the fact that i don't speak much, after what I went through, I still feel more protected by myself, but for what it's worth, I try to communicate..maybe to one point that we all feel like a family. that's all I wanted in the past. Even as I type this I am choking up behind this screen as It brings up memories I tried to forget. I'd never be able to say this aloud. regardless, I'm grateful for this video because It's extremely reassuring, because I have a passion, and I'm thankful for being "Weird" and learning how to laugh at myself and a variety of other things on my own time.. Sometimes.. I do not think I was meant to vocally communicate, but to communicate through my passion and often forget about coming out of my shell because whenever I slightly do, I always revert back. I even feel as though I do not want to come out, because I am content, and sane as I am. Nevertheless, My condolences as well as my gratification to Harry for finding a way to express himself. Just from watching the dancing and the paint you can feel the emotion in this; combined with the narration... it's been a very long time since I produced meaningful tears, maybe this is from all of those times I endured, desperately trying not to show emotion or my face, swelling up and finally overflowing... it feels good... Sorry for the super long comment. I just couldn't help myself after watching this.
Well, I know. There are people who make me feel like I'm not shy. I've been in a couple relationships that got me to open up from the shell, but I will only do that around that person, or wherever I'm comfortable enough (small group of close friends). I'd hate to say something so corny albeit it accurate enough, but like a flower, put me in enough light and I'll blossom..... -shudder-
One of the best things i've seen in a long time... Artistic in so many ways , reflecting not only a shy boy , dancer , artist that gradually "comes out of his Shell" But every individual having difficulties showing " Their True Colours " Because of how society Works... BEAUTIFUL!
I got chills so many times throughout the video. ZeFrank, I've always been a fan of your work: the power in your words is truly remarkable. I was moved so deeply because I feel that so many people can relate, on a level much greater than one would first believe, and it means so much to have these feelings expressed artistically. I always admired your style, the way you made your videos (not so much the funny ones about animals but I do appreciate the diversity), and there were moments where this admiration felt strongly like envy. Then I realized it was not envy--it was deeper. It was a longing to find my own way to express myself. And so here I am, with a channel of my own creation where I talk about things I genuinely care about, that are important to me and probably to others who are aware of the world's tossing and turning. I cannot be you, but I can be the best me that is within my power. For what it's worth, I gave you the truth, my friends, feel free to check it out if you're interested. I will not let you down.
I was bullied since first grade by the same person up to fourth. I was emotionless when she bullied me. I could not express my feelings. I could barely move. Nothing else is working for me. They said to tell on her. But I never did. Until I had the strength to tell on her.. I felt proud. Another day passed and it started all over again.. It was no use. I gave up on myself. I had to learn to live with it. I couldn't. I couldn't stand life anymore. I don't deserve this. No one does. *Still here today, she is still giving me shit.* *I know a ton of people out there can relate to this.* *I know people who took their lives.* *These bullies want to make you cry and feel the pain they feel.* *Talk to them.* *Taking back actions they did to you only gets you in trouble.*
I was bullied from Kindergarten to about 8th or 9th grade. I learned from a teacher that bullies hurt those who are smaller or weaker. I've also learned over sometime that some bullies are just having a very hard life and do it to release stress and built up anger. Others will do it for fun or because of their friends(you might notice a difference between The two types). I personally just tried to be my shy and kind self. I told myself I never want to push away from who I am because eventually you'll find people who like you for who you are and I did.
Ze! You are a genious! And Harry too is a great thinker... Plus awesome dancer) i love it! I might even go out of shell for a second.. If noone will see)
As someone who recieved a late-in-life diagnosis of autism, and spent my whole life masking without knowing I was doing it, I resonate with this very deeply.
It's been 7 years since I wrote that comment, and you were right...I found a way out...and it IS so good to see myself again. Thank you for your encouragement. I'll pay it forward as best as I can. ❤
"If someone carves into a sapling with a knife, the injury is as wide as the entire trunk, though that mark will never fully heal, you can grow the tree around it, and as you grow the scar gets smaller in proportion." Now that is truly a beautiful piece. Well done.
If someone carves into a sapling with a knife the injury is as wide as the entire trunk though that Mark will never fully be you can grow the tree around it and as it grows the scar will get smaller and smaller
AXLExGREASE jensen Yes that is what he said.
If you carve all the way around a tree and remove all the bark in a strip across the circumference, the tree usually dies. It’s called ring-barking. Elephants do it often.
What a beautiful transformation Harry's made, out of the lonely, darkness of pain caused by ignorance. Your work is BEAUTIFUL ❤️
@@alexrydin Sure but it didn't die because you carved into it, it died because you proceeded to remove the bark afterwards.
If you just carve a strip all the way around and leave it alone, the tree will be fine.
'And when you do, it'll be so good to see you'. Truly beautiful and moving
As someone who has gone through this, for anyone watching who is still there, it gets better. Trust me
djlewald For some people it doesn't get better. Some people end it all before it can get better.
@@@icouldntcareless3202 And that is unfortunate. For the ones who have to keep living with a loved one passed like that and for the ones who believed giving up on living was their way out.
Thank you
When?
@@mandibailey9104 when you decide it.
Most interesting part of this video was that perfect pain spiral that occurred at 2:22
+»Sauce Gaming« I know right. Was that planned?
+»Sauce Gaming« ikr
+»Sauce Gaming« lol This isn't the first time I see this video and I first notice now
+»Sauce Gaming« as I read that comment... that part of the video happened lol
I kept reading this as pain and not paint and I was damn confused
Dear Ze,
Thank you for these beautiful works of art. They give me hope.
Wendy
+Wendy Cohen Thank you harry! for your great Choreography
This made me cry for hours. Whenever I talk to strangers, on the outside it might look like I'm okay, but on the inside I'm dying and screaming and I just want nothing more than to leave. I have panic attacks, social anxiety and depression. I am what people call "painfully shy". This happened because of bullies at my primary school, I tried so fucking hard to fit in for 5 years but it never worked. Now, I'm getting therapy. Even though things are hard sometimes I know that this is good and I know that I need help, otherwise I won't become happy. I feel sad or numb every day but things will get better. To everyone out there going through rough times, remember: you're not alone and things will get better.
@@frontside54 Frankly, we all check out eventually. Eventually that may change. Possibly for the rich and powerful. But they have their own problems. We all have problems. Sticking around through advanced genetic manipulation may be the fix. Or it may be a curse. We really don't know. Those that have moved on may be in a better place. Or nowhere. Or in a worse place. We really don't know. But what we do know is that as bad as it gets, if you stay here, you can only shorten your ability to get to a better place here. If you wait long enough, it will get better, or it won't. That's about all we know. But if you don't wait, you can't know. For the here and now. Best to stick it out, then see what happens. Because in the end, you'll be in the same place. A place we can't know is better, worse, or the same.
I'd like to think that is inspirational to keep toughing it out. But it's basically saying we can't really know if anything means anything. So just stick to this because in the end, you go a while, then you don't. We know that. Make the most of the going a while. Why not?
I'd also like to amend that to say, if you go a while anyways, why not try to do the best you can? I've seen what a tiny dose of positivity can do to other people and it is lacking in our world right now. But it feels so good. Give on the little things. Pay attention to that and feed on it. It really helps.
As far as I can tell, things don't get better; circumstances change and that's all. So thing or things that cause you pain are always there, but not always in focus. When they are in focus everything feels like it's not worth the pain you are going through, and you want it just to stop. When your life/ focus shifts to something else, you are concentrating on that and your pain - still there - can't take over your mental landscape to the same degree.
Sometimes you realise that a particular incidence of pain is lessened when you check in with it again, but the root cause of it never goes away. Eg. you may no longer remember the faces or the exact punishments/words of your childhood bullies, but you remember the feelings of being smaller and weaker, that no one coming to help proved your worthlessness, the bargain with yourself of avoidant behaviour (if I don't do X then they won't target me) to try fitting in better. It stays.
But circumstances change.
If this isn't art, then I don't know what is.
Messy.
***** Don't be ''that'' guy, come on now.
This is painter doing awful job.
Did you know that anti-racist is a code word for anti-White?
art isnt supposed to be pretty, its supposed to make you feel something..
Coming back to this after years. This spoke to me as an anxious, shy, scared child and it still speaks to me as a substantially more confident adult finding my footing. I’ve always loved this and the trust video because it made me feel connected to a community of people just trying to find their place in the world. So I guess, thank you.
This is purely beautiful, I cannot begin to express how much I am able to relate to what was said in this video. Thank you for making me feel not so alone.
Hi MrRepzion! I totally agree with you.... so how's life?
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!
Repzion
I agree with you
The use of colors on color pallets here is really very good, it is similar to a child's adventure in finger painting which always seems to have an unpleasant consequence even if a child may be allowed to have this activity. As one of the commenters so meanly pointed out, who is going to clean up that damned mess. A child wants to finger paint everything, mashed potatoes, pudding, peanut butter, etc. But always, oh my god, what a mess! We steel the power away from every potential empowering thing in not only a child's life, but we do it to each other. We learn to hide inside and build up a shield around our selves because we just can't live with out some power, some sort of protection from the onslaught we endure. Harry found his power because he found his true passion, an outlet and inlet, a way to come out and shine no matter what. It will be good to see you all everyone as you begin to find your own passion and power. It will happen. Hugs are nice too, even if you have to ask for one. The world is a mess, but messes are also fun, and not always a chore, step in the paint and splash the mud puddles, the next rain will clean it up, no worries.
This really got me to tears
Thank you
that was really powerful
ancientmum Thank you.
I am not going to lie, when I saw that small smile appear on Harry's lips at the end when he was lying down, I teared up a little.
Shyness, unlike introversion, is painful for the person who has it. It's like wanting to reach out but at the same time you have this fear and anxiety that you will be pushed away or ignored. It's made worse by American society, I've seen, because this society is individualistic and it favors extroversion and people who are social butterflies. What happens is shy children do not get better as they get older because their parents apologize for them, for their shyness, and other children act like they're pariahs. This creates teens and even adults who have spent so long in their shell that they have almost completely lost confidence in their ability to get out and also have lost hope that it will be worth it to try.
thank you
+Emily Rose It speaks volumes. Being mute made this worse. I honestly don't know what would of happened to my emotional growth if my lifelong friend and now significant other hadn't been there. It's hard to be social when normal conversation moves too quickly for you to write a comment or story.
I feel I'm relatively unafraid to communicate nowadays, but even today I have second thoughts about engaging in a conversation in fear of being lost in the flow.
Don't give up though. The best you can do is find something to help you stand until you can grow on your own ^_^
+Emily Rose True.
I completely agree. I have diagnosed severe anxiety, I'm not shy, but every time my family even wants to go anywhere, I can't stop my brain from overflowing with thoughts. Will I throw up? Will people judge me? But, it is way worse than that. I can't explain it. Even after tons of self talk, meditation, the only thing that temporarily helps me is hydroxyzine. I would say this has caused me to be an introvert, and thus summer, I would get attacks all day. Nothing happening, just attacks. It's not so much about _being_ social and talking to people (I'm fine with that), it's going out and having the thought that you're not OK and something's wrong. You don't know why, but it traps you and chains you up. I now attend an online school, and I'm getting better, but trust me; introversion hurts.
"... unlike introversion, is painful to the person who has it."
So... you're implying my severe introversion isn't painful? That it's not socially crippling and inhibiting, and causes anxiety? This is all totally different from introversion? Then I guess it's good to know I'm not introverted after all!
Well done, Harry. Brilliant narration on this one as well.
This meant so much to me. Please, please don't stop this, zefrank.
I cannot believe this channel is at almost 1 million subscribers.
I remember when you just came back on youtube and had like 20 thousand. This channel honestly deserves 1 million more than most that already have it.
Hi.
Gornbo sup
***** I liek yer vids.
Why are you everywhere....
Sam Picagre MAYBE YOU'RE STALKING ME.
I honestly don't know why I'm crying. I didn't expect this to touch me as much as it did. I was watching it because I just wanted to see some more of an actor I liked, and found a true piece of art that was so beautiful, and meaningful and touching. This was truly an honour to watch, and so inspiring.
I decided this year i'm finally going to come out of my shell.
Good luck! :)
You can do it! I am shy myself, but my shell started to crack.
It's like you see bullies and flip them off ur all like " have a nice day!!! ßìtçhęs!
JackdawLT I'm using crack behind a Shell.
good luck
So you're gay?
Love the message!
I'm at a loss for words. I can't get my thoughts together. All I can say right now is that I felt chills... And now that i'm starting to internalize this video I'm in the verge of tears. I never thought I could listen to someone say what I've felt all my life so clearly, or have someone show it by movement. It's an odd feeling when you have a stranger bring to light all that you have inside... I'm gonna stop now.
Its just a video with a dude throwing paint chill out
I'd come give you hug, but I ain't santa so don't know where to find you. Ask the santa's around you to give you a hug.
How personable. May I take a dump on your chest?
no no no... must fight urge... to ... troll.... such... touching commentation on video.. impressed... by... ms paint talent... no no no...
readyrepairs muahahaha you're a fan of 2 girls one cup, right?
readyrepairs Couldnt contain meselfs
...but as a man, Harry now makes really big messes that people find impressive.
+TheRPGentleman OH GOD!! You're SOO Right XD LOL
A.K.A "Modern" "Art"
Why do you place art in quotations like you're the authority figure on it?... while likely not being an artistic person or respecting art in general...
II QuietRiot II Well a lot of messes are a result of seemingly random/sudden occurrences. There are a lot of factors that play into making a "mess" which results in a lot of variety. For example, the way you might lash out your arm at a certain time in a certain position.
... messes that people find difficult to clean up after. Lol.
I honestly wanted to cry...I can totally connect with this or with him. This video truly inspires and I greatly appreciate it.
I love how zefrank can simultaneously be the funniest and most enlightening channel on RUclips.
just brilliant - and that is how the zefrank do
I never get tired of watching this. Hits Extremely close to home ♡ exquisitely done Harry! SO moving
this video is for the introverts, who don't deal well in the extrovert world. They internalize their energy creatively instead of socializing. And when they show the world what they have to offer, it shines.
Thank you for explaining that, I had trouble understanding the theme of this video.
that was a fantastic comment and you described it to the tee.
I really don't believe there is a difference between the two besides the names and how people take the meaning of either word. Sometimes I'm both of these things.
***** Introverts do like to interact, as do most people. They are just awkward at it and often misunderstood, hence they are labelled as "shy".
When I was a kid, I was really naive and outgoing. Too outgoing.
Then, I was bullied for about 5 years, with my last "friends" also pushing me away all the time.
Now, I'm really anxious when talking and can't even initiate a conversation properly - it takes so much courage, and even then, all I do is mess it up.
I wish I had something I could find myself in, just like Harry has his dancing, but I have tried so many things now, and all they do is stress me even more.
I'm so tired.
And I feel so alone.
But I don't know what to do.
+Timeturner Within Time, You will find something that you will enjoy doing. It all takes hard..hard work. It won't be easy as it never is. But I can say this: I am proud that you at least tried those many things, Friend. I've met a lot of people who have desired to never try at all and yet, they will then wonder why they feel so disappointed of themselves. I am glad that you even told your summarized story of what has happened to you as you aren't alone in what you feel. I, myself, have felt similar feelings and after over a year of unbearable tasks that I had to endure through, I can tell you that I have found joy and still do to this day.
So please, continue trying. Continue to search what your heart desires of what makes you happy. Only then, I know you will come back and say that you are truly content with what you found..and you will be at peace.
I can't wait for that day.
or he could just stop careing(is that how u write it?please corec me),that's what i did,i just don't care ,or don't want to care,i wish to care but if i care i could get hurt,y get in trouble if u can avoid it,i just embraced the shell that i am in,accepted it and stardet to like it,it can hurt but...you just have to walk it off...look at the bright side,in another timeline u're not like this
Same for some reason i became shy and i hate it.
but when i am with people i know very well i talk a lot
Brave Soldi3r what's the nuber of people you feel k around?
ion avram 12
I hate when people, even my friends, ask me why I'm so shy. "Just be more open" "Why do you never talk" "You're always so shy just say hello to them" I CAN'T. If I could build up the fucking courage to do it then I would. But even being at the slight center of attention makes me panic and I just freeze. Thanks so much for this, I hope one day I'll be able to be the crazy fun and exiting person I always aspire to be.
You probably already are that person. You just haven't met the right people to bring it out of you.
You should keep something in mind... just saying that "one day" something might be better isn't enough, it's just learning other abilities, practicing does the trick, not waiting. You should just start with people you are comfortable with like a friend or family member, slowly but surely expanding the people you are around with and always try to talk on your own; it sounds hard at first but it really shouldn't be. I was rather shy when I was a young boy and now I still like being alone from time to time and think about things but at the same time I like to be in a group and casually talk with people. You need to loose the idea that someone is judging you. You might say that that isn't the thing you are concerned about, but from my experience most people that are shy just don't want to be judged in fear someone might disagree (for lack of a better term) with an action you make something you say. (aka fear to embarrass yourself) For me it helped that I tried to look at it in another perspective. Just look what people do in situations when attention falls to them, even when they make a fool out of themselves... you "need" to learn how to ignore people to some extent; Like: "I don't care what you people think of me. That's who I am and this is what I do; Deal with it, or leave if you can't"... Being shy in a situation always felt like lying to myself. I hope that helps
I also hate when people say that. I'm extremely shy and quiet, I'm very afraid of talking to groups of people. So when they say "just speak up" or tell me they'll "stop my shyness" it ticks me off!! It's not a disease and it's not funny!!
ditto
A tip: think of yourself as a critic, an outside observer commenting on others, rather than being an active participant. That's how I deal with people. I can actually act pretty normal, especially when I don't have to see someone else's eyes (still am not good at that, I focus on the nose instead. They can't tell the difference, but it helps me a lot).
The only downside is that you have to watch what you say. My thoughts start blending with my words when I go into observer-mode to talk, which can lead to some really awkward conversations, as I'm not an overly nice person when it comes to judging others. You may not have that issue, but just a head's up.
It's kinda funny how when people get fascinated in shy people and start saying they're shy as well, in reality very little do they know that they ignore shy people every day or even pick on them.
"And the problem is, you are just like me."
I think I know what you mean to say but you can't expect shy people to go out to other shy people.
Mind blowingly beautiful
This is one of the most touching things I've seen a long time. As a very, very shy person who has found family amongst friends and strength in my fear, thank you for sharing this.
If you are in a shell, you could possibly be like Harry. If you are not like Harry and still reside in a shell, chances are that you are a tortoise...or even a clam.
this is magnus.
before he got involved in glitter.
Yes!!
+Crayzee Catz fellow shadowhunter?
+Leilani Z. Looking better in black than the widows of our enemies ;)
Ikr
+Leilani Z. 2:10 - it's basically Magnus with red and not blue magic!
This is Harry.
As a boy, Harry was very, very shy.
Some people may have even said he was painfully shy. As if his shyness caused them pain and not the other way around.
There are many things that can cause a person to recede. To look away from other people's eyes or to choose empty hallways over crowded ones. Some shy people try to reach out and try, and nothing seems to come back and then there just comes a point where they stop trying.
In Harry's case he was slapped in the face and called names designed to isolate him, designed to deliver maximum damage. This because he came from a different country and didn't know the right words to use or the right way to say them.
And so, Harry learned how to be still, to camouflage, to be the least.
Some people describe this as receding into a shell, where the stillness hardens and protects. But the eyes, even when they look down and away, are still watching, still looking for some way out or in; painfully shy.
Then in middle school, Harry found theater, where he forced himself to speak through other people's words. And then dance, where he started to speak through the movements of his body. To be so still for so long when you're young, means a lot of pent up energy and it was released there through work, endless work.
If someone carves into a sapling with a knife, the injury is as wide as the entire trunk. Though that mark will never fully heal, you can grow the tree around it, and as you grow, the scar gets smaller in proportion.
If you, right now, are in a shell, you should know that you're are not alone and there are many, many people like you and that there is nothing wrong with you. It might even be necessary right now. It might keep you safe for a time. But once the danger is gone, or after it's exhausted it's use, you'll find a way out.
You may need help, you may need to work really hard, you may need to find some ways to laugh at yourself, or find a passion, or a friend, but you will find it.
And, when you do, it will be so good to see you.
This is Harry.
As a boy, Harry was very, very shy.
What was the point of that?? Just asking... :D
I wanted to write the transcript of it so I could post it on tumblr... so I thought I'd share it with people if they wanted it at all.
Drew Tepper you do know what you can just copy it from the transcript button bellow the view bar?
iraqiboy90 Did not know that... thanks :-/
Astonishing and beautiful. I'm very touched. Descriptive of much of my own pain... Thanks, Ze, and Harry.
I've been shelled for so long I don't even think about it
I prefered shelled myself, usually the unshelled ones are always oversalted. They just taste alot better without any of that cleaning or anything done to them.
MagnusCattus Wtf are we talkin bout food now
This video, and a song literally kept me alive at my lowest point. If there is kindness & understanding in the world, there is hope.
absolutely beautiful. its so nice to see uplifting videos like this. to make people feel less alone is one of the greatest gifts anyone can give, and it is so simple. love it.
Absolutely beautiful and inspiring. I've definitely been in a shell. I found my way out through theatre. I discovered my passion and found people to share it with me. I took time but - like Harry - we all have a creative, beautiful person inside of us waiting for the right time to burst open and shine
That was so beautiful! I'll remember this for life
so beautiful expression of unique personality ...
Harry was very, very shy ...
Great job Harry! Just so you all know, Harry is a great actor too.
Beautiful... Just beautiful.
I usually look to Zefrank for humor, but in this video he has given voice to emotions I have so long harbored, and even though in my case when I left "my shell" I was betrayed and left for dead, not figuratively, but literally , I survived, and I have formed a new shell, that I am only now becoming to emerge from, stronger than I was before that I may learn to take my shell and make something more manageable like instead a shell a malleable cloak made of microfiberous carbon. A shell that allows me to get closer to others with still some protection...
since I'm shy around strangers i dont know if i come off rude or mute...hahaha..
TiFFerzZehNiNjA That's the same as me =)
Same
TiFFerzZehNiNjA im very shy around anybody i dont know because they mistake what i say and it embarass me so i just dont talk anymore if i have a bad day i just wont talk much unless its scicnce because i feel like i can do anything it that room but i hate english because every time i get a laptop i have to get a different one and i get stared at by evryone and my english teacher hates me and anyone who has a laptop ; ;
***** im shy so i turn to gaming and the interent it always makes me feel better. i know why im shy as a young child i never really went outside i was mainly in hospital or at the doctors and i moved a lot so i had very litttle freinds because i knew i wanst going to stay at that school very long :(
Phoenix Lightfoot moving is painful been to 12 countries...
When Harry was a boy, he was shy. Now he rolls around in paint and doesn't give a fuck what anyone thinks about it. LEEROYYYYY JENKINNNNSSSS.
This was beautiful and incredible. I loved this very much :) Thankyou ZeFrank! This touched my heart.
Receding in a shell is a self protection mechanism so that he stays alone and no one can hurt him, probably had few friends and most aren't around anymore but nice video and narration.
I don't think there is such as thing as a shell. People say introvert people are in a shell and needs to come out and become extrovert. Most modern sociologist agree everyone has a different level of social degree which they will exhibit, introvert and extrovert doesn't really have real meaning anymore.
aresaresares6 Introvert =/= shy
I'm an introvert. That means I prefer solitude over groups, and need to recharge after a certain amount of social interaction or stimulation.
I am ALSO shy. Very shy. I have anxiety when meeting new people and display fear reactions even in harmless social encounters.
Not every introvert is shy. And some shy people are extroverts.
I am introvert and that's fine, that's my personality. But shyness is something I developed in childhood, and need to overcome.
comiclover788998 I'm not saying shyness is entirely a good thing. I'm just trying to show people there's a certain level of social comfort everyone has. Some people love giving a speech about themselves in front of 1 million people, aka politicians like Biden. Other people like to be alone for the most part, ex. Tesla. The point is you can't group everyone who is an introvert into shyness category and force them to "come out of their shell" by making them do things they don't want to. Maybe they are happy where they are.
I use to be very very shy, but I eventually find my way out through exercise and weight lifting. I discovered that by improving my physical appearance, I became more confident and started being the person i always wanted to be.
Joe Brah Not all shyness is a matter of self image. When I was more fit than I am now, I was more shy, despite being MUCH more fit. With that said, I'm glad you've found a way to surmount it and remain happy. More power to ya man!
Joe Brah That is so happening to me!
Joe Brah This happened to me too! I was shy because I didn't feel comfortable in my skin, like my mind wasn't really made for my body. I didn't speak much to people because I didn't want their eyes on me. Then I started to see my body not as a burden but as a tool, a part of me: I lost some weight, I exercised, I got the hairstyle I've always wanted, didn't feel ashamed to put some make-up on -- and I magically became confident, I let my interests and passions leave the cage that was my head, meet new people, and now I'm happy :) After all, the Romans did say: mens sana in corpore sano.
Joe Brah Me too.
This is a really good way to tell people why you are shy. I am rather shy because I got bullied and excluded in primary school. Since coming to high school, I've come out of my shell, but sometimes I still need to be alone and get away from people, because I am very anxious. Just wanted to say my part :)
It means you're an introvert. In high school i came out of my shell; I even performed on stage, but i needed still needed a fair amount of alone time. Being an introvert means that you recharge when you're alone, so needing to be alone at times is normal.
When I try to come out of my shell I get faced with cold eyes and confusion so I stay inside :(
i know how you feel the trick is to find one good friend its all you need
The world isn't ready for you yet, you're too much to handle! Just don't play yourself small so people will feel comfy. Don't hide how awesome you are cuz other people don't get it.
😀
:) thanks
Look up a song called On the bright side
ze, i came here expecting something funny about a snail or a crab or something... But no. You gave me a wonderfully inspiring video about the beauty of being yourself. This is also what you did in "Fitting In Cardboard". Please make more. You may not know it, but I know, somewhere someone has seen this video, someone on the edge of either hurting themselves or other people, and not done it. Amazingly done zefrank. I can honestly say I wish I could subscribe twice. :)
I've been shy my whole life. Worse than shy--I have social anxiety. And it hurts so much when people treat me like a burden or try to write my struggles off as 'laziness.' I'd give anything to be able to talk to people, to walk into a room and feel at ease and not struggle to breathe. It's just so hard.
+StephRants Wearing a physical mask helps me deal with it.
Consider meds. If you feel that bad before you even enter the room, it's not on them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming you either. But sometimes short term medication can put you at ease enough to improve your social skills and build some friendships and have the kind of positive experiences that can change your outlook. I've heard of people going on antianxiety needs just for 6 to 12 months and later on discovering they just don't need them anymore.
This is basically the Exact story of my life and what I went through when I came to America as an immigrant (tears). Crazy thing is i Dance too.
This is also my story. Of being adopted into another family of another country. I hope we both turn out alright.
haha im going through this right now..its really hard.
You'll get threw. One day. Pinky promise.
Me too and I think its getting worse.
Yeah...I really cant thank you and Harry enough. I needed this.
Enjoyed... I too feel like I'm in a shell. Sometimes. But less and less as I get older. Also, RUclips has helped me too soo much... Never would have believed I would be doing this 5 years ago. Loved the video.
I JUST HAVE NO WORDS. THAT SPOKE TO MY SOUL. LIKE YOU WERE THERE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. WATCHED EVERY TEAR FALL. WITNESSED EVERYPLACE AND TIME I TRIED SEEKING REFUGE FROM THE HARSH AND UNFORGIVING JUDGEMENT I ENCOUNTERED.♡♡ THANK YOU
I don't understand... I don't understand why people make jokes about this video. How people refuse to look at the meaning. How people just stare blankly at the door and not even wondering what lies behind. How people say this isn't art as if art is a tangible thing that has a definite shape. Art has a wide spectrum, video making is art, music is art, writing is art, drawing is art, paint is art, destruction is art, everything is art if you make it, intending for it to be art. Every photograph you've ever seen was art, every movie you sat through was someone's art, every line in the sand you made was art.
I look through the comments and see all this... all of this disgust. I see spite and I see pride. For all of you who stand there, looking at the door, pointlessly... either follow us in or walk away, because the door will look the same on the side you're on. But on our side, it keeps changing.
That was beautiful .o.
This comment is art!
You must be real fun at parties
Ladyette Botte
Do the parties you go to have deeper meaning being made fun of? If so, your sarcasm would be correct, I'd be horrible at those parties.
+Johnny Grim
I really agree.
I'm shy in real life. As I look at these comments I wonder what these people really think. Or if this is the low life we have all stooped to...
Very wise :)
I used to be bullied by others, too. Eventually making myself invisible became so normal that I did it without even noticing. I developed social anxiety, which I had for seven years. Last year I realized that letting people contain me in a shell like that was letting them control me, without having to lift a finger. So I decided I was going to force my way out of that shell, and ever since then I have dedicated myself to that goal and made every choice based on that. It's been so hard along the way; it takes a lot of guts to choose to show yourself to the world after hiding away for so long. And it's still hard every day, but it's always getting easier to truly be myself. I've never been happier in my entire life. I've never had so much freedom to express myself. Now things that seem so mundane and normal to others are a gift for me, because I'd never been able to do many social things before. My heart truly goes out to all of those who hide themselves from others for fear of judgement. If I can say one thing to them, I will say this; I know it seems hard, and it's so scary, but you can do it.
Let yourself be the blooming flower. You've been hidden away for so long, but when you finally choose to blossom, we will all be glad to see and embrace you.
Story of my life right there. this is beautiful.. made me cry a bit :')
this is so so so beautiful. Harry depicted so well. I am in awe
I'm very shy and secluded and I'm crying really hard right now...help :(
hugs
Silona Bonewald yes please hugs
more hugs
So am I but I bet your a teenager..
Yes 15
thank you for this beautiful and soul touching video... so needed in this world...
A beautiful (yet messy) philosophical representation on what it is like being an introvert and also the impacts of being bullied.
Unfortunately, there too many incidents out there where people have been bullied.
Bullying can be physical, emotional, or knowingly not reaching out to others when they need help.
While not everyone goes from being bullied to success, everyone has their own bucket of paint with which to colour their world.
#bullying #psychology #beautiful #introvert
I am a tomboy and as a little girl and I loved to dress like a guy and act like a guy and hang with guys and do guy things. I one day as a little girl a kid came up to me and asked of my gender, and I didn't really feel comfort in it. Therefore, I started slowly changing into a girly personality. Shyness comes into play for me because since I acted like a boy and hang out with boys my whole life, I was always shy to looking like a fool of myself trying to get along with girls. when I reached middle school I had to stop hanging out with my guy friends because my eyes would always try to be in perspective of a person who would look over people in levels of popularity. As a loner, I started to write poems about my depression and symbolism I found the world as. My real father died when i was in 1st grade and my step dad is obsessed with Beer, cigarettes, and lottery tickets. Although I still had my loving mother that wouldn't give up on me, I still was nearly always depressed and I was always scared and subconscious in trying to talk in front of a classroom or to people in school. I would always hide my shyness by forcing myself to speak in front of the class because I thought it would help me. entering 7th grade, the closest people I had were some people to talk to. The only times I could bring out true emotions were online gaming on Xbox and in poems, and in drawing. The highest level of confidence I could bring my self to was average. Never really to accelerate in anything I knew. I wish I had someone by my side at the time to tell me that I could take risks. Entering 8th grade I realized that when I was friends with boys I would always take risks in making friends and I always would be myself and people didn't even care about my personality. I began to act more goofy and more myself, and even as a tomboy, the girliest (I don't even think that's a real word) of girls accepted me into their groups and I didn't even pay attention to what people thought of me and before I knew it, people I didn't even know knew me. Some girls even told me about how witty I was and I didn't even know what that meant at the time. I feel so glad that I took risks in life and I realized and felt so blind to not know that life IS a risk itself. I could only wish I had someone that knew that could've told me when I was young, because now I can be myself, and I'm not nearly the prettiest person alive, I'm not the smartest person alive, but you know what? Who needs to be? Do you think you need to be the smartest person alive? Do you think you need to be the prettiest person alive? Do you think you need to be the greatest at anything? Just remember, if you practice and not worry, whatever you are trying to achieve will come to you. Like I said, life IS a risk, and YOU are the one to be taking it! Will you say "Challenge accepted"? Here's what I say. I can't believe I wrote a freaking essay over a 3 minute video! xD
Hey, I read this, and I'm here to tell you, you aren't alone :) all of us have our things. Even the popular kids, reach out, if they turn you down, fuck them! They aren't worth your time! Be a Tom boy! Personally where I live, tomboys are cool! And I have a couple of friends that are Tom boys, we're here for you! Don't worry.
Rachel Decastro Thanks for writing this. It brought a smile to my face.
+Rachel Decastro I'm a lot like you. I just moved and have met very many people. But Ive never been brave enough to really reach out and ask for a real friendship. I never had the guts to take action to my needs. The kids here are nice, since I live in a rural area where nobody is 'rich'. We are all equal here; and the popular kids are simply this big circle of all the funny extroverted people who are friends with everyone, and there aren't many small clicks around either. I often make up for the things I want to say or do through poetry and other variations of writing. And my biggest talent is drawing, and I often use it to express myself as I do with writing. But a big flaw of mine is using those things to block people out. But I want to break down that barrier and break out of my shell Ive been cramped up in for so long...I just don't know how.
Why don't you write a tumblr blog
+wasup55rocks haha
This was the most beautiful and powerful thing I have seen.
It spoken mountains of words and emotions to me.
Sometimes the simplest of actions are the most thought provoking.
Thank you :)
This hits me to my core. Thank you!
This is so awesome. very cool!
Years latter and it’s still so moving. I love the content on this channel, I watched everything years ago and now it’s coming back up on my recommended list.
This was so smart and pretty to watch
I kept saying "Use the red dust again!" so that clap at 2:09 was so satisfying to watch
I think why I like this so much is that it validates the reason why people are the way they are for a short amount of time, to protect themselves. IT also reminds you that you don't have to be that way forever and to remember to open back up.
I live in a shell.
A very thick shell. But the shell is one thing that may define me and my life. I've slowly started hitting my shell, trying to break it. Then I see people stare at me, with cold eyes, as if they are judging me and my choices in life. I know they don't know how bad it feels to be stared at in judgement, but they don't know my story. The ones who judge me may know my name, birthday, favorites, but they can't describe anything that I have been through. I remember I got stressed out during a test, and I heard someone tell my teacher that I was crying, then both of them sighed. Then the same person said that I cry often, which only made it worse, I just wanted to put him in my shoes, make him care about something for once. I ended up giving myself some sort of motivation by telling myself that moping around won't change my life.This video helps me see clearly in words that I have to change myself by building a social life and my own reality. Thank you ZeFrank. And thank you too everyone else in the comment section sharing their own sorrows for proving that I'm not the only one. Thank you. And I'll shut up now.
i won't really call myself shy. i'm more of a quiet person who gets frustrated easily. but on the internet i'm a different person and it sometimes amazes my friends (internet AND school) about how different i can be behind a screen and in real life. this kind of relates to me, and i get it since i have a lot of shy friends. if you're shy, it'll get better i promise. just keep your head up
Thank you. The message and images in this.. just made me feel less alone and capable of many great things. Thank you again.
I was never shy. I was always very extroverted... But somehow I can relate to this. I don't know if it's because of empathy or because despite the fact that I was comfortable around people, I never really opened myself honestly to others so in a way, I was "shy"... But I really get it.
Oh wow. This is actually so beautiful, I can feel his emotion through his movements, and I feel like I can live it through the words. As a kid I was shy... still am, but maybe I'll find the colors in my life :)
Zefrank, thank you. Looking through these comments and the way I feel about the video, I would say you have affected and helped a lot of people. In one of your TED talks you told the story of Ray, and how you admired what he did to try to affect strangers with his song, just like what you were trying to do. And I think it's accurate to say you have fulfilled that hope. Cheers mate.
When I moved to U.S I was just like Harry but after a while I had a conversation with myself (11 year old self). Those people, kids in school, were not going to determine who I was going to become. I was not going to let them rule me and make me feel insignificant. So I decided to be ME. I stopped caring what they thought. I then found happiness within myself which translated into my relationships with family and friends.
I had friends that could not do this. Some sunk in a deep depression that required therapy. Some were never able to recover from it. Most of us were able to adjust because we had each other to lean on and for that I am thankful.
When someone/something is new, ignorant people immediately eject the thought of it because it is easier to disregard the "thing" than to try to understand it. They are afraid it might be better than them.
This is Harry, as a boy he was very, very shy...and it drove him insane, until he found himself dancing in paint on youtube.
You're a wizard Harry.
Harry, your dance was beautiful. The music was lovely, and zefrank, you narration was spot on , as always. You had me in tears.
It's crazy knowing how far Harry has come today and how impactful and important some of his characters in his acting career have been for him and others 💜
Thank you for this. Like the person who commented before me, it did describe very personal feelings and experiences, but in the past, not through the same reasons but ones that felt similar. Over the years I've slowly but surely worked my way out of my shell, I guess it's a process that even now I'm still trying to work on. I find that sometimes I prefer to stay receded within myself, but it is now often more due to choice than trapped fear of the unknown, although there is still much. I think I'll be watching this again and again, to remind myself to keep trying.
I guess I really needed this. Thanks again.
That just made me cry.
This video is amazing, and also painfully true for a lot of people out there in the world, including myself.
And this video also proves that Harry Shum, Jr. can find a way to show up in my life constantly and make me amazed with the things that he can do.
My story is too long to explain. So I'll give you a short story of it: In highschool, I created a wall between myself and the other students because I didn't want to get hurt. I would not let myself reveal any expression on my face during my school days as to keep myself from exposing the weakness that others could gossip about. My school wasn't one for bullying but rumors were nasty things that nobody wanted to catch.
During all of this I was ignorant of the drama going on but I don't regret it. On the other hand there were consequences. One was I had literally focused so hard on surviving each school day, that I didn't know how to *live*.
And what do I mean by that? Each day I would run my routine the same way: get up for school, eat lunch, go home, do homework and then it repeats itself.
It wasn't until one night in bed when I realized that I was nothing but an empty shell. I cried myself to sleep that night and had made up a resolve to actually make friends. To find the people who will be my life long friends. Although the second consequence of my quiet nature was that I had absolute no conversation skills. So I had to work on that, starting with one person at time.
In the end, I still consider myself an empty shell but now I have a great group of friends that I refer to them as my "family."
that is not short
i'm sorry ;n; I tried keeping it short.
XLADEDAX I'm not complaining I'm just stating lol :)
+XLADEDAX Try that all over again but then you find someone who you fall madly in love with. That person then tears you away from those friends, prevents you from talking to your own family. They then tell you to write out every day how much of a monster, sociopath, liar and empty shell you are. The person that you love with all your heart not only makes you feel like a burden but tells you that you are every single day without fail.
Just remember,. You're FEELINGS are not the truth about you. You feelings are a complex mess of chemicals in your brain and your gut. Do not let them dictate who you are or your future. Regardless of how you feel, you are much much more than an empty shell. And even if you don't feel that way right now, you still have so much potential to become something wonderful. You might be the person who invents interstellar flight. And where would the rest of us be without you?!?!?
...I came to watch this video because i thought it was a hilarious facts video about animals with shells.. But the first few lines i felt what it meant by shell.. As an introvert, I already don't speak much...but I am also extremely shy or more on the lines of Anti Social ... When I was younger. I was often excluded from activities... both home and school. Not because I didn't want to be apart of, but because I wasn't accepted. I felt like an outcast as everyone would be huddled together and chat while I sat quietly in a corner. I could see in there eyes and glares as the noise quiets down as I approach; that they didnt want to bother with me.
and I could hear their gossips under their breath, often referring to me as that weird quiet kid sitting in the corner, cracking jokes about how sad I looked as the entire crowd would laugh and all I could do was sit, endure, and ignore it for the time being even though it still hurt.. I couldn't speak aloud very well or show my emotions very well and often not at all when I did to try to make friends and get people to notice me, I'd often stifle upon my words
as people laughed and mocked. After much time passed. I started to give up on trying to reach out because all I got back was negativity. I had a few friends
who reached out for me after a while and actually talked to regularly, but it didn't last long because I moved a lot. And the illusion of "fitting in" didn't fair well with me. I didn't want to change the way they wanted me to be so I could be like everyone else, I wanted to remain who I am and still have people accept me for me, and would be willing to reach out and help when I try.
Because I never spoke, or took part of the class, people would automatically label me the weird one. others where afraid and scared because they thought I was that stereotypical quiet guy who would one day bring a bunch of weapons and shoot the school up if i was pushed too far, while others thought I was 'weak' because I seemed so passive, people would pick on me, calling me names like the reject; which sparked fights instead of just leaving me alone. I tried telling close people, one family member to keep it private, but they would only tell everyone else when they promised not to.
my brothers closest to my age would only laugh while the eldest and parents or rather my step "father" would try to "Help" by changing me.. it was repulsive..
so I secluded myself from people, going into a shell as I hid from the world being the "least". people would often tell me that they never knew that I was In the class even though I have sat behind them for a year, but that was what I wanted. I was already a ghost. Over hearing my own brothers say that my youngest brother should've replaced me since he is more like them and not so different or "quiet" really does something to you. My life consist of quietly waiting and watching the world as it goes by from the sidelines, waiting for a chance, or at least the right person who can actually see me. I am fine with me being quiet and shy and being in a shell for my well being, but this is a painful shyness. one that destroys my self confidence and makes questions my conscience, All because I wanted to see what It was like to be involved; putting me in a different shell that I must admit, makes me feel more comfortable.
after a while when I came back to my old friends and home, I quit talking and "lost" what I had left of my social life, I hardly spoke a word or related to my old friends anymore because of how deep I was in my shell. I wore a 'blank' or emotionless face, similar to the face that harry is making during the end of the video when he first lies down before the little smile. I rarely displayed emotions because they were bottled up. The doctors diagnosed me with depression afterwards even though I didnt want to accept that because I always felt I was a happy person and others didnt deserve my emotions, so I threw away the pills they gave me, because they made me feel worse after taking them. I couldn't look people in the eyes and avoided large crowds, even talking to close friends because I was afraid to put myself out there again so I hid myself, or camouflaged just as Ze says in the video. I decided to selectively choose people who feel the same as me instead of having a lot of people acknowledge me and not give me the cold shoulder. Instead of talking, I decided to start drawing as a means to get all of what I wanted to say out. a skill I've have for a while as well as writing (somewhat), but never took it as serious as I do now because I use it to express myself since I can no longer speak it/ or no longer want to speak it. Creating a story instead since my words are spoken in thought rather than aloud. I created two characters in the form of brothers, both symbolizing me, the one that wants to reach out for others to return the favor and the one that wants to remain in his shell, isolated from everyone. People have found out about my "Story" and call it interesting and all of these positive things, Unknowing that these characters represent me and my life, personality, and feelings so far, personified into two beings. It's ironic and kind of upsetting for me to watch how they admire and reach out for the characters but did the exact opposite for person who the character embodies. I guess you can say its my own indirect way of getting people to acknowledge me as a person even to this day. As of today, I do have friends, albeit a very small group, we understand each other, accepting the fact that i don't speak much, after what I went through, I still feel more protected by myself, but for what it's worth, I try to communicate..maybe to one point that we all feel like a family. that's all I wanted in the past.
Even as I type this I am choking up behind this screen as It brings up memories I tried to forget. I'd never be able to say this aloud. regardless, I'm grateful for this video because It's extremely reassuring, because I have a passion, and I'm thankful for being "Weird" and learning how to laugh at myself and a variety of other things on my own time.. Sometimes.. I do not think I was meant to vocally communicate, but to communicate through my passion and often forget about coming out of my shell because whenever I slightly do, I always revert back. I even feel as though I do not want to come out, because I am content, and sane as I am. Nevertheless, My condolences as well as my gratification to Harry for finding a way to express himself. Just from watching the dancing and the paint you can feel the emotion in this; combined with the narration... it's been a very long time since I produced meaningful tears, maybe this is from all of those times I endured, desperately trying not to show emotion or my face, swelling up and finally overflowing... it feels good...
Sorry for the super long comment. I just couldn't help myself after watching this.
I'm with you there, man. I understand everything you said.
you just pretty much explained my life except when i try to talk to people my eyes start to water it sucks :(
Welcome to the wallflowers! I read the whole thing and I definetly feel alike, but not totally, you can find a persons that starts breaking the shell.
Well, I know. There are people who make me feel like I'm not shy. I've been in a couple relationships that got me to open up from the shell, but I will only do that around that person, or wherever I'm comfortable enough (small group of close friends). I'd hate to say something so corny albeit it accurate enough, but like a flower, put me in enough light and I'll blossom..... -shudder-
I'm not exactly a fan of interpretive dance, but man this is really good and his movements mirror what is being said really well.
One of the best things i've seen in a long time... Artistic in so many ways , reflecting not only a shy boy , dancer , artist that gradually "comes out of his Shell" But every individual having difficulties showing " Their True Colours " Because of how society Works... BEAUTIFUL!
Interpretive dance has never really been my thing but still this was kind of interesting to see, thanks.
I got chills so many times throughout the video. ZeFrank, I've always been a fan of your work: the power in your words is truly remarkable. I was moved so deeply because I feel that so many people can relate, on a level much greater than one would first believe, and it means so much to have these feelings expressed artistically.
I always admired your style, the way you made your videos (not so much the funny ones about animals but I do appreciate the diversity), and there were moments where this admiration felt strongly like envy.
Then I realized it was not envy--it was deeper. It was a longing to find my own way to express myself. And so here I am, with a channel of my own creation where I talk about things I genuinely care about, that are important to me and probably to others who are aware of the world's tossing and turning.
I cannot be you, but I can be the best me that is within my power. For what it's worth, I gave you the truth, my friends, feel free to check it out if you're interested. I will not let you down.
Moving and beautiful. zefranks voice is perfect for this type of stuff. Thank you for this video
This was incredibly beautiful. Harry is a moving person and inspirational.
I was bullied since first grade by the same person up to fourth.
I was emotionless when she bullied me.
I could not express my feelings.
I could barely move.
Nothing else is working for me.
They said to tell on her.
But I never did.
Until I had the strength to tell on her..
I felt proud.
Another day passed and it started all over again..
It was no use.
I gave up on myself.
I had to learn to live with it.
I couldn't.
I couldn't stand life anymore.
I don't deserve this.
No one does.
*Still here today, she is still giving me shit.*
*I know a ton of people out there can relate to this.*
*I know people who took their lives.*
*These bullies want to make you cry and feel the pain they feel.*
*Talk to them.*
*Taking back actions they did to you only gets you in trouble.*
I know how that goes...
It sucks but find something that keeps you going mine is my friends and youtube
Same in first grade '-'
me tooooo
I was bullied from Kindergarten to about 8th or 9th grade. I learned from a teacher that bullies hurt those who are smaller or weaker. I've also learned over sometime that some bullies are just having a very hard life and do it to release stress and built up anger. Others will do it for fun or because of their friends(you might notice a difference between The two types). I personally just tried to be my shy and kind self. I told myself I never want to push away from who I am because eventually you'll find people who like you for who you are and I did.
well screw who ever that person that bullied you is.
Ze! You are a genious! And Harry too is a great thinker... Plus awesome dancer) i love it! I might even go out of shell for a second.. If noone will see)
you´re a wizard, Harry!
The whole video I was just wondering how he didn't splat paint all over his eyes
+Shadic4101 His eyes are still shy and asks the eyelids to cover them up.
Practice?
WHY does this have to be so accurate? Minus the foreign country thing, but STILL. The drama class the seclusion, EVERYTHING.
Thank you for this video.
As someone who recieved a late-in-life diagnosis of autism, and spent my whole life masking without knowing I was doing it, I resonate with this very deeply.
Thank you for this video. Most days I feel like I'm suffocating and this video was like a moment of air. Thank you again.
It's been 7 years since I wrote that comment, and you were right...I found a way out...and it IS so good to see myself again. Thank you for your encouragement. I'll pay it forward as best as I can. ❤